I agree, the more voices we have the more people realise that most issues go both ways. In this day and age people have the toxic mindset that men can't be raped, molested and abused etc. They tell them to "man up" just like the other comment on here. We need to realise that we are all human and stop thinking of issues being gender tailored, because in most instances they apply to men and women.
These abusers are incredibly selfish. To devastate a child’s life, before it’s even started, for a fleeting, minuscule, hedonistic personal satisfaction. Literally the worst
What a strong man. Going public with abuse is scary. But telling our secrets outloud takes away their power over us. I'm proud of you. I also love that Joe made his podcast available for this purpose.
As a victim of the same thing with my 17 year old half sister and me being 4 to 5 Years old I totally understand everything he is saying. Everything he said was EXACTLY how it felt. Both during and the issues that have stemmed with it afterwards to this day. His stories literally bring me back to when this happened to me. The depression, anxiety and distrust in women growing up. I really do wonder what my life would have been like had this not happened. I only wanted to share that this happened to me so that people that see this maybe have another example that they are not alone. For the longest time I thought I was. It was another reason I kept It bundled up for a long period of time.
Jack Jensen You are to be commended for your bravery for openly speaking about this. You are not alone. Sharing your story does help others, so you are making a positive difference. Thank you.👍
Lmao stfu lol You act like he didnt got a hard d skedd and in warm pus, lmao he just needs attention and dont wants to work, and tells this story to dumb unfukable folks
@@bavanboughan3404 He's not kidding. He has at least one other comment here that's equally as retarded. He's a true mental midget. I'm from India and my English is better than this clown's!
@@backbone93 the fuck is wrong with you dawg !? Even if you are right and he is lying about that shit happening to him ............that still doesn't explain you carrying on like some fuckwit fool on here lmao
It is horrible that this happens to anyone but it is rare that men talk to so humbly and emotionally about it. It is brave to see this man talk like this really hurt him instead of acting like it didn't and laughing it off like some men are prone to do. His honesty is refreshing.
Maybe men aren’t as honest about such things due to the reactions society has towards such honesty. Men are still expected to be “tough”, and not complain.
Well it is a fact that this simply doesn't affect some guys , actually i should say "negatively" affect. Id be willing to bet at least half that experience something like this don't.......AT LEAST 50% guaranteed ,in all honesty its probly more like 75%
Joe Rogan did a bit on this. He called it the sexual inequality of child molestation. Basically, it is different for most men. When you hear about a grown man molesting a 14yr old girl, it's disgusting. The first thing that comes to mind is: Those men should be shot. But when you hear about the female teacher who blows a fuse and decides to suck off her entire 8th grade class, as a man only 2 things come to mind: 1) where was she when I was in school!? And, 2) which one of those little bastards told their mom? Like Joe kept saying, when he was 13 and it happened to him, it was awesome. Joe kept justifying this guy's experience must have been bad because it's his step mom. But I guarantee you Joe's thinking of his bit the entire time, lol. 1;52 ruclips.net/video/6DVFVPIRX6c/видео.html
@@soulife8383 Well experience is relative. That's for sure. No pun intended. It also has to do with how society sexualizes girls and boys long before we are aware of what sex really is or how serious it can be. A lot of things seems fun until you take a moment to think about what really happened later in life. Then you see how messed up that really was and how it was something you probably shouldn't have been doing.
Thank you for sharing. I was molested by my uncle and my mom swept it under the rug and it stayed hidden. Telling me to just not to allow myself to be alone with him. My aunt her brother helped me by taking me to the police so I could press charges and he went to jail. I was able to somewhat take control of the situation and that helped me but it still messed me up for a long time. Alcohol and promiscuity was my bandaid. Now I rarely drink and no longer need a bandaid. I do not hide what has happened to me and I am not ashamed of it. Wish it had not happened as it broke apart all of the family on my dads side but oh well. No loss there. Bringing this out of the darkness gives the victim the power to heal. Thank you again and I am sorry you had a shitty step-mom and dad. Every child deserves to have someone who will stand up for them and protect them.
What people don’t get about this sort of thing, is that it warps your whole world view for life, and it takes a huge amount of effort to see reality without the tint left by past trauma.
Yes, trauma (like this) lays a distorted lens over your entire view/feeling of the world which takes a long, long time to heal. Well done for speaking up.
After my experience I couldn't trust people with the degree of love I had before. I will always have that voice or framework in the back not to full invite this person in.
Agreed. I feel like a lot of people don't see it that way. They just see it as one way. "Women get sexually assaulted. Not men." I have heard this sentence so many times from other people. Mostly women and its simply not true at all. Both men and women experience this. Not just women. Thank you for your comment and i hope you have a great day/night. Stay safe. 👍
This hits so hard lost my innocence at the age of 8 under almost the same circumstance. You blame yourself and think there is something wrong with you and you internalize it and shut everyone else out. Extremely hard to have any personal relationships or build friendships after even still it’s hard to think about and deal with.
I cant believe i am saying this but here goes. I am nigerian, i live in the uk now. When i was a kid in nigeria between the age of 3 to 6 years old. I was sexually abused by a female babysitter. She was a teenager then. Its among my earliest memories, she also introduced me to pornography as well and it became such an obsession that i got into a lot of trouble growing up trying to aquire porn, like stealing stealing my aunts laptops when my mum hid mine so i can get access to it. When i told my mum about the abuse, guess what she said, because i am a guy i should be happy, a lot of guys would have wanted that action as such a young age. Years Later she explains to me that tge reason she told me that was because she did not want me to dwell on it and let it affect my life (too late). I love my mum, she is actually more modern than most african parents, she has since apologised about what she said, i was 18 yrs old when this happened. I am 28 yrs old now, trying to get therapy for a porn addiction that saw me miss lectures and not graduate due to wasting hours of my life downloading and viewing porn. I have a gd job now and i am doing a lot better in life, just regretting the wasted yrs. It makes me sad sometimes you know. My emotional/sexual issues resulted in me losing someone i loved and hoped to marry after a 4 year relationship, i cheated on her, by sexting other women multiple times (scumbag i know). For her that such of cheating is as bad as having sex, especially due to her being more sensitive cause she suffers from depression. I tried to stop sexting but i couldnt, it was a cheap thrill for me and it has cost me a lot,my ex is a wonderful human being. Due to my obsession with porn and masturbation over the yrs i dont get any pleasure through penetrative sex, part of why i chased fantasy sex via sexting. My point is bro you are not alone, good luck.
