INFJ, Why A BORING Relationship Is The Secret To An EXCITING Life

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  • Опубликовано: 12 окт 2024
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    INFJ Life Coach Lesson: You want an exciting life and a boring relationship. Yes, you heard that right-a “boring” relationship is what leads to a truly exciting life. As INFJs, relationships can sometimes be the thing that keeps us stuck, especially in our most intimate connections-whether romantic, family, or deep friendships. If you’re constantly seeking excitement in your relationships, there won’t be much left for the rest of your life. But when your relationship is stable, secure, and grounding, it frees you to create an exciting life outside of it. In this video, we dive into why having a solid, “boring” relationship is the foundation for a life full of excitement and adventure-and how this shift can help you get everything you’ve ever wanted.
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Комментарии • 67

  • @Wenzes
    @Wenzes  День назад +7

    🔥 Want an exciting life without the chaos? Let me know in the comments: Do you believe a ‘boring’ relationship can actually lead to a more fulfilling life? 🤔 Share your thoughts below and let’s dive deep into this together! Don’t forget, if you’re ready to take your INFJ life to the next level, check out the details for the INFJ Epic Life Bootcamp launching October 26th. 💡 #INFJLife #ExcitingLife #BoringIsTheNewExciting

    • @Sarabasim2002
      @Sarabasim2002 День назад +1

      Can you make videos about the signs of us INFJ reaching the best healthy version of us and how to recognize that we are in the right path in life ?

    • @braxtonmills1235
      @braxtonmills1235 День назад

      INFJ INFJ INFJ

  • @Jaynycreates
    @Jaynycreates День назад +67

    I think INFJ's need to stop entering a room and tuning in to others. Just stop or at least limit the times when you do it. It holds you back. Instead, enter the room and just allow yourself to shine. You have so much to offer. Just don't give it away to others so much. Decide ahead of time how much energy you are willing to share. Sincerely, an INFJ

    • @shawn4093
      @shawn4093 День назад +5

      I needed that, thanks

    • @Elelee-sg2gs
      @Elelee-sg2gs День назад +1

      how true

    • @tinovillalovas
      @tinovillalovas День назад +1

      So what you’re saying is we should be authentic like an INFP… 😬😅😹

    • @Jaynycreates
      @Jaynycreates День назад +1

      @@tinovillalovas I'm not saying INFJ is inauthentic at all. We become very conscious of everyone us to the point where we can overlook ourselves. We deserve some of our own attention too. So what I am saying is, be a little more selfish with it. Yes it feels good to tune in, understand and help others but WE need US too. I know its not really possible to stop doing this....but we can check ourselves and see that what we do to others can actually work on us too. We only have so much energy so try to use it wisely. Im really working on this and when i tune out from others i get a lot more done over here and pretty fast too.

  • @saracarrollyoutube
    @saracarrollyoutube День назад +23

    I have a boring wonderful relationship finally!!! My husband is my home and safe place. My daughter says we're boring and not connecting since he and I can sit on the couch, play on our phones next to eachother and not really do anything for hours 😊...perfection!!! We are just ourselves..introverts 😂

    • @Wenzes
      @Wenzes  День назад +7

      ❤️❤️❤️

  • @the_alizerah
    @the_alizerah День назад +5

    "Relationships can be our biggest hurdle in life" so reall rn

  • @leilanoorani2976
    @leilanoorani2976 День назад +21

    You are wise beyond your years Wenzes! Absolutely agree, but would never think to say it quite like this. No to drama. No to fixing/rescuing. Yes, to supportive, stable, mutually respectful relationships, aka “boring”.

  • @yh3428
    @yh3428 День назад +6

    One of the best things in life is to listen to Wenzes when feeling blue. No one really understands us and the magnitude we are going through. That's why we need to find the right people to help us infj

  • @maxnewton686
    @maxnewton686 День назад +5

    This is an example of Wenzes at her best - answering codependency, reclaiming autonomy and agency, and how this changed her life for the better and how it can change ours too. Please keep making more videos like this Wenzes! Thank you so much!

