Shan Boody is on point! Her whole POV is important. Healthy connections are the MOST important attributes. Lack of emotional 🖤 intelligence in men / women and romantic retention. These guys have to put in work and stop being so lazy. Choose 3 main priorities and keep your mind up 🆙 in several ways. 🤗 ☮️ ✌🏽
Because they're both LGBT and it resonates with you. It's not unbiased at all it's just that you have an education to recognize the misandry underlying what they're saying
@Baby Barbie Well, unlike most people, she stated doing a lot of reflecting, which brought her to the epiphany that she was the root of her issues. Most women these days won't do that
It was nice to see them be respectful to each other and share ideas as opposed to Kevin Samuels who is condescending and cuts off his guests. The roommate fosters growth and conversation.
@@claudiao7743 I agree 100%. I can't even get through 5 minutes of a Kevin Samuels video, but I was pleasantly surprised that I was able to sit through this entire video. I'm also biased because I really like Shan, but overall, this was a great video.
“I don’t talk to you like who you are, I talk to you to like I’m curious about your hopes and dreams and that’s how I address you.” This is great advice.
She shined light to the voice that has been hidden and gotten lost during this whole back and forth conversation . Thank you I felt like my points where heard.
I loved the nuance of of this conversation. You guys blow me away with the range of opinions and insights you get from your various guests. Every time I think y’all are leaning one way, you bring on someone of the complete opposite idea the next week. Keep doing what you guys are doing!
I still remember when Shannon used to make comedy skits with her friend/roommate here in Toronto back in 2012. Shout out to Shannon and all the Toronto 🇨🇦 ppl!
It’s always the comedians/comediennes I think that are hungry to look at different aspects of life and reality. That’s how she came up in here with an open mind because it’s not about “oh these are women haters” for her it’s about “these men have something to say, let me see where we can find common ground even if I don’t agree”
man this can be so powerful if they both collab on something that breaks things down for both men and women so we have a better understanding of each other cause just from watching this i'm learning a whole alot about women and men that i had no idea about.
I'm really in awe of Shan. The way that she finds solution in EVERY situation, the way that she refuses to stick to the status-quo, without dismissing it. Wow! I would have snapped in some of these arguments, honestly... But I am learning so much from watching her accept certain opinions, and just slightly tilt them to correct them, but not in a hostile way. Amazed. I love Jared's point of view, too - to show that femininity (flow, patience, connecting) and masculinity (directness, ambition, drive) CAN and should coexist. It was overall a great conversation!
Great podcast combining individuals with different audience’s (Shan with mostly older women, Jared with mostly younger women, and The Roommates with mostly men) so we can hear the different perspectives.
I really love how Shan can both articulate her points well and respectfully while simultaneously listening intently to understand the male perspective. I think we should all take a page out of her book, regardless of our gender. Overall, very insightful video.
Shan bringing up the education disparity is extremely important. As someone with multiple degrees many of my classes have been mainly women and with feminism women desire equality in a relationship when it comes to ambition/goals. Like I know for me personally I’m very apprehensive about getting with a man (or woman, I’m queer) who did not AT LEAST try to get a higher education or even have goals with a career
Another note: when we talk about top tier guys with no “careers”, I saw my aunts struggle with men like that. Being taken advantage of, cheated on, abused, having to STILL (after 20 years) pay spousal support after divorces so personally I think it’s kind of a slippery slope to encourage women to see guys outside of ambition (for me personally)
I understand you, I don't have a degree, but I am always in search of knowledge and education. I can't imagine myself with a dude that don't even speak properly his mother tongue, and only know the basic of life.
I loved how everybody had different opinions and didn’t have to get passive aggressive or covert. People could openly disagree and hear the other. I wish the conversation between men and women could get to this point. It was the same with Candace. Great job Hafeez, Chris, Shan, Jarrod, and baby Rayu.
People have a difficult time understanding themselves let alone others. The other problem is people don't care enough about others to tell them what they did wrong and why. There is no improvement on either side. The person who is "offended" also didn't communicate their standard. desire, or requirements. There is a severe lack of communication. The internet gives unlimited choices and the false belief that relationships don't take work, because an individual can just move on to the next.
A lot of women just want a smart, open minded, funny dude. All that success and ambition is the mainstream media’s perception of what women want. But a man with character who’s average looking or has an average job will still be able to attract women off of his character alone. Not all women are shallow, and I feel that’s what these assumptions are insinuating.
Most men know this already. The issue mostly stems from men either wanting a girl who’s like a supermodel and needing enough money to be on her level, or the fear that she only wants us for our money and leave once the well dries up. Yes, most girls aren’t shallow, but money is still a necessity for having a girl because girlfriends/wifes are long term investments. Every relationship I’ve been in/seen from the men around me has at one point hit a roadblock due to money. Maybe the girl wants to go out too much and is constantly spending more money than the guy wants to spend, or the girl complains about (sometimes even hates on) her relationship/marriage because the guy isn’t making as much money as her, or even no money at all. These are very real problems I’ve seen in my life, not even counting all the testimonies I’ve heard from both parties in general as well.
