When I overcomplicate eating I find thinking of feeding an 8 year old to be immensely helpful. Bright carrots! Houmous! Laughing cow cheese! Nice good things.
💙💙💙 Two things that helped me in recovery: 1) One of my oldest friends is a potter and makes beautiful things. Using dishes he made at mealtimes was wonderful because it felt like an accessible point of entry for enjoyment around food to use beautiful things, and also it helped me bridge the gap of feeding myself as a way to love myself, because I felt his care and friendship in the dishes themselves. 2) I started pushing back against things I heard others say. I also love to bake, especially for people I love, and, for example, if my mom said she was going to be 'bad' and eat a cookie I'd made (her favorite kind! fresh from the oven!), I'd ask her please not to say that enjoying a thing I'd made for her enjoyment was morally reprehensible. If my coworker apologized for eating a snack during a meeting, I'd say, "Please! Nourish your body!" In some ways, I think it's sort of talking back to diet culture, in others, it's a way of speaking back to younger versions of myself and saying the things she needed to hear.
There’s something you said in a previous video, Kelly, that really struck me and it sunk in; why would I spend the prime years of my life fussing over food when my body is healthy and functioning properly. This statement has been a guiding light along with your “what I eat in a day” shorts, to help me try to approach a more intuitive eating style without fear. I’m still not there yet but it’s discussions like these that help pull me out my head and stop thinking negatively.
Your shorts about food are always so soothing to me . I struggle with binge eating or eating for just pleasure and gaining a lot of weight in the last years . I used to be Bulimic and anorexic as well. Find balance is incredibly hard to do and my stressing about food makes me gain more weight again and again . I strive to eat and think like you ❤️
i got into calorie counting when i was 16-17 for “health” reasons. it quickly spiraled into an obsession; i’m 5’4, so i must stay under 1200 calories, i must know the calorie count of items on the menu, i must measure teaspoons of peanut butter and olive oil. numbers consumed my thoughts for most of the day. my disorder never evolved into more dangerous behaviors or symptoms, but i clearly had a problem and couldn’t relax and view food as just food. i was always hungry, and looking back, also quite lethargic. this lasted around 2-3 years . one day, i started getting into abbey sharp’s videos. i learned that what i was doing led down an extremely dark path. this prompted me to quit calorie counting and everything surrounding it (reddit communities, scanning bar codes, etc.) cold turkey. i’ll never forget how it happened; i sat down to eat a delicious piece of chocolate cheesecake after my loosely calorie-tracked lunch (towards my final decision to quit, i was more lax with counting) and didn’t try to find a recipe online that had a similar ingredient makeup. i didn’t do any math or remind myself to abstain from what i wanted later in the day. i just quit. and i enjoyed it! it’s still tough sometimes, but my relationship with food is pretty much healed. watching your content and other similar media helps so much, and without people like you, i would not be where i am today ❤️
Good for you! Calorie counting can be very risky and become obsessive very quickly. I'm really glad you were able to find content to help you release some of that tight control. I've been there myself so I know how hard it is and how long it can stay with you. Well done!
A few things have pushed me to recover, one of the major ones being this channel. What also I've realized and pushed me to keep going is that I've never regretted it, NEVER. Go step by step, and pat yourself on the back, say good job to yourself when you do something in regards of a step towards recovery, no matter how small. ❤
Well this was a happy surprise. I found you by your "eating whatever the fXck you like" shorts. The title intrigued me, because I certainly don't allow myself to do that. Then I found this video, which is probably the most useful and sensible thing I've even seen/heard/read about diet in my life (and good God I've seen a lot). I feel like this is something I should listen to every morning to get my head on straight. I've read a lot about intuitive eating but never heard explained in such a logical way. I have some health issues that mean I have to be careful with certain foods, but I know what they are and can easily incorporate that knowledge into intuitive eating. Coincidentally, I've just come back from Italy where I did eat very intuitively, and I felt great. It must be lovely to live in a place where walking is life and the food is very well made and in reasonable portions. I'd move there just for that! Anyways, that for the great inspiration. I'm on to your podcast and loving it!
I'm a 19 year old guy in university who has struggled with various eating disorders and exercise addiction. I really really messed up my hormones and am fighting like hell to get my testosterone back into the normal range. I just want to let you know how much your videos and shorts help me with overcoming this shit. Sometimes when I want to restrict myself I put on one of your shorts to sort of distract myself from the situation and allow me to eat more freely. I just wanted to say thank you and hopefully you know your videos truly help people who aren't even into baking haha.
I have listened so many food behaviour advices,but it all was like "oh drink more water"," oh balance your diet","oh don't forget to rest","oh be more happy" You've helped me so so much. This video is on another level. Those dietitians and nutritionists have spoke about physical reasons,but you've brought up all mental issues and it is the best. Your advices are the best. You are the best💗
For me, unfollowing people who talked about calories or dieting in any form really helped me to tune back into my own body, and helped me realise what I wanted to eat. I am now able to look at these things a bit more, but I am still careful as I don't want to slip back into my unhealthy ways.