I felt this on so many levels, I didn’t realize until now at 25 that experience mine was with a sister and I was like 9 but it kinda shapes you and it definitely showed in my behavior. I never really spoke about it either until last year because i didn’t understand why I was acting the way I was acting I don’t know if it was a repressed memory or what but all these feelings hit me at one point and I could literally see myself back in that situation and it sent me spiraling out of control and I got into a bad place and several unsafe situations. It definitely doesn’t help when you try to treat those feelings with drugs and alcohol it makes them stronger. When you talk openly about it with someone you trust it’s healing it’s weight off your shoulders. I appreciate him sharing his story 100% hopefully I can follow his path and become the person I needed when I was younger.
@@sirforsa keep scrolling further down and you'll find all the ignorant people and trolls who are saying shit like "at least he got laid, he's just whining". It's just fucking sad.
@@backbone93 you're about as much a psychologist as I'm a transgender robot dinosaur whos only interested in Japanese school girls. "Domt get errected by dont wanting it." Learn english before you write anything down dumbass.
He can be proud of his way he digested the past and how he become. It took me 15 years more to digest what my mother did to me about the same age. Talking about it is so important. I wish I heard this kind of discussion years earlier, but for others this is so fu***ng important. Thanks a lot for this episode!
"You're who you were but until you have a 12 or 14 yr old standing beside you, you don't get how little you still were." Something like that, this guest. I feel that SO HARD!
@@suryadas6987 funny how? Funny like a clown? Like he amuses you? He's here to amuse you? How the fk is he funny?! What the fk is so funny about him?! Come on tell me! 😂😂😂👍
i experienced this with my step dad, mother didn't believe me when i told her. The guy has kids too who don't know he did this to me. I'm now 33 and just don't speak to my family whatsoever.
I read your comment and thought it was brave to say with all the damn trolls in the comment section. Then I read your name and was like who is this person? And I clicked on your pic and to my amazement we are subscribed to a lot of the same RUclips channels which I thought was interesting. We probably have a lot in common. You're cool. (And we are super close in age too)
Ya, my stepfather tried to come at me like that. I immediately told my mother, & she did nothing. I don’t know if it’s a question of her _believing_ you, or not. It may be more like she just didn’t know how to handle it, or she just didn’t want to deal w it. As time has passed, & understanding more about sexual abuse, I think that my mother was abused, herself. I know that she would never admit that to me, if I asked her directly. She does her church thing, & I leave her be. I only see her for an hour, or so, on holidays.
This dude is cool as fuck. Huge respect. Lost, drunk, broken, and scared became sober, strong, a champion, and a man using his platform to its most positive extent. I hope this guy has a wonderful life. This is what a man looks like. Let's all play like a champion today
What does that mean? Is it a saying or something? I googlified it and found nada but poo. ‘your house left to be your home’? You’re either way ahead of me ... or you type like a 🥴 ~derp ... derp
You’re a brave soul for sharing ur story. Reading from the comments, many did relate to your story in different ways yet same sort of abuse.makes me realize how sick this world is. Hope you heal kevin and All of you out there❤️
I’m really sorry to hear. I went through a similar experience in my life. The weirdest part is the therapy bit. The same sort of bs happened; they feel elated and get an ego boost and you’re like, wtf. Self destructive behaviour followed. But I’m choosing to keep fighting past it and understand it and change my life!! No more wallowing. Keep strong!!!
Kevin, thank you for having the courage to speak up about your experience. As a man who was also molested as a child by a woman I can say without a doubt it is an earth shattering experience. It took me more than 20 years to heal from what was done. Anyone who has experienced something like this, just know you are NOT alone. You will heal. And you did not deserve what was done to you
Man, that was one of the most amazing things I’ve ever heard. Kevin, thank you so much for sharing certainly lifted a lot of burden from my heart …Joe handle that with so much poise and understanding.. just amazing the amount of depth. very rare to hear it up there, but it’s here. It’s right here in this interview. Thank you much both of you.
This is why Joe Rogan , and all these type of podcasts are a MILLION times more important than Mainstream Media. 2 very brave men being honest and helping so many by doing so !
It’s ok Kevin I was molested by my adult babysitter (40+ Year old woman) off and on for a year when I was 8/9 years old. I buried it for a long time but it (your mother figures abuse) wasn’t your fault and it’s ok to be angry and to feel violated because you were. It has stunted my ability to love and let people get close it obviously broke something but I’m sorry to say I haven’t found any relief seeing psychiatrist or anyone else.. but it does help to hear other stories and share my own the few times the subject comes up. I do try to look at some positives I attribute to surviving.. it has definitely made me more resilient to lives challenges and given me nearly unlimited determination when I hear about someone being abused and trying to help them.
@@zachwalker1731 cool, so take out ur anger on him. Ur hating on the wrong person sir and u know it. While i can agree with you, don't take it out on him. Good luck.
You can really tell the perverts in the comments, exactly why society is filled with sexual abuse because there’s creeps that think of it as being “cool” 🤮
There’s so much validity to his pain. He had his innocence taken and it caused confusion and probably self-loathing. I feel for this guy. He was being used for this woman’s pleasure and it might even be worse than rape by a stranger.
I wonder if he watched the Michael Malice episode of JRE where Michael talked about the importance of talking about abuse and listening to people who were abused and feel like no one wants to hear about it. Michael said it was the one thing he wanted to talk about on the podcast.
Courage is the ability to do something which scares you. Real courage is facing that ‘one thing’ we all have buried deep inside us that’s so painful, it disgusts us and we feel like we’d literally die if anyone knew. This took a huge amount of real courage!
Honestly when he said she manipulated him by saying it wasnt a stranger...I bet it would have been a little easier to handle if it was a stranger. A parent AT HOME is suppose to b protecting u, home is suppose to b safe...
a society should be measured by its treatment of children. so devastating. i have a sibling whose molestation by her father has been responsible for massive destruction over the course of her life. this shit is incredible common, despicably so. i'm proud of him for speaking about this. major courage and such humility. truly inspiring.
phenomenal, now if we could only get a men's group online for all of them who have been through this. I have been supporting a young man who is now 30 and could no longer carry the burden of what his own mother did in his teen years. We need this. Thank you.
It's good that men can talk about stuff like this without ridicule nowadays. I was never sexually abused from what I can remember, but my heart goes out to all my bros out there who had to go through it.
