The ITTMind channel was set up primarily as a mental health channel. Due to the numerous requests for more videos on the psychological/psychoanalytic analysis adopted in this "Misogyny" video, a new channel has (finally) been set up: the Empty Chair: keeping the mind in mind. It will be focussed on three areas in the psychological shadow of masculinity: misogyny, racism, fascism. ruclips.net/video/qyyU-JSsgE0/видео.html Apologies to all of you who have waited so long and so patiently! And thanks to all of you who have listened and commented so attentively. I hope we can continue the conversation in a more appropriate space. See you soon!
@@QuincyJacobs-i8h I would love to get into that - but I tried to hold the focus on the male psyche for now....tough though that is. Hope to see you on the new channel.
@QuincyJacobs-i8h I disagree with "aligned"...in too many instances, there isn't much of an option--it's a matter of survival! Likened to Stockholm Syndrome. More options today, but for eons, there were no other choices! Imho. 😊
As soon as a man sees a confident woman with boundaries and who is smart he will try to destroy her because his ego can’t handle the cognitive dissonance of reality vs his beliefs.
@@jandrews6254babies are dependent on the mother and the father. Children look to them for cues on how to interact with others. Then there is the other arenas such as school and religion that lay down “rules and behaviors. No “baby is raised only in an environment by one person only. 🙄
just picked up a book by Dorothy Dinnerstien (spelling?) that puts forth this very idea…written in the 70’s at the beginning of feminist movement. Sadly, the author died right after publication. Haven’t read it yet, just snippets, fascinating so far.
It's hard wired by society itself. How many dumb movies of old men get "rewarded" a much younger and beautiful woman at the end of an action movie? You never see the reverse true because society holds men and women to different standards. Women always have to be responsible and morally right and hard working plus be submissive eye candy, while men can do whatever the heck they want (plus ignore basic hygiene or physical appearance). It's grotesque.
The emotionally healthiest man I know was raised by two working parents. On the nights his wife worked, as a nurse, her husband made dinner, make sure the children were bathed and put them to bed. They were equal partners and there were no gender assigned chores in that household. I sent my mother-in-law flowers every year on my husband birthday to thank her.
So lovely, what a peach he is. My late husband also abhorred all unkindness to either males or females. He had a special bond to his mother who spent years of cruelty and neglect and I think this influenced his thinking. But I believe both sexes are capable of unkindness
@@debrawilliams1693 I am appalled you would accuse me of gaslighting. But to deny that some women are as capable of cruelty as some males is ridiculous. I would remind you that there were female as well as male guards in dachau
I heard of a study that asked what each gender feared the most from the opposite gender. Men answered what they feared the most from their female partners was being laughed at; while what women feared the most from their male partners, was being killed.
I've heard that, too. Ego vs survival. Says everything. I saw a meme: Man to woman: If there were no men anymore, who would protect you? Woman to man: From whom? Meaning, the only thing any of us, all genders, needs protecting from, is men.
I had a male friend in high school who told me that everything a man does is done to try to have sex. I didn't want to believe it then, and couldn't. It has taken me a long time to come to terms with this truth, and only after going through so much trauma with men. It makes me sad. I love connecting with people through conversation. I hate feeling like I can't really do that with half the population because there may be some ulterior motive.
Aging doesn't even help. If they don't want in your pants, they want a mommy to coddle and coo at them, tell them how smart and exceptional they truly are. It's utterly EXHAUSTING
Yeah or just this very miserable cycle of thinking you are falling in love, building a real relationship with goals and dreams of a future with the man, all for it to be about sex. And him brutally or coldly (quietly) discarding you, or physically harming you to end it. Sad😢
@@lights6865 True ! My guess is because they want to secure themselve financially by trapping a successful woman, ideally one that will take care of them, the kids and be the main supplier. I've seen that happen !
There are plenty of men who want meaningful relationships. You are likely a typical average girl who is going for guys way out of your league. Then blaming all men. The data proves women are going for men way out of their league btw. There are studies proving this from dating websites.
You and I, sure we can. Christians are however yet not even able to properly adress the CSA in their institutions, so I doubt we are ready to tackle something as complex as misoginy within religion.
@@h8h215I think we may have been misinformed. The netherlands is a country with basically no religion, but they have with the decline of religion become a less criminal and more caring society towards the less fortunate. Also, divorce rates amongst christians is between 30-50 percent, depending on if you are a protestant or catholic. For atheists the divorce rate is at 3%. Maybe we stop telling people that non-religious people are more prone to divorce, because then people actually look up the statistics and realize that the people who make the most excuses for divorce are christians.
@@h8h215 how long ago did they release the avengers endgame movie which entire idea was built on the idea that overpopulation is an inevitable problem? Wasn't that long ago when people insisted that overpopulation is a massive issue, and I remember telling people then, that the curve has been flattening for a while, and they were lazy about looking into actual statistics, only to nowadays inform me there is a going to be an impending horror that is the decline of birthrates. I really have to wonder how many of these people have paid attention in uni to actually learn about statistical analysis, to actually understand the statistics and not weaponize numbers whenever it is convenient for their cause. Where in the bible does it say you should have children? I remember hearing that the bible promotes a relationship with god, and one should be celibate for that, but if that is impossible, you should only have one partner to support you in your worship of god. At least that is how one scholar of theology once explained to me, but maybe he was studying a different bible. Why is it such a problem that birthrates are now for the first time showing some decline rather than an increase? Is it because you think humans will go extinct, or because this is actually a symptom of a bigger problem that is, the proof of the fact that society is not striving to be religious anymore, a problem only experienced as one by religious people? Also, to have mentioned it, secular societies are caring for their homeless, caring for thy neighbour so to speak and they form very healthy communities, you can observe this across the board. Religiousnes excuses poverty, no normal human has been trained to justify a suffering person as much as the religious do.
So does it really take a man to explain misogyny?? And women do not emasculate men. Men's insecurities about their own masculinity causes them to feel emasculated.
Thanks for listening. The modelling is psychoanalytic. If men were psychologically secure, they would not feel emasculated by women or allow themselves to be emasculated by other men. I hope you can join the new channel where the topic is opened out more than was possible in this 30 mins pilot test video: ruclips.net/video/qyyU-JSsgE0/видео.html See you there.
Jackson Katz (and a few other men in the USA) have been working with men for decades with a sane non-misogynistic reality based approach. The first clue is this guy is using Psychoanalysis, Freud was a misogynist. Junk in junk out.
@@angelomercure3747 What? How so? I only said that being a man who hates women yet desires them sounds exhausting, because a man like that would never be satisfied or happy, how is this wrong, hating what you desire seems exhausting period. Also, I know nothing about Amber Heard.
Hatred is often tangled up with fear, and it's just natural to fear someone you repress because the question becomes what will their rebellion look like?
Germane Greer once observed, "Women have no idea how much men hate them." When I was young I thought that was ridiculously dark, now I'm not so sure. I would just like to point out that men do have a connection to the land and creation via farming and gardening - not to take away from his points but, more, to shout out my very kind and mellow farmer friends.
Yea, but farming and gardening is probably how this all started. Going from small roaming groups of hunters and gatherers who worked together we went to villages, now cities full with thousands, even millions of people. This must have had an enormous impact mentally, physically and socially. No other species on earth is living like this.
as a woman who's constantly confronted by misogyny off and online, the content of this video was very cathartic. the hatred of women is so normalized to me, it's nice to be reminded i am actually a person and deserve the same respect as a man (this alone is revolutionary to maybe 90% of the men i interact with online as well as all the important men in my life). there have been and continue to be so many attempts to take something as basic as my humanity away from me and, every time, it's disgusting and pushes me further from men to the point where i truly believe my life is better without them.
Exactly. Women are human beings, so being perceived and treated as human -without need to remind others (women included 😤) of that- would be wonderful. I bristle at word femicide. Murder of a woman. Please, call it homicide. Murder of a human. No-one calls murder of a man- an andracide.
@@mamamiabenjamia My life is much better without them! My belief is that it's a mother's responsibility to her daughters to explain about males to the best of her ability and if she can't find someone who's capable! My mom explained absolutely nothing! I mean zero! And this doctor explained my dad to a tee! I've been diagnosed with PTSD, am traumatized, a recovering alcoholic and drug addict with 33 years of continuous sobriety and being clean. I'm grateful every single day for getting the message and then putting in the footwork one day at a time! Not every one should be a parent!
Honestly this video has somewhat radicalized me. It has made me realize that these issues are not just me or a handful of women- it is the female experience, no matter where you are in the world.
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Working with almost all men for three decades...it always baffled me why they incessiantly put me down or were dismissive having never said a cross word to them. Especially since i was grossly outnumbered. It took a long time to realize that they were, incredibly, afraid of me on some level. Constant posturing and sexual comments as a weapon. Exhausting for everyone. I still feel great about myself - but has taken a lot of mental gymnastics. I know some strong men, but its not the norm in my world.
I am a woman going into a male dominated field and am just preparing myself for that. I've heard so many stories of disrespect and about men trying to sabotage a woman learning and advancing in her career.
My career was in a male-dominated field as well. Looking back on my experiences, I see an interesting dynamic on why women should not smile at insecure men at work: Under a certain age, they think you're flirting with them. Over a certain age, they think you're laughing at them. Luckily, not all my male co-workers were insecure.... it was easy to figure them out quickly.
Strange I got along fine with my coworkers and bosses that were male. I did however have a few women who were catty, mean girl types and saboteurs. I think that whoever you work with , if they see you as a threat in some way they will behave in a bad way either directly or indirectly.
@@wingnut71 thanks for engaging with this - and a lot of your observations will be opened out much more in the new channel (pinned above) which I hope you might subscribe to. What you describe as the aggregate emotional effects of rejection as a 'bitterness' is what Winnicott termed 'immaturity' which is a psychological-emotional lack of development due to either deprivation or abuse. He used it first to analyse delinquency in children after World War 2 in London who had lost either family or homes and were placed in unsupervised care homes. So 'immaturity' (as indicated in my comment) is being used technically and refers to Winnicott. How that plays out in what happens to men being rejected by women requires way more space than what we have here - hence the new channel. Hope to see you there.
@@inthesetimesspeakingforthemind "lack of psychological development" and "immaturity" sound very perjorative terms if you ask me. Perhaps this was intentional as the purpose of this channel appears to be the for the airing of misandrous content. I mean, are girls that develop eating disorders described in the same manner or are they treated with care, concern, love? But a boy becomes bitter and angry, all he will get is scorn, and this will just increase his anger and alienation. It's like telling the anorexic that they are indeed fat and they need to eat less.
I was recently contemplating why the majority of pro-lifer/anti-abortion appear to be men. The beginning of this video gave me so much clarity on it and why their hatred for it is rooted in misogyny. Men are indeed jealous, intimidated and frustrated by the fact that women have this exclusive ability create life and be one with the universe. Pregnancy is a unique experience they can never truly understand or control, so when we choose to terminate a pregnancy - which they perceive as an act of violence (a very male trait), I'm sure it threatens their sense of power. Their disdain for it is both a reaction to their exclusion and projection of their own association with violence.
The ability to give birth is not a trait that is "superior" in any way. You NEED men to give birth in the first place, the pro-choice are arguing against violence these sick women that think it is "funny" to terminate a child. Men are saying women are not responsible with this God given gift, not that they feel jealous of it.
@@Changed.User100 Absolutely nothing I said implies that I think being able to get pregnant makes women superior. This is about recognizing the control dynamics in the abortion debate. Many pro-life men are driven by more than just protecting this "God-given gift", but rather motivated by a desire to control a unique ability that women possess. Termination is a difficult, and often traumatizing choice. If there are women who find it funny, I believe they fall into one of two groups: The first, as you claim, genuinely "sick" women who have psychopathic tendencies - which is so rare that society sensationalizes it whenever it happens, proving my original point about men/societal perception. Or it’s women who use humor as a coping mechanism to take back control, often in the form of memes, designed to trigger men - not a reflection of how they feel in the moment of choice. As for responsibility. It’s funny how often impending deadbeat dads, just overall unsupportive men are a significant reason why some women choose to terminate in the first place. Responsibility goes both ways, and you’d do well to remember that. But if we really want to talk about superiority, we can definitely discuss how vastly superior the egg cell is to the mere fertilizer that the sperm cell essentially is lol. And we don't need you.
@@wmak8421 Firstly, the video literally states that this ability to give birth makes women "superior" to men. Secondly, the reason for so many deadbeat fathers is due to the thousands of court laws that exist which prohibit them from seeing their children and force them to pay outrageous child support money for a woman they dont even like. And thirdly yes you do need men, this whole civilization does need men. And regarding the "sperm or egg cell" superiority I truly dont care which one is better as you need both to create human life.
It's taken me 61 years to realise that men have not evolved and don't want to evolve. This video just confirmed my belief. I wish I'd realised this 40 years ago.
I have so much love for all the women who've come before me (my mother and aunt in their 70's have never known a truly loving, respectful relationship...treated like trash). They had to evolve into MEN (financially and physically intelligent and capable, in addition to handling all the emotional labor women are supposedly born with and responsible for) while men have no responsibility to develop their "feminine" qualities. I've been in some abusive relationships and now at 40 I feel like it's my responsibility to choose a man who knows it's his duty to not repress any of the life-giving qualities humans are called to and born with. I don't want all the pain the woman before me, for and at the hands of men and the society they are so proud to have "created", have endured to be in vain. There are good men out there, men who love and appreciate women and want to change...but I feel like they are rare and there is a dangerous countercultural current of men feeling entitled to the backlash against feminism. Not just men who haven't changed, but men who feel like they need to fight back against women calling for equity. Wanting equality is not an aggression. I do have empathy for how the patriarchy fails men too though. Men growing up without loving fathers and healthy leaders is a generational and cultural curse as well. It hurts everyone. It is all of our responsibility to change and that means listening to each other about it.
I agree, I am 52 and a licensed therapist and still am shocked not just at the lack of evolution, but the fight for de- evolution. Here in America, and in the Neantherdal partners of my female clients. However, I am married to a wonderful man, he will never have the emotional range and empathy and worries I have, whether through biology or socialization, but I appreciate the balance we share, and after some rough early teen years with our daughter, I am so grateful and proud of the way he has grown into a patient, supportive father.
@@rosiebottom3870 The driver behind evolution or evolving is survival. When certain changes are needed to survive and/or reproduce the changes are adopted. Men have not been put in the position of being unable to reproduce or survive in their current state. So they see no reason to change. There’s now a movement starting called 4B that might shift the paradigm if the majority of women follow through. However men’s response to this possibility has been to create laws that force women to reproduce with them. Furthermore some men are threatening to just r@pe women if we attempt to stop having s3x with them.
