One way to avoid that might be by telling people you just want them to listen and not comment or advise. Another maybe, to just not tell people your business. Once you do, they'll feel like they have a right to comment on your situation.
Idk about this. A conversation is a two way street. If something comes up, people will express opinions. It is your job to set boundaries around that stuff...
I just feel like “nobody asked” kinda attitude shows close mindedness, and not wanting to hear others opinions. Like nobody really wants/or likes to be told when they’re wrong. But if you don’t speak up they are gonna just carry on. I do think it’s important for someone to know when they’re wrong. People need to be put in their place. So saying “no one asked” is kinda automatically dismissing them just because you don’t wanna hear it.
The trick to not being rude is to know who you’re talking to, that’s it. It’s different for everyone, if you’re not sure go with the nicest way possible.
That’s true. Cause if you’re a real friend I don’t care how you tell me that my breath stinks. Just tell me lol. Ain’t no one need to tell me I’m looking fat though. I already know that haha.
@@ryanlaustsen people are not ready for that. Everyone has been raised with lies, so when someone tell them the truth, they tell stuff like "you can be honest but be kind too!". People just need to hear the damn truth and if you're hurt about it welcome to life, Im not your mother to tell you that you're the best person in the world.
I agree with Adrienne. I think we have a serious problem with throwing our "wisdom" onto others. If all you're getting out of it is making yourself feel better and your "friend" smaller, that's not keeping it 💯, it's being selfish.
MissRight91 I can’t stand ppl like that. Always forcing others to hear their opinions just bcuz they claim “they say it how is it at all times.” Like, not everything needs to be said.
Being honest in itself is just telling the truth , being genuine & sincere/authentic ; being rude is when someone is telling the truth but demeaning someone & destroying the person’s confidence & feelings in the name of honesty . There is a way to be honest without being derogatory , call it sugar coating or whatever you want but tough love isn’t for everyone 🤷🏽♀️
If tough love isn't for them that's fine as long as you're transparent & honest with them while being assertive & kind at the same time there isn't really a problem🤷♀️
In my opinion... like Tam said “ It’s not what you say , it’s how you say it “ so as long as the delivery is said without being sugarcoated or being harsh and just being 100% honest and coming from a place of love then there shouldn’t be a problem !
well some people are just too sensitive. if it's not the exact answer they wnna hear they get upset But i agree with everyone to an extent. i agree when adrienne said dont be giving out honesty nobody asked for. But instead i would say "go ahead. learn from how they react." LoL is that too harsh?
Correct!!! WOW!! It been a long time since I watch this! I totally agree with Adrienne. There are sometimes you need to be stay true about yourself and tell it! Yeah, Like WHO ARE YOU!?! Right now, I don't like our country because all the hatred, racist and religion. We need to treat others like how we get treated. It's always someone gets hurt quickly when they don't find JESUS! It doesn't matter if you gay, lesbian, or straight, I RESPECT THAT. The fact I want to be treated. That's ALL! AMEN TO HEAVEN!
Mari Amor naaaw it ain't got nothing to do with ppl being too sensitive. Y'all just be using that as an excuse to be rude. Period. How would u like it if someone just walked up to you and said something like "idk why u chose this hairstyle, you too bald headed for that." Or if someone was overweight, somebody come up to them like "dang when u gone work out, u fat as hell." That's extremely rude, and u know it. U know good and well if someone came at u like that, you'd be ready to go off on them. So stop acting like it's basically no such thing as someone being rude to someone else.
Being African I’ve built a thick skin cause it seems like unsolicited advise and commentary comes at you from every angle 🤷♀️ personally I lead with kindness.
Lmaooo same for the West Indian/Caribbean folks 😂 Reading these replies from Africans about a variety of things, I've realised that we black folks over here has not changed much from before we unwillingly boarded those ships lol
I know right 🤦♀️ that’s why we have a thick skin to the point that I don’t understand why are so sensitive. African don’t tell you what you want hear but what you have to hear. Straightforward game is too strong on every level of the age spectrum.
Ooo baby who are you tellin! They love giving out their opinions and you’ve just gotta handle it. Especially being Afro Arab, you’ve gotta deal with the way both sides give their opinion. It really does thicken your skin and let you not let things get to you.
I think it depends on who you are talking to.. I could tell my sister “oh girl, ur breath smells like poison” and she won’t get offended but i wouldn’t say that to a person I’m not close to..
