You are talking about other women right? I work with men and women, women tend to hate eachother, bullying eachother, they are just a nightmare for eachother, the biggest enemy of any woman os another woman
As a woman, I would agree with this. They can't stand confidence and yes, they are triggere. Well said, great video. I get this all the time when I stand up for myself. Thanks for validating.
I just find many of them not funny and their idea of what a woman should be. Well, imagine if the tables were turned on them... because I find the same lame jokes, same excuses.... Basically, they lie thinking we are stupid to forget and when we ask for them to show and tell, they run away 😂
If your do happy being child free not having a man at 40 why do you project all down feelings on the ones who have all the time in their lives to reproduce and actually gain what other gender wants from them
Indeed He hates me so much cause I didn’t break down, never cried, and just moved out and disappeared. He said to me: you think you are better than everyone else… I said NO but I vibrate at a higher level than you. You vibration is low so you attract people as the drinking friends you have, that gossip and don’t have any money… 😂wow He got so mad !!! 😂😂😂
Well said! Sad how a lot of narcissistic men will try to tear down confident women. Scary how there’s so much of these type of men out there, they’re out of control!
That explains everything about my marriage to covert narcissist, only I didn’t know anything about these devils beforehand. I was at peak of my career , living a life he could only dream of. I didn’t even fancy him or like him at first as my sixth sense warned me something was off with this short bold overweight guy. He was a good listener and that’s how he trapped me , he gathered all the knowledge about me and my life, my weaknesses and my trauma. 20yrs later , he used everything against me to destroy me , financially , mentally , triple bypass later, he drove me to a point where I packed his bags and took my house key off him. Twice he tried to get back with me on his terms but Alhamdulliah I have since educated myself on these devils. I’m no contact with him, ignore his messages and I’m now getting on with my life. It hurt so much to be made a fool of but now I know that these devils can trick the strongest of minds. When I spelled out exactly what he was and what he was trying to do , he lost his mind. He had what is called a narc melt down , looked like the devil himself and all the ugly , nasty , vile poison came out. I will never forget his eyes went black , his mouth was just a snarl and he was frothing at the mouth. He threatened to ruin the car into oncoming traffic but I never lost my composure, stayed calms with a smile on my face which dreams be him insane. Few weeks later he tried to hoover but I’ve not even acknowledged his contact. Alhamdulliah my faith is strong and I have beautiful adult children who are my life. He is now with his first cousin wife who is also a narc , he’s old and struggling financially , his time for paying for all the evil is getting closer. My life is far far better and I’m finally at peace in my heart , running my own business again and my health has improved immensely since he left. Stay away from these devils , they will try and destroy you
Same reason some women are like this. They love the rush they get from controlling the vulnerable especially if they have a disability. Narc women do this in relationship's more than men to mild disabled men and women because it's easy to get away with and make out they are crazy without proof. It makes my blood boil how society picks masculinity over behaviour in relationship's when it comes to things like domestic violence for instance.
Because more and more men would rather be female than male. They don't like being all boxy, hairy and burley. They don't like what testosterone does to their bodies anymore. They all want to look petite and flattering and have the magical, biological ability to produce another human being and create a civilization. But they don't, and all this hatred toward their female counterparts is just one big nasty tantrum they're all having because of it.
Just think of a men who wants a good relation with a woman. Simple and truth. She is fed with lies that he will cheat and all kind of questions that he gets bored. That's where she is fed with more lies that he was cheating and all just see who was the problem. The man or the woman's friends?
@@blahblahdrunksheepYou pulled that stat straight outta your a s s didn't you? Have to always put down women, even in comments of videos about misogynists.
The cause of me being an independent woman and having strong boundaries is because I was once controlled by a narcissistic male. That's why he is no longer in my life because he can't control me anymore, and looking for another girl to control.
Same thing just recently happened to me. I think he tried to hide what is true intentions were for almost four and a half years. But by last year, his behavior was out of control. And no greater help that he is also very bipolar, and not being on any treatment for it. My decision to end things with him was based solely on Assumption of risk. And when I had a chance to assess all the risks that I was facing with him, that's when I knew I had to end it. And boy, am I ever so glad I did. Because as long as he has the attitude to hate women and date them at the same time, I really don't think anybody is going to want to get in bed with him again. You can't hate a woman and date a woman. That just isn't how it works.
@@leilameow9582I've seen this in my friend circle they like to use female for their desires and have audacity to say they are becoming whore.Many hate developed in them from poor treatment towards them in their school where they got teased and insulted by chunks minority of girls then they start doin getting revenge of other girls on other ones who do deeply care about them and using them for their benefits.And more probably they got some spoiled parents spoiling them supporting in each of their evil acts whatever they do.