Women are also SLOW to evolve. However, many are choosing a single life all around the world 🌎 as a revolutionary act & the intention not to live their parents, grandparents lives. They want FREEDOM. The consequence is seriously LOW BIRTH RATE worldwide which threatens human survival. I believe the anti pro choice movement is because of the fear of no children to grow up to join the WARS, & sustain jobs to care for the older population.
Thanks for your observation. You've hit the central point of this interview. But I think the burden of responsibility is on men to confront men with our psychological deficits and try to resolve them separately from women. This does not exclude women from the process - but women cannot be responsible for what men do.
@@inthesetimesspeakingforthemind I don’t think you guys know what tf you’re talking about hence the soy male in the video speaking nonsense who knows nothing.
Step one. Stop saying a woman was murdered, a woman was raped. Say what happenned! A MAN murdered a woman. A MAN raped a woman. The men who don't do this shit need to be confronted by what their 'brothers' and 'mates' do and stand by our sides and call out these guys earlier. BEFORE they escalate ! These guys need to hear that sexist jokes, groping, cat calling etc are not OK. They need to hear this from other men.
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I was a child in the late fifties and sixties, which means I was a young woman in the 70s. My experience with misogyny was daily and normalized by everyone in society. In the workplace, I was groped humiliated and disregarded. It was a common experience and you couldn’t complain about it because then you were considered “too sensitive”.
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My children are all boys who are now all men of 26, 27 and 30. They all respect women. This is despite not a perfect childhood. What have I done differently. I’ve always talked with them about a wide range of subjects. They also know they can talk to me about anything and that has happened. No subject is off limits. I’m far from perfect and have done things that others would not like about me but I own up to things that I’ve done. Things that have happened to me or others that are close to me are experiences we can learn from. Discussion with respect is the key to many of our problems.
Previn Karian is brilliant! He was on a young woman's channel a few months back breaking down the twisted pathology of most males and it made perfect sense. His breakdown only bothers people who believe men are superior and people who are desperately seeking relationships.
I'm from a different era, or certainly my older parents were. Being groped, grabbed or shouted at was normal for me. There were no laws against it, and I was born in the late 70's. My parents didn't even raise an eyebrow when I told them what happened. Nowadays the harassment I was subjected to daily since I was in 4th grade is criminalized. I'm happy it's finally taken seriously, but there was no way I could report sexual harassment/assault apart from rape until the 2010's. Laws have changed for the better.
Yes. I was dragged into a field at 14 from my youth club. No one did anything even though they heard me screaming. He just walked away. Everyone knew who he was but we were all kids there. No one asked what happened.
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Insecure men will see a woman who’s living her best life and cry about it and yet, they wonder why they can’t have lasting relationships with one. I dealt with one of this phenotype when I was 16 and while I’m not overly traumatized by the experience, I take it as a lesson to not give them the time of day. It’s pretty much men like them that I’d rather be single and celibate than deal with their bs 🙄
The younger ones are not taking it anymore and they are loosing their minds about it, good for you, you deserve better, if he doesn't treat you with the utmost respect, and values you, always cut it off immediately in the wisest way possible, they can get unnecessarily violent over minor things, its never worth it.
I just read a whole comment thread on another channel where men were denigrating a woman surgeon who made tons of money, had a beautiful house and new car. They wanted to believe she'd end up as an unmarried cat lady. Young men have become unhinged.
@@lorrilewis2178 Older men are unhinged too, upset that they no woman wants to live with them and cook and clean up after them any more or be a nurse or a purse as their health declines.
@@tiarica269 Yes! I've read about that trend also! The hilarious thing is that red pill men love to tell women they'll never get married if they don't do it at a young age. Yet we have senior women telling senior men they don't want to get married again, and the men are bewildered. At least the senior men accept the women's decision and don't become red pillers over it. The red pill is a younger man's weirdness.
@lorrilewis2178 Red pill is their tantrum because women no longer want to be their doormart + all the social degeneracy taking us into an AI technocracy (removing a natural human for a cyborg) and being an abused little girl who takes all their bullshit because she loves you. Our grandmas did it because they didn't have much of a choice they suffered in silence not because loved being doormats their survival depended on it, its been a gradual progression out of male slavery. Baby Boomers were like a transitory period. Millennials finally were able to take a step into the light albeit its messy as it usually is in the beginning it will take time to find a better way. But notice they didn't have the intelligence to create something of the light, something that is healing to the planet its all emotional vomit loaded with manipulation, sexual exploitation, immature behavior, threats, disinformation, yet they claim to be logical and leaders. A true leader would have lit a fire, would be creating solutions, would love the planet, and dialogue, not a whole manosphere dedicated to the demoralization of women, which only proves everything on this video, they hate us, and they hate our ascension, and want to destroy us at every cost even if its cheap dumb rebuttals.
@@h8h215 That might be the conclusion she reached as well, and I don't blame her in that case. It can be really scary to witness first hand how a person can change from being seemingly kind, caring and loving, to suddenly turning and becoming violent. The worst thing is that it's not like those men have a label on them, so you're really risking it every time you date, since you have no way of knowing if he's "one of those" or not, beforehand. Russian roulette, basically.
@@h8h215 For sure, it's always a gamble to get involved with people. Even if violence is less common with women (since men are typically stronger they can better defend themselves if that happens), it's still a gamble for them in many other ways. Like being used/taken advantage of, cheated on, etc. I acknowledge that.
This is the average women's experience on one level or another and all they do its blame women. In my old neighborhood I was harassed EVERYDAY and one man even grabbed me on the train, never-mind all the times I was violated as a child by grown men, they think these are isolated experiences but they are the norm no matter what you do, no matter what you wear, nothing matters to them. As women it is our birthright to safely walk the Earth in peace. I also saw my aunts get beat as a child, one of them even had to stay with her husband for some times because divorcing was looked down upon she was only able to leave once her brother saw just how bad it was and that he was going to kill her.
@@h8h215 But unlike women you highly likely wont end up dead, maybe your emotions will be hurt but thats it, thats part of life my emotions get hurt all the time, I've been broken hearted many times, yet femicide is a global issue but not the other way around. but men still take no accountability that women are regularly being murdered by the hands of men, its 2023 and this is still a global issue. Let that sink in 2023....
since I was a young woman, I could see that men stick together and women stick with men. I think that is why you are getting females disagreeing with the researcher's conclusions.
Women can't fix misogyny. Men won't listen to them. Only other men can fix it. By calling out men who degrade and abuse women. Who won't/don't tolerate those horrible "jokes" men tell each other about women. Men are the only ones who can fix this. We have to find a way to raise better men. Good men can help with that too.
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I spoke to a young man recently who has a business degree and who is anti the rampant aggression, war and corruption displayed in South Africa and the world. I told him about a case in the US where a fire chief - probably around 60 years of age, shot his best friend to death because he was owed money and the best friend had been making excuses for 6 months to avoid paying what was owed. This man apparently had no previous aggression or violence and told his wife "I just could not take the lying anymore". The young man commented: "Well, you know us men, when we angry, we kind of react instinctively. The anger just is there". And there you have it. The big lie told to all men and women that their violence is required because it is part of biological masculinity. Contrary to the guest in this video, I do not think male violence and misogyny is biological. It is psycho-socially learnt behaviour. Socialisation is in fact psycho-social indoctrination because children have no choice over what it is that they are learning. This young man was socialized to believe that men must be violent because it is 'just what men do.' They must not control it, because it is "instinct' and an important part of the right of males to display their displeasure in violent ways. If I had engaged further with this young man, I suspect he would have said "You have to empathise with the fire chief. The poor man had been lied to by his best friend. The best friend deserved it and the fire chief should not be punished for what he did". I suspect there would have been no understanding at all that the violent reaction was a primitive defence. There would have been no acceptance that the fire chief had many legal ways to claim what he was owed without violence. I did not point out to this young man that on the one hand he was against more group displays of violence, as war is, but seemed to support individual violence completely as a male right. There is no difference to me - one man, two, a group or a nation - all the same thing on a different scale. What I said in response to this young man was this "What you are saying is that men cannot control their words or their actions. That means that they are weak and helpless because they are victims of their own emotions". Sadly we were interrupted and I was late for an appointment so there was no chance to further the conversation.
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They're pampered, entitled children. WE are raising the children ALONE, WE are working and going to school while he sits w a beer and a video game. I can't help spoiled AND stupid.
I AGREE. Society has always held women's morality and self mature of women at a higher standards than men. Also being forced by nature to care for children has made them more mature and responsible than men.
There is a reason that neutered male animals are colloquially referred to as "fixed". With horses they jokingly refer to castration as "brain surgery". Most men need brain surgery.
Animals that are castrated are done so to be obedient to humans and less violent. Men are the ones who invented this, just like how they lobotomized women in the past who argued with them. So you really should be arguing for the lobotomization of women.
@@Changed.User100 OP makes a better point. Yours is a reach. Besides no one refers to a lobotomy as "fixed" and it's understood to have been an abusive practice.
@@Changed.User100 Lobotomization doesnt make people more obedient that is a myth it often made them very violent actually that is why they stopped doing it.
@@Chambermenz You're arguing for the surgery of mens brains just because you believe that all men are killers that want to hate all women. My comment wasnt intended to be serious, its to show you how insane you are making these claims. Please wake tf up and get some help.
@@Changed.User100so, in your mind, "violence" and "arguing" are equal. It's absolutely untrue. Everyone in any kind of relationship argues, even my cat and I have disagreements sometimes, but we don't maim or ki11 each other. Nonviolent disagreements stimulate innovation and progress, violence causes stagnation, if not regression. Your point that we should lobotomize women because they argue is sophomoric at best.
An old boyfriend once told me that I was over weight that I needed to go to a fat farm. I responded, heh, I can lose the weight, but you’re going bald!
Same happened to me , my ex was very short but was fixated on my weight. I told him I could loose the 10 pound but he would never grow any taller. I lost the biggest weight ever when I left him….
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I used to think men’s violence and inclination towards misogyny was a purely cultural phenomenon. After raising two boys, I’m convinced it’s more biological. Teaching my boys basic empathy and decency towards others was a huge task. They needed constant supervision and guidance to not be morally bankrupt.
That's so strange, because I didn't have to do that with my son, not in any way that I was conscious of or deliberately teaching. I think that's why he was bullied by some boys and had more female friends at infant and junior school levels. He didn't really fit in with the male egos.
I have one son who lacked total empathy when he was under 12. After age 13 it flipped. He has too much empathy and is so sensitive he can't hold friendships and the other son was very empathetic and kind, loving and funny before 12. Now at age 13 he is more macho and egotistical, lacks empathy, seems to think girls are all cruel and have it so much easier than boys. He complains about the inequality quite a bit and tends to scoff when I talk about women's issues. But I keep talking and keep listening. He has some legitimate grievances. I get it on some levels, but I push back at the burgeoning misogyny that I hear when I hear it. My other son wants to leave the country because of how women are treated, so I don't worry much about misogynistic notions from him lol. Kids are so different.
@@truth4004 read my comment? I keep talking and keep listening. He is surrounded by tiny Andrew Tates and I have to be careful with my approach. I ask lots of questions and try to get him to think on his own. Parenting is a marathon, not a sprint. And things are rarely just "told" to complete understanding. There is a lot of love and patience in shaping ppl, but I tell him often that it is my job to shape him as a human and I am going to check him when I see and hear things I don't agree with. But I also have to remember that he is building himself and it is a tightrope walk for both of us. I don't want to talk him into becoming the opposite of what I am trying to do for him.
I stopped going to the wave pool where I live, when I was 13, because grown men would always grope me and rub up against my body "accidentally." I was a child. I was molested a lot growing up. I don't want that for my daughter
I bet they stopped when you were an adult. Grown men love to m olest young girls the most. I can tell from personal and my female acquaintances experience.
@4651adri because they can get away with it more easily. In nature, it is not about if something is good or bad, but if a perpetrator of an immoral action can get away with it or not.
The harder the box, the more fragile the interior. Psychology explains that ppl who act with violence are actully very fragile inside. The armor is to protect their interior fragility. Have you ever seen really knowledgeable and wise individuals yell or attack others? Violence is a weapon of the weak.
You’re confused, although it holds some truth it’s not the big picture of things. Have you ever heard of the experiment with the 5 monkeys ? look it up if you’re interested but In conclusion we don’t always understand why we act the way we act, some men act strong because real men are strong.
He makes a few valid points but he's wrong plus he doesn't understand fallen mankind. That includes woman kind. He doesn't know the Lord Jesus. He's not saved.
He's not wrong, he's right. And how the hell do you know if he knows the Lord or not? Don't assume. He is giving women answers to questions they've asked for centuries. How do you know Jesus did not send him to enlighten the masses and give women hope?@@danilaroche1156
I’m the proud mother we two boys. Their ages are 29 and 18. I’ve always had a close relationship with them. They have seen my struggles as well as my love. They’ve always been aware. And now they are aware in their own relationships. It starts with the first woman in their lives and how she teaches them to love.
@@Live1959-y7b I think I'm going that same path, you see? I'm sad. I always wanted a family, but finding a good man nowadays is very hard, especially one who doesn't see me as an object, but as a real person. I want a man who values my intelligence and my personality, not only my body or what I can give to them. I feel sad that I may never find this man and that I may never have my own family, but I don't want to go through what my mom goes through with my dad since I was a little girl. They always argued and most of it definitely was because of my dad not being able to treat my mother right. I know my dad has his own past history, he had traumas because of how his dad treated him and that's why he's like that. See how everything is because of a man's fault? It's a cycle. Real, honored man is really hard to find nowadays.
@@ingrid5944 I'd like you to elaborate on the part when you say "values my intelligence and personality and not just my body and what I can give them" because I've been seeing this being said and I want to know if possibly I was doing the same thing but didn't recognize that I was doing it
Incase you haven't noticed, there are psychologists who are refusing to take on male patients because of the reasons the gentleman in the video has explained.
Indeed, even in holistic circles my relative went to one recently and she said don't deal with the men anymore unless there are women present, but she wont be with them alone.
That is not ok that is discrimination. Men should have acces to mental healthcare just as women. Dont forget that there are men who are suffering and need help. They are not al mysogynistic assholes.
A man grabbed my breast in a bar. When I turned to him & attempted to grab his penis, he flinched away and got very angry! Then his FRIENDS got angry, too, on his behalf. When I asked them if it was okay for them but not me?! They were *still* angry & they did NOT get it 🙄 [Edit: I was not alone & my friends had my back as soon as it got ugly...I don't know if I would have felt safe to react the way I did if I was by myself.]
I was walking into a grocery store at night and a man was walking out of the grocery store, in his early 20s. As he walked past me he grabbed my breast. Then he ran around a corner and was out of sight before I could respond fast enough to hit him with my purse. I tried. I was stunned, felt helpless, and because I felt helpless, I felt hopeless.