Yes 🙌🏻 I agree. Also, they keep saying women are shallow. However it seems like all men in this dumb pill movement really care how a women looks because they say they don’t care about what she does (education or career or has ambition) as long as she’s pretty. It’s like…then your the shallow one who is unrealistic lol. Women are beyond looks. We don’t want a man who don’t care about us beyond our looks we can sense that and we want to move to someone else with more substance. I am pretty but my looks are not something I push forward unless I’m going to an occasion. Then I feel all eyes on me abs I get uncomfortable. That’s why I wear my glasses 🤓 cuz it’s an indicator that I’m a nerd. Lol. Then there are women who are shallow and they are not ashamed to admit it. They are the one who want to be the best looking and spend lots of money on their looks. To me they are the Instagram baddies and I don’t see the harm in them wanting a good looking man with money. Because they are advertising their “looks” for their type of man. This is what the pill communities are using as the average women when it is not. They are just the mainstream. I should not have said dumb pill movement it’s cuz some of the fans or other RUclipsrs are toxic. I know not all of them are.
I haven't watched enough Fresh and Fit videos but of the ones I've seen, they don't seem to invite eloquent and emotionally healthy women on their platform. It seems like the same kind of woman, to help push their "women are trash" narrative. They are entertaining...for awhile, but then it gets redundant. I would def like seeing someone like Shan on there, for a REAL balanced conversation.
I hope they are having a happy and healthy relationship because most happy couples that you see on internet aren't happy in real life. They put on a act to earn 💰💰
Internet couples are all about the bag💰💰. It’s their business/ Product they are selling to the consumers to believe it’s real. No different then any other tangible product you purchase.
For real. I don’t subscribe to anything they’re “offering” it all seems surface level. If I all of a sudden started taking her advice it would NOT work for my marriage. Some people can’t be that discerning and that’s why they have so many followers smh 🤦🏾♀️
Great advice and great podcast. The best advice is to know your target audience, be yourself, and to actually put yourself out there. So many dudes and women miss those first two and just put themselves out there.
I agree with Shannon 100% We all do not share the same qualities we want in men, women and just people in general . This is today’s society. If you don’t feel comfortable with the type of ideology you have, or you feel as though your environment isn’t matching what you hold to be ethical, then you should change your environment and find a community that you relate to more. Take the emphasis of calling out those who have a different perspective as being deemed as wrong.
This is, hands down, the BEST conversation you guys have ever had so far. The BEST. (In my opinion) Very thorough, insightful and came full circle on each topic discussed. At the end of the day, both MEN and WOMEN need to be very mindful of themselves and take accountability when due. Have the willingness to grow as an individual and as a partner. NO ONE is born the "perfect” partner. Without this basic foundation of understanding, expect very little. If you aspire to do nothing, expect nothing. If you aspire to very little, expect little. In 2021 there is NO room for excuses and finger pointing in love and dating. Make the necessary moves and educated choices for a desired outcome. Peace and love, y’all..peace and love. x ✌🏽
I don’t know how I found you guys, but I’m really liking your content! 😆 I’m totally married, happy and taken I just have tons of men and women friends who are always asking advice and stuff so I’m always wanting to make sure I’m on the up n up. 😬
As much I agree with you I also think that those are years of your life where you should focus on school, yourself and what matters to you like sports. Am just saying 😌
@@sefako2286 yeah but like afeez said as a Man you still need to gain experience and achieve some wins with women. Because say I accomplish everything I want to financially, career, and physically. What good is it if I have all that and I can't talk to women because I am socially awkward and do not know how to date or seduce a woman. I'll just be a financially stable dude with no game and women with laugh at me. When you are young is the time to not only find yourself but figure out what you like or dislike in women you date. I think its about finding a balance, but definitely i would not recommend ignoring women all together because then you will be behind in development.
very good discussion but at the end of the day the biggest issue are the inflated expectations of women. I'm in my mid 40s so I have seen the pre internet and post internet dating market. You simply can not compare it. Social media changed everything.
As much as I loved the conversation. Regarding the ending: Y'all need to stop asking people with pretty privilege for dating advice. A poor kid might as well ask a trust fund kid advice on how to earn $2K to afford his first car. They simply don't understand what exactly your question is and it's kinda offturning to get schooled by priviledged people on something they have never experienced.
Shan did mention that in the interview.... And thats a good point u bring up. Even with Shan having an attitude problem in her early years... She would never struggle for a mate. Which means her issue would be choosing the right mate... Vs the average persons issue which is finding a mate in the first place. It can be off-putting if it comes off as disregarding issues for the more average looking person
I see what you’re saying and she did address it, however, she has talked to thousands of people, has qualifications within the subject matter and brings takes based on what she has read, studied and found through those conversations with other women. Her other “pretty privileged” takes are still valid (maybe not for every women but there are still beautiful women out there in the world listening to this podcast)
@@ericsbando6240 I think the comment was directed towards Jared (and I guess possibly towards Shan too) about his advice on starting from the inside out and the fact that that's coming from a "pretty boy" and therefore "invalid". It's a typical and corny answer, and he is right about it, confidence always wins and stats show that most women don't prioritize looks. I see broke ass ugly dudes get girls who are too good for them all the damn time. But incels will be incels and they don't like hearing these things from a guy that's either good looking or rich or both.
It’s like in mr and mrs. Smith they didn’t even know what jobs they actually had it was that balanced energy that drew them together, and then when they found out their true career thats when the power roles divided them. they have to put in the work to remember that initial attraction that brought them together.
