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i 100 percent get this, i moved at the end of 2019 to cornwall being 16 at the time. i found it super difficult to get to know anyone

The mistake you made was not moving down far enough. Move to a sea side town and things would have been different. Nobody wants to travel up to Wadebridge.. its too close to Bodmin which is a shit hole. No one I know wants to move to London.. ha, that too is a Shit Hole.. 😂

Absolutely love this mate

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Donny willz

Love you x

This can’t be real, a genuinely likeable person on RUclips

I highly appreciated your openness and vulnerability, thank you This video was beautiful in so many ways and whilst watching I found myself nodding my head at so many experiences you brought up. It also made me realise that therapy is not a linear progress like I once excpected, but rather a constant work in progress with yourself and a recurring check-in with emotions that come up.

Hey Jack, just found you on social media today and appreciate your content. I'm so sorry you experienced those losses in quick succession, and I identify with loss creating an abandonment wound. I'm much older than you are but am really struggling with this after several big losses from my life. My identity has shattered and rejection feels terrifying. I spend alot of time on my own, where I can limit the possibility of further loss and the feelings which I find unbearable. Have you explored the RSD under the adhd umbrella? Its Rejection Sensitivity Disorder, I know, more "letters", but it may be of interest, if you're still into exploring this aspect of your mental health. I get it, these fears are trauma based, but I'm coming to realise that if its ongoing, or repetitive trauma, our thinking and therefore behaviours become disordered. Well for me it feels true. It's hard finding really good, trauma informed (not just saying they are) therapy. It's so nuanced and takes alot of time to slowly unpick the threads. Anyway, I just wanted to thank you for how you verbalized the onset of your pain/therapy journey, I often cant find the sentences I need to explain or justify my struggle, I'm forever grateful for the insights of people on social media who Express their thoughts and realisations. Like you mentioned, the sky is terrifying for me. Like I feel, do you all not think about whats up there? I used to work with people who were blind and they would ask me to describe "it", and it makes no sense. It goes up and up, theres a layer with insects, a higher layer with birds, people can also para glide here, then theres a higher level where aeroplanes go criss crossing around the world, and people jump out of them, and oh yeah clouds are there, planes can go above them ... and space and planets and satellites and the sun and moon rise and ah jesus it's a head fuck, cos they arent attached to anything and they're thousands of miles up there ... I get it. It's too much, I cant watch anything to do with space. I tried Sandra Bullock's "Gravity" and I still have PTSD, and dont get me started with ET, or people going to Mars and never coming back. Fuck my life. I hope I havent triggered you, I'll pop a trigger warning above ... I need to compartmentalise all that and try ignore the whole thing. Yes, the body shaking terror (awareness) that people have free will or accidents or a life span and they can choose on a Tuesday, to leave or have an accident. We have NO power. Horrific. Huge CPTSD. Very complicated. So nuanced. I hear you. I hope I havent taken away your peace of mind with my rambling. I also hear the ache behind naming Wilson and the Tom Hanks reference. I watched it over the pandemic and was inconsolable for days. The abandonment. On the raft, when the ball drifted. Jesus H. Have you watched Snow Society on Netflix, I got the same trigger during that incredible movie. Alone, nobody is coming. True story. Anyway, thanks for helping me connect with my feelings today. Tx

Thank you for sharing. I myself have (and do) struggle with mental health and regulating my nervous system. I have lifelong and deep friendships with many men, and we share openly. It always brings me so much joy when I see men sharing openly on social platforms. Not because it”’s brave” or “taboo… but because it shouldn’t be brave and it shouldn’t be taboo. It should be the norm. So thank you for making it the norm.

You are such a special human being !! you help more people than you will EVER know. so proud of you - ILY

sounds stupid to say, but you don’t know what “baggage” someone is carrying. hearing you open up has made me realise how important empathy is, but also how important it is to never judge people

This whole video echoes how I'm feeling about living in Devon at the moment. I lived in Bristol for 5 years and loved it but ultimately my work, and travel plans meant it made more sense to come back to Devon. It has felt near enough impossible to integrate myself into the place I grew up in because I left. I love having nature around me and don't miss how dirty Bristol can be, but so miss the sense of community I had there. I really do recommend moving to Bristol - even for a little bit, it's full of wonderful people. But do be aware that it has its own housing crisis too.