@ fight or flight. My grandmother, who’s passed, once beat the crap out of a guy in a parking lot when he tried something like that with her. I wish I had inherited that, I freeze and hold my breath instead.
When men tell women that they are stupid it is really hurtful. And offensive. I had that problem with my husband. My husband yelled at me calling me stupid when i disagreed with his buddy at work who told him an old worn out old carpet in our living room could be easily fixed. The guy told him he could fluff up that old carpet by combing the pile with a fork. Maybe it might of worked if the rug had not been worn down to the carpet's backing. I just said i did not think that would work. So he started screaming at me i was wrong and stupid. And then he grabbed a fork and started trying to comb the carpet. Nope. It did not work. Did he admit he was wrong or apologize? Nope. That is one of the many reasons we are no longer together. The feeling of relief was amazing when he was gone. He pulled that "you are stupid" comment way too many times. He did feel insecure about intelligence. In an unrelated incident, both me and my husband had to take a IQ test for some reason and my husband hid his results. I was very pleased with my results since i tested high. One day i found his results and he was a lot lower in his score. If i remember correctly he was around 105 or 110. Around 35 points lower than mine. Just a few points but it must have made him feel really insecure.
@karenteneyck9835 well, I am still in the house we bought. He wanted me to be on the street with nothing but I refused to leave and I said no when we were in court for the divorce. It was the first time I saw what he wanted out of the divorce. Everything. And he thought I would be ok with his offer of a run down trailer with rotten holes in the floor and a year of lot rent. Before this happened he met some German woman online and he cleaned out the bank accounts, sold all his cars, sold the airstream camper, etc. He left one day without telling me anything. But my oldest daughter had gotten nosy and looked on his computer and seen their emails to each other. He was planning on going to Germany and getting a job over there. The Germans didn't want him taking one of his jobs so he couldn't get work there. After three months he came back but he didn't move back in. He bought himself a trailer, bought another to rent out, and bought some land in another area of the state. I had found out when the house had been paid off that he took my name off the deed. We had been together since I was 19. I had ended up being a housewife because I couldn't afford childcare. I'm 67 now. When he left I had read a book on divorce and it said not to leave the home because he could take it. He had taken so much from me so I decided not to give up the house. That German woman dumped him because she said she was not going to live in the US because she hated the food, the people and the country. The divorce didn't go through because I said no to what he wanted. He was too cheap to pay his lawyer to start another divorce. So we aren't divorced, we are separated. I am considering hiring a lawyer myself to see what I can do to sell the house. I would like to move somewhere that has cheap healthcare. Now that I have social security I have some money and get a lawyer this time. I will miss my yard with all the trees and bushes I have planted over the years, but I'm tired of being in the same place. I want to explore a new place. ( I would love to visit the UK. There is so much interesting stuff I want to see there. And it's cooler there than SC. I can't take the heat anymore.) Two of my kids don't understand why we are separated, but the other two understand and are ok with it. Sorry I wrote so much and made this long.
I know he says this is a men’s issue, however I don’t think men are ever going to self reflect if women keep enabling this. We have to stop coddling and encouraging violent and misogynistic men. Of course, it’s not on us at the end of the day, and men are never going to take us seriously when we tell them what we’re experiencing. But far too many women are perpetuating this too. And it’s just as much a problem. I simply don’t see anything changing until women first, as a whole decide to stop allowing it in our spaces. We can’t control men but we can shut them out.
As a woman in the west I almost 100% guarantee that the dislikes are from angry, single men who can't get a woman to want to stay with him because we are tired of the constant misogyny in our society and culture.
@Wholesome Succubi 💘 as a man I can say is that religion pushes the agenda of misogyny like Christianity/Islam etc. Other than that the double standards of men not being judged for sleeping around and their "worth" doesn't decay while for women is the opposite, women are expected to serve men, only looked as that their purpose of existence is to give children and many other things.
He is telling men, but they are not listening, as usual. I am seeing it happen now - women are getting tired, they will stop getting married or having children, and simply consider men nugatory.
@@h8h215so many men do not want parters. They say “I want someone submissive and obedient”. Like they’re describing a dog you get at a shelter. Women just want to be treated as human beings and men take that as a slight against them somehow…
And yet it is men who are being pressured to "man up" and get married! Ladies, if you like, stop getting married. Afterall, there are men who are opting out of relationships altogether.
It seems okay for men to call misogyny out but when women do it, its a problem. Its a problem when women call out misogyny because men want women to see them only as charming, heroes, saviors, and dominant because they want physical and emotional access to women. If women are turned off, we can do without intimacy and male attention for years/decades. Men rely on women trusting them so they can maintain access.
@h8h215 Off the market. But if something happens in my relationship, I'll be turned off from men. I already am. I'll be fine with my kids and pets. Only stress I'll deal with is from children. Pets actually lower blood pressure and promote activities such as walks and getting fresh air.
I respectfully disagree with you. The majority of men do not hate women. The majority of men do not have children. The majority of men are not selected by women. So, when women talk about "misogyny," they are imposing the behaviour of a psychotic minority on MOST men. They are tarring men who literally have no dealings with women with this label. Do you like being falsely accused? Do you enjoy being slandered? I suspect no. Also suggesting men "calling out misogyny" get more respect because they're men is a lie, designed to reinforce the men hate women rhetoric. Which is also a lie. This whole movement (alongside red pill, MRA, feminist misandry e.t.c) is completely toxic and dysfunctional.
Gosh how refreshing to listen to a man who recognises that the problem of misogyny lies within men. Women can and do sometimes feel as angry and murderous as men but we are more skilled at managing effectively anger and other feelings such as fear. Men have to be willing to learn how to take more responsibility for their own feelings and behaviours if they want to be better humans.
That’s it exactly. It is individual men and male population’s responsibility to (a) awaken to awareness of their inadequacies, and (b) work to improve THEMSELVES, not keep expecting women to adjust and just accept them.
I have a female primary doctor but this does not mean I can fully trust her since many women have the Athena complex which is being part and defending the patriarchy. My sisters was having excruciating headaches for a long time. Doctors dismissed as stress, by the time she had an MRI the tumor found in her brain was to overgrown to remove. She died in a few short months.
I’m so sorry about your sister. ❤️🩹Gaslighting is so common in the healthcare system. I’ve experienced it myself. We have to advocate for ourselves strongly even with female practitioners.
Women who have the Athena complex are what I call girly men. They look like women on the outside but are adolescent boys on the inside. They tend to be passive-aggressive but can be outright hostile in certain situations, usually when they want to publicly humiliate another woman.
When I asked a manager @ The New York Times for a raise, after I had worked for him for three years, he, weirdly, referred to HIMSELF as "Daddy Bear " and he told me that I could "never get into bed" with him. What?! I asked for more pay, not sex with him! Blech! 😮
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Men aren't afraid of women unconsciously. Men who are wounded take their pain and anger out on us because it's easier than doing the work of emotional development.
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I agree with you. Of course, everyone can have unconscious fear (Women may be afraid of men, men may be afraid of women), but in general I doubt that this is common in the population.
This really explains why my channel is able to exist and why I have been peacefully single for almost 3 years. When I think of dating, I feel drained, scared and like it is bleak. I feel it is very unlikely I will meet someone I will actually like or who will genuinely like me as a woman. Essentially, the genders are coexisting for convenience of sex, finances and children. Otherwise, after so many years, do we really like each other? I'd say no which is why half marriages end in divorce and many of them end within the first 7 years of marriage, when the sex begins to wane and things get a bit more routine and boring. I think we, humans, have been lied to with the fairy tales. We all know they aren't real, yet, women are still looking for their prince while males seem to be looking for a 1960s housewife stereotype. As I study this and continue to realize this, I become more comfortable with my Singlehood and find happiness in so many other things, including hobbies and finding meaning/purpose in my life and that keeps me fulfilled and busy with life.
I'm glad you've found contentment, that's the important thing, no matter what. My theory on why the divorce rate is so high (based on personal experience, I guess and what I have observed in others as well) is that people are put under enormous pressure to be with a person whom their friends/family agree with, as opposed to someone who actually meets their needs. My husband and I (I've been happily married since 2016) are both quite stubborn, assertive people & so when people had their little whinge that we didn't quite 'match' or 'look good together' (or whatever other petty concerns or jealousies they all carried on with), frankly, we didn't give a s**t. As far as we were concerned we were (and still are) very compatible together (in every way) and if the world doesn't understand that well f**k 'em. My husband was even disowned by his family for marrying me and when we got the email from his Mum as to why it was basically "well you wouldn't change your wedding for me on two days' notice so I don't like you anymore". People meddle so so much in other people's relationships! I saw an article recently where people were whinging online that a woman married to a basketballer was "too overweight for him" - and everyone was getting upset about that! Who cares!!! I think if we just let people choose who they actually want in the first place (even if it's someone who's a little overweight, or a different skin colour, or *gasp* do what I do and marry a geek [I'm quite sapio so I've always loved geeks]) we need to just let people be.
This video is a validation of what I’ve always thought. It’s men who brutalise women, children and each other, start all manner of conflicts and wars, all while refusing to acknowledge and take responsibility for their behaviour and blaming women for how they think and what they do as well and it’s been this way since the dawn of time.
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Misogyny is very rooted in old organized religions. I am frankly excited at this enlightenings towards setting aside all the blockages we have to healthy relationships between man and woman ---- in all aspects of life.
In Saudi Arabia we’ve been dealing with such brutal types of misogynistic monsters that if you just remove the niqab from your face you will be beaten and subjected to even more violence💔
All of that is about them because they can't control their hormones and even then they still SA you, its horrific, our freedom is your freedom, and we are working so all women planet wide can be free and make their own free will choice, every woman on Earth deserves that, to choose her own path. free of male tyranny. You deserve it. I hope the day comes where we can all unite together. Remember part of the work starts from within. The divine feminine is rising and they can't stop whats coming. Its bigger than all of us.
I notice this too. I watch a lot of sports videos. A woman can be an amazing athlete and there will ALWAYS be comments about men being better athletes. It's pathetic when you see a woman lift a lot weight and you can count on men saying that's light weight for men they can lift so much more. Yeah, men have more capacity for muscle and biological advantages, we fucking know. That doesn't take away from the fact that the woman is strong. She is working within her strength potentional as a female, and excelling, and are still disrespected for it like it means nothing. They don't even think about how a woman lifting this much is the equivalent of a man lifting more because she is working within her strength capacitiy as a woman cause they drool at the chance to put them down.
I sat in on a business meeting as the only woman there. I suggested we go around the table to introduce ourselves. The moderator introduced himself and skipped over me, as if it was not important for my introduction. I had to step in to introduce myself.
The way they show disrespect and hatred is of pure evil nature it shocks me every time it's like excuse me sir? You came from a woman humble yourself!!
Lately I have been finding myself in situations where men ask me my age and if I am single and then get angry when they learn I am 37 with no husband or kids. A few have gotten extremely defensive and basically told me I am a feminist or that I like to live for myself. It especially rubs me the wrong way because it's not my preference. Just never found the right person.
They’re upset that you’re not letting a man and/or children use you. Men live for themselves whether they have kids or not; you have a right to live for yourself.
@mysteriousvirgo6552 It's just crazy and was quite unexpected. I do know some codependent men however; and they found their way to narcissistic women of course
The funny thing is that I notice a similar situation, only in reverse, when women are angry. Of course, differences in society can influence this, but it is obvious that there are similar people among both men and women.
Things will change when there are SOCIAL consequences for XYs of the human population who disrespect women. That means that as a woman you remove these people from your social circle irl and online if they disrespect women. It also means that we need to create separate societies where if you harm others, you don't get to live among those who are not sociopaths or psychopaths like you.
I promise i came to this conclusion last year, after watching family members and husband and male co's, and even the internet. I had never paid attention before. But I mentioned their was something going on in men that was off. I'm not psychologist so I didn't have the background but I was def putting it together that they aren't normal especially bc they hold so much in. Women have talks to each others, read books, pray to release issues and self sooth men just sit there messed up most times. Don't talk about deep issues afraid of being judged , so they try to mask it with control, drugs, fighting etc
It angers me to the core and saddens at the same time that throughout history women have been been severly abused and raped and beaten and tortured and stoned and burned at the stake and been forced to wear shackles on their heads and other body parts and forced into genital mutilation and been forced to submit to unwanted sex from dominating partners only to endure many pregnancies and children because there was no contraception to lower class females only to tragically die young. It unwittingly places me in a position to hate men. Yet I know not all men were or are evil that way. It's hard to separate the two. I hate yet I also pity these men. The day women are totally empowered is the day men have feared the most.
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@@h8h215the common and consistent factor being men's violence. In both men and women, violence is a response to fear, whether real or imagined. Often used as a tool to satisfy the unhealthy need to control others. Women's equality is not dominance over men, and it's not a threat to men's safety. It's only a threat to men's unhealthy expectation of superiority and control over others.
Misogyny is taught mainly due to religious and societal manipulation. The main reason I heard that was given is because men feel it's a woman who led to mankind's downfall because of what Eve did. Meanwhile, they refuse to see that Adam was just as guilty. Fortunately, I've had only one man in my life who thought he could do whatever he wanted. I dumped him and chose myself as a priority over abuse. In religion, it's taught. 2 billion men believe it's ok to murder, r@pe and abuse women. Absolutely no respect for them whatsoever. This mentality molds society into the same beliefs. Hollywood does a pretty good job as well, portraying women as prostitutes and only good for the bedroom and kitchen. Not to mention the porn industry. What you're watching isn't a healthy sexual activity between a man and woman, rather, it's sexual abuse, and rampant human trafficking.
Sadly most men will only view this as an attack and make all the excuses as to why they are the way they are. With great conviction how the issue is everything but them refusing to look at the faulty thinking they are exhibiting. Wome. Dont get this grace , when we have daddy issues they tell women to choose better to override our emotions , to think clearly but here they are refusing to do the same. Just because you dont express and acknowledge your emotions doesnt mean you arent ruled by them.
They resent the fact that good-looking, successful women do not want men who are unattractive and unsuccessful. And then, unattractie, unsuccessful women (who they think should throw themselves at them), in their great majority, don't want them either and prefer to stay single.