I will offer an interesting twist on this concept. Outside of my love relationship, I WAS a confident, assertive woman, not afraid to set boundaries. However, I was never taught the difference of what a healthy intimate relationship, or love bombing looked like. No one taught me love bombing was a red flag that would eventually lead me down the path of becoming a domestic abuse victim, then, after, thankfully only five years, a domestic abuse survivor. I was lucky. I got out alive. For me, and I suspect many people who were never taught a belief structure built of positive emotional interaction, I was so depleted of self love and self esteem when it came to an intimate relationship, that I blinded myself to the red flags the relationship had shown. As I listened to this post, it triggered the memory of the first time he hit me. I don't have an exact memory of what the argument was about. I remember the feeling that something was going on that brought up that feeling of something being done that was not good or positive. I remember thinking, "Like hell will I put up with being treated like this!" Names. He was calling me horrible, filthy names. It had been starting to happen more and more. It was making me so angry I wanted to do the same back. At the same time, I didn't want to stoop to that level. I was angry, but telling him what he was doing wasn't ok and I wasn't going to tolerate it. He had already thrown a glass candle holder at my feet and it had shattered, a piece of glass flew up and cut my shin. Then he attacked me. That part comes in flashes. He leg swept me and slammed to the ground. I fought back, but he was former combat infantry. I remember a thick stick he had that had a burl knot on it. He hit me in the head with it twice before I got my hands up to deflect the blow. I remember thinking he was going to smash my skull in. When his verbal, emotionally abusive behavior failed to control me he immediately escalated to insane violence to accomplish that control. What that moment did to me on an INTERNAL level was SO MUCH worse than the physical blows. To say it completely threw every part of my reality into absolute chaos would be an understatement. I had already been dealing with the cognitive dissonance, a term I had never even heard of before I left. Shock, confusion, rage fear... Like the floodgate of every negative emotion had blown open at once. I had never experienced anything like this before. The reality of my life changed in such a way it didn't seem real. Now, as I work through the process of remembering who I am and who I want to be, cleaning up the wounds to my Self that I did not even realized had begun long before I met a violently abusive partner, videos like this, while they can be a trigger to memories I wish I didn't have, I stand in deep Gratitude to you, Danish Bashir, for giving me the tools of understanding through these videos, that I may better understand the unhealthy systems I was operating within that led me down those darker paths. These understandings will allow me the insight to grow beyond the thoughts and habits that could have, literally cost me my life.
You are not his enemy. You are your own enemy by pushing real masculine men out of your life by telling them you’re strong. No masculine man wants another man in the house. Stay true to your feminine nature and men of high value and self worth will gravitate towards you.
Dear Bella, please don't listen to a word “CryptoZal“ wrote to you. Everything he spouts here screams “i have an inferior complex“. Hope u were able to leave ur “relationship“ savely and that u have some supportive ppl around u! I wish u all the best ❤
Andrew Tate is married, he has a daughter. He can’t be an misogynist, he’s an sexist though….He’s an business man…He’s a master manipulator. Because I can read him like a book. How much you hate him, how much money he earns from it. If you knew how business work you will be shocked….What people do to get fame…..
Yup. I was talking to a guy that gave me all the signs that he was narcissistic. And he literally told me he use to hate women. He also said he liked that i had boundaries and wouldnt give up trying to pursue me. I believe it was a chase for him and he was definitely going to try to ruin my life. I wasted alot of his time talking and then blocked him. I needed him to feel rejected 😂 I cant comprehend women that would date someone that says they hated women. I pray for the women that gwt tangled in his web
Basically if a guy is acting controlling towards you 9/10 times it’s because he “gets turned on” from taking away your power. That 1/10 time is because he’s a psychopath that probably does want to hurt you.
Yeah I was dating one of those. Then his world came crashing down when I decided it was over and he no longer had any power or control over me. Fact is, (he never did in the first place). And it was making him super irate. The biggest mistake was demanding I get rid of my motorcycle. That's when I really decided we were done. And he no longer had someone that he could belittle and insult, but at the same time, use as an Uber service and an ATM machine. He had no choice but to finally get up off his ass and get a job and start taking care of his own adult responsibilities. Best decision I ever made. LOL If somebody is just that sociopathic that they actually get off on hurting you, that isn't love. Those are the type of guys that belong in prison.
Right on, bro. I have seen that before. Have a friend who used to be married to a narcissist loser. He would beat he and she would fight back as best as she could. He would yell, "cry b***h, cry!" while he was beating her right in front of their little girl and she would say NO!! That made him so mad. She ran over to the kitchen and got a butcher knife and dared him to hit her again. He didn't. They're divorced now. He tried to control her but it didn't work.
My ex who i recently just left was super toxic and abusive towards. After 4 years being together we was on and off and when i finally broke it off. His true colors and demon side came out. He said i hate all you women and accused me of cheating when i never did cheated on him. I just couldn't take no more of his deminic ways and i left. It hurts when you love someone only to find out they carry demonic energy from their childhood now onto you.💔
As long as empathic people (and society) allow narcissists control over them, there will always be scapegoats, Golden child and flying monkeys! The family and social Dynamics will stay the same . Always, thank you!,🕊️ Many blessings to you! PS:. What helped me thru life besides good people of divine nature was also my good nature I was born with! DNA or God given or both! Smear campaigns will never end if somehow this is not legally stopped!
@@dianematlock7922you and the OP are likely single moms. Don’t nobody give a shit about y’all acting bitchy and difficult. I swear women equate a man not wanting to deal with their unearned/overinflated egos to “being intimidated”.
@@LonelyW01f look at yourself LONELY... WO1F...LONELY, LONELY... you wanna see women with women, since they DON'T WANNA BE WITH YOU...YOUR GO TO RESPONSE WHEN WOMEN REJECT YOU... IT WOULDN'T HURT YOU SO MUCH IF YOU IMAGINED LESBIANS, BUT CRACK YOUR MIND 🤯 IF WE PICKED A MAN THAT ISN'T YOU...WHATEVER .
The modern mother has kids without a strong father figure to look upto in their life. Modern mother is lonely, sad and depressed with a couple of cats and a few degenerate, dysfunctional kids by her side in her in her 50s and 60s. All because she was strong and independent.
@@ZalSpacewhat do any of those have to do with each other??? My grandmother raised 7 kids on her own and they cherished her after she divorced my grandfather for having a secret family. I agree narcissists are wounded by their mothers, but i think it’s more their father isnt around and the narcissist sees their mother being smart, beautiful, and capable, and know they will never achieve this. It is just misogyny that men get when they are envious of women because they see them as “other” and think that life would somehow be easier and they would get more attention. If he was a beautiful, capable, woman who could give birth, he feels he could really wreck havoc then, he thinks it’s so much power.
