A Live Conversation with Esther Perel and Trevor Noah: Where Should We Begin? | SXSW 2024

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  • Опубликовано: 20 май 2024
  • Not all conversations with Esther have to happen behind closed doors. Last week, Esther sat down with Trevor Noah, live at SXSW in Austin on the Vox Media stage, for a candid look at the state of comedy in the world we live in. The two of them uncovered some surprising similarities between being a comic and being a therapist. Esther showed Trevor a few ways to become a better listener and Trevor in return helped Esther prep for her new live tour.
    If you want to be part of that show too- Esther invites you to an evening unlike any other. Join her as she shines a light on the cultural shifts transforming relationships and helps us rethink how we connect, how we desire - and even how we love. To find a city near you, go to www.estherperel.com/tour2024
    For Trevor Noah's Off the Record tour visit www.trevornoah.com/shows
    This conversation is also available on Esther's podcast, "Where Should We Begin?" Listen through the link below and stay tuned for the Audience Q+A, exclusively on Apple Podcasts subscriptions later this week.
    link.chtbl.com/WSWByt

Комментарии • 349

  • @verb0ze
    @verb0ze Месяц назад +368

    Trevor is low-key a therapist and Esther, low-key a comedian. Amazing dynamic between this duo! More please!

    • @cdarma74
      @cdarma74 Месяц назад +12

      Beautifully interpretation of these two.

    • @melodylaila
      @melodylaila Месяц назад +3

      Perfectly said!

    • @alexandrasanson9138
      @alexandrasanson9138 Месяц назад

      ​@@melodylaila8j9iij9i9iiîi8jiijjij999jiîj9iîj9i9j9ik9jîiiîîjj9îiîiiinijkjiiijinjiîiniikijknnkinjjiijjkjnnnjjjjjjjknjnjnjijjkknjjjiiijijinjnjjnjijinjijijjjinijnkjjinjjnnjijnnjnijjijjnijijiniijjnjnjjnijjjjnjijjnnjjijininnnkkinjiijijjnnjnjnjjininjjjjînjkîjinkjjinninn

    • @alexandrasanson9138
      @alexandrasanson9138 Месяц назад

      😊😊😊o😊

    • @alisaarmstrong9375
      @alisaarmstrong9375 Месяц назад +2

      😊 Yes, more please!! Two of my favorites! So brilliant 🎉

  • @AliBPBG
    @AliBPBG 2 месяца назад +555

    This makes me wanna walk through life with a tiny Esther on one shoulder and a tiny Trevor on the other, giving me advice and commenting on my decisions. 😅

    • @VivianneRoseLee-hz8oo
      @VivianneRoseLee-hz8oo 2 месяца назад +9

      😂😂😂 same!

    • @user-gs8jx9oc6p
      @user-gs8jx9oc6p Месяц назад

      0:26

    • @janisrose6131
      @janisrose6131 Месяц назад +9

      Humor is our ultimate freedom! Both of those people are free! Great video!!

    • @olgaboldina5584
      @olgaboldina5584 Месяц назад +4

      Exactly!

    • @sayusayme7729
      @sayusayme7729 Месяц назад +3

      Agree 😂, wouldn’t that be amazing?
      All the years of people saying humour is the best quality in a partner. Being able to laugh at oneself is integral 🤍💫✨🫶✌️

  • @healinspaces4u
    @healinspaces4u Месяц назад +201

    Trevor's comedy is healing. Each time I've gone to his show I leave feeling some healing as a woman. It is a tremendous gift as a woman to be left feeling healed by a man. He's brilliant and I'm glad he was born.

  • @laurelsfaves2665
    @laurelsfaves2665 Месяц назад +81

    I don’t think there’s a Trevor’s interview that I haven’t watched yet and every time I watch one it amazes me how wise , thoughtful and intelligent this man is !!!!

  • @healthstartshere
    @healthstartshere Месяц назад +94

    So many brilliant quotes in this conversation:
    One of Trevor’s: “Laughter is one of the few emotions that robs your pain of its power.”
    One of Esther’s: “Humor is the closest you can get to someone without touching them.”