Finding enjoyement in my everyday eating has personnally helped me a lot. I have been raised in a food loving family, I was taught that cooking is loving, that nourishment come from the nutrients the food contains but also how enjoyable and tasty it is. I sort of lost that intuition when my eating became more and more disorder. Now, I try to find and implement enjoyement in every meal I can, without making it a pressure either. A tasty and genuinly enjoyable food is not only for occasions, it's for everyday, we deserve tasty things everyday, it doesn't has to be a treat !
I have been a chubby child, and an obese teenager and a very obese young adult (max weight 130kg). Lost 60 kg in a year and ended up with an ED that came in different forms like bulimia, restricting myself to 800 kcal a day, working out 6 days a week etc. In 2019-2020 I gained back 30 kg cause of stress, health issues and an absolute night mare job. I started watching my weight back in 2020 and I am slowly transitoning into a healthy relationship with food and working out. It's a slow process and every once in a while my ED is kicking in but I can pretty much control it 98% of the times. I accepted my body weight meaning I have a bigger upper body. I don't weigh myself anymore, I just try on old clothes every once in a while to check if I made any progress. I count calories, watch my portions but I dont starve myself and enjoy my food. I also love buying good products esp. when it comes to cheese, meat and fruits.Don't follow any special diet but def. try eating well 70% of the times.I am in my 30s now and it's the first time in my life that I am somehow near an almost healthy lifestyle. Intuitive eating for me is a thing when I am sick. It's amazing how your body literally tells you what it needs to recover .
You are an inspirational goddess. As someone who has been in and out of treatment for EDs for the best part of 30 years and before when there was no medical definition, you are an absolute breath of fresh air. Hope is with you and your words. Thank you, thank you, thank you.
What a wonderful video! It's probably one of the best videos I have ever watched about having a healthy relationship with food! The part about how you feel around your menstrual cycle is so me! Exactly! Thank you for sharing this with us all! ❤
I never had an ED, but I enjoy watching your videos as you have a very nice voice. I enjoy nice food and have gained a few pounds lately mostly due to not moving enough at work, but I am not very concerned about it. What I 've noticed while watching your videos, is that I used to eat a lot of sweet things, cake and cookies when I was your age and now as I am getting "older" I have started to enjoy veggies a lot more and find them more "tempting" than cookies, so I am guessing intuitive eating is probably the way to go.
I totally resonate with what you said Kelly! I am waaay to critical of myself, and I am sure I would never treat a friend or my own child the way I talk to myself in my head. GODDD! I have alway been curvy/midsize. I would get a lot of comments from family, especially culturally we are conditioned to be so narrow minded about body sizes. If you deviate from the norm it is looked at as a moral failure. Honestly, I just want to eat cookies and things I like without feeling it is a "bad" thing. I guilt trip myself at times too. Thanks for sharing. I loved the intuitive eating concept. I also firmly believe that food is much more than just fuel, it is a huge part of our identity and cultural heritage.
Consuming your content especially the shorts for the past couple of montha has drastically changed my eating habits 180° it feels wonderful I never imagined eating could be this enjoyable and balanced
I really love all of your videos about this topic cause you have such a logical and clear way of describing it. You are one of the creators that are really helping me in my recovery cause it seems like you’ve genuinely found away out of your eating disorder. I’m currently in recovery from anorexia and have been for almost 6 months and I love your small what I eat in a day videos (and all of your other content) cause it helps me rationalise guilt and remind me that it’s okay to eat whatever the fxk I want💕
I think though it's easier to have a healthy attitude towards food when you can eat what you like and still stay slim. I had an eating disorder and now I eat anything I want only because I am naturally quite slim and go to the gym a lot. It's easy for me to have a healthy attitude towards food when physically you look very well and in good shape. I love this channel. What helped me was a book called "Beyond chaotic eating".
I’ve had a bad relationship with food for so long but since I’ve found your channel it’s really helped me change my mindset around food. I don’t feel guilty for eating anymore and I truly listen to what my body wants. Thank you for your videos they’ve really helped me❤❤❤
You are a light for others. This is a beautiful video and 100% true. We are human and have every right to enjoy food and form a loving relationship with it. 💖🙏🏽
4:35 this hits me so hard, I always felt like i'm being watched and judge by others because I was always the person who's "healthy" and only eats healthy food, so whenever I ate something "bad" I will make sure no one sees me and when someone is in the room with me I force myself to make the only healthy option instead of what I wanted it sucks
This is honestly the most refreshing take on this topic I've come across, in my opinion at least. It's my go to video to rewatch when I'm having a hard time. Thank you so much, it's helped me so so much. ❤
I got so far into ortho and anorexia trying to steer clear of stomach pain from Crohn’s disease. Finally recovering after years, not only weight wise but mentally which is the key for making recovering stick! I tell myself that the fall out from malnutrition far outweighs stomach pain. Your channel is so helpful. ❤
Love this video. I keep trying to stop calorie counting & try Intuitive eating but finding it hard to listen to a body that's been ignored for far to many years. It's a scary process at the beginning. I'm finding your videos informative,helpful, fun plus my dream is to travel to Italy, so I love seeing little snippets of the places you visit and just your everyday life living there.