@@ZalSpaceNice try to gaslight people. It's okay dude, you won't die just because she rejected you and you won't wet your small pee pee. Now let me get back to my job, my friendships and my independent life. I bet you can't relate, you rarely touch grass after all.
But their mothers rarely have been confident and decent women themselves that s why they hate women as adults , cuz their mothers ruined the love and care for them when they were little..... i don't see any connection between confident mothers and their misogynist sons later in life...
I APPRECIATE YOUR KNOWLEDGE AND HONESTY AND UNDERSTANDING AND WISDOM OF NARCISSISM SO VERY MUCH, PROFESSOR, YOU HAVE SUCH A DEEP INSIGHT AND INTELLIGENCE!!!!!!!!!!!!! THANK YOU SO VERY VERY MUCH FOR SHARING THIS INFORMATION, I CAN BREATHE NOW, ALMIGHTY GOD IS CERTAINLY USEING YOU AND YOU ARE CERTAINLY SAVING LIVES!!!!!!!!
I hate my mother for many good reasons. However, I do not hate all women. I know & understand that there are good women out there. It isn't just hatred for a bad mother that makes some men hate all women. It's usually brought on by too many bad encounters & experiences with bad women. As well as the lack of understanding in the fact that not all women are your bad evil mother. And visa versa. Have a good one(day) & stay humble.
My ex was Muslim, from a religious family, and I’m seriously thinking of writing to his brothers, to tell them how badly he used me, treated me, and dumped me. Should I?? He used his family and religion to play me more perfectly during our 2 YEAR “relationship”.
I wouldn't do it. Better write your rage and grief to yourself. You can destroy it later. His family won't ever side to you. I sent a letter to my ex family in law. It was returned to me unopened.
Im a muslim too and trust me SOME muslim men don't read the whole Quran. They only read verses that benefit them. But muslim men who really practice islam would never act arrogant and display narcissistic attitudes.
This was a whole word. 🔥 I mostly just move through life looking like someone who we BOTH know that they can neither afford nor get me to even make eye contact and they leave me alone.
I couldn’t agree with this more though ironically my ex-husband used to say that it was my strength, confidence, independence and intelligence that attracted him to me. He then used all those traits as weapons against me and always framed his arguments with the deepest of misogynistic views.
“Since we all came from a woman, got our name from a woman, and our game from a woman, I wonder why we take from our women , why we r@pe our women, do we hate our women?” - Tupac, the most amazing rapper ever
I left when my ex came at me with his fists raised. I left and called the police. I had a camera on that I was working on an art project on. He hated the fact I had a project of my own that did not included him.The camera caught the whole scene that I used in court. HA! Welp the project included him!!
I’m literally think I’ve just come out of this the last six months. It’s been so intense but I kept saying no and kept my standards up now he’s trying to take me to court for taking Me on a date. He wants money back.😅
Thank you so much for this! It's a generational thing in my family. Their mom's didn't do the right thing and leave the abusive dad. In turn, they make excuses for their mom and will then lash out at us even after we helped them. I have no respect for my narc ex, but esp his mom. Who puts their child in such a complicated state. And then they defend and defend their moms. Best to just leave! Thank you for this video!!
Now it all makes sense. I was so confused and still have some strings that need tightening. When I lacked boundaries, he loved me. When I would say no to the abuse, he would really go to the depths of hell to exploit me. I am so glad I watched this. Thank you god.
Also, there's a type of Narcissistic Man Misogyny that love to woman that having strong boundaries, high confidence level, and can say no also stand for self for get to destroy and change her to boost personal ego. So, be aware about this type of guys. I'm talking with personal experience.
Both my sister snd my brother ended up w a narcissist. She finally left him, after he cheated on her, but my brother is unfortunately competely isolated from everyone and is miserable af. She brainwashed him so thouroughly, that one cannot even talk to him... so sad. If u r a guy in a narcissitic relationship, the same applies: get the hell out of there and don't give in once she starts to play nice or offer s*x
Factors such as a troubled upbringing, witnessing unhealthy relationships, or being exposed to negative influences might contribute to shaping his perspective. Men who have bad relationship with their mother cant have healthy relationship with women, if they treat their mother badly they will treat women badly. Its so sad. Men should respect women because it was a woman who gave birth to them and life, she could easily made an abortion but she decided to keep them, is this the kind of thanks she gets? Some men are ungrateful and have no understanding of biology. Empathy is a beautiful thing, most women love a kind man. Just watch the movie wall e and you'll understand what im talking about. :D
I'm sorry to say and i have no doubt to say that i'm that kind of narcissistic man and mysogynist also an anti-socia,l low self-esteem man. but i still fighting with my brain to get normal. my mother is my biggest enemy who ruined my life through keeps me overprotecting and in stern surveillance. she makes me anti-social, introvert, shy & nerd. i won’t blame my dad cuz he was too busy & hard working to run our families. girlfriend is out of question, it’s always were in my dream that one day i will talk to my same-age girl confidently without being nervous & weird. thanks motherfu*ker god for giving me this kind of abnormal life!!!
Yeah y’all Muslim (not all but a lot) men are the worst with misogyny. Some of y’all look good, but y’all are F’d in the head. It’s your upbringing I know. Have Muslim frd she don’t want to marry her own men because of the damage her parent did to her self esteem and her dad did a lot of mental abuse. She said it’s been 1 yr without the hijab, and she’s free but now she awkward socially but I see her trying to break out of that, but she’s healing and I’m so proud of her! - You want change, you can get it if you work on yourself and it’ll take you some years depends how dedicated you are.