Dating sounds crazy. Personally I'm completely fine being single and completely fine being in a relationship. I've never actively sought to be with someone. If it happens cool if it doesn't that's also cool.
I agree with you, to met someone, fall in love and have a commited relationship is something that happens naturally, but how you gonna know somebody without dating? I know that some couples were friends that turned into lovers, but most people have to pass for the phase of dating, and download dating apps (something that I hate).
I'm relatively new to the roommates and I've only watched a few episodes, but this is quickly becoming one of my fav youtube channels. Had to sub. Keep up the great work!
I love this discussion.. every topic was perfectly discussed and perceived from all possible angles... that's how conversations lead to understanding and correct action
The feminist agenda is part of the gender war. It's legitimately convinced many women that they don't need men in any asset of their life despite living in a world where most of their needs and wants are invented and produced by...men.
1:13:45 Nope. Society still needs these characteristics. Robots and computers don’t change any of that 1:17:03 hmmm ok sureeee sureeee 1:18:30 🔥 1:20:57 She contradicts her earlier assertion that “being funny” would make up for being a janitor 1:27:28 Hafeez 🔥 Overall great conversation! Enjoyed all the perspectives here👍🏽👍🏽👍🏽
9 out of 10 men when they first came across derrick jackson could've told anyone, especially women, that he was full of crap. Anybody who did a tour with him drops a big chunk of credibility that they doing more than riding a wave of what currently hot.
It was so obvious.. I am a female and it was so obvious to me-I couldn't believe how many women took that guy serious. He just knew what desparate people wanted to hear and used that to get a following..
Honestly, I think a lot of the women that were watching him were older women because I’m in my 20’s and I didn’t know ANYONE that knew who he was prior to his scandal coming out.
That's really your conclusion? "Men need to better!" If women want what they want, they deserve it. If men want what they want, men have to do better as a whole and earn it? That's a pretty big disconnect. Why is it just on the men to improve? Women don't have to because they're all awesome 1% women? Women can get dates, but not the commitment from the same guy. Problem is a lot of women (the below average, average, and above average women) want the same high-value man while ignoring the regular and below average guys because they're not good enough. That's totally fine if that's what they want, but if they don't work hard on outmatching their other female competition, that high-value man ain't gonna settle with her in an exclusive relationship. Much easier for women to get dates from men above her league. Much much harder to get commitment. For those men who do better and become that 1% man, why would he need to settle when all the women want him? He can just date any of them whenever he pleases without offering a relationship to any one.
be better for u, not women. women have ridiculous standards, you're not born to be their puppet and meet THEIR needs. you're born to make sure YOUR needs and dreams and standards are met. and then the women who are smart enough to see your value will be attracted to u and follow u
@@pointblanks whoa whoa whoa. That’s a slippery slope. The moment he hold men accountable is when you feel attacked instead of looking at it objectively. He’s statement does not promote women to stay the way they are, his statement is calling men to greatness. That’s it.
Yeah they got get surgery to be 6'2, plastic surgery to be handsome, gym for muscles and work to be millionaires to qualify for regular women who bring nothing to the table
I like how Shan and her husband corner different age groups. In some of the topics i think the roommates forget that Shan and her husbands answers are coming from their audience. It’s important to remember that we aren’t fixed people. Our needs, wants, and values have the potential to be fluid. Did anyone talk about having values in Family, career, education, community, health, and spirituality? Not wants, needs, desires or standards. I agree with Shan’s points completely. Once again the Roomates are awesome and i love their work. The guests did fantastic and the dialogue was great.
@@moro2798 well hes isn't wrong, Women do want financial security and women are attracted to Physically fit men. You cannot tell me that you would take a beer gut over 6 pack
Yes i would prefer someone that can see his 🍆 I think they call it "dad bodies" if you think all women want 6 packs thats your first issue. I want a man that stress free, that can be consistent, that want to provide for his home and shows some kind of leadership
Women have chosen to skip the growing pains of men starting at level 1, yet they expect to be with any man when he's at max level. They have skipped the most important lessons and memories to keep, or share with their children where it had the most MEANING and VALUE.
exactly, building for 10 years from 20-30 vs just meeting at 30, u aint gonna have anywhere near the same level of bond and love for eachother. men who work to be successful and no women had faith in him, won't have faith in women in relationships nor marriage. they understand that women just want him for his success, not who he is
@@spikeboy101 I absolutely concur, my guy. As a man who's working on himself to level up and be the best me possible- in all aspects of my life- I have to pause and wonder, if once I get into that successful space and become the type of man that most woman find attractive; will that be because they genuinely want me or what I have to offer. My fear is then, once I reach that pinnacle and I meet someone; the relationship will always be a disengenious one.
@@Haramu-Fal0 maybe u can pretend to look like the average person during the dating phase and if she still likes u for u, then u know it's real. Or u fake a tragedy and see if she will still stay or dip. Or test if she approaches u for your money or just your time and company. Ofc money matters to a level for basic living and bills so don't mind if they at least want to know ur financially stable bc that means ur a mature responsible adult
Loved the conversation. I'm a traditional woman but have always loved Shan for her openness, objectivity, and honesty. I feel her on being more agreeable.
I loved this episode. It was nice to see the "parallel" issues that women are having with men. I still think guys have it worse but that's just my bias. I did walk away with more compassion for the modern womans dating problems.