Thanks so much Paula! I know exactly how you feel, it's like every week you're learning something new or pushing back against old ways, but it's so worth it in the long term!
I love this so much! Treating myself as if I was a child in my care is something I've been doing for a while. I don't think I have heard anyone else mention it before. Love that you did! ❤ Jem.
thank you for putting into words exactly how i feel. Of course, i still have my days/weeks of struggle, but I always felt guilty for eating anything unhealthy, especially sweets. 2 things help me. The first thing was identifying that my fear was to be fat. My fear wasn’t to be unhealthy but fat. I started working on reminding myself that I am beautiful and deserve to be loved no matter my size. If i am going to be scared of something it should be my health. The 2nd thing that helped was allowing myself to eat sweets whenever I wanted. It took some time and I gained some weight at first, but eventually I started craving a more normal amount of sweets instead of binging every time I had them because i was denying myself before.
I started counting my calories back in November and I'm trying to do better for my body. I work out so I think it helps a bit, though my eating was one of the problems. I also have an issue of eating less sometimes and it could make feel kind of sick. This video was very informational, inspiring, and relaxing. Thank you Maverick for this amazing video. ❤️ I feel much, much better after watching...
Yes! I agree so much with all of what you said. I think it’s a very healthy and joyful approach. As a mom trying to raise a daughter who has a healthy relationship with food and her body and who will eat well and enjoy what she eats we need more people with this mentality in the world. ❤
I really enjoy your videos but this is so powerful. I have thankfully never had any issues around food but can still understand and relate to what you are saying here and think you are the perfect role model for my young daughter as she grows up. Thanks for being open and honest I am sure this will help so many people Kelly xx
Thank you so much for touching on this tricky topic. I’ve had issues with weight/eating (both over and under). Bingeing, calorie counting and general self loathing all my life until about 5 years ago. I’d had my little boy and was the heaviest I’d ever been and decided enough was enough. 18months later I’d lost 8.5 stone and kept it off for a good couple of years. I’d done lots of healing on my journey and soul searching and peeling back layer after layer of anguish and pain and dealing with it all. However this last 18months old habits have crept back in, secret binge eating, self loathing, lacking energy, low mood and general teary ness. Your video made me realise I just need to start listening to my body again and guiding it to be able to be honest with me about what it needs without me shoving down my bodies needs with a large bar of fruit and nut! Thank you ❤
I will say, my mum was a big one for home cooked food. I am forever thankful that she cooked nutritious meals for us. But she also had an attitude of no processed, packaged foods in the house. No crisps, cakes, cookies, sweets, etc. It always felt like a treat just to go round my friends house and have white bread or a packet of crisps. Definitely ended up with a disordered relationship with food and hit obese bmi as an adult. I'm now much healthier and consistently eat crisps and cakes from supermarkets 😅
Thank You very much for your words and your attitude. I've discovered your channel recently and i'm not going to leave It very easily😊 I am always worried about my health and that of my loved ones and I blame myself if sometimes I eat food not properly healthy, instead of enjoying it 🙄 This video is so refreshing, it makes me peaceful, so thank you again! Un abbraccio dalla Toscana!
I’m trying not to justify my eating. I used to love food!! I would cook constantly, always trying new things… I’m working on getting back to that place. ❤
i started calorie counting when i was 17-18? i never had any trouble or worries surrounding food before because i was a fairly active person, playing all types of sports almost everyday in school, so i ate whatever i wanted to fuel myself. but after graduating and with covid, i stayed at home all day. so obviously i put on a little bit of weight, i started calorie counting and exercising everyday to lose a bit of weight. this started to go a bit crazy, i am 5’5 but ate less than 1200 calories a day, i cut out carbs and sugars. i realise now that that was so bad for my physical and mental health because i was always tired and never wanted to leave the house. even though i still struggle with food, i’m slowly starting to let myself enjoy snacks and not think too much about the calories. what i do now (don’t know if it actually helps) is that i just either guesstimate or just don’t think about the calories because it’s still a bit difficult for me to not count the calories, but at least i don’t go crazy and search up every single thing. it’s still difficult but i do hope to fix my relationship with food❤
Calorie counting can be such a slippery slope, I've been there myself a a few times! Really happy to hear you're not as obsessive or controlled by it now, even if it can still pop into your head. It gets easier with time. All the best!