Blame Family Guy, Simpsons, King of the hill, King of Queens, Family Matters, married with children, all the shows that show men that they are deserving of the home queen
...yes, .in spite of all logic. Truly gorgeous girls are maybe a handful in every community. The 3 or 4 stunners I went to school with finished in the hands of manipulating predators. The ones who did best were the clever ones with average looks.@@DowntownMeganBrown
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I work in an office with several misogyn men. One work-mate told me that he is angry at his mother because she divorced the father after a physical assoult. He said the assoult "was not so bad". He also said women are best between 18-24 because until then the man can "form" them.😮 At 25 your frontal lobe is fully developed and you got some life experience your belt and are not bloody naiv anymore and this is when you become less attractive to men who want to "form" you, submit you and use you for their benefit. I felt sick to my stomach hearing that from him.....I used to really like this work-mate. Another work-mate sexually harassed me like crazy. It was disgusting. Thank got he got fired (for this and many other reasons). The next work-mate feels butthurt that I friendly rejected his sexual advances. He recently tried to humiliate me in front of our team by telling something that I trusted him with in privat. I dont feel emotionally safe or comfortable at work. I plan on leaving there. But until then I need thick skin and a strong mind
Good luck, that sounds awful! I would add that misogyny is not just a male brain disease - despite this guy's ramblings. Underneath the hatred is a strongly held belief, backed up by a long history of cultural and legal structures - that women are inferior, and should be subservient to men. Misogyny is what happens when women inevitably refuse to stay in that role.
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It takes two to tango. This whole idea that women are the ones in charge of consent in a relationship pushes narratives that men can't be s*xually abused. Both men and women are responsible with who they live their lives with.
This is an incredibly important line of discourse. Thank you for broadcasting it...I know south African women particularly appreciate this kind of validation.
I left South Africa 6 years ago because of the misogyny. I chose Germany because Angela Merkel was the leader at the time. German women have definitely been an example on how to be strong and assert myself.
Women would soon succumb to the forces of nature while men would survive until the male population died off. Watch the Bear Grylls survival experiment separating men and women into different groups. Women are great, but not required for survival beyond repopulation. Men have obtained the food and build the structures that makes human survival possible in a dangerous world.
I can’t tell yall how despite how lonely, single, and poor I am how many men will aggressively and insultingly accuse me of being like a jezebal seductress gold digger. It feels so weird and hurts my feelings. 😢
They are projecting their own selfishness and self-loathing onto you. It isn’t you. It’s them. They are sadistic bcuz they can’t stand themselves and misery loves company. It’s hard, but don’t internalize it. You know your heart and it’s good.
Don’t ever internalize what they say about as if that’s who you are. Men get intimidated when they see an attractive woman like yourself and find ways to project their insecurities onto you. It says a lot more about them than it ever does about you. Don’t ever think to change yourself to try to make them comfortable because their view of you will not change. A good person will see good in others and the same applies to bad people will see the bad in others. They’re projecting onto you. I’m rooting for you
No smoke without fire as they say. What are you doing to make them think that you are a gold digger? Could it be that men are just waking up to the fact that all women, (or nearly all, coz there are always some exceptions), are essentially "gold diggers". After all you seek out men with money and status then get offended when men notice that you are really only interested in them because of the wealth they have. We are not blind. We see that women want a man with money, and given that you describe yourself as poor, it may be very obvious indeed that you are after a rich man to change your lifestyle for the better. I'm not disrespecting you, I mean no one wants to be poor. Besides it makes sense for a woman to seek out a man who has the best chance of supporting her and her future offspring. That is just the nature of sexual selection for women. Naturally men will criticise women for it, because to them it seems "shallow" and contrary to the idea of " true love" that we have all been fed since childhood. Of course the reverse is true as well. How often have we heard women criticise men for what they see as superficial obsession with youth and appearance? But again this is just what men want from a woman from a sexual selection point of view. We don't care about what money you have, we only care that you are fit and attractive and willing to have sex, but we don't want to marry the town bicycle either. We get a lot of crap from women about "double standards" but the fact is sex is different for men than for women. A man does not want to have a woman who has given herself to lots of men. Why? Well it's obvious is it not? How she behaved in the past is an indication of how she will behave in the future. If she is always looking for the next guy to bang then she is a bad bet for a wife. Besides, if she has been with a lot of men in the local area and has gotten herself a reputation, this will diminish his status in the community. Why would he want that? It is just a simple matter of both sexes having different priorities when it comes to finding a mate. It is what it is and it is not going to change anytime soon. Men and women will both complain but it is just reality. No point crying about it.
@@Thereferencepoint Nah, that's not how projection works, sweetie. Go ahead, look it up. Projection is when you accuse someone else of the exact thing that you are doing. So why would a rich man accuse a poor woman of being after his money when that's not what he wants from a woman. The fact is men know that women want their money. Sometimes it is just super obvious and other times it's more subtle, but we all know it, and that makes you mad, because you know it's not a good look. If a woman is really poor but is pretty and humble and pleasant to be with we may decide to give her a chance, because we are not after her money. However if she lacks these endearing qualities or simply makes it too obvious that she is looking for money, she will most likely get the boot. We men are not as stupid as you seem to think we are. It's not " insecurity" it's simply self preservation. Who wants a gold digger? Doesn't matter how pretty she is, she is bad news.
@@wingnut71it's hatred,psychopathy,sadism and narcissism whatever you try to lie with your empty words will not be heard anymore,,we already know how your psychology works
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Oh my. He’s hit the nail perfectly on the head. What’s more pertinent is the weaker the men on a societal level, with an extremely limited emotional toolkit, the greater the misogyny and violence.
Most of the mental health issues me and my female friends suffer from are traumas inflicted on us by men. I'm so tired. I am 57 and find myself spending a lot of time trying to help younger women recognise, stop accepting and then escape abusive men - before they end up murdered.
My daughter unfortunately was treated by my father appallingly . We where homeless due to floods , my mum passed away in this 3 months that we lived there . To have police knock on the hotel door , l confronted his behaviour . They don't like that the Mask had slipped..
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@@thebluetrain6797If you're just going to sit there bellowing vice-versa, that's the exact opposite of taking responsibility. You're still entirely focused on what women are or aren't doing.
And women need to stop blaming men for their own financial failure. Instead of demanding equal pay, go out and earn it. Nobody is stopping you from working 100+ hours a week like every other self made billionaire.
This is exactly what I have come to realize in old age. It's obvious to me but if I state it to my women friends, they are hesitant to accept it. I guess that has to do with their love for their male friends and family. I love my sons and grandsons too but I still know they're flawed. Religion has allowed misogyny to proliferate for millennia. Control of women has been essential for the power of men.
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24:00 YES YES YES!! This man has said what I have been saying to men all these years in the dating world that they just can't come to grips with. WE WANT EMOTIONALLY INTELLIGENT MEN WHO HAVE THE CAPACITY TO RELATE. This also means being able to show emotional vulnerability with us, because that is what leads into true intimacy.
Do you? What does that mean? What does emotionally intelligent look like? Do you want us to cry more? Listen more? Spill our guts more? I don't think you really want to hear about our problems, you just want empathy from us about yours.
@@bobleglob162I think it’s less about sharing problems, and more about self-reflection…examining how your actions/reactions and emotions affect those around you, why you react in certain ways or to certain things. When you understand the reason, and remain aware, you can choose to act differently if necessary, so that any children will have a healthy model of behavior AND you are choosing to act in a way that helps improve a situation or move you toward what you really want, instead of being unproductive or destructive. It’s not just a men or women thing, it’s both. Everyone could stand to do some self-reflection.
Bc men need women. Without women, men will d!3 off. Read into men developing inflammation after a breakup and how men can’t be single longer then 2years
@@TGFriosania23 this is why womens standards should remain so high to either remain single and let the demons die off alone or give a good spritually alligned man, who did the hard work to reject his biological makeup, a chance to prove his worth to you. even in this scenario, marriage should be abolished no matter how "good" the guy is and women should opt for adoiption rather than having biological children. risking your life and well being of your body to have kids form a guy who may not remain the same guy is a very risky move.
@@h8h215 yeah - it's hard not to feel defensive and attacked. But that's not their narrative. What you call "blaming" is a necessary step in the process of freeing yourself from your abuser. So they ARE taking responsibility for themselves, working out they have been sold a sociologically conditioned lie, told to love the prince, and then find all this grotesque, distorted, twisted and secretly concealed sadism inside. Then they leave. Sounds like responsibility to me? But where are men taking responsibility for their sadistic behaviour? Do you? I think I tried in the video - especially towards the end...
This is a vital discussion. It is beyond my grasp as to why - men who are intelligent and well read big thinkers - never question their own prejudices to women🤷♀️
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Men being misogynistic is why I am happier being single. Agree there is rape culture. I was raped and had a strong case but he was acquitted because the Defense said I was an escort. I was so humiliated. Only 1% of rapists are convicted.
@@Momiji-e8k I’m sure they do. They don’t like having light shined on things they prefer to keep in darkness. I’m sorry that happened to you. Please find a healthy environment. 🩷
Modern men are pissed off about the fact that modern jobs no longer require brute strength. They require refined intellect, finese, and communication skills. All traits that women have more of.
The ITTMind channel was set up primarily as a mental health channel. Due to the numerous requests for more videos on the psychological/psychoanalytic analysis adopted in this "Misogyny" video, a new channel has (finally) been set up: the Empty Chair: keeping the mind in mind. It will be focussed on three areas in the psychological shadow of masculinity: misogyny, racism, fascism.
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Apologies to all of you who have waited so long and so patiently! And thanks to all of you who have listened and commented so attentively. I hope we can continue the conversation in a more appropriate space. See you soon!
I can tell you a lot of women align themselves with misogyny if women were on board with women's freedom misogyny wouldn't have lasted so long
@@QuincyJacobs-i8h I would love to get into that - but I tried to hold the focus on the male psyche for now....tough though that is. Hope to see you on the new channel.
@QuincyJacobs-i8h I disagree with "aligned"...in too many instances, there isn't much of an option--it's a matter of survival! Likened to Stockholm Syndrome. More options today, but for eons, there were no other choices! Imho. 😊
@@QuincyJacobs-i8h because they were programmed under the patriarchy and need to feed children
Excellent!
As soon as a man sees a confident woman with boundaries and who is smart he will try to destroy her because his ego can’t handle the cognitive dissonance of reality vs his beliefs.
True
It's happened over and over in my life
Preach, sister!!!
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lol that’s what you believe….wow best of luck with that.
Mysogyny is a taught behavior just like racism. My grandfather was a misogynist, and my father, and my brothers. Babies are not born hateful.
Babies are totally dependent on on women from day one up to say 10 years of age. Is that why so many men are misogynistic?
@jandrews6254 Sons look up to their fathers for guidance and look up to them as a template on how to act.
This is true. Also some people are predisposed to adopt this behavior while others are not
@@jandrews6254babies are dependent on the mother and the father. Children look to them for cues on how to interact with others. Then there is the other arenas such as school and religion that lay down “rules and behaviors. No “baby is raised only in an environment by one person only. 🙄
just picked up a book by Dorothy Dinnerstien (spelling?) that puts forth this very idea…written in the 70’s at the beginning of feminist movement. Sadly, the author died right after publication. Haven’t read it yet, just snippets, fascinating so far.
It's hard wired by society itself. How many dumb movies of old men get "rewarded" a much younger and beautiful woman at the end of an action movie? You never see the reverse true because society holds men and women to different standards. Women always have to be responsible and morally right and hard working plus be submissive eye candy, while men can do whatever the heck they want (plus ignore basic hygiene or physical appearance). It's grotesque.
YES!! You see it all the time in American movies. The woman is usually a lot younger looking than the man.
@@louisecampbell2628 And the man is usually inches taller than the woman.
The emotionally healthiest man I know was raised by two working parents. On the nights his wife worked, as a nurse, her husband made dinner, make sure the children were bathed and put them to bed. They were equal partners and there were no gender assigned chores in that household. I sent my mother-in-law flowers every year on my husband birthday to thank her.
That struck very close to home for me. Glad to hear :)
So lovely, what a peach he is. My late husband also abhorred all unkindness to either males or females. He had a special bond to his mother who spent years of cruelty and neglect and I think this influenced his thinking. But I believe both sexes are capable of unkindness
He sounds like my father.
@@lindabennett6597 this isn’t about both sexes …. Let’s take it where we can … let’s not gaslight
@@debrawilliams1693 I am appalled you would accuse me of gaslighting. But to deny that some women are as capable of cruelty as some males is ridiculous. I would remind you that there were female as well as male guards in dachau
I heard of a study that asked what each gender feared the most from the opposite gender. Men answered what they feared the most from their female partners was being laughed at; while what women feared the most from their male partners, was being killed.
This 😢
I read that too. Great point.
You are quite a comedian.
I've heard that, too. Ego vs survival. Says everything. I saw a meme: Man to woman: If there were no men anymore, who would protect you? Woman to man: From whom?
Meaning, the only thing any of us, all genders, needs protecting from, is men.
And they’re as afraid of being laughed at as we are of being killed. 🙃
I had a male friend in high school who told me that everything a man does is done to try to have sex. I didn't want to believe it then, and couldn't. It has taken me a long time to come to terms with this truth, and only after going through so much trauma with men. It makes me sad. I love connecting with people through conversation. I hate feeling like I can't really do that with half the population because there may be some ulterior motive.
Aging doesn't even help. If they don't want in your pants, they want a mommy to coddle and coo at them, tell them how smart and exceptional they truly are. It's utterly EXHAUSTING
Yeah or just this very miserable cycle of thinking you are falling in love, building a real relationship with goals and dreams of a future with the man, all for it to be about sex. And him brutally or coldly (quietly) discarding you, or physically harming you to end it. Sad😢
@@lights6865 True ! My guess is because they want to secure themselve financially by trapping a successful woman, ideally one that will take care of them, the kids and be the main supplier. I've seen that happen !
That doesn’t mean the brain is disordered or different. It could be hormonal.
There are plenty of men who want meaningful relationships. You are likely a typical average girl who is going for guys way out of your league. Then blaming all men. The data proves women are going for men way out of their league btw. There are studies proving this from dating websites.
Can we talk about the link between religion and misogyny?
they are absolutely linked.
The bibles
You and I, sure we can. Christians are however yet not even able to properly adress the CSA in their institutions, so I doubt we are ready to tackle something as complex as misoginy within religion.
@@h8h215I think we may have been misinformed. The netherlands is a country with basically no religion, but they have with the decline of religion become a less criminal and more caring society towards the less fortunate.
Also, divorce rates amongst christians is between 30-50 percent, depending on if you are a protestant or catholic.
For atheists the divorce rate is at 3%.
Maybe we stop telling people that non-religious people are more prone to divorce, because then people actually look up the statistics and realize that the people who make the most excuses for divorce are christians.
@@h8h215 how long ago did they release the avengers endgame movie which entire idea was built on the idea that overpopulation is an inevitable problem? Wasn't that long ago when people insisted that overpopulation is a massive issue, and I remember telling people then, that the curve has been flattening for a while, and they were lazy about looking into actual statistics, only to nowadays inform me there is a going to be an impending horror that is the decline of birthrates. I really have to wonder how many of these people have paid attention in uni to actually learn about statistical analysis, to actually understand the statistics and not weaponize numbers whenever it is convenient for their cause.
Where in the bible does it say you should have children? I remember hearing that the bible promotes a relationship with god, and one should be celibate for that, but if that is impossible, you should only have one partner to support you in your worship of god. At least that is how one scholar of theology once explained to me, but maybe he was studying a different bible.
