Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldnt just let her go i did all i could to get her back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring her back
Used to be anxious but now thanks to therapy I have a secure attachment style. I found that communication is one of the most important things in a relationship. I’m healing my abandonment trauma so I’m not anymore scared of being refused and thanks to this I’m comfortable in communicating and addressing any kind of issues (and by doing this I’m also able to control my overthinking).
This gave me hope I’m anxious attachment. I had parents, mum with anxious attachment and dad avoided attachment. So I jump from anxious and disorganised attachment. I get scared thinking if I open up can the other person be trusted? Or I get scared assuming why hasn’t he text etc . I know you can’t fix someone but sometimes if you’re a puzzle then you just need the correct puzzle piece.
Used to be anxious and disorganized. It was very hard dating, but luckily I found someone who was patient with me. I have definitely become more secure over time.
I think more and more people should see this video to become aware of this concept because it will really help in self- reflection. I am definitely a mix of Secure and Anxious attachment styles.
I learned about attachment styles a few months ago after my friendship with my best friend ended and let me tell you, it was very eye opening and explained a lot on why that friendship didn't work out as well as past friendships/relationships I had (I have an anxious attachment style). I wish I had known and been more aware of this a long time ago because it could've saved me a lot of heartbreak but better late than never I guess. I teared up a bit at the end when you said "you can't change another person's attachment style", it's sad but so damn true. Now I try to be more self-aware and understanding of others actions before I get ahead of myself. It's difficult at times but knowing and understanding attachment styles has also helped a lot. Thank you for this video Joey as always ❤
Anxious here! And realising that I’ve primarily been with avoidants and fearful avoidants. I totally agree with self soothing and finding your own zen. Have practiced it too. 3 years of therapy has helped build security in my own way.
Same here! My girlfriend of 10 months just left me yesterday. I did some research and learned about attachment styles. All my exes have been avoidant and fearful avoidants? Are anxious people drawn towards them specifically? Why!!
I know for sure that I have an anxious attachment style, but after recent events, I can see myself having a disorganized (fearful) attachment style. I am in the process of finding a therapist to help, amongst other things. Thank you for this :)
Having both anxious and disorganized attachment styles is so tiring and makes me just want to give up on love, no matter how much I want to feel love..
Anxious but slowly towards to secure with tons of trust and communication and understanding from where each of us is coming from that all we want to is to grow and get stronger within our relationship.
I learnt about attachment styles this year & it was eye opening to see why some people are the way they are! It’s very true we can’t fix or change them if they’re not willing to. I am more of an anxious attachment style. Also, thanking you joey for talking about attachment styles. They’re so important when it comes to dating & relationships ❤
I've never been in a relationship but your videos are kind of soothing for some reason I just watch it and relax and, well I understand a lot of things better. thank you ❤️
Definitely the anxious one. I've been going to therapy for 6 years now and it helped me a lot over time. For almost a month now I actually do take anxiety meds and I feel much more comfortable in my own head and I don't actually overthink things a lot anymore. Therapy really helps. Thanks for the video 🫶
I admit that I have anxious attachment, that I constantly need reassurance that nothing has changed. Also this is so beautifully explained thank you, keep going Joey❤
Some time ago, I was completely having anxious attachment pattern, many self sessions of sitting with myself and reflecting on my behaviour and ofcourse this video did help me to analyse I'm moving towards secure attachment style but not completely there, also anxious attachment would have it's effect on me always but it can always be minimised through reflecting and maintaining strong boundaries. Thanks for the video Joey!🤍
I recognize that I have anxious attachment. Being adopted from China and feeling abandoned in my early years may have played a role in shaping how I approach relationships. I’m learning to understand how these experiences have affected me, and I’m working on healing and building healthier connections.
