When this quote flashed on the screen, I literally burst into tears. I really needed this cleansing affirmation today. Loved this video so much, thank you for sharing
Idk what my mother went through as a child to raise me with emotional absence, but I’m finally taking authority as an adult to develop healthy communication styles & setting up boundaries. I noticed I was mimicking her way of toxic emotional outbursts and I want to nip that in the bud FAST.
I do inner child work with my therapist and we revisit traumatic experiences from my childhood and I constantly am talking to my younger self and thinking about what my younger self needed at that time
I don’t know if you will ever see my comment seeing that your comment was a month ago, but you DO deserve better. You are a big person to recognize both anger and empathy. In the same situation with my own parent. Sending you good vibes ❤️
Honestly I feel the same way towards both my parents; I dread interacting with them too and I also have anger towards them. Your comment was so validating for me knowing other people experience the same contradicting yet valid emotions. You are not alone
I love that idea of apologizing to yourself for being mean to yourself. I struggle with how inauthentic it feels to say the nice things my therapist says to say. I think this apologizing thing sounds more authentic and a good first step for me! Thanks!
I struggle with never wanting to be born. I never wanna have kids given what I’ve had to go through not just within my family but in the world as someone chronically ill. feel adults should not be having kids so freely if they’re not ready to be accountable for their child all the way into the rest of their lives, especially when given a disorder/disability.
yes yes yes! i'm pregnant now but for the longest time i couldn't understand why anyone would ever want to have children. i've come to a lot of peace that i have the capability to raise my kids in a home that has a whole lot less trauma and pain, and hopefully that will enable them to feel gratitude for life and not shameful of their existence :)
I remember my mom trying to make me feel better through a depressive state for weeks and one day she said honey its okay...it’s all going to be okay....and I instantly bawled - I had no idea that’s exactly what I needed to hear 🥰
I am reading nonviolent communication right now, and it is hard. accepting responsibility for my own language and feelings is hard. realizing all the ways I have harmed myself and others with my words is hard to sit with. but I would say if you have ever felt misunderstood or defensive, you need to read this book. I think I am going to be studying this book for the next twenty years of my life as I really desperately try to put it into practice as best as I can. (I'm 18)
“We are only subject to a negative thought or belief if we consciously say that it applies to us. We are free to choose not to buy into a negative belief system.”
"The secret to glow up is that you don't" Wow!! This is honestly the best video on inner child healing! i learnt that just because the people you love makes you feel bad makes you feel wrong all the time doesnt mean you are bad or wrong... just take a step back and ask your heart it may be confused by your very own inner critic but it will speak the truth later...You are beautiful just the way you are💓💖
amy you have no idea how much i needed to be told "it's okay to feel scared". as soon as you said that i started crying like crazy. i didn't know i had a scared inner child inside of me who needs love and wants to feel safe. this video made me realise a lot. i would be really thankful if you made a part 2
For me i never got the right things i wanted to hear for a long time and now i am starting to finally do that. for myself also I have been too sheltered and never fully got to let myself grow etc in life .
I'm so sad rn cause I'm in class. I've been trying to do the same thing this weekend, I went somewhere to stay, called a friend, and we took a long drive. I didn't realise how overwhelmed and underappreciated I felt It's never too late to heal guys. Just breathe, meditate, drink water and trust the process🍃❤
Dear Amy, do you think there are men outside there who also work on themselves ...? Sometimes I feel like women work so hard and men just stay in their old patterns :(
in the middle of watching this, and thank you so so much for uploading this and bringing this topic up. i've been struggling with what's right and wrong for so long dependent on the way my immigrant parents raised me.