Dina Kay I agree. My friends and I make racist jokes to each other all the time and we find it funny not offensive but if someone else that I’m not close to was making the same exact racist joke to me, I would be offended.
I also think people don't really understand what they mean when they say "I'll tell you the truth, I'll say it like it is". It's their own perception of what "truth" is, it doesn't mean that a situation is actually how they perceive it to be.
I love what Adriene said because I have a friend that I had to check.So don't tell me about my hair, clothes or anything else if I don't ask this is rude. I see flaws on all people everyday but I don't say anything because my grandmother taught me manners!
LOL! I've definitely had a jealous "friend" that would make rude comments especially about my appearance and then turn around and say, "do you want me to lie? i'm just being honest". I'm a million times prettier and have better style than her but she would take even opportunity to try to put me down.
My sister-in-law is like this so much! I love her to bits but she always being “honest” when really she’s just being mean. A statement I love is “honesty without tact is cruelty”
@@avafreeman336 I like adrienne. Just her facial expressions sometimes 🙄 and the fact that she's always talking as if marriage is superior than dating 🙄🙄
@@ThatZeeZee Just because she has a different opinion on something that doesn't effect your life? If she likes marriage, great. When she's 70 years old, and dont have looks or a body anymore, she'll have someone, and children. The person that just dates is going to find out that men aren't going around at 55 trying to pick up anyone than can because they lose their libido and stop caring as much ( definitely not at all ) but as much as they did about it in their 20s 30s and 40s. Rich and powerful women can tell ladies ho they go to paris one day and then sailing the next and they're happy they never had kids or got married but what about the average woman?And I mean this for men too...you get to 55 and you get lonely.
@@ogenesis its great that adrienne has found her match. We are all happy for her and wish her well in marriage. But a married person is not superior than a person that is simply in a marriage-less relationship or a person that is still trying to find their special someone. Some people dont need to find that special someone. They may be a person who has multiple lovers or simply aren't aiming for that lifestyle. Some woman stay single by choice and have children through sperm donors. Not everyone is here looking for marriage so its not the ideal realtionship "goals" as people would say.
jeannie has a wealth of fashion knowledge! I remember watching her on "how do I look?"! glad you all have an understanding of each other + healthy relationships.
Honestly there is no reason to TELL someone if you don’t like them. That is rude... what purpose does that serve? Unsolicited is rude. Kind honesty is okay when asked... however it should be kept NICE. People are losing all respect and kindness in this society, and calling it “Honesty”.
My fiance is brutally honest and his family is the same way so I've developed a thick skin but I tell him all the time to be honest but say it with compassion. Like Tamera says it's not what you say but how you say it. He's gotten better and now he's passing it on to his family so they don't come off as rude or arrogant.
I think it’s important to speak the truth in love. Even if someone asks your opinion it’s important to give an answer in a way that is productive and can be received.
Honesty with out tact is cruelty. You need to approach others with compassion and respect. As long as you do that and you take appropriate steps to consider how your words will affect them you should be fine.
It depends on one's relationship with the other person and also tone of voice. Any who. Lets all be thankful for the life that was given to us. We are all beautiful souls. ❤. Sending love to everyone that sees this.
Yeni Taylor exactly. Some people understand where you coming from. But there are those who are sensitive & only what to hear what they think you’ll say.
Yeni Taylor yep I completely agree and I also think sometimes, depending on what you’re saying to a person, you are going to hurt their feelings regardless. Like if you break up with someone, there is no way to avoid hurting their feelings.
Yes!!! You hit it on the head.If you’re saying something that the person doesn’t particularly want to hear they are gonna take it as if you’re being rude anyway.Because truthfulness is not something that many can handle.
TRUTH!!! It's all about how you are feeling towards that person overall or that day. A person can say a truth as sweet as pie but if you're not feeling them then it will be the worse thing a person could say to you. Most times, if we are honest people don't walk around "telling it like it is", it's either nice or nice nasty and if it's nice nasty they are being messy or trying to go over your head trying to talk about you. So that whole "It's not what you say, it's how you say it" may apply sometimes but not most of the time.
This happens. My biggest issue would be broadcasting your "honesty" to the entire room when in reality it wasn't nobodys business to begin with. You got something to say to me when i'm doing nothing to affect, interact with, or disturb the public, then be somebody i know 'personally', otherwise it's disrespectful and we got us an issue bby.
