This is sad. My mom said the same things. Most of my siblings ended up on drugs and are drunks... Neither of my parents drank or did any type of drug etc before my mom left. And their parents didn't either, so we weren't exposed to that it was just that there wasn't a man to set the standards for our house. Moms arent meant to be dads
Divorce should never be an option. Work through your problems and find a good support group. Get into church where there’s support and prayer. Divorce hurts kids psychologically. Many become bi-polar later in life. I’m praying that God will soften your heart and reconcile your marriage. Please don’t give up.
No. You live a narrow life with limited experience. Sometimes divorce is necessary, many relationships are not safe and going to church has never prevented abuse. You can stay married, you can be miserable that is your choice and as you do not know what happens in other homes it’s best you let people manage their own lives. Children do not benefit from volatile living environments, they do not benefit from abuse, they do not benefit from anxiety and fear. Children in fact benefit from safety and while you want them to be frightened and unsafe for your benefit, I am far more loving and kind and want them to be safe, just like Jesus would. Live your life, but learn to deal with your own shit so you don’t have to control people you don’t know. Not very Christian to say children are better for watching daddy beat mommy.
There's a reason God said he HATES divorce. No judgement here. I'm divorced. I just look back and see what could have been done if irreversible decisions weren't made at the height emotional frailty.
When it's over, It's over...I personally can't be around my best Drinking Buddy, more than once every 2 weeks+-... Never mind,till death to we part...I certainly don't have the Answers... Best Luck... FJB
Intelligent, caring, kind, supportive, good parent, striving, capable, flexible, growing, healing….. I take it you must force people through shame and guilt. It would be shameful to stay with someone as selfcentered and hateful as you.
@@bumblebee5990 Selfcentered is YOU, or her, leaving. Caring about your OWN NEEDS is called, what? That's right....SELFISH!!!! See how that works, genius?
@@nutt1674 once again, Meds? Did you take them. Did you hit your wife? You sound abusive. I really like how you yell at me for leaving. Please do lay it all out, tell me all about myself….. such an idiot, you don’t even know if I am married, single divorced or a man for matter. I think you are so over whelmed with your story and too weak to get the help you clearly need. I will explain one more time, I am not your wife, this woman is not your wife. Your wife is gone, you should not get a new wife. You are not God, you do not know the insides of any relationship, let alone the one that you were in. Not all people should be together. While it is clear you where the problem in your relationship we rightly have no information here, you are not mentally or emotionally well enough to judge and I never. So we should leave this poor woman alone, she can do what she wants, she does not need to miserable because you exist. Now one other thing, I can tell you have no idea about care giving. I think you tend to be one of those that needs his praise. 100% of all professionals agree that effective care givers need to take care of themselves first to be the best they can for others. And finally, my emotionally stunted boy, nothing, nothing, absolutely nothing is more selfish than demand a stranger have a miserable life just because you are miserable. Please see a professional about your divorce, you will feel better, you really will, it’s clear you need to talk to someone and I am not that person for you.
Congratulations! I am happy for you. I am proud that you made a choice that moves you forward, fosters your growth and improves the lives of your children. All the hate below is weak, mean people trying to keep you small and miserable. Of all the years I have spoken with God, there has never been an instance on suffering, that is just mean hearted, limited experienced narcissist. Ignore them, they are only capable of hurting others to feel good-they will never be more than that. May your road be blessed and long, your healing be complete and bliss and joy follow you through all your days!
@@nutt1674 my aren’t you an entitled little bully. Do you understand that this woman is not your ex wife? You are not privileged to know what has happened. Other than to demand a stranger in a different situation act as thought you ordered your ex wife to do, which I might add is most likely why she is an ex. Sounds like she made an excellent choice.
Is that because you are so unappealing that you must force someone to be with you no matter how miserable you make them. With luck you will have a horrible time and never be free.
Not fair to I and I's family.
This is sad. My mom said the same things. Most of my siblings ended up on drugs and are drunks... Neither of my parents drank or did any type of drug etc before my mom left. And their parents didn't either, so we weren't exposed to that it was just that there wasn't a man to set the standards for our house. Moms arent meant to be dads
I did it for me! Then add in the others or subtract them. I had two wives and two cheating wives. Tells me something.
