The Rise & Fall of Rachel Hollis | The Most Hated Self Help Guru
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- Опубликовано: 19 июл 2021
- This documentary dives into how a once hailed lifestyle influencer, author, and self help guru became the most hated woman online. Is she misunderstood and wrongly accused, or has she been sharing a dark message all along?
1:27 Chapter 1: She Rises
6:29 Chapter 2: The Grift
11:50 Chapter 3: Make Me Rich, Bitch.
17:46 Chapter 4: I Own You
26:36 Chapter 5: She Falls
40:55 Chapter 6: Conclusion
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Hi, all! Two questions:
1. Do you prefer documentary styles where the creator is on camera telling some of the story, or letting the story be told through images and video only?
2. How's the audio? I've been working hard to make it better and not so shrill. 🤪
Thank you in advance to anyone who gives feedback! I really appreciate it. ♥️
Why not do both?! It’ll make you more relatable! No pun intended.
We love content creators that we feel are speaking directly to us, so if you can show both your beautiful face and mix it with clips it’ll definitely sell!!!
I think you should do a mix if both honestly! Your audio sounds great. Happy to see you post again😊
Both!
Both! Though I tend to listen more then watch. Your sound quality is sounding good!
I love your videos and I like whichever format feels like the right one for you to make. Using clips and images and then coming on for commentary is something I see any people do, depending on how they feel about being in front of the camera. I like that format, but I always find your videos engaging whichever you do.
My self help advice to Rachel: Don’t call yourself “self made through hard work” if you married a millionaire at 21 🤷🏻♀️
Right!!!!!! How dare she
Exactly Rachel isn't realistic other mom's can not relate to Rachel . It was all easy for her having a rich husband. Having her whole 8 hours of sleep at night while the nanny takes care of the kids. Normally us mom's we are so busy raising taking care of our kids cleaning our homes,Get laundry done , cooking oh and the sleepless nights especially when having a new born baby. Rachel had housekeeper and the nanny's did all the momma's work. No way Rachel can get away and claim she did it all on her own.
@@gabrielamartiniuc6322 Exactly Rachel isn't realistic. Normal mom's have to get it all done . Rachel had nannies to raised her kids and a house keeper to get chores done. Yet Rachel claims oh hey look at me I did it all on my own.
This
I wonder why someone needs a team to send 5 photos a day on Instagram. it takes few minutes. It doesn't require a team of people. Only a website with articles requires one person who cares of it for the celebrity. Some Opera singer said he had a woman who took care of the website.
Her advice is like,
If you're homeless, just get a house
if you're sad, be happy
If you're jobless, just get a job
Lol you couldn't have explained it better.
Amen
Bwhahahahaha best and funniest comment I read today. 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤭🤭🤭
It would be wonderful if it was just that easy.
Advice from a sociopath.
All she had to do was enjoy her millions and chill out. Mean girl energy was so strong she couldnt stfu until she outed herself.
🎯💯🎯
"Mean girl energy", & she outed herself 😂😂😂!!! Brilliantly funny comment.
She wants to feel proud of herself & she doesn't.
Best comment ever! You hit the nail on the head!
This. I get annoyed at all or nothing on either side of this argument. Hard work and pushing yourself IS part of life-tribal cultures today evidence this, and history does too. You do need to go out and perform. AND, we ALSO live in a severely maligned culture, very different from the community-based one our ancestors lived in. They went into the red tent and rested for a week.
Community held new moms by caring for babies.
I always veered away from this woman because the title of her book felt hyper critical (not to mention, Im a woman, not a girl).
As someone in recovery for 20 years, I see someone afflicted by the disease of addiction. I think it’s helpful to engender compassion for Hollis as well. We can hold limits, and accountability with this in mind too.
Be well.
I am an ICU nurse of 30 yrs. Despite being a single mum and having had a work accident and been diagnosed with life threatening pancreatitis and Addison’s disease & requiring years of hospitalisation and multiple life threatening surgeries, I continued to push myself and worked so hard I nearly killed my self all because I was being told and ended up believing was I just wasn’t trying harder enough. I am now palliative & mostly bed ridden and most of my days I am only capable of breathing, smiling and laughing with my magnificent 19yo daughter. My family and friends pretty much all said I needed to stop feeling sorry for myself and get back to work.
These unrealistic expectations do gooders like Rachel mouth off about can be dangerous. Listen to your body, mind and soul and take other’s advice with a grain of salt. Everyone is different. She is trying to make money by making others feel bad about themselves. Just my opinion. Everyone is entitled to their own. As a rule I don’t like judging people when your haven’t walked in their shoes but Rachel now takes the cake.
Keep as positive as you can although it's hell to do. You got this 👊
The USA is not a meritocracy!
A woman like Rachel couldn't survive what you have been through. Her ex husband couldn't handle the tough times.
Hi Mia - i just wanted to ask, how you are doing today?
I feel so deeply sorry for what you have to endure - and want to send you a "virtual Hug" from one Nurse to another 🤗. You are very, very brave!
Greetings from Germany
I, too, am on paletive care, and some days, her books helped me find my worth! I 😢 do relate to what she wrote in her books and I even went to rise I didn't care for the exercise because I couldn't do it. I would judge myss6 on net activity, and I Eben did buy 2 journals and I didn't even think of her using it for Financial gain when I thought it wS in our est interest a d I never connected that she was introduced MLM leaders. Wow😢
“She’s the woman who cleans my toilets”
… the last woman who “cleaned my toilets” owns her cleaning company, employs several people, & makes more money than I do. She also has a heart of gold and LOVES what she does.
A few years ago we had to move my grandpa out of his home that he’d lived in for 50 years- it needed a deep clean to say the very least and that’s when we found her.
I swear, when she was done with the place we thought the walls had been painted and new flooring installed, it was that clean - the woman has a GIFT - along with many people who make cleaning their career. She saw it as a way to help people, to make their lives easier, while doing something she’s good at & getting paid for it.
I’m not trying to imply that every housekeeper/house cleaner owns their business or loves their job, but they are never just “someone who cleans toilets”
The only issue I have is calling Rachel Hollis 'privileged.' Having done missionary work all over the world, I can guarantee you that anyone from a third world country considers anyone living in the U.s. as privileged. When you point a finger at someone else, you have 3 fingers pointed back at you. Sorry, this isn't in reference to the original poster, lol.
I love this! My MIL has the ultra-cleaning gift, she did our house when my partner & I had surgery within a week of each other and I swear the place actually glowed when she was done. It was Instagrammably immaculate. The carpets were like cashmere. Even the light looked crisp and fresh. Her place is the same, she genuinely finds it meditative.
I was a cleaner on and off for ages and I enjoyed it: I don't have the ultra-cleaning gift but I found it satisfying to get things neat & organized, liked being active and being able to go off in a daydream while I worked & if we had a living wage, maybe I would be doing it still.
@@danieldavis3035 I don’t think I mentioned Rachel? Were you responding to my comment?