I guess I’m stuck in between of secure attachment and anxious attachment. I feel secure to have close relationships but when it evolves into intimacy, I start to freak out. Thanks for the insight Joey. I’ll work on this ❤
I think I’ve found myself between secure and anxious. So often in the beginning I am trusting of the person, we’re adults after all. But then I start overthinking little details like them taking longer to reply or them putting less effort in their previously intentional responses. It puts me in this tailspin of “what did I do that seemingly pushed them away like this?” Its nice to have this lens of how I conduct myself, so I hope I can slowly work towards being comfy with this kinda distance I keep encountering
Many experiences have helped me have a secure attachment. It took a lot of growing and being okay with what happens by focusing only on what I can control. But like you said there’s always something we can work on 🙃
This helps a lot for what am I going through now. I have anxious attachment but I've been reflecting myself a lot.. and I see that the more I try to understand things.. I'm going towards secure attachment.. after watching this videos.. i somewhat understand why me and that guy didnt worked out.. he got disorganize attachment.. now all i can do is be better for myself.. and i hope he does too. ❤
I am the anxious type ...and it makes so much more sense now that why I behave like this when I am dating someone. I sometimes feel like I am suffocating the other person when it's not the way I think
Can I be a little bit of both? The 'unicorn of dating' like, you didn’t text me for a whole day, that’s cool-but also totally freaking out on the inside when there’s no reply, just not showing it. Honestly, after waiting forever for that one message that never came, I kinda just stopped waiting for anything at all. Every single one of your videos are so on point, Joey!
I totally understand you, I’m also a bit of both. I’m sat here thinking okay where do I fall in all these boxes, but I guess it helped to not think of it as boxes, but a spectrum. For example, I fall in between secure and anxious, not in the centre but leaning closer to secure.
I took a test, surprisingly said I'm secure. Though I use to be anxious, I did 3 things that you listed to become more secure. I still have a few anxious feelings but I understand and get it now.
Thanks for the video, definitely an eye opener, it made a lot of sense, unfortunately I still have a lot of work to do, especially now that i know im the anxious attachment type, all my recent n past behaviours make sense now, time to dig deep n understand myself a little better
I am an anxious attachment, but ever since my last broke up with my avoidant ex, i've learned to be more communicative about my boundaries. Plus i was also a people pleaser, so i'm so bad at setting boundaries. But, Joey's right, there's always room for growth. At least for now, i'm not anxious anymore on the early stages of dating. I hope on my next relationship, i'm more secure than i was in my last.
Currently I would say after watching this I would be considered having an anxious attachment style. And I thank you for this video. I really needed it! Gives me one more reason why I should seek help and get therapy!
as someone who usually secured in the relationship i feel it’s more like keeping ur mind clear and i don’t depend on the person emotions that much because i know that i don’t have control over them but this doesn’t mean that i live the healthy life and i don’t get sad over the disappointment that comes afterwards if ur partner doesn’t have similar attachment for u or if he is avoidant as an example as someone who has been in relationships with this type of people it’s so confusing and frustrating i do personally think who ever act avoidant around you is just not fully interested on you that’s what all about
I used to feel completely stuck with an anxious attachment style. But as I’ve grown and become better at communicating my needs and understanding the needs of my partner I fall more in the secure attachment. Don’t get me wrong, there’s still a lot of anxious moments but I feel that my current partner, with our shared understanding of the importance of honest communication, has really assisted in my security. Thank you for sharing
I’m definitely 4 & 5 someone just recently got me to open up abit more and I did because I love them an want to be able to communicate better and the texts I’ve been there I’ve checked back after sent thanks Joey! ❤ love all your videos!!! Love from Tennessee
I’m definitely more of an anxious attachment stylistic person. It’s definitely strange because I’m usually the logical type, but then I just get all gooey wanting intimacy, it’s so weird thinking about it
I'm more on anxious attachment but as we communicated well, I see myself doing best for me, still checking if he replied but I'm more comfortable knowing he's just having Sunday with his family. But oftentimes, I want him to chat with me 😂 anxiousness is soooo much sometimes
i feel that i have an avoidant attachment style, but recently i feel that it turns into disorganized attachment style. i've been reading book to understand on how to work on it, there's always room for growth and changes
I'm the one who doesn't message people, the one who can disappear for days at a time, but it's not bc I don't care. In fact, I care waaay too much and worry about smother people and pushing too hard because I don't like to be pushed on--at least until I do. I struggle with letting people in, and when I finally do, it's like I'm quietly preparing for things to go wrong, but I don't want them to. So I guess I'm caught somewhere between anxious-avoidant and just plain disorganized. Sigh.
