LOL! I'm with you,@@alexishill3342 . She does have a point though... but the willpower! It does force you to sit and notice how the feeling changes (and it's interesting to note what set us off - I can't do spider, but I could do maybe an ant).
Steps: 1. Notice feelings/ become aware of feelings in body (or/and name emotion) 2. Validate what you feel by extending compassion to yourself and understanding. 3.Observe it as it changes by (if positive self-take is hard) remaining neutral. Tell yourself facts like, "my eyes are x color. I am a gardener. I am a sibling. I have a car. ect, Often, once I am done observing, I imagine my feelings as a balloon as I clench my fist (or something else, it doesnt matter) and I unclench my fist as I let those feelings go. Great video!
Moonflower, I appreciate your input! Very helpful! I do sometimes do the balloon imagery with my clients and find it works well. Another image I'll use is if they feel "tied up in knots", picture what the knot is made of and see if you can find the end of it and start to unravel it. If you can't, then picture what you need to untangle the knot and use that. The power of our imagination is amazing! Thanks again!
I have the same reaction as you when someone asks me, "Can we talk later?" I instantly start thinking over my whole life and what they might have been told, what did I do, or simply go into prepping for abandonment as if I did or said something wrong.
It stinks, doesn't it?! It takes energy to remind myself that this is old stuff coming up and nothing has indicated something is horribly wrong. I've learned to just ask the person to communicate at least the topic so I don't stew. It's a limit I've found to be helpful and most are open to it. They've also learned to add, "there's nothing wrong, just need to bounce something by you..." or whatever. But people can't know I need that if I don't tell them. Ugh. Good luck!
I am so glad this popped up in my feed as this is where I have found myself for many months. I’m in therapy but really struggle with sitting with and acknowledging my emotions. As a childhood trauma victim it is really hard to not spiral into that depth of depression once a negative thought or uncomfortable emotion takes hold. Thank you so much for sharing your wisdom, it really does help ❤
You're welcome! And good for you for being willing to examine things in therapy - it's not easy because it brings up much of what we've tried to forget or not feel. It took me a while to learn that emotions are just information and my life goes much easier if I just notice them and ask them what's up instead of pushing them away. Hope you are having some success with it!
Thank you, David! You're right - it's not something we usually eagerly approach, but it actually helps us move through faster than shoving emotions aside. Take care!
Hi! You're welcome! As someone who came out of numbness myself, I have to admit there are times when I wish I could go back. Then I give my head a shake and remind myself that feeling something... anything... even if it's ick is better than feeling the grey of numbness. Take care of yourself!
Thank you Doc for this lovely video. My therapist just told me today to sit with my emotions and I was a little bit confused on what to expect and how to go about it. Thankfully your examples have helped. :) Have a good day!
Hi Majestic Angel, I'm so sorry I missed this comment! You're right - I say it a lot as a therapist, but I often forget to ensure my clients know what I mean. Such a good reminder!
Nice to see a Western woman talking about this. People here have become super disconnected from their emotions. Karla Mclaren was a pioneer of sorts in this topic
I know right - it's so equivalent to going against our instinct to survive! Coz the mind's like - danger, danger, danger😄It took me a while to realize that sitting with emotions, and feeling them in the body, despite seeming batp**p crazy, is actually key to resolving them! Thank you for sharing the 3 simple steps here :)
You're welcome! And I love the genuineness of your response! The instinct to escape danger is so valid in this situation - uncomfortable emotions are exactly that: uncomfortable! So our system thinks we are in danger when we aren't. It does involve learning how to almost override that response, while still validating it. What a lovely mess. lol.
This was so helpful, thanks so much. I'm struggling with the suffering of my family due to traumatic circumstances but also less traumatic events like my 18 year old daughter breaking her boyfriend's heart.. I feel so overwhelmed by these situations and honestly even depressed. What would you recommend in order to come to acceptance and peace? My heart breaks and I can't seem to be able to draw boundaries to protect myself... thanks again 💙
Hi! I love that you mentioned boundaries! What can make emotions so overwhelming is sometimes we take on the emotions of those we care about because we want to fix it and make it better. There's a great book I just read: "Set Boundaries, Find Peace" by Nedra Glover Tawwab. It helped remind me that we don't have to fix or own what others are experiencing. We still care while we also care for ourselves. Maybe notice what happens for you that makes you believe/feel that you have to be the constant sounding board or to take on their experiences? What is that about? For example, for me, I want to feel needed, so I sometimes take on too much. That kind of stuff. Anything like that for you?
