I really appreciate you sharing this. I’m not sure how many dudes go to this channel but I used to never want kids, ever. Then I met a girl I loved snd opened up to the idea. I was hoping to compromise with one and see how it goes from there. Jumping from one to two really seems like a massive stress in comparison to one. Not sure I could handle it. I appreciate your honesty!
Fellow dad here. I agree with how you feel. I'm very hesitant to jump to a second kid. People put pressure on you saying, "You need a sibling for your first child". No, no you don't. In the end, these people aren't going to be stressing with a second kid, you are. If you feel it in your gut that two would be too many, then listen to it.
Hey guys, despite being very difficult at the beginning. Probably first one year the hardest. After that the kids get along and they actually entertain each other. I am sure in the future it will be more than worth it. Just survive the first year hehehe
Also if you want to have some sanity while having two kids. Fix their sleep schedule. No matter what. We would go crazy if our oldest wasn’t sleeping well and alone. I have a 2 year and a 6 month.
I don’t even have 2 yet but 0-1 was soooo difficult. I had an extra fussy baby, horrible sleeper, still horrible at 14 months. My friends...what friends. They’ve disappeared. I was hardly EVER home. I was at happy hour with friends, camping, hiking, traveling, etc. NOW, I’m home 90% of the time. Maybe 99.9. Life as I knew it had changed from 0-1 child. Do I regret it? Not at all!! But adjusting was difficult
Absolutely agree! Going from 1 to 2 has been harder than 0 to 1. Oddly though I am more paranoid with my second baby than I was with my first. Maybe ignorance was bliss with my first? 🤔🤣It’s absolutely chaotic but I wouldn’t have it any other way.
My first 2 boys were 3 yrs apart and it was chaos. Although only 1 in diapers, a toddler can trash a room within seconds after it was just cleaned. I think the hardest was when both were in meltdown mode- 1 starving, the other frustrated over a toy, not surprised I have gray hair. Kayla, you will find your new normal. I love these vlogs, so real. Thank you for sharing some of the really hard stuff.
Don’t worry baby momma! You’re only 3ish weeks postpartum and you still have a withdrawal of hormones. Try to take naps with Riley what way you both can get some rest. You will be able to work more effectively if you sleep w bit more. You can also make cleaning a game and do it with her. That way she’s entertained and you can tidy up.
I've always heard that going from 0 to 1 is hard because it's such a huge change; going from 1 to 2 is hard because you need to learn how to juggle everything; going from 2 to 3 is hard because then you are officially outnumbered (if you have a partner/spouse); but then anything after that is like whatever because you're already living in the madhouse lol. I'm having #2 in April and we will be living with my parents for the first month and then are moving out of state in May. Feel like I'm studying for a test by watching your videos!
"She would breathe and I would look it up on Google " 🤣😭🤣😭 This is me!! 🙋♀️🙋♀️🙋♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️ my daughter is 11 weeks old and I'm a first time mom. I've googled it ALL lol
It will get better mama 💗💗 just like you said you had with Riley, there will be an adjustment period & one day you will look back and say “damn, I made it” and everything will fall in to place and create a new normal. Jackson will get less “needy” and Riley will learn to be a big sister! You’ve got this! 💗💗
Personally the hardest for me has been going from 0-1 . Going from 1-2 was very easy . Of course the first couple of weeks seemed hard because of a new routine but overall was very easy and that made me get pregnant again when my baby was 6 months old. All the time during the pregnancy i was worried how I was going to do it and that my life would just be a huge chaos . I basically mentally prepared myself about it how I wouldn’t let being a mama of 3 to win over me as a human . I had my 3rd one on dec 12th via c section and luckily my mom took off from work until January 1st and she was helping me alot. Is been a week on my own during the day until 3pm ( i live a floor below my parents) and believe it or not it seems even easier than 1-2 or when i have my mom around. It has to do alot with mentally preparing yourself. Think positive about when you move in VA , don’t let the thought of how am I going to do it win over you. In less than a month I will Be moving too and all I say to myself is that I got this! ❤️
I love your honesty. Baby number 2 will be here in July and I'm so worried that my post partum anxiety is going to come back. I also live in a very rural place so I already feel trapped lol you're doing really well! ♥️
Omg I feel like I’m watching myself in the mirror talk. You are seriously describing my life so much! I had my second baby December 16, 2019. And I have a 15 month old. It feels like no one understands what I’m going through, I’m so happy I stumbled upon this video because now I feel like what I’m going through is somewhat normal and my life isn’t just random chaos LOL you’re doing an AMAZING job by the way mommas!!
In my experience going 0-1 was harder than 1 to 2. Why? Because it took me so long to get used to that new life, my new role, to create that whole new routine, etc. Compared to that, life with two kids seemed quite easy. All i had to do was to learn how to share myself for them, everything else was already settled down. So it was easy to me. But going 2 to 3 is the hardest challenge to me so far. After 6 months I still struggle and it feels like with every day it goes harder. Children ages 4,5 y, 2,5 y, 6 months. Waiting the day when I finally feel again that "hey, i got this".
Kayla, I know that it’s hard, but as you said - it will get better. My son was also really fussy the first 3 months of his life. I had to carry him around all the time and I practically learned to do everything with one hand, because he didn’t want to be in a carrier....I had no one to help me as all my relatives live outside USA, so it was really tiring. I can only imagine how exhausted you are, BUT hang in there! Your videos are so real and I love watching how you go trough life. It will get easier and you will eventually get some sleep. Us mommas are strong that way! Sending you lots of love ❤️
I came back to watch all of your newborn videos with Jackson and I can relate on so many levels. I have a 2 1/2 year old daughter and I also have a 3 week old baby boy and yes it is much tougher. Thank you for reminding us to give ourselves grace because it’s not easy. I too have a lot of support from my mom and MIL and even then it’s super hard 😩 but also so rewarding 🥰.