I wasnt sexually abused but neglected. My alcoholic mother abandoned me at 14 for a summer so she could live with my step dad (he didn't want kids around) I lived at my brothers apartment by myself for 6 weeks. Her drinking was awful and I'd had to deal with it since I was 4, so I actually enjoyed the peace to begin with, but in hindsight it wasn't normal. 20 yrs later I'm single, live on my own, unemployed rn but keeping positive. My mum and step dad till drink and argue, they're in their 60s... i rarely drink now, glad I realised at a young age how alcohol destroys people & relationships. Thanks for the honesty Kevin, it's helping. X
@@mytoesarecold5555 In general, sex crimes aren't punished that harshly. Check out the number of sex offenders that live in your city, you'll be shocked.
It goes beyond my understanding how someone could do this to a child, there are some truly disgusting and twisted people out there. Respect to this man for being vocal about those issues
39 years old and his friends still think its the "Coolest shit ever" I'm 23 and if I told my friends this situation and they replied with that I would think they are absolute immature idiots.
Although i my self have never had this happen, i do have close friends that have. Good for you reaching out to kids that feel they are alone. Your the type of person who restores my faith in humanity. There needs be more people like you in the world.
I think alot if it has to do with the fact that it was his step mom, she got him to fuck over his dad, and a parent is not supposed to be a sex partner, totally different than banging some random milf, 12 is pretty young though.
"Joe rogan has openly mocked older women abusing boys when the older woman is hot" Nice job twisting things up on purpose. hes mocked 16 year olds banging their teachers and the fact that the women end up having to go to prison for 10+ years.
This video Kevin was spot on. I can see the pain in your eyes and I get what you’ve been through. I’m dealing with it myself. This video WILL help others, that’s a promise. Keep up the good work. If you’re in LA, hot me up. I’d be down to talk about things with you. Hang in there man, it will get better. 🤙🏻
Kevin Thank you for your courage and sacrifices for our children. If not for our children then what is suffering and truth for? As HE has done for us is what he called you to. I pray for you and your family. Betrayal and exploitation of a child is the worst. God bless you and thank you.
@@yungpaleontologist7409 He is programmed to think that life is about having sex, making lots of money and having kids. This is the cycle most people are trapped in, therefore when one of the other experiences lacks the "essential" of having sex, he can make fun of them to make himself feel better about his "life". He is probably very insecure about himself, which also explains the "who gives a shit" "i am a though guy" attitude. I hope this clarifies
I am truly sorry for what happened to you. I am a survivor too. So many people have told me to just get over it. It is extremely terrifying to talk about and process it. Thank you for being able to talk about it. 💕💜💕
Joe rogan your show has helped understand myself and helped me cope with my current situation in life. God bless you and don’t ever stop your podcast it’s changing lives! Thank you 😊
- I’m sorry this happened to you. It takes a toll, and I understand how it does in that way. Your dad should’ve been been there for you, to protect you and keep you safe. When you’re old enough to know what’s right and wrong and your parents aren’t doing it and you’re the one who’s being hurt... idk it changes you. They shouldn’t have kept her around. How mentally exhausting and excruciating for you. You are so strong dude. Well done for speaking up. 🤍
Kevin is obviously courageous in many ways, but the courage he'll need to overcome deep trauma will challenge him to the core. His greatest fight lies ahead.
I think that when guys say they wished it'd happen to them, they don't realize the effect it's going to have on their relationships, how they'll treat their body, their perception of sex and love, instead of discovering that part of their lives themselves someone else comes and causes them psychological damage. People need to stop seeing sex as just a physical thing and realize there's so much more involved.
It took a lot of courage to speak about this and I appreciate him. I totally relate to what he said about the realization of just HOW YOUNG we were when these adults preyed on us. When I see a child who’s between 7-12 years old I’m still in shock. My thirties have been very eye opening.
Because dude doesn't care about older women abusing young men, he has said many times get over it pretty much. Definitely doesn't care when it happens to males for whatever reason.
You don't know Joe's intention in doing that. You're guessing it is for selfish reasons, I'd bet that's not true. I'm guessing it was to make him feel less alone, and continue to feel ok opening up, and you'll notice it relaxes his guest.
I can recall 5 or so instances of absolute predatory behaviour from adults when I was around 13-16 from both men and women. I was always pretty wide to the world though. Badly broken home, early substance abuse and a lot of promiscuity, you start to know what people’s are intentions are. Even a teacher in my secondary/high school drove me home one day at the end of the school year and we sat in her car smoking cigarettes. I know now what she was about and what she was after. She’s the principle now.
This exchanges exemplifies what Rogans detractors fail to recognise, his ability to create a platform/space where this topic can be raised and talked about without cloying sentimentality.Men having deep conversations and bonding over the exchange.I don't even know who this gentleman is....but he is a gentleman. Keep the faith.
Male childhood abuse is real. Massive props to this guy for speaking up. When i was 4 years old, a man we had hired to help us with housework, used to take me into a room and sexually abuse me. Only when i told my mom in a vague manner(i dont remember what i told her), did my parents find out and obviously get rid of him. I am 24 now, studying at a good school and getting close to graduating with much to be grateful for, but i've been thinking about this in detail for the last few weeks. Im honestly so lost and confused. The more i think about it, the more my mind sort of blocks and cant get itself to think about it more. There is no way i can bring myself to talk about this to anyone..not yet at least. Its easier to type things out anonymously(this isn't my real name) over a youtube thread. If anyone has any suggestions for what i should do, please let me know
Listen to more people talking about it, try finding true friends and family to whom you can share your story with too. There are alot of people in a similar situation like yours in these comments too. And if you haven't already, I hope you can check out Dr. Jordan B. Peterson's lectures and videos on here (They've proven to help alot of people).
Im a female survivor of sexual abuse but I find it helpful to read posts on Reddit on the r/metoo page and post there as well. But beware there are assholes that will comment on your post just to make you feel like shit for no reason. I’m here to talk if you need. Also, the same thing happened with me, I blocked it out until it started popping into my thoughts. Don’t try to run from it, you just have to start working through it. It’s not easy but you’re certainly not alone
@@peachfuzz7329 thanks for your kind words. I am so sorry for what happened to you. May God grant you ease from such a traumatic incident. Are you on discord or something? I'd love to talk to you over an(ideally) anonymous messaging platform. I feel the more I can talk about it and have someone to bounce off of, the more I can make sense of things
No good. A step mother is someone you're supposed to be able to trust and turn to when for one reason or another your biological mother couldn't be there. Having been taken advantage of at such a young age must be tough as shit. Also goes to show rape goes both ways.
