Rachel Hollis reveals "secrets" of her divorce (part two)
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- Опубликовано: 16 сен 2024
- This is part two of the reaction to a Rachel Hollis Podcast episode. Rachel Hollis, author of Girl Wash Your Face, announced her divorce from Dave Hollis in June of 2020. She moved out of their home in July 2020 and celebrated one year of singleness...there's only one problem...she hasn't been single a year...but I guess no one really cares about reality anymore.
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Rachel only ever dated 2 people. Falls in love with both people. Come on girl....
And yet calls it “dating again” when she never really did it in the first place.
Well, I don't even believe her. She sais it because it sounds right.
Conveniently, the new boyfriend also has connections and a ton of money. Go figure.
@@LL-ex1gp aww true love... much relatable such wow
@@chernobilja
True love is not dating broke man either
I was divorced - 10 years ago - and I did *feel* better at six months. The first few months were awful awful. I grieved so deeply. But around 6 months is when I remember laughing for the first time. A real laugh, not a forced social one. I’ll never forget it. I laughed and then I realized I really was going to be okay one day. Buuuuuttttt - that is when I started to feel like there was hope of a future. It was by no means when I was “over it” or healed by any means. It’s just the first time the really dark clouds started parting.
Yeah i agree with you! I just think Rachel should be more specific when making reference to these thing’s while acknowledging that she is in a relationship now.
Also Keya could be a bit more understanding 😏
This describes my break up from my ex fiancé really well 🙌 except for me it was around 3 months after rather than 6 but we had been doing the long distance thing for a while before that when he had to
Agree with the 6 month mark to start to feel more like yourself again. IMO the first 6 months were day to day and sometimes hour to hour, just putting one foot in front of another to get through the day and night. The 6 month mark for a laugh or genuine smile, you are spot on.
You described that so well that I got a hint of the dread and nausea that I lived with for so long. That is such a surreal, awful, horrible stage. I was so glad and relieved to notice the birdsong one day. 12 years on, I still grieve those crazy kids that loved each other and couldn’t find a way forward together, but I have such a joyous, fulfilled life without a partner, just being able to parent my boys to young adulthood is such a blessing.
Damn that’s so heavy and inspiring at the same time. I’m scared. I hope I never ever have to feel that. I’m sorry to anyone that has had to or does have to.
Also if you google Dave Hollis, his description says “Rachel Hollis’s ex husband” lmfao I’m sure that’s a massive blow to Dave’s ego & I’m here for it honestly
I saw that! I love it
Imagine having his huge figure wage job roles only to be known as the ex !
"It just so happened that the first person I became friends with (after my divorce) was the person I fell in love with."
Funny how this woman who's all about journaling, sitting with your own thoughts, appreciating solitude etc. is also the one who does not realise that she's simply too scared to be by herself and therefore clings to the very first person who shows any kind of interest in her. I just feel sad for her at this stage. She has no self awareness or compassion.
sounds like a person who cannot be alone. yikes.
I'm a psychology student (have my associate's, going for bachelor's) and I can say with confidence that you cannot put a timeline on something like grief. And grief is not just for death. Everybody is different. It took me a year and a half of intense processing to get over my boyfriend when I was like 15 years old. My mother never got over her ex and it's been like 16 years for her. With a different guy I cried for an hour and then felt fine. There's no formula.
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Yes to all of this!
went through a break-up and I feel like I'm grieving it like it's a death in that my grieving process has been over a year and a half. The loss of the relationship just runs so deep.
@@catherinepowell4149 that is so painful and raw... and so true. Mourning a loss so deeply is exactly how it goes. I hate that anyone has to feel that. But I do suppose the former half wouldn’t be so amazing if it wasn’t such a huge rush and risk and so painful to lose. What a crazy thing about life. Shit all freaking scares me. So bad.
@@samanthaorologio6866 Scares me to! My thirties has been one big scare lol 😳. I wonder when the grieving process will end. I feel like the kid who asks "Are we there yet?" I can't wait to make it to the other side of the grief I'm experiencing. However, since I wrote my previous comment, I think I might be in a slightly better place. It just takes time...most things really can't be rushed.
Rachel is the human version of the LEGO Movie song “EvErYtHiNg iS AwEsOmE!” 🤢😆
Now that tune is in my head.. lol
I heard LEGO pulled out of the Rise Live Women's WKND. There are plenty of seats left for Rach's friends.