@@amy_lee completely. crazy how it took so much time to realize only a glimpse of what they’ve been through. trauma really carries over. but it’s beautiful to see this generation take healing seriously. i’m so curious to see our future generations’ mindset now
Dear Amy... I have to be honest, I stopped watching your videos some time ago because you made me think about my own struggles to much and I just wanted to close that door and keep it close. I started watching you again recently and my God... . I have to thank you so much not only for your precious time and words of wisdom but also because your videos now have such a calming power on me. Thank you from the heart, my adult self cherish you and I will try to grip every bit of light that my inner child has left to keep it honored :)
Its scary when your wounds are exposed versus when they were unseen in the dark. I want to tell you that you’re strong and bold enough to go thru it. Lets show up for ourselves
Not me literally sitting here taking notes in my journal. lol Seriously though your last video on healing the inner child changed my life (no I really mean it). I realized so much of what I struggle with as an adult comes from not feeling protected as a child and i've realized how important me feeling safe physically and emotionally is when it comes to my peace and happiness. I've had a lot of breakthroughs because of what i've learned from you so thank you for that.
also! self compassion by kristin neff includes a lot of the ideas in this video. if you haven't read it yet, I really reccomend! if you are clinging to self criticism as a means to motivate yourself to do hard things and fufill your highest potential, realize you actually don't need to motivate yourself using fear of failure and judgment from yourself. the book says that you can be motivated from a place of self compassion, asking yourself, what is the most healthy and helpful thing I could do for myself and who I want to be in this moment? ANYWAYS it changed my life and I could ramble forever bc there's so many concepts that I have taken away from that book
I’m unable to leave my current living situation and my older brother calls me mentally unstable when I express any emotion in front of him and it’s so aggravating and does not help my declining mental health. I avoid him as best I can, but he can’t stay out of my business.
That is the same with my sister she says really nasty down grading things to me and sometimes I wonder where she is hearing this from and most likely it is my parents but glad i am at this video
I am currently battling mental health issues that have roots in my past (and made a very truthful video about it so I appreciate your rawness) ..... you can move on and heal. We can write our own narrative. Thanks for the video 🙏🏼🌙🙏🏼
I listened to this before and after working in my group therapy for six months. Only now I can say I get it, it finaly clicks. I understand why it is in crucial to work on and implement literally everyday. Thank you for your content, Amy. I often come back to you when I forget that the healing is possible to me and this helps. Please, continue.
Being able to witness your healing journey has been so inspiring and motivating. I have a lot of family trauma that I'm healing from and it's hard but your videos help remind me that change is possible :)
@@amy_lee im always happy to make people find someone as amazing and inspiring as you! thank you, i always feel welcome with you🥺 man this made my day hehe c:❣
You have been an inspiration for my own healing journey. Growing up as a first generation Filipinix woman, I just never understood why I felt so lonely as a child, but doing my own work and seeing this video affirmed that the things I went through had a deeper meaning and not just a "cultural" thing. So thank you
I’m still young and my parents just don’t understand me, so i can’t get therapy like I want to, but your videos really help me out to kind of learn to cope, i guess while I wait till I get older when I can actually get professional help like i’ve always needed. So thank you!! I bet you’ve helped a lot of people. Keep it up
Love this Amy. No matter our circumstances or suffering in life, it's up to us. Us to forgive, both ourselves and others. Us to nurture ourselves in mind body and spirit. It is the hardest work we can do, which is why so few do it. But it is also the most rewarding work. Thank you for blessing us with an example of love, grace, and compassion. ❤️❤️
this was so so so helpful because i’ve always believed that being an adult is to feel frustrated and tired often. You’ve helped so much with me healing my inner child and changing my views on my mental health! :)
thank you so much! i just needed that video. my boyfriend and I broke up last week and I have to really tell myself that it is okay that I`m feeling sad and hurt and that it is okay that I`m not all-time-happy. so thanks!
Thank you for bringing all of this up, especially the part about how society can try to make us feel guilty for feeling a certain way. I remember bottling so many emotions up when I was younger because when I expressed them people would say "don't cry.. cheer up! there are so many things to be happy about". I understand they had good intentions but it made me feel so much worse because of the shame and made me not want to bring up any of my negative feelings to anyone because they would attempt to try to change them and sometimes when they were unsuccessful in changing my negative feelings they would take it personal. Once I learned to just accept my negative feelings when they come up, sit with them and not feel so ashamed or try so hard to change them I feel like I became a lot more mentally healthy.