Don't listen to this idiot “CryptoZal“! Everything he spouts here screams “I have an inferior complex“. My sister is currently divorcing from her narcissitic husband. They have 3 kids together, so it's really complicated. Hope, u do have some supportive people around u and u were able to leave ur “relationship“ savely
i agree with the ideas here, but saying it comes from mother stuff doesn't explain WHY the mother stuff was there. even in cases where the mother is a really good one, men get REALLY Indignant - especially when they think back as adults - about all the times a WOMAN had power over them as children. it doesn't matter that she had standards so that they could stay safe and live well and grow up right... they are WHITE HOT MURDEROUSLY PISSED that ANY woman EVER held that kind of power over them. and so to them we say: well, we created you, boy. Woman is the arbiter and the administrator of the *species*. get over it. or cry yourself to sleep on your flat, yellow, crusty pillow. it's whatever. lol.
If i saw a strong independent woman say this then id listen. But this guys just got his facts wrong plus if a man cant accept that your strong then dont be with him but thats not all men always remember that
I honestly don't care how hurt a guy's feelings get over my ability to have a gainful career, pay my bills and basically just being an adult just because it all takes away from his ability to feel like some "big hero" to me. The definition of a woman is a grown adult female. That is what I am. So being able to provide for myself is what I'm supposed to be doing. I don't need to rely on somebody else's money like I'm still only 8 years old, nor do I need to be playing surrogate mother to a grown adult male. I exist to be someone's wife or girlfriend. -Not to adopt somebody's adult son and raise him like a child by cooking him food and washing his filthy shit-stained laundry...
That's wrong af. The correct version: "İmmature boys with fragile egos don't lean towards confident woman, their self esteem is so low they don't even count as man, they're little boys"
Since when does just being a grown adult mean a woman is overconfident? Since when does Being able to afford your own expenses in life and have a gainful and fulfilling career mean a woman is "overconfident?" Aren't those all just prerequisites to common survival as an adult?
Once again You need our seed, Men dont need Career high maintenance competitive woman. There are more woman that do not like to work those are better options.
Nope. Not every woman wants your seed. If we'd rather have a career and a fulfilling life outside the home living as the grown adults we are, then that's what we get to choose. Deal with it.
Objectively wrong you are just too weak for independent women trust me they need love the most and they need care as well and you can do that by showing respect and keeping their own strength and it does not always results to infidelity.
could they date a woman whose an entrepreneur, then? ik with running a business, you need to have confidence. So could it be possible especially speaking with a covert narcissist.
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This is when all their evil turns against you the moment you stand up for yourself
You are talking about other women right? I work with men and women, women tend to hate eachother, bullying eachother, they are just a nightmare for eachother, the biggest enemy of any woman os another woman
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@@Noname-tu4pzbut they still abuse you no matter if you do everything they want..
As a woman, I would agree with this. They can't stand confidence and yes, they are triggere. Well said, great video. I get this all the time when I stand up for myself. Thanks for validating.
I just find many of them not funny and their idea of what a woman should be. Well, imagine if the tables were turned on them... because I find the same lame jokes, same excuses.... Basically, they lie thinking we are stupid to forget and when we ask for them to show and tell, they run away 😂
If your do happy being child free not having a man at 40 why do you project all down feelings on the ones who have all the time in their lives to reproduce and actually gain what other gender wants from them
The female narcissists are misogynists too.
Indeed
He hates me so much cause I didn’t break down, never cried, and just moved out and disappeared. He said to me: you think you are better than everyone else… I said NO but I vibrate at a higher level than you. You vibration is low so you attract people as the drinking friends you have, that gossip and don’t have any money… 😂wow
He got so mad !!! 😂😂😂
I can relate. Low energy people. His best friend is a loser 3 times divorced and competes with my ex with women off of 3 websites.
@@smarternow : wow! That’s something! Best to stay away from that kind of people
My vibration is the highest here
I love you 😂
goo girlllll
Well said! Sad how a lot of narcissistic men will try to tear down confident women. Scary how there’s so much of these type of men out there, they’re out of control!
That explains everything about my marriage to covert narcissist, only I didn’t know anything about these devils beforehand. I was at peak of my career , living a life he could only dream of. I didn’t even fancy him or like him at first as my sixth sense warned me something was off with this short bold overweight guy. He was a good listener and that’s how he trapped me , he gathered all the knowledge about me and my life, my weaknesses and my trauma. 20yrs later , he used everything against me to destroy me , financially , mentally , triple bypass later, he drove me to a point where I packed his bags and took my house key off him. Twice he tried to get back with me on his terms but Alhamdulliah I have since educated myself on these devils. I’m no contact with him, ignore his messages and I’m now getting on with my life. It hurt so much to be made a fool of but now I know that these devils can trick the strongest of minds. When I spelled out exactly what he was and what he was trying to do , he lost his mind. He had what is called a narc melt down , looked like the devil himself and all the ugly , nasty , vile poison came out. I will never forget his eyes went black , his mouth was just a snarl and he was frothing at the mouth. He threatened to ruin the car into oncoming traffic but I never lost my composure, stayed calms with a smile on my face which dreams be him insane. Few weeks later he tried to hoover but I’ve not even acknowledged his contact. Alhamdulliah my faith is strong and I have beautiful adult children who are my life. He is now with his first cousin wife who is also a narc , he’s old and struggling financially , his time for paying for all the evil is getting closer. My life is far far better and I’m finally at peace in my heart , running my own business again and my health has improved immensely since he left. Stay away from these devils , they will try and destroy you
They make my blood boil .. Why are some men like this.
Bc men 🍼
Same reason some women are like this. They love the rush they get from controlling the vulnerable especially if they have a disability. Narc women do this in relationship's more than men to mild disabled men and women because it's easy to get away with and make out they are crazy without proof. It makes my blood boil how society picks masculinity over behaviour in relationship's when it comes to things like domestic violence for instance.