This post gen X conversation is where it is truly at... and moving from here are so many solutions for relationships. No complaining, no blaming...just pure honesty, discovery and meeting of minds. Let’s move the conversations on masculine/feminine dynamics to more of This! 👏🏽❤️
this was great. loved how she could make her points and everything she said made sense. This contracts a lot what hafeez was Emphasizing so hard in the last video with the podcast with the last girl
I think that another valid point that might have already been addressed here is that men have become more feminine and women have become more masculine. With this flip, it's hard to have a traditional type of relationship when many of the gender roles have been juxtaposed.
Loving these podcasts. I think ultimately men need to become better men and women need to become better women. Men: rediscover and become true masculinity, Women: rediscover and become true femininity. Men: start picking up the tools, women: start putting the propaganda down. We've both been led completely astray and have abandoned the polarities that are the keys to happiness.
Ughhh thank you. Yes they are attractive. But if I took their advice in my marriage I would be divorced. People especially women need to learn how to read between the lines.
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@TheRoommates guy's i would apreciate if you put time stamps on your videos
Great talk.. but rns...Jared looks like John McCain in a tiger cage.. poor thing he's under gynocratic terror.
Shan Boody is on point! Her whole POV is important. Healthy connections are the MOST important attributes. Lack of emotional 🖤 intelligence in men / women and romantic retention. These guys have to put in work and stop being so lazy. Choose 3 main priorities and keep your mind up 🆙 in several ways. 🤗 ☮️ ✌🏽
What intrigues me about Shan is her openness to understand both sides of the story in an unbiased manner
It’s because she’s an expert that actually does her research
It took her a while to get there though.
She mentioned it the first time they had her on
Because they're both LGBT and it resonates with you. It's not unbiased at all it's just that you have an education to recognize the misandry underlying what they're saying
I had a professor who I thought was the most cognitively gifted and most articulate man I’ve met. He said true intelligence to understand both sides.
@Baby Barbie
Well, unlike most people, she stated doing a lot of reflecting, which brought her to the epiphany that she was the root of her issues.
Most women these days won't do that
This was such a compelling conversation. Not a dull moment, and the disagreements were respectful and honest!
My favorite part. There needs to be more conversations like this
It was nice to see them be respectful to each other and share ideas as opposed to Kevin Samuels who is condescending and cuts off his guests. The roommate fosters growth and conversation.
@@claudiao7743 I agree 100%. I can't even get through 5 minutes of a Kevin Samuels video, but I was pleasantly surprised that I was able to sit through this entire video. I'm also biased because I really like Shan, but overall, this was a great video.
Go back to the LGBT community
I didn’t really enjoy this. Shan discounted almost everything they said based on exceptions to the rule. Why do women do that?
This couple got the best hair I've ever seen
LOL
They have hair care videos!
Facts
“I don’t talk to you like who you are, I talk to you to like I’m curious about your hopes and dreams and that’s how I address you.” This is great advice.
That’s charisma
Shan VS. Kevin Samuels can be a paper view event
I would put a Benjamin on Kevin
Put a Ben in the pocket for Kev
Omggg 😂😂😂
No vs. collaborate
Paper view? Pay per view?
She shined light to the voice that has been hidden and gotten lost during this whole back and forth conversation . Thank you I felt like my points where heard.
which points was this
Honestly she says what’s in my mind and what I can’t seem to put down on words. She very articulate and the embodiment of a great modern woman
@@katherinethomas6871 yes!
I loved the nuance of of this conversation. You guys blow me away with the range of opinions and insights you get from your various guests. Every time I think y’all are leaning one way, you bring on someone of the complete opposite idea the next week. Keep doing what you guys are doing!
Hafeez and Chris the ultimate one-two punch. Love how Chris’s humor complements Feez’s insight
perfect duo
the perfect balance!!
You can never get bored of Shan. She never runs out of gems “maintenance requires femininity” I just had 7 epiphanies back to back WOW 🤣🤣
Jared is so awesome , see why Sham is with dude. Hard to hate on dude
he looks like a lesbian
Why would u hate , do u know her and he’s keeping u from her?
@@crisclay2678 yeah i am , nice day my guy
represents your people
I still remember when Shannon used to make comedy skits with her friend/roommate here in Toronto back in 2012. Shout out to Shannon and all the Toronto 🇨🇦 ppl!
Wow didn't know she's from Toronto
She’s definitely come a long way. Toronto has a lot of talented people
It’s always the comedians/comediennes I think that are hungry to look at different aspects of life and reality. That’s how she came up in here with an open mind because it’s not about “oh these are women haters” for her it’s about “these men have something to say, let me see where we can find common ground even if I don’t agree”
Those girls are wild, that dude mcflly and them man were an era
Love her there. The girl from degrassi.
These are the type of conversations I like. People with some sense going off of each other’s ideas
Shan made really good points about networks, financial stability, leveling up, and similar life styles. Growth is everything
man this can be so powerful if they both collab on something that breaks things down for both men and women so we have a better understanding of each other cause just from watching this i'm learning a whole alot about women and men that i had no idea about.
I'm really in awe of Shan. The way that she finds solution in EVERY situation, the way that she refuses to stick to the status-quo, without dismissing it. Wow! I would have snapped in some of these arguments, honestly... But I am learning so much from watching her accept certain opinions, and just slightly tilt them to correct them, but not in a hostile way. Amazed.