How I say it depends on who I'm saying it to. If it's people close to me I'm usually brutally honest cos they're same with me but if it's someone I'm not close to then I try to be tactful or sometimes I don't even say anything at all
Bottom line: you aren’t important to me. Your thoughts your feelings your ‘advice’ are by extension, NOT important to me. I’ve got plenty of people to turn to. WHO ARE YOUUUU? That said, IF you ask, accept the answer whatever it is.
I think it's all in the framing. If you want to be honest, you have to be honest with yourself first. Keep the onus on yourself if you're the one who has a problem with it and don't make people feel bad about problems that YOU have with them.
Be honest with me but not disrespectful, it's a thin but prominent line, I can't take sugarcoating, I love genuine folks who truly care about ppl around them and won't hold back on being their genuine selves.As A would say love me the way my mom loves me
I was just going to say what Tam said, “It’s not what you say but how you say it” that’s my position on this I agree with Adrienne as well! That’s just like I’ve had people who say I need to eat more. I’m like first of all you don’t know me at all, second I didn’t ask for your opinion, and third I do eat, thank you very much!
Being asked is impotant... and then, how Jeannie deals with it is geat! Like, to bring it back to what's most important: are you comfortable? Love her for that. And then, frankly, sometimes you DON'T really wanna loose weight, you just wanna look more.. snatched, you know? And that's where it IS about what looks flattering!!! And having a Jeannie to show you little tricks? Priceless! Love Adrienne's point, too... and her look! Girl!
To Tamera’s point, how you say it matters. But to emphasize on Adriane’s statement, whether your statement is considered rude or honest depending on the perspective of the person receiving the information. It’s all about perspective.
Adrienne’s comments really hit home cause I feel like I tell people how I feel rather they asked me or not. Never in a mean way but still the person might not want to hear it
Honestly it’s all about that person’s mindset because if I’m in a really bad mood and someone says something to me I’ll take it as a negative let’s be real we all have those days. Some people find some type of way to turn a little comment into something it wasn’t meant to be. There are people that legit think everyone is out for them therefore any comment you make towards that person they view is it a “threat”.
So true. I get that with customers at work all the time to the point I barely say a word to them anymore. Folks are so entitled and feel you should bend over backwards for them and when you don’t, then you’re rude by what you said or how you said it or how you looked at them. I can never be fake with people and some people don’t like that.
I get what Adrienne was saying but honestly I’m the type of person even if you’re a stranger tell me what’s up if i got something on my face if my hair is messed up tell me sometimes i be so caught up that i might skip a step lol i like honest people it allows me to be able to compare that to what i might already think
Sherae Guerrero These celebrities actually wear multiple types of foundation from time to time. I noticed on this day that her foundation looks different from some other days. Whatever she is using she should keep using because her skin looks amazing.
But sometimes if you cant say something nice, dont say it 🤷🏼♀️ only say thinks if you believe it will help the person. And ignore people who hurt you its the best 🤷🏼♀️ dint give them power 😌
It’s the way you say it 💯 and also your intent behind it. Although, intent is subjective unless the one communicating verbally tells you their intent. Intent otherwise in our own interpretation of the situation.
I agree with Adrienne the most although all of them brought fourth a good point. I've met people who brags to the stars and moon how real they are, and how they are not fake, when all they are is bitchy and rude. It's just an excuse to be mean and demeaning. That's when I know people who brag about being the most real are normally the most fake one that you should keep an eye for. Because Real people are humble, they don't brag their good qualities. Real are not when you lists others people's faults A-Z, real is when you can admit to other people about your own fault. This is the life lesson that I would tell my younger self. Don't be naive and let your guard down to people who claims to be so mighty honest and real. Trust me, when it comes to things that will bring them to a disadvantage, they become real silent and all of a sudden fake. But when they know you are introverted and non confrontational, they talk smack about you to a crowd just to feel they are more above then you.
Brutally honest approaches the subject with the intent to be helpful and constructive while still keeping in mind the kind of reaction that could form from hearing the truth. Being blatantly rude and excusing it with being brutally honest is often unwarranted, throwing around insults with a disregard for how the other person will take the news, and gaslighting the other person into thinking their reaction is sensitive. You can be honest while still being mindful.
I think that it depends on the person this where the formal and informal things come into play. It you know someone really well and your close then you can say what you want and usually they won't get offended but if you don't know someone well or at all keep your thoughts to yourself.
I give my opinion when it’s asked. I am a brutally honest person, I will not sugar coat things if you ask. I do say it in a respectful way & if you still get butt hurt that’s on you. I will not be soft for anyone other then my cat.
