You are still very young, Lana, and you have time. My wife was 39 when we had our 1st and only child. My advice is to keep being your awesome self and continue to love what life has in front of you. My guess is that your future will be amazing! Best of luck!
While your intention may be good, telling woman around 30 that she is very young leads exactly to where we are now. Lana, you are smart. You are right about illusion of endless opportunities. Being single woman is hard. World is not fair, yet we are still lucky. Think about living in the war region, or in the society where woman rights are suppressed. I think you are asking question that goes beyound psychology. You mentioned you are peeking into the christianity. I want encourage you and everyone to learn about story of redemption. One may not accept love of every person, but the love of god is overwheling.
That’s great for you, but some people have a hard time conceiving or like me have a miscarriage. Luckily I still have time to think about trying again and take my time recovering emotionally. If you’re 39 and have any of these issues that might not just be a baby you’re grieving but all hopes of having any biological kids.
@@kellyanne744 I find it a bit strange that you take offense to a a sweet and reassuring comment that was meant to help. You can't rush finding a partner and having kids even if there is a biologial clock ticking. That's a one way ticket to ending up with the wrong person and being miserable.
I’m 51 and I’m still figuring things out. At age 29 I still wasn’t sure what I wanted. I got married to a man at age 31 and was miserable. I didn’t feel my life was going in the right direction until I was 40. I became a mom in my 40’s, bought a house, my ex husband I was separated from passed away, and reconnected with my soulmate in my 40s as well. We never know when things will turn positive for us and be on the right path.
Lana, Hi. I wanted to share my thoughts. I'm a 33 y/o man. Loner. Visionary. Introspective. INFJ as well. I feel very similarly. As another year closes and we're just days before entering into a new year, I can't help but feel like I stagnate, missed out on certain milestones, and continue to feel as if I fall behind. I sometimes feel as if I'm not really living. I'm just existing. I'm a late bloomer. I see nothing wrong with this as we all progress at different paces and everyone leads different paths. But with each passing year, I sometimes can't help but get a little more worried that certain doors are slowly closing as I continue burning time focusing on self-development. Another year passes. I'm another year older. Time passes. And me not being where I wanted to be with things not turning out like I hoped/imagined, and not having things "figured out." I also happen to struggle with comorbid chronic anxiety (social & generalized) and AVPD. I ask myself why I am the way I am. But strangely, at the same time, I also feel this sense of inner peace. I may never have things totally "figured out." And I'm alright with that. The _Serenity Prayer_ is also something that I like to live by too. I'm also a firm believer in most things (if not everything) happening for a reason. We may receive the answers to certain things. Some things, we may never ever know. Some of them could be signs. While often times, not explicitly expressed or directed at you. They tug at us. They could manifest themselves through _coincidences._ *Godwinks.* Thank you for always sharing your calming insights and wisdom. _"What we are looking for is what is looking"_ *All the best to you*
That last bit really hit me. I had a breaking up with a friend around two years ago because of a mutual friend. I've come recently to regret my past decision, since we really had bonded over a couple months of time back then and had quite a bit in common. I'm moved to reconnect with this friend, and thus, I've been in this fight with my ego for the past couple of weeks. Apologizing and admitting my faults is hard, but I think not knowing and living with regrets is harder
Lana's a poetry which was written by the god When the days went down, her video got me up When the voice calms me down more than anything The choas that run away after watching her on my phone's screen The presence of hers, which makes me thank god for it To the moon and back I'll be here supporting her for always -nandiniyadav
Lana, there's such a thing as pathological introspection where you try to tie every aspect of your being to some event, childhood, etc. Sometimes, it just is what it is. You have a dog. Do you ever question why every little thing your dog does is due to some event? Obviously no because that's crazy. Sometimes humans are that way too, and you know what? Sometimes it is due to something. However, does that matter? I think you'd be much happier refocusing yourself in being who you want to be. Also, don't overthink kids. You don't have to decide today, even though I personally think you'd be a great parent
Your conversations are so insightful. Truly a joy. You’re a gifted communicator and life analyst. People of all ages can gain value from your pondering 🌸
Lana, you are a special soul. Your wisdom and abilities to self-examine are well beyond your years. You manner of speaking with us in your uploads is very soothing and gently loving… that is quite unique and beautiful 🙏🏻❤️ As to “figuring it all out” you’re going to go through phases of that due to wisdom acquired through experience. I will tell you that I sincerely hope that you find that special man to spend your life with, and that you do have children… you will make a wonderful mother and any children you have will be blessed for having you as a mother. God bless you sweet girl 🙏🏻… much love from Texas ❤️😘
This video reminded me of something I read recently. Have you ever heard of 'The Irresistible Seduction Formula' by Olivia Simmons? That book is so transformative, it's a life changer.