This just felt like a chat over a brew. 👍

I lived in Cornwall for 6 years- moved to Falmouth for uni and I was one of the ones who found it hard to leave, until a year after Covid. It’s a shame that you had a shit time, I also felt the isolation after people left when I moved to Newlyn. But in time the community grew around me and they were incredible, working locally helped massively too. Choosing to live somewhere so isolated in Cornwall clearly wasn’t the best, and maybe if you chose to be closer to the town hubs you would have enjoyed it more, places like Fal and Penzance have a great scene. Locals in the remote areas are more likely to be sceptical of “outsiders”. I hardly came across any “cliques” or “bitchy” locals, when I did they never cared where I came from, they cared if you cared for them and were aware of the socioeconomic issues there and if you were going to contribute to that, as so many people (not just from London) move to Cornwall without doing the proper research and expect it to be this romantic ideal, which it isn’t and move a couple years later. I have to disagree with your comment of “no one talks about people from the south west moving to London and impacting our housing crisis” as the situation in Cornwall is so much deeper than that. Jobs are shit verging on nonexistent, especially for young people, pay is terrible, Cornwall runs on a seasonal timeline so most jobs are only on a 6 month basis and your out of work the rest, Cornwall is unfortunately completely reliant on tourism and it’s caused massive poverty and infrastructure closing. And with infrastructure closing it makes it harder for people to meet each other. So I’m sorry it doesn’t compare. Cornwall is slowly becoming rife with ghost towns due to tourism and second home owners etc- Mousehole is a perfect example. On that note I have to say (and I really mean it from a kind place) but it just feels like you didn’t research Cornwall as well as you should of, you mention the seasonal timeline and how that seeps into relationships, that’s just Cornwall, and that’s what the reliance on tourism does to that place and second home owners kicking out locals and out buying them. Cornwall’s awful public transport is glaring on any google search. Also why did you opt for a 3 bed house? You mention locals finding it hard to find homes, but you were one of the ones that pushed a potential family out of the area? Anyway I will say give Bristol a go! I moved to Bristol after Cornwall and you’ll love it from the impression you give. Bristol is surrounded by green spaces (Cotswolds, Somerset). It’s an intimate city, with a great artist, music and events scene. Best of luck to you mate wish you the best!

Nice vid! Would love to see one specific to London as well loads of issues here especially for those who find it hard to put themselves out there/FOMO of other Londoners.

So much on social media is sugar coated and just NOT real life, leaving me feeling inadequate and tired. Your honesty is refreshing and almost validating to my daily internal thoughts. As for Bristol, I grew up in a coastal town 10 miles away and it's an amazing city to have on my doorstop. Enough 'city' mixed with nearby amazing countryside and as you said more accessible. Great music scene too and always something to do.

Your video and some of the comments here have been really validating. We're not enjoying Cornwall either and have similar feelings of isolation and also suffocation. You start to feel at times that it's you, even when the other part of you knows it's not. There are some really aggressive nasty attitudes in Cornwall, worse than people might think. I've experienced different aspects of it in ranges of subtlety from tradespeople to school parents. We've also met some lovely people, but the amount of negative energy is just too much and life is too short. We're looking to find even more nature/wilderness and a bit more space from people with our next move, which will be to Scotland in the Highlands. Cornwall now feels crowded somehow. It's great to have a nearby village but one that's not so intense as some of the areas you can find in Cornwall. Many from Cornwall will hear testimony like ours and says "good riddance" because they don't like "emmets" but that's actually incredibly sad and not an indication of kindness or decency. A friend who's Cornish said that the term "emmet" is actually racist in nature and I think they're right there.

you are such a great human being - you live and you learn !! and im happy you got the chance to tick someplace else off your list. On to the next !!! mwah <3 ILY

I moved to Pentire, Newquay with my ex the October before Covid hit, it was gorgeous and loved their way of life as in wanting to be in nature and not climb the corp ladder but my god did I feel out of place since I didn’t surf or skate, I definitely didn’t fit in to the cool laid back groups that were in the centre of Newquay. We did hit the jackpot with our property as this lovely couple needed someone to ‘house sit’ while they went to Bristol for 8 months so £850 for a 2 bed house in Pentire just a 5min walk to fistral, fully furnished and all bills included but that was luck of the draw - no chance of that these days. Happy to say I done it though, changed my goals and entire mindset ☺️

I really think that your videos have the ability to positively influence male mindsets on their ability to talk about their emotions. I think it’s admirable what you’re doing.