Pregnant with my 3rd (die any day now). The most effective thing I can suggest is GET A PLANNER! Seriously with multiples, it will save your life. Trying to remember who goes where when is too much. I also log/schedule cleaning so I can at least know what needs to be done even if it’s moved to another day in the week. Target has great planners in the dollar spot so you don’t have to spend a ton 👌🏽 GOOD LUCK MAMAS!
You’re such an inspiration to all parents! I appreciate that even with your hands full you still take the time to keep us updated. My partner and I are ttc baby number 2 and I know it’s going to be hard work, but children are such a blessing they are worth it all in the end 😊 Keep up the good work mama😘
Kayla, you are just lovely! Thank you for your honesty and advice. I'm expecting my first baby in April 2020. My husband and I are so excited and we cant wait to meet our babygirl. I wish you all the best with your two beautiful babies. You are doing a wonderful job. Hugs from South Africa 😊❤
Thank you for your vlog, I have three children and feel the same way, I'm dividing myself and my time it's an adjustment and a juggling act, It's refreshing to watch someone who is honest and can relate to, As parents we all put way to much pressure on ourselves and RUclips in general has a responsibility almost I feel to show the reality of motherhood/parenthood, This I feel takes that level of pressure of because equally my favourite saying is if not exhausted your doing it wrong lol, we are all human at the end of the day and give self pat on the back for what you do well, Equally many will watch this and feel like you and know that it's ok.
You are doing a great job Kayla! Thank you for sharing the truth about postpartum with 2 kids. The unrealistic expectations we have put even more unnecessary pressure on us. I almost teared up when you said you were losing you mind because I get it! I feel that way right now
You are right! But going from 1-2 is harder than going from 0-1, I think that depends on the age gap between the two kids. The older the previous child is, the easier it is.
Kayla you hit the nail on the head Girl. Like I told you I have a 2 year old and a 7 week old and I feel the exact same way. It’s very hard. I feel like my son is requires more cuddling then my Daughter did.. he’s always in a carrier! We will make it through. :)
Just discovered your channel as my husband and I are thinking about trying for our second. Now I'm terrified! I know they get older and things get easier but I absolutely love my alone time when my son naps. I'm going to check out some of your more recent videos. Hopefully things have gotten easier!!
Awww thank you for being so honest. I don’t even know when this video was made but I hope things have gotten easier for you. Planning for my second now and feeling terrified!! Lol. But at least you’re helping me mentally prepared. ❤️
I think it depends on how your first born was as a newborn. My daughter cried from day one till she was 4 months old. She didn't like the swing, the baby carrier, nothing! She just wanted me all day to rock her in the rocking chair. I have no family close to me so I did it all alone (my husband had to work a lot). With my second born it was easy and hard but not as hard as just my daughter. He was so easy going. They are 15 months apart. I am expecting my third baby in april. I can't wait to see how it will be. My daughter will be 4 years old and my son 2 and a half when baby boy will be here 💙
I agree. In my opinion it's not a matter of going from 0 to 1, or 1 to 2. It's a matter of which baby is easy going vs more difficult. My son didn't sleep through the night until 6 months. He had horrible colic and cried all day, every day. I was spending my days/nights rocking him or feeding him. Didn't sleep for more than 2 hours in a row, couldn't nap day time...binge watching on Netflix :) that sounds amazing! I hope my next one is that easy.
I currently have a soon to be 15 month old & I’m due next month. I’m so excited yet so nervous to have 2 under 2. Us moms are strong, we got this! 💪🏼 I know it’s not going to be easy but then again they grow up so fast. I will definitely cherish every moment bc before I know it they’ll be in middle school like my oldest. P.S. I literally google EVERYTHING too. Don’t know if that’s a good or a bad thing. 🥴
This video is awesome. I appreciate you just laying it out the way it is. I’m about to go from 1 to 2 and I know it will be hard. This is helping me to mentally prepare haha
Hi. I love watching your videos. I wish I met you while I was pregnant and having my first baby. Very helpful. You doing great job and your babies are just adorable.
My son is 5 about to be 6 and I’m having a baby girl this month. I feel like it will be easier for me just because my son is older instead of younger. He’s very independent, and can already do a lot on his own. Maybe it just depends on the age range. It sounds hard having a toddler AND a baby tho 😫
Thank you for being open with us. It was interesting to me how tired you are when you are temporarily live with your family. My silly assumption was that “oh if I lived closer to my family, I could sleep as much as needed and get some personal time to myself.” I see now how that is a ridiculous thought. I never even consider that babies need to be cleaned, fed, and cared for by their mama. It doesn’t matter if you live by yourself or with 50 people. Sleep deprivation seems to be very real lol. I’m not a mother yet but I appreciate the opportunity to watch your journey and learn from you.