@@DochasPsych thanks so much for your answer. I think I may have learnt this behaviour in my childhood taking over the emotional support for my mother. I felt in danger when I'd see her in distress or sorrow so I feel like I can't relax as long as someone I care for is suffering. I feel personally threatened and suffer with them beyond reason. It's like a overload of sensitivity and I can't help but to cry. I worry for their wellbeing. I will definitely check that book. Thanks so much 🌸
@@mariaa.7327 That must have been so hard for you as a little one (and hard even now as an adult). It's ok to feel empathy for someone who is struggling - I often well up if my clients are crying - it's the humanity in us, I believe. The catch is to remember it's theirs, NOT ours. It's like the saying "teach a man (person) to fish...". If we jump in to save, then we aren't really helping them work through it, so it gets stuck for them and us. It's often about our own discomfort with seeing the pain, which it sounds like you're aware of. I hope you are able to find a way to feel less afraid when someone is in distress. One way I've found useful is to look around at my environment and ask myself if there is anything that is really about to hurt me. If not, then I am safe. Good luck!
I am trying to do this while going through something challenging with my nervous system, and receiving bad news causes severe ptsd reactions. I’m trying not to fight it but it’s hard and then I get rage brain and cry cry cry because I hate rage.
Yes! I'm hearing your system is desperately trying to re-regulate. It's more difficult to do this when you are in crisis mode - it's not in our nature to stop and take care of the underneath when we think a bear is chasing us! It might be worthwhile to take little sips if possible; carve out 10-15 minutes in the day to be in a calm space where you can sit and notice without judging the emotions that come. It's ok that you have rage brain - that part of you is trying to protect you! Notice it and thank it for doing it's job. Ask yourself what makes you hate rage? Be curious. And then, after the 15 minutes, congratulate yourself for doing something so hard! It doesn't have to be perfect. If you're in crisis, it's ok to just put the bandaid on until you can make space and give yourself some compassion for being in survival mode. Your system is trying to heal you. Now, I know this probably sounded like a lecture - not my intent. I'm passionate about people giving themselves some credit. We make it sound so easy in these videos because they are snippets. The reality is, it's bloody hard! Kudos to you for being aware of your cycle. Take care of yourself!
Hi! Yeah, some men (and women) have the additional struggle of being told their feelings are to be shut off or down. Then these people will often say, "I don't really feel anything/I'm disconnected from that/I don't react". The reality is, we are all emotional creatures as well as logical ones. We just learn to stop listening. I feel for people who have had this experience.
Thanks for your presentation. I have a question. 🙂 The pain when you’re triggered is your perception of what happens, a negative belief, for instance ‘I am not good enough’. That belief creates an emotion which is so painful, let’s say sadness. To not feel that uncomfortable emotion you will compensate it with a coping mechanism of fight/flight/freeze, for instance pleasing to feel ‘good enough’. Later in life when triggered (with awareness) you can release the emotion (sadness) that was created by that belief, right? But what happens with the ‘original’ emotion as a child, for instance anger which was not accepted by your parents so you suppressed it and took it personally, giving the meaning ‘I am not good enough’ (the belief which created the emotion of sadness as an example). How is that ‘original’ emotion, the anger in my example, released? Because when triggered, the emotion which is triggered and can be released (sadness in my example) is caused by the belief that followed on that experience of suppressing the anger as a child. When triggered it’s an opportunity to release the emotion (sadness in my example) caused by your belief (I am not good enough). You don’t release the ‘original’ emotion, in this case the anger you suppressed? Do I understand it correctly? What about the anger, how is that released? Many thanks
I keep hearing about radical acceptance, forgiveness of others for self, mindfulness, helping others, finding community, therapist and praying the Rosary, self care and exercise. Purpose I think is important. Also, the pass is the past but what about the heart. That was a lot. Lord have mercy. One day at a time.
