I can soooo relate. I did the most ADHD thing ever: I forgot I was diagnosed. Seriously. Just like you, as soon as I got to college, everything fell apart. After pretty much flunking out of school, I was desperate and went to see a psychologist at my school’s disability office. The result? “Oh, you have ADHD and dyscalculia.” Well that was in 2011. I didn’t get diagnosed by my own doctor until 2022, ELEVEN YEARS later. I struggled all through my twenties because I genuinely forgot that I had ADHD. And yes, the hardest part that I come to grips with is always “why didn’t anyone else catch this sooner?!” Culturally, Black people (I can only speak from the Black American perspective) typically shun things that have to do with mental illness or disability. We either don’t address it or it’s “they’re a little slow” or “lazy” or whatever other negative connotation you want to use. I wish there was more understanding about ADHD and how it specifically affects Black women because there’s sooo much to unpack there.
I can really relate to your story. Like, the "nobody to hold you accountable" point really spoke to me. When COVID hit, mess hit the fan. I broke down. That's when I should have left school. But I wanted to jug along and try. I got diagnosed with depression and was put on meds. And things get better...for a little. But eventually I left college, which left me so ashamed. I'm back in school now (2 years later) and when it comes to work, sometimes, I can't just do it. Imagine a "do school work" lever in the mind. That lever isn't pulled until the last minute. And it pisses me off. I'm trying to do things step at a time, but man that mess is hard. The amount of times I sat at my desk staring at my laptop and doing nothing is insane. Even getting ready to study exhausts me. Powering up my computer, getting my books, setting up my notes, etc just makes me mentally tired. Ughhhhhh. Stuff sucks. But I'm trying to see about psychiatrist. Because yah girl is at her breaking point.
I relate soo much to this. My symptoms got so much worse after the pandemic and in the SAME YEAR, leaving school, having a very close bereavement and having to cut off most of my social circle. All of that messed up my mental health and my ADHD symptoms have gotten so bad. My forgetfulness is very severe and I have to re-read things more than 3 times to help it sink in. Half of my assignments are half finished. Coherent thought is also really hard in combination with depression and anxiety. I feel I'm starting to become a liability for my patients (i work in healthcare as a student) because i am making more mistakes, because of forgetfulness and slower processing, that are causing potential harm. As a result my colleagues have to help in often for things i've already been taught multiple times because i forget. I am starting to doubt if i can pass my course. I'm finding it so hard to mask because of the pressure. I am on the waiting list for a diagnosis.
Oh man, I’m sorry to hear about the hard time you’re having. ADHD is not an easy thing to deal with, but it’s not impossible. It’s super discouraging whenever you’re in a society that doesn’t really understand or work for brains like ours. Are you able to be honest with your program and let them know that you’re dealing with this? I know a lot of universities legally can’t discriminate against you for it and can even offer accommodations. Now I know that can be kind of difficult because even though they can’t LEGALLY discriminate, sometimes people still do. But either way I’m glad that you’ve made the steps to start to look into your ADHD and I hope that you do eventually get checked out that it goes well for you! 💜
This is So saddddddddd..... And that our healthcare professionals are too 'masking' to fit into the social 'status' is EVIIL. Indicates that schooling for Providers ( of health) is a process that deeply wounds and brakes them down.... How are we ( as a society) ever going to recover here?
This is where am at as well. My memory is getting bad unless I write things down. I have so many uncompleted projects and the pressure of doing every day things is overwhelming and stops me completely. Even though I know I have to get things done. It’s mentally exhausting.
Oh man, I’m sad that you went through some of those things, but it also feels good to know that other people have gone through similar situations! It’s crazy how common it is yet I don’t see too many conversations about it. I hope you’re on the better side of your journey. It can be difficult, but I believe in us!!! Thank you for watching and sharing this comment 💜💜💜
This is one of the best ADHD videos I've seen on RUclips. Thank you so much for sharing your story! I was diagnosed this year in April. I am 30 years old. I always thought I was different, slow, and odd. I have also struggled with depression and anxiety & I agree--being diagnosed & treated for ADHD has helped tremendously! Thank you for highlighting the importance of ADHD and black women. This is certainly not discussed enough. Please know you're never alone!