Girls Vents no I won’t. Why would I choose to be straightforward with someone but don’t want that back in return. Don’t confuse brutal honesty with rudeness.
Dr. Periwinkle Hurt someone’s feelings for being honest when asked a question? How. If you know you are sensitive don’t ask. Not everyone will tell you what you want to hear. That’s your problem.
T B don’t confuse “brutal honesty” with rudeness. Keep in mind there are people who want you to say what they’re thinking, so if that doesn’t happen they feel like their being “attacked”.
I mean I rather have an honest person tell me if my breath stinks or if I look big in my clothes just don’t say it in a rude way.. but I would def respect the honesty cause you don’t want me out here lookin like a fool.
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Being honest is telling people what u think when they ask. Being rude is giving ur two cents when noone asked.
Whit K I totally agree ✌️
Well said!
Yesssssss.
Thank youu!
Well put!!!! 👏🏼👏🏼
Pet peeve: unsolicited opinions/ advice. If I ain’t ask, keep it to yourself.
Family members favorite thing to do.
One way to avoid that might be by telling people you just want them to listen and not comment or advise. Another maybe, to just not tell people your business. Once you do, they'll feel like they have a right to comment on your situation.
But let s say you have food in your teeth you would want your girl tell you right it's called looking out for you
Idk about this. A conversation is a two way street. If something comes up, people will express opinions. It is your job to set boundaries around that stuff...
I just feel like “nobody asked” kinda attitude shows close mindedness, and not wanting to hear others opinions. Like nobody really wants/or likes to be told when they’re wrong. But if you don’t speak up they are gonna just carry on. I do think it’s important for someone to know when they’re wrong. People need to be put in their place. So saying “no one asked” is kinda automatically dismissing them just because you don’t wanna hear it.
Adrienne is right, if nobody asked for your opinion, keep it to yourself. And if you don't be prepared for the backlash.
The trick to not being rude is to know who you’re talking to, that’s it. It’s different for everyone, if you’re not sure go with the nicest way possible.
Brianna Figueroa well said!
That’s true. Cause if you’re a real friend I don’t care how you tell me that my breath stinks. Just tell me lol. Ain’t no one need to tell me I’m looking fat though. I already know that haha.
Very true
Wrong. The trick is to not care who it is your talking too. Just say it. Don't sugar code it.
@@ryanlaustsen people are not ready for that. Everyone has been raised with lies, so when someone tell them the truth, they tell stuff like "you can be honest but be kind too!".
People just need to hear the damn truth and if you're hurt about it welcome to life, Im not your mother to tell you that you're the best person in the world.
I hate when people ASK for honesty then get mad when you give it to them 🙄🤦🏽♀️
Sac_Girl That’s why I’m not always honest, and they think I’m shy.
Yes. I hate when that happens. Then I'll be like, why did you ask
I agree with Adrienne. I think we have a serious problem with throwing our "wisdom" onto others. If all you're getting out of it is making yourself feel better and your "friend" smaller, that's not keeping it 💯, it's being selfish.
MissRight91 I can’t stand ppl like that. Always forcing others to hear their opinions just bcuz they claim “they say it how is it at all times.” Like, not everything needs to be said.
Adrienne does it on the show ALL the time
Ava Freeman but she does in a loving way, not a rude way.
I don't need to be asked to have my opinion
Let people be themself, there’s nothing wrong with that, everyone needs self love.
It's the intent. Honesty is out of love and consideration. The intent of being rude is just to upset someone in some way.
I heard this quote once and it has stuck with me since, "Honesty without tact is cruelty."
Damn, that's good
Being honest in itself is just telling the truth , being genuine & sincere/authentic ; being rude is when someone is telling the truth but demeaning someone & destroying the person’s confidence & feelings in the name of honesty . There is a way to be honest without being derogatory , call it sugar coating or whatever you want but tough love isn’t for everyone 🤷🏽♀️
Amen
If tough love isn't for them that's fine as long as you're transparent & honest with them while being assertive & kind at the same time there isn't really a problem🤷♀️
yesssss Adrienne !!! aint no one care what you think unless I ask sis !!!!
In my opinion... like Tam said “ It’s not what you say , it’s how you say it “ so as long as the delivery is said without being sugarcoated or being harsh and just being 100% honest and coming from a place of love then there shouldn’t be a problem !
well some people are just too sensitive. if it's not the exact answer they wnna hear they get upset
But i agree with everyone to an extent. i agree when adrienne said dont be giving out honesty nobody asked for. But instead i would say "go ahead. learn from how they react."