My entire life I'd place malice on what happened to me as a child. Now that I'm into the healing process I understand that hurt people, hurt people and given how they were raised, I was still "better off" than how they were treated. As a parent now, innately I knew to be different than they were. I began reading a book about being raised by emotionally immature parents and am joyful to know I AM emotionally mature for my kids. I will continue to heal and do my best. 💚love and light
i am in tears i needed this so much amy thank you! to reparenting ourselves with gentleness and so much love!! sending so much love and light to you and komy from singapore amy!!!!
thank yu for being one of the women in this world who truly inspire me to be the best me I can be. I cant take it all in without saying this publicly. thank you, thank you.
Thank you Amy, for posting this video. I can really relate, growing up in an Asian household, you're told to keep your feelings to yourself or only share with family. I feel like I can't share my feelings/thoughts with anyone. I'm better at it now, when I realized, I shouldn't feel ashamed. I do lack in confidence, and I do blame my childhood upbringings for this. I'm so harsh on myself, but I want to thank you for saying "Its OK" to feel this way. You have inspired me to be kinder to myself, and I will practise this everyday. Thank you for sharing your journey with us.
Thank you so much for taking the time to make this video! Just coming out of a suicidal and depressive episode and realizing that I really need to work on reparenting myself. There was no space for any so called "negative " emotions growing up. Always had to be happy and calm and hard working. I'm battling depression and anxiety disorder for a few years now and moving forward is so so hard. But this reminds me that healing is possible and gives me guidance. Thank you so much Amy. I love what you do.
I feel in my life I want to heal the wounds in my family line. My mom was raised with 6 other siblings and her mom and dad in the south. Her father was an alcoholic who beat them and there mom on a daily. They would run away when it was very bad. But there mother(my grandma) never left him and they were married until the day he passed away from dimenstia as an old man them all holding his hand as he passed away in the hospital. It was tragic. I love my mom but she never had counseling she never worked through any of it and raised me with such anger. I love her so much but every day of my childhood was screaming and yelling. She would fight with my dad. It was very unhealthy. One day they didn't fight and I told them in awe that "wow you guys didnt fight today". I looked at other family's and wish I was in there family home. I was an only child n walking on egg shells alot. But now as an adult I'm relearning and reparenting myself.
Thank you. This explained reparenting well. It is a concept I had been told of decades ago when I was receiving counseling after my (very fine parent) mother died, and I was at the same time coming face-to-face with how horribly neglectful my father had been. Reparenting seemed like a good idea, but I never got into it full throttle. These examples you described are helpful.
Wow! Thanks for the trash example. I'm having a hard time thinking how I will tell my roommate that she needs to help me with taking out the trash since I've been the only one taking it out for some time now. It makes me feel like I'm a maid or something and we've had a hard time talking since last week. So those examples were helpful. I hope she let's me know when she's ready to talk so I can use one of those.. Also, I'm working on my compassionate inner voice. I remember one time I was having a panic attack and I couldn't stop sobbing and my inner critique was saying the meanest things like how I looked stupid crying there and more mean things and right there my inner nice voice was like "that's not true. You're just having a hard time right now. It's going to be okay" and i hugged myself until I calmed down. This I was proud of. It was one of the first time that I caught myself being mean and then comforted myself. But damn was I emotionally exhausted after that.
I keep revisiting your content, over and over again. It warms my soul. I've recently been going through a very hard time and I really needed my perspective shifted and to know that everything will be okay and that I cannot neglect myself ♥️
Your videos are so relatable in deep ways. I'm a Korean-American born to Korean immigrants as well. My parents (whom I permanently cut out of my life) passed on a lot of trauma culture, but also went further than that in subjecting me and my sibling to their own mental illness as well. I grew up witnessing an inordinate amount of violence from my parents. For the longest time I thought that was just part of Korean culture, but I found out that it actually wasn't. None of my Korean-American friends were being beat quite that bad (if at all) or witnessed that degree of domestic violence (if any) between their parents. I'm reading a book called "CPTSD: From Surviving to Thriving" by Pete Walker, which is helping me process the trauma and regain what I lost/never had in childhood. Definitely a great read!