I love Jared's point of view, too - to show that femininity (flow, patience, connecting) and masculinity (directness, ambition, drive) CAN and should coexist.
It was overall a great conversation!
Shan is so thoughtful, I really love that about her
What would have made you snap?
Great podcast combining individuals with different audience’s (Shan with mostly older women, Jared with mostly younger women, and The Roommates with mostly men) so we can hear the different perspectives.
True but lots of young women watch Shan too
I really love how Shan can both articulate her points well and respectfully while simultaneously listening intently to understand the male perspective. I think we should all take a page out of her book, regardless of our gender. Overall, very insightful video.
Agreed!!
Shan bringing up the education disparity is extremely important. As someone with multiple degrees many of my classes have been mainly women and with feminism women desire equality in a relationship when it comes to ambition/goals. Like I know for me personally I’m very apprehensive about getting with a man (or woman, I’m queer) who did not AT LEAST try to get a higher education or even have goals with a career
Another note: when we talk about top tier guys with no “careers”, I saw my aunts struggle with men like that. Being taken advantage of, cheated on, abused, having to STILL (after 20 years) pay spousal support after divorces so personally I think it’s kind of a slippery slope to encourage women to see guys outside of ambition (for me personally)
I understand you, I don't have a degree, but I am always in search of knowledge and education. I can't imagine myself with a dude that don't even speak properly his mother tongue, and only know the basic of life.
I loved how everybody had different opinions and didn’t have to get passive aggressive or covert. People could openly disagree and hear the other. I wish the conversation between men and women could get to this point. It was the same with Candace. Great job Hafeez, Chris, Shan, Jarrod, and baby Rayu.
People have a difficult time understanding themselves let alone others. The other problem is people don't care enough about others to tell them what they did wrong and why. There is no improvement on either side. The person who is "offended" also didn't communicate their standard. desire, or requirements. There is a severe lack of communication. The internet gives unlimited choices and the false belief that relationships don't take work, because an individual can just move on to the next.
This couple has great energy together. I enjoyed watching this.
A lot of women just want a smart, open minded, funny dude. All that success and ambition is the mainstream media’s perception of what women want. But a man with character who’s average looking or has an average job will still be able to attract women off of his character alone. Not all women are shallow, and I feel that’s what these assumptions are insinuating.
Yup
Ha ha
Most men know this already. The issue mostly stems from men either wanting a girl who’s like a supermodel and needing enough money to be on her level, or the fear that she only wants us for our money and leave once the well dries up.
Yes, most girls aren’t shallow, but money is still a necessity for having a girl because girlfriends/wifes are long term investments.
Every relationship I’ve been in/seen from the men around me has at one point hit a roadblock due to money. Maybe the girl wants to go out too much and is constantly spending more money than the guy wants to spend, or the girl complains about (sometimes even hates on) her relationship/marriage because the guy isn’t making as much money as her, or even no money at all. These are very real problems I’ve seen in my life, not even counting all the testimonies I’ve heard from both parties in general as well.
I agree with that.
Yes 🙌🏻 I agree.
Also, they keep saying women are shallow. However it seems like all men in this dumb pill movement really care how a women looks because they say they don’t care about what she does (education or career or has ambition) as long as she’s pretty. It’s like…then your the shallow one who is unrealistic lol. Women are beyond looks. We don’t want a man who don’t care about us beyond our looks we can sense that and we want to move to someone else with more substance. I am pretty but my looks are not something I push forward unless I’m going to an occasion. Then I feel all eyes on me abs I get uncomfortable. That’s why I wear my glasses 🤓 cuz it’s an indicator that I’m a nerd. Lol.
Then there are women who are shallow and they are not ashamed to admit it. They are the one who want to be the best looking and spend lots of money on their looks. To me they are the Instagram baddies and I don’t see the harm in them wanting a good looking man with money. Because they are advertising their “looks” for their type of man. This is what the pill communities are using as the average women when it is not. They are just the mainstream.
I should not have said dumb pill movement it’s cuz some of the fans or other RUclipsrs are toxic. I know not all of them are.
Shan needs to be invited to Fresh and Fit Podcast.
@Ryan Park BET
YASSSS!!!! 🔥🔥🔥
I haven't watched enough Fresh and Fit videos but of the ones I've seen, they don't seem to invite eloquent and emotionally healthy women on their platform. It seems like the same kind of woman, to help push their "women are trash" narrative. They are entertaining...for awhile, but then it gets redundant. I would def like seeing someone like Shan on there, for a REAL balanced conversation.
@@jennjc800 facts
The roommates should get a poll going to get there own studies from the men who listens to them
That’s not how studies work
I see why Shan Boody is with Jared. He is sooo level headed.
I hope they are having a happy and healthy relationship because most happy couples that you see on internet aren't happy in real life. They put on a act to earn 💰💰
Good Catch
Internet couples are all about the bag💰💰. It’s their business/ Product they are selling to the consumers to believe it’s real. No different then any other tangible product you purchase.
For real. I don’t subscribe to anything they’re “offering” it all seems surface level. If I all of a sudden started taking her advice it would NOT work for my marriage. Some people can’t be that discerning and that’s why they have so many followers smh 🤦🏾♀️
Yea you never know. But my rule is, keeping a relationship private is a good start lol
They look happy to me,,they look like brother and sister,,they are definitely twin flames..you can tell when certain people belong together.