When im getting to know a stranger, im a disorganised attachment. Then after a while, i became anxious attachment for a month or two. Now? Im secure-ly attached with Adam, Bal and everyone I love
Am I the only one who experiences anxious, avoidant, and disorganized attachment styles? 🥺 Honestly, your videos help a lot; they're truly therapeutic for me! ❤
fun fact the attatchment styles theory is part of what is called the psycho-dynamic therapies and its one of the few psychoanalitic theories supported by empirical evidence. also, disorganized attachment is very characteristic in people with borderline personality disorder
This gave me hope I’m anxious attachment. I had parents, mum with anxious attachment and dad avoided attachment. So I jump from anxious and disorganised attachment. I get scared thinking if I open up can the other person be trusted? Or I get scared assuming why hasn’t he text etc . I know you can’t fix someone but sometimes if you’re a puzzle then you just need the correct puzzle piece.
As a FA my biggest heart break was with a DA, I am glad now that I can move on, but it doesn't mean it hurt. He just couldn't meet my need to be loved.
Disorganized with a pinch of anxiety, what you said really resonates with me. I’m terrified and exhausted of dating. Craving for that affection and connection but getting scared and pulling up the walls really is tiresome and something I need to learn how to let go of in order to grow in that secured style. Thanks for the eye-opener 🤍
I think I'm mix of anxious and secure attachment style. I'm acting like a secure one but I have this constant anxiety. I think that I'm secure one just for this one boy. We were friends almost our whole life, dated for 8 months and he left me month and half ago because he lost feelings. We are still in touch and we want to stay friends but it's hard for us. He said he still loves me but as a friend and he is devastated because HE hurt me (he hates seeing me sad). He is very important to me and I trust him more than anyone so I don't think I'll trust any other boy like that. I decided to let him be happy, even if it is without me, even tho I want him so much. I just don't want him to be sad when I leave because I think he will regret letting me go and I hate the fact that he could be in pain. I want to protect him. And the more I talk about this, the more I know that I need to let him go.
Having friendship feels like it’s ending because I feel like my friends see me invisible sometimes but sorry to say this I never had a relationship I only had one in grade 0
Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldnt just let her go i did all i could to get her back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring her back
Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach him/ her?
Her name is Shelly renee white , and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive
I'm so sorry you're feeling this way-letting go of someone you deeply love is incredibly hard, but take it one day at a time. Healing will come.
Used to be anxious but now thanks to therapy I have a secure attachment style. I found that communication is one of the most important things in a relationship. I’m healing my abandonment trauma so I’m not anymore scared of being refused and thanks to this I’m comfortable in communicating and addressing any kind of issues (and by doing this I’m also able to control my overthinking).
This gave me hope I’m anxious attachment. I had parents, mum with anxious attachment and dad avoided attachment. So I jump from anxious and disorganised attachment. I get scared thinking if I open up can the other person be trusted? Or I get scared assuming why hasn’t he text etc . I know you can’t fix someone but sometimes if you’re a puzzle then you just need the correct puzzle piece.
what kind of healing Sir?
Used to be anxious and disorganized. It was very hard dating, but luckily I found someone who was patient with me. I have definitely become more secure over time.
wow i am so happy for you!
I think more and more people should see this video to become aware of this concept because it will really help in self- reflection.
I am definitely a mix of Secure and Anxious attachment styles.
I hope it coms across to more people! and I am like a combo of all four hah
Anxious one here, trust me, it makes you lose everything you had and you are left feeling guilty of your actions
but luckily you are not alone with this feeling
I learned about attachment styles a few months ago after my friendship with my best friend ended and let me tell you, it was very eye opening and explained a lot on why that friendship didn't work out as well as past friendships/relationships I had (I have an anxious attachment style). I wish I had known and been more aware of this a long time ago because it could've saved me a lot of heartbreak but better late than never I guess. I teared up a bit at the end when you said "you can't change another person's attachment style", it's sad but so damn true. Now I try to be more self-aware and understanding of others actions before I get ahead of myself. It's difficult at times but knowing and understanding attachment styles has also helped a lot. Thank you for this video Joey as always ❤
I love how you emphasized on the fact that we are not stuck no matter what attachment style we have and there’s ways to change. Thank you
We are changing and growing every single day so how could we be stuck? Always keep going
mix of secure and anxious, i’m getting there 😅
hey that is really good!