Amy, I appreciate so much your openness and honesty. You are a wonderful human being and you are doing a wonderful job here in RUclips. I admire how sincerely you share your journey and I am infinitely thankful for that. I learn so much from what you have to say.
Hey, Amy, first of all, I love you soooooo much. I've been watching your videos for a long time, and thanks to you, I've learned that there's such a thing as reparenting. And I told my close friends about it, and I sent them this video. But some of them didn't quite understand it because they didn't speak English. So if you open the subtitle section, I would like to add Turkish subtitles to your videos. Loves and hugs from Istanbul💜
thank you so much for this video Amy! and I would love it if you did a part 2 on reparenting yourself. it is really helpful to see you healing yourself, gives me ideas on how I can go about it too. also just makes me feel very happy to see you taking care of yourself.
Thank you so much for that video, I resonate with you. It's hard sometimes to assume that child part cause the "adults" down there are a bit judging, but I'm sure they are juste envious and can't assume their inner child, so let's continue to blow bubbles after take an college exam !
Hi Amy Lee! Thank you for all of your advice ☺️ About #3 (honor your inner child), what if you have no idea what you wanted/what made you happy as a child or simply don’t remember?
"Brokenness is learned, not innate and we have to find our way back to what is already whole." - Geneen Roth
When this quote flashed on the screen, I literally burst into tears. I really needed this cleansing affirmation today. Loved this video so much, thank you for sharing
@@hannahdennington9697 have so much fun Hannah ♥️🥺
@@hannahdennington9697 I love everything about this quote 🌻🌻🌻
I'm always blown away by how you manage to balance forgiveness/ acceptance of your parents while being gentle with yourself to heal the inner child.
lol thank you! i will say- it aint easy!!!!! my mind feels like its gonna explode sometimes haha
It is honestly shocking, how much of our behaviours can be linked to childhood and our inner child. Like she is the blueprint 👀
Idk what my mother went through as a child to raise me with emotional absence, but I’m finally taking authority as an adult to develop healthy communication styles & setting up boundaries. I noticed I was mimicking her way of toxic emotional outbursts and I want to nip that in the bud FAST.
i can relate, they were doing their best ofc but we're here to break the cycle
Healing the inner child is so important. I think I was in denial for a long time
same! we're in this together now
I do inner child work with my therapist and we revisit traumatic experiences from my childhood and I constantly am talking to my younger self and thinking about what my younger self needed at that time
yes! this is so great, visualizing your younger self is also really helpful. keep it up sam youre doing great
I had to interact with my dad today. I'm so angry at him but I feel so sorry for him at the same time. I deserve better
I don’t know if you will ever see my comment seeing that your comment was a month ago, but you DO deserve better. You are a big person to recognize both anger and empathy. In the same situation with my own parent. Sending you good vibes ❤️
@@Heejujujuju thank you!😊
Honestly I feel the same way towards both my parents; I dread interacting with them too and I also have anger towards them. Your comment was so validating for me knowing other people experience the same contradicting yet valid emotions. You are not alone
I love that idea of apologizing to yourself for being mean to yourself. I struggle with how inauthentic it feels to say the nice things my therapist says to say. I think this apologizing thing sounds more authentic and a good first step for me! Thanks!
also I love your smile :)
I struggle with never wanting to be born. I never wanna have kids given what I’ve had to go through not just within my family but in the world as someone chronically ill. feel adults should not be having kids so freely if they’re not ready to be accountable for their child all the way into the rest of their lives, especially when given a disorder/disability.
yes yes yes! i'm pregnant now but for the longest time i couldn't understand why anyone would ever want to have children. i've come to a lot of peace that i have the capability to raise my kids in a home that has a whole lot less trauma and pain, and hopefully that will enable them to feel gratitude for life and not shameful of their existence :)
At 19:58 after the second “it’s okay” I started bawling... literally all I need to hear is it’s okay. Ahhhhhh
I remember my mom trying to make me feel better through a depressive state for weeks and one day she said honey its okay...it’s all going to be okay....and I instantly bawled - I had no idea that’s exactly what I needed to hear 🥰
@@rileighchristine_ I’m glad you’ve had that kind of support when you needed it most 🤍 wish you health and happiness !