Yea yu’re correct, going to 1-2 is hard.. and I seriously appreciate ur patience while riley and jackson were crying at the same time..omg u are super super manageable my dear..if this is harder, think 2-3 would be 😰😰
Thank you for sharing this, I never thought I’d be looking for this video on RUclips. I’m glad I did find your content. I never thought of having a kid now all my friends and family are pressuring me into the idea of have a second baby but I’ll stick to one. Your video solidified my initial thoughts 💭
I think being pregnant with an existing baby/toddler is hard! When I was prego with my little girl it was easy because it was just me I could nap whenever I needed to or relax, now i dont have time to nap even when she is napping i have to try and clean and run errands. Sooo I'm a little stressed going from one baby/toddler who is going to be 17 mo to two babies when our little guy comes next month. The only thing that helps me get by is I tell myself that these phases only last a short time and then one day she and he will be teens and may not want me around or want my cuddles and kisses as much so i just try to enjoy it even if things are falling apart around me. 😊
Amber Atwood OMG I agree with you so much. I have an 11 year so when I was pregnant with my now 15 month old it was so much easier. I could nap when I wanted/ have me time when I was feeling tired/ stressed. Now I’m pregnant again & my 15 month old has me running around all day. I try to rest when he’s napping but I’m always doing something. I still gotta take care of my home/ mom/ wife duties. By the end of the day I’m drained. This time around is definitely more difficult. I am also due next month! Good luck girl. ☺️
I guess it can also depend on you financial situation. If you are wealthy; having 2,3 or 6 will make NO difference. Because you are rich! If you are poor, you will probably be getting some kind of assistance so 2 or 6 also not a big deal. If you are somewhere in the middle then it might actually matter that extra 3k a month.
Hi! Your videos are awesome. Raw. I love it! We are trying for baby #1 now and I am already nervous about how am I going to manage a baby without my mum and our family support. We have been linving in Scotland now, but we were born in Czech Republic. I love my sleep so much and when I see how tired you are... I am so sorry, wish you the best and sending you a ton of energy!!! ❤
I do the same thing with to-do lists. Except the stuff almost never gets done lol. I don’t have any help at all and at first it felt impossible. But after the first 3-4 months pass, it does get a little easier. It’s not easy, but it’s manageable.
We are living with my parents right now until our house is built. We have a son who is a few days younger than Riley and I’m due with baby boy number two in may and we will still be with my parents! These videos I love because I can relate so much.
Ahhh I’m scared! Lol I had a much more difficult 0 to 1 transition (sounds like) so I’m hoping that my second newborn experience will be better, but in no way do I see how 1 to 2 could be easier - those people are crazy lol! Hang in there momma you got this!
Having a reflux bubba is hard work. I remember when my now 12 month old (no reflux now) was that age and was breastfeeding constantly because she didn't want to be put down and wanted to feed for comfort. The positive part of this was being able to watch netflix all the time while she was feeding. We are planning for baby #2 so thank you for this honest video 😊 Brings me back to reality that it will be hard especially at the start but worth it. You are doing an amazing job! Your kids are gorgeous.
Omg my daughter was like that! I couldn't sit because she would know, like I tried being a Ninja and doing it extra slowly, but nope, not happening. I agree 1 to 2 is harder. Congrats and remember to take a few minutes for yourself, even if it's an extra few minutes in the shower:)
Coming from one child to two is much more difficult, I have three toddlers and an infant and when I say lost my mind two years ago it's an understatement
Hi Kayla! Having a reflux baby is hard! We struggled with reflux for first few months too. Especially because a reflux baby can't be put down. What I can tell you is that it will get easier and easier. Hang in there!
I have to agree, it was harder going from 1-2. I have a 3 year old and a 4 month old and they are both girls! Lol but yeah trying to split myself between them both and the house work is really hard!
You are doing great! My first one is due that I can't imagine how I will cope with the one. Good to know what your thoughts as I always wanted to have two
I'm so scared. 5 months till my due date and I have a 2 1/2 year old daughter and had severe postpartum depression with her. I'm praying so hard that it'll be better this time around and I get to feel that amazing connection that moms without PPD talk about! But now I'm scared it might be worse with two
Sierra Mae Don’t think that way. Try thinking positive. Everything will be ok!❤️ Just remember they grow up so fast! You’ll be fine girl, you got this. 🤗
Hi Kayla I hope you are going well with the babies and I hope you see my comment. I have a one month old and and a 5 year old and I relate to everything you are saying. I keep hearing you talking about Reflux my new born has it and it's been difficult because she vomits often and it has been stressful for me. Please advise of ways you have tried to reduce the frequency and when did it stop. Worried mommy
Take advantage of all the help you have with Riley, so that she gets used to Jackson needing you more when he's so helpless. There are others there to pick up the slack now. It'll work out. You are getting a lot done if you are getting through a day's "to do" list in the course of a week.
Going from 1 to 2 kids was harder for me too . Cause you feel guilt for showing the baby so much attention so then you try and make up for it but it doesnt always work .
I’m going from 4-5... I’ve had all boys baby girl will be the only princess of the house. My 1-2 was challenging because I had Irish twins. They are so close in age where it was a interesting transition. 2-3 was easier because the gap was further apart. He’s 3 years younger than his middle brother. 4 is my stepson, though we don’t see him a lot. 5 will be here in April!
I really wanted to hear very honest storie. I will have my second baby in April my son will be 2 end of March. I will be in the same situation like you. I can realise how hard will be from your story. With one child you need an eyes back of your head already it’s so true. It will get easier with years of course. My firstborn son was the same exact like your son having severe reflux it’s enough hard for both of you. Your videos help a lot so thank you so much 🙏😇🤰🏻🤗💙💖🥰xx
My son is 7 1/2 now and my hubby and I are trying for a baby. I'm already scared of feeling trapped and loosing the freedom I have now and how independent my son is. I also work 3 jobs and would not be able to keep those with a baby. My hubby works 2nd shift too so I already know I will be doing most of the work with the baby and my son.