Oooh definitely 2,3 & 4 are my attachment styles🤣🤣
Anxious here! And realising that I’ve primarily been with avoidants and fearful avoidants. I totally agree with self soothing and finding your own zen. Have practiced it too. 3 years of therapy has helped build security in my own way.
Same here! My girlfriend of 10 months just left me yesterday. I did some research and learned about attachment styles. All my exes have been avoidant and fearful avoidants? Are anxious people drawn towards them specifically? Why!!
book Unveiling Your Hidden Pontential can change your life. Habit must be not outcome based but rather identity based. Stay blessed.
looks like we have a book to read folks!
I know for sure that I have an anxious attachment style, but after recent events, I can see myself having a disorganized (fearful) attachment style. I am in the process of finding a therapist to help, amongst other things. Thank you for this :)
Good for you to reach out to therapy to better understand this
WHERE IT WAS 4 WEEKS AGO WHEN I NEEDED IT???
haha don't worry self growth is always needed
Having both anxious and disorganized attachment styles is so tiring and makes me just want to give up on love, no matter how much I want to feel love..
okay why are we the same person though
i believe in u erika
Anxious but slowly towards to secure with tons of trust and communication and understanding from where each of us is coming from that all we want to is to grow and get stronger within our relationship.
I learnt about attachment styles this year & it was eye opening to see why some people are the way they are! It’s very true we can’t fix or change them if they’re not willing to. I am more of an anxious attachment style. Also, thanking you joey for talking about attachment styles. They’re so important when it comes to dating & relationships ❤
I've never been in a relationship but your videos are kind of soothing for some reason I just watch it and relax and, well I understand a lot of things better. thank you ❤️
Definitely the anxious one. I've been going to therapy for 6 years now and it helped me a lot over time. For almost a month now I actually do take anxiety meds and I feel much more comfortable in my own head and I don't actually overthink things a lot anymore. Therapy really helps. Thanks for the video 🫶
Disorganized attachment is so isolating. Thanks for the video 💛
You are so welcome!
Used to anxious attachment but thank god i found out that small gestures and communication can break the ice.
I admit that I have anxious attachment, that I constantly need reassurance that nothing has changed. Also this is so beautifully explained thank you, keep going Joey❤
Some time ago, I was completely having anxious attachment pattern, many self sessions of sitting with myself and reflecting on my behaviour and ofcourse this video did help me to analyse I'm moving towards secure attachment style but not completely there, also anxious attachment would have it's effect on me always but it can always be minimised through reflecting and maintaining strong boundaries. Thanks for the video Joey!🤍
I'm anxious attachment and maybe a little of disorganized, and thank you for the video! You have helped me so much.
This video quality is absolutely unmatched
I recognize that I have anxious attachment. Being adopted from China and feeling abandoned in my early years may have played a role in shaping how I approach relationships. I’m learning to understand how these experiences have affected me, and I’m working on healing and building healthier connections.
Anxious and already working on it. Gonna share this with many. Thanks for the video.
I guess I’m stuck in between of secure attachment and anxious attachment. I feel secure to have close relationships but when it evolves into intimacy, I start to freak out. Thanks for the insight Joey. I’ll work on this ❤
I am definitely anxious attachment style!!! Ive always known this, but hearing it is different. And hearing how to help me is great ❤
I think I’ve found myself between secure and anxious. So often in the beginning I am trusting of the person, we’re adults after all. But then I start overthinking little details like them taking longer to reply or them putting less effort in their previously intentional responses.
It puts me in this tailspin of “what did I do that seemingly pushed them away like this?”