I like the “it’s always a once in a lifetime opportunity” way of phrasing to cherish each moment as super lovely and honorable even if it’s mundane. Life sort of becomes a self fulfilling prophecy if you give meaning to it - it develops into full of meaning and purpose. I def liked this point and also the idea to getting to know oneself.💜
I am 29 also and when it comes to the topic of kids, I think it's very unnatural for us women to feel like we're ready for kids without the right partner (or even a partner in general). I was just like you very unsure about this, all until I met my current partner. That’s when things started to make sense. I realized why I hadn’t felt ready before, even though I’ve been in long-term relationships. Now I deeply want kids and feel ready all because I know I have his support and care, and because it would mean starting a family together. And I’ve realized that it’s hard to want kids without that kind of stability and trust, as it’s such a complex experience, we want to feel reassured that someone will be there for us fully if it ever feels overwhelming.
Lana, you’re such a wholesome person and when I watch you, I see this calm and deep understanding in your eyes. I’d really like to see you transfer all this wisdom to a son or a daughter ❤ Also, follow life the way it is taking you, do not compare. Someone may have had kids at your age or even before, it doesn’t mean it’s time for you to go and get one. Life is just leading you on a different course, the best route for you.
Thanks for sharing this @LanaBlakely definitely helps put perspective through the year. Let's not forget to value those people who support us through our "journey" and be gentle with who we are becoming today and tomorrow.
I believe we're the sum accumulation of our past, present and the influences of our environment and what we learn from others. How we feel about a topic is to what differentiates us from one another. We were taught that you should have a family ideally at the age of 25 and above for example. I do not feel like having a family at that age nor gravitate towards the concept. You might feel differently. This is just my food for thought on why you don't feel the rush or urgency to be with someone and start having babies. Your points are always great. Listening to you has always been a therapeutic and learning experience. I hope you get what you want in life and be happy with whatever choices you make. Sincerely.
my goal for the new year is to stop taking things so seriously, stop feeling like one mistake or bad decision is the end of the world. i want to start believing that even if one path gets blocked off, there are a million other paths i could take at any given point. maybe the point of life is to just get back up and try something else. i want to believe there is no such thing as failure
The last edvice is the one I need to hear lately. I met someone new through a gathering, I don't know where this will lead, but i think it worth putting the effort, time and energy to explore. As anyhow, it is a very nice experience to have and there is only this one unique person on earth, how beautiful! Thank you Lana for another good video!
I'm in my 50s and for most of my life I didn't know what I want my life to be like. Only after starting over and having to really focus on my new life, have I got to better understand how I want my life to be like. You have time on your hands and I say live life to the full! Whatever that means for you ❤
Kids? In this world, under these terms and conditions?? I've many regrets but the older I get the biggest relief and proudest thing I've never done is have kids. To subject them to a world that is so riddled with corruption, from the smallest scale to the sheer insane psychopathy at the upper realms of power, I would never want a soul to know the depths of depravity, insidiousness and sheer and utter confusion that would await them here. Don't subject anyone to this place. Yes, I get it, rivers, trees, autumn sunsets and evening coffee with friends, I'm not a lunatic who's just bitter, I've just looked at the world with a sober eye and see how so many get burned over and over and over. Don't bring someone here who never asked.
@@robinredondo9427 I almost had a kid too in my early 20's, more just out of not being careful. It was then that I realised the consequences of having a child. Honestly, I dont have the answers were they to ever ask the big questions that involve pain, sadness and confusion. To bring them into a reality that simply doesnt make any sense is despicable. Ppl deserve better, ppl deserve a good life without having to toil, adhere to a boss or a company, ppl deserve to have far more than we do. Most ppl, relative to those who are lucky, have fucking nothing to sing about. We, as ppl, as souls walking the earth, deserve better.
I agree with this so much. The idea of burdening a child with existence in a sociopolitical landscape that promises to only get worse and worse is so grim to me. I’ve watched the hopes and dreams and love of life in my younger siblings get stumped by the current circumstances and I’m not willing to see my kids go through that as well.
In my 20s and 30s I also had a goal of 25 good literature books a year- that was aside from what I called vacation reading. It did so much for me. I think I read so much that I just insisted most of it be education. About kids- I never planned to have them and then when I was 39 one accidentally came and then another. They are now the best and most meaningful part of my life. I also didn’t have someone I wanted as a partner. I’m divorcing their dad now. I don’t know what to say otherwise. Good luck.
The phrase "gifts are meant to be given" came into my awareness a few months ago. So my goal for 2025 is to spend less time grinding away at $dayjob (the essentially meaningless thing) and more time sharing my gifts with the world. It's literally what I was born for.
I still struggle with whether or not I want children, even though I have found the person that I would want them with. I really love my peace and solitude, and the freedom to pick up and travel whenever I want. I often think, however, that I would regret it more if I don’t have them, and I also want the chance to relive being a kid with them again 😅 There will be upsides and downsides to both choices, and there are days that I have doubts, but most of the time I believe having children will be more fulfilling long term ☺️ All that being said, it’s normal to not have it figured out yet 🥰
I've heard a lot of elder people usually say that is better to be single than rush into marriage with the wrong person. Living life in regret. Yikes! Which is harder to endure? Being alone? Or being lonely and full of regret?
I’m in the similar stage of life. Has been really difficult to decide if I really want certain things or is it because others are also wanting it and also navigating through the feelings of seeing others having it and wondering about the what ifs. I’m okay with being forgotten by people once I die, but I would really be unhappy to not completely live life in it’s entirety and how I want it to be, but life is not easy to do either. I think I’m understanding what I want through the feelings of envy, which is so unpleasant at this age and I don’t want to feel it and I’ve not felt it even as a child very often, but it’s showing me what I want in some ways.