Why is it such a problem that birthrates are now for the first time showing some decline rather than an increase? Is it because you think humans will go extinct, or because this is actually a symptom of a bigger problem that is, the proof of the fact that society is not striving to be religious anymore, a problem only experienced as one by religious people?
Also, to have mentioned it, secular societies are caring for their homeless, caring for thy neighbour so to speak and they form very healthy communities, you can observe this across the board. Religiousnes excuses poverty, no normal human has been trained to justify a suffering person as much as the religious do.
So does it really take a man to explain misogyny?? And women do not emasculate men. Men's insecurities about their own masculinity causes them to feel emasculated.
Thanks for listening. The modelling is psychoanalytic. If men were psychologically secure, they would not feel emasculated by women or allow themselves to be emasculated by other men. I hope you can join the new channel where the topic is opened out more than was possible in this 30 mins pilot test video:
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Jackson Katz (and a few other men in the USA) have been working with men for decades with a sane non-misogynistic reality based approach. The first clue is this guy is using Psychoanalysis, Freud was a misogynist. Junk in junk out.
Gosh, how confusing it must be for anyone to hate what they also desire
The beauty and mystery of the universe. Makes it impossible to walk away from this problem. We have to transcend, but together.
Yep, being a man like that has to be exhausting. It's never enough for them, they're never and never will be satisfied.
@@hineraable Sounds like YOU and your sister Amber Heard.
@@angelomercure3747 What? How so? I only said that being a man who hates women yet desires them sounds exhausting, because a man like that would never be satisfied or happy, how is this wrong, hating what you desire seems exhausting period. Also, I know nothing about Amber Heard.
@@angelomercure3747another guy that’s angry he hasn’t gotten the supermodel he thinks he deserves 🤣
Hatred is often tangled up with fear, and it's just natural to fear someone you repress because the question becomes what will their rebellion look like?
That is the most intelligent comment in this whole thread.
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Love this!!! Right on 💗
@@EyeLean5280 they think we'd subjugate them, like they do us, if we got into power.
This is so true. Misogyny is deeply psychological it’s not something you can just turn off
Germane Greer once observed, "Women have no idea how much men hate them." When I was young I thought that was ridiculously dark, now I'm not so sure.
I would just like to point out that men do have a connection to the land and creation via farming and gardening - not to take away from his points but, more, to shout out my very kind and mellow farmer friends.
Yea, but farming and gardening is probably how this all started. Going from small roaming groups of hunters and gatherers who worked together we went to villages, now cities full with thousands, even millions of people. This must have had an enormous impact mentally, physically and socially. No other species on earth is living like this.
as a woman who's constantly confronted by misogyny off and online, the content of this video was very cathartic. the hatred of women is so normalized to me, it's nice to be reminded i am actually a person and deserve the same respect as a man (this alone is revolutionary to maybe 90% of the men i interact with online as well as all the important men in my life). there have been and continue to be so many attempts to take something as basic as my humanity away from me and, every time, it's disgusting and pushes me further from men to the point where i truly believe my life is better without them.
They are spiritually behind women, and deep down they know it-
@@katherinechase3674💯💯💯
they operate from lower chakras, not higher--divine feminine energy is entering this planet and they are losing it even more
Exactly. Women are human beings, so being perceived and treated as human -without need to remind others (women included 😤) of that- would be wonderful.
I bristle at word femicide. Murder of a woman. Please, call it homicide. Murder of a human. No-one calls murder of a man- an andracide.
@@mamamiabenjamia My life is much better without them! My belief is that it's a mother's responsibility to her daughters to explain about males to the best of her ability and if she can't find someone who's capable! My mom explained absolutely nothing! I mean zero! And this doctor explained my dad to a tee! I've been diagnosed with PTSD, am traumatized, a recovering alcoholic and drug addict with 33 years of continuous sobriety and being clean. I'm grateful every single day for getting the message and then putting in the footwork one day at a time! Not every one should be a parent!
Honestly this video has somewhat radicalized me. It has made me realize that these issues are not just me or a handful of women- it is the female experience, no matter where you are in the world.
Precisely 👊🏻🫂🩷
You don’t become radicalized when you simply finally see the world as it is. What you do with that knowledge is what will make you radical, or not.
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Working with almost all men for three decades...it always baffled me why they incessiantly put me down or were dismissive having never said a cross word to them. Especially since i was grossly outnumbered. It took a long time to realize that they were, incredibly, afraid of me on some level. Constant posturing and sexual comments as a weapon. Exhausting for everyone. I still feel great about myself - but has taken a lot of mental gymnastics. I know some strong men, but its not the norm in my world.
I am a woman going into a male dominated field and am just preparing myself for that. I've heard so many stories of disrespect and about men trying to sabotage a woman learning and advancing in her career.
My career was in a male-dominated field as well. Looking back on my experiences, I see an interesting dynamic on why women should not smile at insecure men at work: Under a certain age, they think you're flirting with them. Over a certain age, they think you're laughing at them. Luckily, not all my male co-workers were insecure.... it was easy to figure them out quickly.
Strange I got along fine with my coworkers and bosses that were male. I did however have a few women who were catty, mean girl types and saboteurs. I think that whoever you work with , if they see you as a threat in some way they will behave in a bad way either directly or indirectly.
“Man’s afraid woman will laugh at him. Woman’s afraid man will kill her.” Handmaids tale
This might be older than that show. But in any case, I want to trade.
@@jjohnsengraciesmomthe book came long before the show
I notice a lot of men become so bitter when they get rejected by women. Bitterness is dangerous.
it's also a profound psychological lack of development - technically, an "immaturity" to use Donald Winnicott's phrase. Thanks for listening.
Just as much as when you ask her for a body count
It can take the smallest thing for a woman to see a man’s rage. And daily.
@@wingnut71 thanks for engaging with this - and a lot of your observations will be opened out much more in the new channel (pinned above) which I hope you might subscribe to.
What you describe as the aggregate emotional effects of rejection as a 'bitterness' is what Winnicott termed 'immaturity' which is a psychological-emotional lack of development due to either deprivation or abuse. He used it first to analyse delinquency in children after World War 2 in London who had lost either family or homes and were placed in unsupervised care homes. So 'immaturity' (as indicated in my comment) is being used technically and refers to Winnicott.
How that plays out in what happens to men being rejected by women requires way more space than what we have here - hence the new channel. Hope to see you there.
@@inthesetimesspeakingforthemind "lack of psychological development" and "immaturity" sound very perjorative terms if you ask me. Perhaps this was intentional as the purpose of this channel appears to be the for the airing of misandrous content. I mean, are girls that develop eating disorders described in the same manner or are they treated with care, concern, love? But a boy becomes bitter and angry, all he will get is scorn, and this will just increase his anger and alienation. It's like telling the anorexic that they are indeed fat and they need to eat less.
I was recently contemplating why the majority of pro-lifer/anti-abortion appear to be men. The beginning of this video gave me so much clarity on it and why their hatred for it is rooted in misogyny. Men are indeed jealous, intimidated and frustrated by the fact that women have this exclusive ability create life and be one with the universe. Pregnancy is a unique experience they can never truly understand or control, so when we choose to terminate a pregnancy - which they perceive as an act of violence (a very male trait), I'm sure it threatens their sense of power. Their disdain for it is both a reaction to their exclusion and projection of their own association with violence.
The ability to give birth is not a trait that is "superior" in any way.
You NEED men to give birth in the first place, the pro-choice are arguing against violence these sick women that think it is "funny" to terminate a child.
Men are saying women are not responsible with this God given gift, not that they feel jealous of it.
@@Changed.User100 Absolutely nothing I said implies that I think being able to get pregnant makes women superior. This is about recognizing the control dynamics in the abortion debate. Many pro-life men are driven by more than just protecting this "God-given gift", but rather motivated by a desire to control a unique ability that women possess.
Termination is a difficult, and often traumatizing choice. If there are women who find it funny, I believe they fall into one of two groups: The first, as you claim, genuinely "sick" women who have psychopathic tendencies - which is so rare that society sensationalizes it whenever it happens, proving my original point about men/societal perception. Or it’s women who use humor as a coping mechanism to take back control, often in the form of memes, designed to trigger men - not a reflection of how they feel in the moment of choice.
As for responsibility. It’s funny how often impending deadbeat dads, just overall unsupportive men are a significant reason why some women choose to terminate in the first place. Responsibility goes both ways, and you’d do well to remember that. But if we really want to talk about superiority, we can definitely discuss how vastly superior the egg cell is to the mere fertilizer that the sperm cell essentially is lol.
And we don't need you.
@@wmak8421 Firstly, the video literally states that this ability to give birth makes women "superior" to men. Secondly, the reason for so many deadbeat fathers is due to the thousands of court laws that exist which prohibit them from seeing their children and force them to pay outrageous child support money for a woman they dont even like.
And thirdly yes you do need men, this whole civilization does need men. And regarding the "sperm or egg cell" superiority I truly dont care which one is better as you need both to create human life.
@@Changed.User100 another man who hates women right here, proving the video right.
@@Changed.User100cry harder
Who's watching after the biggest dirt bag of them all won?
Lots of us. We’re here and we aren’t going away. Solidarity.
Cry
Oh dear. Another bitter lefty with severe TDS. He's saving the world. A bit of gratitude would be nice. Wait until the REAL truth is revealed.
It’s demoralizing.
@@ddoris4118enjoy your $10 eggs
It's taken me 61 years to realise that men have not evolved and don't want to evolve. This video just confirmed my belief. I wish I'd realised this 40 years ago.
I have so much love for all the women who've come before me (my mother and aunt in their 70's have never known a truly loving, respectful relationship...treated like trash). They had to evolve into MEN (financially and physically intelligent and capable, in addition to handling all the emotional labor women are supposedly born with and responsible for) while men have no responsibility to develop their "feminine" qualities. I've been in some abusive relationships and now at 40 I feel like it's my responsibility to choose a man who knows it's his duty to not repress any of the life-giving qualities humans are called to and born with. I don't want all the pain the woman before me, for and at the hands of men and the society they are so proud to have "created", have endured to be in vain. There are good men out there, men who love and appreciate women and want to change...but I feel like they are rare and there is a dangerous countercultural current of men feeling entitled to the backlash against feminism. Not just men who haven't changed, but men who feel like they need to fight back against women calling for equity. Wanting equality is not an aggression.
I do have empathy for how the patriarchy fails men too though. Men growing up without loving fathers and healthy leaders is a generational and cultural curse as well. It hurts everyone. It is all of our responsibility to change and that means listening to each other about it.
I agree, I am 52 and a licensed therapist and still am shocked not just at the lack of evolution, but the fight for de- evolution. Here in America, and in the Neantherdal partners of my female clients. However, I am married to a wonderful man, he will never have the emotional range and empathy and worries I have, whether through biology or socialization, but I appreciate the balance we share, and after some rough early teen years with our daughter, I am so grateful and proud of the way he has grown into a patient, supportive father.
Why would they .. they would lose so much.
@@rosiebottom3870 The driver behind evolution or evolving is survival. When certain changes are needed to survive and/or reproduce the changes are adopted. Men have not been put in the position of being unable to reproduce or survive in their current state. So they see no reason to change. There’s now a movement starting called 4B that might shift the paradigm if the majority of women follow through. However men’s response to this possibility has been to create laws that force women to reproduce with them. Furthermore some men are threatening to just r@pe women if we attempt to stop having s3x with them.
Women are also SLOW to evolve. However, many are choosing a single life all around the world 🌎 as a revolutionary act & the intention not to live their parents, grandparents lives. They want FREEDOM. The consequence is seriously LOW BIRTH RATE worldwide which threatens human survival. I believe the anti pro choice movement is because of the fear of no children to grow up to join the WARS, & sustain jobs to care for the older population.
This is scary especially since men for the most part don't want to go to therapy. They just get angrier and more dangerous or verbally abusive.
Thanks for your observation. You've hit the central point of this interview. But I think the burden of responsibility is on men to confront men with our psychological deficits and try to resolve them separately from women. This does not exclude women from the process - but women cannot be responsible for what men do.
Because that’s just how we are. Deal with it.
@@TrollComissioner I don't think we are dealing with anything. Hence the video....
@@inthesetimesspeakingforthemind I don’t think you guys know what tf you’re talking about hence the soy male in the video speaking nonsense who knows nothing.
@@TrollComissioner great analysis. It's ok. We all have to start somewhere.
Step one. Stop saying a woman was murdered, a woman was raped. Say what happenned! A MAN murdered a woman. A MAN raped a woman.
The men who don't do this shit need to be confronted by what their 'brothers' and 'mates' do and stand by our sides and call out these guys earlier. BEFORE they escalate !
These guys need to hear that sexist jokes, groping, cat calling etc are not OK. They need to hear this from other men.
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Anyone else watching this just after trump win in 2024?
Yes. Still in shock. 😮
We have always suspected that!!!! Bwahahaha!
America is a very misogynistic society. Always has been.
Yes 😭
trying to get an understanding about the Why???? Nov. 14, 2024
I was a child in the late fifties and sixties, which means I was a young woman in the 70s. My experience with misogyny was daily and normalized by everyone in society. In the workplace, I was groped humiliated and disregarded. It was a common experience and you couldn’t complain about it because then you were considered “too sensitive”.
Never a truer words was said. Spot on. Me too..
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My children are all boys who are now all men of 26, 27 and 30. They all respect women. This is despite not a perfect childhood. What have I done differently. I’ve always talked with them about a wide range of subjects. They also know they can talk to me about anything and that has happened. No subject is off limits. I’m far from perfect and have done things that others would not like about me but I own up to things that I’ve done. Things that have happened to me or others that are close to me are experiences we can learn from.
Discussion with respect is the key to many of our problems.
I believe in the importance of the father being a good role model particularly in his treatment of the mother.
Just because they respect you doesn’t mean they necessarily respect all women. A good father figure for a boy is essential in raising decent men.
Previn Karian is brilliant! He was on a young woman's channel a few months back breaking down the twisted pathology of most males and it made perfect sense. His breakdown only bothers people who believe men are superior and people who are desperately seeking relationships.
Princella?
He was on Princella the Queen maker's channel. Very insightful
I'm from a different era, or certainly my older parents were. Being groped, grabbed or shouted at was normal for me. There were no laws against it, and I was born in the late 70's. My parents didn't even raise an eyebrow when I told them what happened. Nowadays the harassment I was subjected to daily since I was in 4th grade is criminalized. I'm happy it's finally taken seriously, but there was no way I could report sexual harassment/assault apart from rape until the 2010's. Laws have changed for the better.
But men haven't.
Yes. I was dragged into a field at 14 from my youth club. No one did anything even though they heard me screaming. He just walked away. Everyone knew who he was but we were all kids there. No one asked what happened.