Big love to this man. I'm trying to do the same. Studying Criminology at Uni at the moment, then I am thinking of a psych conversion. I want to work with young people who think they don't have a choice, that don't have anyone. Be that person that fought their corner and taught them they had worth here.
During the part where Kevin said "some people even say for guys it's a good thing" man I wonder what Joe was thinking that moment. Wish the camera had shown his face.
Wow. The comments are such sympathetic and heart warming messages. Not at all the "why didnt they report or say anything then, why wait 10, 15, 20 yrs" bullcrap
I’d never go that route but what I will say is that I do have an issue with adult victims who still haven’t reported child abusers who are likely still doing it to other children or have done it to others without consequences. I’d never blame a child or adolescent victim for not reporting when they were young - Ever. But if you’re reading this and are like 29 and still haven’t reported the person then you’re allowing it to happen to someone else because some of these creeps don’t stop just because they’re like 62. If they’re alive it’s only a matter of opportunity. And it then becomes your responsibility to speak out no matter how vulnerable you feel in doing so. Protecting others then is more important than your own feelings.
It happens to us as males and we're told to keep our mouths shut etc. School staff will make fun of you etc. There will be nobody you can trust and you will spend your entire life just trying to figure out wtf is wrong with you.... If you're currently going through this, and are seeing this.... Get tf out as soon as possible, and don't look back. It's not your fault, but it's your responsibility to get tf away and break the cycle. A lot of the things he is saying are right and I understand him, myself, from experience.
That is terribly sad to hear. Yeah, don’t “keep your mouth shut”. It allows the abuse to continue. Allows the manipulation of your mind to continue so even years afterward you won’t want to tell anybody. But when you tell the right people, you get the chance to heal and sometimes it takes hearing a story like Kevin’s to realize “oh yeah, this resonates” and you start to make sense of things. And hopefully you’ll have people around you that love you no matter what when that happens
Men speaking up about childhood abuse by women we need more of this god bless this man
I agree, the more voices we have the more people realise that most issues go both ways. In this day and age people have the toxic mindset that men can't be raped, molested and abused etc. They tell them to "man up" just like the other comment on here.
We need to realise that we are all human and stop thinking of issues being gender tailored, because in most instances they apply to men and women.
Start being a human. Also, people who are handsome don’t normally have to advertise it...
Women predators are never held accountable for their Bs.
But the step-mother step-son porno themes are sooooooooo goooooood.
@@kilalawak70 This is not the time or place for that joke.
That took A LOT of courage. You have my respect for showing such courage.
Papa Steve 🙌🏻
This man has a lot of courage for sharing his trauma so publicly 💯% respect. Hope he finds a positive end in his journey
Truth
Damn, u want his journey to end?
That's cold blooded
@@kliflord1527 Obviously the OP was not talking about him commiting suicide. He means the journey from a young victim of abuse into a full recovery.
@@gamercatsz5441 you never fully recover from some things, you just try to live a better life each day.
Gamer he was definitely talking suicide
These abusers are incredibly selfish. To devastate a child’s life, before it’s even started, for a fleeting, minuscule, hedonistic personal satisfaction. Literally the worst
Well said.
Only the insecure and weak mock people who have been abused. The strong give compassion and empathy without judgment.
What if an abused person sees people like this as weak? Who's to say how anyone else should feel?
Bobby Marm
Can you give any examples of people who were abused who saw themselves and others who were abused as weak?
@@hindsightpov4218 myself and plenty of other strong people. Obviously Joe didnt get all cry baby about it either
Bobby Marm
No, you’re just a troll who’s full of it. You’re convincing no one of your BS.
@@bobbymarm9978 nice try mate..
What a strong man. Going public with abuse is scary. But telling our secrets outloud takes away their power over us. I'm proud of you. I also love that Joe made his podcast available for this purpose.
N to do it on a platform like rogans is fckin crazy.
As a victim of the same thing with my 17 year old half sister and me being 4 to 5 Years old I totally understand everything he is saying. Everything he said was EXACTLY how it felt. Both during and the issues that have stemmed with it afterwards to this day.
His stories literally bring me back to when this happened to me. The depression, anxiety and distrust in women growing up. I really do wonder what my life would have been like had this not happened.
I only wanted to share that this happened to me so that people that see this maybe have another example that they are not alone. For the longest time I thought I was. It was another reason I kept
It bundled up for a long period of time.
Jack Jensen thank you for sharing 🌷
Jack Jensen
You are to be commended for your bravery for openly speaking about this. You are not alone. Sharing your story does help others, so you are making a positive difference. Thank you.👍
People really don’t realize that women can commit sexual assault, sorry that ever happened to you
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That's horrible. Im so sorry this has happened to you. Parents are supposed to protect their children. My heart aches for you. 😢💔
Lmao stfu lol
You act like he didnt got a hard d skedd and in warm pus, lmao he just needs attention and dont wants to work, and tells this story to dumb unfukable folks
@@backbone93 I beg you're kidding
@@bavanboughan3404 He's not kidding. He has at least one other comment here that's equally as retarded. He's a true mental midget. I'm from India and my English is better than this clown's!
@@backbone93 ahk man's joking
@@backbone93 the fuck is wrong with you dawg !? Even if you are right and he is lying about that shit happening to him ............that still doesn't explain you carrying on like some fuckwit fool on here lmao
It is horrible that this happens to anyone but it is rare that men talk to so humbly and emotionally about it. It is brave to see this man talk like this really hurt him instead of acting like it didn't and laughing it off like some men are prone to do. His honesty is refreshing.
Yay let's mock men for how they emotionally deal with things.
Maybe men aren’t as honest about such things due to the reactions society has towards such honesty. Men are still expected to be “tough”, and not complain.
Well it is a fact that this simply doesn't affect some guys , actually i should say "negatively" affect. Id be willing to bet at least half that experience something like this don't.......AT LEAST 50% guaranteed ,in all honesty its probly more like 75%
Joe Rogan did a bit on this. He called it the sexual inequality of child molestation. Basically, it is different for most men.
When you hear about a grown man molesting a 14yr old girl, it's disgusting. The first thing that comes to mind is: Those men should be shot. But when you hear about the female teacher who blows a fuse and decides to suck off her entire 8th grade class, as a man only 2 things come to mind: 1) where was she when I was in school!? And, 2) which one of those little bastards told their mom?