I reckon if I was 15 years younger we would have got on great. You seem emotionally intelligent and I doubt you are as prim and proper in real life as you come across on your videos. (in a good way) Don't worry about the future it will happen no matter what....just enjoy the journey, you are going to be just fine. Merry Christmas.
Lana, I was in the same thought process at your age, I’m 46 now, still looking for the right woman that comes from a good background to raise a family.
I am reading books that you suggest; I finished Attached, and right now I'm on Quiet. I am looking forward to reading more books that you mentioned in the video or in the description. Like your videos always give me new perspectives on life and day-to-day situations.
She also have readed it crime and punishment by dovi,yeah you're right by reading the books she recommended us,you should give a try on this also.buddy
Lana, you are incredibly intelligent and absolutely stunning, and that combination can make finding a partner challenging. Your sharp mind allows you to see through people easily, making it hard for anyone to fool you, while your beauty often leads others to assume that someone as exceptional as you couldn’t possibly be single. In my 20s, I didn’t spend much time reflecting on what I truly wanted in life. Like many others, I simply assumed things would follow a conventional path. I’d graduate, start a career, get married, and eventually have a family. But now, in my 30s, I’ve come to realize that I don’t want to have children. Don’t get me wrong. I love kids, and they usually adore me too. But for me, the thought of the immense responsibility and deep attachment that comes with parenthood feels overwhelming. I’m already so deeply attached to my parents that their well-being is a constant source of stress for me. The idea of one day losing them is unbearable, and I can’t imagine adding that level of worry and emotional vulnerability to my life by having children. So, after much thought, I’ve decided that parenthood isn’t the right path for me. I always thought it’s just me, as most people don’t dwell on these things as deeply, they just go with the flow. It’s just my overthinking mind couldn’t help but take me here. So it’s good to know that at 29 you deeply think about these things too…❤❤❤
I live a very intentional time based life but I've made time to make chocolate treats because it makes my tummy and sense of smell happy. Also sharing said treats with other makes me happy ❤
Your channel inspired mine I now study cinema you said once in a video that you wanted to make movies you should try becoming a filmmaker for narrative work! TIs very fun!
I hope i will never have the feeling of having things figured out. That would mean there isn't anything left to learn. What a mind numbingly boring life that would be. The feelings of either having things figured out or being dumbfounded by how little you know don't have to be mutually exclusive. As the saying goes: “As our circle of knowledge expands, so does the circumference of darkness surrounding it.”
I’ve got 5 Tons of Books! Books that the internet has probably never heard of. There’s a another row of Books behind the ones I can see that I’ve never seen! My Mom & Aunts & Uncle’s were avid readers & collectors. When my Aunt started working at a thrift store they could buy Books for 50 cents! Everything from School books, Encyclopedias, Romance Novels, Manuals. You name it! I’m still trying to make some more shelves to hold them all cause there’s even more out in a storage building! Tell me what your looking for and I’ll see if I can find it. I do hope your hearing will get better soon!!!
I have been following your channel for almost year,i occasionally watch your videos ,but i still remember the light in your eyes,now you seem tired upset …. But I really hope you will be ok and happy❤❤❤
Lana, the older you get the more you realize that you know very little of all knowledge that exists. The only one that could give you the correct answers all the time is God. One philosopher, Soren Kierkegaard said “we live life forward but understand it looking backwards”. I find this to be so true. And one last insight I have gained is to have balance in most things. The perfect amount for anything is likely somewhere between the two extremes of the pendulum, so keeping the balance is kind of hedging our bets. Of course, this balance is not static but dynamic and moving and so we keep adjusting.
Usually a good partner evokes desires for kids. The idea that you two would create good human beings together. Dont torture yourself until you meet the other half.
I may of have found another cause of Ear damage. The Pressure Relief Valve on our Cars Cabin Area. For when we close the Doors the Air Pressure has somewhere to go. It shows them as 1 way Flaps that open up located somewhere on the Car. Probably hidden somewhere! I hope this will help! Wish I could be there to find it!
hi lana. you are a beautiful lovely young woman and deserve happiness.You have a lovely voice also. I hope you, your family and friends have a lovely Christmas. Ian
I can relate to feeling pressure in the late 20s. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and reflections. You are embracing life well and I love your videos.
Hey, Lana, I know you're experiencing some hearing issues and I hope that it will get better soon, but in this video the high frequencies have some weird resonance, a bit like when you're talking into a foil, it's not super noticeable I guess, but it's really annoying when you can hear it, so if you're doing the editing yourself maybe you could ask somebody else to check the audio for now. All the best!