What my sister-in-law said was it was easier having 2 once the youngest was more interactive and could hold her own head. My nephew had a blast with my niece when she turned 4 months. He would set up his toys in front of her and try to make her laugh. My niece always has a playmate where before mom was the playmate. My sister-in-law did say she would have to make sure the toys that were near her she couldnt choke on, but in general they had fun together. I never thought that having 2 kids was easier. It's like come on people. When one is sleeping the other is most likely awake. Yes you know what you're doing, but that's basically it. *Edit my sister-in-law also made the rule no toys on the floor that his sister could choke on when the she was on the floor. All of those kind of toys had to go in his bedroom when his sister was on the floor. Of course they had a 1 level house (they have a old Florida home) so it was easier to have this rule.
Make sure to read the directions on that carrier..usually the baby isn’t supposed to be too snug against you..so they can breathe. I could wrong with that brand but that’s what mine said.
I think is harder because they only are a yr apart. My first daughter was 5 when i gave birth to my second daughter. And i have to say that it didnt feel difficult my 1st daughter has been helping me so much but i think that when my 3rd baby comes in June that's when i will feel the difficulties of have two baby under two. 🙈🙈 Help😂😂
I'm due in may with my second in May and I clicked on this expecting hope but just got the reality lol I think most people who say it jets easier are either saying in regards to once there are a bit older or the fact that you no longer question every little thing you are doing
My sister-in-law said it was easier when baby could hold their own head and was more awake. My nephew would try to make his sister laugh all the time at 4 months. He taught her how to crawl. They are now working on walking. He's getting frustrated because his sister just wants to crawl. Of course you do have to supervise, but your baby has a playmate. You arent the playmate all the time like with the 1st one.
I’m the minority. I thought going from 0 to 1 was waaaayy harder! My life was flipped upside down!! I had no idea what I was getting myself into. Going from 1 to 2 was like “been there done that”. Now we’re going from 2 to 3, so we’ll see....
I can relate so much ! My girls are 2 years apart and the newborn phase i was in survival mode. I tried to keep up with my channel and failed. My newborn nursed around the clock didnt take a paci or bottle. I was scared to leave the house with both girls. 6 months later I’m finally starting to settle into this 💕
I’m trying so hard to mentally prepare myself for baby #2 coming in May but there’s only so much I can prepare for before being thrown into it lol my son will be 2.5 when baby girl is born so I know it’ll be crazy. I totally understood when you were saying with 1 kid you had downtime and you were still able to binge watch Netflix and stuff like that because that’s what I do now lol I’m ready for the adventure that’s forsure
Is that the regular Lillebaby or the Lillebaby air? I bought the Lillebaby air because I live in a desert climate, baby's due soon so wondering if you like it if it's the "air flow" style...
I have one and I’m struggling, I really do want more but I’m contemplating, that’s why I’m watching these videos. My mum had 6 children and all I ever do is wonder how the hell she did it!
It should get easier as they get older and a lot of moms in the same situation as you will be finding juggling two very young children difficult so I wouldn't be hard on yourself
I am a mom of beautiful children I am 17 I will be 18 in November and I have a 10 month old and a three month old and it is extremely hard at only 17 being a mom of two under 10 months lots of people think it’s easy but it is really hard ❤
Good question. I always tell my girl idk how ima love my second kid as much as my first baby boy. I jus love him so much ya know. I know I’d love the second baby idc. But still that’s my baby boy.
I had twins so I went from 0-2 in the beginning 😬 My twins are 4 and I’m 38 weeks pregnant and I think I’m more nervous that I’ve gotten used to having toddlers I’m not going to know what to do with a baby lol.
Our son is one month younger than Riley and our daughter is coming this May 😳 I'm definitely nervous cause I moved out of state from my parents to live with my husband and we are literally all on our own... I'm a SAHM as well. I'm so glad that I been following your journey since we had our son and now we're on the same boat agian 🤣🤣🤣 Your videos are great help and you're doing awesome!!!
I had a 6, 15 month old, and a newborn when I brought my son home from the hospital. He also had gerds and it was extremely difficult. Especially with the gerds in play and never being able to put him down. It will get easier. Your doing great.
I really appreciate you sharing this. I’m not sure how many dudes go to this channel but I used to never want kids, ever. Then I met a girl I loved snd opened up to the idea. I was hoping to compromise with one and see how it goes from there. Jumping from one to two really seems like a massive stress in comparison to one. Not sure I could handle it. I appreciate your honesty!
Fellow dad here. I agree with how you feel. I'm very hesitant to jump to a second kid. People put pressure on you saying, "You need a sibling for your first child". No, no you don't. In the end, these people aren't going to be stressing with a second kid, you are. If you feel it in your gut that two would be too many, then listen to it.
Hey guys, despite being very difficult at the beginning. Probably first one year the hardest. After that the kids get along and they actually entertain each other. I am sure in the future it will be more than worth it. Just survive the first year hehehe
Also if you want to have some sanity while having two kids. Fix their sleep schedule. No matter what. We would go crazy if our oldest wasn’t sleeping well and alone. I have a 2 year and a 6 month.
I don’t even have 2 yet but 0-1 was soooo difficult. I had an extra fussy baby, horrible sleeper, still horrible at 14 months. My friends...what friends. They’ve disappeared. I was hardly EVER home. I was at happy hour with friends, camping, hiking, traveling, etc. NOW, I’m home 90% of the time. Maybe 99.9. Life as I knew it had changed from 0-1 child. Do I regret it? Not at all!! But adjusting was difficult
And that is soooo okay! 💖
Absolutely agree! Going from 1 to 2 has been harder than 0 to 1. Oddly though I am more paranoid with my second baby than I was with my first. Maybe ignorance was bliss with my first? 🤔🤣It’s absolutely chaotic but I wouldn’t have it any other way.
My first 2 boys were 3 yrs apart and it was chaos. Although only 1 in diapers, a toddler can trash a room within seconds after it was just cleaned. I think the hardest was when both were in meltdown mode- 1 starving, the other frustrated over a toy, not surprised I have gray hair. Kayla, you will find your new normal. I love these vlogs, so real. Thank you for sharing some of the really hard stuff.
