Thank you for sharing. I myself have (and do) struggle with mental health and regulating my nervous system. I have lifelong and deep friendships with many men, and we share openly. It always brings me so much joy when I see men sharing openly on social platforms. Not because it”’s brave” or “taboo… but because it shouldn’t be brave and it shouldn’t be taboo. It should be the norm. So thank you for making it the norm.
I highly appreciated your openness and vulnerability, thank you This video was beautiful in so many ways and whilst watching I found myself nodding my head at so many experiences you brought up. It also made me realise that therapy is not a linear progress like I once excpected, but rather a constant work in progress with yourself and a recurring check-in with emotions that come up.
sounds stupid to say, but you don’t know what “baggage” someone is carrying. hearing you open up has made me realise how important empathy is, but also how important it is to never judge people
Hey Jack, just found you on social media today and appreciate your content. I'm so sorry you experienced those losses in quick succession, and I identify with loss creating an abandonment wound. I'm much older than you are but am really struggling with this after several big losses from my life. My identity has shattered and rejection feels terrifying. I spend alot of time on my own, where I can limit the possibility of further loss and the feelings which I find unbearable. Have you explored the RSD under the adhd umbrella? Its Rejection Sensitivity Disorder, I know, more "letters", but it may be of interest, if you're still into exploring this aspect of your mental health. I get it, these fears are trauma based, but I'm coming to realise that if its ongoing, or repetitive trauma, our thinking and therefore behaviours become disordered. Well for me it feels true. It's hard finding really good, trauma informed (not just saying they are) therapy. It's so nuanced and takes alot of time to slowly unpick the threads. Anyway, I just wanted to thank you for how you verbalized the onset of your pain/therapy journey, I often cant find the sentences I need to explain or justify my struggle, I'm forever grateful for the insights of people on social media who Express their thoughts and realisations. Like you mentioned, the sky is terrifying for me. Like I feel, do you all not think about whats up there? I used to work with people who were blind and they would ask me to describe "it", and it makes no sense. It goes up and up, theres a layer with insects, a higher layer with birds, people can also para glide here, then theres a higher level where aeroplanes go criss crossing around the world, and people jump out of them, and oh yeah clouds are there, planes can go above them ... and space and planets and satellites and the sun and moon rise and ah jesus it's a head fuck, cos they arent attached to anything and they're thousands of miles up there ... I get it. It's too much, I cant watch anything to do with space. I tried Sandra Bullock's "Gravity" and I still have PTSD, and dont get me started with ET, or people going to Mars and never coming back. Fuck my life. I hope I havent triggered you, I'll pop a trigger warning above ... I need to compartmentalise all that and try ignore the whole thing. Yes, the body shaking terror (awareness) that people have free will or accidents or a life span and they can choose on a Tuesday, to leave or have an accident. We have NO power. Horrific. Huge CPTSD. Very complicated. So nuanced. I hear you. I hope I havent taken away your peace of mind with my rambling. I also hear the ache behind naming Wilson and the Tom Hanks reference. I watched it over the pandemic and was inconsolable for days. The abandonment. On the raft, when the ball drifted. Jesus H. Have you watched Snow Society on Netflix, I got the same trigger during that incredible movie. Alone, nobody is coming. True story. Anyway, thanks for helping me connect with my feelings today. Tx
Thank you for sharing. I myself have (and do) struggle with mental health and regulating my nervous system. I have lifelong and deep friendships with many men, and we share openly. It always brings me so much joy when I see men sharing openly on social platforms. Not because it”’s brave” or “taboo… but because it shouldn’t be brave and it shouldn’t be taboo. It should be the norm. So thank you for making it the norm.
I highly appreciated your openness and vulnerability, thank you This video was beautiful in so many ways and whilst watching I found myself nodding my head at so many experiences you brought up. It also made me realise that therapy is not a linear progress like I once excpected, but rather a constant work in progress with yourself and a recurring check-in with emotions that come up.
I’m glad it resonated with you and made you feel at ease.
Love you x
You are such a special human being !! you help more people than you will EVER know. so proud of you - ILY
sounds stupid to say, but you don’t know what “baggage” someone is carrying. hearing you open up has made me realise how important empathy is, but also how important it is to never judge people
Hey Jack, just found you on social media today and appreciate your content. I'm so sorry you experienced those losses in quick succession, and I identify with loss creating an abandonment wound. I'm much older than you are but am really struggling with this after several big losses from my life. My identity has shattered and rejection feels terrifying. I spend alot of time on my own, where I can limit the possibility of further loss and the feelings which I find unbearable. Have you explored the RSD under the adhd umbrella? Its Rejection Sensitivity Disorder, I know, more "letters", but it may be of interest, if you're still into exploring this aspect of your mental health. I get it, these fears are trauma based, but I'm coming to realise that if its ongoing, or repetitive trauma, our thinking and therefore behaviours become disordered. Well for me it feels true. It's hard finding really good, trauma informed (not just saying they are) therapy. It's so nuanced and takes alot of time to slowly unpick the threads. Anyway, I just wanted to thank you for how you verbalized the onset of your pain/therapy journey, I often cant find the sentences I need to explain or justify my struggle, I'm forever grateful for the insights of people on social media who Express their thoughts and realisations. Like you mentioned, the sky is terrifying for me. Like I feel, do you all not think about whats up there? I used to work with people who were blind and they would ask me to describe "it", and it makes no sense. It goes up and up, theres a layer with insects, a higher layer with birds, people can also para glide here, then theres a higher level where aeroplanes go criss crossing around the world, and people jump out of them, and oh yeah clouds are there, planes can go above them ... and space and planets and satellites and the sun and moon rise and ah jesus it's a head fuck, cos they arent attached to anything and they're thousands of miles up there ... I get it. It's too much, I cant watch anything to do with space. I tried Sandra Bullock's "Gravity" and I still have PTSD, and dont get me started with ET, or people going to Mars and never coming back. Fuck my life. I hope I havent triggered you, I'll pop a trigger warning above ... I need to compartmentalise all that and try ignore the whole thing. Yes, the body shaking terror (awareness) that people have free will or accidents or a life span and they can choose on a Tuesday, to leave or have an accident. We have NO power. Horrific. Huge CPTSD. Very complicated. So nuanced. I hear you. I hope I havent taken away your peace of mind with my rambling. I also hear the ache behind naming Wilson and the Tom Hanks reference. I watched it over the pandemic and was inconsolable for days. The abandonment. On the raft, when the ball drifted. Jesus H. Have you watched Snow Society on Netflix, I got the same trigger during that incredible movie. Alone, nobody is coming. True story. Anyway, thanks for helping me connect with my feelings today. Tx