Thank you Kelly for this excellent video…..I have a severe rare spinal condition so my elimination does not work properly and if I dont eat somewhat of a restrictive diet, I feel terrible and I wish it wasnt so.. i used to eat everything with such joy so this is very hard for me. But i do the best I can and if I want that lovely pastry, I will have it.❤. BTW, your hair is spectacular and you are quite beautiful. :))) i am pretty tired of a lot of the influencers…carnivore, keto, vegan, plant based…uggghyhhhhhh.
As someone who has struggled with eating for almost of my life, I personally find that steering away from social media/ unrealistic “what I eat in a day” really helped reframe my attitude towards eating. I have come to the realisation that it’s all for the aesthetic and isn’t sustainable for the average person. That’s why I love your channel, you inspire me to eat intuitiively!! 🫶
Oof so relieved to listen to you saying that oats don't keep you satiated for hours😊... I thought I was a weirdo, 2 hrs after the biggest porridge ever my stomach's rumbling😂. Still love it tho, but eat it for the pleasure and not too keep me full for longer ❤
Hey Kelly! Love your videos, they calm me so much. :) I was just wondering how would you heal a relationship with exercise? I'm not particularly fond of exercising but I keep seeing these day in my lives, and pressure from family and social media to exercise, but given my history of EDs and such I don't really know How to go about it. As soon as i wake up i feel that I should be working out but that's not what I ever want to do really. The most exercise I do is just walking lol. But I feel that me simply existing in my room is not good and that I should be out moving. I want to get away from that mindset.
Thanks for this. I agree with it all however I’m intuitively greedy, and put on a lot of weight eating what I want when I want. Would you reconsider this approach if it made you obese?
Let me start by saying I am a big fan of your channel and I have loved every one of your videos and I like this one too with one small caveat.. I don't see Fitness Pal as a menace. Some of us actually need to watch certain things like for me it's sodium and I have to keep track of how much sodium I'm eating in a day so that I can stay healthy. For others it might be potassium or sugar and fitness pal has been a lifesaver in that department. Also not everyone who is trying to lose weight is a victim of diet culture. Some of us are genuinely not healthy and we need to lose some weight in a healthy manner. So please don't throw the baby out with the bathwater (sorry it's an American phrase).. just some of us have to keep track of our choices.
A very good point. It's a very impressive app in what it can do, and I imagine for people like yourself or those with conditions like diabetes etc it could be very useful indeed. However, that much detail and number-driven data can be really really dangerous for some of us. While tracking nutrition CAN be beneficial or educational, it can also lead to obsessive and disordered attitudes towards food and eating in general. In the same way that social media brings some people peace and joy, but brings others stress and low mood. I didn't mean any offence to those who use the app, just a bit of leftover venom from the damage it did to me, hope you understand!
I don't mind stuffing my face. I even have a mighty fluffy fupa. But I'm trying to lose a few pounds. Before I do I'ma let my Winnie the Pooh belly show. (This is a recent development) and I relish the veil that's been lifted about me hiding my belly. Fasting is sooo fun and I do it from time to 24hrs and I'm gonna live my body when I reach my goal weight as I already love it every step of the way. I can't WAIT to be able to zip up my Beyonce skirt if you're.😂 And if after I reach it, I go crazy on carbs and gain a few pounds that'll be fine too. Being comfortable in your own skin really helps. I love myself when I'm fat, I love myself when I'm fit (not that I've been under 175 in a while). :)
I’ve come back to rewatch this video ❤ but as someone who is currently trying to lose 10+ kilos, I find the whole ‘intuitive eating’ thing so disheartening, because whenever I try to do it I end up just putting on more weight 😢 now clearly there’s an issue with the ‘balance’ part of my diet which I’m working on!
When I overcomplicate eating I find thinking of feeding an 8 year old to be immensely helpful. Bright carrots! Houmous! Laughing cow cheese! Nice good things.
Love this!
That is really such a good trick
'Look after yourself as if no one else will'
That statement is everything. Thank you.
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Two things that helped me in recovery:
1) One of my oldest friends is a potter and makes beautiful things. Using dishes he made at mealtimes was wonderful because it felt like an accessible point of entry for enjoyment around food to use beautiful things, and also it helped me bridge the gap of feeding myself as a way to love myself, because I felt his care and friendship in the dishes themselves.
2) I started pushing back against things I heard others say.
I also love to bake, especially for people I love, and, for example, if my mom said she was going to be 'bad' and eat a cookie I'd made (her favorite kind! fresh from the oven!), I'd ask her please not to say that enjoying a thing I'd made for her enjoyment was morally reprehensible.
If my coworker apologized for eating a snack during a meeting, I'd say, "Please! Nourish your body!"
In some ways, I think it's sort of talking back to diet culture, in others, it's a way of speaking back to younger versions of myself and saying the things she needed to hear.
Love love love this! That first point is so precious, and you're absolutely right about pushing back and speaking as you would to your younger self!