Don’t worry baby momma! You’re only 3ish weeks postpartum and you still have a withdrawal of hormones. Try to take naps with Riley what way you both can get some rest. You will be able to work more effectively if you sleep w bit more. You can also make cleaning a game and do it with her. That way she’s entertained and you can tidy up.
I've always heard that going from 0 to 1 is hard because it's such a huge change; going from 1 to 2 is hard because you need to learn how to juggle everything; going from 2 to 3 is hard because then you are officially outnumbered (if you have a partner/spouse); but then anything after that is like whatever because you're already living in the madhouse lol.
I'm having #2 in April and we will be living with my parents for the first month and then are moving out of state in May. Feel like I'm studying for a test by watching your videos!
Lol. I choked on my lunch. Thank you for that. I was having a shitty day.
"She would breathe and I would look it up on Google " 🤣😭🤣😭 This is me!! 🙋♀️🙋♀️🙋♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️ my daughter is 11 weeks old and I'm a first time mom. I've googled it ALL lol
It will get better mama 💗💗 just like you said you had with Riley, there will be an adjustment period & one day you will look back and say “damn, I made it” and everything will fall in to place and create a new normal. Jackson will get less “needy” and Riley will learn to be a big sister! You’ve got this! 💗💗
Personally the hardest for me has been going from 0-1 . Going from 1-2 was very easy . Of course the first couple of weeks seemed hard because of a new routine but overall was very easy and that made me get pregnant again when my baby was 6 months old. All the time during the pregnancy i was worried how I was going to do it and that my life would just be a huge chaos . I basically mentally prepared myself about it how I wouldn’t let being a mama of 3 to win over me as a human . I had my 3rd one on dec 12th via c section and luckily my mom took off from work until January 1st and she was helping me alot. Is been a week on my own during the day until 3pm ( i live a floor below my parents) and believe it or not it seems even easier than 1-2 or when i have my mom around. It has to do alot with mentally preparing yourself. Think positive about when you move in VA , don’t let the thought of how am I going to do it win over you. In less than a month I will
Be moving too and all I say to myself is that I got this! ❤️
I love your honesty. Baby number 2 will be here in July and I'm so worried that my post partum anxiety is going to come back. I also live in a very rural place so I already feel trapped lol you're doing really well! ♥️
Omg I feel like I’m watching myself in the mirror talk. You are seriously describing my life so much! I had my second baby December 16, 2019. And I have a 15 month old. It feels like no one understands what I’m going through, I’m so happy I stumbled upon this video because now I feel like what I’m going through is somewhat normal and my life isn’t just random chaos LOL you’re doing an AMAZING job by the way mommas!!
In my experience going 0-1 was harder than 1 to 2. Why? Because it took me so long to get used to that new life, my new role, to create that whole new routine, etc. Compared to that, life with two kids seemed quite easy. All i had to do was to learn how to share myself for them, everything else was already settled down. So it was easy to me. But going 2 to 3 is the hardest challenge to me so far. After 6 months I still struggle and it feels like with every day it goes harder. Children ages 4,5 y, 2,5 y, 6 months. Waiting the day when I finally feel again that "hey, i got this".
Kayla, I know that it’s hard, but as you said - it will get better. My son was also really fussy the first 3 months of his life. I had to carry him around all the time and I practically learned to do everything with one hand, because he didn’t want to be in a carrier....I had no one to help me as all my relatives live outside USA, so it was really tiring. I can only imagine how exhausted you are, BUT hang in there! Your videos are so real and I love watching how you go trough life. It will get easier and you will eventually get some sleep. Us mommas are strong that way! Sending you lots of love ❤️
I came back to watch all of your newborn videos with Jackson and I can relate on so many levels. I have a 2 1/2 year old daughter and I also have a 3 week old baby boy and yes it is much tougher. Thank you for reminding us to give ourselves grace because it’s not easy. I too have a lot of support from my mom and MIL and even then it’s super hard 😩 but also so rewarding 🥰.
Pregnant with my 3rd (die any day now). The most effective thing I can suggest is GET A PLANNER! Seriously with multiples, it will save your life. Trying to remember who goes where when is too much. I also log/schedule cleaning so I can at least know what needs to be done even if it’s moved to another day in the week. Target has great planners in the dollar spot so you don’t have to spend a ton 👌🏽 GOOD LUCK MAMAS!
You’re such an inspiration to all parents!
I appreciate that even with your hands full you still take the time to keep us updated. My partner and I are ttc baby number 2 and I know it’s going to be hard work, but children are such a blessing they are worth it all in the end 😊
Keep up the good work mama😘
Thanks for being so real. I'm due in March and it's great to see other people's reality to help set my expectations in the right place😉
Kayla, you are just lovely! Thank you for your honesty and advice. I'm expecting my first baby in April 2020. My husband and I are so excited and we cant wait to meet our babygirl. I wish you all the best with your two beautiful babies. You are doing a wonderful job. Hugs from South Africa 😊❤
I have to agree with you, the transition from 1 to 2 is the hardest. (We're currently pregnant with baby number 4
Yes yes yes!!! Sooo true!! Everything you’re saying and feeling Is 100% true!!! Thank you for sharing this!
Thank you for your vlog,
I have three children and feel the same way,
I'm dividing myself and my time it's an adjustment and a juggling act,
It's refreshing to watch someone who is honest and can relate to,
As parents we all put way to much pressure on ourselves and RUclips in general has a responsibility almost I feel to show the reality of motherhood/parenthood,
This I feel takes that level of pressure of because equally my favourite saying is if not exhausted your doing it wrong lol,
we are all human at the end of the day and give self pat on the back for what you do well,
Equally many will watch this and feel like you and know that it's ok.