Aww thank you! I’m hoping that this video helps someone that’s feeling the same way I did. I honestly could’ve benefited so much from a video like this a couple of years ago. I really appreciate this comment!!! It truly means a lot! Thank you 💜💜💜
I really resonate with this, thank you for this video. As someone who just got diagnosed at 32 I really spent my life struggling in school feeling “stupid” and knowing that it was ADHD has really helped quiet that voice for me
Loved this❤ I cried too lol and was so embarrassed but I know how you feel. It’s like damn, I knew SOMETHING was wrong.. I was so happy to know what it was to get help.
I’m glad to know I’m not the only one lol. It was definitely extremely emotional having someone validate my feelings and to get help with the issue. I was super embarrassed because my psychiatrist later told me that my first appointment was on his birthday 😂 the realization that he had to spend part of his birthday watching me boohoo cried in his office is actually hilarious yet embarrassing to me. But I’m glad that you were able to get help with your diagnosis! Thank you so much for watching and leaving this comment 💜💜💜
@@Ari_Says_Stuff no problem girl, thanks for your content, I feel seen lol. I’m glad you got your diagnosis too! Kudos to us for breaking cycles, you know how stigmatized these things can be in our community. 💕
Nothing wrong with that! Mental health has ebbs and flows. I’m glad that you’re at a point of relearning. I’m wishing you the best on your journey and thank you so much for watching 💜💜💜
Undiagnosis is not the issue. Depression is really societal suppression of authencity. Outside "diagnosis" is a psychological projection onto empathic beings. You are on your hero's journey, which means you can diagnose yourself. "Know thyself" leads to receiving info from nature.
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I can soooo relate. I did the most ADHD thing ever: I forgot I was diagnosed. Seriously.
Just like you, as soon as I got to college, everything fell apart. After pretty much flunking out of school, I was desperate and went to see a psychologist at my school’s disability office.
The result? “Oh, you have ADHD and dyscalculia.” Well that was in 2011.
I didn’t get diagnosed by my own doctor until 2022, ELEVEN YEARS later. I struggled all through my twenties because I genuinely forgot that I had ADHD.
And yes, the hardest part that I come to grips with is always “why didn’t anyone else catch this sooner?!”
Culturally, Black people (I can only speak from the Black American perspective) typically shun things that have to do with mental illness or disability. We either don’t address it or it’s “they’re a little slow” or “lazy” or whatever other negative connotation you want to use. I wish there was more understanding about ADHD and how it specifically affects Black women because there’s sooo much to unpack there.
"I was excited to be there, but they were not excited to have me" ~ the Story of my life in _certain_ spaces
I had almost the exact same journey. We see each other, girl. You are definitely not alone ❤
Aww thank you for this comment! It was definitely an emotional journey but it’s good to know I’m not alone in it!!!! Thank you for watching 💜💜💜
I can really relate to your story. Like, the "nobody to hold you accountable" point really spoke to me. When COVID hit, mess hit the fan. I broke down. That's when I should have left school. But I wanted to jug along and try. I got diagnosed with depression and was put on meds. And things get better...for a little. But eventually I left college, which left me so ashamed.
I'm back in school now (2 years later) and when it comes to work, sometimes, I can't just do it. Imagine a "do school work" lever in the mind. That lever isn't pulled until the last minute. And it pisses me off. I'm trying to do things step at a time, but man that mess is hard. The amount of times I sat at my desk staring at my laptop and doing nothing is insane. Even getting ready to study exhausts me. Powering up my computer, getting my books, setting up my notes, etc just makes me mentally tired. Ughhhhhh. Stuff sucks. But I'm trying to see about psychiatrist. Because yah girl is at her breaking point.
"How has no one ever noticed?" ~ I heard this a few weeks ago. 💔😔
I relate soo much to this. My symptoms got so much worse after the pandemic and in the SAME YEAR, leaving school, having a very close bereavement and having to cut off most of my social circle. All of that messed up my mental health and my ADHD symptoms have gotten so bad. My forgetfulness is very severe and I have to re-read things more than 3 times to help it sink in. Half of my assignments are half finished. Coherent thought is also really hard in combination with depression and anxiety. I feel I'm starting to become a liability for my patients (i work in healthcare as a student) because i am making more mistakes, because of forgetfulness and slower processing, that are causing potential harm. As a result my colleagues have to help in often for things i've already been taught multiple times because i forget. I am starting to doubt if i can pass my course. I'm finding it so hard to mask because of the pressure. I am on the waiting list for a diagnosis.