Depending on what you're good at, or would like to work with, you're going to have to study in most cases. If you like IT, then you could try applying for IT Helpdesk jobs, which is the starting point in IT that will allow you to move up the ladder; provided the company allows it. I've seen many companies throwing good people away because they never allowed them to grow. Anyways, IT Helpdesk generally doesn't require a lot of skill, as a good helpdesk is built on properly documented knowledge bases and good mentoring from your colleagues and line manager. I would try doing a one year IT course with a guaranteed internship. I wouldn't know about other sorts of careers, but you still have a lot of time. I know someone who went from working the minimum wage in supermarkets to making double in just two years; they are in their early 30s. It's never too late to change or start a new career. You'll make it.
Hello, Lana! I've been watching your vlogs for a few years now and have been adoring absolutely every moment of watching you and your videos. I recall you making a video of things you were afraid of saying out loud and took a key eye on what you've stated on you willing to learn more about religion. While I am not sure if this is the most appropriate way to notify you, I couldn't miss the opportunity to suggest you look into Islam! Although I may not know you and your values in the slightest way that I might have with some of my closest family- by taking a keen observation of what you say in your videos, I think you'd find a lot of interest in Islam for this religion and your ideologies tend to be quite similar to the opinions you have willingly expressed in your videos. If you are in any way interested I'd suggest you look up some lecturers/scholars such as Hamza Yusuf, Nouman Ali Khan, and Mufti Menk. They tend to highlight the main values, social etiquette taught in the Quran, and the way life works on such a deep level. I really appreciate what you do in your videos since you've brought forth so much light and perspectives that I tend to look in as well on such a great level. So, in return I ever so sincerely ask you to look into this religion with open arms for I think you'd greatly benefit and in return, see a lot of light from it as well. Thank you so much!
5000 years of human civilization has yet to reach even a remote consensus as to how and why the world works and I would be much surprised to believe that a single person under 30 has somehow come close to figuring anything out. The likely truth is that we can’t understand the world without understanding how it relates to us and how we perceive ourselves in relation to it. A work of art for example has no meaning unless there’s someone there to observe and interpret it. The problem though, isn’t that we can’t understand the world but rather we can’t understand ourselves in what we come to expect from the world and so long as our wants and desires change, so too does our perspective. The dumbest people I know are the ones who are arrogant enough to think that they have things figured out for either they’re desires are too simplistic or satiable or they confuse understanding with personal delusion. Hopefully you still won’t have things figured out by next year as a sign that you will still be broadening your view and experiences of things. I may humor myself in that I feel as though I confidently know or understand certain things well, but that comfort and satisfaction in knowledge or ideology does not translate well into personal happiness. I am very much alone and despondent, and I know that for certain. Sometimes I envy the blissful and pleasant fool, but I suspect even they aren’t insusceptible to fear and hopelessness. Happiness is in not being afraid of uncertainty and in having hope with the understanding that hope is simply a desire that we hold to ourselves.
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I always get a feeling of warmth and comfort when I see an upload from you. Your energy is ethereal Lana
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You are still very young, Lana, and you have time. My wife was 39 when we had our 1st and only child. My advice is to keep being your awesome self and continue to love what life has in front of you. My guess is that your future will be amazing! Best of luck!
While your intention may be good, telling woman around 30 that she is very young leads exactly to where we are now.
Lana, you are smart. You are right about illusion of endless opportunities. Being single woman is hard. World is not fair, yet we are still lucky. Think about living in the war region, or in the society where woman rights are suppressed.
I think you are asking question that goes beyound psychology. You mentioned you are peeking into the christianity. I want encourage you and everyone to learn about story of redemption. One may not accept love of every person, but the love of god is overwheling.
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That’s great for you, but some people have a hard time conceiving or like me have a miscarriage. Luckily I still have time to think about trying again and take my time recovering emotionally. If you’re 39 and have any of these issues that might not just be a baby you’re grieving but all hopes of having any biological kids.
Maybe she wants more than one child. The older you are the harder it is... Your comment is not helpful at all.
@@kellyanne744 I find it a bit strange that you take offense to a a sweet and reassuring comment that was meant to help. You can't rush finding a partner and having kids even if there is a biologial clock ticking. That's a one way ticket to ending up with the wrong person and being miserable.
I’m 51 and I’m still figuring things out. At age 29 I still wasn’t sure what I wanted. I got married to a man at age 31 and was miserable. I didn’t feel my life was going in the right direction until I was 40. I became a mom in my 40’s, bought a house, my ex husband I was separated from passed away, and reconnected with my soulmate in my 40s as well. We never know when things will turn positive for us and be on the right path.
Lana,
Hi. I wanted to share my thoughts. I'm a 33 y/o man. Loner. Visionary. Introspective. INFJ as well. I feel very similarly. As another year closes and we're just days before entering into a new year, I can't help but feel like I stagnate, missed out on certain milestones, and continue to feel as if I fall behind. I sometimes feel as if I'm not really living. I'm just existing.
I'm a late bloomer. I see nothing wrong with this as we all progress at different paces and everyone leads different paths. But with each passing year, I sometimes can't help but get a little more worried that certain doors are slowly closing as I continue burning time focusing on self-development. Another year passes. I'm another year older. Time passes. And me not being where I wanted to be with things not turning out like I hoped/imagined, and not having things "figured out." I also happen to struggle with comorbid chronic anxiety (social & generalized) and AVPD. I ask myself why I am the way I am.