LoL is that too harsh?
Correct!!! WOW!! It been a long time since I watch this! I totally agree with Adrienne. There are sometimes you need to be stay true about yourself and tell it! Yeah, Like WHO ARE YOU!?! Right now, I don't like our country because all the hatred, racist and religion. We need to treat others like how we get treated. It's always someone gets hurt quickly when they don't find JESUS! It doesn't matter if you gay, lesbian, or straight, I RESPECT THAT. The fact I want to be treated. That's ALL! AMEN TO HEAVEN!
Mari Amor naaaw it ain't got nothing to do with ppl being too sensitive. Y'all just be using that as an excuse to be rude. Period. How would u like it if someone just walked up to you and said something like "idk why u chose this hairstyle, you too bald headed for that." Or if someone was overweight, somebody come up to them like "dang when u gone work out, u fat as hell." That's extremely rude, and u know it. U know good and well if someone came at u like that, you'd be ready to go off on them. So stop acting like it's basically no such thing as someone being rude to someone else.
@@GamelaStone- RIGHT!
Being African I’ve built a thick skin cause it seems like unsolicited advise and commentary comes at you from every angle 🤷♀️ personally I lead with kindness.
Lmaooo same for the West Indian/Caribbean folks 😂 Reading these replies from Africans about a variety of things, I've realised that we black folks over here has not changed much from before we unwillingly boarded those ships lol
I know right 🤦♀️ that’s why we have a thick skin to the point that I don’t understand why are so sensitive. African don’t tell you what you want hear but what you have to hear. Straightforward game is too strong on every level of the age spectrum.
ABSOLUTELY! but I don’t have a thick skin
BLack ppl in general. Lol
Ooo baby who are you tellin! They love giving out their opinions and you’ve just gotta handle it. Especially being Afro Arab, you’ve gotta deal with the way both sides give their opinion. It really does thicken your skin and let you not let things get to you.
I grew up with WAAAAAY too many girls that always thought they were being "honest" when really they were rude. As the way Adrienne described.
I think it depends on who you are talking to.. I could tell my sister “oh girl, ur breath smells like poison” and she won’t get offended but i wouldn’t say that to a person I’m not close to..
Poison? Lmaoooo. Idk why but that took me OUT 🤣🤣🤣
Aaliyah Espinoza-Lewis Hahahaha 😂😂😂
Dina Kay I agree. My friends and I make racist jokes to each other all the time and we find it funny not offensive but if someone else that I’m not close to was making the same exact racist joke to me, I would be offended.
Jax Diesel you and your friends are sick for making ‘racist jokes’
Mic M seriously
I also think people don't really understand what they mean when they say "I'll tell you the truth, I'll say it like it is". It's their own perception of what "truth" is, it doesn't mean that a situation is actually how they perceive it to be.
First time getting here when there's zero views. I love the Real. It's refreshing to keep things REAL.
"is not what you say, is how say it" this is something that you should ALWAYS remember. Thanks Tam!! 💕👏👏
Tell them Addriene!!!!!You betta Preachhhhh 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾👌🏽👍🏽
Vera Collins 😆👍
Preach Adrienne!!! PREACH 👏🏼👏🏼
Being honest without being rude is telling the truth while being mindful of who you are talking to and your relationship with that person.
Tamera is Gorgeous and hair is glowing
It’s called being tactful. Learning the difference between rude and real takes some effort as well as being able to be introspective
Adrienne FOR REALS!! people that are walking around telling people “the truth” are the most self conscious people I know...
Darlenne FACTS!! 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽..that's why they're so rude to others, bc they're insecure, and try to make themselves feel better about themselves.
Being honest, tactful, and kind is the way to go. There’s just too much rudeness in the world already. ❤️
Amen ❤
I love what Adriene said because I have a friend that I had to check.So don't tell me about my hair, clothes or anything else if I don't ask this is rude. I see flaws on all people everyday but I don't say anything because my grandmother taught me manners!
LOL! I've definitely had a jealous "friend" that would make rude comments especially about my appearance and then turn around and say, "do you want me to lie? i'm just being honest". I'm a million times prettier and have better style than her but she would take even opportunity to try to put me down.
Been there, people like are just evil and not worth your time
Yes, preach 👏🙌🙌 !!!! People need to make the difference of being honest and being rude !! So happy with this subject !!!