Ryu's insights were revolutionary
Best guest on the podcast.
Hafeez keep going at this rate and you will be the world leader in this field bro. Your dedication can be observed in every video you do 💯
I love this couple. They are both so intelligent and educated ❤️ Well people!
Great advice and great podcast. The best advice is to know your target audience, be yourself, and to actually put yourself out there. So many dudes and women miss those first two and just put themselves out there.
I agree with Shannon 100% We all do not share the same qualities we want in men, women and just people in general . This is today’s society. If you don’t feel comfortable with the type of ideology you have, or you feel as though your environment isn’t matching what you hold to be ethical, then you should change your environment and find a community that you relate to more. Take the emphasis of calling out those who have a different perspective as being deemed as wrong.
This was a great conversation, getting both sides of the dating/pairing issue with people sympathetic to opposite sex.
Dam tons of value offered by all of them hands down . Big fan! Makes one self reflective by a whole lot
Man these podcasts are legit. Just a few of the guest I like to see
1. Corey wayne
2. Rsd Madison
3. Karisma king
corey wayne is not legit, he's blue pilled
Coach Corey Wayne 💯💯💯
@@ifeelhalfnaked484 😑😑😑. Because he actually likes functional relationships and gives great advice etc. I'd say purple pill
40 minutes into watching this video, I already purchased 2 books! Can’t wait to read them 👏🏾🙏🏾
This mightve been the most quality podcast I've seen in a while
This is, hands down, the BEST conversation you guys have ever had so far. The BEST. (In my opinion) Very thorough, insightful and came full circle on each topic discussed. At the end of the day, both MEN and WOMEN need to be very mindful of themselves and take accountability when due. Have the willingness to grow as an individual and as a partner. NO ONE is born the "perfect” partner. Without this basic foundation of understanding, expect very little. If you aspire to do nothing, expect nothing. If you aspire to very little, expect little. In 2021 there is NO room for excuses and finger pointing in love and dating. Make the necessary moves and educated choices for a desired outcome. Peace and love, y’all..peace and love. x ✌🏽
Absolutely love that you guys go opened your argument with facts and she instantly went to what she heard and feels.
❤️
Similar values
Similar morales
Similar lifestyle
Proximity
I LOVE THE FACT THAT CHRIS IS SO VOCAL IN THIS EPISODE!!!!!!!
Been watching Shan since her and Jared were FWB. Now they are married with a baby 🥰. I already know this is gonna be a good podcast
I don’t know how I found you guys, but I’m really liking your content! 😆
I’m totally married, happy and taken I just have tons of men and women friends who are always asking advice and stuff so I’m always wanting to make sure I’m on the up n up. 😬
I LOVE your shirt, Hafeez!!! 😍😍😍
Me too!!!!
22:35 to quote dbza "it's like a man dying of thirst watching another man drown" 😂
I screenshot this because it’s so good
I was thinking of this exact quote good thing I looked in the comments first 😂
What shan said from 10:45 is sooo trueeee. Then after about ghosting is so true!
This has to be the best episode of the year. Loved the back and forth between you guys
1:05:45 yup. Speaking from personal experience, men don't like feeling used
I love Jared views on how he see men and women he definitely plays a good balance/dance with masculine and feminine qualities. Very balanced and chill
I’m 27 right now, but between 18-21 I literally couldn’t pay a woman to go out with me or talk to me. The come up is real.
As much I agree with you I also think that those are years of your life where you should focus on school, yourself and what matters to you like sports. Am just saying 😌
The mans value is endless. Just keep acquiring.
@@sefako2286 yeah but like afeez said as a Man you still need to gain experience and achieve some wins with women. Because say I accomplish everything I want to financially, career, and physically. What good is it if I have all that and I can't talk to women because I am socially awkward and do not know how to date or seduce a woman. I'll just be a financially stable dude with no game and women with laugh at me. When you are young is the time to not only find yourself but figure out what you like or dislike in women you date. I think its about finding a balance, but definitely i would not recommend ignoring women all together because then you will be behind in development.
@@BjtheLawyer_ I agree with what you said Indeed
@@BjtheLawyer_ well said
This whole conversation made Shan rethink LIFE!!!
Great video. The ultimate goal is to have meaningful relationships.
Sorry Chris. Today, the baby was the star of the show.
Great podcast as always.
very good discussion but at the end of the day the biggest issue are the inflated expectations of women. I'm in my mid 40s so I have seen the pre internet and post internet dating market. You simply can not compare it. Social media changed everything.
I can see Shan creating her own dating app.
That would be one I would sign up for 💕
My Boy TONY GASKINS got a mention! Word.
Love him
I love conversations like thisssss
As much as I loved the conversation. Regarding the ending: Y'all need to stop asking people with pretty privilege for dating advice. A poor kid might as well ask a trust fund kid advice on how to earn $2K to afford his first car. They simply don't understand what exactly your question is and it's kinda offturning to get schooled by priviledged people on something they have never experienced.