Thank you so much for this comment! For a living I clean toilets, kitchens, etc...
I'm a janitor at a veterans home and I bust my butt everyday to make sure those vets have a nice clean place to eat and sleep plus I love talking to them to and when it comes to losing a fellow resident crying with them
Not all of us WANT to hustle to be famous or wealthy. Some people just want to raise their kids in a happy and healthy home. Don’t shame them for just getting through a difficult day and not chasing a goal they don’t want
CLAP CLAP. That’s exactly right. I said as much to a friend and they said I had given up. I said it’s not giving up. I just no longer want the “it” that you want.
Amen sister!
Very well said.
This. I’m content with my life as is. I “hustle” for simplicity.
THIS!!! 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
I busted out laughing in the middle of her speech about how everything you think becomes true. I wonder what it’s like to never have serious health problems or faced any real hardship- but not everyone is that lucky. These people are off their rockers.
When I saw that I laughed bc of how ridiculous it was. *gee I am really gonna think about beating this incurable chronic illness*
I know! All those people suffering in life just brought it upon themselves...they should have done more positive thinking and manifesting! 😂
Just a thing about mlms:
My mom was dragged into one when she had no job. Her upper made her buy all this stuff to sell on, but we live in the country. No one bought from her and the stuff sat, meanwhile her upper would go on vacation, show off what she bought because of the company all while telling my mom, who was trying her damnedest to sell what she had, that she wasn’t “trying hard enough” and that “a positive attitude is all you need”. It still sits in her study
I just want to say this: screw you, Arbonne.
Ironically, her speech at our yearly convention in 2019 was the trigger to my leaving Arbonne.
They sell the big homes and time freedom
As someone who has struggled with depression their whole life and has been suicidal multiple times. I can say that without a doubt, it is absolutely alright if all you did today was breathe. Because sometimes that's really all that you can do...
Hey I'm glad your still here.
Continue to breathe my friend.....Your life is valuable ❤️
I am so proud of people who stay breathing through a day even in their darkest times. To not understand that statement is such privilege. It's a sign that for them, breathing is never a difficult choice. I wish I knew what that was like, but in a way I'm glad I don't because it clearly shows that it damages their ability to empathise.
Hope ur doing better today!!! Your life has so much value!! don’t let anyone tell you anything different!!! i’ve gotten through many days just breathing we r all human and sometimes success isn’t about accomplishing tasks but accomplishing nothing!
Exactly 💯
So pleased I'd never heard of this woman until now.
Right!
who follows these people,by the millions..thats the sadness
Same!
Same. I had seen her book covers a few times, but I knew nothing about her.
I was recommended her book on Audible. After the first chapter I felt like she was completely unrelatable and out touch with pretty much ever person on earth except for the “basic white girls”.
If all you did today was breathe ..
If all you did today was hold yourself together I am proud of you 🥰
Rachel has only a high school diploma? She could have been the cleaning lady. Most housekeepers have a high school diploma, and many of them get up early in the morning. Any success she has or had was due to luck.
Her rant at around the 9 minute mark: spoken like someone who’s never dealt with chronic depression or anxiety, or any other mental health issue, or any chronic physical issue. Some days, just breathing *is* enough. Just hanging in there is enough. She’s lucky she doesn’t have to count her spoons.
Exactly!!! All that is easy to say when you are Rich.
@@hope_elizabeth_rose no, rich people can absolutely have mental health issues too. Not all rich people are ignorant and insensitive like Rachel has been
I have a friend who lost her child in infancy and she needed help just to get through every day 😔 even though I don't love the quote, it's reality for some people
YUP. During my worst mental breakdown in my life (so far), all I could do was breathe. It was the only thing I had the energy for. In my current state with chronic pain flare ups, there are days where being awake is painful. Rachel has clearly never dealt with anything truly debilitating in her life.
I was thinking the same thing. I’ve experienced enough and seen enough to know that sometimes breathing is exactly all you need to do in that moment.
“We all have the same 24 hours” but what average mom is married to a Disney executive and has multiple nannies and millions of dollars? It’s hard for me to feel sorry for people who fall victim to these types of “influencers”
Who does she think she is, so young and lacking life experience to coach anyone in anything?
Yeah what bollocks. No, some people have way more freedom with how they spend their 24 hours than others. Just one of many examples, people with disabilities and medical conditions who have to spend hours of their day just taking care of their medical needs before they even start to do anything else... not the same 24 hours. People working 3 jobs just to survive - not the same 24 hours. Rich people who outsource almost every mundane task from cleaning to cooking to childcare etc. Not the same 24 hours.
And the people who fall for them, only give them even more money!!!!
@@2degucitasshe is not young. I'm not hating on her, her age is totally fine, but she's above 40 now, and she was at least 30 when saying this.
This is not young, but an adult. Normal adult.
24hrs are not without sleep. I'll need 10 to 14hrs at times.
Not much time left
How anyone got past listening to this woman's voice for more than a minute is beyond me.
Yes, it is hard to listen to.
It really grinds on the inner ear
Right!! The little girl voice annoys me beyond measure
Her voice is a very special kind of annoying
Awe all the little Hollis cult followers coming to be rude.. typical. 😂
THANK YOU for connecting the dots between "toxic positivity," evangelism, consumerism, and modern-day social media "lifestyle influencers." It's one thing to have confidence and strive to make your life better; it's quite another to shame people who lack the same resources and opportunities in life (be they financial, social, physical, or mental) for not rising to the same heights as you. I SO appreciate you clearly spelling out such toxic mindsets in your videos.
We need to do a rethink on what “self-made” means. If you are able to move to LA, afford rent, and go to school, without working at the start, you are coming from a level of privilege.
A BIG level!!!!!!! I don't know LA as well but if you can do that in New York City, you are PRIVILEGED. Be grateful for that. I try to teach my kids their blessings but I don't know if they get it. I hope they will one day.
She did work while she went to school.
So what if she worked while she went to school. Her mother still signed the lease for her apartment. Many homeless 17 year olds don’t have that luxury. She was privileged that she had parents she could turn to help her Secure a place to live while she followed her dreams. Nothing wrong with admitting this.
Parents signed your lease😂 probably paid it too
@@melanatedmulatta7319 But she paid her own rent.
Her advice is basically "don't get enough sleep." As an actual health coach, that's bad advice. Sleep is an important part of your health.
Those cringe, self-help, hustle culture clowns always tell people to sacrifice sleep. So lame 😂
@@2paranoid2think they're truly the least helpful ever
I be love your comment: straight, to the point, debunking RH’s theory 🙃
Yes- Has she read the suicide and burnout news on physicians? Or the actual word "Karoshi" in Japan that means death from overwork... lterally.
That’s proof these beachbody “coaches” don’t know anything and aren’t certified to tell people how to improve their health.