  • @lizv3634
    @lizv3634 День назад +7

    Amen!!!! I’ve just been figuring this out in my life. I’m finally happy about my life without a relationship. I’m wary of adding someone. I’m just going to focus on building and if someone comes along who is easy to be with and makes my life better, I’ll consider them. I don’t want to get sidetracked! Thank you for the encouragement.

  • @judypayne4251
    @judypayne4251 День назад +9

    I had an amazing exciting relationship. With a narcissist. Now I know all about narcissistic creeps that will leave you broken on the floor. Tell it W!

  • @mlbullbooks
    @mlbullbooks День назад +5

    Exactly, Wenzes. Totally agree! 🦋💯

  • @grumpyschnauzer
    @grumpyschnauzer День назад +5

    I forget this sometimes but what you are saying is true.

  • @DearYoungerSelf111
    @DearYoungerSelf111 День назад +3

    I do want an exciting life without the chaos - I am detoxing from one of these chaotic relationships and have not experienced a stable healthy "boring" relationship" before. So..I am ready and willing to do the work to overcome this. I'm talking to a guy now and these toxic patterns I am use to are popping up -- like where is the excitement?! Thanks for the video- I have new items to add t my checklist to remind myself of the healthy things I need from my partner and keep investing in my life and keep the activities hobbies etc I love in full swing. I'm not gonna lie, It is like I am detoxing from a drug- To feel the rush after arguments or just these high emotionally intensive moments- is euphoric and addicitive but after the high I drop to the ground like dead weight and have to rebuild my esteem all over again. Again, much appreciation Wenzes for your thoughtful insight/advice ❤

  • @jasmin1773
    @jasmin1773 День назад +6

    Ah, it's about fear of commitment.

  • @cherylhall7918
    @cherylhall7918 День назад +2

    Such a good video, thank you! It’s always been easy to distract myself with crushes and fantasy relationships and also affairs. The hardest thing for me but the most worthwhile was to stop and look at my own life and build a life I love. I’m still working on this but it was a key moment in my life when I recognized this pattern in myself. I’m yet to be in a boring relationship but I’m actively avoiding the “exciting/unpredictable” relationships while I’m actively focused on building a life I love.

  • @davidthompson5846
    @davidthompson5846 День назад +2

    This is gold, Wenzes. Thank you!

  • @Scaredycat55
    @Scaredycat55 День назад +1

    Great program thank you for sharing and making understanding it a piece of cake .

  • @AliIbrahim-bt3lk
    @AliIbrahim-bt3lk День назад +7

    Dopamine mostly comes from substance and material while serotonin comes from mindset, heartfelt and spirituality.

  • @vivianebuelens9512
    @vivianebuelens9512 День назад +2

    I Will Think it over ! A
    No ger back to you wenzel’s thaks for your input 😊‼️ 10:30

  • @lindateuling7862
    @lindateuling7862 14 часов назад

    I found this video to be worded in a unique way - and I think it's confirmed a way I chose to order my life. Yes, an exciting life sounded great, but so did a good relationship, and I was puzzled as to whether it was possible to have both. It almost seemed like they were likely to be mutually exclusive.
    I remember choosing to concentrate on what I was "doing" (work, hobbies, activities) and keep my mind and heart open to having a stable, compatible relationship where what he and I liked and enjoyed would be compatible. My priority was for harmony and contented stability - in other words, the relationship could be a RESULT of two contented people who could help each other in a compatible way.

  • @braxtonmills1235
    @braxtonmills1235 День назад

    Exactly. So smart. Wow your amazing. I admire this. So intelligent. Eather we do boring and stack up. Or excitement drained out and us putting in more.

  • @dddenes
    @dddenes День назад

    I had an exciting relationship... and I broke up with that girl six years ago. I gave her another chance not much later, and it became boring soon enough. So, so good.

  • @dawnmurphy1169
    @dawnmurphy1169 День назад +1

    ❤How did you get so insightful? Amazing perspective! Thank you

  • @abdullahjelani5602
    @abdullahjelani5602 День назад

    Awesome work 👌

  • @ronnie_mukherjee
    @ronnie_mukherjee День назад

    Great video

  • @kan0762
    @kan0762 День назад +1

    Finally! Someone said it!

