@One Day Soon no I think that kind of attitude is too negative and defeatist. I'm able to accept that I'm not very good at some things and it's no one's fault. No point resenting other people about it.
Yes. I find that people often want answers before I have a chance to think about what they've asked and then thought about how to reply. If I don't give a reply in the right time, I have noticed people tend to think I'm giving them the silent treatment or in the case of myself being questioned, that I'm guilty as charged, or that I'm formulating a lie to cover myself; and then, before you know it, they've fired another question. As a result of which, I have difficulty with general conversation and interrogation; and often feel overwhelmed when people address me with a simple passing the time of day; or I receive an email or letter through the post: I tend to feel in these situations an overwhelming urgency to reply, but an equally overwhelming inadequacy in the same regard. This often results in my "freezing" ( this is where I become motionless in-situ, while my brain catches up after several seconds of silence and the words I need are processed).
I know someone like this and it’s really really hard to communicate with this person. Watching this video it seems he complicates even his explanation - I know probably not on purpose but I’ve no clue what he’s talking about with the bike. So basically as summary someone with Asperger is slower because the brain is making it more complicated? 🤔
Wow. Huge revelation here. I’ve described this to people before as a problem or deficit that I have. Specifically referring to the part where you said you want to jet through to the end and then rest. Because you feel like you never get to rest. I’ve described it as always wanting to get any task done, even rushing through things, because I craved an interlude where there were zero demands. This has dominated my life, my choices, and my feelings about who I am and what I can commit to. Blessings, Paul, thank you.
I had this experience in pretty much every schooling. I would get the concept immediately, but the whole class would be spent walking it through slowly. I’d get so bored and tired and distracted that I wouldn’t be mentally there for the next bit we’re learning.
Paul 4 years after you've uploaded this, I find it as the perfect analogy for me preparing for school. I want to start school in the fall for computer science. Which requires a lot of math. I have high psi, perceptual speed/accuracy and processing speed, but my cognitive flexibility is severely impaired(this is typical for asd apparently). I've decided to use khan academy to quickly learn a lot of the math I'll need before I get into school, so that I can relax and balance my life easier when I'm actually in it. Thank you for giving me a way to explain this to people.
I can totally relate, accomplishing huge amounts of tasks in short time, thinking my time is wasted after that because it's inefficient and I get bored. Your analogies are the best!
Yeah, I totally understand what you mean about moving at a different pace. In academic settings I always accomplished way more than my peers in a shorter period of time. I always chalked the difference up to all of their "pointless time wasting" which was really just them socializing and taking breaks. Now that I know I have aspergers I realize that other people just can't maintain the kind of focus and effort that I can when I'm working on something.
This! I even wrote something along similar lines (and never showed anyone because it sounds braggy...) When the handbrake in your brain is finally taken off It doesn’t take much to feel like you’re speeding But I strongly suspect I was always Driving a red sports car. My mind races ahead, million miles in a minute On ten roads at once - a brain smoothly at work When the teacher, the vlogger finally reaches a crossroad I’m back from exploring most travelled roads Ten concepts deep, just to see where they go. But that’s the thing with fast red cars: They do not like travelling slow - I can either drive fast or keep pulling and pushing Shame makes me a circus, a show on a road Full of walkers, a biker a perfect student. My secret: I think I drive a fast car.
I often admire those people on the bike. There life just seems easier. Things come quickly without the fight, toil, and battle. I’ve struggled with picking up new patterns so I compensated by extremely educating myself, becoming as efficient as possible and I can proudly say I’ve done some incredible things in my life. But it all comes with a tinge of sadness knowing that I’m always going to have to put in twice as much (and at times only get half as far) as others. I’m sure you have other traits that make you just as fallible as the rest of us, but for a day I would love to know what it feels like to be quickest one in the room.
Wow. This has always been me in school. I still remember asking to get more difficult tasks, but the teacher always told me to do the easy ones before I could have the "difficult" ones. She never thought that about how it would still take time to do a set of easy tasks, in addition to everything taking me longer when I am bored, so by the time I was done there usually wouldn't be enough time left to do something that was actually challenging. I'd often times just help my classmates instead, which was something at least... But this explains a lot.
I'm the same with eating. I eat extremely quickly. I just shovel the food in and then have to wait the time it takes everyone else to finish (on the occasions when I've been obliged to eat with people); and I've always received complaints. But I can't eat as slow as everyone else. That's just how I have to eat. They just don't understand. We see the goal, and we just want to get it done: no messing about: just do it. Don't have the energy. Finished. Job done. People react as though you're being rude but it's not that. As I say, just don't have the time to waste energy. Need to conserve it. Now some might say, well, I thought you had global delay? Well, yes I do but that's with novel information: if the information I have to process is routine or the processes I need to perform can be transferred from previous experience, then that reduces my delay. I do however, still have a short supply of mental energy, so the quicker I can get something done, the better. Performing a Consonant Analysis of your dialogue indicates the difficulties you've faced in situations that included these features and the barriers you've faced in understanding and explaining them to neurotypical people.