I am reading nonviolent communication right now, and it is hard. accepting responsibility for my own language and feelings is hard. realizing all the ways I have harmed myself and others with my words is hard to sit with. but I would say if you have ever felt misunderstood or defensive, you need to read this book. I think I am going to be studying this book for the next twenty years of my life as I really desperately try to put it into practice as best as I can. (I'm 18)
“We are only subject to a negative thought or belief if we consciously say that it applies to us. We are free to choose not to buy into a negative belief system.”
"The secret to glow up is that you don't" Wow!! This is honestly the best video on inner child healing! i learnt that just because the people you love makes you feel bad makes you feel wrong all the time doesnt mean you are bad or wrong... just take a step back and ask your heart it may be confused by your very own inner critic but it will speak the truth later...You are beautiful just the way you are💓💖
amy you have no idea how much i needed to be told "it's okay to feel scared". as soon as you said that i started crying like crazy. i didn't know i had a scared inner child inside of me who needs love and wants to feel safe. this video made me realise a lot. i would be really thankful if you made a part 2
I love this amy, who is raw and real with us, we appreciate you amy
i love you julissa thanks for being here
@@amy_lee >.
Omg yes, it‘s exactly what helps me to grow. Pure realness❤️
I’ve followed you on IG for Years and had no clue you had a YT channel. A THRIVING RUclips channel. Ok girl, we see you.
For me i never got the right things i wanted to hear for a long time and now i am starting to finally do that. for myself also I have been too sheltered and never fully got to let myself grow etc in life .
im proud of you, you deserve to be seen aand safe
I'm so sad rn cause I'm in class. I've been trying to do the same thing this weekend, I went somewhere to stay, called a friend, and we took a long drive. I didn't realise how overwhelmed and underappreciated I felt
It's never too late to heal guys. Just breathe, meditate, drink water and trust the process🍃❤
you are very appreciated, kiara. i hope you find some peace soon
@@amy_lee thanks Amy. I hope so too, everyday I feel much better thankfully. Sending love ❤
Dear Amy, do you think there are men outside there who also work on themselves ...? Sometimes I feel like women work so hard and men just stay in their old patterns :(
in the middle of watching this, and thank you so so much for uploading this and bringing this topic up. i've been struggling with what's right and wrong for so long dependent on the way my immigrant parents raised me.
youre welcome! its been a trip for me to figure this out on my own as well. but know thta anger, resentment AND compassion for them are totally valid
@@amy_lee completely. crazy how it took so much time to realize only a glimpse of what they’ve been through. trauma really carries over. but it’s beautiful to see this generation take healing seriously. i’m so curious to see our future generations’ mindset now
Dear Amy... I have to be honest, I stopped watching your videos some time ago because you made me think about my own struggles to much and I just wanted to close that door and keep it close. I started watching you again recently and my God... . I have to thank you so much not only for your precious time and words of wisdom but also because your videos now have such a calming power on me. Thank you from the heart, my adult self cherish you and I will try to grip every bit of light that my inner child has left to keep it honored :)
Its scary when your wounds are exposed versus when they were unseen in the dark. I want to tell you that you’re strong and bold enough to go thru it. Lets show up for ourselves
Not me literally sitting here taking notes in my journal. lol Seriously though your last video on healing the inner child changed my life (no I really mean it). I realized so much of what I struggle with as an adult comes from not feeling protected as a child and i've realized how important me feeling safe physically and emotionally is when it comes to my peace and happiness. I've had a lot of breakthroughs because of what i've learned from you so thank you for that.
also! self compassion by kristin neff includes a lot of the ideas in this video. if you haven't read it yet, I really reccomend! if you are clinging to self criticism as a means to motivate yourself to do hard things and fufill your highest potential, realize you actually don't need to motivate yourself using fear of failure and judgment from yourself. the book says that you can be motivated from a place of self compassion, asking yourself, what is the most healthy and helpful thing I could do for myself and who I want to be in this moment? ANYWAYS it changed my life and I could ramble forever bc there's so many concepts that I have taken away from that book
I’m unable to leave my current living situation and my older brother calls me mentally unstable when I express any emotion in front of him and it’s so aggravating and does not help my declining mental health. I avoid him as best I can, but he can’t stay out of my business.
