Can You Love Deeply While Holding Trauma ft. Dr. Gabor Maté on Love, Trauma, and Loneliness?

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  • Опубликовано: 27 ноя 2024

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  • @chadmichael_
    @chadmichael_ Год назад +31

    32 year old male here with rheumatoid arthritis. Just finished my CrossFit class and am not on medication. Every workout I get through without pain and inflammation is a victory. Mind body connection is real.

    • @yourinnerchildmatters
      @yourinnerchildmatters  Год назад +5

      thank you for watching and sharing your insights. Hoping and praying for your full recovery, bless you

  • @robynhope219
    @robynhope219 Год назад +29

    Whats so lonely about trauma is that no one understands. Not only are no two traumas the same, ppl differ in how they respond. So many ppl over the yrs have told me to just forget the trauma and focus on the now. There is a great deal of ignorance out there.

    • @yourinnerchildmatters
      @yourinnerchildmatters  Год назад +4

      Trauma is deeply personal and individual to each person. It's painful that some individuals struggle to fully understand its complexity. Your comments highlighted the significance of empathy and understanding. Thank you for sharing your wisdom.

    • @peaceofmindofpeace1650
      @peaceofmindofpeace1650 11 месяцев назад +2

      Yes I often found myself saying out loud "nobody understands me'.
      I tried to find emdr therapy but I'm so scared to be labelled and misinterpreted that I rather stay close to myself, until I find a therapist I will feel safe with.
      I will pay for it myself instead of via insurance bc I don't trust that system (they have to give you a diagnose to get coverage from your insurance).
      Sexual violence emotional abuse and atm in between jobs bc of it all.
      I also start to dislike myself bc I don't want to become that person with her story.
      What I do know is I feel tired and abandoned bc most people don't care.
      My inner critucus: you talk like a victim keep your mouth shut plz.
      That's my inner dialoge 😊
      I am applying for another job atm but I rather stay in my bubble.
      I tell myself it's ok and I will come out of this season.

    • @robynhope219
      @robynhope219 11 месяцев назад

      ​​@@peaceofmindofpeace1650pls connect to a counsellor or other professional to help you. You've got to trust someone or stay stuck. All the best!

    • @user-jn6jm4bb6f
      @user-jn6jm4bb6f 11 месяцев назад +1

      As a person who went through the entire length of the difficult journey to heal the child in me , I am sorry to tell you, but in my opinion you are completely wrong.
      1. All traumas are indeed different, but the result of all of them is the same, self-destruction. both physical and mental.
      why? Because the feeling "you are not worthy", was soaked in the bones of the child inside us.
      2. If you addressed any person, his form of reference will be the way he relates to the pain inside him: "ignore", "get over it" and the like. You need to reach out to people who have already walked the path you are interested in walking. For example, if you are an addict who wants to get off drugs, you will probably turn to people who have gotten off drugs. Only a person who has gone through the journey to the open wound in the soul of the child inside and healed it, can understand, can listen and can help you.
      Only a person who found the wound in the heart of the child inside him, and healed him. Only he can help you.
      True, the road is unbearably difficult and full of mines and demons from outside and inside, but pay attention to the doctor's lectures and podcasts online. It is abundantly clear that he has made this journey and is laying out before everyone how they can do it too, if they wish to....

    • @robynhope219
      @robynhope219 11 месяцев назад

      Luckily, i did not develop any of the symptoms said about trauma. My self esteem is intact, and I never developed addictions of any sort...don't ask me why. Maybe bc my parents never had any, either. I will say, however, more people than not develop self esteem issues, etc...both my parents were brutal and disinterested in me, and i had nowhere to go as a little kid, bc no sibs. The abuse lasted 16 yrs, but I always knew deep down I didn't deserve the treatment I got...that is perhaps why I am not as damaged psychologically as a lot of ppl. However, my body kept score.i now suffer with chronic, debilitating fatigue due to HPA axis dysregulation...NOT FUN!