    • @cynnia
      @cynnia 15 дней назад +3

      I agree with your quote choices.

    • @nannielson7790
      @nannielson7790 14 дней назад +1

      Perfect summaries of these 2 brilliant people!

  • @pausekatrine3975
    @pausekatrine3975 2 месяца назад +247

    what a treat!! Two of my favourite people in the world.

  • @nannielson7790
    @nannielson7790 14 дней назад +4

    Trevor is so much more than a comedian. The wisdom that comes from his brain, passing through curated decisions to speak to the topic literally and/or with an edge of comedy. Oftentimes, both. Love him!

  • @estefif879
    @estefif879 Месяц назад +57

    Who thought about putting these two people in a room? Genius!

  • @jayanthirangan-uc9oo
    @jayanthirangan-uc9oo Месяц назад +35

    My God. This duo is spontaneous, witty and constantly growing. For me the best part is how they used each other's words - they were listening to each other - with eyes, heart and hands. Yes, humor is a touch.

  • @ChirpyChat
    @ChirpyChat 2 месяца назад +206

    Watching from Singapore! I never imagined seeing Esther Perel and Trevor Noah together.

    • @theempire00
      @theempire00 2 месяца назад +3

      Why not

    • @0921AV
      @0921AV Месяц назад +2

      @@theempire00 I think it's because he's a comedian - finds humor on anything - and she is a therapist - finds seriousness on anything. For that reason, and many others, it was a great match!!!

    • @tammyjohnson1927
      @tammyjohnson1927 Месяц назад +1

      I think it's because a lot of people cannot find humor in pain. Therapy is supposed to be a meaningful insight to your problems and most people don't find that funny.

  • @IEVAKambarovaite
    @IEVAKambarovaite 2 месяца назад +146

    I desperately didn't want this to end. What a beautiful dance you both created ❤️

    • @cpmkw
      @cpmkw 2 месяца назад +5

      "They created a dance!" 🦄🌈🦠🤡

  • @NenaToya
    @NenaToya Месяц назад +61

    The duo we didn't know we needed!
    Absolutely ❤every second of this.
    Did not feel like a podcast or a "talk".
    I was eves dropping on an in-depth, intimate, hilarious, emotional talk between two amazing humans.
    Absolutely fed my soul

  • @DJ_Dutchess
    @DJ_Dutchess 2 месяца назад +104

    For the record, I'm glad this one wasn't off the record! 🙏 Two brillant people learning from one another and sharing it with the world. What a gift and privilege to have witnessed this 💫

  • @zizinnnn
    @zizinnnn Месяц назад +25

    Trevor making Esther laugh is a delight ❤

  • @pdias8469
    @pdias8469 2 месяца назад +53

    Listening to Esther Perel and Trevor Noah it was the best time I spent this evening.

    • @pdias8469
      @pdias8469 2 месяца назад +4

      Ambiguous loss! Yes yes yes. Absolutely right.

  • @gemmadidit4118
    @gemmadidit4118 Месяц назад +31

    The wonderful thing about this kind of content is the elevated souls that gather in the comments. Wish we could be in the same room 😃!

    • @privateperson4842
      @privateperson4842 Месяц назад +3

      gemmadidit sounds like a writer💞

    • @gemmadidit4118
      @gemmadidit4118 Месяц назад

      Nah😒. I'm still two thirds potential and it's late in the day🙄. But I choose to be HAPPY😜🤪😁.

    • @kekica11
      @kekica11 Месяц назад +2

      Or on the same airplane :)

  • @leonorejanson5140
    @leonorejanson5140 Месяц назад +17

    I love that Esther openly 'confesses' herr stage fright.

  • @_-JB-_
    @_-JB-_ Месяц назад +13

    Mr. Noah is a dangerous man. I didn't plan to sit and listen to a conversation for almost an hour. Yet I did it. Again.

  • @YassamanN
    @YassamanN Месяц назад +23

    Can the two of you please make a series of podcasts together? I learned so much just from this one session. Thank you both!