Like Joe kept saying, when he was 13 and it happened to him, it was awesome. Joe kept justifying this guy's experience must have been bad because it's his step mom. But I guarantee you Joe's thinking of his bit the entire time, lol.
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@@soulife8383 Well experience is relative. That's for sure. No pun intended.
It also has to do with how society sexualizes girls and boys long before we are aware of what sex really is or how serious it can be. A lot of things seems fun until you take a moment to think about what really happened later in life. Then you see how messed up that really was and how it was something you probably shouldn't have been doing.
Jokes aside. JRE is an incredibly important show for men.
V much so. ‘Be the person you needed when you were younger’
Agreed
It really brings attention to so many personal issues men may face despite being stigmatized by society not to talk about their feelings
It's good for woman too but I know what you mean
Instablaster.
you can hear his voice shiver as soon as the video starts... what a brave soul.
Thank you for sharing. I was molested by my uncle and my mom swept it under the rug and it stayed hidden. Telling me to just not to allow myself to be alone with him. My aunt her brother helped me by taking me to the police so I could press charges and he went to jail. I was able to somewhat take control of the situation and that helped me but it still messed me up for a long time. Alcohol and promiscuity was my bandaid. Now I rarely drink and no longer need a bandaid. I do not hide what has happened to me and I am not ashamed of it. Wish it had not happened as it broke apart all of the family on my dads side but oh well. No loss there. Bringing this out of the darkness gives the victim the power to heal. Thank you again and I am sorry you had a shitty step-mom and dad. Every child deserves to have someone who will stand up for them and protect them.
I have upmost respect for this guy for even thinking about talking about this. Good for him.
Just for future reference, the term is utmost. Dumb word but thats the one
@Greg Bryan you have my uppermost appreciation
What people don’t get about this sort of thing, is that it warps your whole world view for life, and it takes a huge amount of effort to see reality without the tint left by past trauma.
Exactly
Ugh . Perfectly said.
Yes, trauma (like this) lays a distorted lens over your entire view/feeling of the world which takes a long, long time to heal. Well done for speaking up.
Totally
After my experience I couldn't trust people with the degree of love I had before. I will always have that voice or framework in the back not to full invite this person in.
Sexual abuse goes both ways both can happen to men and women
Agreed. I feel like a lot of people don't see it that way. They just see it as one way.
"Women get sexually assaulted. Not men."
I have heard this sentence so many times from other people. Mostly women and its simply not true at all.
Both men and women experience this. Not just women.
Thank you for your comment and i hope you have a great day/night. Stay safe. 👍
Piotruś Scw true while its not as damaging its still not taken as seriously as it should be compared to when it happens to women
@Piotruś Scw everyone is affected differently
@Piotruś Scw that's a pretty low iq evaluation
Piotruś Scw how can you determine that?
This hits so hard lost my innocence at the age of 8 under almost the same circumstance. You blame yourself and think there is something wrong with you and you internalize it and shut everyone else out. Extremely hard to have any personal relationships or build friendships after even still it’s hard to think about and deal with.
Same friend, very similar circumstance too. I was just 10. I really hope you're healing
Yep, and it skews your attempts at relationships for a long while too sadly.
Yup. Just like to do some good fucking
I cant believe i am saying this but here goes. I am nigerian, i live in the uk now. When i was a kid in nigeria between the age of 3 to 6 years old. I was sexually abused by a female babysitter. She was a teenager then. Its among my earliest memories, she also introduced me to pornography as well and it became such an obsession that i got into a lot of trouble growing up trying to aquire porn, like stealing stealing my aunts laptops when my mum hid mine so i can get access to it.
When i told my mum about the abuse, guess what she said, because i am a guy i should be happy, a lot of guys would have wanted that action as such a young age. Years Later she explains to me that tge reason she told me that was because she did not want me to dwell on it and let it affect my life (too late). I love my mum, she is actually more modern than most african parents, she has since apologised about what she said, i was 18 yrs old when this happened. I am 28 yrs old now, trying to get therapy for a porn addiction that saw me miss lectures and not graduate due to wasting hours of my life downloading and viewing porn. I have a gd job now and i am doing a lot better in life, just regretting the wasted yrs.
It makes me sad sometimes you know. My emotional/sexual issues resulted in me losing someone i loved and hoped to marry after a 4 year relationship, i cheated on her, by sexting other women multiple times (scumbag i know). For her that such of cheating is as bad as having sex, especially due to her being more sensitive cause she suffers from depression.
I tried to stop sexting but i couldnt, it was a cheap thrill for me and it has cost me a lot,my ex is a wonderful human being.
Due to my obsession with porn and masturbation over the yrs i dont get any pleasure through penetrative sex, part of why i chased fantasy sex via sexting.
My point is bro you are not alone, good luck.
@@hunterzolomon1303 Sorry to hear that.
I felt this on so many levels, I didn’t realize until now at 25 that experience mine was with a sister and I was like 9 but it kinda shapes you and it definitely showed in my behavior. I never really spoke about it either until last year because i didn’t understand why I was acting the way I was acting I don’t know if it was a repressed memory or what but all these feelings hit me at one point and I could literally see myself back in that situation and it sent me spiraling out of control and I got into a bad place and several unsafe situations. It definitely doesn’t help when you try to treat those feelings with drugs and alcohol it makes them stronger. When you talk openly about it with someone you trust it’s healing it’s weight off your shoulders. I appreciate him sharing his story 100% hopefully I can follow his path and become the person I needed when I was younger.
He's brave cause he's right people don't get it just check out all the negativity in the comments
Ill Logic I swear dude
Where's the negativity in this comment section? Just went through 150 comments...
@@sirforsa there was some pretty brutal first comments I saw the support as well but I commented when I had less than 50 comments
@@sirforsa keep scrolling further down and you'll find all the ignorant people and trolls who are saying shit like "at least he got laid, he's just whining". It's just fucking sad.
@@backbone93 you're about as much a psychologist as I'm a transgender robot dinosaur whos only interested in Japanese school girls. "Domt get errected by dont wanting it." Learn english before you write anything down dumbass.
Wow. This legitimately brought me to tears. U can hear the raw emotion in his voice
Rob, LMFAO very true
f . a . g.
*Joe a few podcasts later*
"I have a buddy that got molested by his stepmom"
@Eric W. You're a turd.
@@milkmeapollo9048 Psh fuckin nerds
Joe " it is just bad when it happends to girls" Rogan
@Eric W. Can you link the podcast/clip for me? Having trouble finding it.