Because more and more men would rather be female than male. They don't like being all boxy, hairy and burley. They don't like what testosterone does to their bodies anymore. They all want to look petite and flattering and have the magical, biological ability to produce another human being and create a civilization. But they don't, and all this hatred toward their female counterparts is just one big nasty tantrum they're all having because of it.
Just think of a men who wants a good relation with a woman. Simple and truth. She is fed with lies that he will cheat and all kind of questions that he gets bored. That's where she is fed with more lies that he was cheating and all just see who was the problem. The man or the woman's friends?
@@blahblahdrunksheepYou pulled that stat straight outta your a s s didn't you? Have to always put down women, even in comments of videos about misogynists.
The cause of me being an independent woman and having strong boundaries is because I was once controlled by a narcissistic male. That's why he is no longer in my life because he can't control me anymore, and looking for another girl to control.
Same thing just recently happened to me. I think he tried to hide what is true intentions were for almost four and a half years. But by last year, his behavior was out of control. And no greater help that he is also very bipolar, and not being on any treatment for it. My decision to end things with him was based solely on Assumption of risk. And when I had a chance to assess all the risks that I was facing with him, that's when I knew I had to end it. And boy, am I ever so glad I did. Because as long as he has the attitude to hate women and date them at the same time, I really don't think anybody is going to want to get in bed with him again. You can't hate a woman and date a woman. That just isn't how it works.
Well I left mine. Now he's a different guy. But I'm on high alert. I don't give him a chance to strike at me.
Oh boy. Now I understand what's happening. Thanks for the information.
Me too 😑
That is so true that they are misogynistic...
Which is the vast majority of men today. Which is why I will avoid them.
@@Yasmine91646 good pls avoid men also dont want a marcist egoistic waahmen like u☕
Pla define misogyny
@@Berrygirl6784hatred and contempt for women, displayed by a lot of men.
@@leilameow9582I've seen this in my friend circle they like to use female for their desires and have audacity to say they are becoming whore.Many hate developed in them from poor treatment towards them in their school where they got teased and insulted by chunks minority of girls then they start doin getting revenge of other girls on other ones who do deeply care about them and using them for their benefits.And more probably they got some spoiled parents spoiling them supporting in each of their evil acts whatever they do.
I will offer an interesting twist on this concept. Outside of my love relationship, I WAS a confident, assertive woman, not afraid to set boundaries. However, I was never taught the difference of what a healthy intimate relationship, or love bombing looked like. No one taught me love bombing was a red flag that would eventually lead me down the path of becoming a domestic abuse victim, then, after, thankfully only five years, a domestic abuse survivor. I was lucky. I got out alive. For me, and I suspect many people who were never taught a belief structure built of positive emotional interaction, I was so depleted of self love and self esteem when it came to an intimate relationship, that I blinded myself to the red flags the relationship had shown. As I listened to this post, it triggered the memory of the first time he hit me. I don't have an exact memory of what the argument was about. I remember the feeling that something was going on that brought up that feeling of something being done that was not good or positive. I remember thinking, "Like hell will I put up with being treated like this!" Names. He was calling me horrible, filthy names. It had been starting to happen more and more. It was making me so angry I wanted to do the same back. At the same time, I didn't want to stoop to that level. I was angry, but telling him what he was doing wasn't ok and I wasn't going to tolerate it. He had already thrown a glass candle holder at my feet and it had shattered, a piece of glass flew up and cut my shin. Then he attacked me. That part comes in flashes. He leg swept me and slammed to the ground. I fought back, but he was former combat infantry. I remember a thick stick he had that had a burl knot on it. He hit me in the head with it twice before I got my hands up to deflect the blow. I remember thinking he was going to smash my skull in.
When his verbal, emotionally abusive behavior failed to control me he immediately escalated to insane violence to accomplish that control. What that moment did to me on an INTERNAL level was SO MUCH worse than the physical blows. To say it completely threw every part of my
reality into absolute chaos would be an understatement. I had already been dealing with the cognitive dissonance, a term I had never even heard of before I left. Shock, confusion, rage fear... Like the floodgate of every negative emotion had blown open at once. I had never experienced anything like this before. The reality of my life changed in such a way it didn't seem real. Now, as I work through the process of remembering who I am and who I want to be, cleaning up the wounds to my Self that I did not even realized had begun long before I met a violently abusive partner, videos like this, while they can be a trigger to memories I wish I didn't have, I stand in deep Gratitude to you, Danish Bashir, for giving me the tools of understanding through these videos, that I may better understand the unhealthy systems I was operating within that led me down those darker paths. These understandings will allow me the insight to grow beyond the thoughts and habits that could have, literally cost me my life.
Look for EMDR sessions to integrate those trauma. My best wishes.
You are a fellow goddess
Wow. I am so glad you survived and are thriving. God bless you I am so sorry that happened to you . 😞
So well put & I am glad you made it out alive. Thank you for sharing JJ Brooks 💞
@@ClappingSuccubiCheeks Good. It wasn't meant for you.
I am his enemy because I am strong. He hates me
That's OK sis. You had it going on all along.
Too bad, so sad for him.
You are not his enemy. You are your own enemy by pushing real masculine men out of your life by telling them you’re strong. No masculine man wants another man in the house. Stay true to your feminine nature and men of high value and self worth will gravitate towards you.
Dear Bella, please don't listen to a word “CryptoZal“ wrote to you. Everything he spouts here screams “i have an inferior complex“. Hope u were able to leave ur “relationship“ savely and that u have some supportive ppl around u! I wish u all the best ❤
@@isabell746 he may be my ex Narc who has been following me on several sites to discredit my feelings and growth. Thanks for your support ❤️
Andrew Tate is one of them
Trash
Sure and his nibba followers
Lol and his incel fans
Andrew Tate is married, he has a daughter. He can’t be an misogynist, he’s an sexist though….He’s an business man…He’s a master manipulator. Because I can read him like a book. How much you hate him, how much money he earns from it. If you knew how business work you will be shocked….What people do to get fame…..