But strangely, at the same time, I also feel this sense of inner peace. I may never have things totally "figured out." And I'm alright with that. The _Serenity Prayer_ is also something that I like to live by too. I'm also a firm believer in most things (if not everything) happening for a reason. We may receive the answers to certain things. Some things, we may never ever know. Some of them could be signs. While often times, not explicitly expressed or directed at you. They tug at us. They could manifest themselves through _coincidences._ *Godwinks.* Thank you for always sharing your calming insights and wisdom.
_"What we are looking for is what is looking"_
*All the best to you*
Your videos feel like a warm hug on a gloomy day, Lana ! Thank you 🩷
:')
am 32 and i think having it figured out is knowing that it will never be figured out
That last bit really hit me. I had a breaking up with a friend around two years ago because of a mutual friend. I've come recently to regret my past decision, since we really had bonded over a couple months of time back then and had quite a bit in common. I'm moved to reconnect with this friend, and thus, I've been in this fight with my ego for the past couple of weeks. Apologizing and admitting my faults is hard, but I think not knowing and living with regrets is harder
Agreed ❤️🩹
Lovely message Lana, please remember that you are not old and that each new day could be a specific turning point that you are waiting for. 😊
5:06 - it's called "rejection therapy". It's simply getting out of your comfort zone while learning to trust yourself more. I want to practice it too!
Your voice is so calming! It’s the perfect unintentional ASMR
Lana's a poetry which was written by the god
When the days went down, her video got me up
When the voice calms me down more than anything
The choas that run away after watching her on my phone's screen
The presence of hers, which makes me thank god for it
To the moon and back
I'll be here supporting her for always
-nandiniyadav
Lana, there's such a thing as pathological introspection where you try to tie every aspect of your being to some event, childhood, etc. Sometimes, it just is what it is. You have a dog. Do you ever question why every little thing your dog does is due to some event? Obviously no because that's crazy. Sometimes humans are that way too, and you know what? Sometimes it is due to something. However, does that matter? I think you'd be much happier refocusing yourself in being who you want to be. Also, don't overthink kids. You don't have to decide today, even though I personally think you'd be a great parent
Your conversations are so insightful. Truly a joy. You’re a gifted communicator and life analyst. People of all ages can gain value from your pondering 🌸
Lana, you are a special soul. Your wisdom and abilities to self-examine are well beyond your years. You manner of speaking with us in your uploads is very soothing and gently loving… that is quite unique and beautiful 🙏🏻❤️ As to “figuring it all out” you’re going to go through phases of that due to wisdom acquired through experience. I will tell you that I sincerely hope that you find that special man to spend your life with, and that you do have children… you will make a wonderful mother and any children you have will be blessed for having you as a mother. God bless you sweet girl 🙏🏻… much love from Texas ❤️😘
This video reminded me of something I read recently. Have you ever heard of 'The Irresistible Seduction Formula' by Olivia Simmons? That book is so transformative, it's a life changer.
I like the “it’s always a once in a lifetime opportunity” way of phrasing to cherish each moment as super lovely and honorable even if it’s mundane. Life sort of becomes a self fulfilling prophecy if you give meaning to it - it develops into full of meaning and purpose. I def liked this point and also the idea to getting to know oneself.💜
I am 29 also and when it comes to the topic of kids, I think it's very unnatural for us women to feel like we're ready for kids without the right partner (or even a partner in general). I was just like you very unsure about this, all until I met my current partner. That’s when things started to make sense. I realized why I hadn’t felt ready before, even though I’ve been in long-term relationships. Now I deeply want kids and feel ready all because I know I have his support and care, and because it would mean starting a family together. And I’ve realized that it’s hard to want kids without that kind of stability and trust, as it’s such a complex experience, we want to feel reassured that someone will be there for us fully if it ever feels overwhelming.
Lana, you’re such a wholesome person and when I watch you, I see this calm and deep understanding in your eyes. I’d really like to see you transfer all this wisdom to a son or a daughter ❤ Also, follow life the way it is taking you, do not compare. Someone may have had kids at your age or even before, it doesn’t mean it’s time for you to go and get one. Life is just leading you on a different course, the best route for you.
Thanks for sharing this @LanaBlakely definitely helps put perspective through the year.
Let's not forget to value those people who support us through our "journey" and be gentle with who we are becoming today and tomorrow.
Happy new year Lana.
I l’ve been watching your channel for more than 4 years! You’re a great content creator. Thank you 🤍
Your videos are filled with so much grace and solace. Just amazing :)
I truly believe that you deeply care about us.
I believe we're the sum accumulation of our past, present and the influences of our environment and what we learn from others. How we feel about a topic is to what differentiates us from one another. We were taught that you should have a family ideally at the age of 25 and above for example. I do not feel like having a family at that age nor gravitate towards the concept. You might feel differently. This is just my food for thought on why you don't feel the rush or urgency to be with someone and start having babies.