Nooo Lego movie is amazing Rachel is not in their league! She thinks she is, but I assure you nothing she has said is anywhere near as good as that song lol
Why wouldn't Rachel know how to kiss or where put her hands on her new lover if her and Dave were having regular make-out sessions... unless they weren't, or those make-out sessions weren't actually sensual, but more performative. She contradicts herself all the time.
I suspect Rach really wanted to go camping, but she didn't want to live without A/C and put up with mosquitoes. So she slept on the floor of her room instead. That would have been a relatable story. 😂
She makes zero sense 100% of the time.
I read both her books and to me I felt like I was reading someone brag about themselves the entire time. Like a narcissist was writing about themselves
I do find it kind of ironic that Rachel used to support MLMs/speak at MLM events when most of these toxic MLM uplines would NEVER let you spend “hundreds of hours” crying and thinking and journaling…you have to keep showing up for your business 🤪
It didn't send off red flags to her that the FIRST person she wanted to be friends with she fell in love with? Attachment issues anyone?!? And, she credits God. She lacks insight. Damn. She's just too much. You nailed it at 14:10
This is the same with 95% of the megachurch celebrity pastors these days as well. Rachel Hollis would fit in well with that group to the point that she might not even have to take a random verse out of context.
lol one thing I noticed people dont comment about is that people who are confident dont need to say / remind people that they're confident. they just do things based on their deep seated security and strong sense of values, without virtue signaling / performing that they're confident
THIS!
Exactly! Just like that awkward speech where she talked about the couple who always posts how happy they are on socials and then gets divorced. Ah the cruel irony.
When people say they like me because I am so confident I am like "Am I?", because I never think about myself as "positive ", "confident", "strong" or something like these people who feel the need to say this about themselves to convince others. Actions are more convincing.
She sounds like she slept on the floor at a Walgreens and copied all the greeting cards for her crappy podcast
It may be six months for her because she initiated the break up and it had been "over for a while".....so thats hardly the same as people who dont see it coming and are broken up with.
It seems like she is gonna capitalize on all those ladies who just recently went through a painful breakup/divorce. Those people are vulnerable and might be looking for any kind of moral support. Is Rachel gonna sell them her divorce guru advice? o_O
O red red fry tp
Right, she is going to seem one needs to be ok after 6 months and that will build pressure on that someone whom is naive
Damn that’s exactly what she’s doing!! OMG! Vile woman! It never dawned on me
Oh for sure. She's a succubus, preying on people she can manipulate into thinking she's relateable with each change in her life.
She said “I’m in Love” she says she waited 10 whole months before she dated and that’s why her love is real for her. I question this. I think she said these things because of Dave. I think it killed her that Dave found “love” first and fast. And I think she is jealous of who he found. She has been in a new relationship for a minute and he is everything she would have dreamed of? Right! Takes a little while to really know someone. Just my opinion.
Conspiracy- what if this mystery boyfriend doesn’t exist?
What if that’s why she’s so vague about him? Like. How would we know. Show me a fan who’s seen her out like she claims. You think a pic would exist if that happened.
Just saying. Jealous people do weird shit, even when they are the one who ended it.
@Sunflower Rose She can move in but the timing is a little convenient.
Every divorce and break up is so different. I was so terrified of losing my abusive ex-husband. He was my first love, we were together for years. I thought my whole life and whole world was ending. My eyes were opened regarding his character within a month and I haven’t mourned him since. I barely think of him.
After my divorce I went on to date other people and eventually met a nice guy who I thought I didn’t have much in common with, but he was nice. I didn’t think It would be long-term but it was a fun casual thing. I ended up pregnant. Long-story short, years later, we happily share our son, our relationship NEVER took off, and part of me is sad about that to some degree every single day. I have tried to date others over the years, and just…can’t.
Life doesn’t make sense. We are all on a different journey, healing different things, on different timeframes. None of this makes sense.
So Rachel, don’t be an idiot and say “so the formula is that it takes 6 months”. You are ONLY the expert on YOUR experience.
I don't even think she is the expert of her own experience. She needs therapy and insight, I think she has a LOT to learn about herself still.
Congratulations on your engagement!!!
Also, re: Rachel, what infuriates me is that she is saying "I can't understand why I got all this hate..". It's like really? you *really* can't understand? Is your head that far up your own tush???
Because she is someone who is not able to put herself in other people’s shoes and does not want her hypocrisy to be exposed and if she admitted it, then she would have to take responsibility.
“Choose nothing. Just live your life. For God’s sake.” Love this!