There’s something you said in a previous video, Kelly, that really struck me and it sunk in; why would I spend the prime years of my life fussing over food when my body is healthy and functioning properly. This statement has been a guiding light along with your “what I eat in a day” shorts, to help me try to approach a more intuitive eating style without fear. I’m still not there yet but it’s discussions like these that help pull me out my head and stop thinking negatively.
Your shorts about food are always so soothing to me . I struggle with binge eating or eating for just pleasure and gaining a lot of weight in the last years . I used to be Bulimic and anorexic as well. Find balance is incredibly hard to do and my stressing about food makes me gain more weight again and again . I strive to eat and think like you ❤️
i got into calorie counting when i was 16-17 for “health” reasons. it quickly spiraled into an obsession; i’m 5’4, so i must stay under 1200 calories, i must know the calorie count of items on the menu, i must measure teaspoons of peanut butter and olive oil. numbers consumed my thoughts for most of the day. my disorder never evolved into more dangerous behaviors or symptoms, but i clearly had a problem and couldn’t relax and view food as just food. i was always hungry, and looking back, also quite lethargic. this lasted around 2-3 years . one day, i started getting into abbey sharp’s videos. i learned that what i was doing led down an extremely dark path. this prompted me to quit calorie counting and everything surrounding it (reddit communities, scanning bar codes, etc.) cold turkey. i’ll never forget how it happened; i sat down to eat a delicious piece of chocolate cheesecake after my loosely calorie-tracked lunch (towards my final decision to quit, i was more lax with counting) and didn’t try to find a recipe online that had a similar ingredient makeup. i didn’t do any math or remind myself to abstain from what i wanted later in the day. i just quit. and i enjoyed it! it’s still tough sometimes, but my relationship with food is pretty much healed. watching your content and other similar media helps so much, and without people like you, i would not be where i am today ❤️
Oh my gosh me too! I refuse to calorie count now, even when I’m losing weight.
Good for you! Calorie counting can be very risky and become obsessive very quickly. I'm really glad you were able to find content to help you release some of that tight control. I've been there myself so I know how hard it is and how long it can stay with you. Well done!
I love abbey sharp!
Best tip is to only eat when hungy as in your stomach is empty. You can't over eat this way. Life changing for me
Love abbey sharp. Glad you realized the slippery slope and are better now ❤
A few things have pushed me to recover, one of the major ones being this channel. What also I've realized and pushed me to keep going is that I've never regretted it, NEVER. Go step by step, and pat yourself on the back, say good job to yourself when you do something in regards of a step towards recovery, no matter how small. ❤
Well this was a happy surprise. I found you by your "eating whatever the fXck you like" shorts. The title intrigued me, because I certainly don't allow myself to do that. Then I found this video, which is probably the most useful and sensible thing I've even seen/heard/read about diet in my life (and good God I've seen a lot). I feel like this is something I should listen to every morning to get my head on straight. I've read a lot about intuitive eating but never heard explained in such a logical way. I have some health issues that mean I have to be careful with certain foods, but I know what they are and can easily incorporate that knowledge into intuitive eating. Coincidentally, I've just come back from Italy where I did eat very intuitively, and I felt great. It must be lovely to live in a place where walking is life and the food is very well made and in reasonable portions. I'd move there just for that! Anyways, that for the great inspiration. I'm on to your podcast and loving it!
I'm a 19 year old guy in university who has struggled with various eating disorders and exercise addiction. I really really messed up my hormones and am fighting like hell to get my testosterone back into the normal range. I just want to let you know how much your videos and shorts help me with overcoming this shit. Sometimes when I want to restrict myself I put on one of your shorts to sort of distract myself from the situation and allow me to eat more freely. I just wanted to say thank you and hopefully you know your videos truly help people who aren't even into baking haha.
Thank YOU!
I have listened so many food behaviour advices,but it all was like "oh drink more water"," oh balance your diet","oh don't forget to rest","oh be more happy"
You've helped me so so much. This video is on another level. Those dietitians and nutritionists have spoke about physical reasons,but you've brought up all mental issues and it is the best. Your advices are the best. You are the best💗
Thank you so much!
For me, unfollowing people who talked about calories or dieting in any form really helped me to tune back into my own body, and helped me realise what I wanted to eat. I am now able to look at these things a bit more, but I am still careful as I don't want to slip back into my unhealthy ways.
This was a big thing for me too!
Finding enjoyement in my everyday eating has personnally helped me a lot. I have been raised in a food loving family, I was taught that cooking is loving, that nourishment come from the nutrients the food contains but also how enjoyable and tasty it is. I sort of lost that intuition when my eating became more and more disorder. Now, I try to find and implement enjoyement in every meal I can, without making it a pressure either. A tasty and genuinly enjoyable food is not only for occasions, it's for everyday, we deserve tasty things everyday, it doesn't has to be a treat !
In french, we would probably call that "la gourmandise"
Exactly! It's great to hear you were able to return to that loving attitude, well done!