That is the same with my sister she says really nasty down grading things to me and sometimes I wonder where she is hearing this from and most likely it is my parents but glad i am at this video
I am currently battling mental health issues that have roots in my past (and made a very truthful video about it so I appreciate your rawness) ..... you can move on and heal. We can write our own narrative. Thanks for the video 🙏🏼🌙🙏🏼
thank you for being here! i appreciate you
I would love to watch a part 2
I rode my bike to the mall and ordered that book on communication right after watching this! 🚴🏽♀️💨
i go to therapy very regularly but i feel like youre my second therapist😅 love your videos Amy💕
Samee
I actually started to cry when you kept saying it’s okay I really needed to hear that 💛
This made me cry, but in a good way. Thank you Amy.
I finally found a channel that actually completely encompasses my problems and what it really takes to move forward. Thank you for this.
I listened to this before and after working in my group therapy for six months. Only now I can say I get it, it finaly clicks. I understand why it is in crucial to work on and implement literally everyday. Thank you for your content, Amy. I often come back to you when I forget that the healing is possible to me and this helps. Please, continue.
brokenness is learned, not innate - I felt that.
Being able to witness your healing journey has been so inspiring and motivating. I have a lot of family trauma that I'm healing from and it's hard but your videos help remind me that change is possible :)
i know that you're on your way, and change is more than possible. proud of you!
thank you for this video
i just recommended you to someone about an hour ago and now you´re here! thank you sm your videos always are so healing to me
thank you for spreading the love and helping me break more cycles for others
@@amy_lee im always happy to make people find someone as amazing and inspiring as you! thank you, i always feel welcome with you🥺
man this made my day hehe c:❣
You have been an inspiration for my own healing journey. Growing up as a first generation Filipinix woman, I just never understood why I felt so lonely as a child, but doing my own work and seeing this video affirmed that the things I went through had a deeper meaning and not just a "cultural" thing. So thank you
Appreciate these check-in/information vids. Thank you for sharing.
of course, thanks for being here natalia!
I’m still young and my parents just don’t understand me, so i can’t get therapy like I want to, but your videos really help me out to kind of learn to cope, i guess while I wait till I get older when I can actually get professional help like i’ve always needed. So thank you!! I bet you’ve helped a lot of people. Keep it up
Love this Amy. No matter our circumstances or suffering in life, it's up to us. Us to forgive, both ourselves and others. Us to nurture ourselves in mind body and spirit. It is the hardest work we can do, which is why so few do it. But it is also the most rewarding work.
Thank you for blessing us with an example of love, grace, and compassion. ❤️❤️
yes! thank you for taking the time out of your day to write such a thoughtful lovely comment ari
this was so so so helpful because i’ve always believed that being an adult is to feel frustrated and tired often. You’ve helped so much with me healing my inner child and changing my views on my mental health! :)
thank you so much! i just needed that video. my boyfriend and I broke up last week and I have to really tell myself that it is okay that I`m feeling sad and hurt and that it is okay that I`m not all-time-happy. so thanks!
you’re honestly the only youtuber i would love to meet in person and spend time with. i love you.
You are never defined by your past! It’s time to reprogram our subconscious mind and SHINE💙🙏
yes andrey
Thank you for bringing all of this up, especially the part about how society can try to make us feel guilty for feeling a certain way. I remember bottling so many emotions up when I was younger because when I expressed them people would say "don't cry.. cheer up! there are so many things to be happy about". I understand they had good intentions but it made me feel so much worse because of the shame and made me not want to bring up any of my negative feelings to anyone because they would attempt to try to change them and sometimes when they were unsuccessful in changing my negative feelings they would take it personal. Once I learned to just accept my negative feelings when they come up, sit with them and not feel so ashamed or try so hard to change them I feel like I became a lot more mentally healthy.