I have a close friend who got divorced over a year ago and he STILL feels the pain from it.
When she’s talking about dating again….“I didn’t know where to put my hands” wtf!!!!
Keep your hands to your damn self. 🤣🤣
And for God’s sake, she’s a thirtysomething woman who has been married. She knows where to put her hands.
She could've stopped by Walmart and picked up an air mattress for 50 bucks. But then, her story wouldn't have sounded so dramatic and pitiful. 🙄
To be fair…She did wait a lot longer then someone like say Jennifer Lopez. That woman can’t be single for more then 5 minutes. lol
With divorces, it just depends. I was in an abusive marriage, and at the time, I was deeply religious, fundamentalist, so there were additional elements for me to sort through (divorce is a sin, I was used up, dirty, etc.). It took me closer to a year to start to heal no only from the divorce but the trauma I went through with the church at the hands of my ex. It is unfair to tell someone who is grieving, whether it's death, a divorce, disappointment, that you have the blueprint and it will work the same for them as it does for you. There may be similarities, but everyone's healing process is different. *edited for typo*
Not sure what religion you are but the bible says you can divorce if it's for adulterous or abusive reasons, you just cant get remarried because you and your husband made a covenant with God and that doesn't break just because a judge grants you a divorce.
@@rachelpierce3515 Where does the bible say that?
I feel like this is a casual dig at dave for dating someone sooner than her
100. She is superior and did the work, he didn’t.
I feel like it’s all a casual dig at Dave & his GF. The last video where she went on and on about everything in the house he’s living in is ALL her. That reeks of “you may have him but I built him” toxic energy a lot of women have after a break up. There’s a whole Pinterest subculture of proving you are the better person after the relationship cloaked in “empowerment”. She needs a real therapist, not just her musings from her journal and “alone time”.
@Lindsey Bailes She seems nice too and likes hanging out with the kids. Rachel never seems to really enjoy it.
She seems like she’s MAD jealous that he got someone new before she did. It’s all ego and competition with these two. Plus, his new gf is HOT. So her way of justifying that and making herself feel better is to say “well I didn’t find someone so soon ON PURPOSE because I’m INTENTIONAL and SMART and MATURE.
I'm not like other rich self help gurus, I refused to get any furniture at all for my new mansion until I could get the best looking furniture, I'm quirkyyyyy
Omg so true
Spending a few months (during a global pandemic ehem) allegedly not seeing people and working through your personal ‘ish’ isn’t being “alone.” Not when you constantly talk about your friends and you have children and you’ve got a boyfriend now and people see you out in public and you are actively traveling.
Lose your job and be immunosuppressed in a pandemic in a crowded city and then we can compare notes on what it’s really like to be alone, Rach.
Back for part two! Congratulations by the way!
Also, for someone who spent so much time alone, she has so many different examples of talking with her friends and counseling people through their grief… not quite my definition of alone but go off I guess.
I like having the separate videos. I would love "choose sadness" merch. An oversize crewneck, sticker, travel mug, or an OVERSIZED ceramic mug. I wouldn't buy a logo where I don't like the font or color scheme though.
I would LOVE an oversized “choose sadness” sweatshirt!
Yesss!!
When did they adopt Noah? More than 5 years ago? I'm not sure how old she is, but I wonder if they were struggling in their marriage before they adopted her. If that's the case, that would be awful because I'm sure Noah's mom would not have willingly chosen a family on the brink of divorce to place her with.
As far as her moving on quickly, I can understand that especially if she was considering divorce for 5 years. Sometimes you're 100% emotionally done before the relationship actually ends, and it's easier to move on. After 6yrs with my son's dad, when I finally got the gumption to leave I was over the relationship immediately. Like, the next day, a weight lifted and a world of possibilities opened up. But Rachel is framing it like she was alone for SO LONG, and that's just ridiculous after 18yrs of marriage. Less than 1 year alone is nothing, it's a blip.
Rachel seems to live in denial - with her toxic positivity and needing to move on to fulfilling her role as the "guru".
Let’s leave her kid out of this. Rachel and Dave are horrible enough to talk about without bringing their children into it.
@@liyah5726 If they make bad choices regarding their kids I feel like we can talk about it. If you don't want to, don't. Nobody's disparaging their kids.