Shan did mention that in the interview.... And thats a good point u bring up. Even with Shan having an attitude problem in her early years... She would never struggle for a mate. Which means her issue would be choosing the right mate... Vs the average persons issue which is finding a mate in the first place. It can be off-putting if it comes off as disregarding issues for the more average looking person
I see what you’re saying and she did address it, however, she has talked to thousands of people, has qualifications within the subject matter and brings takes based on what she has read, studied and found through those conversations with other women. Her other “pretty privileged” takes are still valid (maybe not for every women but there are still beautiful women out there in the world listening to this podcast)
@@ericsbando6240 I think the comment was directed towards Jared (and I guess possibly towards Shan too) about his advice on starting from the inside out and the fact that that's coming from a "pretty boy" and therefore "invalid". It's a typical and corny answer, and he is right about it, confidence always wins and stats show that most women don't prioritize looks. I see broke ass ugly dudes get girls who are too good for them all the damn time. But incels will be incels and they don't like hearing these things from a guy that's either good looking or rich or both.
It’s like in mr and mrs. Smith they didn’t even know what jobs they actually had it was that balanced energy that drew them together, and then when they found out their true career thats when the power roles divided them. they have to put in the work to remember that initial attraction that brought them together.
They were literally assigned to kill each other lmao. You didn’t watch the movie
@@dmystfy that wasn’t the point I was making but okay
Dating sounds crazy. Personally I'm completely fine being single and completely fine being in a relationship. I've never actively sought to be with someone. If it happens cool if it doesn't that's also cool.
I agree with you, to met someone, fall in love and have a commited relationship is something that happens naturally, but how you gonna know somebody without dating? I know that some couples were friends that turned into lovers, but most people have to pass for the phase of dating, and download dating apps (something that I hate).
Same
I'm relatively new to the roommates and I've only watched a few episodes, but this is quickly becoming one of my fav youtube channels. Had to sub. Keep up the great work!
Chris said I can laugh somebody’s drawers off I believe that 😂😂
I find him so entertaining
Agreed
Yeah chris is hilarious
I love this discussion.. every topic was perfectly discussed and perceived from all possible angles... that's how conversations lead to understanding and correct action
LOVED this conversation! Agreed with every single point made. The roommates out here trying to get everyone to level up!
Man Im glad you guys got together and clarified a lot of these issues!
I’m only 24 minutes in.. but I appreciate how Shan treats her husband. It nice.
2 hours with no filler. Bar after bar. Shan the goat and her dude had hella bars too.
This was an amazing conversation!
There is no gender wars. Men and women operate and think different, but we have, or should have the same equal rights.
Equal rights 😂😂😂😂😂
Women should pay child support to the fathers who have custody
Women should pay for dates
Women should pay most of the bills
The feminist agenda is part of the gender war. It's legitimately convinced many women that they don't need men in any asset of their life despite living in a world where most of their needs and wants are invented and produced by...men.
1:13:45 Nope. Society still needs these characteristics. Robots and computers don’t change any of that
1:17:03 hmmm ok sureeee sureeee
1:18:30 🔥
1:20:57 She contradicts her earlier assertion that “being funny” would make up for being a janitor
1:27:28 Hafeez 🔥
Overall great conversation! Enjoyed all the perspectives here👍🏽👍🏽👍🏽
Good convos guys, I’m looking forward to more. I’m an “Enjoy the podcast” fan so I appreciate what I can learn from you guys
9 out of 10 men when they first came across derrick jackson could've told anyone, especially women, that he was full of crap.
Anybody who did a tour with him drops a big chunk of credibility that they doing more than riding a wave of what currently hot.
They did tell people that.. But we weren't gonna ruin his hustle
It was so obvious.. I am a female and it was so obvious to me-I couldn't believe how many women took that guy serious. He just knew what desparate people wanted to hear and used that to get a following..
@@zaraahmedov3456 same. I watched one video and noticed that the women who fell for that were lowbar women with a lack of self worth
Honestly, I think a lot of the women that were watching him were older women because I’m in my 20’s and I didn’t know ANYONE that knew who he was prior to his scandal coming out.
Hands down one of the best podcast y'all have done!
Men are struggling today to get women. Meanwhile lots of women are dating and wanting the same guy. It’s up to us men as whole to do better I think
I agree stop the simpin nd only fans following
That's really your conclusion? "Men need to better!"
If women want what they want, they deserve it. If men want what they want, men have to do better as a whole and earn it? That's a pretty big disconnect. Why is it just on the men to improve? Women don't have to because they're all awesome 1% women? Women can get dates, but not the commitment from the same guy.
Problem is a lot of women (the below average, average, and above average women) want the same high-value man while ignoring the regular and below average guys because they're not good enough. That's totally fine if that's what they want, but if they don't work hard on outmatching their other female competition, that high-value man ain't gonna settle with her in an exclusive relationship. Much easier for women to get dates from men above her league. Much much harder to get commitment.
For those men who do better and become that 1% man, why would he need to settle when all the women want him? He can just date any of them whenever he pleases without offering a relationship to any one.
be better for u, not women. women have ridiculous standards, you're not born to be their puppet and meet THEIR needs. you're born to make sure YOUR needs and dreams and standards are met. and then the women who are smart enough to see your value will be attracted to u and follow u
@@pointblanks whoa whoa whoa. That’s a slippery slope. The moment he hold men accountable is when you feel attacked instead of looking at it objectively. He’s statement does not promote women to stay the way they are, his statement is calling men to greatness. That’s it.