  • @flynneart1111
    @flynneart1111 День назад +3

    True that it always loses the thrill, no matter what and science has studies on this- they say that if that passion stayed the whole time, you'd lose your sanity becuz it's too much on your brain. This high was meant to get humans to procreate and then becomes something deeper

    • @braxtonmills1235
      @braxtonmills1235 День назад

      Lol you lose the losses and years of wasted time. If you want that back they are there :):).

  • @iartol
    @iartol 21 час назад

    Internet: Tell me you're married to an ISTJ without telling me you're married to an ISTJ.
    Wenzes: You need to have a boring relationship!

    • @iartol
      @iartol 21 час назад +1

      I agree though. The stability is transcendent.

  • @manukahoney3442
    @manukahoney3442 День назад +1

    Most people even do not notice the difference between their relationship and their life. 🤷‍♂️

  • @bellahazz
    @bellahazz 20 часов назад

    My life completely changed for better after i met my ENFP husband. but my life was already great before meeting him.
    But i agree, now it becomes stable, but still exciting. 😅
    i got unpopular video, telling that.

  • @derekmorcom9431
    @derekmorcom9431 День назад +3

    Ask me at any point in my last relationship and I would've probably answered that I was the magical INFJ who randomly found his fairytale romance where all my dreams came true. Meanwhile, I had constant autoimmune problems, hypervigilence, sleep disorders, horrible anxiety, depression, daily body pains, attachment issues galore.....all while completely obsessed with how "amazing" my relationship was. I'm happy to have woken up from that fantasy.

  • @michal4341
    @michal4341 День назад +1

    Thank you

  • @Multichick
    @Multichick День назад

    10:47 💜💜💜 this is what I was missing, imo…

  • @deborahwolff5651
    @deborahwolff5651 13 часов назад

    I'm just too different from most people. I can't seem to find the type that is inspired by my interests. It's frustrating!

  • @luciana1930
    @luciana1930 День назад +2

    I totally agree

  • @mariaisabelmendiola9670
    @mariaisabelmendiola9670 День назад

    so on point, OMG and thus is sometimes best bet that an older single man that is stuck himself on routine while meeting his needs without jealousy OMG the path cocreated by his dier want of you and your need of building yourself reassuring one another of always being there for each other, with not even sex being a factor but companionship .....puppy love at its finest Id say

  • @sebastianwapniarski2077
    @sebastianwapniarski2077 День назад

    When I thought I've heard it all.

  • @cavemanrob
    @cavemanrob День назад +2

    I don't want any relationship. Single, not on the market, and life is awesome!

  • @Sarabasim2002
    @Sarabasim2002 День назад

    Can you make a video how to know if you are a healthy INFJ and if you are on the right path in life?

    • @Wenzes
      @Wenzes  День назад

      I'll put it on the list for the next weeks ;)

  • @McD-j5r
    @McD-j5r День назад +1

    True!

  • @beginnereasy
    @beginnereasy День назад

    Words don't mirror life and aren't the origin of it

  • @emili4353
    @emili4353 День назад +3

    What about work, should be boring too?..

    • @braxtonmills1235
      @braxtonmills1235 День назад

      Yes it will calm you
      Boring with cash.

    • @emili4353
      @emili4353 День назад

      @@braxtonmills1235 Boring you mean without stress or just boring?..

    • @braxtonmills1235
      @braxtonmills1235 18 часов назад

      @@emili4353 Both just be bored and count up your cash.

  • @vivianebuelens9512
    @vivianebuelens9512 День назад +1

    Thanks * 10:30

  • @angelarrkhu4606
    @angelarrkhu4606 День назад +1

    To my models i cant reach of you in this planet earth coz im just alone. I dont have power. Livestream Memories is enough 😎

    • @angelarrkhu4606
      @angelarrkhu4606 День назад

      And stop to feels in me that thers a blessings to coming. What i mean dont stop.

    • @angelarrkhu4606
      @angelarrkhu4606 День назад

      Khit hadlang ako sa wealth ay wala den nmn ako magagawa 👍🏻

  • @renitawilliams1563
    @renitawilliams1563 21 час назад

    ♥🙏

  • @braxtonmills1235
    @braxtonmills1235 День назад

    I hope i created dopamine in your life:);):)