This was incredibly validating ! I lived in mawgan porth for just over 6 months without a car and it was incredibly isolating which had its positives and negatives. I experienced the exact same situation with people being cliquey and flakey. I’m Canadian so I was really an outsider but was lucky enough to have my uncle as a local. I miss the air, nature, land and chillness of it all. I miss aspects of cornwall but I’m not sure if I’d spend another chunk of time there. This was from March 2022 so similar timing! Thank you for this

I think it works both ways.... My son, born and bred in Cornwall lived in London for the 'year in industry' part of his degree course. He knew no one when he moved there and really tried hard to intergrate with his work colleagues. He joined a gym and local 5 aside footy team but wasnt really able to connect with anyone. He found it super isolating and was really lonely there as he said everyone already had their own lives and friend groups and after work people were just too busy with getting on with their own lives to bother about asking him to join them....also on the wage he wad getting paid, after rent and expenses he couldn't afford to enjoy any of the cultural aspects of the city..so really didnt benefit from the exciting opportunities that living in the Capital can bring. He also thinks Cornwall has too much of a 'small town ' mentaily and is looking to move to Bristol after his degree ...offering city amenities but with 'South West' vibes as he says. Wishing you all the luck with wherever you lay your hat.

I have never connected so much with a conversation about Cornwall than the content of this video. I moved to Cornwall around 7 years ago after living abroad as my husband’s family are from there and he grew up there. For the last 7 years I have felt a combination of isolation and suffocation. I have stayed because as a place for young children to grow up I think the access to nature is unparalleled. Now they are older I worry that they will not have as much exposure to the variety (cultural, diversity, language, food, arts, etc). My biggest concern has always been the ‘Peter pan’ mentality as you so aptly put it. I have always been highly ambitious and many times (not always) that was met with confusion and distain-why could I just be ‘satisfied’ with Cornwall. I felt like an outlier and an outsider.

This conversation was good company on the train mate. Super honest and insightful. I've relocated a couple of times in my life... If I'm honest I probably didn't make enough effort to integrate at times and it's clouded my judgement of an otherwise beautiful place. Got my eyes set in a move to Portugal later this year and will do things differently this time. Best of luck to you!

I grew up in Cornwall and everything you said is exactly how I felt growing up there. Super isolating, 0 infrastructure and horrendously bitchy with the small town mentality. I left at 18 and have only been back to visit friends. It’s super refreshing to hear someone else say everything I felt while living there, as so many people don’t realise the reality of living in a place like Cornwall. Thank you for posting this 🫶🏻

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BeachBum dropped another Italy vidd!!! I say this every week but this is the perfect thing to wind down to on a Sunday. Much Love man keep it up.

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Lad you’re breathing like a French Bulldog in this 😂

Was this colour graded in post or was the scenery just this beautiful everywhere you went? Top tier quality

so grateful to be able to watch all of this back whenever we want - te quiero !!

BEEN WAITIN FOR THIS ONE

Sorry I am slightly late only getting round to watching this, the perfect unwind after a very hectic week!!

STUNNING!

LOVE the cinematic interludes

Muy bien

nenene neveee

cant wait to watch these back in a few years hehehe

the prettiest video up to date xx

Loved this! Jules is a lucky girl, what a great gift! Such wonderful footage of a breathtakingly beautiful part of the world. Thanks for taking us along 😊 x

Love this for you guys! Looks stunning.

Looks absolutely stunning!

cant wait to go back someday !!

you need some lemon balm tea with a wedge of lemon it will give you calm sleep

“You’re almost edging me” - beachbuminasuit to his viewers, 2024

Love the video

Your vids are always so real, want more of this on youtube!!! Still loving these weekly posts.