Hello! I am so sorry for the delay in responding... this didn't come through my usual way of checking. Ahhh, technology! This is a great question. From a therapeutic lens, every practitioner will believe something different about how this can be healed. For me, I believe we all have parts. Now this child part may have been "tucked away" and not allowed to come out. One way we can help this part heal is to be the adult our child part needed. This means showing compassion and care and love to the part when it shows anger and being curious about what else it needs. You can release the "original" emotion, but, from my belief system, the emotion usually gets stuffed into the "anger" container, which is then released with a lot of other times you were angry and shoved it away. This is why, in my opinion, the response can seem so big for a relatively "minor" event. It's not just the anger of the moment, but all the other anger you've kept at bay.
Ugh. So true! It might be a sign you are wanting to set a limit. For example, when family would come to visit, I hated them being on their phones, so I just asked them to hand their phones to the "phone jail" when they were over for dinner. Otherwise, I'd ask them to put their phones away. Is that something you'd feel more comfortable doing? I guess it depends on what it is about it that makes you anxious.
Hi @missafia4013! I guess that's it in a nutshell. I would hesitate to use the word "positively" as it's not about saying the emotions are good or bad. They are information. Be curious about them and what they are trying to tell you. Does that make sense? Thanks!
There are no positive or negative emotions. All emotions are messages…. Yes there are emotions we prefer to have but emotions are neither good nor bad. To use your analogy, my toddlers aren’t bad for tugging at me, they are simply trying to get my attention. If someone spits on me and I don’t have anger or disgust, that’s going to be a big problem for me in the long run. Not having anger from this kind of experience makes s going to leave me abused or question myself; dismiss the emotions that are trying to keep me from being spit on in the future.
Love what you've said here! True, emotions are just information... just like listening to our bodies is just information. It's what we do (our reactions/behaviors) that can make the outcome positive or negative. Feelings are keys to understanding and we don't have to be afraid of them or push them away. They don't make us "weak". Thank you for your comment!
I would first want to ask myself, "What is it about these people that makes me feel anxious? What is it about the relationship I have with them? What am I feeling?" Then, those emotions are able to provide information for myself about what limit I may need to set. In reality, for me, emotions are just information. When I view them that way, I don't try to push them away as much because I don't have to fear them or what they may say about me.
It's hard when we don't know the source of our feelings - our brains don't enjoy unsolvable puzzles. Remembering the emotion is information and allowing it to be there so you can be gently curious about it might help.
Hi Justine. I'm curious about what is happening for you in steps 1 and 2... Also, it's important to keep repeating steps 1 (notice and name if possible) and 2 (validating without judgment) through step 3. You're going to keep telling yourself it's ok to feel whatever it is your are feeling. Tell yourself it's going to be ok and notice other times when your anxiety faded to remind yourself the emotion eventually goes away. Although the point is to stick with the emotion and allow it to move through, sometimes it can be overwhelming. In those moments, it's important to also try to stay in what is called the "window of tolerance". This is basically when you are activated in some way but can still think and function. To do this, you might need to pull in some self-soothing strategies, not to push the emotion away, but to be able to stick with it. This can be really confusing as an idea, so if you have any questions, please let your therapist know (if you have one), or you can call us at 780-446-0300 and someone can answer your question in more detail from an educational perspective or can connect you with a therapist in your area. Psychology today is also a great resource for finding a therapist in your area. We also have some content about ways to soothe yourself from each of the three brains that I can connect you with if you'd like (we are actually coming out with an app - the Dochas Lifejacket- soon to focus on this in circumstances like you've just described). Good luck!
I like the analogy of watching a spider on your leg and not automatically brushing it away.
Right? It feels weird to do that, but it's helpful! Thanks, @kristinmeyer489!
Omg, I could never do that. 😳 😅
LOL! I'm with you,@@alexishill3342 . She does have a point though... but the willpower! It does force you to sit and notice how the feeling changes (and it's interesting to note what set us off - I can't do spider, but I could do maybe an ant).
@@DochasPsych 🤣🤣🤣
I know right! I agree with you. Spiders NO, healing yes:)
Steps:
1. Notice feelings/ become aware of feelings in body (or/and name emotion)
2. Validate what you feel by extending compassion to yourself and understanding.
3.Observe it as it changes by (if positive self-take is hard) remaining neutral. Tell yourself facts like, "my eyes are x color. I am a gardener. I am a sibling. I have a car. ect,
Often, once I am done observing, I imagine my feelings as a balloon as I clench my fist (or something else, it doesnt matter) and I unclench my fist as I let those feelings go.
Great video!