I don’t think bringing her kids into her career choices and questioning their adoptions is appropriate
@@taylorpnw612 No, it’s not okay regardless. There’s a lot Rachel has done but we have ZERO proof that she has done any harm to her children and that is extremely disrespectful and inappropriate to say. And regardless of what the birth mom chose or not, Rachel is her mom. She’s the one raising her. That’s inappropriate and unethical from a social work perspective to even speculate on Because she’s a divorced woman that means she’s a terrible mom? Most kids in this era are growing up with divorced parents, doesn’t mean their parent failed them. You don’t talk about children, period. Y’all are adults, keep it to the adults only and leave it at that. It has nothing to do with my personal beliefs and everything to do with protecting the privacy and dignity of underage children who didn’t choose their parents’ careers.
I loved part 1 and part 2. I actually love longer videos on RUclips.
I’ve been divorced twice, the second time was not my choice, I certainly didn’t see it coming at all after 20 years of marriage, and I can tell you one thing: it’s impossible to give one rule which fits all. It depends on the situation, how it happened, on the persons involved, if there are children or not. It can take six months to feel better as it can take years.
No need to sleep on the floor, what is this insane story? Has she a contract with a mattress company?
And it is always a nightmare for the children. I tried to protect my sons, but even if they were brave and not complaining, I could see how it was hurting them. Since my second divorce, I haven’t dated again. Not that I didn’t want to, it’s just that I moved from one country to another and had , still have, to work like crazy to maintain my visa. My younger son came with me, he is married now and still in USA, like me, and my older son moved to Japan then, for his job. But even if they were not little kids when it happened, it was still complicated and difficult for them. Anyway, all that to say that even as unfortunately an expert in divorce, I cannot tell you precisely when we get better. It depends on a lot of factors. Six months seems very short to me, but I am a romantic.
Also, unless someone saw the new boyfriend, I have doubts about the existence of this guy. Things rarely happen miraculously like that. And unless she doesn’t care much about her ex, being friendish with her ex’s new girlfriend seems to me very hypocritical. It is hard to forgive a woman who stole your man. And it’s hard to feel better without going through the angry phase, not that it has to be horrible, but we have to allow ourselves to feel a little angry, even if we keep it for ourselves.
The only right thing she said is: with time, it gets better. Yes, that’s right, but it’s true for anything. Nothing new under the sun here, I don’t need a coach to know that, she is pointing the obvious.
Dave’s girlfriend did not steal her man. Rachel asked for the divorce and he met her after they’d filed. It probably hurt her ego that he replaced her so quickly.
@@msnawrecka9786 Ok, that we know of. Usually when a guy finds a girl so quickly, it’s because she was already around way before, which would maybe explain why the wife wanted the divorce. I may be wrong, but I unfortunately had the occasions to see often this kind of situation happening.
But for sure, it is also a matter of pride and ego.
I think this is a little bit of a reach. Deciding to get divorced with 4 kids and a huge public presence tells me that they were not happy for a long time. I would bet money that she was checked out long before announcing the divorce publicly. So divorce was probably a relief to an extent. The grief probably has more to do with how it affects her kids and her public image.
And yes, 6 months is plenty of time for someone to feel better after divorce. I felt "better" after just a few weeks after someone close to me died suddenly... That's just the reality of humans is that we are able to heal and find happiness after loss. It doesn't mean the grief isn't there, but 6 months does feel like a long time when you're feeling alone and sad.
Having gone through something very traumatic and painful 4 months ago, and choosing to block out the traumatic part of it up until few weeks ago, I think it’s totally fine to do that when your pain is too much for you to deal with at the moment, and choose “happiness” or whatever positive spin on it you can give, but to really move on and heal, you have to go through the pain, and allow yourself to feel all of the “bad” feelings. I noticed I stopped feeling altogether after a while, even the good parts, the love, all of it was turning grayer, until I actually allowed the painful feelings in. So yes, please, don’t listen to people telling you to always choose happiness, it makes you numb and takes the true happiness away. All feelings are good feelings.
Oh and that bs about little voice telling you things will be ok - you don’t have to constantly try and convince yourself that you need to believe that things will be ok for things to be ok, it turns you nuts. It’s ok to not be ok, it the most okayest thing lol.
Her "i was so awkward and nervous around him" thing sounds very YA to me. Like in real life it shouldn't be that dramatic and heightened in a mature relationship.
YA?
I was married 15 years and honestly I was "over it" before I even vocalized I wanted a separation, let alone a full divorce. Of course, there were challenges with concern to finances and our children, but I never felt the type of despair Rachel mentioned. The point being, every single person is different and "the right way" to handle trauma for one person may be horrific for the next. This is one of the main reasons following lifestyle advice from "experts" like Rachel can be so hurtful. But congratulations on your engagement, sis! Ring is beautiful and wishing you an easy and fun planning season with your partner!