What an awesome topic! Love how brutally honest you are 💪🏼 Hang in there mama, you are doing great 🙏🏼
YAYY I very been waiting for this!
Ur my favourite RUclipsr!!!!
You’re my fav mama to watch on RUclips! Sending love to you and thank you for all the heads up! You’ll do fine in Virginia! You’re amazing already ♥️
You are doing a great job Kayla! Thank you for sharing the truth about postpartum with 2 kids. The unrealistic expectations we have put even more unnecessary pressure on us. I almost teared up when you said you were losing you mind because I get it! I feel that way right now
You are right! But going from 1-2 is harder than going from 0-1, I think that depends on the age gap between the two kids. The older the previous child is, the easier it is.
T U yes! Absolutely! I think if Riley was 3 or 4 it’d be a lot easier than it is now. thanks for watching! ❤️❤️
Kayla you hit the nail on the head Girl. Like I told you I have a 2 year old and a 7 week old and I feel the exact same way. It’s very hard. I feel like my son is requires more cuddling then my Daughter did.. he’s always in a carrier! We will make it through. :)
Just discovered your channel as my husband and I are thinking about trying for our second. Now I'm terrified! I know they get older and things get easier but I absolutely love my alone time when my son naps. I'm going to check out some of your more recent videos. Hopefully things have gotten easier!!
Awww thank you for being so honest. I don’t even know when this video was made but I hope things have gotten easier for you. Planning for my second now and feeling terrified!! Lol. But at least you’re helping me mentally prepared. ❤️
We're TTC for Baby #2 and I think I'm more nervous this go around then when we were expecting our first 😅 Thank you for being so open!! xx
I think it depends on how your first born was as a newborn. My daughter cried from day one till she was 4 months old. She didn't like the swing, the baby carrier, nothing! She just wanted me all day to rock her in the rocking chair. I have no family close to me so I did it all alone (my husband had to work a lot). With my second born it was easy and hard but not as hard as just my daughter. He was so easy going. They are 15 months apart. I am expecting my third baby in april. I can't wait to see how it will be. My daughter will be 4 years old and my son 2 and a half when baby boy will be here 💙
I agree. In my opinion it's not a matter of going from 0 to 1, or 1 to 2. It's a matter of which baby is easy going vs more difficult. My son didn't sleep through the night until 6 months. He had horrible colic and cried all day, every day. I was spending my days/nights rocking him or feeding him. Didn't sleep for more than 2 hours in a row, couldn't nap day time...binge watching on Netflix :) that sounds amazing! I hope my next one is that easy.
I currently have a soon to be 15 month old & I’m due next month. I’m so excited yet so nervous to have 2 under 2. Us moms are strong, we got this! 💪🏼 I know it’s not going to be easy but then again they grow up so fast. I will definitely cherish every moment bc before I know it they’ll be in middle school like my oldest.
P.S. I literally google EVERYTHING too. Don’t know if that’s a good or a bad thing. 🥴
Been there my girls are 2 years apart and now when I’m alone with one it feels like the good old days hahahahaha (sigh) more like easier days 😂
This video is awesome. I appreciate you just laying it out the way it is. I’m about to go from 1 to 2 and I know it will be hard. This is helping me to mentally prepare haha
Hi. I love watching your videos. I wish I met you while I was pregnant and having my first baby. Very helpful. You doing great job and your babies are just adorable.
You’re doing great mama! 💜 Thanks for being real and honest.
Well that relieves me temporarily since I’m going from 0 to 1 baby ! But soon enough I’ll be at 1 to 2 so I’ll enjoy this while I can 😅
My babies are 21 months and 12 days and I relate to this entire video so much. Love your videos!
You’re doing great! You are a great
Mom!
My son is 5 about to be 6 and I’m having a baby girl this month. I feel like it will be easier for me just because my son is older instead of younger. He’s very independent, and can already do a lot on his own. Maybe it just depends on the age range. It sounds hard having a toddler AND a baby tho 😫
I’m pregnant with my second and my son is 4 so and he can do things on his own pretty much . So I’m hoping it will be easier
@@cassandramarquez5001 has it been easy?
@@yu-a9596 I’m still pregnant af lol I’m due in six weeks
@@cassandramarquez5001 how has it been now?♡ hoping for an update:)
Thank you for being open with us. It was interesting to me how tired you are when you are temporarily live with your family. My silly assumption was that “oh if I lived closer to my family, I could sleep as much as needed and get some personal time to myself.” I see now how that is a ridiculous thought. I never even consider that babies need to be cleaned, fed, and cared for by their mama. It doesn’t matter if you live by yourself or with 50 people. Sleep deprivation seems to be very real lol. I’m not a mother yet but I appreciate the opportunity to watch your journey and learn from you.
