How Do I Overcome Self-criticism of My Appearance?
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- As we age we have the opportunity to discover our deeper essence beyond the body and express our inner beauty, explains Eckhart. We are all subject to the effect of time and the changes in the body, but we do not need to become "ugly" in the process.
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"Don't overcomplicate life. If you want to apply makeup, apply makeup." -Eckhart Tolle
Hey you reading this right now, did you know that you are an amazing and truly beautiful person and you have a unique gift to offer this world? That gift is your heart and the love you have inside yourself. You are destined to do amazing things in this world. So go out there and do all you feel in your heart you need to....You know what I am talking about. That nagging that you've had for weeks, months even years but you never got around to do it. Cause the time is now.....go out there be that amazing, beautiful person who makes this world a better place with your mere presence. I love you and know you can do anything you want to. Now let's go live our dreams!! - a friend Xoxo
Hermoso mensaje!!
There must be something really wrong with me because I have no "dreams" or "goals" to DO SOMETHING. I harbor no delusion that I am destined to "make my mark on the world". The world doesn't need me. And the feeling is mutual.
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Namaste
RP thank you
People's feelings about how they look
have much more to do with what's going on in their minds,
than the actual state of their body and dress.
Issues include fear of aging and death, fear of rejection,
need to feel attractive or at least socially acceptable to others.
The key issue here is judgement.
We judge others based on their appearance
just as we judge ourselves.
So much of this judgement is learned behaviour in a youth oriented society.
I am almost Eckhart's age.
I see myself aging, and frankly I hate it.
I see my father when I look in the mirror.
It's kind of funny I guess.
But if others don't like how I look, that is their problem.
This society bases so much on appearances.
But what is more important than our appearance is our connection with the world.
With today's connectivity, this is not difficult to do at any age, or physical condition.
It does require knowing your way around the internet, however.
Ask yourself: do you expect everyone in your life to look beautiful, forever?
Why would you expect this of yourself?
If a loved one suddenly lost their looks, would you still love them?
If you are not sure, then you do not really love them.
And: why do you care what others think?
Why is it important that you look at least as good, if not better than other people?
Is this a competition?
“You never catch time you only catch the evidence it leaves “. So true.
God showing his hind parts.
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Thank you for sharing your wisdom. I have a son who suffers from schizophrenia and he is incarcerated. He has begun to recognize the importance of meditation and breathing exercises. It calms his negative thoughts. He read your book The Power of Now and began to understand suffering and how to find joy in the environment he lives now. He is very bright person but very fearful. l hope he will continue searching for the light in the darkness.
Is there a book which could help him understand fear and be free from it.
You are in this world because we need you,
I only feel ugly when I look in the mirror. And I only feel beautiful when I look in the mirror. Sometimes I think I look ugly and then I catch my reflection and I see I look beautiful. Sometimes I think I look good and I catch my reflection and I see that I do not. It is all relative. Our body is the apparatus which allows us to process information. Be grateful that it works. Everything.else is just vanity and a waste of time. Not saying that you do not need to present yourself well, that is about self respect and respect for what others have to look at. Once someone speaks, they become ugly or beautiful. Depends on what you say and what you do.
I know!! Some elderly people have this beautiful energy you can feel 😍
I'm a young woman with severe scars that acne have left on my face. I wish I wasn't too attached to my appearance but here I am. I just want feel pretty and not worry about my skin so much. Guess I have to practice more to live in present moment
How it is right now?
It's getting better, I think. I don't care anymore about it so much anymore. It's the face I have and I have to live with that so I might as well just accept the situation. Thank you for asking :)
Me too, scars. It sucks.
You're free to do something about those scars. See a dermatologist. Like Tolle said about applying makeup, it's not necessarily vain to use it. Getting help removing your acne scars are no different. There's somebody out there who can help you. Blessings
Conveys truth with gentle humor. What a loving blessing is Eckhart Tolle. Don't worry, be happy! :-)
You are still alive. That makes you relevant enough.
“Don’t complicate life too much”
This guidance is one of the greatest gifts I've received. "Thank you" seems inadequate but I promise that I will spread your love as I move forward on my path of "now."