My sister-in-law is like this so much! I love her to bits but she always being “honest” when really she’s just being mean. A statement I love is “honesty without tact is cruelty”
I feel that's how Tamar was. I know Adrienne was'nt talking about Tamar but that impression she did sure reminded me of her. She. had. to. go!
Adrienne also needs to go, with all respect
@@avafreeman336 I like adrienne. Just her facial expressions sometimes 🙄 and the fact that she's always talking as if marriage is superior than dating 🙄🙄
@@ThatZeeZee Just because she has a different opinion on something that doesn't effect your life? If she likes marriage, great. When she's 70 years old, and dont have looks or a body anymore, she'll have someone, and children. The person that just dates is going to find out that men aren't going around at 55 trying to pick up anyone than can because they lose their libido and stop caring as much ( definitely not at all ) but as much as they did about it in their 20s 30s and 40s. Rich and powerful women can tell ladies ho they go to paris one day and then sailing the next and they're happy they never had kids or got married but what about the average woman?And I mean this for men too...you get to 55 and you get lonely.
ogenesis - wow, you got me thinking
@@ogenesis its great that adrienne has found her match. We are all happy for her and wish her well in marriage. But a married person is not superior than a person that is simply in a marriage-less relationship or a person that is still trying to find their special someone. Some people dont need to find that special someone. They may be a person who has multiple lovers or simply aren't aiming for that lifestyle. Some woman stay single by choice and have children through sperm donors. Not everyone is here looking for marriage so its not the ideal realtionship "goals" as people would say.
jeannie has a wealth of fashion knowledge! I remember watching her on "how do I look?"! glad you all have an understanding of each other + healthy relationships.
Honestly there is no reason to TELL someone if you don’t like them. That is rude... what purpose does that serve?
Unsolicited is rude. Kind honesty is okay when asked... however it should be kept NICE. People are losing all respect and kindness in this society, and calling it “Honesty”.
My fiance is brutally honest and his family is the same way so I've developed a thick skin but I tell him all the time to be honest but say it with compassion. Like Tamera says it's not what you say but how you say it. He's gotten better and now he's passing it on to his family so they don't come off as rude or arrogant.
I agree with Adrienne...Some ppl dont need to walk around thinking their opinion matters so much that they need to tell everyone ...shut the heck up!
True Tamera!!! 'it's not what you say, it's how you say it'!
I think it’s important to speak the truth in love. Even if someone asks your opinion it’s important to give an answer in a way that is productive and can be received.
Honesty with out tact is cruelty. You need to approach others with compassion and respect. As long as you do that and you take appropriate steps to consider how your words will affect them you should be fine.
Being honest is saying how you feel in a way that acknowledges how the other person feels. Also knowing WHEN to express your opinion.
I only give my opinion when ASKED! Other than that, it's not a concern of mines.
"WHO R YOU" lmaooooo Adrienne
It depends on one's relationship with the other person and also tone of voice. Any who. Lets all be thankful for the life that was given to us. We are all beautiful souls. ❤. Sending love to everyone that sees this.
There’s no difference. People will take it how ever they fancy. If they wanna be offended that day, they’ll be offended regardless of how you said it.
Yeni Taylor exactly. Some people understand where you coming from. But there are those who are sensitive & only what to hear what they think you’ll say.
Millie smth and that’s on periodtttt
Yeni Taylor yep I completely agree and I also think sometimes, depending on what you’re saying to a person, you are going to hurt their feelings regardless. Like if you break up with someone, there is no way to avoid hurting their feelings.
Yes!!! You hit it on the head.If you’re saying something that the person doesn’t particularly want to hear they are gonna take it as if you’re being rude anyway.Because truthfulness is not something that many can handle.
TRUTH!!! It's all about how you are feeling towards that person overall or that day. A person can say a truth as sweet as pie but if you're not feeling them then it will be the worse thing a person could say to you. Most times, if we are honest people don't walk around "telling it like it is", it's either nice or nice nasty and if it's nice nasty they are being messy or trying to go over your head trying to talk about you. So that whole "It's not what you say, it's how you say it" may apply sometimes but not most of the time.
See this really did teach me a lot right now. Adrienne said my personality fully. I really need to work on it.
This happens. My biggest issue would be broadcasting your "honesty" to the entire room when in reality it wasn't nobodys business to begin with. You got something to say to me when i'm doing nothing to affect, interact with, or disturb the public, then be somebody i know 'personally', otherwise it's disrespectful and we got us an issue bby.