Moonflower, I appreciate your input! Very helpful! I do sometimes do the balloon imagery with my clients and find it works well. Another image I'll use is if they feel "tied up in knots", picture what the knot is made of and see if you can find the end of it and start to unravel it. If you can't, then picture what you need to untangle the knot and use that. The power of our imagination is amazing! Thanks again!
I have the same reaction as you when someone asks me, "Can we talk later?" I instantly start thinking over my whole life and what they might have been told, what did I do, or simply go into prepping for abandonment as if I did or said something wrong.
It stinks, doesn't it?! It takes energy to remind myself that this is old stuff coming up and nothing has indicated something is horribly wrong. I've learned to just ask the person to communicate at least the topic so I don't stew. It's a limit I've found to be helpful and most are open to it. They've also learned to add, "there's nothing wrong, just need to bounce something by you..." or whatever. But people can't know I need that if I don't tell them. Ugh. Good luck!
I am so glad this popped up in my feed as this is where I have found myself for many months. I’m in therapy but really struggle with sitting with and acknowledging my emotions. As a childhood trauma victim it is really hard to not spiral into that depth of depression once a negative thought or uncomfortable emotion takes hold. Thank you so much for sharing your wisdom, it really does help ❤
You're welcome! And good for you for being willing to examine things in therapy - it's not easy because it brings up much of what we've tried to forget or not feel. It took me a while to learn that emotions are just information and my life goes much easier if I just notice them and ask them what's up instead of pushing them away. Hope you are having some success with it!
Great video! Sitting with our emotions is so counter-intuitive, yet so important!
Thank you, David! You're right - it's not something we usually eagerly approach, but it actually helps us move through faster than shoving emotions aside. Take care!
Thank you for this as someone who has been numbing themselves for years this helps
Hi! You're welcome! As someone who came out of numbness myself, I have to admit there are times when I wish I could go back. Then I give my head a shake and remind myself that feeling something... anything... even if it's ick is better than feeling the grey of numbness. Take care of yourself!
Thank you Doc for this lovely video. My therapist just told me today to sit with my emotions and I was a little bit confused on what to expect and how to go about it. Thankfully your examples have helped. :) Have a good day!
Hi Majestic Angel, I'm so sorry I missed this comment! You're right - I say it a lot as a therapist, but I often forget to ensure my clients know what I mean. Such a good reminder!
Nice to see a Western woman talking about this. People here have become super disconnected from their emotions. Karla Mclaren was a pioneer of sorts in this topic
Really? I'll have to look her up! I'm hopeful there is a movement in the West for us to become reconnected to ourselves. Thanks for the info!
this video is so comforting
Simple and brilliant. Love this.
Thank you so much! I'm glad it was helpful!
I know right - it's so equivalent to going against our instinct to survive! Coz the mind's like - danger, danger, danger😄It took me a while to realize that sitting with emotions, and feeling them in the body, despite seeming batp**p crazy, is actually key to resolving them! Thank you for sharing the 3 simple steps here :)
You're welcome! And I love the genuineness of your response! The instinct to escape danger is so valid in this situation - uncomfortable emotions are exactly that: uncomfortable! So our system thinks we are in danger when we aren't. It does involve learning how to almost override that response, while still validating it. What a lovely mess. lol.
"lovely mess" - love the phrase!
Make more such videos of feeling emotions
Needed much
Thank you, Harsh! I'll pass this message along to my team!
Excellent. You have a lovely voice and manner too. Best wishes.
Thank you so much! I'm glad you were able to get something from it! Always a work in progress for myself. :)
Thank you so much for making this video. I really needed it and it helped so much
You're welcome, Lorenzo. Thank you for letting me know. I hope all is well for you!
This was so helpful, thanks so much. I'm struggling with the suffering of my family due to traumatic circumstances but also less traumatic events like my 18 year old daughter breaking her boyfriend's heart.. I feel so overwhelmed by these situations and honestly even depressed. What would you recommend in order to come to acceptance and peace? My heart breaks and I can't seem to be able to draw boundaries to protect myself... thanks again 💙
Hi! I love that you mentioned boundaries! What can make emotions so overwhelming is sometimes we take on the emotions of those we care about because we want to fix it and make it better. There's a great book I just read: "Set Boundaries, Find Peace" by Nedra Glover Tawwab. It helped remind me that we don't have to fix or own what others are experiencing. We still care while we also care for ourselves. Maybe notice what happens for you that makes you believe/feel that you have to be the constant sounding board or to take on their experiences? What is that about? For example, for me, I want to feel needed, so I sometimes take on too much. That kind of stuff. Anything like that for you?