A lot of the smartest introverts I know blink while thinking and letting words come to them slowly. It can be a sign of what we label high intelligence. A certain type of intelligence. People like Robin Williams have lightning fast minds but can also be very pensive and deep. It takes all forms. I'm glad we are all different and yet so much the same on a deep level.
I have no words to explain how much you've helped me!!! I love you! You make me smile and laugh as I listen to your teachings. Thank you!!
Knowledge is the accumulation of things. Wisdom is the dropping of things. That's how you measure wisdom. You take account of all the things one continues to cling to. The lower the number, the greater the wisdom.
Worries about looks and intelligence only because we care about other people's opinions. They key to happiness is to free ourselves completely from good opinions of other people. This is of course not easy and something that one has to master. As far as worries about being relevant as we age and lose our IQ's, a lot of that is also because we care about what other people think of our capabilities. Forget about their opinions of about that also. We should focus on keeping our mind as sharp as we can for as long as we can for our own benefits and what we can do for the world. And beyond intelligence, there is always something meaningful that we can do to live a purpose life until our last day. That could be passing our wisdom, being kind, planting flowers, sweeping our street corner (no, there is no shame in that). We can even keep our minds sharp and do more complex work until our last day. We need to free ourselves of the negative societal judgments and expectations and our own negative beliefs as we age.
i had a psychedeliç trip 2 y ago in ibiza with ther amazonian plant Ayahuasca and the Ayahuasca godess came during my trip and said a few things to me energytically.
the message was clear;life is just a game ;it's voluptuous and fun ,never take life seriously and have fun .
Then something much bigger and powerfull comes after.
mloc m I know someone who'se done over 70 ayahuasca trips
mloc m Some drugs are bullshit highs because they are dirty ugly non spiritual ones. However things like shrooms aren’t. Ahuasca I am not ready for but for extreme depression in some it seems to work wonders. They aren’t party drugs like meth or dirty stomped soul killing heroin. They are spiritual teachers connecting us to the Divine or to help us connect to truths we need to hear etc. Shrooms did wonders for me. I wish I could take them more! Only did it twice.
i have done only one ayahuasca,the message i received was pretty clear and very powerfull.
It's only my experience ,i have never done acids or magic mushrooms or any psychedelic drug.
cheers
Yeah u hallucinated
Many people have had extraordinarily vivid experiences but remained selfish pricks for the rest of their lives.
Some have experienced simple yet profound unconditional love and union with life and responded to that so fully that their entire personality and values were transformed.
Long story short, I think the value and validity is not so much about the content of the experience, but rather how fully we respond to it.
such a peaceful soul..........thankyou
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Beautiful, beautiful, beautiful. Thank you for this, Mr. Tolle.
I am in my 60's. Aging is pretty awful. But I don't like the alternative! I was beautiful in a "model" like way but now I'm not!🤣 I don't really dwell on that,but find it quite therapeutic to do little things that halt back the clock in a superficial way. Make-up is fun! For men and women. I needed to hear this video. Eckhart has changed my life.
this is just lovely and amusing too - I really needed this today. my body is now 78 and doing fairly well until someone out there in the world behaves towards me as though I m elderly - until then I forget - but I suppose a person of 25 would consider me ancient!!
Thank you Dear Eckhart..
I’m in still in my 30s (just about)
And I started thinking about this at 23
I love you Eckhart! Thank you for bringing so much humor to this discussion ❤️🙏🏼
This is true. Getting old, it's a test of character.
Always love his talks
You are a awesome person, I love your wisdom and presence your soul gives
I love his laugh - so subtle but so genuine :)
“Does it mean I’m vain bc I don’t want to be shiny” 🤣 Love him! ✨
You always emanate beauty and blessings that make us smile!
Makeup for a person with Vitiligo, Xanthelasma, Chemo Burns, Domestic Abuse or Accident Scars, born with Facial Differences and other issues - ALL benefit from makeup so as to equalize their opportunities in the world.
Eckhart shines🌟
Just listening on christmas day so thank you eckhart and Merry Christmas .