I get so annoyed with the “everyone has the same 24 hours” this is exactly how most women will drive themselves into the ground working their life away..there’s gotta be more than just chasing a LV bag 🤷🏻♀️
Oprah has a chauffer a maid a butler. No everyone does not have 24 hours!
Her ex-husband, David Hollis, died this past February from an overdose of cocaine, fentanyl, and alcohol. He suffered from heart disease & depression. According to the Travis County Medical Examiner's Office, David also had a history of drug and alcohol abuse.
How appropriate, lol. I’d do drugs if I was married to her too
The Disney Executive? Not really surprised. She probably helped him overdose to get that "hard earned money"
Not surprising. Sad of course, since I dont wish ill or _death_ on anyone; however ---- the reality is that 99.8% of people within the Film + Music Industry are *addicted* to a variety of *substances.* A very distinguished _few_ end up dying from _natural causes_ or due to incurable illnesses ( _such as Cancer or AIDS etc._ ); the majority end up *overdosing on substances* tragically.
May his soul rest in eternal peace.
( _I imagine Rachel shedding Crocodile tears at his funeral, playing the bereaved 'ex-widow' in order to garner sympathy & attention; like the deplorable grifter she has always been._ ) 🙄
Imagine to have all of those millions of dollars for nothing. Ending up divorced and then overdosed by drugs
She'll probably write a book about it.
It makes me wonder how successful she would have been without a Disney exec husband and a house keeper and nanny when she started out.
Not very successful at all
She might have succeeded. It’s possible. But it would have taken much longer.
I mean. She may have been very successful still or maybe not at all. We’ll never know. What I do know is there are plenty of women who didn’t have those things who are doing very well in their careers or businesses now.
AGREED!!!!!!
Not very successful
Not all successes are financially rewarded. I have many successes, I cared for my elderly mom, I home schooled two great sons, I’ve been married 40 years, I ran a marathon starting a tradition in our family, we raised our boys in the beautiful Sierra Mountains and so many more. Rachel doesn’t impress me a bit.
💯 Yes, this!!!
Exactly, very well said!
Nuh uh. If you didn't marry a millionaire at 21, which of course makes you a self-made millionaire, then none of that counts!
@@hashtagunderscore3173 lol
I love this! Ive been saying that Western society has this problem where we only consider something a "success" if it results in more money or more social media followers. As if any of those things are what you'll care about on your deathbed. Creative and emotional success are WAY more important
I have lost a child. There were days where all I did was stay alive. I’m telling you with that amount of grief, surviving alone is a huge accomplishment!
❤
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The fact she mentioned paralympians as having the same 24 hours when if in a wheelchair everything takes longer to do shows how clueless she is.
Privilege isn't the posession of nice things, it is instead, the absence of obstacles and barriers. That "clear path" can often deteroriate into entitlement.
This is a very excellent way to explain privilege
Yes, I completely agree Linda! Beautifully articulated! 👏🏽
Very well said!
This!
I wish I could give more than one like to this comment! Awesome!
I feel like Rachel perfectly illustrates why licensure is so important. she’s essentially acting as a therapist without the proper education or knowledge, and is instead spreading harmful beliefs. it’s incredibly frustrating to watch; her followers deserve better.
Very true. I’m disturbed at how willingly people accept harmful and toxic ideologies but when it’s cloaked in religion people generally taste the bitterness and swallow anyway.
Unfortunately, even with licensure, I've seen some therapists turned authors and influencers try to get in on the self help lifestyle train & give very inappropriate advice. They've been reported to their state boards, but who knows if they've been adequately reviewed.
THIS
As a Social Worker I agree with you.
This. ❤️
9:20 As someone who has been battling cancer for the past year as well as having severe depression/anxiety. I can assure you that sometimes all you can do is lay in bed and breathe. Honestly. The audacity of this woman to sit there and say that is just. God.
Life is hell and sometimes all you can do is sit on the couch and eat ice-cream. Not every moment of your life has to be constant accomplishments and go-go-go. If I've learned anything through my experiences this past year is sometimes, recovery, pushing through, achieving the end goal, takes time, and rest. Sometimes slow and steady wins the race, and there's no shame in that.
Hey, I hope you're well and finding peace every day
Im sorry :(
shitty people like her are able to breathe when our loved ones and those that deserve to breathe are not able to - or struggle to. I breathe for my child that no longer can and some days ----- breathing is all the strength I can afford and that IS OK
Blessings and healing sent your way
Rachel: If I'm relatable, I'm doing it wrong!
Also Rachel: Look how cool and relatable I am! Hey there, fellow kids!
I find the latter to be both hilarious and sad...
Once she started complaining about the “pin” I was just done. Toxic positivity and constant hustle culture is insane. Mental health is vital.
Right
Nicely stated. Constant hustle culture. Ugh. Exhausting and futile.
Thank you! That girl has never had to struggle. She married a million and doesn’t have to worry about living paycheck to paycheck. Lack of finances leads to depression because it’s super competitive out here and it’s hard to find a job if one does not have a hundreds of years of experience. And even if one finds a somewhat of a good paying job, millions are still living paycheck to paycheck. And even with that, many are suffering from non curable diseases and have to make sure they don’t get fired just because they have to go through all these scans, and bloodwork. She has no idea how hard it is out here. She doesn’t have to worry about that at all. These things leads to depression, so just even to take time to breath in the midst of the struggle is a huge deal and a accomplishment for many of us who are going through hardships. I’m not knocking her for marrying a millionaire. Good for her but she has no right to put others down with her toxic positivity because it doesn’t help anyone especially those suffering with depression and suicidal thoughts.
🙋🏻♀️right here-same page with you.
Ya that just lets you know she cannot relate to most of society! She gets life handed to her on a silver platter by her rich husband. That makes a difference!
“If your partner is emotionally unavailable and refuses to value or validate you, play mind games with him until he marries you” is atrocious advice.
she just wanted his money
I’m going to have it needle-pointed on to a pillow
@@jessnoske3020 😂
I think it’s great advice! Let the sickos and sadist hookup and leave the rest of us out of it!! 🤪
They'll be divorced soon if theyree not already. 😏
"We all have the same 24 hours" says the lady with a nanny and more money than most people would see in three lifetimes.
I didn’t think 45 minutes about this cliche narcissist could keep me listening for more than 10. You’re an excellent chronicler and narrator. Not a misstep or dull moment and you seem to be straight-up objective. Well done!
Ugh. Actually I did lose a child. Recently too, and guess what? Most of the time all I can do IS BREATHE.
She infuriates me so much.
Condolences to you on the loss of your child.
I am so sorry❤
Been there (stillbirth). Also went through losing my husband to suicide while trying to be a parent to my then 6 and 3 year old who couldn't understand where daddy was. There were days where breathing was an absolute unattainable luxury. I'm so sorry you're having to navigate this loss. So much love and strength to you.