You should make a podcast, Amy. You're so wise and heart-warming 🥺
My entire life I'd place malice on what happened to me as a child. Now that I'm into the healing process I understand that hurt people, hurt people and given how they were raised, I was still "better off" than how they were treated. As a parent now, innately I knew to be different than they were. I began reading a book about being raised by emotionally immature parents and am joyful to know I AM emotionally mature for my kids. I will continue to heal and do my best. 💚love and light
i sort of intellectually knew the last point, but i’d never heard it articulated in a way that stuck so well. thanks for this 💗
i am in tears i needed this so much amy thank you! to reparenting ourselves with gentleness and so much love!! sending so much love and light to you and komy from singapore amy!!!!
I teared up, I loved the video especially the end with you hugging yourself, sending so much love to all of y'all
thank yu for being one of the women in this world who truly inspire me to be the best me I can be. I cant take it all in without saying this publicly. thank you, thank you.
Thank you Amy, for posting this video. I can really relate, growing up in an Asian household, you're told to keep your feelings to yourself or only share with family. I feel like I can't share my feelings/thoughts with anyone. I'm better at it now, when I realized, I shouldn't feel ashamed. I do lack in confidence, and I do blame my childhood upbringings for this. I'm so harsh on myself, but I want to thank you for saying "Its OK" to feel this way. You have inspired me to be kinder to myself, and I will practise this everyday. Thank you for sharing your journey with us.
Thank you so much for taking the time to make this video! Just coming out of a suicidal and depressive episode and realizing that I really need to work on reparenting myself. There was no space for any so called "negative " emotions growing up. Always had to be happy and calm and hard working. I'm battling depression and anxiety disorder for a few years now and moving forward is so so hard. But this reminds me that healing is possible and gives me guidance. Thank you so much Amy. I love what you do.
This is amazing!!!!! I love to discuss Reaprentign with clients- but this is particularly helpful, playful and insightful.
ugh I love you Amy, we all need a huge hug from you 😭❤️
I feel in my life I want to heal the wounds in my family line. My mom was raised with 6 other siblings and her mom and dad in the south. Her father was an alcoholic who beat them and there mom on a daily. They would run away when it was very bad. But there mother(my grandma) never left him and they were married until the day he passed away from dimenstia as an old man them all holding his hand as he passed away in the hospital. It was tragic. I love my mom but she never had counseling she never worked through any of it and raised me with such anger. I love her so much but every day of my childhood was screaming and yelling. She would fight with my dad. It was very unhealthy. One day they didn't fight and I told them in awe that "wow you guys didnt fight today". I looked at other family's and wish I was in there family home. I was an only child n walking on egg shells alot.
But now as an adult I'm relearning and reparenting myself.
Oh my you spoke my heart out..
Thank you. This explained reparenting well. It is a concept I had been told of decades ago when I was receiving counseling after my (very fine parent) mother died, and I was at the same time coming face-to-face with how horribly neglectful my father had been. Reparenting seemed like a good idea, but I never got into it full throttle. These examples you described are helpful.
Amy, thanks for being so vulnerable. These lessons are so important!
Wow! Thanks for the trash example. I'm having a hard time thinking how I will tell my roommate that she needs to help me with taking out the trash since I've been the only one taking it out for some time now. It makes me feel like I'm a maid or something and we've had a hard time talking since last week. So those examples were helpful. I hope she let's me know when she's ready to talk so I can use one of those.. Also, I'm working on my compassionate inner voice. I remember one time I was having a panic attack and I couldn't stop sobbing and my inner critique was saying the meanest things like how I looked stupid crying there and more mean things and right there my inner nice voice was like "that's not true. You're just having a hard time right now. It's going to be okay" and i hugged myself until I calmed down. This I was proud of. It was one of the first time that I caught myself being mean and then comforted myself. But damn was I emotionally exhausted after that.