Yeah they got get surgery to be 6'2, plastic surgery to be handsome, gym for muscles and work to be millionaires to qualify for regular women who bring nothing to the table
SHAN WAS ON POINT!!!
The way Jared looked at Shan when he said not all men want the CEO business partner relationship was telling. 40:07
Time stamp?
Time stamp????
@@JAKEBrakeModel94 40:07
@@ayoonine hahah I see it. What Chris said leading up to that was very true
This was a great one Roommates, love Shan and Jared on the show
I like how Shan and her husband corner different age groups. In some of the topics i think the roommates forget that Shan and her husbands answers are coming from their audience. It’s important to remember that we aren’t fixed people. Our needs, wants, and values have the potential to be fluid.
Did anyone talk about having values in Family, career, education, community, health, and spirituality? Not wants, needs, desires or standards.
I agree with Shan’s points completely. Once again the Roomates are awesome and i love their work. The guests did fantastic and the dialogue was great.
This comment should be pinned!
I loved this conversation!!!! I took a lot in from
This
The baby was like "wtf you take that out if my mouth ,give it back!!!" 😂
This was honestly great! I have some reassessing and learning to do about myself and men. Thank you!
So after an hour long conversation ....I learned I need to get ripped and become rich.....
But your wrong, we don't want that, we want men that are attractive, that work and have a plan
@@moro2798 well hes isn't wrong, Women do want financial security and women are attracted to Physically fit men. You cannot tell me that you would take a beer gut over 6 pack
Yes i would prefer someone that can see his 🍆 I think they call it "dad bodies" if you think all women want 6 packs thats your first issue. I want a man that stress free, that can be consistent, that want to provide for his home and shows some kind of leadership
@@moro2798 I'll take my chances, toots 😘
@@danj8038 thank you lol I aint got the time to explain this stuff to EVERY WOMAN 😂
but they don't NEED to get it, bro.....us MEN do lolol
I love Shan so much!!! There are options; we can't go back to the past; stop being lazy and find solutions to get what you want!
This was a banger
I love Shan!
Women have chosen to skip the growing pains of men starting at level 1, yet they expect to be with any man when he's at max level. They have skipped the most important lessons and memories to keep, or share with their children where it had the most MEANING and VALUE.
exactly, building for 10 years from 20-30 vs just meeting at 30, u aint gonna have anywhere near the same level of bond and love for eachother. men who work to be successful and no women had faith in him, won't have faith in women in relationships nor marriage. they understand that women just want him for his success, not who he is
@@spikeboy101 I absolutely concur, my guy. As a man who's working on himself to level up and be the best me possible- in all aspects of my life- I have to pause and wonder, if once I get into that successful space and become the type of man that most woman find attractive; will that be because they genuinely want me or what I have to offer. My fear is then, once I reach that pinnacle and I meet someone; the relationship will always be a disengenious one.
@@Haramu-Fal0 maybe u can pretend to look like the average person during the dating phase and if she still likes u for u, then u know it's real. Or u fake a tragedy and see if she will still stay or dip. Or test if she approaches u for your money or just your time and company. Ofc money matters to a level for basic living and bills so don't mind if they at least want to know ur financially stable bc that means ur a mature responsible adult
Because some women are scared to be the come up woman, incase you get dumped for the women, that the guy now has access too !!
They wait at the finish line for the winners. The real ones are their for the struggle
Great Show!!! Shan and Jared come out on tops.
Loved the conversation. I'm a traditional woman but have always loved Shan for her openness, objectivity, and honesty. I feel her on being more agreeable.
Thank you for dropping all these gems...i now have a list of books to read over the summer
I loved this episode. It was nice to see the "parallel" issues that women are having with men. I still think guys have it worse but that's just my bias. I did walk away with more compassion for the modern womans dating problems.
This post gen X conversation is where it is truly at... and moving from here are so many solutions for relationships. No complaining, no blaming...just pure honesty, discovery and meeting of minds. Let’s move the conversations on masculine/feminine dynamics to more of This! 👏🏽❤️
this was great. loved how she could make her points and everything she said made sense. This contracts a lot what hafeez was Emphasizing so hard in the last video with the podcast with the last girl
love this show lots of quality people speak their mind always watch till the end love you guys
She is truly unique and different🥰
Yea... the last part about the
“yeah but syndrome...”
#1 important quality in a mate:
he wants to be with you!!
She wants to be with you!!
I think that another valid point that might have already been addressed here is that men have become more feminine and women have become more masculine. With this flip, it's hard to have a traditional type of relationship when many of the gender roles have been juxtaposed.
I totally agree with you
So refreshing, insightful, and relevant 🔥🔥🔥
Loving these podcasts. I think ultimately men need to become better men and women need to become better women. Men: rediscover and become true masculinity, Women: rediscover and become true femininity. Men: start picking up the tools, women: start putting the propaganda down. We've both been led completely astray and have abandoned the polarities that are the keys to happiness.
that whole quote "we are not the enemy" sheeeeezzz. say that again!
I love when women comment it's about how great she looks or how cute they are as a couple. Nothing about the actually means of the video
That's what I always see when I go women's RUclips pages 😂
So annoying 🤦🏽♂️
Ughhh thank you.
Yes they are attractive. But if I took their advice in my marriage I would be divorced. People especially women need to learn how to read between the lines.
@@jbb8261 well her advice is obviously working for her so maybe just focus on your own? 🙄