@Eric W. joe rogan is a snake for something that you just made up and hes never done? fucking libtard
He can be proud of his way he digested the past and how he become. It took me 15 years more to digest what my mother did to me about the same age. Talking about it is so important. I wish I heard this kind of discussion years earlier, but for others this is so fu***ng important. Thanks a lot for this episode!
"You're who you were but until you have a 12 or 14 yr old standing beside you, you don't get how little you still were." Something like that, this guest. I feel that SO HARD!
Kevin Ross has to be one of my favourite guests on JRE very well spoken
The immaturity and ignorance in these comments toward this man is staggering.
Exactly. My first thought was that the comments were going to be pure cancer.
But if it was there GF or wife they would be livid smh.
Yeah its real bad. just ignore them. Most of them are trolls that want to get a rise out of pissing people off.
@Rob You're a funny guy, Tommy! 😂
@@suryadas6987 funny how? Funny like a clown? Like he amuses you? He's here to amuse you? How the fk is he funny?! What the fk is so funny about him?! Come on tell me! 😂😂😂👍
i experienced this with my step dad, mother didn't believe me when i told her. The guy has kids too who don't know he did this to me. I'm now 33 and just don't speak to my family whatsoever.
I read your comment and thought it was brave to say with all the damn trolls in the comment section. Then I read your name and was like who is this person? And I clicked on your pic and to my amazement we are subscribed to a lot of the same RUclips channels which I thought was interesting. We probably have a lot in common. You're cool. (And we are super close in age too)
Ya, my stepfather tried to come at me like that. I immediately told my mother, & she did nothing.
I don’t know if it’s a question of her _believing_ you, or not. It may be more like she just didn’t know how to handle it, or she just didn’t want to deal w it.
As time has passed, & understanding more about sexual abuse, I think that my mother was abused, herself. I know that she would never admit that to me, if I asked her directly. She does her church thing, & I leave her be. I only see her for an hour, or so, on holidays.
@@anubis2044 Stop hitting on a random dude.
@@jasond.blahasognuthugger5227 your next
Xx
This dude is cool as fuck. Huge respect. Lost, drunk, broken, and scared became sober, strong, a champion, and a man using his platform to its most positive extent. I hope this guy has a wonderful life. This is what a man looks like. Let's all play like a champion today
Thank you Kevin Ross, and Joe Roman for sharing your experiences because grown-ups should not have sex with minors.
Nerdy old white Guy sounds like you’re tryin to get with old Mrs. Franks bud.
He was clearly struggling to tell this. What courage. Respect!
I dont know who this guy is, but I've got much respect for him...whatever he does, I'm now a fan..
You're changing lives with your story. Bless you.
The worst betrayal was that your house left to be your home. Nowhere to take cover
therealgoody Lmfao
What does that mean? Is it a saying or something? I googlified it and found nada but poo. ‘your house left to be your home’?
You’re either way ahead of me ...
or you type like a 🥴 ~derp ... derp
probably the molesting here mate
GoogleJim I think he meant your home becomes just a house
@@agroumoutis yes, i think home as the place you feel safe. I suppose he preferred to stay in friends house till late than return home.
Kevin, you bravely helped so many, right now, there are so many who for a moment dont feel so alone.
You’re a brave soul for sharing ur story. Reading from the comments, many did relate to your story in different ways yet same sort of abuse.makes me realize how sick this world is. Hope you heal kevin and All of you out there❤️
I’m really sorry to hear. I went through a similar experience in my life.
The weirdest part is the therapy bit. The same sort of bs happened; they feel elated and get an ego boost and you’re like, wtf.
Self destructive behaviour followed. But I’m choosing to keep fighting past it and understand it and change my life!! No more wallowing. Keep strong!!!
What an amazing example... being vulnerable and having the freedom to express. Everybodys heart opens up to that.
Kevin, thank you for having the courage to speak up about your experience. As a man who was also molested as a child by a woman I can say without a doubt it is an earth shattering experience. It took me more than 20 years to heal from what was done. Anyone who has experienced something like this, just know you are NOT alone. You will heal. And you did not deserve what was done to you
Man, that was one of the most amazing things I’ve ever heard. Kevin, thank you so much for sharing certainly lifted a lot of burden from my heart …Joe handle that with so much poise and understanding.. just amazing the amount of depth. very rare to hear it up there, but it’s here. It’s right here in this interview. Thank you much both of you.
This is why Joe Rogan , and all these type of podcasts are a MILLION times more important than Mainstream Media. 2 very brave men being honest and helping so many by doing so !
It’s ok Kevin I was molested by my adult babysitter (40+ Year old woman) off and on for a year when I was 8/9 years old. I buried it for a long time but it (your mother figures abuse) wasn’t your fault and it’s ok to be angry and to feel violated because you were. It has stunted my ability to love and let people get close it obviously broke something but I’m sorry to say I haven’t found any relief seeing psychiatrist or anyone else.. but it does help to hear other stories and share my own the few times the subject comes up. I do try to look at some positives I attribute to surviving.. it has definitely made me more resilient to lives challenges and given me nearly unlimited determination when I hear about someone being abused and trying to help them.
Cool a girl fucked you lmao ive been molested by men and women i can promise you brotha one is alot worse🤢
Srry u went through tht bs, all i can say is. Try not to dwell on it. We all know thts easier said than done.
@@zachwalker1731 cool, so take out ur anger on him. Ur hating on the wrong person sir and u know it. While i can agree with you, don't take it out on him. Good luck.
@@vperkv6554 yea i dont play stupid games honestly i was just telling you how it really is
@@vperkv6554 or the original guy who posted not you
You can really tell the perverts in the comments, exactly why society is filled with sexual abuse because there’s creeps that think of it as being “cool” 🤮
My personal message to these cretins defending women's sexual abuse of literal children is simply, "ok pedo."
i havent seen any of these comments, but theyre probaly just jokes man like cmon, try and take a joke plz.
A lot of parents are so whipped or are such pussies that they won't even report it.
There’s so much validity to his pain. He had his innocence taken and it caused confusion and probably self-loathing. I feel for this guy. He was being used for this woman’s pleasure and it might even be worse than rape by a stranger.
I wonder if he watched the Michael Malice episode of JRE where Michael talked about the importance of talking about abuse and listening to people who were abused and feel like no one wants to hear about it. Michael said it was the one thing he wanted to talk about on the podcast.
Be pure in these wicked times.