Could you do a video about alcohol? I've realised I'm at least third generation Aspie and very introverted but we all become 'more human' with a glass or two of wine. I'm also much more sociable (and productive) when I have a fever. Looks like there is something physiological to this.
This is me!! But then people think I'm moving too fast and now no one wants to study with me in nursing school because I am ten steps ahead . Not smarter, just ahead in some way....I can't explain it. But the worst part is when I am taking in information from the outside my processing is so slow (not good when you have to think on your feet) I can't make a phone call to the doctor, input information and pass medications all at the same time during simulations, but I can remember all the ins and outs of the disorders and the steps to each intervention. I hate not thinking like everyone else sometimes I'm always the odd one out
When it comes to new information my processing speed is slow, but when it comes to performing a known task I am told to slow down. Which is very difficult for me.
This is me at work. For me, doing a change on a file is a single process. To help my coworker do the same job, I have to slow down to one step at a time, plodding along thinking the process down into 50 small steps.
Good one again! I'm both, depending. When I'm on the bike and I'm faster than the walkers and they're like, "hey! I don't get it!" and I've got to peddle back and essentially bike that same thing but at their speed OR I'm the walker and they're biking normally and I'm walking slowly not understanding their biking or it takes me longer to get up to where they wanted to meet me, and they're wondering why that is. 🤦🏽♀️ Feels like every day throughout every day. Good good analogies as always! 🌸
I can do hyper-focus work for a while, but develop a lot of antsy feelings in my body when I do it, and end up having to pace for quite a while to calm down. I just accept it now that I know I'm autistic. Some days I'm super-productive; some days I get very little done.
Found that often people can't get or understand when I do this or when going through things looking for a pattern, can usually do it so quickly that people say "But how can you see anything at that speed?". Exams at school I also did so quickly that kids always wondered how I was able to do that. Same thing work wise. Just Go quicker!!!!! Not that hard, well not for me
I probably have autism everything indicates it and i did 4 to 7 tests online. I always was told that i am too slow with speaking or thinking or doing tasks even tho i thought i am fast.
I think that I might be very slow, but I noticed that I can keep up with RUclips Videos better if I watch them at twice the speed. If I watch them at regular speed I often lack the attention and don't listen anymore
That analogy must have a lot to do with thought processes. With my cabinet making, I try not to go the speedy way and I am still getting my job done at an expected pace.
Yeah, ain't it funny how when you are really good at your job, you get to do more work (and even other people's work too)? I have been there! I would often think about how I felt like I was being punished, instead of rewarded, for doing a good job, much faster than others. Because guess what? I got asked to do their work too! And, the ones who are reliable and always show up for their shift are often the same ones who get called in to cover the people who made up a reason to call into work they made all sorts of lies), but still got to keep their job. The only incentive is the integrity of doing anyway with a positive attitude, keeping in mind that I will have some good references for when I applied for other jobs. The ways of the world, I tell you!
I've found your videos so helpful, not just because you articulate these things in a way that helps me understand myself, but also because I can explain myself to my loved ones and they actually get it. I even started making some videos about my experiences with autism and sensory issues. It took me nearly a year to overcome my executive functioning issues enough to actually finish and post a video, but I finally got it posted! ruclips.net/video/YwfxkiQOLHA/видео.html
For me, processing speed is more an issue when it comes to understanding what someone has said to me and thinking of what to say in reply.
Which is one reason why I'm not good at having conversations.
@One Day Soon no I think that kind of attitude is too negative and defeatist. I'm able to accept that I'm not very good at some things and it's no one's fault. No point resenting other people about it.
Yes. I find that people often want answers before I have a chance to think about what they've asked and then thought about how to reply. If I don't give a reply in the right time, I have noticed people tend to think I'm giving them the silent treatment or in the case of myself being questioned, that I'm guilty as charged, or that I'm formulating a lie to cover myself; and then, before you know it, they've fired another question. As a result of which, I have difficulty with general conversation and interrogation; and often feel overwhelmed when people address me with a simple passing the time of day; or I receive an email or letter through the post: I tend to feel in these situations an overwhelming urgency to reply, but an equally overwhelming inadequacy in the same regard. This often results in my "freezing" ( this is where I become motionless in-situ, while my brain catches up after several seconds of silence and the words I need are processed).