  • @estherkim2425
    @estherkim2425 2 месяца назад +55

    Did I manifest this?? Literally two of my favorite people coming together from two of my favorite worlds!!! More of this please!! amazing amazing amazing

    • @iccotom
      @iccotom Месяц назад +2

      Yes you did. And were all very thankful to you for it 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

  • @ann3700
    @ann3700 Месяц назад +16

    I always click play..when Trevor is doing an appearance somewhere...this was fulfilling

  • @nbjansen8255
    @nbjansen8255 Месяц назад +7

    Esther just demonstrated her incredible ability to listen to and to engage with her client/interviewee/audience. Trevor was an incredible vehicle for her to do that. Two utterly charming individuals interacting about a range of riveting topics. Surely he had every opportunity here to learn about developing his curiosity and to further develop his true listening ability ...which is what he hoped to get from Esther at this interview.

  • @1XclusiveFBA
    @1XclusiveFBA Месяц назад +4

    whoever thought to bring this two together is a genius

  • @shay-doran
    @shay-doran Месяц назад +5

    Esther I loved this notion of the Whole Body Listening, that's certainly how active listening feels - all senses are engaged!

  • @kimberlysauber5601
    @kimberlysauber5601 Месяц назад +18

    I can’t decide whose accent and speech patterns I love more!!! I could listen to you both speak every day. Also because of WHAT you both speak about. Love you BOTH so much. Thank you for your time and conversation. ❤

  • @Emy53
    @Emy53 Месяц назад +13

    I know that for 7 years, I was not present with my adult children. I was stuck in a relationship that didn't exist. It was very painful for them to watch me so absorbed in my cellphone with an individual that couldn't be present for me. I am so over it now, and I am so thankful to my daughter for trying to get me to understand and see how stuck I was. I am better now, and was still working on grieving something I could never have. She has helped me by making me aware how I dodged a bullet. I totally agree, and I have moved on. Took me a while, but I am so much better now.

  • @RichardDawson-sz4bz
    @RichardDawson-sz4bz Месяц назад +11

    I'm tuning in for a second time. These two people are brilliant conversational models.

  • @cathypreston1095
    @cathypreston1095 Месяц назад +17

    This is like watching a great movie in a theatre or in a group where we laugh and cry together. Thank you everyone.

  • @user-mz8ek1sn4f
    @user-mz8ek1sn4f Месяц назад +17

    Why not someday do a tour together where we can learn from through therapy and laughter at the same time. Great duo dynamic!

    • @calewis55
      @calewis55 Месяц назад +1

      What a great idea!!! I hope they take this and run with it. This conversation was si wonderful. Deep and true. ❤

  • @joshuaesquivel5721
    @joshuaesquivel5721 2 месяца назад +50

    This woman is incredibly smart. People that become fluent in multiple languages blow my mind!

    • @MliDube
      @MliDube Месяц назад +9

      True. I'm equally fascinated by people who learn a new language as adults. My daughter is ten years old and fluent in three languages. It's the norm growing up in a multicultural country like South Africa, but learning a new language as an adult is very rare.

    • @Pixeleen77
      @Pixeleen77 Месяц назад

      I dated a guy who spoke 7 languages fluently. He was a total tool. It's irrelevant how many languages people speak. Dick heads are dick heads:)

    • @privateperson4842
      @privateperson4842 Месяц назад +3

      He's multi-lingual, also.. and his voices of multiple peple are amazing 😂

  • @zanaleezee
    @zanaleezee 2 месяца назад +37

    Love their points about listening, the quality of listening and how it can shape the way the person we listen to expresses themselves. It's an underrated skill and very very useful and important.

  • @maryjeanthomas-johnson2043
    @maryjeanthomas-johnson2043 Месяц назад +14

    In the Struggle in South Africa we used humour to survive. Judge Albie Sacks used it to survive in 90 days solitary confinement. He sang "Always".
    ". .I will be loving you always, ...not for 90 days ..but akways.."
    I will be

  • @boothvrstudio
    @boothvrstudio Месяц назад +9

    Thank you so much. I miss you Trevor!! I wish you all the best! You are the best!

  • @megancarroll
    @megancarroll 2 месяца назад +28

    Omggggg two people who’s work I adore and this match up makes the most amount of sense ever

  • @georgeferguson2197
    @georgeferguson2197 Месяц назад +7

    If I were to think what the perfect conversation could be like, it is THIS. Absolutely riveted to these two exchange thoughts.