I am so sorry for your loss. When navigating trauma, a *licensed* counselor helped me tremendously. Please don't let these toxic people make you feel guilty for *anything.* 'Just breathing' on the hard days is a victory. Non-stop productivity and always striving for greatness is a really unhealthy way to live. ♥️
I’m so terribly sorry London. My heart is broken for you. Sending you all my love, strength and prayers.
When it was mentioned that a Louis Vuitton bag "represented the kind of woman she dreamed she'd be," I just felt... sad? Like, shit, imagine being so empty inside that you don't dream of being kind, or loving and being loved, or of being able to provide for others- you dream of owning a symbol of wealth, and that represents everything about your aspirations. Fuck, man.
Exactly!
Perfectly said!! 😂
Nothing wrong with working toward a goal, even if it is Louis Vuitton merch, however she does not represent those individuals.
She represents the type of individual that are completely caught up in the status, wanting to see that validation in the eyes of others, that feeds her empty soul.
I agree, it is sad.
Absolutely! HOW were women tricked into thinking a container can be a representation of your esteem?
My daughter in law must be one of her huge fans. She pretends she’s so successful as she mistreats my son in front of everyone. He owns 2 businesses, works his ass off, cooks and has their 2 young children most of the time when he gets home and the baby sitter leaves. He has caught her lying about having business meetings when actually she was out having drinks with friends. I can’t imagine being a mom and not wanting to be with your children. It dawned on me a few months ago if she could be having an affair? She’s ostracized him from his brother and sister and his friends. Even her 2 sisters told my daughter she’s a b*tch. We’ve not said anything rude to her ever but she of course has been rude to us. Breaks our hearts. 💔💔
My sister was a fan until Rachel released a book on how to get over her divorce within just a few months of getting divorced. Didn’t seem to ring true.
I initiated my divorce and it still took me a good five years to feel more normal
Wow Rachael was so delusional & a liar!! After my divorce with my first husband, it took me a year, to even start to feel like myself again! I was so sad & had crying spells. Smh your life changes drastically after a divorce. Thank God your sister saw Rachel for the Fraud she is 💯
As a British person looking at the Rachel Hollis fiasco from the outside. I can say that it is clear that Hollis was contemptuous of her target audience of chubby rubes with dull lives, duller husbands and disappointing unphotogenic children from the start. She saw them as sheep to be shorn from the very beginning. It was never a case of someone sincere getting corrupted over time by money and fame.She probably wanted to call her first book: "Girl, Wipe Your Bottom" to reflect her private low opinion of her fan base but was talked out of it by the publishers.
I HATE the whole “we have the same 24 hours as Beyoncé” concept. It’s so dangerous. Beyoncé also has a full staff, billions of dollars, and resources that everyone may not have access to. So no, we don’t have the SAME 24 hours.
Yes! That comment reeked of privilege.
I don't agree with Rachel's comments but even with Beyonce's 'staff', she has a different set of worries and business duties. I'm sure they work way more than 8 hours a day, they are responsible for the livelihood of many people - cooks, nanny's, business managers, gardeners, stylists, make up, hair. Different set of worries...but everyone has them.
@@amymenjivar3489 Agreed. Beyoncè also owns her own business, and I think she also forgets that Beyoncè is a RICH BLACK WOMEN. Like girl......
I h@te it too, but I’m heavily motivated by Beyoncè too because I know her struggle, but yes she’s rich and therefore as class privilege! We ARE NOT the same!
They underrate the amount of time that is needed to keep your house and your whole family's clothes clean, doing grocery shopping, cooking, taking your kids to doctors, taking your pets to veterinarians, doing paperwork etc. These and more cost so many hours!
Someone who works for 9 hours a day + on average at least 1 hour on the road to work and back has barely time to do even the basic tasks that do nothing career- or money-wise.
This woman married to millionaire at the age of 21, she had not enough time as an adult to have these struggles because she fell into a mansion pretty quickly.
“You’re either growing or dying” is such a brainless statement. Everything is in the process of dying.
hmmm I mean I look at growing as not necessarily income based. There's so many ways you can grow, mentally, emotionally, spiritually, physically... etc. Growth is actually not something that happens in large chunks but I agree with the with combined with hustle culture and toxic positivity being harmful.
Thank you, I was thinking the same thing. Also, we are always growing as well. Every cell in our bodies is replaced every 7-9 years. 🤣
Its her way of quoting Andy Dufresne in Shawshank Redemption without directly quoting it.
ugh. All of those quotes are beliefs! It doesn't make objective truth!
I disagree. Growth and movement are the opposites of stagnation. Stagnation is dangerous.
She only had one pose in her pics 😂 "Look right, fake laugh, hand in hair. sO aUtHeNtIc!"
Its crazy how people will say "you need to love yourself before you love someone else" in a break up yet when its about a career or schooling all i hear is "get up and do it! No matter what"
Hearing what she said about "it's okay if all you did today was breathe" hurt alot more than I expected it to. I am 21, and have struggled daily with a chronic illness, since I was 11, a chronic illness that has taken everything from me, despite fighting it with everything in me. Because of that I'm severly depressed, and just staying alive is all I can handle right now. "Just breathe" is everything I can handle right now. Hearing priveleged, lucky people who have never had to experience anything like that act like it's all about your attitude and putting in the work, makes me so mad. I have fought everyday since I got sick, since I was a CHILD, just to give myself a future, and despite all the energy and strenght I have put into this battle, nothing has changed, because it's not that easy. Sorry for the rant, but people like her have no idea what it's like in the real world, have no idea what it's like to have all the odds stacked against you.
I dont know you but I'm proud of you. I hate to repeat the obvious, but genuinely... it's okay if all you did today was breathe.
Please pay that horrible woman no mind. I guarantee if she was in your situation she'd crumble instantly.
I’m sorry you’re going through so much . You obviously have a lot of resilience and compassion for others . God bless you .
Totally normal response for you to feel as you do. I’m Sorry there are such ignorant people in the world who cant comprehend or consider that others may have a totally different life experience than theirs that gives good reason and meaning/value in “just breathe”. Wishing you strength and sending love your way.
If your best today was getting up and breathing, we’re sure glad you’re here with us. Great job sis ❤️
Momfession.. we all don’t get the same 24 hours because some moms are doing it completely alone. Some moms get up at 5 to catch a bus to get the their first job, some moms are struggling with debilitating mental issues and just barely able to get out of bed to get their kids off to school… I could go on and on!! I’m glad Rachel finally got knocked off her high horse cause she isn’t helping anyone using sayings like this infact I bet she has hurt way more than she’s helped
Thank you for your statement. You are seen and heard. Sending LOVE. Such solid points.
I agree, and I have a husband. Not everyone is dealt the same hands in life and we can't always choose how to spend our time. Most of us are just trying to survive and have some fun along the way.
It would be great if she were just « not helping » people. But it seems as if she would be pretty hurtful if someone took her seriously.