My parents divorced 25 years ago. My dad got married to the reason they divorced (he still hasn't told me 🤣 saw the wedding pictures, my sisters showed up soon after and they're about to be 18 and 17!), my mom never even bothered dating and found every excuse/reason not to. So when my husband died (wildly different!) My mom spent the time i lived with her afterward (6 months) she gave me grief for grieving because "divorce is so much worse!!" I remember too, a big reason my husband and I got married kind of aa a last minute decision in a courthouse was so i wouldn't have to chose which parent would come. My brother and I both skipped our graduations because we didn't want to deal with which parent showed and didn't and the chaos fallout. So, uh...I'd say some folks never get over it, possibly?
So sorry for your loss and your mother's reaction to your grief.
I got divorced 6 years ago and it was around the 6 month mark that I finally accepted that the relationship was truly over but it took me over a year before I felt I had truly passed through the majority of my grief. Honestly I don't think you can really put a timeline on it because everyone is different and every relationship is different.
I dont think she has a bf. I think shes pretending to have one because Dave has a gf
I didn’t realize why the phrase “if you want to be happy then be” rubbed me the wrong way. This is refreshing. I never followed Rachel Hollis but I now thoroughly enjoy a lot of different videos that expose narcissists we love to… well, expose.
I didn’t know about Dave’s triathlon. Ha ha. And her pretending like she was single for so long. These two are so fake.
I’m sorry but as a child of divorce - there is nothing worse than your parents dating other people. I hated it.
I love how she mentions how so many other couples/individuals are ALSO going through breakup and divorces “right now.”
Framing it in such a way to normalize divorce “right now” so that it makes what she is doing more forgivable?! If they couldn’t make it work, good, divorce is the right option but don’t try to normalize it to make it okay because other people are going through it too.
Because before this….was divorce something the publicly discussed? It wasn’t normal then? But it is now? 😵💫
And it bothers me how often she says she and Dave “broke up”! Broke up is VERY different than divorce. Strange.
Good point! Because they were selling marriage retreats to help people "grow together". Pretty sure they frowned on divorce until they decided it was an option for them. Now, all the cool kids are doing it! She's ridiculous.
She probably has started using more colloquial terms to be more relatable to be single women's empowerment type
I like the longer videos! Love your take, you’re hilarious and very insightful
Dave said they are going to ALL be together for Thanksgiving! Dave, Heidi, Rachel, exes, everyone! They will all be at Dave's for Thanksgiving!
I dont think Rachel is keeping her relationship out of social media like she claims. She is talking about it soo much. She talked about the first kiss on Rach talk, like two months ago?
I really hope rachel takes it easy with her boyfriend/relationship though. Because its been so fast and they are already in love . She is maki it seem like he is sooo perfect.
I know she probably wants to have one , because Dave is all about his on social, but still.
I hope its the right-one for her
In the process of my divorce I immediately went on a 6 month deployment so it was a big distraction. After that I had to actually face my feelings along with the legal process & it took about 3 months of therapy before even thinking about dating again. Edit: my marriage only lasted 3 years & we had no children for context
For someone who was **so shocked** about women hating on her when she got divorced, she spends a lot of time hating on women or encouraging women to judge other women for their choices.
Like, she is the epitome of tearing down other people to build herself up and justify her choices. Just choose your choice girl and own it instead of needing to put your choices as superior to others with that cute little passive aggressive “but do what works for you” disclaimer. We see you Rachel, we see you.
Funny how she shares the "how long till you no longer want to die" as "a friend asked". I assume there was a sense of loss there because they'd been together all her adult life, even if the love/in love thing was no longer there. But she just talks about herself and her journaling and only gets to core pain through a "friend".
That’s a really insightful and great point!
It took me a few years to release all the pain of my separation. We were together 14 years when it ended. I moved on with someone new VERY quickly which was the opposite of what I told myself to do but I decided not to deny myself happiness with someone else who came into the picture a little too fast. While I was in my new relationship I was still dealing with a lot of pain from the former and worked VERY hard not to put that onto my new partner. It was super super challenging not to let my trauma affect my new relationship so maybe that was why it took longer to heal for me, I didn't get to process everything all at once and was trying so hard to suppress the pain of my breakup.