"Healing is subtle, healing is gradual."
I keep revisiting your content, over and over again. It warms my soul. I've recently been going through a very hard time and I really needed my perspective shifted and to know that everything will be okay and that I cannot neglect myself ♥️
Love these videos, legit you helped me a lot in my healing journey. We all need an Amy in our lives !
This has been invaluable. Thank you
Your videos are so relatable in deep ways. I'm a Korean-American born to Korean immigrants as well. My parents (whom I permanently cut out of my life) passed on a lot of trauma culture, but also went further than that in subjecting me and my sibling to their own mental illness as well. I grew up witnessing an inordinate amount of violence from my parents. For the longest time I thought that was just part of Korean culture, but I found out that it actually wasn't. None of my Korean-American friends were being beat quite that bad (if at all) or witnessed that degree of domestic violence (if any) between their parents. I'm reading a book called "CPTSD: From Surviving to Thriving" by Pete Walker, which is helping me process the trauma and regain what I lost/never had in childhood. Definitely a great read!
Amy, I appreciate so much your openness and honesty. You are a wonderful human being and you are doing a wonderful job here in RUclips. I admire how sincerely you share your journey and I am infinitely thankful for that. I learn so much from what you have to say.
I so resonate with your childhood traumas,thanks for the amazing video,so helpful
A Very mature person! Very good video very practical!
Wow! I’m so happy I came across your page!! I paused the video went & bought this book! Thank you! Subscribed❤️
볼 때마다 감탄하는 머리결과 머리 색깔!!!
wowwwww thanks this video is so much value. it's so aligned to what I've been learning too
im so glad i found this video. i hope i can change my behaviour so my future children or partner wont go through the same things
This is one of the sweetest videos I've ever seen. Thank you. ❤
Hey, Amy, first of all, I love you soooooo much. I've been watching your videos for a long time, and thanks to you, I've learned that there's such a thing as reparenting. And I told my close friends about it, and I sent them this video. But some of them didn't quite understand it because they didn't speak English. So if you open the subtitle section, I would like to add Turkish subtitles to your videos. Loves and hugs from Istanbul💜
So good! Thank you for sharing!
This has helped me so much. Thank you so much.
Lord this video saved my life. Thank you Amy.
Thank you so much for this video, I donno how but you uploaded right when I needed it the most 💗✨
thanks for being here!
Thank you Amy for being you♥️ you have made great impact on me
thank you so much for this video Amy! and I would love it if you did a part 2 on reparenting yourself. it is really helpful to see you healing yourself, gives me ideas on how I can go about it too. also just makes me feel very happy to see you taking care of yourself.
This made me smile, you're a strong and beautiful soul Amy ❤️
Building with Amy. You are appreciated. 💛
Thank you sooo much for this sharing 🥰
Thank you so much for that video, I resonate with you. It's hard sometimes to assume that child part cause the "adults" down there are a bit judging, but I'm sure they are juste envious and can't assume their inner child, so let's continue to blow bubbles after take an college exam !
Hi Amy Lee! Thank you for all of your advice ☺️ About #3 (honor your inner child), what if you have no idea what you wanted/what made you happy as a child or simply don’t remember?
I needed this information for my next steps in healing. Thank you for sharing your truths and knowledge. 💜
Thank you for your videos and for just being you, they are amazing and so helpful, you are very loved and appreciated ❤️
You're like the sister I never had, living for this big sis advice 🥰🧡
omg I didn't even know karaoke mics existed like that I just bought one and gonna sing my heart out!! thanksssss
this feels like a warm hug 😊
I learn so much from you Amy, thank you for everything you do, such valuable information.
"its okay not to be okay"
You are adorable and so wise and aware omg where have you been all my life
i love this, i've been working on some of these things without a way to label them or describe them.
Amy, the gem dropper!
I really needed this video right now. Thank you Amy.
That intro!! yes! Thank you, I love you so much.
Thank u so much for this video 🥺
yes! finally someone is talking about this
This is such a wholesome and informative video,loved it
you're so awesome. this really helped me, thanks Amy :)