Oh God. Nice getting old too isn't it?
I have a saying that I think is super contextual to what this man Previn is trying to say:
“Women create life, men take it”
I think it’s very apt.
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Insecure men will see a woman who’s living her best life and cry about it and yet, they wonder why they can’t have lasting relationships with one. I dealt with one of this phenotype when I was 16 and while I’m not overly traumatized by the experience, I take it as a lesson to not give them the time of day. It’s pretty much men like them that I’d rather be single and celibate than deal with their bs 🙄
The younger ones are not taking it anymore and they are loosing their minds about it, good for you, you deserve better, if he doesn't treat you with the utmost respect, and values you, always cut it off immediately in the wisest way possible, they can get unnecessarily violent over minor things, its never worth it.
I just read a whole comment thread on another channel where men were denigrating a woman surgeon who made tons of money, had a beautiful house and new car. They wanted to believe she'd end up as an unmarried cat lady. Young men have become unhinged.
@@lorrilewis2178 Older men are unhinged too, upset that they no woman wants to live with them and cook and clean up after them any more or be a nurse or a purse as their health declines.
@@tiarica269 Yes! I've read about that trend also! The hilarious thing is that red pill men love to tell women they'll never get married if they don't do it at a young age. Yet we have senior women telling senior men they don't want to get married again, and the men are bewildered. At least the senior men accept the women's decision and don't become red pillers over it. The red pill is a younger man's weirdness.
@lorrilewis2178 Red pill is their tantrum because women no longer want to be their doormart + all the social degeneracy taking us into an AI technocracy (removing a natural human for a cyborg) and being an abused little girl who takes all their bullshit because she loves you. Our grandmas did it because they didn't have much of a choice they suffered in silence not because loved being doormats their survival depended on it, its been a gradual progression out of male slavery. Baby Boomers were like a transitory period. Millennials finally were able to take a step into the light albeit its messy as it usually is in the beginning it will take time to find a better way. But notice they didn't have the intelligence to create something of the light, something that is healing to the planet its all emotional vomit loaded with manipulation, sexual exploitation, immature behavior, threats, disinformation, yet they claim to be logical and leaders. A true leader would have lit a fire, would be creating solutions, would love the planet, and dialogue, not a whole manosphere dedicated to the demoralization of women, which only proves everything on this video, they hate us, and they hate our ascension, and want to destroy us at every cost even if its cheap dumb rebuttals.
Any hatred that I’ve had for any man was because he showed me that he hated me first.
As a woman who was almost killed by my ex husband, and sexually assaulted and harassed by many men in different contexts - this makes sense.
@@h8h215 That might be the conclusion she reached as well, and I don't blame her in that case. It can be really scary to witness first hand how a person can change from being seemingly kind, caring and loving, to suddenly turning and becoming violent. The worst thing is that it's not like those men have a label on them, so you're really risking it every time you date, since you have no way of knowing if he's "one of those" or not, beforehand. Russian roulette, basically.
@@h8h215 For sure, it's always a gamble to get involved with people. Even if violence is less common with women (since men are typically stronger they can better defend themselves if that happens), it's still a gamble for them in many other ways. Like being used/taken advantage of, cheated on, etc. I acknowledge that.
This is the average women's experience on one level or another and all they do its blame women. In my old neighborhood I was harassed EVERYDAY and one man even grabbed me on the train, never-mind all the times I was violated as a child by grown men, they think these are isolated experiences but they are the norm no matter what you do, no matter what you wear, nothing matters to them. As women it is our birthright to safely walk the Earth in peace. I also saw my aunts get beat as a child, one of them even had to stay with her husband for some times because divorcing was looked down upon she was only able to leave once her brother saw just how bad it was and that he was going to kill her.
@@h8h215 But unlike women you highly likely wont end up dead, maybe your emotions will be hurt but thats it, thats part of life my emotions get hurt all the time, I've been broken hearted many times, yet femicide is a global issue but not the other way around. but men still take no accountability that women are regularly being murdered by the hands of men, its 2023 and this is still a global issue. Let that sink in 2023....
You know it's funny when a woman is wrong about a male her life is either ended or permanently damanged. Not worth the risk.
since I was a young woman, I could see that men stick together and women stick with men. I think that is why you are getting females disagreeing with the researcher's conclusions.
Exactly
"women have a very little idea of how much men hate them" Germaine Greer, this is the absolute truth unfortunately
They're so naive😢😢😢😢
Ohhh i can see the hatred. Just can't comprehend how majority of women can't see,naybw they don't respect themselves enough.
@@uksepop well explain then how you see
Women can't fix misogyny. Men won't listen to them. Only other men can fix it. By calling out men who degrade and abuse women. Who won't/don't tolerate those horrible "jokes" men tell each other about women.
Men are the only ones who can fix this. We have to find a way to raise better men. Good men can help with that too.
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I spoke to a young man recently who has a business degree and who is anti the rampant aggression, war and corruption displayed in South Africa and the world. I told him about a case in the US where a fire chief - probably around 60 years of age, shot his best friend to death because he was owed money and the best friend had been making excuses for 6 months to avoid paying what was owed.
This man apparently had no previous aggression or violence and told his wife "I just could not take the lying anymore".
The young man commented: "Well, you know us men, when we angry, we kind of react instinctively. The anger just is there".
And there you have it. The big lie told to all men and women that their violence is required because it is part of biological masculinity.
Contrary to the guest in this video, I do not think male violence and misogyny is biological. It is psycho-socially learnt behaviour. Socialisation is in fact psycho-social indoctrination because children have no choice over what it is that they are learning.
This young man was socialized to believe that men must be violent because it is 'just what men do.' They must not control it, because it is "instinct' and an important part of the right of males to display their displeasure in violent ways.
If I had engaged further with this young man, I suspect he would have said "You have to empathise with the fire chief. The poor man had been lied to by his best friend. The best friend deserved it and the fire chief should not be punished for what he did".
I suspect there would have been no understanding at all that the violent reaction was a primitive defence. There would have been no acceptance that the fire chief had many legal ways to claim what he was owed without violence. I did not point out to this young man that on the one hand he was against more group displays of violence, as war is, but seemed to support individual violence completely as a male right. There is no difference to me - one man, two, a group or a nation - all the same thing on a different scale.
What I said in response to this young man was this "What you are saying is that men cannot control their words or their actions. That means that they are weak and helpless because they are victims of their own emotions". Sadly we were interrupted and I was late for an appointment so there was no chance to further the conversation.
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Maybe it's for the better you couldn't continue. Hopefully he sat with your response and pondered a bit about it.
They're pampered, entitled children. WE are raising the children ALONE, WE are working and going to school while he sits w a beer and a video game. I can't help spoiled AND stupid.
I AGREE. Society has always held women's morality and self mature of women at a higher standards than men. Also being forced by nature to care for children has made them more mature and responsible than men.
It's possible, but difficult for all women to share those 100 good men, worldwide.
There is a reason that
neutered male animals are colloquially referred to as "fixed". With horses they jokingly refer to castration as "brain surgery". Most men need brain surgery.
Animals that are castrated are done so to be obedient to humans and less violent. Men are the ones who invented this, just like how they lobotomized women in the past who argued with them.
So you really should be arguing for the lobotomization of women.
@@Changed.User100 OP makes a better point. Yours is a reach. Besides no one refers to a lobotomy as "fixed" and it's understood to have been an abusive practice.
@@Changed.User100 Lobotomization doesnt make people more obedient that is a myth it often made them very violent actually that is why they stopped doing it.
@@Chambermenz You're arguing for the surgery of mens brains just because you believe that all men are killers that want to hate all women.
My comment wasnt intended to be serious, its to show you how insane you are making these claims. Please wake tf up and get some help.
@@Changed.User100so, in your mind, "violence" and "arguing" are equal. It's absolutely untrue. Everyone in any kind of relationship argues, even my cat and I have disagreements sometimes, but we don't maim or ki11 each other. Nonviolent disagreements stimulate innovation and progress, violence causes stagnation, if not regression. Your point that we should lobotomize women because they argue is sophomoric at best.
An old boyfriend once told me that I was over weight that I needed to go to a fat farm. I responded, heh, I can lose the weight, but you’re going bald!
Lift your head up and straighten your crown, Queen.
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@@Khangel What a beautiful Comment! May I use it? I love it! Thank you!
Same happened to me , my ex was very short but was fixated on my weight. I told him I could loose the 10 pound but he would never grow any taller. I lost the biggest weight ever when I left him….
How heartening to hear a man speaking truth in such a clear simple way. Thanks Previn Karian
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I used to think men’s violence and inclination towards misogyny was a purely cultural phenomenon. After raising two boys, I’m convinced it’s more biological. Teaching my boys basic empathy and decency towards others was a huge task. They needed constant supervision and guidance to not be morally bankrupt.
That's so strange, because I didn't have to do that with my son, not in any way that I was conscious of or deliberately teaching. I think that's why he was bullied by some boys and had more female friends at infant and junior school levels. He didn't really fit in with the male egos.
I have one son who lacked total empathy when he was under 12. After age 13 it flipped. He has too much empathy and is so sensitive he can't hold friendships and the other son was very empathetic and kind, loving and funny before 12. Now at age 13 he is more macho and egotistical, lacks empathy, seems to think girls are all cruel and have it so much easier than boys. He complains about the inequality quite a bit and tends to scoff when I talk about women's issues. But I keep talking and keep listening. He has some legitimate grievances. I get it on some levels, but I push back at the burgeoning misogyny that I hear when I hear it. My other son wants to leave the country because of how women are treated, so I don't worry much about misogynistic notions from him lol. Kids are so different.
@@EpiphanyJanewomen have it easier? Did he ever see a woman in labor? Does he think bleeding every month for a week makes things easier? Tell him!
@@truth4004 read my comment? I keep talking and keep listening. He is surrounded by tiny Andrew Tates and I have to be careful with my approach. I ask lots of questions and try to get him to think on his own. Parenting is a marathon, not a sprint. And things are rarely just "told" to complete understanding. There is a lot of love and patience in shaping ppl, but I tell him often that it is my job to shape him as a human and I am going to check him when I see and hear things I don't agree with. But I also have to remember that he is building himself and it is a tightrope walk for both of us. I don't want to talk him into becoming the opposite of what I am trying to do for him.
@@Monica-l5b I lol'd bc I have 4 boys and that is absolutly true.
I stopped going to the wave pool where I live, when I was 13, because grown men would always grope me and rub up against my body "accidentally." I was a child. I was molested a lot growing up. I don't want that for my daughter
I bet they stopped when you were an adult. Grown men love to m olest young girls the most. I can tell from personal and my female acquaintances experience.
@4651adri because they can get away with it more easily. In nature, it is not about if something is good or bad, but if a perpetrator of an immoral action can get away with it or not.
The harder the box, the more fragile the interior. Psychology explains that ppl who act with violence are actully very fragile inside. The armor is to protect their interior fragility. Have you ever seen really knowledgeable and wise individuals yell or attack others? Violence is a weapon of the weak.
Quotable, "Violence is a weapon of the weak".
You’re confused, although it holds some truth it’s not the big picture of things. Have you ever heard of the experiment with the 5 monkeys ? look it up if you’re interested but In conclusion we don’t always understand why we act the way we act, some men act strong because real men are strong.
@@safirestudio so how do you keep the weak in check ?
@@Steppinonshiistop birthing them
גברים מתנהגים באלימות כי הם רוצים להשיג לנשים ולהתרבות. ככל שיש לנשים פחות זכויות, לגברים יש יותר סיכוי להתרבות
I really like this guy. He's the first man I've heard speak truth about what's wrong with men.
He makes a few valid points but he's wrong plus he doesn't understand fallen mankind. That includes woman kind. He doesn't know the Lord Jesus. He's not saved.
He's not wrong, he's right. And how the hell do you know if he knows the Lord or not? Don't assume. He is giving women answers to questions they've asked for centuries. How do you know Jesus did not send him to enlighten the masses and give women hope?@@danilaroche1156
I’m the proud mother we two boys. Their ages are 29 and 18. I’ve always had a close relationship with them. They have seen my struggles as well as my love. They’ve always been aware. And now they are aware in their own relationships. It starts with the first woman in their lives and how she teaches them to love.
I've had so much crap from men throughout my life, i chose to stay by myself and it's definitely the best choice I've ever made. 😊
Celibacy is the most powerful thing you can do for yourself.
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@@Live1959-y7b I think I'm going that same path, you see? I'm sad. I always wanted a family, but finding a good man nowadays is very hard, especially one who doesn't see me as an object, but as a real person. I want a man who values my intelligence and my personality, not only my body or what I can give to them. I feel sad that I may never find this man and that I may never have my own family, but I don't want to go through what my mom goes through with my dad since I was a little girl. They always argued and most of it definitely was because of my dad not being able to treat my mother right. I know my dad has his own past history, he had traumas because of how his dad treated him and that's why he's like that. See how everything is because of a man's fault? It's a cycle. Real, honored man is really hard to find nowadays.
@@ingrid5944 I'd like you to elaborate on the part when you say "values my intelligence and personality and not just my body and what I can give them" because I've been seeing this being said and I want to know if possibly I was doing the same thing but didn't recognize that I was doing it
Incase you haven't noticed, there are psychologists who are refusing to take on male patients because of the reasons the gentleman in the video has explained.
Indeed, even in holistic circles my relative went to one recently and she said don't deal with the men anymore unless there are women present, but she wont be with them alone.
That is not ok that is discrimination. Men should have acces to mental healthcare just as women. Dont forget that there are men who are suffering and need help. They are not al mysogynistic assholes.
There are male therapists
A man grabbed my breast in a bar. When I turned to him & attempted to grab his penis, he flinched away and got very angry! Then his FRIENDS got angry, too, on his behalf. When I asked them if it was okay for them but not me?! They were *still* angry & they did NOT get it 🙄 [Edit: I was not alone & my friends had my back as soon as it got ugly...I don't know if I would have felt safe to react the way I did if I was by myself.]
The eggs are sensitive
Because it’s about control. You had boundaries and wouldn’t hand over your power so you became a threat.
@@HalfBlackSahraoui Breasts are also sensitive.
I was walking into a grocery store at night and a man was walking out of the grocery store, in his early 20s. As he walked past me he grabbed my breast. Then he ran around a corner and was out of sight before I could respond fast enough to hit him with my purse. I tried. I was stunned, felt helpless, and because I felt helpless, I felt hopeless.
@ fight or flight. My grandmother, who’s passed, once beat the crap out of a guy in a parking lot when he tried something like that with her. I wish I had inherited that, I freeze and hold my breath instead.