I have been a chubby child, and an obese teenager and a very obese young adult (max weight 130kg). Lost 60 kg in a year and ended up with an ED that came in different forms like bulimia, restricting myself to 800 kcal a day, working out 6 days a week etc.
In 2019-2020 I gained back 30 kg cause of stress, health issues and an absolute night mare job.
I started watching my weight back in 2020 and I am slowly transitoning into a healthy relationship with food and working out. It's a slow process and every once in a while my ED is kicking in but I can pretty much control it 98% of the times.
I accepted my body weight meaning I have a bigger upper body. I don't weigh myself anymore, I just try on old clothes every once in a while to check if I made any progress. I count calories, watch my portions but I dont starve myself and enjoy my food. I also love buying good products esp. when it comes to cheese, meat and fruits.Don't follow any special diet but def. try eating well 70% of the times.I am in my 30s now and it's the first time in my life that I am somehow near an almost healthy lifestyle. Intuitive eating for me is a thing when I am sick. It's amazing how your body literally tells you what it needs to recover
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You are an inspirational goddess. As someone who has been in and out of treatment for EDs for the best part of 30 years and before when there was no medical definition, you are an absolute breath of fresh air. Hope is with you and your words. Thank you, thank you, thank you.
Thank YOU!
What a wonderful video! It's probably one of the best videos I have ever watched about having a healthy relationship with food! The part about how you feel around your menstrual cycle is so me! Exactly! Thank you for sharing this with us all! ❤
Thanks so much!
I never had an ED, but I enjoy watching your videos as you have a very nice voice. I enjoy nice food and have gained a few pounds lately mostly due to not moving enough at work, but I am not very concerned about it. What I 've noticed while watching your videos, is that I used to eat a lot of sweet things, cake and cookies when I was your age and now as I am getting "older" I have started to enjoy veggies a lot more and find them more "tempting" than cookies, so I am guessing intuitive eating is probably the way to go.
I totally resonate with what you said Kelly! I am waaay to critical of myself, and I am sure I would never treat a friend or my own child the way I talk to myself in my head. GODDD! I have alway been curvy/midsize. I would get a lot of comments from family, especially culturally we are conditioned to be so narrow minded about body sizes. If you deviate from the norm it is looked at as a moral failure. Honestly, I just want to eat cookies and things I like without feeling it is a "bad" thing. I guilt trip myself at times too. Thanks for sharing. I loved the intuitive eating concept. I also firmly believe that food is much more than just fuel, it is a huge part of our identity and cultural heritage.
Consuming your content especially the shorts for the past couple of montha has drastically changed my eating habits 180° it feels wonderful I never imagined eating could be this enjoyable and balanced
This is lovely to read, well done you!
I really love all of your videos about this topic cause you have such a logical and clear way of describing it. You are one of the creators that are really helping me in my recovery cause it seems like you’ve genuinely found away out of your eating disorder. I’m currently in recovery from anorexia and have been for almost 6 months and I love your small what I eat in a day videos (and all of your other content) cause it helps me rationalise guilt and remind me that it’s okay to eat whatever the fxk I want💕
I think though it's easier to have a healthy attitude towards food when you can eat what you like and still stay slim. I had an eating disorder and now I eat anything I want only because I am naturally quite slim and go to the gym a lot. It's easy for me to have a healthy attitude towards food when physically you look very well and in good shape. I love this channel. What helped me was a book called "Beyond chaotic eating".
I’ve had a bad relationship with food for so long but since I’ve found your channel it’s really helped me change my mindset around food. I don’t feel guilty for eating anymore and I truly listen to what my body wants. Thank you for your videos they’ve really helped me❤❤❤
You are a light for others. This is a beautiful video and 100% true. We are human and have every right to enjoy food and form a loving relationship with it. 💖🙏🏽
4:35 this hits me so hard, I always felt like i'm being watched and judge by others because I was always the person who's "healthy" and only eats healthy food, so whenever I ate something "bad" I will make sure no one sees me and when someone is in the room with me I force myself to make the only healthy option instead of what I wanted it sucks
This is honestly the most refreshing take on this topic I've come across, in my opinion at least. It's my go to video to rewatch when I'm having a hard time. Thank you so much, it's helped me so so much. ❤
I got so far into ortho and anorexia trying to steer clear of stomach pain from Crohn’s disease. Finally recovering after years, not only weight wise but mentally which is the key for making recovering stick! I tell myself that the fall out from malnutrition far outweighs stomach pain. Your channel is so helpful. ❤
Love this video.
I keep trying to stop calorie counting & try Intuitive eating but finding it hard to listen to a body that's been ignored for far to many years. It's a scary process at the beginning.
I'm finding your videos informative,helpful, fun plus my dream is to travel to Italy, so I love seeing little snippets of the places you visit and just your everyday life living there.
Thanks so much Paula! I know exactly how you feel, it's like every week you're learning something new or pushing back against old ways, but it's so worth it in the long term!