How I say it depends on who I'm saying it to. If it's people close to me I'm usually brutally honest cos they're same with me but if it's someone I'm not close to then I try to be tactful or sometimes I don't even say anything at all
Bottom line: you aren’t important to me. Your thoughts your feelings your ‘advice’ are by extension, NOT important to me.
I’ve got plenty of people to turn to.
WHO ARE YOUUUU?
That said, IF you ask, accept the answer whatever it is.
I think so people just enjoy hearing themselves talk all the time. It’s a deflection of the truth with themselves. Nobody with self just others
I think it's all in the framing. If you want to be honest, you have to be honest with yourself first. Keep the onus on yourself if you're the one who has a problem with it and don't make people feel bad about problems that YOU have with them.
Be honest with me but not disrespectful, it's a thin but prominent line, I can't take sugarcoating, I love genuine folks who truly care about ppl around them and won't hold back on being their genuine selves.As A would say love me the way my mom loves me
I was just going to say what Tam said, “It’s not what you say but how you say it” that’s my position on this
I agree with Adrienne as well! That’s just like I’ve had people who say I need to eat more. I’m like first of all you don’t know me at all, second I didn’t ask for your opinion, and third I do eat, thank you very much!
Totally agree with you Adrienne👍👍👍👍👍Much love from Kingston Jamaica 🇯🇲🇯🇲🇯🇲🇯🇲🇯🇲🙏🙏🙏🙏
Sometimes it can be both you can be honest and rude at the same time or you can be just rude or just honest.
Yass Adrienne! That is so on point. And totally agreed with Tam
This is so true im learning to keep my opinion to myself.
Adrienne I love your makeup! Blending on point! Lol
TAMERAAA IS ALWAYS RIGHTT BIG FACTS 😂😂😂💯💯💯
Ohhhh Adrienne you’re my kind of soul . Love you 😍
1:37....... Didn’t Adrienne just remind you of someone😅.....#if you know give a👍🏾
Tamar! Lol
Josephine Idowu oooooouuuu sis I watched again and peeped it lol
Being asked is impotant... and then, how Jeannie deals with it is geat! Like, to bring it back to what's most important: are you comfortable? Love her for that. And then, frankly, sometimes you DON'T really wanna loose weight, you just wanna look more.. snatched, you know? And that's where it IS about what looks flattering!!! And having a Jeannie to show you little tricks? Priceless! Love Adrienne's point, too... and her look! Girl!
The problem I have with blunt people. Is that when you do it to them they get offended. Or upset when people don't want them around.
To Tamera’s point, how you say it matters. But to emphasize on Adriane’s statement, whether your statement is considered rude or honest depending on the perspective of the person receiving the information. It’s all about perspective.
Adrienne’s comments really hit home cause I feel like I tell people how I feel rather they asked me or not. Never in a mean way but still the person might not want to hear it
Honestly it’s all about that person’s mindset because if I’m in a really bad mood and someone says something to me I’ll take it as a negative let’s be real we all have those days. Some people find some type of way to turn a little comment into something it wasn’t meant to be. There are people that legit think everyone is out for them therefore any comment you make towards that person they view is it a “threat”.
RIGHT! ALWAYS THE DAMN TIME!!!
So true. I get that with customers at work all the time to the point I barely say a word to them anymore. Folks are so entitled and feel you should bend over backwards for them and when you don’t, then you’re rude by what you said or how you said it or how you looked at them. I can never be fake with people and some people don’t like that.
I get what Adrienne was saying but honestly I’m the type of person even if you’re a stranger tell me what’s up if i got something on my face if my hair is messed up tell me sometimes i be so caught up that i might skip a step lol i like honest people it allows me to be able to compare that to what i might already think
Adrienne looks stunning. I need to know what foundation she used.
Yasmeen k she does say what she uses on her channel on her makeup routine video
Sherae Guerrero
These celebrities actually wear multiple types of foundation from time to time. I noticed on this day that her foundation looks different from some other days. Whatever she is using she should keep using because her skin looks amazing.
But sometimes if you cant say something nice, dont say it 🤷🏼♀️ only say thinks if you believe it will help the person. And ignore people who hurt you its the best 🤷🏼♀️ dint give them power 😌
I grew up knowing you can say ANYTHING as long as you do it in a kind way
It’s the way you say it 💯 and also your intent behind it. Although, intent is subjective unless the one communicating verbally tells you their intent. Intent otherwise in our own interpretation of the situation.