  • @jamesd1505
    @jamesd1505 10 месяцев назад +5

    I'm indigenous first nation's Mohawk. My people are rapidly disconnecting the more "social media" is wide spread more n more. I hate social media. I try to integrate with my siblings and it's like prying teeth out. Everyone is so busy, yet they're on these dam phones 📱 24/7. I only watch RUclips videos 📹 to learn. My people are dying younger n more frequent. I'm 47. I'm doing my inner work and trying to heal as I suffered trauma, abandonment, neglect and physical abuse. It began affecting my life around 36. This world is too fast pace n go go go. It sucks. We're not machines or designed for this type of living.

  • @deborahtruthseeker112
    @deborahtruthseeker112 Год назад +12

    It sounds like Italian people have it right. There is NOTHING weird about being large family oriented.❤. Sounds healthy.

    • @yourinnerchildmatters
      @yourinnerchildmatters  Год назад +1

      Absolutely! You are completely correct! It's great to see how important family is in Italian society. Large Italian families are admired for their support, affection, and connection. It's a lovely reminder that being family-oriented is not only healthy, but also enhances our lives in a variety of ways. ❤️ Thank you for taking the time to appreciate this lovely piece of Italian culture! 💕🙏✨

    • @shazana2794
      @shazana2794 Год назад +2

      I'm Asian and also have a large family, but they're pretty toxic and not v understanding or supportive.what of you feel you don't fit into your family?

    • @deborahtruthseeker112
      @deborahtruthseeker112 Год назад +2

      @@shazana2794 If they are toxic, then obviously, it is NOT good to live with them. You could be in danger.

  • @zovalentine7305
    @zovalentine7305 10 месяцев назад +3

    Gabor Mate MD PhD ❤

  • @neetaarora7908
    @neetaarora7908 Год назад +11

    Very true, with trauma deep love is possible, but not complete love. Very significant.

    • @yourinnerchildmatters
      @yourinnerchildmatters  Год назад +2

      thank you for watching and thanks for sharing your thoughts, bless you...

  • @Eli_water_lily
    @Eli_water_lily Год назад +2

    Italian here, thanks for sharing this❤️

  • @stephaniefortney22
    @stephaniefortney22 Год назад +2

    Wonderfully Profound… thank you for Articulating and Conveying this so Well.

  • @DONNACEDOHIOK12
    @DONNACEDOHIOK12 Год назад +4

    Thank you for all your videos.

    • @yourinnerchildmatters
      @yourinnerchildmatters  Год назад

      My pleasure!, thanks for always watching. Sending virtual hugs, bless you dear!

  • @amelittaberretta9109
    @amelittaberretta9109 3 месяца назад +1

    broken trusts, ghosting, spooking, etc.,etc.,

  • @mathembibhengu9751
    @mathembibhengu9751 11 месяцев назад +5

    1. She is a people please
    2. She has trouble saying No
    3.She has difficulty being angry in a healthy way
    4.She tended to believe that she was responsible for what people feel and she put other people's ahead of her own.

  • @deborahtruthseeker112
    @deborahtruthseeker112 Год назад +1

    Not only do I have MS, but so does my cousin. We are of German descent.

    • @yourinnerchildmatters
      @yourinnerchildmatters  Год назад +1

      How to let go of our personal identities and feel one with the world🙏✨💖

  • @KellyMartin0902
    @KellyMartin0902 9 месяцев назад +1

    I developed psoriasis but dont think it was from childhood trauma. I was never so much as even yelled at by either of my parents. I was with an abusive husband wirh a controlling mother who tried getting control of me. It was until i left the rash on my foot disappeared, my back pain went away, my anxiety went away. I definitely say its from trauma, but not always childhood

    • @yourinnerchildmatters
      @yourinnerchildmatters  9 месяцев назад

      I'm sorry to hear about your experiences, but I'm glad to hear that your symptoms improved after leaving that toxic environment. It's important to recognize that trauma can come from various sources, not just childhood experiences. Take care of yourself and keep focusing on your healing journey.