I love this so much! Treating myself as if I was a child in my care is something I've been doing for a while. I don't think I have heard anyone else mention it before. Love that you did! ❤ Jem.
Miss, you are a godsent. So smart and well-informed. Thank you for all your content. ❤
thank you for putting into words exactly how i feel. Of course, i still have my days/weeks of struggle, but I always felt guilty for eating anything unhealthy, especially sweets. 2 things help me. The first thing was identifying that my fear was to be fat. My fear wasn’t to be unhealthy but fat. I started working on reminding myself that I am beautiful and deserve to be loved no matter my size. If i am going to be scared of something it should be my health. The 2nd thing that helped was allowing myself to eat sweets whenever I wanted. It took some time and I gained some weight at first, but eventually I started craving a more normal amount of sweets instead of binging every time I had them because i was denying myself before.
I love your videos and I loved this message so much ❤ Needed this especially after this week of feeling guilty about every little thing i eat.
I started counting my calories back in November and I'm trying to do better for my body. I work out so I think it helps a bit, though my eating was one of the problems. I also have an issue of eating less sometimes and it could make feel kind of sick. This video was very informational, inspiring, and relaxing. Thank you Maverick for this amazing video. ❤️
I feel much, much better after watching...
Yes! I agree so much with all of what you said. I think it’s a very healthy and joyful approach. As a mom trying to raise a daughter who has a healthy relationship with food and her body and who will eat well and enjoy what she eats we need more people with this mentality in the world. ❤
Thank you so much for the anecdotes and reassurance! Such a warm place for recovery☺️
so so useful!! thank you for these tips
I really enjoy your videos but this is so powerful. I have thankfully never had any issues around food but can still understand and relate to what you are saying here and think you are the perfect role model for my young daughter as she grows up. Thanks for being open and honest I am sure this will help so many people Kelly xx
Thank you so much for touching on this tricky topic. I’ve had issues with weight/eating (both over and under). Bingeing, calorie counting and general self loathing all my life until about 5 years ago. I’d had my little boy and was the heaviest I’d ever been and decided enough was enough. 18months later I’d lost 8.5 stone and kept it off for a good couple of years. I’d done lots of healing on my journey and soul searching and peeling back layer after layer of anguish and pain and dealing with it all. However this last 18months old habits have crept back in, secret binge eating, self loathing, lacking energy, low mood and general teary ness. Your video made me realise I just need to start listening to my body again and guiding it to be able to be honest with me about what it needs without me shoving down my bodies needs with a large bar of fruit and nut! Thank you ❤
Wishing you all the best, Helen!
I will say, my mum was a big one for home cooked food. I am forever thankful that she cooked nutritious meals for us. But she also had an attitude of no processed, packaged foods in the house. No crisps, cakes, cookies, sweets, etc. It always felt like a treat just to go round my friends house and have white bread or a packet of crisps. Definitely ended up with a disordered relationship with food and hit obese bmi as an adult. I'm now much healthier and consistently eat crisps and cakes from supermarkets 😅
I love this, thank you. 💜
Thank YOU!
Love your corkscrew hair!
Thank You very much for your words and your attitude. I've discovered your channel recently and i'm not going to leave It very easily😊
I am always worried about my health and that of my loved ones and I blame myself if sometimes I eat food not properly healthy, instead of enjoying it 🙄
This video is so refreshing, it makes me peaceful, so thank you again!
Un abbraccio dalla Toscana!
Love this! Beautifully articulated
Great video! Thank you!
So so well said
Aw you taught your mum how to cook too ❤ couldn’t be prouder of you xx
You are brilliant, thank you 🙏🏼
Thank you so much, I am binge watching and listening all of your content . you help to learn love myself in the most charmingly simple and elegant way
I love this and need this. My progress is slow, but it’s there. Thank you❤️
Thank you so much for this. I feel quite emotional at the last part 💛
Oats do that to me too!! I get bloated from porridge and am hungry 2 hours later 😅 gotta learn what works and what doesn't! ❤
I’m trying not to justify my eating. I used to love food!! I would cook constantly, always trying new things… I’m working on getting back to that place. ❤
I feel the same as you with oats omg :D don't know what I'm doing wrong
i started calorie counting when i was 17-18? i never had any trouble or worries surrounding food before because i was a fairly active person, playing all types of sports almost everyday in school, so i ate whatever i wanted to fuel myself. but after graduating and with covid, i stayed at home all day. so obviously i put on a little bit of weight, i started calorie counting and exercising everyday to lose a bit of weight. this started to go a bit crazy, i am 5’5 but ate less than 1200 calories a day, i cut out carbs and sugars. i realise now that that was so bad for my physical and mental health because i was always tired and never wanted to leave the house. even though i still struggle with food, i’m slowly starting to let myself enjoy snacks and not think too much about the calories. what i do now (don’t know if it actually helps) is that i just either guesstimate or just don’t think about the calories because it’s still a bit difficult for me to not count the calories, but at least i don’t go crazy and search up every single thing. it’s still difficult but i do hope to fix my relationship with food❤
Calorie counting can be such a slippery slope, I've been there myself a a few times! Really happy to hear you're not as obsessive or controlled by it now, even if it can still pop into your head. It gets easier with time. All the best!
