Every day I try to pay attention to ways that I might be perpetuating the 'strong Black woman' trope. SMH. So many times I've thought "I've got this", but then I find another way that it's seeped into my beliefs and I need to scrape it out. It used to bother me that it felt like I've been constantly finding new ways to heal, but then I had a mindset shift that reminded me - IT'S ALL WORTH IT! This is what is looks like to fight for freedom within myself and it's worth it. If you're fighting for freedom within yourself to release all the trauma that's affected you and you like support, I'd love for you to schedule a 90 minute intensive with me.
I totally get that and I've lived that way for a long time. I can also say my independence has made me lonely, made things harder, and has made work harder than need be. I'm not saying ask everybody to do everything for you all the time. You do NOT need to put your life on hold! And... It's a lonely world is you can no one in, that you can feel safe with no one, especially because I KNOW there are people who don't want to need you, but just want to want you. Even if it's only a handful people, I'm choosing to be interdependent with those people (A whole human in community with other whole humans). I don't know if that helps, but I hope it shows there's a happy medium between the extremes of being independent and feeling like you have to be in limbo with others. 💙 💙 So in your corner, no matter what you decide!
Thank you for sharing this it truly resonated. I can relate to having to be the one that shows up for everyone but then feel "bitter" about it. I also can relate with being independent at a young age. As an only child and latch key child I've had to learn to cook, wash my own clothes etc. way before I had to.❤
Every day I try to pay attention to ways that I might be perpetuating the 'strong Black woman' trope. SMH. So many times I've thought "I've got this", but then I find another way that it's seeped into my beliefs and I need to scrape it out.
It used to bother me that it felt like I've been constantly finding new ways to heal, but then I had a mindset shift that reminded me - IT'S ALL WORTH IT! This is what is looks like to fight for freedom within myself and it's worth it.
If you're fighting for freedom within yourself to release all the trauma that's affected you and you like support, I'd love for you to schedule a 90 minute intensive with me.
Interdependence. 11:39 Thank you I needed that word. Thank you for sharing your story. Really grateful for you.
Happy to have you on this journey with me, friend 🥹
Whew. Lawd. This video is the story of my life. Thanks for the nudge to step back and let others I love (and who love me) step up. Saving this one.
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Had to watch this twice. Working on peaceful living. I feel like my independence keeps me safer than waiting in limbo for others.
I totally get that and I've lived that way for a long time. I can also say my independence has made me lonely, made things harder, and has made work harder than need be.
I'm not saying ask everybody to do everything for you all the time. You do NOT need to put your life on hold! And... It's a lonely world is you can no one in, that you can feel safe with no one, especially because I KNOW there are people who don't want to need you, but just want to want you. Even if it's only a handful people, I'm choosing to be interdependent with those people (A whole human in community with other whole humans).
I don't know if that helps, but I hope it shows there's a happy medium between the extremes of being independent and feeling like you have to be in limbo with others.
💙 💙 So in your corner, no matter what you decide!
Thank you for sharing this it truly resonated. I can relate to having to be the one that shows up for everyone but then feel "bitter" about it. I also can relate with being independent at a young age. As an only child and latch key child I've had to learn to cook, wash my own clothes etc. way before I had to.❤
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