  • @amalhassar4175
    @amalhassar4175 Год назад +5

    The female he was talking about and how he describes her, I felt he was talking about me… only child away from cousins my age living in different city… what’s the solution? I have been always struggling with those symptoms!

    • @yourinnerchildmatters
      @yourinnerchildmatters  Год назад +3

      Your comment really resonated to me. It's impressive how the words of another may make us feel understood. You appear to be dealing with a common challenge. Connecting with others who have had similar experiences, whether online or through local groups, may help you find the understanding and support you need. Keep in mind that you are not alone on this path💖 💖 💖

    • @amalhassar4175
      @amalhassar4175 Год назад +1

      @@yourinnerchildmattersthank you ❤

    • @yourinnerchildmatters
      @yourinnerchildmatters  Год назад +1

      @@amalhassar4175 💖💖💖

  • @bethanyhenderson3414
    @bethanyhenderson3414 Год назад +1

    Wow

  • @bethanyhenderson3414
    @bethanyhenderson3414 Год назад +2

    ❤❤❤

  • @robynhope219
    @robynhope219 Год назад +1

    Thinking of Tina here: what's Love got to do with it?

    • @yourinnerchildmatters
      @yourinnerchildmatters  Год назад

      💖 💖 💖

    • @tigreza77
      @tigreza77 Год назад

      So true. Love doesn't cause trauma, it's the absence of Love that does

    • @robynhope219
      @robynhope219 Год назад

      @@tigreza77 in adulthood self love is most important..

  • @karenKristal
    @karenKristal Год назад +3

    who on the planet, doesnt have any trauma?

    • @yourinnerchildmatters
      @yourinnerchildmatters  Год назад +5

      Thank you for taking the time to watch and comment on my RUclips video! While it is uncommon to find anyone on this world who has not experienced some type of trauma, it is important to remember that everyone's life journey is different. Trauma may appear in a variety of ways and impact people differently. Some people may have been fortunate to enjoy relatively trauma-free lives, whereas others may have faced difficulties and hardships. It is important that we approach this topic with empathy, acknowledging that trauma is a common human experience and that those who have experienced it require help and understanding. Let us work together to create a caring environment in which we may all learn and grow.

    • @Shishakind86
      @Shishakind86 Год назад +2

      Possibly a handful of enlightened beings.

    • @wilma8326
      @wilma8326 Год назад +1

      It's not about trauma, it's about the support and connection you get from people that care

    • @KellyMartin0902
      @KellyMartin0902 9 месяцев назад +1

      It's about whether or not you dealt with it and was able to express it or not. If you suppressed it, it will come out physically. It has to come out somehow. Another example was princess Di, she developed bulimia and even admitted that was the only way she could expression it and let her anger out.

  • @jamesd1505
    @jamesd1505 10 месяцев назад +1

    I'm indigenous first nation's Mohawk. My people are rapidly disconnecting the more "social media" is wide spread more n more. I hate social media. I try to integrate with my siblings and it's like prying teeth out. Everyone is so busy, yet they're on these dam phones 📱 24/7. I only watch RUclips videos 📹 to learn. My people are dying younger n more frequent. I'm 47. I'm doing my inner work and trying to heal as I suffered trauma, abandonment, neglect and physical abuse. It began affecting my life around 36. This world is too fast pace n go go go. It sucks. We're not machines or designed for this type of living.

    • @yourinnerchildmatters
      @yourinnerchildmatters  10 месяцев назад +1

      I appreciate you opening up and sharing your story. It takes a lot of courage to confront the traumas and challenges we've faced. Keep doing your inner work and healing, and remember that you're not alone on this journey. It is great that you are using RUclips as a platform for learning and growth.