I think Rachel can grieve her marriage in any way she choses. I divorced 7 years ago, 6 months post divorce was a turning point for me. I felt better at that time and more stable in my family life with my daughter and co-parenting.
Right. Just because she enters divorce from a place of privilege doesn't mean her pain is less real.
I just love you and your vids!!!! I can’t wait to see what else you have in store for us w your vids!
Oh and I have also been through a divorce and yes there’s a huge grieving process - even when you’re the one that wanted out. It’s not even about missing the ex, it’s more about mourning the life you thought was in front of you, and coming to grips with the uncertainty of the new life. I took a full year to be single and alone. I could’ve even used more time than that. I think I recall reading somewhere years ago that a good rule of thumb is to take 1 year for every 10 years of your relationship. Rachel probably could’ve used a good 1-2 years, but alas, that did not occur. But she was SO ALONE and SO BY HERSELF. Let us not forget that. 🤦🏻♀️ I know I won’t.
Also, why would you ask someone who WANTED to get out of their marriage how long it was till they didn’t want to die? She ended the relationship! The level of self unawareness and delusion this woman has is mind blowing. The most hurtful part for her seemed to be leaving “things” she loved in that home, oh boo hoo, cry me a river! She talks as if she is now an expert on ending a marriage, while completely missing the fact the she had it the best possible way - she wanted to end the marriage and she had the money to do it! Oh yeah - she ordered a couch online and cried over it, that must have been SO hard! 🤮
Divorce and the emotional healing process involved in it are different for everyone. Six months could do it for some people. It look me many years, but I think I am an outlier. One friend of mine recommended intentionally staying single for a year, to just give yourself time to work through things. I think that’s a very reasonable recommendation. Most people don’t want to be alone long-term like I have been.
8 years after my emotionally abusive relationship and I’m still healing and dealing with the repercussions of its effects on my intimacy. So hearing her say “it takes 6 months” is incredibly damaging. I worked in the mental health field, and I know several clients who would be holding onto that six month timeline, and if it didn’t happen, they would go to a very dark place and give up hope. You shouldn’t give someone a timeline for healing like that.
Also she couldnt go out partying at first due to a lockdown...nice try Rach
What in the world?! How does she feel so confident saying six months, period. This is what it was for me and therefore it is universally true.
Also, if we’re going with the story that she’s looking for friends on a dating app it’s because she alienated all her old ones with her shenanigans.
And isn’t that what she was supposed to be spending her alone time thinking about? 🤔
I can’t imagine giving someone a timeline like that! That’s a recipe for disaster! Apparently, I once told my friend that things got easier for me (had 3 kids in 3 years), when the baby was 6mo old. But this was when she only had one kid, and I was just talking about my life. Well, turns out she had 3 kids in 3 years and she told me that she keeps telling herself that she just has to makes it to 6mo because of what I told her! 😱 haunts me… what if it doesn’t get easier then?!
A few hours at night alone is like everyday for some many people. It’s not any kind of intense alone time. She is the most unrelatable human being on the planet.
I really want a “choose sadness” shirt now. Sick of the positive thinking squad too.
Same
They have apps for finding friends like what the heck (aka you dont need to use a dating app to find friends)
I can empathize with Rachel. I was in a long term relationship with the father to my first child. I had been emotionally “done” with him for YEARS before being able to safely call it quits. I took some time to f around and finally met the person I’m married to. I think a lot of people who get divorced have had to mentally separated from their partner for months/years before making it official. And that makes dating (relatively) soon after the separation no big deal and actually (at least to me) a freedom to finally look forward to.
Yeah I feel ya...The problem I have with her stems from that the years she may have been done with him...she sold marriage and relationship conferences and had a podcast about helping people get a relationship like hers. I am totally understanding over getting divorced and/or living with someone even though the relationship is over.
Firstly- Congratulations!!
Secondly- she asked for the divorce granted we don't know the whole story, also it doesn't mean it wasn't painful... but she initiated the process she was already out the door, what about the other side or if it was because of cheating ... 6 months might be her time frame but she should be careful throwing a time frame out there for others
exactly. she seems to have the assumption that her experience IS the universal experience for everyone. This alone speaks volumes about why no one should look to her for guidance about anything at any level.
In my experience on both sides of divorce, generally people need a year after the divorce is FINAL to be mostly whole and solid and ready to insert yourself romantically into someone else's life.
Not just slept on the floor but slept on a “hardwood” floor. Rachel buy a blowup mattress. Heck, she didn’t even need to buy an air pump, could’ve blown it up with either her inflated ego or her hot air
I had to Google Dave's triathlon experience. Boy howdy! 😂
I can't find it! What happened?? I need to know!