Your points are always great. Listening to you has always been a therapeutic and learning experience. I hope you get what you want in life and be happy with whatever choices you make. Sincerely.
my goal for the new year is to stop taking things so seriously, stop feeling like one mistake or bad decision is the end of the world. i want to start believing that even if one path gets blocked off, there are a million other paths i could take at any given point. maybe the point of life is to just get back up and try something else. i want to believe there is no such thing as failure
Love Your Videos always feels like a hug
Thank you Lana. wish u all the love in the world💗
Your voice is so calm ❤ God made you perfect in every term....very beautiful ✨
The last edvice is the one I need to hear lately. I met someone new through a gathering, I don't know where this will lead, but i think it worth putting the effort, time and energy to explore. As anyhow, it is a very nice experience to have and there is only this one unique person on earth, how beautiful!
Thank you Lana for another good video!
Thank you, Lana. I really needed to hear this. Your message at the end... thank you. Thank you ❤🥹
I needed it too.
Beautiful message and very deep Lana!❤
Finding book The art of self love by Sabrina Windale should be your top priority, even if thats the last thing you do in life
I'm in my 50s and for most of my life I didn't know what I want my life to be like. Only after starting over and having to really focus on my new life, have I got to better understand how I want my life to be like. You have time on your hands and I say live life to the full! Whatever that means for you ❤
Thank you for sharing your thoughts Lana 💛 this is like balm for my soul
Best wishes for 2025 and I hope your hearing recovers as soon as possible. ❤
You are too amazing for this world❤
Merry Christmas Lana!🎄♥️🌸🎁
I wish you health, love, and send you hugs. We love all your content.
Keep being the best 🎄🎁♥️🌸
I always find your videos and reflections so comforting
Always waiting for your videos because they bring me comfort and realizations. Good night from my country❤
Kids? In this world, under these terms and conditions?? I've many regrets but the older I get the biggest relief and proudest thing I've never done is have kids. To subject them to a world that is so riddled with corruption, from the smallest scale to the sheer insane psychopathy at the upper realms of power, I would never want a soul to know the depths of depravity, insidiousness and sheer and utter confusion that would await them here.
Don't subject anyone to this place. Yes, I get it, rivers, trees, autumn sunsets and evening coffee with friends, I'm not a lunatic who's just bitter, I've just looked at the world with a sober eye and see how so many get burned over and over and over.
Don't bring someone here who never asked.
I agree. I think my having a child 29 years ago wasn’t a great move. I love him dearly but I feel it was very selfish on my part.
@@robinredondo9427 I almost had a kid too in my early 20's, more just out of not being careful. It was then that I realised the consequences of having a child. Honestly, I dont have the answers were they to ever ask the big questions that involve pain, sadness and confusion. To bring them into a reality that simply doesnt make any sense is despicable. Ppl deserve better, ppl deserve a good life without having to toil, adhere to a boss or a company, ppl deserve to have far more than we do. Most ppl, relative to those who are lucky, have fucking nothing to sing about. We, as ppl, as souls walking the earth, deserve better.
@@michaelshannon9169 you said it very well….
I agree with this so much. The idea of burdening a child with existence in a sociopolitical landscape that promises to only get worse and worse is so grim to me.
I’ve watched the hopes and dreams and love of life in my younger siblings get stumped by the current circumstances and I’m not willing to see my kids go through that as well.
In my 20s and 30s I also had a goal of 25 good literature books a year- that was aside from what I called vacation reading. It did so much for me. I think I read so much that I just insisted most of it be education. About kids- I never planned to have them and then when I was 39 one accidentally came and then another. They are now the best and most meaningful part of my life. I also didn’t have someone I wanted as a partner. I’m divorcing their dad now. I don’t know what to say otherwise. Good luck.
The phrase "gifts are meant to be given" came into my awareness a few months ago. So my goal for 2025 is to spend less time grinding away at $dayjob (the essentially meaningless thing) and more time sharing my gifts with the world. It's literally what I was born for.
I still struggle with whether or not I want children, even though I have found the person that I would want them with. I really love my peace and solitude, and the freedom to pick up and travel whenever I want. I often think, however, that I would regret it more if I don’t have them, and I also want the chance to relive being a kid with them again 😅 There will be upsides and downsides to both choices, and there are days that I have doubts, but most of the time I believe having children will be more fulfilling long term ☺️ All that being said, it’s normal to not have it figured out yet 🥰
I've heard a lot of elder people usually say that is better to be single than rush into marriage with the wrong person. Living life in regret. Yikes! Which is harder to endure? Being alone? Or being lonely and full of regret?
I’m in the similar stage of life. Has been really difficult to decide if I really want certain things or is it because others are also wanting it and also navigating through the feelings of seeing others having it and wondering about the what ifs. I’m okay with being forgotten by people once I die, but I would really be unhappy to not completely live life in it’s entirety and how I want it to be, but life is not easy to do either. I think I’m understanding what I want through the feelings of envy, which is so unpleasant at this age and I don’t want to feel it and I’ve not felt it even as a child very often, but it’s showing me what I want in some ways.
I reckon if I was 15 years younger we would have got on great. You seem emotionally intelligent and I doubt you are as prim and proper in real life as you come across on your videos. (in a good way) Don't worry about the future it will happen no matter what....just enjoy the journey, you are going to be just fine. Merry Christmas.
Lana, I was in the same thought process at your age, I’m 46 now, still looking for the right woman that comes from a good background to raise a family.