I agree with Adrienne the most although all of them brought fourth a good point.
I've met people who brags to the stars and moon how real they are, and how they are not fake, when all they are is bitchy and rude. It's just an excuse to be mean and demeaning.
That's when I know people who brag about being the most real are normally the most fake one that you should keep an eye for. Because Real people are humble, they don't brag their good qualities. Real are not when you lists others people's faults A-Z, real is when you can admit to other people about your own fault.
This is the life lesson that I would tell my younger self. Don't be naive and let your guard down to people who claims to be so mighty honest and real. Trust me, when it comes to things that will bring them to a disadvantage, they become real silent and all of a sudden fake. But when they know you are introverted and non confrontational, they talk smack about you to a crowd just to feel they are more above then you.
Im like Loni, I dont want anyone tell me nothing lol🤣
Thank you Amen
Brutally honest approaches the subject with the intent to be helpful and constructive while still keeping in mind the kind of reaction that could form from hearing the truth. Being blatantly rude and excusing it with being brutally honest is often unwarranted, throwing around insults with a disregard for how the other person will take the news, and gaslighting the other person into thinking their reaction is sensitive. You can be honest while still being mindful.
You had me at the title 👏🏾
I think that it depends on the person this where the formal and informal things come into play. It you know someone really well and your close then you can say what you want and usually they won't get offended but if you don't know someone well or at all keep your thoughts to yourself.
Bless Jeannie, Jeannie is a friend I need
That "Yeah. Ya do." Reminded me of sister sister😂😂😂
I give my opinion when it’s asked. I am a brutally honest person, I will not sugar coat things if you ask. I do say it in a respectful way & if you still get butt hurt that’s on you. I will not be soft for anyone other then my cat.
Then you will feel hurt when someone is brutal to you, just be kind and choose your words wisely. You don't need to be brutal to be honest.
Girls Vents no I won’t. Why would I choose to be straightforward with someone but don’t want that back in return. Don’t confuse brutal honesty with rudeness.
Dr. Periwinkle Hurt someone’s feelings for being honest when asked a question? How. If you know you are sensitive don’t ask. Not everyone will tell you what you want to hear. That’s your problem.
T B don’t confuse “brutal honesty” with rudeness. Keep in mind there are people who want you to say what they’re thinking, so if that doesn’t happen they feel like their being “attacked”.
I agree with Adrienne and Tamera I'm definitely Tamara! ❤
You guys are hilarious!! Love this!
I didn't even watch it yet and I already know tamera will say, or someone will quote her, "its not what you say its how you say it"
“Yea you do” LMAOOOOOOO TAMERA
Tamera’s hair looks bomb!
Loni loves to talk about and make jokes about other people, but definitely doesn't like thrown back on her. That's so weird to me.
Well... like they say; if you can't take the heat, then get out of the kitchen. And, don't write a check that your tush can't cash.
I was thinking of the example of the breath & tamera deadass said it omg
I think that it all really plays within the tone in which you say it.
Tamera’s hair is so pretty omg I’m in love ❤️
Tamera looks sooooooooo stunning in that wine color and that hair style 😍😍😍😍😍😍
This segment gave me life ! 😂😍
Jeez I don't ever wanna hurt people's feelings so I just start passing gums and tic-tacs around 😂
It's always the people/person that need it that will say "oh no thanks" or "I don't need it"!
@@MyMalachi2010 most of the time my breathe don't stink i just want free gum lol
I loved this segment
They’re all so gorgeous
A is so nice I like her when it comes to topics like this
I mean I rather have an honest person tell me if my breath stinks or if I look big in my clothes just don’t say it in a rude way.. but I would def respect the honesty cause you don’t want me out here lookin like a fool.
THAT is Tameras color! She looks stunning!
Great topic guys!
I needs friends like Jeannie cause I want brutal honesty and tips on how to be better.
Being honest :think before speak.Rude the opposite.
Somebody tell LONI I love her so much I wanna meet her in person 😍😍 I'll give her a Kenyan treat 💞💞
Honesty just means the truth, so if the truth is rude, I should say it.
I have this friend that whenever I am drawing she will point out all of the flaws on it. It makes me so insecure about it.
That's not a friend honey
❤
I think it's appropriate to point something out, for someone to fix if it takes less than five minutes to fix it
Awe, jeannie is so sweet 🥰
I just tell them I don’t like them 🤷🏾♀️ if I’m talking to them and acting like their friend and I KNOW i don’t really like them then I’m fake .