@@DochasPsych thanks so much for your answer. I think I may have learnt this behaviour in my childhood taking over the emotional support for my mother. I felt in danger when I'd see her in distress or sorrow so I feel like I can't relax as long as someone I care for is suffering. I feel personally threatened and suffer with them beyond reason. It's like a overload of sensitivity and I can't help but to cry. I worry for their wellbeing. I will definitely check that book. Thanks so much 🌸
@@mariaa.7327 That must have been so hard for you as a little one (and hard even now as an adult). It's ok to feel empathy for someone who is struggling - I often well up if my clients are crying - it's the humanity in us, I believe. The catch is to remember it's theirs, NOT ours. It's like the saying "teach a man (person) to fish...". If we jump in to save, then we aren't really helping them work through it, so it gets stuck for them and us. It's often about our own discomfort with seeing the pain, which it sounds like you're aware of. I hope you are able to find a way to feel less afraid when someone is in distress. One way I've found useful is to look around at my environment and ask myself if there is anything that is really about to hurt me. If not, then I am safe. Good luck!
@@DochasPsychthanks so much for your kind words 🌸
Thank you for this. So very useful.
You're so welcome @biondna7984 ! It's a skill I wish we discussed in schools, but then, I think I might be out of a job! LOL. Take care!
❤ excellent
Thank you!
I am trying to do this while going through something challenging with my nervous system, and receiving bad news causes severe ptsd reactions. I’m trying not to fight it but it’s hard and then I get rage brain and cry cry cry because I hate rage.
Yes! I'm hearing your system is desperately trying to re-regulate. It's more difficult to do this when you are in crisis mode - it's not in our nature to stop and take care of the underneath when we think a bear is chasing us! It might be worthwhile to take little sips if possible; carve out 10-15 minutes in the day to be in a calm space where you can sit and notice without judging the emotions that come. It's ok that you have rage brain - that part of you is trying to protect you! Notice it and thank it for doing it's job. Ask yourself what makes you hate rage? Be curious. And then, after the 15 minutes, congratulate yourself for doing something so hard! It doesn't have to be perfect. If you're in crisis, it's ok to just put the bandaid on until you can make space and give yourself some compassion for being in survival mode. Your system is trying to heal you. Now, I know this probably sounded like a lecture - not my intent. I'm passionate about people giving themselves some credit. We make it sound so easy in these videos because they are snippets. The reality is, it's bloody hard! Kudos to you for being aware of your cycle. Take care of yourself!
I wish there was a channel on this for men
Hi! Yeah, some men (and women) have the additional struggle of being told their feelings are to be shut off or down. Then these people will often say, "I don't really feel anything/I'm disconnected from that/I don't react". The reality is, we are all emotional creatures as well as logical ones. We just learn to stop listening. I feel for people who have had this experience.
Nice topic,nice presentation 👏👍
Thank you!
Thanks for your presentation. I have a question. 🙂
The pain when you’re triggered is your perception of what happens, a negative belief, for instance ‘I am not good enough’. That belief creates an emotion which is so painful, let’s say sadness. To not feel that uncomfortable emotion you will compensate it with a coping mechanism of fight/flight/freeze, for instance pleasing to feel ‘good enough’. Later in life when triggered (with awareness) you can release the emotion (sadness) that was created by that belief, right?
But what happens with the ‘original’ emotion as a child, for instance anger which was not accepted by your parents so you suppressed it and took it personally, giving the meaning ‘I am not good enough’ (the belief which created the emotion of sadness as an example). How is that ‘original’ emotion, the anger in my example, released? Because when triggered, the emotion which is triggered and can be released (sadness in my example) is caused by the belief that followed on that experience of suppressing the anger as a child. When triggered it’s an opportunity to release the emotion (sadness in my example) caused by your belief (I am not good enough). You don’t release the ‘original’ emotion, in this case the anger you suppressed? Do I understand it correctly? What about the anger, how is that released?
Many thanks
I keep hearing about radical acceptance, forgiveness of others for self, mindfulness, helping others, finding community, therapist and praying the Rosary, self care and exercise. Purpose I think is important. Also, the pass is the past but what about the heart. That was a lot. Lord have mercy. One day at a time.