Thanks so much, Lana🌻. Take care!
I am new to your channel and I have to say I love you so much that I've just subscribed to your channel ❤️ 😊
I am reading books that you suggest; I finished Attached, and right now I'm on Quiet. I am looking forward to reading more books that you mentioned in the video or in the description. Like your videos always give me new perspectives on life and day-to-day situations.
She also have readed it crime and punishment by dovi,yeah you're right by reading the books she recommended us,you should give a try on this also.buddy
@@movie_box00thanks for suggestions I will give it try.
Lana, you are incredibly intelligent and absolutely stunning, and that combination can make finding a partner challenging. Your sharp mind allows you to see through people easily, making it hard for anyone to fool you, while your beauty often leads others to assume that someone as exceptional as you couldn’t possibly be single.
In my 20s, I didn’t spend much time reflecting on what I truly wanted in life. Like many others, I simply assumed things would follow a conventional path. I’d graduate, start a career, get married, and eventually have a family. But now, in my 30s, I’ve come to realize that I don’t want to have children. Don’t get me wrong. I love kids, and they usually adore me too. But for me, the thought of the immense responsibility and deep attachment that comes with parenthood feels overwhelming.
I’m already so deeply attached to my parents that their well-being is a constant source of stress for me. The idea of one day losing them is unbearable, and I can’t imagine adding that level of worry and emotional vulnerability to my life by having children. So, after much thought, I’ve decided that parenthood isn’t the right path for me.
I always thought it’s just me, as most people don’t dwell on these things as deeply, they just go with the flow. It’s just my overthinking mind couldn’t help but take me here. So it’s good to know that at 29 you deeply think about these things too…❤❤❤
Lana, thank you for sharing these insights!❤️
I live a very intentional time based life but I've made time to make chocolate treats because it makes my tummy and sense of smell happy. Also sharing said treats with other makes me happy ❤
Thanku Lana for existing on this planet...love from India ❤
You have a great goals for such a young girl wish you all the best and lots of luck in everything you're dreaming off
Your channel inspired mine I now study cinema you said once in a video that you wanted to make movies you should try becoming a filmmaker for narrative work! TIs very fun!
Her work truly is like a little movie
I hope i will never have the feeling of having things figured out. That would mean there isn't anything left to learn. What a mind numbingly boring life that would be. The feelings of either having things figured out or being dumbfounded by how little you know don't have to be mutually exclusive. As the saying goes: “As our circle of knowledge expands, so does the circumference of darkness surrounding it.”
Lana I enjoyed this and thank you.Jerome❤❤❤
I’m 29 gonna be 30 next month. I wonder many of the same things you mention here. Don’t worry you are beautiful and successful.
I’ve got 5 Tons of Books! Books that the internet has probably never heard of. There’s a another row of Books behind the ones I can see that I’ve never seen! My Mom & Aunts & Uncle’s were avid readers & collectors. When my Aunt started working at a thrift store they could buy Books for 50 cents! Everything from School books, Encyclopedias, Romance Novels, Manuals. You name it! I’m still trying to make some more shelves to hold them all cause there’s even more out in a storage building! Tell me what your looking for and I’ll see if I can find it. I do hope your hearing will get better soon!!!
Loved this 🤍🩷🤍
When it comes to relationships, we live in the worst time ever in the history of humanity
You are too good.Best wishes.
Immediately put that book you recommended (The Body Keeps the Score) into my cart
I have been following your channel for almost year,i occasionally watch your videos ,but i still remember the light in your eyes,now you seem tired upset …. But I really hope you will be ok and happy❤❤❤
❤ lovely video have a wonderful festive Christmas holiday 🎄⭐
I always listen your comments and suggestions
You're so sweet lana ❤
When one comes to the place in life where they’ve figured out what’s actually important in life and what is not…one will have figured it all out.
Lana, the older you get the more you realize that you know very little of all knowledge that exists. The only one that could give you the correct answers all the time is God. One philosopher, Soren Kierkegaard said “we live life forward but understand it looking backwards”. I find this to be so true. And one last insight I have gained is to have balance in most things. The perfect amount for anything is likely somewhere between the two extremes of the pendulum, so keeping the balance is kind of hedging our bets. Of course, this balance is not static but dynamic and moving and so we keep adjusting.
Usually a good partner evokes desires for kids. The idea that you two would create good human beings together. Dont torture yourself until you meet the other half.
I may of have found another cause of Ear damage. The Pressure Relief Valve on our Cars Cabin Area. For when we close the Doors the Air Pressure has somewhere to go. It shows them as 1 way Flaps that open up located somewhere on the Car. Probably hidden somewhere! I hope this will help! Wish I could be there to find it!
Greetings beckoning you from London Great Britain 🇬🇧🇬🇧🇬🇧🇬🇧
hello mate !!
hi lana. you are a beautiful lovely young woman and deserve happiness.You have a lovely voice also. I hope you, your family and friends have a lovely Christmas. Ian
Hi Lana, I like your contents. Was wondering if you will keep on updating your Patreon in the near future? 😊 Thanks!