  • @denisemacedopsico
    @denisemacedopsico Месяц назад +14

    Trevor is the best ever 👏🏼👏🏼
    I found many psychological concepts and strategies in his speech. He always makes me learn, think and laugh ❣️

  • @muoean8219
    @muoean8219 Месяц назад +10

    Trevor doesn’t realize how well he actually listens! Using the words deridere and entendre correctly… He’s so mindful of those little details🙏🏼

  • @kimberlysauber5601
    @kimberlysauber5601 Месяц назад +8

    11:14 - I LOVE that. Humor is the closest you can get without touching someone. So profoundly correct. Love having new thoughts. Thank you.

  • @Nettiaz
    @Nettiaz 2 месяца назад +25

    "Tragic optimism" = "You get to decide your reactions to the events which you can not control"
    ❤️👍

  • @kasandimulaa9999
    @kasandimulaa9999 Месяц назад +8

    IM SO GRATEFUL FOR THIS INTERSECTION

  • @carolinehardware9982
    @carolinehardware9982 Месяц назад +9

    Trevor's laugh heals the soul😅

  • @bw13579_
    @bw13579_ 2 месяца назад +15

    TWO BRILLIANT PEOPLE HAVING A VERY INSPIRING CONVERSATION ❤

  • @kimberlysauber5601
    @kimberlysauber5601 Месяц назад +11

    38:24 - when I make small talk in a city, people look at me like I’m crazy more than if I’m in a small town. I like small talk because I’ve crossed paths with some REALLY AMAZING people and I wouldn’t have known without small talk. 💯

  • @jovicrada8102
    @jovicrada8102 2 месяца назад +15

    Thank you, thank you, thank you. That dream interaction between two great people make my day and I will remember for loooong time.

  • @dianacirilo
    @dianacirilo 2 месяца назад +20

    More of this please!!!❤

  • @elizabethrodrigues2100
    @elizabethrodrigues2100 Месяц назад +6

    Beautiful conversation between two of you is something nobody can miss .I am looking forward to hear you two

  • @BaKellaC47
    @BaKellaC47 Месяц назад +7

    I also see how Trevor is confident in himself that he is not uncomfortable speaking to a psychologist/ therapist. He is so sure of himself , and he has quickly taken the lead as if he is the host .

  • @frankpaquet295
    @frankpaquet295 Месяц назад +8

    This was excellent, thank you to Esther Perel and Trevor Noah. It's given me a lot to think about. You two are great!! Thank you. (from Sandi)

  • @ellenbruckermarshall4179
    @ellenbruckermarshall4179 Месяц назад +9

    The way we share content with each other- best explanation ever Trevor. Thanks!

  • @Bri.Katungi
    @Bri.Katungi 2 месяца назад +14

    The treat I never knew I needed!Thank you❤

  • @renatakrasovskaja5824
    @renatakrasovskaja5824 2 месяца назад +12

    this duo is the cutest!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  • @b.t.734
    @b.t.734 2 месяца назад +31

    How inspiring and touching to see Esther with Trevor. It may sound as minor but I love seeing the body-appereance of the two of them together. Trevor is soo tall or may be esther is petite. :-) After so much face timing it is great to see corpo-reality.

    • @privateperson4842
      @privateperson4842 Месяц назад

      Thanks for teaching me a new word corporeality. And french terms, though my brain might not retain it, it's interesting.

    • @b.t.734
      @b.t.734 Месяц назад

      @@privateperson4842🌺🌟🌟

  • @1991Depa
    @1991Depa 2 месяца назад +10

    Admire both of them from Singapore

  • @caz119
    @caz119 Месяц назад +6

    Both a great way at looking at relationships and comedy and the relationship comedy has with each person.
    Indeed laughter is a therapeutic medicine.

  • @tandilemakuluma7582
    @tandilemakuluma7582 2 месяца назад +10

    Two of my faces who have amazing insight on how to relate! So many gems...thank you for an insightful, intelligent, funny conversation. So much respect for both of you and the work you do.