I’m only 36, so I know I shouldn’t be so worried about aging. But I do very much feel ugly, stupid and worthless and more so with each passing year. My own “flawless inescapable logic” tells me this is a reasonable deduction based on all of the rejection I’ve experienced and having been unwillingly single for the majority of my adult life. But while I’ve been convinced I’m right and have felt very hopeless at times I am also open to hearing other opinions and solutions. Tolle’s speeches are very interesting to me.
I’d welcome any suggestions on this topic!
You shouldn’t feel stupider as you get older, since you’ve accumulated more memories, more knowledge, etc in your years.
Here’s a piece of advice. Accept that life is unfair, cruel, full of suffering, and over much too quickly. A raw deal for sure. And that people are selfish, and pretty rotten generally- with a few moments of kindness and empathy for others sprinkled in during extraordinary times.
The only thing that makes sense to me is to try and learn how to deal with that fact with a sense of dignity grace and humanity. Also, build a better reputation with yourself by imagining that you are a friend to yourself. I doubt you would be so critical of a friend the way you are to yourself. How would you behave each day if you liked yourself? What would you do, what would you not do..
Keep meditating and listening to talks until you are awakened. Once awakened, the power of presence will carry you through to full enlightenment. What you are experiencing is the pain of living within the ego, experiencing the conflict of this constricted state as it fights against being awakened by presence. Some excellent teachers to look into are: Dr. Jon Kabat-Zinn, Joseph Goldstein, Jack Kornfield, Ram Dass, Adyashanti, and Alan Watts. They all have excellent audiobooks on Audible.com. Have faith - you have found the right path, but now you need to walk it all the way to freedom. I wish you well.
As ET says - Don't spoil your beautiful light of your true self with negative thoughts - or something like that. negative conditioned thinking shifts your vibration, your frequency, so it attracts like thoughts and like thinking people and experiences.
Love you Eckhart
He is so funny, love the humour 💙
Oh TY so much. If I could have 1 wish before I die....it would be to share presence with you and your beautiful energy. I continue to pray for a West coast American tour. Portland Oregon would be perfect.
NorthernStar1776 There are other less famous awake beings who are more accessible fyi. Francis Lucille for example
❤Thank you so very much for sharing this talk. I feel a lot better about growing older. Your apple analogy is perfect and I love your sense of humour.
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You saved me, thanks Ekchart
Shininess is good! Thank you for this message.
Thank you, master. I love you very much.
Fantastic lecture. Thank you so much🙏
I like my looks.
started a drinking game for every time he blinks; god speed.
HanzSygnal hahahaha...... dead😵
Ahhahahahahahahahah
Stage lights
It’s not really time, it’s entropy. It brings equilibrium.
Thanks Eckhart.
Thank you for your presence ❤️
this man is incredible..... gosh
Sir Eckhart tolle is great Master
Thank you!
Ive been practicing eckharts teachings for a while now, he’s helped me no end! What I’ve found recently however as I am now becoming aware of my thoughts and how he ego operates my thoughts seem to be even more prominent (this is probably due to me not being aware of them before) and I feel I’m actually thinking more as a result of this, anyone else have this? What is the next stage from here?
Same thing happened to me. I think Eckhart might say the next stage is to continue what you're doing. That each time you become aware of the thoughts and ego, you are increasing your consciousness. So practice practice practice. Good luck!
War Bastard Hi, it's not that you are thinking more, you are just now aware of how much thinking happens, the next step is to relax. What you resists, persists. Don't be in resistance, I think Byron Katie will be good for you (her and Tolle are freinds). 95% of humans don't even know they are not their thoughts. Give yourself a break, Dear One. 💖💫💕👑🐳🦉💖💫💕
For me it is very helpful to look at the thoughts and ask myself, as eckhart recommends, "do i want this?". If you are still identified with the thoughts you will notice that a part of you indeed does not want to let go of them even if they are harmful and useless.
practice being thankful for everything, watch your life change for the better more and more thankfulness for everything every day...amazing how this takes you to the next step of consciousness.
This happened to me. Continue his lessons in A New Earth.