@@morelorelno such thing as an incel.
Yup. I was talking to a guy that gave me all the signs that he was narcissistic.
And he literally told me he use to hate women.
He also said he liked that i had boundaries and wouldnt give up trying to pursue me. I believe it was a chase for him and he was definitely going to try to ruin my life.
I wasted alot of his time talking and then blocked him. I needed him to feel rejected 😂
I cant comprehend women that would date someone that says they hated women.
I pray for the women that gwt tangled in his web
Basically if a guy is acting controlling towards you 9/10 times it’s because he “gets turned on” from taking away your power. That 1/10 time is because he’s a psychopath that probably does want to hurt you.
Yeah I was dating one of those. Then his world came crashing down when I decided it was over and he no longer had any power or control over me. Fact is, (he never did in the first place). And it was making him super irate. The biggest mistake was demanding I get rid of my motorcycle. That's when I really decided we were done. And he no longer had someone that he could belittle and insult, but at the same time, use as an Uber service and an ATM machine. He had no choice but to finally get up off his ass and get a job and start taking care of his own adult responsibilities. Best decision I ever made. LOL
If somebody is just that sociopathic that they actually get off on hurting you, that isn't love. Those are the type of guys that belong in prison.
I finally stood up for myself and said I will protect myself and he has taken it as a threat and that I am not following his lead.
Spot on,.. he was looking up how to break a woman’s ego,…
Damn that’s crazy
My ex always said I remind him of his mum I thought that was gross and he hated me talking to her very very sad 😑
Right on, bro. I have seen that before. Have a friend who used to be married to a narcissist loser. He would beat he and she would fight back as best as she could. He would yell, "cry b***h, cry!" while he was beating her right in front of their little girl and she would say NO!! That made him so mad. She ran over to the kitchen and got a butcher knife and dared him to hit her again. He didn't. They're divorced now. He tried to control her but it didn't work.
Imagine if a woman said this, she would get a lot of hate
That's their problem, not anyone else's.
nah, i'm female and i'll say it right now:
narcissistic men are deeply misogynistic and hate confident women.
see? :)
for not being able to control external factors?@@oneofthegoodonesok
My ex who i recently just left was super toxic and abusive towards. After 4 years being together we was on and off and when i finally broke it off. His true colors and demon side came out. He said i hate all you women and accused me of cheating when i never did cheated on him. I just couldn't take no more of his deminic ways and i left. It hurts when you love someone only to find out they carry demonic energy from their childhood now onto you.💔
As long as empathic people (and society) allow narcissists control over them, there will always be scapegoats, Golden child and flying monkeys! The family and social Dynamics will stay the same . Always, thank you!,🕊️ Many blessings to you! PS:. What helped me thru life besides good people of divine nature was also my good nature I was born with! DNA or God given or both! Smear campaigns will never end if somehow this is not legally stopped!
YOU SPEAK GODLY TRUTH!!!!!!!!!!!!
@@ClappingSuccubiCheeks lovely.....
@@ClappingSuccubiCheekscope
wow, I guess you are right- he does say my cofindence is just pure ego and to let it go , I never realized thats what he meant. Thanx.
If i saw this video six months back it would have been better for me because I have wasted six months
So this why men hate me 😂
Lol
They hate us because they AINT us...
And don't nobody wanna be with them...
@@dianematlock7922you and the OP are likely single moms. Don’t nobody give a shit about y’all acting bitchy and difficult. I swear women equate a man not wanting to deal with their unearned/overinflated egos to “being intimidated”.
@@dianematlock7922be lesbian if you ain’t gonna show us love and be rude.
@@LonelyW01f look at yourself LONELY...
WO1F...LONELY, LONELY... you wanna see women with women, since they DON'T WANNA BE WITH YOU...YOUR GO TO RESPONSE WHEN WOMEN REJECT YOU...
IT WOULDN'T HURT YOU SO MUCH IF YOU IMAGINED LESBIANS, BUT CRACK YOUR MIND 🤯 IF WE PICKED A MAN THAT ISN'T YOU...WHATEVER .
Tell us more about the modern mother wound please!
The modern mother has kids without a strong father figure to look upto in their life. Modern mother is lonely, sad and depressed with a couple of cats and a few degenerate, dysfunctional kids by her side in her in her 50s and 60s. All because she was strong and independent.
@@ZalSpacewhat do any of those have to do with each other??? My grandmother raised 7 kids on her own and they cherished her after she divorced my grandfather for having a secret family. I agree narcissists are wounded by their mothers, but i think it’s more their father isnt around and the narcissist sees their mother being smart, beautiful, and capable, and know they will never achieve this. It is just misogyny that men get when they are envious of women because they see them as “other” and think that life would somehow be easier and they would get more attention. If he was a beautiful, capable, woman who could give birth, he feels he could really wreck havoc then, he thinks it’s so much power.
@@droolingpine9658 Facts
@@ZalSpace you sound like your mom was a only fans model 😂
@@ZalSpaceNice try to gaslight people. It's okay dude, you won't die just because she rejected you and you won't wet your small pee pee. Now let me get back to my job, my friendships and my independent life. I bet you can't relate, you rarely touch grass after all.
Yes, he's Stalking me 5 yrs later. He also has my Neighbors Gang Stalking me. 🤔
Are you safe now?
report the foker to the police.
But their mothers rarely have been confident and decent women themselves that s why they hate women as adults , cuz their mothers ruined the love and care for them when they were little..... i don't see any connection between confident mothers and their misogynist sons later in life...