@@jesekreanne He didn't train properly (or at all?) and had to be rescued during the swim portion. Which infuriates me because he could have seriously hurt himself or someone else. He was disqualified but continued the race and got a participation medal.
My grandmother got divorced 43 years ago, and she never got over it. At 93 she is still in love with him. Everyone, every relationship, is different.
Congrats on the engagement!!!!!!!!💍💍💍💍💍💍💍💍❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
God as “her”? This is one very sick individual. It’s very sad she cannot be alone. How about helping your kids and just focus on their well-being during the divorce. Oh, I almost forgot narcissists are self absorbed and could careless about others. She should have stayed with her ex. They were a True match
Omg I need to know the triathlon disqualification story
Mack attack has a long video on it!
Actually Dave did admit he was disqualified during the triathlon. He was kicked by another swimmer during the swimming portion, he said he panicked, felt like he was drowning and had to be rescued by a lifeguard. He made the decision to finish the rest of the triathlon knowing he was disqualified . I'm not sure why anyone would say he lied. He told the entire story within an hour after the triathlon was over. I know, because I was watching it live...he did train hard for this triathlon. There's no shame in being disqualified...he gave it his best shot but he admitted that swimming a few laps across his swimming pool did not prepare him for swimming long distance in open waters and was disappointed in himself for not training harder for the swimming portion. He was the most nervous about the swimming portion and even talked about it the morning of the race. He almost missed the start time of triathlon because he was so nervous, he got an upset stomach. He shared ALL OF THIS IN REAL TIME the day of the triathlon. I didn't get this information from some second hand source. I actually watched the triathlon. I was never a fan of the Hollises...but I did like following his training for the triathlon. Just wanted to set the record straight.
Ah. I know why RH called god “She”. I’m calling it now. She’s decided that Divorced Badass Boss Babes are her new targeted demographic. Slightly worn, weary, seen some shit, feminist but not too feminist. She’s gonna do an undercut with a “wacky” longer layer and start wearing pixi pants and a 3/4 length sleeved blouse and Rothys.
I think I just roasted myself.
And yes for a livestream! 🙂
I like long form videos. Well done!
Last comment but…
*what if the mystery boyfriend doesn’t exist*
Girl lies about or embellishes everything, why not craft a whole ass perfect relationship?
Her next book should be “girl get your story straight.” 😬
Rach talks about the annoying in LOVE friend. Not only with Dave but now with Boo Thang, she is that person.
I've been "alone" for 4/5 years after a terrible break up.. . I say "alone" but I've been with just me and my kids for 4/5 years.. once u get comfortable in your own skin with your own company it's so hard to change things! I couldn't imagine meeting someone 6 months after my break up.. it was so raw for the first couple of years even! Now I pride myself on singledom lol.. I'm always broke but I'm always happy! Can't beat it! Take a leaf from my book Rachel 🤣
God, she's such a hypocrite. Cognitive dissonance through the roof. And she talks about counseling women about this? Yeesh!! But also. There is NOTHING wrong with a rebound relationship. There is NOTHING wrong with dating casually, when you're hurting, when you're processing something painful, when you're getting over something - as long as you manage expectations with the person you're dating. Let me say it again - you DON'T have to be be "healed" before you start dating again, whether it be dating casually or dating very seriously or anything in between!!
Thank youuuuuu. So damn tired of people gatekeeping our relationships and endeavors. Like let us be dude we're all just trying to get by
I’m in the middle of a divorce currently, but he left two years ago and we were separated (but still living together) for about a year before that, and since he left, communication has been extremely minimal (usually taxes related). I’d stand by the 6 month timeline. It wasn’t that i was over it at that point, but I no longer felt his absence. I was in my own routines, didn’t have intertwined memories sparked by every little thing, and at that point I was able to start reflecting on what had happened and start really healing from it, now that I wasn’t so wrapped up in the emotions.
"My last relationship I didn't know better" yet she taught others what to do?
Sorry for the comments on comments! It's just so infuriating.
I got divorced about a year ago. And I've just recently started to feel like a human again. My therapist calls the year after a divorce "the year of divorce" for her clients, because it generally takes a year for most people work through their grief and heal enough to feel whole again. The important thing is to FEEL whatever you need to feel. To put a time frame on it and say "I"m still depressed after 4 months, I shouldn't be" is not healthy. Grief has no time frame. Divorcees should start dating again based on when they feel ready, not when a certain amount of time has passed.