You nailed it. We don't all have the same 24h. I am living in the US but I am originally from the Caribbean. In my culture, the nuclear family model is not popular. It's not just mom, dad, children. If I were to have kids, most of their day to day care would not fall on me. My mom, my MIL, my sister, my cousins, the whole village, everyone would help here and there. I would be busy with the children, yes, but not to the level I see that American women go through. I see that most American women are basically doing it alone, with a partner that helps somewhat, and that surprised me a lot when I came here. Women cleaning, cooking, changing diapers only days after giving birth and sometimes returning to work six weeks after. Blows my mind. When you're doing it alone or with little help, your 24h looks way different than mine.
Absolutely! We all have completely different versions of what we can get from 24 hours! Imagine saying that to a person who lives with chronic pain and only has so many spoons to give!
So i just googled Rachel, and by default Dave, and he died this past February of an OD. They both seemed toxic, great video with a wealth of comprehensive amd informative info!
I saw that too. Cocaine, fentanyl and another drug? Suspicious. Who does all 3 at once?
The cat gagging at "goop for red state women" had me ROLLING 🤣 I had to play it back
"Whatever you believe is true, is true"
Ah yes, being disabled, chronically ill, mentally ill, or just a person who doesn't have someone to clean their toilets is just something we all 'believe'
I wish I could give you 100 thumbs up for that!
Yeah, just not trying hard enough..
😂
Also she then talks about believing in Santa as a child and that...is not real. What is her point?
Yea, just like how dudes menstruate and give birth also, smfh.
Apparently in todays Bizzarro world, you can give someone chicken shit and call it chicken salad, and if you object, you're the one who is mental, lol.
I hope the poor woman who cleans Rachel Hollis's toilets quit and got a new job with someone who respects her.
For real. As a house cleaner, the toilets is one SMALL part of all the hard work we do to make others lives easier. Being reduced to the worst part of our job is a slap in the face. I really hope she's okay.
I remember reading an anecdote from someone who said their parents had had the same cleaning lady for years, and she was practically family. On cleaning day they made coffee for her, and they’d chat a bit and catch up before she got to work.
@@pvanpelt1 the lady who cleans my parents house makes a similar salary to my mom (she cleans multiple houses and my mom is a nurse,) and has been a close friend of our family for years. She came to my wedding!
Amen. And I'd be happy to work at Chili's.... hard to get a job sometimes. Working in a position where you can get tips!? Count me in. I grew up loving that place!
Me too
I rstarted to ead her book 'Girl, wash your face' and stopped reading it when I saw that she forgave Dave and married him. She details how he treated her and emotionally abused and manipulated her. After that I couldn't take either of them seriously and stopped following them. Now that I see this, I can see my instincts were right about them. Great video!
Same
That's how far I got while listening to her book. I was like, I have absolutely zero respect for this idiot. Done.
I survived a physical and emotionally abusive relationship. When I was finally free and able to start healing I found it was the EMOTIONAL and VERBAL abuse I had the hardest time getting past; ten years later if a man becomes verbally abusive and aggressive I suffer PTSD. Being physically abused is scary when it happens especially when it is serious to kill you, but when it’s over you heal. The emotional and verbal abuse an become like a tape playing in your head 24/7; this is what broke me. There were days when I had constant panic attacks and you know what you need to do to stop a panic attack? JUST BREATHE! Sounds simple but it can be really hard! I had to turn off the volume when that annoying cow was having that diatribe over something that SHE CLEARLY doesn’t understand, I seriously doubt she was ever in an abusive relationship unless SHE WAS THE ABUSER! I literally wanted to punch HER OBNOXIOUS FACE through my TV. It’s sad there are SO MANY DAMAGED PEOPLE looking for help in all the wrong places!
"it's okay if the only thing you did today was breath"
Rachel may think it's a load of crap but as someone with severe depression sometimes just getting through that day is an accomplishment. Maybe not the most productive one but you can't always force yourself to do things. It only makes people like us feel even worse for not being able to get up and be Super productive like others.
Exactly that. Guilt tripping people who already feel s***. Unforgivable
My anxiety is so bad that it’s an accomplishment if I’ve done anything some days. I can’t stand people like this lady, she’s gross.
Genuinely. She thinks her own experience with mental health is representative of everyone else's. She's never had to live with a severely depressed or anxious brain, or with other severe disorders, and so she thinks her word is gospel. It's abhorrent
@@ameliac2540 I'm really angry that she's making people feel this way. I'm glad she's said those things as it shows she has absolutely no knowledge of mental health issues or empathy
I thought it was so weird she mentioned “what about people with cancer”. My cousin has cancer and so many people i know had cancer and literally the only thing they could do some days was BREATH
She didn’t really compare Santa Claus to a quote about debilitating anxiety or depression ?!?! This woman is TERRIBLE
I hope she stretched before that reach
She’s clueless
That was so painful to watch
It made no sense! What on earth does that have to do with Santa?
@@thisisthewaterandthisisthe3254 lol I couldn’t make sense of it either
It's such a pet peeve for me when people list all the people they blame, and then say they take responsibility as the boss
More important than ever to educate teens about the toxic hustle culture. I see my daughter consuming this fantasy thinking and it worries me.
Why do people who buy in to hustle culture always say stuff like "I get up at 5am" and then a year later say "I get up at 4am"? Is that some kind of flex? When will it go to 3am? Or 2? Why sleep at all? Sleep deprivation is foolish and will have the opposite effect on reaching your goals. 🙄
LOL yes! Plus tonnnsssss of manual laborers get up at 3,4,5 am to go work. It's not a flex.
Lol it's like all the stores pushing black Friday back to brown Thursday. Where will it end?
@@Lenci_the_Nugget Right! Eventually it'll be Black monday lol
This kills me every time. My daughter naturally wakes up at 5:30am everyday. I'm not waking up even sooner to get stuff done. I need my sleep to function and be a good mom.
My mother-in-law once said to me I was going to start getting up at 6:00 a.m., but then I decided to get up at 5:00 a.m. because 6:00 a.m. wasn't special enough. Now I get why she said that.
As a Christian I have a huge distrust in televangelists there is just something about super rich pastors that seems weird
It's because God has given you a gift to be able to see the truth in others especially if they are using him as their profit.
...also something EVIL about them all;
Same for me too. They make us Christians look bad. Even if Jesus was here in human flesh, he would definitely be riding on donkeys, using using Greyhound, or even fly in economy lass to get around to preach and heal. He would never deceive His people to give him thousands of dollars for a private jet or God won’t heal us or answer our prayers. I really can’t stand these televangelists. They are nothing but wolves in sheep’s clothing. When the rapture comes, those false pastors will be the first ones to hell for the horrible behaviors. I hope children of God wake up, and turn away from those false preach preachers before it’s too late. I will never understand why many Christians idolize these false preachers especially when that’s one of the Ten Commandments of what not to do. All we can do is pray for them.
probably because you know Jesus kicked over the tables of the money changers in the temple instead of asking them how he could get in on the action
Yes it seems a bit much to me. Although it's not a sin to be wealthy it is a sin to be boastful, plus a true Christian is content with what they have and are grateful, not entitled, when God blesses them with abundance.