I APPRECIATE YOUR KNOWLEDGE AND HONESTY AND UNDERSTANDING AND WISDOM OF NARCISSISM SO VERY MUCH, PROFESSOR, YOU HAVE SUCH A DEEP INSIGHT AND INTELLIGENCE!!!!!!!!!!!!! THANK YOU SO VERY VERY MUCH FOR SHARING THIS INFORMATION, I CAN BREATHE NOW, ALMIGHTY GOD IS CERTAINLY USEING YOU AND YOU ARE CERTAINLY SAVING LIVES!!!!!!!!
I hate my mother for many good reasons. However, I do not hate all women. I know & understand that there are good women out there. It isn't just hatred for a bad mother that makes some men hate all women. It's usually brought on by too many bad encounters & experiences with bad women. As well as the lack of understanding in the fact that not all women are your bad evil mother. And visa versa. Have a good one(day) & stay humble.
My ex was Muslim, from a religious family, and I’m seriously thinking of writing to his brothers, to tell them how badly he used me, treated me, and dumped me. Should I?? He used his family and religion to play me more perfectly during our 2 YEAR “relationship”.
I wouldn't do it. Better write your rage and grief to yourself. You can destroy it later. His family won't ever side to you.
I sent a letter to my ex family in law. It was returned to me unopened.
I am ex muslim please stay away from muslims
Im a muslim too and trust me SOME muslim men don't read the whole Quran. They only read verses that benefit them. But muslim men who really practice islam would never act arrogant and display narcissistic attitudes.
This was a whole word. 🔥 I mostly just move through life looking like someone who we BOTH know that they can neither afford nor get me to even make eye contact and they leave me alone.
Wow. Ty.. it is all coming together for me. Thanks for this piece of the puzzle. Makes so much sense.
When he refers to women as females and when you confront him and he responds with “woman…, instead of your name.”
They are misandrist as well because they treat other men the same.
I couldn’t agree with this more though ironically my ex-husband used to say that it was my strength, confidence, independence and intelligence that attracted him to me. He then used all those traits as weapons against me and always framed his arguments with the deepest of misogynistic views.
“Since we all came from a woman, got our name from a woman, and our game from a woman, I wonder why we take from our women , why we r@pe our women, do we hate our women?” - Tupac, the most amazing rapper ever
I’ve noticed this to be true of Narc women as well.
thanks, Bashir,
got your messge ,
amazing !!
Thank you... I've been feeling bad for being a girl. This really helpz
I like confidence I’m just not attracted to women with an ego an masculine energy
THIS IS SO TRUE
I left when my ex came at me with his fists raised. I left and called the police. I had a camera on that I was working on an art project on. He hated the fact I had a project of my own that did not included him.The camera caught the whole scene that I used in court. HA! Welp the project included him!!
I’m literally think I’ve just come out of this the last six months. It’s been so intense but I kept saying no and kept my standards up now he’s trying to take me to court for taking Me on a date. He wants money back.😅
Thank you so much for this! It's a generational thing in my family. Their mom's didn't do the right thing and leave the abusive dad. In turn, they make excuses for their mom and will then lash out at us even after we helped them. I have no respect for my narc ex, but esp his mom. Who puts their child in such a complicated state. And then they defend and defend their moms. Best to just leave! Thank you for this video!!
Now it all makes sense. I was so confused and still have some strings that need tightening. When I lacked boundaries, he loved me. When I would say no to the abuse, he would really go to the depths of hell to exploit me. I am so glad I watched this. Thank you god.
Yup this so true
Needed this confirmation. Thank you.
Thankyou so much ❤
My brother and father are like this they even hid my documents in office so that I do what they say and stay like slave
.y man said on e ""your independence is the problem"
it is not necessarily the mother who is the source of this hate
What is the source then?
@@devinesent7696the male????
Absent farherz
I think andrew tate's fans will roast this man
Haha, no chance.
Narcissists hate everybody
Brilliant, have subscribed. It is great when a man says this too.
Also, there's a type of Narcissistic Man Misogyny that love to woman that having strong boundaries, high confidence level, and can say no also stand for self for get to destroy and change her to boost personal ego.
So, be aware about this type of guys. I'm talking with personal experience.
Well, sucks to be them!
What about when it's the other way around???
Both my sister snd my brother ended up w a narcissist. She finally left him, after he cheated on her, but my brother is unfortunately competely isolated from everyone and is miserable af. She brainwashed him so thouroughly, that one cannot even talk to him... so sad. If u r a guy in a narcissitic relationship, the same applies: get the hell out of there and don't give in once she starts to play nice or offer s*x
It's the same.
He always said he liked me for my confidence n independance...n with time that were the worst qualities about me
YEAH !!! 👍🏼 Narc Ego Buster 👍🏼 Satisfaction 👍🏼
So what becomes of a Narc with a busted ego ???
Factors such as a troubled upbringing, witnessing unhealthy relationships, or being exposed to negative influences might contribute to shaping his perspective. Men who have bad relationship with their mother cant have healthy relationship with women, if they treat their mother badly they will treat women badly. Its so sad. Men should respect women because it was a woman who gave birth to them and life, she could easily made an abortion but she decided to keep them, is this the kind of thanks she gets? Some men are ungrateful and have no understanding of biology. Empathy is a beautiful thing, most women love a kind man. Just watch the movie wall e and you'll understand what im talking about. :D
You just saved my life
Never prosper the evil
Thank you Men ☕🖕
I'm sorry to say and i have no doubt to say that i'm that kind of narcissistic man and mysogynist also an anti-socia,l low self-esteem man. but i still fighting with my brain to get normal. my mother is my biggest enemy who ruined my life through keeps me overprotecting and in stern surveillance. she makes me anti-social, introvert, shy & nerd. i won’t blame my dad cuz he was too busy & hard working to run our families. girlfriend is out of question, it’s always were in my dream that one day i will talk to my same-age girl confidently without being nervous & weird. thanks motherfu*ker god for giving me this kind of abnormal life!!!