Oh man, I’m sorry to hear about the hard time you’re having. ADHD is not an easy thing to deal with, but it’s not impossible. It’s super discouraging whenever you’re in a society that doesn’t really understand or work for brains like ours. Are you able to be honest with your program and let them know that you’re dealing with this? I know a lot of universities legally can’t discriminate against you for it and can even offer accommodations. Now I know that can be kind of difficult because even though they can’t LEGALLY discriminate, sometimes people still do. But either way I’m glad that you’ve made the steps to start to look into your ADHD and I hope that you do eventually get checked out that it goes well for you! 💜
This is So saddddddddd.....
And that our healthcare professionals are too 'masking' to fit into the social 'status' is EVIIL.
Indicates that schooling for Providers ( of health) is a process that deeply wounds and brakes them down....
How are we ( as a society) ever going to recover here?
This is where am at as well. My memory is getting bad unless I write things down. I have so many uncompleted projects and the pressure of doing every day things is overwhelming and stops me completely. Even though I know I have to get things done. It’s mentally exhausting.
We have almost the same story, it’s crazy
Oh man, I’m sad that you went through some of those things, but it also feels good to know that other people have gone through similar situations! It’s crazy how common it is yet I don’t see too many conversations about it. I hope you’re on the better side of your journey. It can be difficult, but I believe in us!!! Thank you for watching and sharing this comment 💜💜💜
This is one of the best ADHD videos I've seen on RUclips. Thank you so much for sharing your story! I was diagnosed this year in April. I am 30 years old. I always thought I was different, slow, and odd. I have also struggled with depression and anxiety & I agree--being diagnosed & treated for ADHD has helped tremendously! Thank you for highlighting the importance of ADHD and black women. This is certainly not discussed enough. Please know you're never alone!
The lack of support that gifted minorities experience during their academic careers is just awful. It is absolutely awful.
Thank you for speaking your truth. There's so many people out there who will appreciate your bravery here.
Aww thank you! I’m hoping that this video helps someone that’s feeling the same way I did. I honestly could’ve benefited so much from a video like this a couple of years ago. I really appreciate this comment!!! It truly means a lot! Thank you 💜💜💜
I really resonate with this, thank you for this video. As someone who just got diagnosed at 32 I really spent my life struggling in school feeling “stupid” and knowing that it was ADHD has really helped quiet that voice for me
I think you might be saving my life right now. Thank you!
Loved this❤ I cried too lol and was so embarrassed but I know how you feel. It’s like damn, I knew SOMETHING was wrong.. I was so happy to know what it was to get help.
I’m glad to know I’m not the only one lol. It was definitely extremely emotional having someone validate my feelings and to get help with the issue. I was super embarrassed because my psychiatrist later told me that my first appointment was on his birthday 😂 the realization that he had to spend part of his birthday watching me boohoo cried in his office is actually hilarious yet embarrassing to me. But I’m glad that you were able to get help with your diagnosis! Thank you so much for watching and leaving this comment 💜💜💜
@@Ari_Says_Stuff no problem girl, thanks for your content, I feel seen lol. I’m glad you got your diagnosis too! Kudos to us for breaking cycles, you know how stigmatized these things can be in our community. 💕
Omg, yes. I am re-learning this again after 4 years ago. It's so real.
Nothing wrong with that! Mental health has ebbs and flows. I’m glad that you’re at a point of relearning. I’m wishing you the best on your journey and thank you so much for watching 💜💜💜
Undiagnosis is not the issue. Depression is really societal suppression of authencity. Outside "diagnosis" is a psychological projection onto empathic beings. You are on your hero's journey, which means you can diagnose yourself. "Know thyself" leads to receiving info from nature.
Yes can you talk about the costs? Some people are quoting me $4200 for an evaluation
What!!!!? That price is ridiculous.
It’s very expensive, I just paid $3200 to have my kid tested.
If you have any evidence of academic or employment difficulties, your insurance should cover it.
I paid $600 for 2 sessions to be diagnosed by the ADHD center of Washington DC. It was virtual sessions so you should definitely look into it.
Thank you so much for this video. You are not alone, sis. ❤
Thank you so much for this information!Can you make a video expressing your medication experience?
Thank you so much for sharing your story.
We have the same lamp!!
Thank you so much for sharing, it is so much appreciated, more thank you will ever know. Wishing you all the best on your journey 🙏