Thanks for sharing your thoughts, I'll keep that in mind while planning baby no 2 😊 Keep doing great, sending lots of love! ❤️
Yea yu’re correct, going to 1-2 is hard.. and I seriously appreciate ur patience while riley and jackson were crying at the same time..omg u are super super manageable my dear..if this is harder, think 2-3 would be 😰😰
Thank you for sharing this, I never thought I’d be looking for this video on RUclips. I’m glad I did find your content. I never thought of having a kid now all my friends and family are pressuring me into the idea of have a second baby but I’ll stick to one. Your video solidified my initial thoughts 💭
I think being pregnant with an existing baby/toddler is hard! When I was prego with my little girl it was easy because it was just me I could nap whenever I needed to or relax, now i dont have time to nap even when she is napping i have to try and clean and run errands. Sooo I'm a little stressed going from one baby/toddler who is going to be 17 mo to two babies when our little guy comes next month. The only thing that helps me get by is I tell myself that these phases only last a short time and then one day she and he will be teens and may not want me around or want my cuddles and kisses as much so i just try to enjoy it even if things are falling apart around me. 😊
Amber Atwood OMG I agree with you so much. I have an 11 year so when I was pregnant with my now 15 month old it was so much easier. I could nap when I wanted/ have me time when I was feeling tired/ stressed. Now I’m pregnant again & my 15 month old has me running around all day. I try to rest when he’s napping but I’m always doing something. I still gotta take care of my home/ mom/ wife duties. By the end of the day I’m drained. This time around is definitely more difficult. I am also due next month! Good luck girl. ☺️
This is me in a couple of months, a newborn and a two year old ❤️❤️❤️
I need an update of this video! I’m struggling with the decision on whether or not have a second child.
I guess it can also depend on you financial situation. If you are wealthy; having 2,3 or 6 will make NO difference. Because you are rich! If you are poor, you will probably be getting some kind of assistance so 2 or 6 also not a big deal. If you are somewhere in the middle then it might actually matter that extra 3k a month.
Hi! Your videos are awesome. Raw. I love it! We are trying for baby #1 now and I am already nervous about how am I going to manage a baby without my mum and our family support. We have been linving in Scotland now, but we were born in Czech Republic. I love my sleep so much and when I see how tired you are... I am so sorry, wish you the best and sending you a ton of energy!!! ❤
I just found out that I am pregnant with my second child and I am beyond nervous
Totally agree , going from 1 to 2 has been much harder. With one i could nap while baby slept. Not now lol
I do the same thing with to-do lists. Except the stuff almost never gets done lol. I don’t have any help at all and at first it felt impossible. But after the first 3-4 months pass, it does get a little easier. It’s not easy, but it’s manageable.
We are living with my parents right now until our house is built. We have a son who is a few days younger than Riley and I’m due with baby boy number two in may and we will still be with my parents! These videos I love because I can relate so much.
Your doing a great job ! I love your positive outlook
Ahhh I’m scared! Lol I had a much more difficult 0 to 1 transition (sounds like) so I’m hoping that my second newborn experience will be better, but in no way do I see how 1 to 2 could be easier - those people are crazy lol! Hang in there momma you got this!
Having a reflux bubba is hard work. I remember when my now 12 month old (no reflux now) was that age and was breastfeeding constantly because she didn't want to be put down and wanted to feed for comfort. The positive part of this was being able to watch netflix all the time while she was feeding. We are planning for baby #2 so thank you for this honest video 😊 Brings me back to reality that it will be hard especially at the start but worth it. You are doing an amazing job! Your kids are gorgeous.
Omg my daughter was like that! I couldn't sit because she would know, like I tried being a Ninja and doing it extra slowly, but nope, not happening. I agree 1 to 2 is harder. Congrats and remember to take a few minutes for yourself, even if it's an extra few minutes in the shower:)
Coming from one child to two is much more difficult, I have three toddlers and an infant and when I say lost my mind two years ago it's an understatement
Hi Kayla! Having a reflux baby is hard! We struggled with reflux for first few months too. Especially because a reflux baby can't be put down. What I can tell you is that it will get easier and easier. Hang in there!
Love your videos! Thanks for being real and honest! 💙
You're doing great and are an amazing Mom. Keep up the great work!
I have to agree, it was harder going from 1-2. I have a 3 year old and a 4 month old and they are both girls! Lol but yeah trying to split myself between them both and the house work is really hard!
You are doing great! My first one is due that I can't imagine how I will cope with the one. Good to know what your thoughts as I always wanted to have two
I'm so scared. 5 months till my due date and I have a 2 1/2 year old daughter and had severe postpartum depression with her. I'm praying so hard that it'll be better this time around and I get to feel that amazing connection that moms without PPD talk about! But now I'm scared it might be worse with two
Sierra Mae Don’t think that way. Try thinking positive. Everything will be ok!❤️ Just remember they grow up so fast! You’ll be fine girl, you got this. 🤗
@@mariachristina91 Thank you❤
Hi Kayla I hope you are going well with the babies and I hope you see my comment. I have a one month old and and a 5 year old and I relate to everything you are saying. I keep hearing you talking about Reflux my new born has it and it's been difficult because she vomits often and it has been stressful for me. Please advise of ways you have tried to reduce the frequency and when did it stop. Worried mommy
Oh yes! I just had my second baby (I think our due dates were days apart lol) and I have a 15 month old so I feel you!!!!
You're doing great Mama!
Take advantage of all the help you have with Riley, so that she gets used to Jackson needing you more when he's so helpless. There are others there to pick up the slack now. It'll work out. You are getting a lot done if you are getting through a day's "to do" list in the course of a week.
I needed this! I’m due in March and currently have a 16 month old. Super excited but also super nervous about having 2 under 2
April Campbell Same girl! I have a soon to be 15 month old & I’m due next month. I’m so excited yet so nervous to have 2 under 2.
I have a second baby due next week, and a 20 month old. I am concerned it will be too hard.
Going from 1 to 2 kids was harder for me too . Cause you feel guilt for showing the baby so much attention so then you try and make up for it but it doesnt always work .
I’m going from 4-5... I’ve had all boys baby girl will be the only princess of the house. My 1-2 was challenging because I had Irish twins. They are so close in age where it was a interesting transition. 2-3 was easier because the gap was further apart. He’s 3 years younger than his middle brother. 4 is my stepson, though we don’t see him a lot. 5 will be here in April!