Thank you Kelly for this excellent video…..I have a severe rare spinal condition so my elimination does not work properly and if I dont eat somewhat of a restrictive diet, I feel terrible and I wish it wasnt so.. i used to eat everything with such joy so this is very hard for me. But i do the best I can and if I want that lovely pastry, I will have it.❤. BTW, your hair is spectacular and you are quite beautiful. :))) i am pretty tired of a lot of the influencers…carnivore, keto, vegan, plant based…uggghyhhhhhh.
Very simple and very good explanation! Awesome video 🙌🏽🫶🏽🙏🏽👏🏽
Thank you!
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As someone who has struggled with eating for almost of my life, I personally find that steering away from social media/ unrealistic “what I eat in a day” really helped reframe my attitude towards eating. I have come to the realisation that it’s all for the aesthetic and isn’t sustainable for the average person. That’s why I love your channel, you inspire me to eat intuitiively!! 🫶
Oof so relieved to listen to you saying that oats don't keep you satiated for hours😊... I thought I was a weirdo, 2 hrs after the biggest porridge ever my stomach's rumbling😂. Still love it tho, but eat it for the pleasure and not too keep me full for longer ❤
Yes haha! Love them, but they do not do their job well with me
Great video 👍🏻
I have really needed this. thank you so much- you have helped to put my mind at ease
You are so welcome!
YESSS
Too good 🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻
I love your specs, have the same style of specs :)
Thanks!
Oatmeal only fills me up for a couple of hours too, even if it's made with milk, peanut butter and nuts.
It's so strange isn't it?? My body just DEVOURS it haha
Hey Kelly! Love your videos, they calm me so much. :) I was just wondering how would you heal a relationship with exercise? I'm not particularly fond of exercising but I keep seeing these day in my lives, and pressure from family and social media to exercise, but given my history of EDs and such I don't really know How to go about it. As soon as i wake up i feel that I should be working out but that's not what I ever want to do really. The most exercise I do is just walking lol. But I feel that me simply existing in my room is not good and that I should be out moving. I want to get away from that mindset.
Thanks for this. I agree with it all however I’m intuitively greedy, and put on a lot of weight eating what I want when I want. Would you reconsider this approach if it made you obese?
Having exactly the same when I eat oats or porridge 😂
you are so well spoken
Let me start by saying I am a big fan of your channel and I have loved every one of your videos and I like this one too with one small caveat.. I don't see Fitness Pal as a menace. Some of us actually need to watch certain things like for me it's sodium and I have to keep track of how much sodium I'm eating in a day so that I can stay healthy. For others it might be potassium or sugar and fitness pal has been a lifesaver in that department. Also not everyone who is trying to lose weight is a victim of diet culture. Some of us are genuinely not healthy and we need to lose some weight in a healthy manner. So please don't throw the baby out with the bathwater (sorry it's an American phrase).. just some of us have to keep track of our choices.
A very good point. It's a very impressive app in what it can do, and I imagine for people like yourself or those with conditions like diabetes etc it could be very useful indeed. However, that much detail and number-driven data can be really really dangerous for some of us. While tracking nutrition CAN be beneficial or educational, it can also lead to obsessive and disordered attitudes towards food and eating in general. In the same way that social media brings some people peace and joy, but brings others stress and low mood. I didn't mean any offence to those who use the app, just a bit of leftover venom from the damage it did to me, hope you understand!
Oat are shite, nothing makes me feel worse than a bowl of porridge or a flapjack, to some they may be great, but to me, they're the worst.
11:32 girl this thing you did with your hand gave me so much Italian vibes you couldn’t imagine
I find it beautiful.
I don't mind stuffing my face. I even have a mighty fluffy fupa. But I'm trying to lose a few pounds. Before I do I'ma let my Winnie the Pooh belly show. (This is a recent development) and I relish the veil that's been lifted about me hiding my belly. Fasting is sooo fun and I do it from time to 24hrs and I'm gonna live my body when I reach my goal weight as I already love it every step of the way. I can't WAIT to be able to zip up my Beyonce skirt if you're.😂 And if after I reach it, I go crazy on carbs and gain a few pounds that'll be fine too. Being comfortable in your own skin really helps. I love myself when I'm fat, I love myself when I'm fit (not that I've been under 175 in a while). :)
i wish something or someone would actually help..
thank you for this
You're very welcome!
I’ve come back to rewatch this video ❤ but as someone who is currently trying to lose 10+ kilos, I find the whole ‘intuitive eating’ thing so disheartening, because whenever I try to do it I end up just putting on more weight 😢 now clearly there’s an issue with the ‘balance’ part of my diet which I’m working on!