Courage is the ability to do something which scares you. Real courage is facing that ‘one thing’ we all have buried deep inside us that’s so painful, it disgusts us and we feel like we’d literally die if anyone knew. This took a huge amount of real courage!
Well said JE
Wow that’s terrible . Jesus . My heart goes out to this guy
Honestly when he said she manipulated him by saying it wasnt a stranger...I bet it would have been a little easier to handle if it was a stranger. A parent AT HOME is suppose to b protecting u, home is suppose to b safe...
That also would mess with my mind as I got older (if I were here) because it’s she knows that it is isn’t right but won’t say it.
Can hear the pain in his voice.
a society should be measured by its treatment of children. so devastating. i have a sibling whose molestation by her father has been responsible for massive destruction over the course of her life. this shit is incredible common, despicably so. i'm proud of him for speaking about this. major courage and such humility. truly inspiring.
phenomenal, now if we could only get a men's group online for all of them who have been through this. I have been supporting a young man who is now 30 and could no longer carry the burden of what his own mother did in his teen years. We need this. Thank you.
It's good that men can talk about stuff like this without ridicule nowadays. I was never sexually abused from what I can remember, but my heart goes out to all my bros out there who had to go through it.
I wasnt sexually abused but neglected. My alcoholic mother abandoned me at 14 for a summer so she could live with my step dad (he didn't want kids around) I lived at my brothers apartment by myself for 6 weeks. Her drinking was awful and I'd had to deal with it since I was 4, so I actually enjoyed the peace to begin with, but in hindsight it wasn't normal. 20 yrs later I'm single, live on my own, unemployed rn but keeping positive. My mum and step dad till drink and argue, they're in their 60s... i rarely drink now, glad I realised at a young age how alcohol destroys people & relationships. Thanks for the honesty Kevin, it's helping. X
yy xx you still have time to create a beautiful life, best of wishes to u
Jared fogle ....life in prison
Jane fogle ...2 months probation
Yeah, right. He only got 15 yrs for actually raping LITTLE children.
@@mytoesarecold5555 In general, sex crimes aren't punished that harshly. Check out the number of sex offenders that live in your city, you'll be shocked.
It goes beyond my understanding how someone could do this to a child, there are some truly disgusting and twisted people out there. Respect to this man for being vocal about those issues
People who say sexual abuse towards boys by women dosnt count must just ignore all guys saying how much it fucked them up .
39 years old and his friends still think its the "Coolest shit ever" I'm 23 and if I told my friends this situation and they replied with that I would think they are absolute immature idiots.
He was referring to when he was 14.... ?
Although i my self have never had this happen, i do have close friends that have. Good for you reaching out to kids that feel they are alone. Your the type of person who restores my faith in humanity. There needs be more people like you in the world.
TOO PAINFUL TO CONTINUE WATCHING 😢 😭😭😭😭😭
Bless your soul & spirit ❤️ PLEASE STAY STRONG, FOR ALL OF US ❤️😘
Joe Rogan has openly mocked older women abusing boys if the woman is hot, and says its not the same etc
I think alot if it has to do with the fact that it was his step mom, she got him to fuck over his dad, and a parent is not supposed to be a sex partner, totally different than banging some random milf, 12 is pretty young though.
Yeah and now we know why. He was abused at the age of 14 by an adult.
"Joe rogan has openly mocked older women abusing boys when the older woman is hot"
Nice job twisting things up on purpose. hes mocked 16 year olds banging their teachers and the fact that the women end up having to go to prison for 10+ years.
He’s always used the hot teacher example. This is your step mom.
I think that he has been drawing from his experience of being molested.
Be the person that you needed when you were young! Such an amazing quote!!
This video Kevin was spot on. I can see the pain in your eyes and I get what you’ve been through. I’m dealing with it myself. This video WILL help others, that’s a promise. Keep up the good work. If you’re in LA, hot me up. I’d be down to talk about things with you. Hang in there man, it will get better. 🤙🏻
Kevin Thank you for your courage and sacrifices for our children. If not for our children then what is suffering and truth for? As HE has done for us is what he called you to. I pray for you and your family. Betrayal and exploitation of a child is the worst. God bless you and thank you.
Big Ups to being brave enough to share your story.
12 was late to kiss a girl? Sht I started extra late
22 for me... Psychological damage if you get it too early or too late lol, sometimes I think psychological damage is just inevitable no matter what
@Rob I personally hate people like you
@Rob what's wrong with being a virgin in the first place lmao
@@yungpaleontologist7409 He is programmed to think that life is about having sex, making lots of money and having kids. This is the cycle most people are trapped in, therefore when one of the other experiences lacks the "essential" of having sex, he can make fun of them to make himself feel better about his "life". He is probably very insecure about himself, which also explains the "who gives a shit" "i am a though guy" attitude.
I hope this clarifies
@Real Donald Trump true
Them talking about their first kiss happening and 12 being late
*me having my first kiss at 18😐*
18 and still kicking 😂, definitely not alone
Generation Z
Mad respect takes a lot to open up God bless this man
I am truly sorry for what happened to you. I am a survivor too. So many people have told me to just get over it. It is extremely terrifying to talk about and process it. Thank you for being able to talk about it. 💕💜💕
This conversation// story was the most beneficial statement I have ever heard.
Jesus all these lil kids in these comment sections taking about “aha cool”
Aha cool
That’s the world these days. This is our future.
Joe rogan your show has helped understand myself and helped me cope with my current situation in life. God bless you and don’t ever stop your podcast it’s changing lives! Thank you 😊
Exactly it's a cycle that evolves, yes to hear another speak really inspiring
- I’m sorry this happened to you. It takes a toll, and I understand how it does in that way. Your dad should’ve been been there for you, to protect you and keep you safe. When you’re old enough to know what’s right and wrong and your parents aren’t doing it and you’re the one who’s being hurt... idk it changes you. They shouldn’t have kept her around. How mentally exhausting and excruciating for you. You are so strong dude. Well done for speaking up. 🤍
Poor guy, good on him for confronting this awful monster in his past. It’s just so sad.
Kevin is obviously courageous in many ways, but the courage he'll need to overcome deep trauma will challenge him to the core. His greatest fight lies ahead.
Saw a clip yesterday of Joe Rogan laughing about this exact scenario. Hope he's changed his perspective now.
I was wondering the exact same thing.
Hopefully he can see and hear the pain in this man's voice.
This is one of the best podcasts you've had.