What really stood out to me is when she said she can’t talk about her relationship without talking about the company! Do they not talk about their feelings for each other?! Do they not have midnight dance parties in their kitchen!? Do they not just cuddle and watch movies?! If that’s success, I don’t want it 😌🙃
There is nothing so low, no scam as transparent, no con so obvious, as prosperity gospel.
As a content creator and long time motivational speaker... her message has ALWAYS rubbed me the wrong way. Seeing that clip about the "sometimes if all you can do is breath..." Pinterest post... WOW. As a disabled woman who has also struggled with severe mental illness, this just screamed, "I'm privileged" - I've accomplished a lot in life, despite my challenges, but hell... sometimes I still wake up and all I can do that day is breath AND THAT'S OKAY. damn...
what challenges did she have...i dont see her disabilities except she was handed given great privileges outright......on her own with the millionaire marriage....her toxic positivity is a bomb.....doesnt work unless she hustles her ass up the social ladder looking for a way in2 big time $$$ social circles. Shes just believing her own bullshit. Shes delusional. If she were paralyzed physically shed want to clean her own toilet. Its physical privilege to be able to move clean walk stand reach grab move run talk hear see think express create.
@ Molly Burke I am proud of U. As a person with a chronic autoimmune disease there were times when I was glad I got out of the bed a d even happier that I made it across the floor to the bathroom despite the severe pain. Don't U dare be ashamed, be proud and say it with your chest!
Exactly right! I wish you all the best xx
@@oldwomanranting she makes a comment about cleaning woman cleaning her toilet. She turned me off with that n her jumping dancing open mouth smiles i found her disturbing. Im.glad im strong enough to clean my own toilet
Yes!!!!
One thing that baffles me from Rachel Hollis to Kim Kardashians, is that they seem to “forget” where they came from. How much privilege was involved in helping them attain their goals. They like to speak to the masses as if we are all lazy and navel gazing while the select few started from nothing and worked hard enough to reach the pinnacle. So insane.
They don't forget it's a form of narcissism and attention seeking
Yes, but on the same note, I really don't get what the issue is with coming from privilege??? We choose our lives before we come here. Some lives we're poor and have nothing and other lives we have abundance. It's no one's place to judge. Not to mention, 90% of the population in the U.s. are consumed with a bigger house and a better car, but when someone gets that, through whatever means, everyone puts them down. That's a double standard in my opinion.
@@jenniferlawrence9473 If she would have said I'm privileged and left it at that that would have been fine. The fact she sat there and degraded her housekeeper and many other people that don't have the same lifestyle as her was what the problem was. Like she really was like nobody works as hard as me but then was talking down to people that work for her in her house to keep her house clean her kids fed her kids clothes her kids taking care of her taking care of her meals cooked all this stuff. Like there's a difference between being privileged and being an a****** and people don't like a privileged a****** Christian that claims that they're a good person
Obviously you havent seen Kim speak then. She is always so humble and grateful and does give credit to those who have helped her.
@danarosario4780 exactly. They know exactly what they are doing and they ruffle it will cause. Best thing to do is ignore them.
I can't believe it took the algo two years to put your content into my feed.
Your content is as good as anything available on streaming platforms for pay.
I love that you highlighted this story next to the ‘prosperity gospel’ and MLMs. I love when the flaws are exposed in these systems
So, she married a super rich man while she was young, had every option and opportunity in the world placed in the palm of her hand but tells others to "hustle hard" to get what she "worked" for? Ma'am, we are not the same.
me, a student, using peanut butter sandwiches and taco trucks for a financial cushion.
Exactly … she literally self proclaimed she married her abusive sugar daddy
Ya it’s like Kim k saying get off your butt and work. Honey you’ve been handed everything in your life on a silver platter. Most are not as fortunate
I remember when being a 'hustler' meant you were a prostitute.
She bragged that she made another "Rachel" in her office go by just her initials, because "there could only be one Rachel" (paraphrased). This is very telling of her sense of self-importance and delusion.
Holy Cats! Rachel has a big ego there! Glad I hadn't heard of this woman until now! She sounds like she has the making of a cult leader. Keith Raniere (sp.?) was the same way with NXIVM.
She did say she was an attention seeker even as a young kid lol
As another Rachel: what the fuck?
you want to shout to this woman: "What do you know about life, girl?!" I've had a really bad life and I've experienced a few tragedies, I have an incurable autoimmune disease, I'm a single mother of a wonderful daughter and I do my best every day and I smile at everyone and I always hear "you can't see that you are so seriously ill", "you can't see that you've been through so much" and despite the fact that I do my best, there are days when the only thing I did was breathe. That's ok.
I seriously am surprised I hadn’t stumbled upon your channel until now (yesterday) considering how many documentary style videos I watch.
Great work!
Someone gifted me her first book and I got about a quarter of the way in and I thought “Girl, this isn’t who I want to be.”
Same! Granted, I'm well older than her target audience (I'm in my 50s), but I got through about two chapters before wondering what all the fuss was about.
You are better than anything that book could’ve taught you.
I am usually against burning books but hers together with Lean In are at the top of my list! The poor trees who died to make paper to be used for her low life trash and deplorable despicable sickening BS! What a pathetic person parading around as a human being……
I wasn't given the book or anything, because honestly that's the only way it would come into my possession, but it has such a stupid name that I had to just look up what all the fuss was about. And the first thing I do is always go to Goodreads to figure that stuff out, and people were sounding off. When I read about that horribly toxic relationship that she committed to for life, I was flabbergasted. And not only that, but she just speaks through so much white middle-class to upper-class privilege and never had to do anything complicated in her life. The bottom line was, I was really excited to see this thumbnail in my feed because I really just want to see how it all collapsed after I left the States. This little Goodreads rabbit-hole happened about five years ago and I've been out of the States almost that long so I just forgot about her 😂
Many of these prosperity gospel believers have obviously never read the verse ‘it’s easier for a camel to pass through the eye of a needle than it is for a wealthy man to enter the kingdom of heaven’ .
No pockets in a shroud
Oooh that guy who said Jesus wouldn't be riding a mule didn't even read his Bible
@@karendover6001 yup, that would be Creflo Dollar. He’s absolutely a false teacher of the Christian faith!
Don’t store up your treasures on earth, where everything can be destroyed or stolen. Store up your treasures in heaven, because your heart will be guided by what you treasure. (Matthew 6:19-21, paraphrased)
Or just go for 100% greed, no matter the cost. I’m sure God approves of that option, too. 🤦♀️
@@MaidMirawyn what kind of Christian wants to be rich? The meak poor and childlike inherit everything. But sure, be rich boastful and tell everyone to "grow up". Sure Jesus loves that.