When men tell women that they are stupid it is really hurtful. And offensive. I had that problem with my husband. My husband yelled at me calling me stupid when i disagreed with his buddy at work who told him an old worn out old carpet in our living room could be easily fixed. The guy told him he could fluff up that old carpet by combing the pile with a fork. Maybe it might of worked if the rug had not been worn down to the carpet's backing. I just said i did not think that would work. So he started screaming at me i was wrong and stupid. And then he grabbed a fork and started trying to comb the carpet. Nope. It did not work. Did he admit he was wrong or apologize? Nope. That is one of the many reasons we are no longer together. The feeling of relief was amazing when he was gone. He pulled that "you are stupid" comment way too many times.
He did feel insecure about intelligence. In an unrelated incident, both me and my husband had to take a IQ test for some reason and my husband hid his results. I was very pleased with my results since i tested high. One day i found his results and he was a lot lower in his score. If i remember correctly he was around 105 or 110. Around 35 points lower than mine. Just a few points but it must have made him feel really insecure.
Glad you got out of there. Best of luck to you. ❤️
@karenteneyck9835 well, I am still in the house we bought. He wanted me to be on the street with nothing but I refused to leave and I said no when we were in court for the divorce. It was the first time I saw what he wanted out of the divorce. Everything. And he thought I would be ok with his offer of a run down trailer with rotten holes in the floor and a year of lot rent. Before this happened he met some German woman online and he cleaned out the bank accounts, sold all his cars, sold the airstream camper, etc. He left one day without telling me anything. But my oldest daughter had gotten nosy and looked on his computer and seen their emails to each other. He was planning on going to Germany and getting a job over there. The Germans didn't want him taking one of his jobs so he couldn't get work there. After three months he came back but he didn't move back in. He bought himself a trailer, bought another to rent out, and bought some land in another area of the state. I had found out when the house had been paid off that he took my name off the deed. We had been together since I was 19. I had ended up being a housewife because I couldn't afford childcare. I'm 67 now. When he left I had read a book on divorce and it said not to leave the home because he could take it. He had taken so much from me so I decided not to give up the house. That German woman dumped him because she said she was not going to live in the US because she hated the food, the people and the country.
The divorce didn't go through because I said no to what he wanted. He was too cheap to pay his lawyer to start another divorce. So we aren't divorced, we are separated. I am considering hiring a lawyer myself to see what I can do to sell the house. I would like to move somewhere that has cheap healthcare. Now that I have social security I have some money and get a lawyer this time. I will miss my yard with all the trees and bushes I have planted over the years, but I'm tired of being in the same place. I want to explore a new place. ( I would love to visit the UK. There is so much interesting stuff I want to see there. And it's cooler there than SC. I can't take the heat anymore.)
Two of my kids don't understand why we are separated, but the other two understand and are ok with it.
Sorry I wrote so much and made this long.
@@susanfarley1332 I love you
I know he says this is a men’s issue, however I don’t think men are ever going to self reflect if women keep enabling this. We have to stop coddling and encouraging violent and misogynistic men. Of course, it’s not on us at the end of the day, and men are never going to take us seriously when we tell them what we’re experiencing. But far too many women are perpetuating this too. And it’s just as much a problem. I simply don’t see anything changing until women first, as a whole decide to stop allowing it in our spaces. We can’t control men but we can shut them out.
So true
As a woman in the west I almost 100% guarantee that the dislikes are from angry, single men who can't get a woman to want to stay with him because we are tired of the constant misogyny in our society and culture.
@Steve Drago Jr ur the angry single man
@Wholesome Succubi 💘 as a man I can say is that religion pushes the agenda of misogyny like Christianity/Islam etc. Other than that the double standards of men not being judged for sleeping around and their "worth" doesn't decay while for women is the opposite, women are expected to serve men, only looked as that their purpose of existence is to give children and many other things.
@Clapping Succubi Cheeks 💘 so you didn’t even deny it lol.
@Soldier of Allah Wow you are so edgy aren't you?
@Soldier of Allah you’d fail to exist if your mother, a woman didn’t birth you. The irony
Misogny comes from a deep insecurity. Otherwise smart women would be welcomed instead of seen as a treat or rivalry.
It's just selfishness and cowardice. They're just insecure.
He is telling men, but they are not listening, as usual. I am seeing it happen now - women are getting tired, they will stop getting married or having children, and simply consider men nugatory.
@@h8h215so many men do not want parters. They say “I want someone submissive and obedient”. Like they’re describing a dog you get at a shelter. Women just want to be treated as human beings and men take that as a slight against them somehow…
@@h8h215 MGTOW forever!
And yet it is men who are being pressured to "man up" and get married! Ladies, if you like, stop getting married. Afterall, there are men who are opting out of relationships altogether.
It seems okay for men to call misogyny out but when women do it, its a problem. Its a problem when women call out misogyny because men want women to see them only as charming, heroes, saviors, and dominant because they want physical and emotional access to women. If women are turned off, we can do without intimacy and male attention for years/decades. Men rely on women trusting them so they can maintain access.
@h8h215 Off the market. But if something happens in my relationship, I'll be turned off from men. I already am. I'll be fine with my kids and pets. Only stress I'll deal with is from children. Pets actually lower blood pressure and promote activities such as walks and getting fresh air.
You have a lot of followers!
I respectfully disagree with you. The majority of men do not hate women. The majority of men do not have children. The majority of men are not selected by women. So, when women talk about "misogyny," they are imposing the behaviour of a psychotic minority on MOST men. They are tarring men who literally have no dealings with women with this label. Do you like being falsely accused? Do you enjoy being slandered? I suspect no.
Also suggesting men "calling out misogyny" get more respect because they're men is a lie, designed to reinforce the men hate women rhetoric. Which is also a lie.
This whole movement (alongside red pill, MRA, feminist misandry e.t.c) is completely toxic and dysfunctional.
Gosh how refreshing to listen to a man who recognises that the problem of misogyny lies within men. Women can and do sometimes feel as angry and murderous as men but we are more skilled at managing effectively anger and other feelings such as fear. Men have to be willing to learn how to take more responsibility for their own feelings and behaviours if they want to be better humans.
That’s it exactly. It is individual men and male population’s responsibility to (a) awaken to awareness of their inadequacies, and (b) work to improve THEMSELVES, not keep expecting women to adjust and just accept them.
I have a female primary doctor but this does not mean I can fully trust her since many women have the Athena complex which is being part and defending the patriarchy. My sisters was having excruciating headaches for a long time. Doctors dismissed as stress, by the time she had an MRI the tumor found in her brain was to overgrown to remove. She died in a few short months.
I’m so sorry about your sister. ❤️🩹Gaslighting is so common in the healthcare system. I’ve experienced it myself. We have to advocate for ourselves strongly even with female practitioners.
Women who have the Athena complex are what I call girly men. They look like women on the outside but are adolescent boys on the inside. They tend to be passive-aggressive but can be outright hostile in certain situations, usually when they want to publicly humiliate another woman.
When I asked a manager @ The New York Times for a raise, after I had worked for him for three years, he, weirdly, referred to HIMSELF as "Daddy Bear " and he told me that I could "never get into bed" with him. What?! I asked for more pay, not sex with him! Blech!
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Yikes
Not surprised if it’s New York Times
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Men aren't afraid of women unconsciously. Men who are wounded take their pain and anger out on us because it's easier than doing the work of emotional development.
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Men are subconsciously terrified of women
I agree with you. Of course, everyone can have unconscious fear (Women may be afraid of men, men may be afraid of women), but in general I doubt that this is common in the population.
This really explains why my channel is able to exist and why I have been peacefully single for almost 3 years. When I think of dating, I feel drained, scared and like it is bleak. I feel it is very unlikely I will meet someone I will actually like or who will genuinely like me as a woman. Essentially, the genders are coexisting for convenience of sex, finances and children. Otherwise, after so many years, do we really like each other? I'd say no which is why half marriages end in divorce and many of them end within the first 7 years of marriage, when the sex begins to wane and things get a bit more routine and boring. I think we, humans, have been lied to with the fairy tales. We all know they aren't real, yet, women are still looking for their prince while males seem to be looking for a 1960s housewife stereotype. As I study this and continue to realize this, I become more comfortable with my Singlehood and find happiness in so many other things, including hobbies and finding meaning/purpose in my life and that keeps me fulfilled and busy with life.
I'm glad you've found contentment, that's the important thing, no matter what. My theory on why the divorce rate is so high (based on personal experience, I guess and what I have observed in others as well) is that people are put under enormous pressure to be with a person whom their friends/family agree with, as opposed to someone who actually meets their needs. My husband and I (I've been happily married since 2016) are both quite stubborn, assertive people & so when people had their little whinge that we didn't quite 'match' or 'look good together' (or whatever other petty concerns or jealousies they all carried on with), frankly, we didn't give a s**t. As far as we were concerned we were (and still are) very compatible together (in every way) and if the world doesn't understand that well f**k 'em. My husband was even disowned by his family for marrying me and when we got the email from his Mum as to why it was basically "well you wouldn't change your wedding for me on two days' notice so I don't like you anymore". People meddle so so much in other people's relationships! I saw an article recently where people were whinging online that a woman married to a basketballer was "too overweight for him" - and everyone was getting upset about that! Who cares!!! I think if we just let people choose who they actually want in the first place (even if it's someone who's a little overweight, or a different skin colour, or *gasp* do what I do and marry a geek [I'm quite sapio so I've always loved geeks]) we need to just let people be.
This video is a validation of what I’ve always thought. It’s men who brutalise women, children and each other, start all manner of conflicts and wars, all while refusing to acknowledge and take responsibility for their behaviour and blaming women for how they think and what they do as well and it’s been this way since the dawn of time.
Sounds like typical narcissist behavior.
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Wow. This is actually very noticeable in men. Especially when it comes to black women from what I’ve seen and heard.
yeah but they want a man to boss about i've noticed
@@ENIGMA-tangerino555not true. Black women want a partner just like every other race. Not a son.
Misogyny is very rooted in old organized religions. I am frankly excited at this enlightenings towards setting aside all the blockages we have to healthy relationships between man and woman ---- in all aspects of life.
In Saudi Arabia we’ve been dealing with such brutal types of misogynistic monsters that if you just remove the niqab from your face you will be beaten and subjected to even more violence💔
In Saudi Arabia.
All of that is about them because they can't control their hormones and even then they still SA you, its horrific, our freedom is your freedom, and we are working so all women planet wide can be free and make their own free will choice, every woman on Earth deserves that, to choose her own path. free of male tyranny. You deserve it. I hope the day comes where we can all unite together. Remember part of the work starts from within. The divine feminine is rising and they can't stop whats coming. Its bigger than all of us.
@@jamesmiles4159 there's not a single country in the world women are equal. I'm not surprised you with your privilege didn't know that honey.
May God be with you, don’t know how Saudi women live , it’s too much
Sending prayers to you, I pray you will succeed and be free
Men who say "We gave women rights." should be told "Freedom can only be taken, not given."
How many wars were fought how much blood was shed
Nothing
Exactly it was given by men who showed empathy
@@yecto1332gross oppressor mentality
@@yecto1332why the freedom is something given ?
@@bloodbuddy7 well truth hurts isn't it
@@yecto1332You didn’t take no one freedom keep coping
In every video of something a woman accomplished or did there’s always hateful comments from males .
Always
It’s so true.
I notice this too. I watch a lot of sports videos. A woman can be an amazing athlete and there will ALWAYS be comments about men being better athletes. It's pathetic when you see a woman lift a lot weight and you can count on men saying that's light weight for men they can lift so much more. Yeah, men have more capacity for muscle and biological advantages, we fucking know. That doesn't take away from the fact that the woman is strong. She is working within her strength potentional as a female, and excelling, and are still disrespected for it like it means nothing. They don't even think about how a woman lifting this much is the equivalent of a man lifting more because she is working within her strength capacitiy as a woman cause they drool at the chance to put them down.
I sat in on a business meeting as the only woman there. I suggested we go around the table to introduce ourselves. The moderator introduced himself and skipped over me, as if it was not important for my introduction. I had to step in to introduce myself.
Such obvious disrespect. I am so glad you stepped in to introduce yourself.
it’s like a disturbing level of immaturity like elementary passive aggressive bullying that makes you concerned for their mental emotional stability
The way they show disrespect and hatred is of pure evil nature it shocks me every time it's like excuse me sir? You came from a woman humble yourself!!
Lately I have been finding myself in situations where men ask me my age and if I am single and then get angry when they learn I am 37 with no husband or kids. A few have gotten extremely defensive and basically told me I am a feminist or that I like to live for myself. It especially rubs me the wrong way because it's not my preference. Just never found the right person.
They’re upset that you’re not letting a man and/or children use you. Men live for themselves whether they have kids or not; you have a right to live for yourself.
@mysteriousvirgo6552 It's just crazy and was quite unexpected. I do know some codependent men however; and they found their way to narcissistic women of course
The funny thing is that I notice a similar situation, only in reverse, when women are angry. Of course, differences in society can influence this, but it is obvious that there are similar people among both men and women.
@@FX-bi2nr That's interesting. Too many people are just projecting their insecurities...
I was told it was a shame I was single and I said "no, it's not, it's great" and got the most puzzle look 🧌🧌🦠🦠🦠
Things will change when there are SOCIAL consequences for XYs of the human population who disrespect women. That means that as a woman you remove these people from your social circle irl and online if they disrespect women. It also means that we need to create separate societies where if you harm others, you don't get to live among those who are not sociopaths or psychopaths like you.
This is EXACTLY what I teach on my channel! 100%
Love this
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I promise i came to this conclusion last year, after watching family members and husband and male co's, and even the internet. I had never paid attention before. But I mentioned their was something going on in men that was off. I'm not psychologist so I didn't have the background but I was def putting it together that they aren't normal especially bc they hold so much in. Women have talks to each others, read books, pray to release issues and self sooth men just sit there messed up most times. Don't talk about deep issues afraid of being judged , so they try to mask it with control, drugs, fighting etc
Right and sex too
Women have Beyoncé and other great female role models.
Men have no good role models
It angers me to the core and saddens at the same time that throughout history women have been been severly abused and raped and beaten and tortured and stoned and burned at the stake and been forced to wear shackles on their heads and other body parts and forced into genital mutilation and been forced to submit to unwanted sex from dominating partners only to endure many pregnancies and children because there was no contraception to lower class females only to tragically die young. It unwittingly places me in a position to hate men. Yet I know not all men were or are evil that way. It's hard to separate the two. I hate yet I also pity these men. The day women are totally empowered is the day men have feared the most.
Another reason Kamala Harris wasn’t elected. 😢
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@@sandybear61 Yes, Im certain of that.
@@h8h215 Yes, man has been brutalising his brothers and sisters for millennium. What gives?
@@h8h215the common and consistent factor being men's violence.
In both men and women, violence is a response to fear, whether real or imagined. Often used as a tool to satisfy the unhealthy need to control others.