You are not much fun to be around? I don’t omen usually cheat when their partner is an ass.
Divorce should never be an option. Work through your problems and find a good support group. Get into church where there’s support and prayer. Divorce hurts kids psychologically. Many become bi-polar later in life. I’m praying that God will soften your heart and reconcile your marriage. Please don’t give up.
No. You live a narrow life with limited experience. Sometimes divorce is necessary, many relationships are not safe and going to church has never prevented abuse. You can stay married, you can be miserable that is your choice and as you do not know what happens in other homes it’s best you let people manage their own lives. Children do not benefit from volatile living environments, they do not benefit from abuse, they do not benefit from anxiety and fear. Children in fact benefit from safety and while you want them to be frightened and unsafe for your benefit, I am far more loving and kind and want them to be safe, just like Jesus would. Live your life, but learn to deal with your own shit so you don’t have to control people you don’t know. Not very Christian to say children are better for watching daddy beat mommy.
And I will pray you stop controlling others.
There's a reason God said he HATES divorce. No judgement here. I'm divorced. I just look back and see what could have been done if irreversible decisions weren't made at the height emotional frailty.
I agree!
When it's over, It's over...I personally can't be around my best Drinking Buddy, more than once every 2 weeks+-... Never mind,till death to we part...I certainly don't have the Answers... Best Luck... FJB
Selfish
Intelligent, caring, kind, supportive, good parent, striving, capable, flexible, growing, healing….. I take it you must force people through shame and guilt. It would be shameful to stay with someone as selfcentered and hateful as you.
@@bumblebee5990 Selfcentered is YOU, or her, leaving. Caring about your OWN NEEDS is called, what? That's right....SELFISH!!!! See how that works, genius?
@@nutt1674 once again, Meds? Did you take them. Did you hit your wife? You sound abusive. I really like how you yell at me for leaving. Please do lay it all out, tell me all about myself….. such an idiot, you don’t even know if I am married, single divorced or a man for matter. I think you are so over whelmed with your story and too weak to get the help you clearly need.
I will explain one more time, I am not your wife, this woman is not your wife. Your wife is gone, you should not get a new wife. You are not God, you do not know the insides of any relationship, let alone the one that you were in. Not all people should be together. While it is clear you where the problem in your relationship we rightly have no information here, you are not mentally or emotionally well enough to judge and I never. So we should leave this poor woman alone, she can do what she wants, she does not need to miserable because you exist.
Now one other thing, I can tell you have no idea about care giving. I think you tend to be one of those that needs his praise. 100% of all professionals agree that effective care givers need to take care of themselves first to be the best they can for others.
And finally, my emotionally stunted boy, nothing, nothing, absolutely nothing is more selfish than demand a stranger have a miserable life just because you are miserable.
Please see a professional about your divorce, you will feel better, you really will, it’s clear you need to talk to someone and I am not that person for you.
Congratulations! I am happy for you. I am proud that you made a choice that moves you forward, fosters your growth and improves the lives of your children. All the hate below is weak, mean people trying to keep you small and miserable. Of all the years I have spoken with God, there has never been an instance on suffering, that is just mean hearted, limited experienced narcissist. Ignore them, they are only capable of hurting others to feel good-they will never be more than that. May your road be blessed and long, your healing be complete and bliss and joy follow you through all your days!
Justifying......
@@nutt1674 my aren’t you an entitled little bully. Do you understand that this woman is not your ex wife? You are not privileged to know what has happened. Other than to demand a stranger in a different situation act as thought you ordered your ex wife to do, which I might add is most likely why she is an ex. Sounds like she made an excellent choice.
You will be sorry.
She will be happy, free to find peace and maybe true love.
Divorce in never an option. Self centered, selfish, no accountability whatsoever. Bla bla bla
Is that because you are so unappealing that you must force someone to be with you no matter how miserable you make them. With luck you will have a horrible time and never be free.
You know what's best, even if it's not always easy. Keep prioritizing what's fair & good, and you'll do fine. Best of luck.