Yeah y’all Muslim (not all but a lot) men are the worst with misogyny. Some of y’all look good, but y’all are F’d in the head. It’s your upbringing I know. Have Muslim frd she don’t want to marry her own men because of the damage her parent did to her self esteem and her dad did a lot of mental abuse. She said it’s been 1 yr without the hijab, and she’s free but now she awkward socially but I see her trying to break out of that, but she’s healing and I’m so proud of her! - You want change, you can get it if you work on yourself and it’ll take you some years depends how dedicated you are.
You nailed it.
so real!
It's all true.
Preach it!
But preach it as a human problem not the man's fault
I luv this, I couldnt agree more
Lol this comment section an echo chamber of deluded people
It is
Absolutely correct!! 👏 👏
We'll, that explains why he tried to break my neck when I stood up to him. He just kept saying "if you're arguing with your husband you're wrong".
No husband wants a nagging woman as his wife. He was right.
Don't listen to this idiot “CryptoZal“! Everything he spouts here screams “I have an inferior complex“. My sister is currently divorcing from her narcissitic husband. They have 3 kids together, so it's really complicated. Hope, u do have some supportive people around u and u were able to leave ur “relationship“ savely
@@ZalSpace I won't argue with you. You don't me and you don't know my ex. Please do not comment on what you have no knowledge of.
@@isabell746 I do. And we did. I thought I would never see any of them again, but they were waiting for us.
@@ZalSpace ah yes because a woman who's being abused should just take it....
Oh yeah, most definitely true
We live in a time where nearly everyone is a narcissist. You can thank social media for that
Let’s not discount abusive /absent/ neglectful paternal figures in raising male narcs!!!!!!
Yep story of my life
i agree with the ideas here, but saying it comes from mother stuff doesn't explain WHY the mother stuff was there. even in cases where the mother is a really good one, men get REALLY Indignant - especially when they think back as adults - about all the times a WOMAN had power over them as children. it doesn't matter that she had standards so that they could stay safe and live well and grow up right... they are WHITE HOT MURDEROUSLY PISSED that ANY woman EVER held that kind of power over them.
and so to them we say:
well, we created you, boy. Woman is the arbiter and the administrator of the *species*. get over it. or cry yourself to sleep on your flat, yellow, crusty pillow. it's whatever. lol.
If i saw a strong independent woman say this then id listen. But this guys just got his facts wrong plus if a man cant accept that your strong then dont be with him but thats not all men always remember that
So true sir 👍
What a wife should do in this situation?
Run
Never try to take men's pride
I agree 💯
What about love and care each other ??? How many Weak minded RUclipsrs floating around our kids .
WOW!😳😲 I am very much like that, always have been.😱😱😱😱
simp
Women you cant live with them...........the end.- Al Bundy
dont care
@@swaylikesmusiccare enough to reply
@@marcoespinoza3940 takes 2 seconds genius
@@swaylikesmusic And is being 2 weeks, and you replied again.
It can take an hour or 2 seconds.
You still care enough to do so.
@@marcoespinoza3940 how does writing don't care take half an hour or an hour?
Agreed
So true
Why are people so educated in spreading awareness about women but not man hating?
to whom it may concern, this is a serious crime that affects God knows?
Men dont lean towards confident woman in general they display "I don't need a man"
@@lumina5 I swear to God this is in no means to be racist but you are describing most black men with white woman relationships
@@bobbyjohnson5637 I'm black and you are absolutely correct.
I honestly don't care how hurt a guy's feelings get over my ability to have a gainful career, pay my bills and basically just being an adult just because it all takes away from his ability to feel like some "big hero" to me.
The definition of a woman is a grown adult female. That is what I am. So being able to provide for myself is what I'm supposed to be doing. I don't need to rely on somebody else's money like I'm still only 8 years old, nor do I need to be playing surrogate mother to a grown adult male. I exist to be someone's wife or girlfriend. -Not to adopt somebody's adult son and raise him like a child by cooking him food and washing his filthy shit-stained laundry...
That's wrong af. The correct version: "İmmature boys with fragile egos don't lean towards confident woman, their self esteem is so low they don't even count as man, they're little boys"
Feminism goes out the window when your house is on fire 🤣
You should remake this video about women as well
Sounds like my dad
You understand nothing, sir.
So it’s not okay to not like overconfident woman? Nice gaslighting
Since when does just being a grown adult mean a woman is overconfident? Since when does Being able to afford your own expenses in life and have a gainful and fulfilling career mean a woman is "overconfident?" Aren't those all just prerequisites to common survival as an adult?
@@SuccubusMilfEnjoyer I'm not mad about anything. -Just stating a point.
@@SteelCowGirl4Everyoure talking to a ligma male here. dont try to make sense.
@@swaylikesmusic Ligma as in "ligmadick" 😆 Lol!
-Incels are such a joke.
Once again You need our seed, Men dont need Career high maintenance competitive woman. There are more woman that do not like to work those are better options.
Nope. Not every woman wants your seed. If we'd rather have a career and a fulfilling life outside the home living as the grown adults we are, then that's what we get to choose. Deal with it.
Objectively wrong you are just too weak for independent women trust me they need love the most and they need care as well and you can do that by showing respect and keeping their own strength and it does not always results to infidelity.
No one wants your seed my guy
omg tysm
😂😂😂 WHOOPS!
could they date a woman whose an entrepreneur, then? ik with running a business, you need to have confidence. So could it be possible especially speaking with a covert narcissist.
My dad
My ex despised me😢
Just Get Revenge On Your Ex