I really wanted to hear very honest storie.
I will have my second baby in April my son will be 2 end of March.
I will be in the same situation like you.
I can realise how hard will be from your story.
With one child you need an eyes back of your head already it’s so true.
It will get easier with years of course.
My firstborn son was the same exact like your son having severe reflux it’s enough hard for both of you.
Your videos help a lot so thank you so much 🙏😇🤰🏻🤗💙💖🥰xx
Love you Kayla. You're doing an awesome job and keep smiling the same way.
Just we moms need to Breathe often.
I'm very nervous about the no time part. Although my first is not a toddler by any means, he isn't happy about a new brother coming soon.
I'm finally early I have so many questions about postpartum is there any way I can chat you
My son is 7 1/2 now and my hubby and I are trying for a baby. I'm already scared of feeling trapped and loosing the freedom I have now and how independent my son is. I also work 3 jobs and would not be able to keep those with a baby. My hubby works 2nd shift too so I already know I will be doing most of the work with the baby and my son.
What my sister-in-law said was it was easier having 2 once the youngest was more interactive and could hold her own head. My nephew had a blast with my niece when she turned 4 months. He would set up his toys in front of her and try to make her laugh. My niece always has a playmate where before mom was the playmate.
My sister-in-law did say she would have to make sure the toys that were near her she couldnt choke on, but in general they had fun together. I never thought that having 2 kids was easier. It's like come on people. When one is sleeping the other is most likely awake. Yes you know what you're doing, but that's basically it.
*Edit my sister-in-law also made the rule no toys on the floor that his sister could choke on when the she was on the floor. All of those kind of toys had to go in his bedroom when his sister was on the floor. Of course they had a 1 level house (they have a old Florida home) so it was easier to have this rule.
Thanks for keeping it real!
Make sure to read the directions on that carrier..usually the baby isn’t supposed to be too snug against you..so they can breathe. I could wrong with that brand but that’s what mine said.
I think is harder because they only are a yr apart. My first daughter was 5 when i gave birth to my second daughter. And i have to say that it didnt feel difficult my 1st daughter has been helping me so much but i think that when my 3rd baby comes in June that's when i will feel the difficulties of have two baby under two. 🙈🙈 Help😂😂
I'm due in may with my second in May and I clicked on this expecting hope but just got the reality lol I think most people who say it jets easier are either saying in regards to once there are a bit older or the fact that you no longer question every little thing you are doing
My sister-in-law said it was easier when baby could hold their own head and was more awake. My nephew would try to make his sister laugh all the time at 4 months. He taught her how to crawl. They are now working on walking. He's getting frustrated because his sister just wants to crawl. Of course you do have to supervise, but your baby has a playmate. You arent the playmate all the time like with the 1st one.
I’m the minority. I thought going from 0 to 1 was waaaayy harder! My life was flipped upside down!! I had no idea what I was getting myself into. Going from 1 to 2 was like “been there done that”. Now we’re going from 2 to 3, so we’ll see....
I can relate so much ! My girls are 2 years apart and the newborn phase i was in survival mode. I tried to keep up with my channel and failed. My newborn nursed around the clock didnt take a paci or bottle. I was scared to leave the house with both girls. 6 months later I’m finally starting to settle into this 💕
I’m trying so hard to mentally prepare myself for baby #2 coming in May but there’s only so much I can prepare for before being thrown into it lol my son will be 2.5 when baby girl is born so I know it’ll be crazy. I totally understood when you were saying with 1 kid you had downtime and you were still able to binge watch Netflix and stuff like that because that’s what I do now lol I’m ready for the adventure that’s forsure
My son is 13 months and my daughter is 1 month 🥰
New subscriber! Mom of 2 here.
Is that the regular Lillebaby or the Lillebaby air? I bought the Lillebaby air because I live in a desert climate, baby's due soon so wondering if you like it if it's the "air flow" style...
Very interesting watch! Thankyou
I have one and I’m struggling, I really do want more but I’m contemplating, that’s why I’m watching these videos. My mum had 6 children and all I ever do is wonder how the hell she did it!
You look so pretty Kayla :)
It should get easier as they get older and a lot of moms in the same situation as you will be finding juggling two very young children difficult so I wouldn't be hard on yourself
I am a mom of beautiful children I am 17 I will be 18 in November and I have a 10 month old and a three month old and it is extremely hard at only 17 being a mom of two under 10 months lots of people think it’s easy but it is really hard ❤
Did you struggle with sharing your love from one kid to two kids?
Good question. I always tell my girl idk how ima love my second kid as much as my first baby boy. I jus love him so much ya know. I know I’d love the second baby idc. But still that’s my baby boy.
I had twins so I went from 0-2 in the beginning 😬 My twins are 4 and I’m 38 weeks pregnant and I think I’m more nervous that I’ve gotten used to having toddlers I’m not going to know what to do with a baby lol.
It's very hard
U helped alot
pulled up my monitor because i though jacksons sounds were my baby
Our son is one month younger than Riley and our daughter is coming this May 😳 I'm definitely nervous cause I moved out of state from my parents to live with my husband and we are literally all on our own... I'm a SAHM as well. I'm so glad that I been following your journey since we had our son and now we're on the same boat agian 🤣🤣🤣 Your videos are great help and you're doing awesome!!!
I’m going from 2 to 3 but my other kids will be 17 and 12 when I have her. Eek!
Same. I'm due in Feb. with #3, & my oldest two will be 17 & 13 in April ♥️
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I had a 6, 15 month old, and a newborn when I brought my son home from the hospital. He also had gerds and it was extremely difficult. Especially with the gerds in play and never being able to put him down. It will get easier. Your doing great.