You are a blessing 🌹❤ thank you
Beauty is energy it’s an illusion
He can do hypnosis tapes. He is slow and soft for that kind.
ve not still found The reason behind being anxious in chaos my awareness is there but the more i want to be deeper aware
Fear is there war between fear and consciousness
I think he's 69 years old. I thought he's 40
Maybe because he dyes his hair..lol ;)
so wonderful
dziekuje bardzo za wszystko...pozdrowienia z Polski
I find balance between ego (representing perfection and control) and presence/inner self (representing isness and acceptance), to be very difficult to achieve. Part of me wants to root out ego from my life entirely, but that in of itself is not acceptance of what is 😊 In the example of the makeup; if you do choose to wear it to look more youthful, you are in fact not accepting what is, but on the other hand, you go crazy if you overthink everything. And then you accept the imperfection of the human condition, the difficulty to balance all moving parts. But how then does enlightenment fit in to all of this if we allow ourselves mindfully, to be controlled by the ego?
I love this man
He is so beautiful
Thank you! Thank you! Thank you!🙏
Thank you for your insights and wonderful teachings. Always a pleasure to be present with you in this now moment.
I'm not sure what I should do with myself.I really feel bad about myself.
William Atkinson ya, me too sometimes.
Think why u feel bad about yourself.Is it because u compare urself with others or is it becuase u feel guilty .Dont feel guilty,don’t blame others just accept the fact and try to be responsible for ur actions from now onwards .
As Byron Katie would say : "But other than your thinking and believing you are ok,aren't you?" Every stressful thought is a FALSE thought!
Keep meditating and listening to talks until you are awakened. Once awakened, the power of presence will carry you through to full enlightenment. What you are experiencing is the pain of living within the ego, experiencing the conflict of this constricted state as it fights against being awakened by presence. Some excellent teachers to look into are: Dr. Jon Kabat-Zinn, Joseph Goldstein, Jack Kornfield, Ram Dass, Adyashanti, and Alan Watts. They all have excellent audiobooks on Audible.com. Have faith - you have found the right path, but now you need to walk it all the way to freedom. I wish you well.
This is a great talk, but the title should be changed. This is more about how to accept getting older, rather than about being ugly or self-criticism of one's appearance.
Yu Na Lee it tends to mean the same thing in the West
"It wasn´t the inner emanation of presence that was comming through" XD XD XD jajajajjajajajaja
Danke✨☀️✨🙏🏼✨☀️✨
Love and thanks☺
Time is just on the surface of things but not in the depths love yourself?
thank you !!!
Thanks
You’ll never quite overcome self criticism of your appearance because others have criticized your appearance ever since you were a child
Lovely
Para qué llevas reloj? Es imposible mirar un reloj y no pensar en el futuro
Me gustariauna traduccion al español
Nice!
Some nice long silences there!
Please someone tell me how to participate in theses teachings n person?
Eckhart, what do you say when people talking business say it is what it is? Do you think that business people understand what is is? :)
Put the speed on 1.25 or even 1.5
...thats exactly what Tollle would recommend ;-)))
I think every gab in speaking and his slow speaking is that what makes the depth. It touches my soul. I would suggest to slow it on 0.75 and be present with yourself. Thank you. Best wishes . Paul
The point is to experience the silence too. The space between the words.
Is there a thought, which is nót measurment?
Valuedating, weighing, analyse and judging..allways?
In expectation of..the result for me..?
So, thats why there is no thought beeing active in now..
:-)
Thanks for sharing this.
♡♡ powerful
The sexiest part of a man is his brain...
So would you think Eckhart is kinda sexy?
Yes, agree
Then why isn't it the same for a woman?
Very funny too.
Greatt
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Elkhart pls explain what is Third eye .
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From which planet is he xd The wisdom he has and sense of humor on this issue...
9:56 Lol.. :D
Wow
Is a side effect of being enlightened blinking a million times a second?!?!
Confused Fox blinking for every dollar he earns for the speech
Too much light
no thats just eckhart
Stage lights
People get old and then disappear.. and then the mind does.
I think he blinks a lot because he is thinking so hard....
As much as I want to hear this I just can’t listen that slow.....
:)
Who wants to play the eckart tolle drinking game where everytime he blinks you have to take a shot?
Moe Diggz stage lights do that
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I so distracted by his eyes. He blinks so much. Love his talks though
Okay these examples were weird...😳