Women's equality is not dominance over men, and it's not a threat to men's safety. It's only a threat to men's unhealthy expectation of superiority and control over others.
Men do hate women. I learned that as a young girl.
I'm learning this everyday I'm still not there yet
Misogyny is taught mainly due to religious and societal manipulation. The main reason I heard that was given is because men feel it's a woman who led to mankind's downfall because of what Eve did. Meanwhile, they refuse to see that Adam was just as guilty.
Fortunately, I've had only one man in my life who thought he could do whatever he wanted. I dumped him and chose myself as a priority over abuse.
In religion, it's taught. 2 billion men believe it's ok to murder, r@pe and abuse women. Absolutely no respect for them whatsoever. This mentality molds society into the same beliefs. Hollywood does a pretty good job as well, portraying women as prostitutes and only good for the bedroom and kitchen.
Not to mention the porn industry. What you're watching isn't a healthy sexual activity between a man and woman, rather, it's sexual abuse, and rampant human trafficking.
Sadly most men will only view this as an attack and make all the excuses as to why they are the way they are. With great conviction how the issue is everything but them refusing to look at the faulty thinking they are exhibiting. Wome. Dont get this grace , when we have daddy issues they tell women to choose better to override our emotions , to think clearly but here they are refusing to do the same. Just because you dont express and acknowledge your emotions doesnt mean you arent ruled by them.
Nice misandry.
@cockoffgewgle4993 what did I say that was misandryist ?
@@BVEE-j3q anything that talks negatively about men even if it’s factual is misandry for men because of the fragility of their being.
@@AndreiFantastic 🤣
Suppressing emotions is telling that the emotions are so powerful that you have to suppress them
They resent the fact that good-looking, successful women do not want men who are unattractive and unsuccessful. And then, unattractie, unsuccessful women (who they think should throw themselves at them), in their great majority, don't want them either and prefer to stay single.
Blame Family Guy, Simpsons, King of the hill, King of Queens, Family Matters, married with children, all the shows that show men that they are deserving of the home queen
...yes, .in spite of all logic. Truly gorgeous girls are maybe a handful in every community. The 3 or 4 stunners I went to school with finished in the hands of manipulating predators. The ones who did best were the clever ones with average looks.@@DowntownMeganBrown
Wait, so wtf do we men even do about it?
@@christopherpowell3166 be good at diy
Self-awareness is hard and results in profound growth. You don’t want to go back. Growth is empowering and amazing.
And something a lot of people, including females, don't want to even think about... 😢
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Adams' "original sin", wasn't levied for disobeying a higher authority, it was for blaming someone else.
Women need to shut this whole thing down. No more babies. Stand together & protect each other while it falls. We hold the power. It’s time to use it.
You do you, I m having a litter
You sound like MAGA.
If you don't like life, or like the privileged society given to you, then just go (you know what)
No, you don't hold the power. You're a slave to your urges and your biological clock.
@@adamhall7720you wish. You just be speaking for yourself. So logical. Keep dreaming that you have the control.
Think about it for a minute. If you really held the power, would there be any need for video's like this?
I work in an office with several misogyn men. One work-mate told me that he is angry at his mother because she divorced the father after a physical assoult. He said the assoult "was not so bad". He also said women are best between 18-24 because until then the man can "form" them.😮 At 25 your frontal lobe is fully developed and you got some life experience your belt and are not bloody naiv anymore and this is when you become less attractive to men who want to "form" you, submit you and use you for their benefit. I felt sick to my stomach hearing that from him.....I used to really like this work-mate. Another work-mate sexually harassed me like crazy. It was disgusting. Thank got he got fired (for this and many other reasons). The next work-mate feels butthurt that I friendly rejected his sexual advances. He recently tried to humiliate me in front of our team by telling something that I trusted him with in privat. I dont feel emotionally safe or comfortable at work. I plan on leaving there. But until then I need thick skin and a strong mind
Good luck, that sounds awful! I would add that misogyny is not just a male brain disease - despite this guy's ramblings. Underneath the hatred is a strongly held belief, backed up by a long history of cultural and legal structures - that women are inferior, and should be subservient to men. Misogyny is what happens when women inevitably refuse to stay in that role.
@@calliope6623 Rubbish. Your blame the victim mentality is the problem that stopping you from listening.
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I'm sorry you've got this to live through. Hope it ends soon. I really do.
Women are ultimate judge of who is an adequate man to continue life with. A lot of women don’t understand their power.
it's because of the internalized misogyny
Truth ‼️
Yes because we are the gatekeepers. And rightfully so.
It takes two to tango. This whole idea that women are the ones in charge of consent in a relationship pushes narratives that men can't be s*xually abused. Both men and women are responsible with who they live their lives with.
@@h8h215 it takes two to tango. Period.
This is an incredibly important line of discourse. Thank you for broadcasting it...I know south African women particularly appreciate this kind of validation.
I left South Africa 6 years ago because of the misogyny. I chose Germany because Angela Merkel was the leader at the time. German women have definitely been an example on how to be strong and assert myself.
Men need to live on a planet of their own
Women would soon succumb to the forces of nature while men would survive until the male population died off.
Watch the Bear Grylls survival experiment separating men and women into different groups.
Women are great, but not required for survival beyond repopulation.
Men have obtained the food and build the structures that makes human survival possible in a dangerous world.
@@brucekeys4910 That's because the women were never put in stressful situations that required those skills, while the men were.
Then go build a rocket and move to another planet. Nobody is stopping you.
@@Fandarno they're just not very usefull
@@brucekeys4910other experiments says differently woman are better leaders for example
I can’t tell yall how despite how lonely, single, and poor I am how many men will aggressively and insultingly accuse me of being like a jezebal seductress gold digger. It feels so weird and hurts my feelings. 😢
They are projecting their own selfishness and self-loathing onto you. It isn’t you. It’s them. They are sadistic bcuz they can’t stand themselves and misery loves company. It’s hard, but don’t internalize it. You know your heart and it’s good.
Don’t ever internalize what they say about as if that’s who you are. Men get intimidated when they see an attractive woman like yourself and find ways to project their insecurities onto you. It says a lot more about them than it ever does about you. Don’t ever think to change yourself to try to make them comfortable because their view of you will not change. A good person will see good in others and the same applies to bad people will see the bad in others. They’re projecting onto you. I’m rooting for you
No smoke without fire as they say. What are you doing to make them think that you are a gold digger?
Could it be that men are just waking up to the fact that all women, (or nearly all, coz there are always some exceptions), are essentially "gold diggers". After all you seek out men with money and status then get offended when men notice that you are really only interested in them because of the wealth they have. We are not blind. We see that women want a man with money, and given that you describe yourself as poor, it may be very obvious indeed that you are after a rich man to change your lifestyle for the better.
I'm not disrespecting you, I mean no one wants to be poor. Besides it makes sense for a woman to seek out a man who has the best chance of supporting her and her future offspring. That is just the nature of sexual selection for women. Naturally men will criticise women for it, because to them it seems "shallow" and contrary to the idea of " true love" that we have all been fed since childhood.
Of course the reverse is true as well. How often have we heard women criticise men for what they see as superficial obsession with youth and appearance? But again this is just what men want from a woman from a sexual selection point of view. We don't care about what money you have, we only care that you are fit and attractive and willing to have sex, but we don't want to marry the town bicycle either.
We get a lot of crap from women about "double standards" but the fact is sex is different for men than for women. A man does not want to have a woman who has given herself to lots of men. Why? Well it's obvious is it not? How she behaved in the past is an indication of how she will behave in the future. If she is always looking for the next guy to bang then she is a bad bet for a wife. Besides, if she has been with a lot of men in the local area and has gotten herself a reputation, this will diminish his status in the community. Why would he want that?
It is just a simple matter of both sexes having different priorities when it comes to finding a mate. It is what it is and it is not going to change anytime soon. Men and women will both complain but it is just reality. No point crying about it.
@@Thereferencepoint Nah, that's not how projection works, sweetie. Go ahead, look it up. Projection is when you accuse someone else of the exact thing that you are doing. So why would a rich man accuse a poor woman of being after his money when that's not what he wants from a woman.
The fact is men know that women want their money. Sometimes it is just super obvious and other times it's more subtle, but we all know it, and that makes you mad, because you know it's not a good look.
If a woman is really poor but is pretty and humble and pleasant to be with we may decide to give her a chance, because we are not after her money. However if she lacks these endearing qualities or simply makes it too obvious that she is looking for money, she will most likely get the boot. We men are not as stupid as you seem to think we are. It's not " insecurity" it's simply self preservation. Who wants a gold digger? Doesn't matter how pretty she is, she is bad news.
@@wingnut71it's hatred,psychopathy,sadism and narcissism whatever you try to lie with your empty words will not be heard anymore,,we already know how your psychology works
Finally a man with the balls big enough to speak the truth.....finally....thank you so much
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Oh my. He’s hit the nail perfectly on the head. What’s more pertinent is the weaker the men on a societal level, with an extremely limited emotional toolkit, the greater the misogyny and violence.
Facts!
I agree with this
Agreed. It's the low status males.
Most of the mental health issues me and my female friends suffer from are traumas inflicted on us by men. I'm so tired. I am 57 and find myself spending a lot of time trying to help younger women recognise, stop accepting and then escape abusive men - before they end up murdered.
My daughter unfortunately was treated by my father appallingly .
We where homeless due to floods , my mum passed away in this 3 months that we lived there .
To have police knock on the hotel door , l confronted his behaviour . They don't like that the Mask had slipped..
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@@trish5111 54 lm exhausted by the toxic family , X husband all abusive.
this man is amazing....society needs more men who think like him...thankyou!
Men need to take responsibility for their own actions instead of blaming women.
And vice versa.
@@thebluetrain6797If you're just going to sit there bellowing vice-versa, that's the exact opposite of taking responsibility. You're still entirely focused on what women are or aren't doing.
And women need to stop blaming men for their own financial failure. Instead of demanding equal pay, go out and earn it. Nobody is stopping you from working 100+ hours a week like every other self made billionaire.
@@lavlmoonof course I'm going to react to what wmn do, why wouldn't i
That's too hard for them. They're too weak to do that.
“Women don’t want strong men, they want emotionally intelligent men”
--this man gets it. That’s all. He actually gets it.
Choices in men say otherwise. Look for the truth in women by their actions not what they say.
My therapist said I have high EQ and I'm telling from my experience, that's a bunch of cap
“B-b-but exactly one woman laughed at me when i opened up therefore all women share the same beliefs!!1!1!!1!!”
Men need be honest with themselves..the dark thoughts they have on a daily basis are not normal thoughts
They aren't healthy thoughts.
yes if they could start there
@@trashieaguillory7740 So we're a hivemind now and you can see inside all of our brains?
@@pmcollectorboy2929 the things my best friend tell me he thinks about doing tells me most men are unhinged
@@pmcollectorboy2929 also the dark humor you guys use to mask your true feelings tells me alot too. Where did dark humor come from? I’m guessing a man
This is exactly what I have come to realize in old age. It's obvious to me but if I state it to my women friends, they are hesitant to accept it. I guess that has to do with their love for their male friends and family. I love my sons and grandsons too but I still know they're flawed. Religion has allowed misogyny to proliferate for millennia. Control of women has been essential for the power of men.
Sad truth. Thank you.
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You're very good observer. More women like you,I hope.
The way that this man takes accountability is astonishing! ❤
24:00 YES YES YES!! This man has said what I have been saying to men all these years in the dating world that they just can't come to grips with. WE WANT EMOTIONALLY INTELLIGENT MEN WHO HAVE THE CAPACITY TO RELATE. This also means being able to show emotional vulnerability with us, because that is what leads into true intimacy.
Hmmm...
Do you? What does that mean? What does emotionally intelligent look like? Do you want us to cry more? Listen more? Spill our guts more? I don't think you really want to hear about our problems, you just want empathy from us about yours.
@@bobleglob162I think it’s less about sharing problems, and more about self-reflection…examining how your actions/reactions and emotions affect those around you, why you react in certain ways or to certain things. When you understand the reason, and remain aware, you can choose to act differently if necessary, so that any children will have a healthy model of behavior AND you are choosing to act in a way that helps improve a situation or move you toward what you really want, instead of being unproductive or destructive.
It’s not just a men or women thing, it’s both. Everyone could stand to do some self-reflection.
Yes
There is no 'right to have sex'. ... always by agreement.
So why does society guilt women to put up with this creatures?
Bc men need women. Without women, men will d!3 off. Read into men developing inflammation after a breakup and how men can’t be single longer then 2years
@@TGFriosania23 this is why womens standards should remain so high to either remain single and let the demons die off alone or give a good spritually alligned man, who did the hard work to reject his biological makeup, a chance to prove his worth to you. even in this scenario, marriage should be abolished no matter how "good" the guy is and women should opt for adoiption rather than having biological children. risking your life and well being of your body to have kids form a guy who may not remain the same guy is a very risky move.
Simple answer patriarchy
@@h8h215 interesting comment - what did you mean by 'take accountability for your actions please'?
@@h8h215 yeah - it's hard not to feel defensive and attacked. But that's not their narrative. What you call "blaming" is a necessary step in the process of freeing yourself from your abuser. So they ARE taking responsibility for themselves, working out they have been sold a sociologically conditioned lie, told to love the prince, and then find all this grotesque, distorted, twisted and secretly concealed sadism inside. Then they leave. Sounds like responsibility to me?
But where are men taking responsibility for their sadistic behaviour? Do you? I think I tried in the video - especially towards the end...
This is a vital discussion. It is beyond my grasp as to why - men who are intelligent and well read big thinkers - never question their own prejudices to women🤷♀️
They aren’t intelligent. Stop perpetuating that lie. People who are bigoted towards any group of people are not intelligent.
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Truth seer. Radical honesty. This has validated everything I’ve been feeling and gone thru with men. Fuckin knew it.
@Soldier of Allah but I thought women weren’t funny?
@Soldier of Allah so is your god
Exactly. Choose better where?!!!😂
Well, I don’t know about other women but I have no urge to grope men, certainly not their genitalia.
Men being misogynistic is why I am happier being single. Agree there is rape culture. I was raped and had a strong case but he was acquitted because the Defense said I was an escort. I was so humiliated. Only 1% of rapists are convicted.
I’m so sorry that happened to you. The entire case was an act of violence toward you. Hug.
In our church, a guy groped me and wouldn't quit. I brought him to court. Now my church hates me.
Sorry for your experience
I feel really bad for you :( I truly hope you get better soon and heal. That was just messed up. You didn’t deserve that.
@@Momiji-e8k I’m sure they do. They don’t like having light shined on things they prefer to keep in darkness. I’m sorry that happened to you. Please find a healthy environment. 🩷
Modern men are pissed off about the fact that modern jobs no longer require brute strength. They require refined intellect, finese, and communication skills. All traits that women have more of.
BS. Not proven at all.