  • @trishm3002
    @trishm3002 Месяц назад +2

    I love how Esther said we listen with our whole body: eyes, ears, smiles, nods, body posture. Amazing insight.

  • @gemmausiku
    @gemmausiku Месяц назад +1

    I learnt to listen watching this. You do not need a degree to be a teacher. These two have taught me so much. Thank you!

  • @a_secret_tho
    @a_secret_tho Месяц назад +4

    I absolutely love this. Listening to Esther’s podcast before going to bed is my favorite hobby. I get to reflect on myself, learn and explore new ways, and feel positive and warm and hopeful energy of imagining how I can do better next time. Thank you! And all the luck and support for all of you who watches this video! We deserve love.

  • @MaithiliKulkarni
    @MaithiliKulkarni Месяц назад +2

    45 min of Insights from two of the brightest/ wisest minds of our times!
    Than k you!

  • @Kixperience
    @Kixperience 2 месяца назад +10

    Lovely surprise and what a good listening.

  • @esfuturestrading
    @esfuturestrading Месяц назад +3

    This is something I never expected. What a treat!

  • @megv6467
    @megv6467 2 месяца назад +6

    I wish Esther did a tour in the UK. I really enjoyed the conversation between the these two greats in their own right.

  • @maribelsandoval4405
    @maribelsandoval4405 2 месяца назад +10

    This was such a delightful and real conversation- thank you both 🙏🏼

  • @artistmaureensharkey5321
    @artistmaureensharkey5321 Месяц назад +3

    This may become one of the best all time talks!

  • @Julzableful
    @Julzableful 2 месяца назад +9

    Beautiful conversation with a beautiful soul. I love comedy and the art of it. I have always used it to connect to people even in times when I've felt unsafe to help gain some footing in the social dynamic.. really enjoyed this reflective, insightful discussion on why it's so important in our lives. Thank you so much for bringing this to us, Esther!

    • @privateperson4842
      @privateperson4842 Месяц назад

      Just yesterday someone I know and respect said I need to get out with people more. So this was good timing on that path.💙🌎❤️

  • @nuriap3278
    @nuriap3278 2 месяца назад +12

    I haven't seen it yet but my like 🎉is for bringing these two together, to start with...

  • @makeoneonly
    @makeoneonly 2 месяца назад +6

    Esther great teacher ❤

  • @lollettealipe9363
    @lollettealipe9363 Месяц назад +3

    An interesting conversation between two equally intelligent and witty people.

  • @kunwaranujsingh9980
    @kunwaranujsingh9980 2 месяца назад +6

    ❤ Esther

  • @erikserum9519
    @erikserum9519 2 месяца назад +10

    Trevor noah and Esther perel have really good connection ❤❤😊. Trevor is amazing

  • @Julieglam3
    @Julieglam3 Месяц назад +1

    I adore Trevor. I could listen to him speak all day, every day. I have only recently discovered Esther but so glad I have. So refreshing to listen to two people who are so intelligent, insightful, funny and engaging. With so much discord and insanity going on right now, THIS was so needed...💕

  • @rosemariekimball5787
    @rosemariekimball5787 Месяц назад +4

    Love and appreciate those two people.

  • @JG-cq6ud
    @JG-cq6ud 2 месяца назад +7

    Esther ❤

  • @marikaoconnor5058
    @marikaoconnor5058 Месяц назад +2

    Both of them so thoughtful and genuine. Impressive.

  • @0921AV
    @0921AV Месяц назад +2

    Excellent!!! Love them both, great match for an interview. Thanks.

  • @ochiengodhiambo
    @ochiengodhiambo Месяц назад +4

    Two legends .....they are intelligent n I can listen to them without getting bored.

  • @thescowlingschnauzer
    @thescowlingschnauzer Месяц назад +4

    To be a good listener, you have to know what to listen for. You have to not project, meaning not listen selectively.

  • @cfatv-gp4ye
    @cfatv-gp4ye 2 месяца назад +7

    What a combo 💯✨

  • @PureJoyJoyPure
    @PureJoyJoyPure Месяц назад +1

    WONDERFUL MINDS! Thankyou for posting. The volume was excellent as well.