It takes me a minute to even absorb what they are saying because it just sounds like noise
I know someone like this and it’s really really hard to communicate with this person. Watching this video it seems he complicates even his explanation - I know probably not on purpose but I’ve no clue what he’s talking about with the bike. So basically as summary someone with Asperger is slower because the brain is making it more complicated? 🤔
Wow. Huge revelation here. I’ve described this to people before as a problem or deficit that I have. Specifically referring to the part where you said you want to jet through to the end and then rest. Because you feel like you never get to rest. I’ve described it as always wanting to get any task done, even rushing through things, because I craved an interlude where there were zero demands. This has dominated my life, my choices, and my feelings about who I am and what I can commit to. Blessings, Paul, thank you.
I had this experience in pretty much every schooling. I would get the concept immediately, but the whole class would be spent walking it through slowly. I’d get so bored and tired and distracted that I wouldn’t be mentally there for the next bit we’re learning.
Paul 4 years after you've uploaded this, I find it as the perfect analogy for me preparing for school. I want to start school in the fall for computer science. Which requires a lot of math. I have high psi, perceptual speed/accuracy and processing speed, but my cognitive flexibility is severely impaired(this is typical for asd apparently). I've decided to use khan academy to quickly learn a lot of the math I'll need before I get into school, so that I can relax and balance my life easier when I'm actually in it. Thank you for giving me a way to explain this to people.
Paul just made me think on how slow I've become, when I was younger speed wasn't an issue.
I can totally relate, accomplishing huge amounts of tasks in short time, thinking my time is wasted after that because it's inefficient and I get bored. Your analogies are the best!
Yeah, I totally understand what you mean about moving at a different pace. In academic settings I always accomplished way more than my peers in a shorter period of time. I always chalked the difference up to all of their "pointless time wasting" which was really just them socializing and taking breaks. Now that I know I have aspergers I realize that other people just can't maintain the kind of focus and effort that I can when I'm working on something.
Great analogy.
Funny finding you here...lol. Aspies United
This! I even wrote something along similar lines (and never showed anyone because it sounds braggy...)
When the handbrake in your brain is finally taken off
It doesn’t take much to feel like you’re speeding
But I strongly suspect I was always
Driving a red sports car.
My mind races ahead, million miles in a minute
On ten roads at once - a brain smoothly at work
When the teacher, the vlogger finally reaches a crossroad
I’m back from exploring most travelled roads
Ten concepts deep, just to see where they go.
But that’s the thing with fast red cars:
They do not like travelling slow -
I can either drive fast or keep pulling and pushing
Shame makes me a circus, a show on a road
Full of walkers, a biker a perfect student.
My secret: I think I drive a fast car.
I often admire those people on the bike. There life just seems easier. Things come quickly without the fight, toil, and battle. I’ve struggled with picking up new patterns so I compensated by extremely educating myself, becoming as efficient as possible and I can proudly say I’ve done some incredible things in my life.
But it all comes with a tinge of sadness knowing that I’m always going to have to put in twice as much (and at times only get half as far) as others. I’m sure you have other traits that make you just as fallible as the rest of us, but for a day I would love to know what it feels like to be quickest one in the room.
I'm really anxious as I am slower than most other people when it comes to my job. :(
This analogy is my life
Wow. This has always been me in school.
I still remember asking to get more difficult tasks, but the teacher always told me to do the easy ones before I could have the "difficult" ones. She never thought that about how it would still take time to do a set of easy tasks, in addition to everything taking me longer when I am bored, so by the time I was done there usually wouldn't be enough time left to do something that was actually challenging. I'd often times just help my classmates instead, which was something at least...
But this explains a lot.
Thank you! Makes so much sense, especially your analogy to work.
I'm the same with eating. I eat extremely quickly. I just shovel the food in and then have to wait the time it takes everyone else to finish (on the occasions when I've been obliged to eat with people); and I've always received complaints. But I can't eat as slow as everyone else. That's just how I have to eat.
They just don't understand. We see the goal, and we just want to get it done: no messing about: just do it. Don't have the energy. Finished. Job done.
People react as though you're being rude but it's not that. As I say, just don't have the time to waste energy. Need to conserve it.
Now some might say, well, I thought you had global delay? Well, yes I do but that's with novel information: if the information I have to process is routine or the processes I need to perform can be transferred from previous experience, then that reduces my delay. I do however, still have a short supply of mental energy, so the quicker I can get something done, the better.
Performing a Consonant Analysis of your dialogue indicates the difficulties you've faced in situations that included these features and the barriers you've faced in understanding and explaining them to neurotypical people.
I love the way you explain this. It makes so much sense.
Thank you for making this videos, i Will show them to my two Boys when they get older, they have both asperger. From Norway🇧🇻
Thank you so much! Very good explanation.