Thank you for sharing!!
Yay!!! Congratulations!!
14:10 is the most accurate impression of Rachel I’ve ever heard
I’m glad I found your channel!! So entertaining!!
I wonder if this podcast would exist if she didn’t have this new so called boyfriend.
You’re right the church won’t like that she referred to god as a she, and I think it’s really shitty that she played thousands of women into thinking that her books are “Christian” books.
God is a woman 😂😂🤣😂 since when has masculine energy loved nurtured and given life?!!
Using a celeb dating app and referring to strangers as “fans,” tells me all I need to know. She thinks she is gods gift to earth.
Love your videos!
In my experience with divorce it was so much easier for me because I left my husband. I had left emotionally along time before I left physically. It was a weight off my shoulders to finally have it be over but it was stressful financially.
She literally can’t think about anything but herself. Whenever she talks about someone else, she brings it back to be all about her and her feelings 🤦🏼♀️ it’s painful. Truly painful
Very true! Good point like the man who she just knew died and it taught her a life lesson for the day
It’s genuinely difficult for me to listen to Rachel speak. She sounds like she’s mimicking a pastor. She also sounds like someone who has a mean personality and is trying to sound like your nice BFF. It’s so audibly fake tho. Her “y’all” and “freakin” lingo… just ick. She gives me the vibe that she thinks she is smarter than everyone around her, but doesn’t realize that she is the joke. The actual smart people observe her and reference her as an example for how not to act if you’re trying to be genuine. Like girl bye, we’re not stupid and your stories are BS fairytales you podcast to try and control other people’s perception of you, Rach.
The wannabe guru (Rachel) is the modern day televangelist preaching the prosperity gospel. in my opinion. I feel passionately about this because I believe people who do what she does genuinely make the world a worse place. When she speaks She is just noise adding to the fakeness and fuckery that is unavoidable in media these days. But worse because it’s really important to her that she appears “genuine” and “relatable.”
@@lucillespider Totally agree!
Nailed it!
Who feels ready to date after a 18 year marriage 10 months later?!
Rachel used "her" in reference to god... OH MY GOD, THAT CRYING LADY IN THE CAR VIDEO WAS RIGHT! RACHEL PLEDGED BOYONCÉ AS HER LORD AND SAVIOR AND IT WAS *LITERAL!!!* 🤣 THE DEVIL IS SPEAKING THROUGH HEEEEERRRR! I am ashaymed to have laughed at this righteous car-lady. ASHAYMED.
What a stunning engagement ring.
I can’t believe that she married the first guy dated, gets divorced and then is in a serious relationship with the first guy she dates… girl really can’t be alone despite making out that she is really good at being alone… *eyes rolls*
Also my mum and ad have been divorced for 6 years… my mum feels no better at all
Going to make a theory... he doesn't exist. This person never existed. Why constantly talk about how awful and hard it is being alone with such emphasis and conviction?? This person is in her mind
Wow you really nailed this. Thank you for your video.
Yay! So happy for a new video.
YAS make that merch! I've been following this RH garbage for a while and I know how she's all involved with MLMs and stuff. I kid you not, my ex friend reads Rachel Hollis books and is a Beachbody "coach" and has that EXACT OLD NAVY SHIRT ON HER INSTAGRAM. When I saw it I made a post that said, "Just once I'd like to see a shirt with some frilly font that says 'choose rage'."
As for a timeline, it's different for everyone. My roommie who's now ex-wife just surprised him with a seperation on fathers day and divorce papers like a few months later, and they were together 12 years, I think it was like whole year before it hurt less for him, but I would say it took 3 years for him to feel as he was truly over the pain.
They have been separated and divorce for almost 6 years now.
For me, I was the one who wanted the divorce because he was abusive and a cheater, I would say it took around 9ish months to feel better, but I was upset/hurting over other stuff.
Everyone said I was happier when as soon as I separated from him, but I didn't feel that was true. I've been separated and divorced from him for almost 5 years now.
It didn’t take me 6 months… it was more like 6 weeks, 😂
I felt sad like mourning of the could have beens after being married 8 years, but the moment he left, I felt lighter. The house was a better place right away. I did have my days I would get sad, but for the most part, I was happy it was over.
Usually women tend to recover quicker from breakups than men
10 months single??? Bitch I’ve been single my whole life and I’m 28. How codependent do you have to be to think 10 months is a long time.