  • @kidistgetachew7565
    @kidistgetachew7565 Месяц назад +2

    I love love love me some Trevor

  • @thescowlingschnauzer
    @thescowlingschnauzer Месяц назад +6

    Stage fright: I don't know how to do this.
    Nerves: I know how to do this. I don't know what's on the other side of me doing it.

  • @steffanhegeman6351
    @steffanhegeman6351 Месяц назад +2

    Absolutely fantastic, both of them!

  • @ZuzanaBzonkova
    @ZuzanaBzonkova 2 месяца назад +9

    Oh! My ♥always jumps with joy when the insightful people I have followed for years join to create sth together! This interview is,unsurprisingly wonderful! So mesmerizing that I've listened to it 5x in one evening! Thank you, Esther and Trevor, for all the content here on RUclips and also for this deep and witty interview, both enriching and funny!

  • @jessicakuilan670
    @jessicakuilan670 Месяц назад +1

    Absolutely love this. As a fellow therapist, these two dynamics are sooooooooo on point. Love them both!

  • @SunraeSkatimunggr
    @SunraeSkatimunggr Месяц назад +1

    This was a wonderful conversation!!! I have always loved Trevor Noah, but Ester Perel is great as well. They are both philosophers, psychologists and comedians...as well as many other things.

  • @asmahamidullah9571
    @asmahamidullah9571 Месяц назад +2

    Thank you both so much! God bless you! ❤🇹🇹

  • @MylezNevison
    @MylezNevison 2 месяца назад +7

    I perceive Nerves as #Anxiety & Stage fright as #Phobia.

  • @desidimceva8907
    @desidimceva8907 Месяц назад +1

    I am a fan of both of you for years. I was expecting a fun conversation but you both outlived my expectations in the very first minutes and kept doing so until the end. I want to thank you for sheding fresh inteligemt ideas and profound thruths as you go. Keep up ! You are amazing

  • @teenafrench7236
    @teenafrench7236 Месяц назад +2

    Two GOATS🎉🎉🎉

  • @Sara-321
    @Sara-321 2 месяца назад +3

    My two favorite people! I’m excited to give this a listen.

  • @anilenk2103
    @anilenk2103 Месяц назад +3

    Humour in the face of hardship is very familiar to the South-African mind....to tell jokes about things that are painful...I think it helps to process difficult events. I have seen that from Israel too recently....

  • @benjamin.4628
    @benjamin.4628 23 дня назад +1

    One of few conversations I listen with normal speed.❤

  • @TamarChante
    @TamarChante 2 месяца назад +5

    Great conversation! Loved it!

  • @akara2137
    @akara2137 Месяц назад +2

    This conversation is very touching and intimate! I learned so much. ❤ I love you and your vulnerability, Esther!

  • @cch255
    @cch255 Месяц назад +7

    This was wonderful! I stumbled upon it by accident and thoroughly enjoyed it.

  • @paulricketts7857
    @paulricketts7857 Месяц назад

    A very precious conversation.. I am very thankful for this experience..wonderful ❤

  • @MICHAEL-xr9yx
    @MICHAEL-xr9yx Месяц назад +1

    I love Esther Perel

  • @jessgarcia6224
    @jessgarcia6224 2 месяца назад +4

    Candid talk

  • @cocobloco5056
    @cocobloco5056 Месяц назад +4

    They are brilliant in their analysis' while making you feel more comfortable with our insecurities . I think Trevor Noah is a modern day philosopher. The use of humour is so key to dealing with life but he combines intelligence and insight with humour in a way that it does not deride serious issues. It makes one see another side to these issues and may help deal with them in a healthier way.

    • @OlegSidorenko1974
      @OlegSidorenko1974 Месяц назад +2

      He is a philosopher indeed, and all great comedians are. George Carlin and Louis CK come to mind, although both can be quite bitter unlike Trevor.

    • @cocobloco5056
      @cocobloco5056 Месяц назад

      @@OlegSidorenko1974 Exactly !

  • @mungiuri
    @mungiuri 2 месяца назад +4

    this was a delightful conversation!