Makes perfect sense. 👌🏻
Could you do a video about alcohol? I've realised I'm at least third generation Aspie and very introverted but we all become 'more human' with a glass or two of wine. I'm also much more sociable (and productive) when I have a fever. Looks like there is something physiological to this.
This is me!! But then people think I'm moving too fast and now no one wants to study with me in nursing school because I am ten steps ahead . Not smarter, just ahead in some way....I can't explain it. But the worst part is when I am taking in information from the outside my processing is so slow (not good when you have to think on your feet) I can't make a phone call to the doctor, input information and pass medications all at the same time during simulations, but I can remember all the ins and outs of the disorders and the steps to each intervention. I hate not thinking like everyone else sometimes I'm always the odd one out
I love your analogies!
I'm sick of being bullied its everywhere its making me ill I've tried getting friends on my side but they stick up for the bully boss
When it comes to new information my processing speed is slow, but when it comes to performing a known task I am told to slow down. Which is very difficult for me.
Wow! The quality of the camera looks alot better in this video! Nice to see your channel growing! 💖
That's an awesomely incredible analogy!! That made perfect sense as always! Thanks a lot! 👍😊
This is me at work. For me, doing a change on a file is a single process. To help my coworker do the same job, I have to slow down to one step at a time, plodding along thinking the process down into 50 small steps.
Good one again! I'm both, depending. When I'm on the bike and I'm faster than the walkers and they're like, "hey! I don't get it!" and I've got to peddle back and essentially bike that same thing but at their speed OR I'm the walker and they're biking normally and I'm walking slowly not understanding their biking or it takes me longer to get up to where they wanted to meet me, and they're wondering why that is. 🤦🏽♀️ Feels like every day throughout every day. Good good analogies as always! 🌸
I totally understand. The Asperger's brain processes differently.
I can do hyper-focus work for a while, but develop a lot of antsy feelings in my body when I do it, and end up having to pace for quite a while to calm down. I just accept it now that I know I'm autistic. Some days I'm super-productive; some days I get very little done.
Found that often people can't get or understand when I do this or when going through things looking for a pattern, can usually do it so quickly that people say "But how can you see anything at that speed?". Exams at school I also did so quickly that kids always wondered how I was able to do that. Same thing work wise. Just Go quicker!!!!! Not that hard, well not for me
Good one
I probably have autism everything indicates it and i did 4 to 7 tests online. I always was told that i am too slow with speaking or thinking or doing tasks even tho i thought i am fast.
For me I learn quickly and initially look faster than my peers but whilst others improve my brain can only go one speed.
We've had a meeting with a mediator and I wrote down how I felt about my we seem to be getting on now and my headaches have gone
Wow! I am a software developer and I have had the hourly pay dilemma in the past!
That seems like it'd be very annoying, having to work so many hours, but if you've got the work done, there's no longer any reason to stay.
I think that I might be very slow, but I noticed that I can keep up with RUclips Videos better if I watch them at twice the speed. If I watch them at regular speed I often lack the attention and don't listen anymore
That analogy must have a lot to do with thought processes. With my cabinet making, I try not to go the speedy way and I am still getting my job done at an expected pace.
Yeah, ain't it funny how when you are really good at your job, you get to do more work (and even other people's work too)? I have been there! I would often think about how I felt like I was being punished, instead of rewarded, for doing a good job, much faster than others. Because guess what? I got asked to do their work too! And, the ones who are reliable and always show up for their shift are often the same ones who get called in to cover the people who made up a reason to call into work they made all sorts of lies), but still got to keep their job. The only incentive is the integrity of doing anyway with a positive attitude, keeping in mind that I will have some good references for when I applied for other jobs. The ways of the world, I tell you!
YES
For me it's the opposite. I'm slow and steady and everyone wants me to speed up. At times, that is not possible.
Me, listening to this analogy while hiding at work after getting it all done in 1 hour: W H O A
I like your t shirt ;)
💖this msg
Task and finish
why is everybody so slow?? we are so similar in this case it is like im hearing myself! exactly i prefero to get the job done asap and then rest
Это жизнь! 🤪😁
“ Same “ logica 👍🏼
I’m a little confused
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Very informative, but the ball-bouncing is super distracting!
Damn this is the opposite of my issue
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I've found your videos so helpful, not just because you articulate these things in a way that helps me understand myself, but also because I can explain myself to my loved ones and they actually get it. I even started making some videos about my experiences with autism and sensory issues. It took me nearly a year to overcome my executive functioning issues enough to actually finish and post a video, but I finally got it posted! ruclips.net/video/YwfxkiQOLHA/видео.html