I can relate to feeling pressure in the late 20s. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and reflections. You are embracing life well and I love your videos.
congratulations
Better to be alone and unsure than to be with someone and sure that you're love bombed.
We can talk about, how to heel the space around us. Its not simple, but sometimes things in life do it for us
Lana, kid is a very big responsibility and it take 2 people to do it. Sometime it's a live time responsibility.
Hey, Lana, I know you're experiencing some hearing issues and I hope that it will get better soon, but in this video the high frequencies have some weird resonance, a bit like when you're talking into a foil, it's not super noticeable I guess, but it's really annoying when you can hear it, so if you're doing the editing yourself maybe you could ask somebody else to check the audio for now. All the best!
Lana How are you doing today I hope you are doing good today🥹♥️ and How's your health and How's Everything
Lana Croft! 😘😘😘
Lana, we are in the same page thank you for the inspiration 🙏 love from NE india❤
How is your hearing now ...Hopefully its better ❤❤❤ .
Have you ever heard that 33 is your "Jesus Year", and it is in that year that your vision for your life becomes clear?
My big sister posted ❤
You're very mature Lana..
Any advice for a 24 year old who doesn't have a degree or a job yet ?😢
Depending on what you're good at, or would like to work with, you're going to have to study in most cases.
If you like IT, then you could try applying for IT Helpdesk jobs, which is the starting point in IT that will allow you to move up the ladder; provided the company allows it. I've seen many companies throwing good people away because they never allowed them to grow.
Anyways, IT Helpdesk generally doesn't require a lot of skill, as a good helpdesk is built on properly documented knowledge bases and good mentoring from your colleagues and line manager. I would try doing a one year IT course with a guaranteed internship.
I wouldn't know about other sorts of careers, but you still have a lot of time. I know someone who went from working the minimum wage in supermarkets to making double in just two years; they are in their early 30s.
It's never too late to change or start a new career. You'll make it.
Hey
chatgpt suggested u to me as an example of the feminine voices on RUclips lol 😆
I was here when you had 60k subs 🤗 I always wished . . . well .. .you resonate so well [][] in some other universe . we could meet
Hello, Lana! I've been watching your vlogs for a few years now and have been adoring absolutely every moment of watching you and your videos.
I recall you making a video of things you were afraid of saying out loud and took a key eye on what you've stated on you willing to learn more about religion.
While I am not sure if this is the most appropriate way to notify you, I couldn't miss the opportunity to suggest you look into Islam! Although I may not know you and your values in the slightest way that I might have with some of my closest family- by taking a keen observation of what you say in your videos, I think you'd find a lot of interest in Islam for this religion and your ideologies tend to be quite similar to the opinions you have willingly expressed in your videos.
If you are in any way interested I'd suggest you look up some lecturers/scholars such as Hamza Yusuf, Nouman Ali Khan, and Mufti Menk. They tend to highlight the main values, social etiquette taught in the Quran, and the way life works on such a deep level.
I really appreciate what you do in your videos since you've brought forth so much light and perspectives that I tend to look in as well on such a great level. So, in return I ever so sincerely ask you to look into this religion with open arms for I think you'd greatly benefit and in return, see a lot of light from it as well. Thank you so much!
5000 years of human civilization has yet to reach even a remote consensus as to how and why the world works and I would be much surprised to believe that a single person under 30 has somehow come close to figuring anything out. The likely truth is that we can’t understand the world without understanding how it relates to us and how we perceive ourselves in relation to it. A work of art for example has no meaning unless there’s someone there to observe and interpret it. The problem though, isn’t that we can’t understand the world but rather we can’t understand ourselves in what we come to expect from the world and so long as our wants and desires change, so too does our perspective. The dumbest people I know are the ones who are arrogant enough to think that they have things figured out for either they’re desires are too simplistic or satiable or they confuse understanding with personal delusion. Hopefully you still won’t have things figured out by next year as a sign that you will still be broadening your view and experiences of things. I may humor myself in that I feel as though I confidently know or understand certain things well, but that comfort and satisfaction in knowledge or ideology does not translate well into personal happiness. I am very much alone and despondent, and I know that for certain. Sometimes I envy the blissful and pleasant fool, but I suspect even they aren’t insusceptible to fear and hopelessness. Happiness is in not being afraid of uncertainty and in having hope with the understanding that hope is simply a desire that we hold to ourselves.
Beautiful
Most women who say they don't want kids are actually saying they can't find a man they want to have kids with.
Love from Pakistan ❤
I wish i was ten years older or you were 10 years younger than your actual age 😢 Anyways you will find your soulmate very soon❤
It’s normal not to have figured it out by 30
it's not normal. it's just become more common. one should be married and have children by 30, and then your life is well on it's way with purpose.
@@rokko_fable some people don't want to get married or have kids.
@rokko_fable Smart women know not to settle for guys like you. Substance comes from maturity and thoughtfulness, which grows with time.
@@tinycatfromhellI wonder when people will ever realize that some people’s goal aren’t to be married and have children by 30 smh
Just figure out things at your own pace. Without the pressure you can take the right decision. At the right time everything will come together
4:25 - That's what she said.
Boom. Roasted.
Hey Lana long time no see😂