If she worked her ass off, why does she have a toilet that needs cleaning?
She obviously has never had health issues where some days your goals aren't about hustling or prosperity and that life comes down to just breathing in some moments, but people like her only realize that in a crisis
Her comment about breathe quote was so disrespectful. She then proceeded to indicate that only certain trauma's that she approves of should prevent someone from having a productive day. That is gaslighting at it's finest. She has no right to tell another human being what qualifies as an excuse and what doesn't when we all experience real and valid pain and suffering everyday.
She probably hasn’t had tragic events or struggles happen in her life. People who have, wouldn’t even say that or think to say that. It was very disrespectful!
Bravo to you! Good message.
Gaslighting people who aren’t as lucky as she is seems to be her main method.
Disrespectful indeed. Such an unkind and THOUGHTLESS person she is. Disgusting.
It's more moderated for me...I tend to think that we should all strive for the next step and not fall into learned helplessness or stagnation, but the "next step" needs to be *appropriate* for your circumstances. The next step may be getting through the next few minutes in a serious crisis. A more ambitious goal may be more appropriate for someone else who has different circumstances so that they don't stagnate where *they're* at. It's individualized IMO.
What is this obsession with depriving yourself of sleep? Sleep is so fundamental to our health it just makes no sense to give up. Get your hours, people!
I am an insomniac and would do anything to get 7 to 8 straight hours of sleep.
Totally agree. What’s this obsession with telling people to live their life like you do! How arrogant
I was just thinking this.... makes no sense.
I'm so glad you do this videos! I myself have a very successful bookkeeping business I took years to grow and throughout my 20s and even 2 brief times in my 30s I fell prey to MLM companies because they sold me on their products and companies. Thankfully the last one I joined in 2022 I was only "sucked in" for about 2 months and then quickly scaled back to only keeping the discount on the products because I do use and love it. But I'm glad you do these videos on these spiritual cults because I had a run in with one of those as well because I've always wanted to be a motivational speaker and a self help author. I actually even wrote the book but have never published it. I fell into this web that was a mentor for life coaches to go from $50 sessions to $15,000 courses and boy did she do a great job at convincing me. I even paid $10,000 for her course and after TONS of hours over 3 months with almost nothing tangible to show from it, I walked away. And I realized in some of your other videos that it was 100% a cult environment. Your videos about these spiritual leaders who turn out to be nightmares and villains sent chills down my spine and it really made me question if I want ANYTHING to do with that arena. I have a wonderful business I'm great at, I love it, my clients love me. Rachel Hollis, I remember the buzz around her. I read the first book and I felt envious of her success as I wanted the same thing but I was so put off by her book, it was very poorly written and I couldn't imagine how she had gotten so famous over it. Now I'm gonna watch your video, curious to see how or why she isn't popular anymore because I assumed she'd just be trucking along making a killin still.
Currently, at 4:51. I am highly skeptical if her husband were abusive in the first place. Abusers DON'T come back to give you a proper relationship. They can't be changed. Chances are her husband was a decent human being to begin with. She made him look bad for money and he agreed .
her: admits to having an unhealthy relationship with a benzo and alcohol
her: i hate addicts
🤦🏼♀️
I know right?! She’s so out of touch with reality, and not practising what she preaches at ALL in my opinion
Right!🙄
This pretty much sums up her entire personality.
Morgan good comment 👍
As her husband died of an overdose.
uhh Hollis sis, most people DO get up at 4am, for low wages, WORKING THEIR A $ S OFF in horrible conditions, so people like you can buy and fill your house with stuff to make it look pretty. Some people work like this all their life and they never get as rich as you, they don't have the opportunities and the world isn't a fun nice place.
She doesn't even know what it means to really work HARD like she says, but so many people do, not because they want to its because they have to, it's the only way they can merely survive. Barely making enough to eat. UGH.
Yes indeed & grateful for all we have!!!
Peace that passes all understanding!!!!
Your the truest rich one 😘
Fr my dad work his ass off for a fucking 9000 pesos monthly pay and they cant even fucking pay the overtime ones everyone knows the general manager keeps it
Absolutely! And some are sick and wish they could get up and work but can’t!
You fucking NAILED it, baby!!! 😘❤️
And those are the people who wind up clinging on to Hollis' every word and buy whatever she is selling.
No real Christian’s would ever think that way….the devil hides himself in sheep’s clothing.
Excellent coverage. This might be my favourite video on the subject!! ❤️
“The woman who cleans my toilets, the woman who cleans my toilets…” I’m sure that woman has a NAME and is a whole person aside from just someone who cleans her toilets. How does she not see how disrespectful and demeaning that is to refer someone that way? Even if she didn’t want to say her name online, calling her a housekeeper or maid would’ve been more appropriate unless she hired a lady to literally clean just the toilets and nothing else. She said a lot of offensive things but that one really got to me.
Way disrespectful. I was so annoyed. But why do you need your toilet cleaned twice a week. This woman has constant diarrhea of the mouth and apparently elsewhere 😂
Same here 😡
Well maybe the woman she’s referring to wants to remain anonymous. People need to stop thinking their assumptions are fact so they get all up in their feels and leaning on their own understanding.
@@TruthHurtsSoGetAHelmet did I not say she could’ve called her her housekeeper or maid if she didn’t want to say her name? Read the whole comment before you respond to it
Me too!!! Thank you for saying this! It made me irate!
As a believer or the Bible - the prosperity Gospel is not the Gospel. It is absolutely wrong and disgusting. It literally goes against the true message.
Amen, my sister. ❤️
I 100% agree it’s truly a false ‘gospel
Literally discovered this documentary yesterday and just today news of Dave Hollis' death is in the news. Crazy timing 😳
I saw that he passed recently. What a strange world.
I enjoy the way you let the images tell the story and the audio is good. You're doing a great job.
She married a rich, well-conected man. She took money from people seeking marriage counseling, yet they were having major issues, why isn't Dave not been canceled? They both created the Hollis company. Both took money from people, yet she is the only been dragged down. Both are at fault.
Because he’s a man and ……. Patriarchy. That’s it.
Yup, I agree... Which is why I mentioned him several times, let him show his ass with the polyamory comment, and ended the video making sure to criticize Rachel *and* Dave. Although men definitely get criticized far less (which is bullshit), I think in this situation, Dave comes across as more polished than Rachel (he also has a lot less fans than she does, so he's offending less people on a broader scale). Although I believe his polished online personality to be a facade, Dave is smart and knows not to publicly talk shit on his cleaning lady, diss the industries that brought him success (how Rachel did with MLM), and plagiarize famous authors multiple times. You don't get to be a Disney executive if you can't protect your public image, and I think that's where he and Rachel differ.
@@emlee4323 oh shut tf uo with the patriarchy bs. It's even more infantile and embarrassing than it was five years ago. Weak women who have or cannot achieve anything always whip out the patriarchy crap. I'm more successful than any man I know. And the toxic ppl I had to overcome were all other women. So shut up
THIS
@@PH-vv1ky you sound like a terrible person on every comment here. Or maybe just a Hollis fan.. same thing I guess.