Hello! I am so sorry for the delay in responding... this didn't come through my usual way of checking. Ahhh, technology!
This is a great question. From a therapeutic lens, every practitioner will believe something different about how this can be healed. For me, I believe we all have parts. Now this child part may have been "tucked away" and not allowed to come out. One way we can help this part heal is to be the adult our child part needed. This means showing compassion and care and love to the part when it shows anger and being curious about what else it needs. You can release the "original" emotion, but, from my belief system, the emotion usually gets stuffed into the "anger" container, which is then released with a lot of other times you were angry and shoved it away. This is why, in my opinion, the response can seem so big for a relatively "minor" event. It's not just the anger of the moment, but all the other anger you've kept at bay.
@@DochasPsych ❤
@@akasha11111 Thank you!
Feeling anxious when being around people with a camera constantly in their hands.
Ugh. So true! It might be a sign you are wanting to set a limit. For example, when family would come to visit, I hated them being on their phones, so I just asked them to hand their phones to the "phone jail" when they were over for dinner. Otherwise, I'd ask them to put their phones away. Is that something you'd feel more comfortable doing? I guess it depends on what it is about it that makes you anxious.
So notice my feelings, accept them non judgementally and sit with them positively
Hi @missafia4013! I guess that's it in a nutshell. I would hesitate to use the word "positively" as it's not about saying the emotions are good or bad. They are information. Be curious about them and what they are trying to tell you. Does that make sense? Thanks!
@@DochasPsych yes notice them, accept them and feel them but listen to what there trying to say too.
Absolutely@@misssafia4013 ! Thank you!
There are no positive or negative emotions. All emotions are messages…. Yes there are emotions we prefer to have but emotions are neither good nor bad. To use your analogy, my toddlers aren’t bad for tugging at me, they are simply trying to get my attention. If someone spits on me and I don’t have anger or disgust, that’s going to be a big problem for me in the long run. Not having anger from this kind of experience makes s going to leave me abused or question myself; dismiss the emotions that are trying to keep me from being spit on in the future.
Love what you've said here! True, emotions are just information... just like listening to our bodies is just information. It's what we do (our reactions/behaviors) that can make the outcome positive or negative. Feelings are keys to understanding and we don't have to be afraid of them or push them away. They don't make us "weak". Thank you for your comment!
Having
Acute anxiety being with or around some people , I am constantly
having anxiety being with them, or around them.!
I would first want to ask myself, "What is it about these people that makes me feel anxious? What is it about the relationship I have with them? What am I feeling?" Then, those emotions are able to provide information for myself about what limit I may need to set. In reality, for me, emotions are just information. When I view them that way, I don't try to push them away as much because I don't have to fear them or what they may say about me.
Uncomfortable feelings arise, fear arises but there's nobody doing it, it is all happening on its own,
It's hard when we don't know the source of our feelings - our brains don't enjoy unsolvable puzzles. Remembering the emotion is information and allowing it to be there so you can be gently curious about it might help.
True.
I can do the 2 first steps ok but then I can't move from it, I elevate in anxiety until I'm frantic
Hi Justine. I'm curious about what is happening for you in steps 1 and 2... Also, it's important to keep repeating steps 1 (notice and name if possible) and 2 (validating without judgment) through step 3. You're going to keep telling yourself it's ok to feel whatever it is your are feeling. Tell yourself it's going to be ok and notice other times when your anxiety faded to remind yourself the emotion eventually goes away. Although the point is to stick with the emotion and allow it to move through, sometimes it can be overwhelming. In those moments, it's important to also try to stay in what is called the "window of tolerance". This is basically when you are activated in some way but can still think and function. To do this, you might need to pull in some self-soothing strategies, not to push the emotion away, but to be able to stick with it. This can be really confusing as an idea, so if you have any questions, please let your therapist know (if you have one), or you can call us at 780-446-0300 and someone can answer your question in more detail from an educational perspective or can connect you with a therapist in your area. Psychology today is also a great resource for finding a therapist in your area. We also have some content about ways to soothe yourself from each of the three brains that I can connect you with if you'd like (we are actually coming out with an app - the Dochas Lifejacket- soon to focus on this in circumstances like you've just described). Good luck!
Emotional Freedom tapping i us. i have trauma and emotional problems.
Yes! I've heard how tapping can be really helpful. Thanks for the suggestion!