I think that when guys say they wished it'd happen to them, they don't realize the effect it's going to have on their relationships, how they'll treat their body, their perception of sex and love, instead of discovering that part of their lives themselves someone else comes and causes them psychological damage.
People need to stop seeing sex as just a physical thing and realize there's so much more involved.
Such a special podcast, moment. God bless
I understand exactly where he comes from. Good on him for this!!!
It took a lot of courage to speak about this and I appreciate him. I totally relate to what he said about the realization of just HOW YOUNG we were when these adults preyed on us. When I see a child who’s between 7-12 years old I’m still in shock. My thirties have been very eye opening.
Joe's follow up saying about his great experience sleeping with a 21 year old is so insensitive it's staggering lol
My thoughts exactly!!! It was epically douchey!
Because dude doesn't care about older women abusing young men, he has said many times get over it pretty much. Definitely doesn't care when it happens to males for whatever reason.
You don't know Joe's intention in doing that. You're guessing it is for selfish reasons, I'd bet that's not true.
I'm guessing it was to make him feel less alone, and continue to feel ok opening up, and you'll notice it relaxes his guest.
@@11dubs30 Feel better by saying, "I LOVED it" while the other guy said it traumatized him?!? Sure thing, buddy. 🙄
They can disagree, doesn’t mean that it pressured the guest or made his experience irrelevant
I like, never cry or even come close, but I got a little choked up listening to all that
I can recall 5 or so instances of absolute predatory behaviour from adults when I was around 13-16 from both men and women. I was always pretty wide to the world though. Badly broken home, early substance abuse and a lot of promiscuity, you start to know what people’s are intentions are. Even a teacher in my secondary/high school drove me home one day at the end of the school year and we sat in her car smoking cigarettes. I know now what she was about and what she was after. She’s the principle now.
I feel his pain
This exchanges exemplifies what Rogans detractors fail to recognise, his ability to create a platform/space where this topic can be raised and talked about without cloying sentimentality.Men having deep conversations and bonding over the exchange.I don't even know who this gentleman is....but he is a gentleman. Keep the faith.
“be the person that you needed when you were younger”
Male childhood abuse is real. Massive props to this guy for speaking up.
When i was 4 years old, a man we had hired to help us with housework, used to take me into a room and sexually abuse me. Only when i told my mom in a vague manner(i dont remember what i told her), did my parents find out and obviously get rid of him.
I am 24 now, studying at a good school and getting close to graduating with much to be grateful for, but i've been thinking about this in detail for the last few weeks. Im honestly so lost and confused. The more i think about it, the more my mind sort of blocks and cant get itself to think about it more. There is no way i can bring myself to talk about this to anyone..not yet at least. Its easier to type things out anonymously(this isn't my real name) over a youtube thread.
If anyone has any suggestions for what i should do, please let me know
Listen to more people talking about it, try finding true friends and family to whom you can share your story with too. There are alot of people in a similar situation like yours in these comments too.
And if you haven't already, I hope you can check out Dr. Jordan B. Peterson's lectures and videos on here (They've proven to help alot of people).
Im a female survivor of sexual abuse but I find it helpful to read posts on Reddit on the r/metoo page and post there as well. But beware there are assholes that will comment on your post just to make you feel like shit for no reason. I’m here to talk if you need. Also, the same thing happened with me, I blocked it out until it started popping into my thoughts. Don’t try to run from it, you just have to start working through it. It’s not easy but you’re certainly not alone
@@peachfuzz7329 thanks for your kind words. I am so sorry for what happened to you. May God grant you ease from such a traumatic incident.
Are you on discord or something? I'd love to talk to you over an(ideally) anonymous messaging platform. I feel the more I can talk about it and have someone to bounce off of, the more I can make sense of things
@@saifullahdurrani6322 I mostly use Reddit for anonymous stuff, but I have snapchat and Instagram as well
Stay strong, bro! I really appreciate your story.
I don't think Joe gets it even though he's explaining it
Joe’s equipped to discuss a few subjects in depth, but this is not one of them. Fighting, comedy, hunting, weed. That’s about it.
No good. A step mother is someone you're supposed to be able to trust and turn to when for one reason or another your biological mother couldn't be there. Having been taken advantage of at such a young age must be tough as shit. Also goes to show rape goes both ways.
Rape is psychological
Joe Rogan needs some sort if recognition publically. What a public good this show is.
I needed to hear this. Thank you brother!
Taking advantage of someone is never cool.
I'm so sorry you had to go through this. I can hear that injured you.
Mad respect brother. That took major guts to talk about. Good on you, Friend.
Big love to this man. I'm trying to do the same. Studying Criminology at Uni at the moment, then I am thinking of a psych conversion. I want to work with young people who think they don't have a choice, that don't have anyone. Be that person that fought their corner and taught them they had worth here.
I just adore joes silence when he spoke.
During the part where Kevin said "some people even say for guys it's a good thing" man I wonder what Joe was thinking that moment. Wish the camera had shown his face.
Wow. The comments are such sympathetic and heart warming messages. Not at all the "why didnt they report or say anything then, why wait 10, 15, 20 yrs" bullcrap
I’d never go that route but what I will say is that I do have an issue with adult victims who still haven’t reported child abusers who are likely still doing it to other children or have done it to others without consequences. I’d never blame a child or adolescent victim for not reporting when they were young - Ever. But if you’re reading this and are like 29 and still haven’t reported the person then you’re allowing it to happen to someone else because some of these creeps don’t stop just because they’re like 62.
If they’re alive it’s only a matter of opportunity.
And it then becomes your responsibility to speak out no matter how vulnerable you feel in doing so. Protecting others then is more important than your own feelings.
Thank you so much for this video...just, wow, thank you.
It happens to us as males and we're told to keep our mouths shut etc. School staff will make fun of you etc. There will be nobody you can trust and you will spend your entire life just trying to figure out wtf is wrong with you....
If you're currently going through this, and are seeing this.... Get tf out as soon as possible, and don't look back. It's not your fault, but it's your responsibility to get tf away and break the cycle.
A lot of the things he is saying are right and I understand him, myself, from experience.
That is terribly sad to hear. Yeah, don’t “keep your mouth shut”. It allows the abuse to continue. Allows the manipulation of your mind to continue so even years afterward you won’t want to tell anybody. But when you tell the right people, you get the chance to heal and sometimes it takes hearing a story like Kevin’s to realize “oh yeah, this resonates” and you start to make sense of things. And hopefully you’ll have people around you that love you no matter what when that happens
More people need to see this.