I’ll bet Rachel wouldn’t last one shift as a hospital nurse. I would love to watch her try actual hard work.
She’d melt down in an epic fashion halfway through the first med pass. Esp if she was on a med surg floor.
She sounds like the type who think nurses are beneath her. Just good for cleaning bedpans🤷
She would get assaulted, first shift.
I’m a teacher, I thought the same. Let her have my sixth grade classes for a day. I’ll take her to rehab myself after that.
Or as someone who “cleans toilets.”
This is the perfect example of the ONLY good reason to drag someone over their personal life, when they used it to sell their message and parade their success only to reveal it was a crack covered mess
😮..you’re documentaries are very interesting ,just discovered them..Thanks you
Rachel, managing to just breathe is my life as a chronically ill person. I may have the same 24 hours as you but my energy levels don't often allow me more than a few hours a day to do stuff.
💪💪💪🥄🥄🥄
100% Straight talk-my daughter had hEDS, POTS, Dysautonomia, gastroparesis, and fibromyalgia. Spoons (daily energy) are finite. I would love to let her live in my kid’s body for one day.
Totally! Been fighting Systemic Lupus with RA and Fibromyalgia, and some days, breathing and being with my love ones are the best thing I could do.
Love to you 💜💜💜
Her response was just the dumbest sh!t EVER!!!!! I hope you feel better.
Ironically, if you want 6 pack abs, losing sleep will not help you. Being tired makes you want to eat more to make up for the energy deficit and is generally bad for your health over all 👀 But thanks Rachel. Good to know we should not sleep or just breathe.
and you need sleep for muscle growth and repair!!
She wasn’t even in decent shape lol
Well, her bad yo-yo half is pretty chunky.
Yea lol sleep deprivation is literally one of the worst things you can do for your health, mental and physical. And yet there she is, encouraging people to compromise their sleep in favour of productivity (sleep less to acquire more "stuff").
She is proof that now a days it seems that words and image are more important than actions.
They had ONE marriage retreat and then vowed not to do it again, saying “marriage retreatS” is untrue
People do not need to be disabled or have cancer to be depressed, Rachel. 🙄 Continuing to breathe is a good thing, specially for people who fight their own demons everyday. It's a success to be able to live another day.
Thank you!!! 👍🤗 God bless you!!! 🙏👏
*every day
Darwin agrees with you 🎉
@@vj8406you don’t understand Darwin lol
no stop. my stomach dropped when you read "it was the wake-up call he needed"... she married that guy she is openly writing about as an abuser???????? This girl is LOST.
Something tells me she was the abuser.
@@miinfl7143 idk I don’t like her but she was underage when they met, he was sketchy af
He’s rich though
How come people are missing that they deserve each other? It protects the rest of us from engaging their type.
He worked as a CEO for Disney. That should tell you everything.
I am blown away by your videos. I just discovered your channel a few days ago and I'm an instant fan. You have a real talent for storytelling and the production/editing/music are all top notch!! I'm so happy I found your channel!
SO blessed to not know anything about this culture or people vultures
Here's the thing. This is the real Rachel. The Rachel that hasn't been carefully curated to her identified audience. She's not manipulating the pain points of her audience. She's not weaving the NLP magic,or taking the toxic positivity and weaponising it to create a shame response. She's just being herself
A person of privilege who doesn't think beyond the space she occupies.
What we're seeing has always been there - it's just been given behind all the other stuff!
Well written comment, jennifer schultz!
I hate hustle mentality. Sometimes you give your best and it is still not enough. Shit happens. Even if you do everything right, you still might not get the desired outcome and it might be something as simple and unfair as bad luck. Don’t forget: you can’t expect yourself to give more than your best! If things don’t work out and you did your best, it is due to factors outside your control, you’re good! Breathing maybe the best you could do that day.
Thats very true , it takes luck ( circumstances occurring that are out of ones control or often even knowlege of such circumstances existence ) to succeed . Most of these people who claim a person can do anything or be anything must have never known anyone who had a sudden stroke at a young age , or got hit by a drunk driver on the way to work , things that can strike down anyone at anytime
And these people who succeed in hustle culture are either scammers or already rich 🤷♀️
Agreed. It puts pressure on us and it’s not always obtainable. Sometimes it’s ok to say I can’t do that. Because the reality is sometimes we can’t.
I don't believe in luck. It's just an excuse to explain away our failures. Just like these "gurus" use high vibes/blessings/God's favor to explain their success. Because simple "good luck" isn't marketable and scalable.
Sometimes things don't work out, period. No explanation needed. We learn lessons in life, and when you build your castle on a foundation of sand, it will collapse. I.e. when you're lying to yourself to chase something you may not even be truly passionate about, you'll burn yourself out, and things won't work out. Has nothing to do with something as arbitrary and random as luck. True passion can fuel a person to overcome any obstacle. False positivity on the other hand cannot; it leads to burnout, failure, and to add insult to injury, guilt and shame for thinking "it's all your fault" and "you just don't have what it takes".
@@nikkilengyel No that is not true. Passion can't overcome any obstacle. I have seen it happen, people who gave it their everything, who loved what they do and they still didn't get what they wanted. Call it whatever you want, I know it is hard pill to swallow, passion and hard don't always win.
She got that pressed over a PINTREST POSTTTT
This comment section is just what I needed today. Thank y'all.
Yeah she’s literally man-made not self-made smh. Also, her calling that Pinterest post trash is so damaging, my therapist had to explain to me what false positivity is and this woman reeks of it. She’s the embodiment of “since I haven’t gone through a rough time in life, others can get over their mental health concerns”…S.M.H.
Excellent comment! Well said my friend!
man made?
@@melissamoonchild9216 because she married a wealthy man
My Sister posted the same quote she mentions at 8:12… she lost her teenage son to suicide, and her other daughter is homeless and presumed dead. So yeah, it’s MORE than okay if she spent the day literally breathing through each moment. F your superiority Rachel.
what is she doing wrong that both her kids are in an awful place
@@pussygalore731, you realize that people can have wonderful parents and still end up in bad places, right? In this case it’s genetic mental illness, bi-polar and schizophrenia. The mindset when people assume *she* did something wrong is what makes the survivors of a suicide feel that they are to blame, which they are not. She has 5 kids, and the other 3 are wonderful, successful people. Unfortunately 2 of them were hit hard with mental illness.
When she was saying that stuff I was wondering how the heck would she know the stories of people who post that quote. I'm very sorry to hear about your sister. 💜
I hope people ripped her a new one for that privileged rant.
That’s what I was thinking there’s some people that could really use that quote for encouragement but I do understand there’s some using excuses. But mental health is so hard. And trauma recovery plus addiction. People struggle life is hard.
Im officially binge watching your channel. Amazing content!