Its nice to have this lens of how I conduct myself, so I hope I can slowly work towards being comfy with this kinda distance I keep encountering
Many experiences have helped me have a secure attachment. It took a lot of growing and being okay with what happens by focusing only on what I can control. But like you said there’s always something we can work on 🙃
This helps a lot for what am I going through now. I have anxious attachment but I've been reflecting myself a lot.. and I see that the more I try to understand things.. I'm going towards secure attachment.. after watching this videos.. i somewhat understand why me and that guy didnt worked out.. he got disorganize attachment.. now all i can do is be better for myself.. and i hope he does too. ❤
I am the anxious type ...and it makes so much more sense now that why I behave like this when I am dating someone. I sometimes feel like I am suffocating the other person when it's not the way I think
Love you’re videos man you’ve helped me so much growing, maturing into a man, helping me go through my breakups and problems. Thank you
appreciate you and glad they are helping!
Definitely anxious but definitely going to be working on becoming secure now I'm self aware I can start making changes to my life ❤
Love me but do not leave me is so real…absolutely the anxious one.. n I really need to work on it !
Can I be a little bit of both? The 'unicorn of dating' like, you didn’t text me for a whole day, that’s cool-but also totally freaking out on the inside when there’s no reply, just not showing it. Honestly, after waiting forever for that one message that never came, I kinda just stopped waiting for anything at all. Every single one of your videos are so on point, Joey!
I totally understand you, I’m also a bit of both. I’m sat here thinking okay where do I fall in all these boxes, but I guess it helped to not think of it as boxes, but a spectrum. For example, I fall in between secure and anxious, not in the centre but leaning closer to secure.
@@palesamngadi8439 Yeah, I’m with you, no doubt.
Thank you so much this video came at the right time. Love your videos they help me so much to understand why these things happen. ❤❤❤
aww i am glad
Anxious and avoidant attachments for sure!
I took a test, surprisingly said I'm secure. Though I use to be anxious, I did 3 things that you listed to become more secure. I still have a few anxious feelings but I understand and get it now.
I have this Secure and anxious attachment style!
This was great video✨🙌🏿
More on the anxious side, bit on the disorganized. Gets confusing! Trying to learn better. This helps!
The weird thing is every partner makes me act in diff style
Thanks for the video, definitely an eye opener, it made a lot of sense, unfortunately I still have a lot of work to do, especially now that i know im the anxious attachment type, all my recent n past behaviours make sense now, time to dig deep n understand myself a little better
I am an anxious attachment, but ever since my last broke up with my avoidant ex, i've learned to be more communicative about my boundaries. Plus i was also a people pleaser, so i'm so bad at setting boundaries. But, Joey's right, there's always room for growth. At least for now, i'm not anxious anymore on the early stages of dating. I hope on my next relationship, i'm more secure than i was in my last.
Currently I would say after watching this I would be considered having an anxious attachment style. And I thank you for this video. I really needed it! Gives me one more reason why I should seek help and get therapy!
as someone who usually secured in the relationship i feel it’s more like keeping ur mind clear and i don’t depend on the person emotions that much because i know that i don’t have control over them but this doesn’t mean that i live the healthy life and i don’t get sad over the disappointment that comes afterwards if ur partner doesn’t have similar attachment for u or if he is avoidant as an example as someone who has been in relationships with this type of people it’s so confusing and frustrating i do personally think who ever act avoidant around you is just not fully interested on you that’s what all about
I used to feel completely stuck with an anxious attachment style. But as I’ve grown and become better at communicating my needs and understanding the needs of my partner I fall more in the secure attachment. Don’t get me wrong, there’s still a lot of anxious moments but I feel that my current partner, with our shared understanding of the importance of honest communication, has really assisted in my security. Thank you for sharing
This makes so much sense. I think I'm anxious attachment, but I wanna work yo be secure :)
i feel like i don’t have one distinct attachment style. watching this video has made me kinda realize i have a little bit of everything
I’m definitely 4 & 5 someone just recently got me to open up abit more and I did because I love them an want to be able to communicate better and the texts I’ve been there I’ve checked back after sent thanks Joey! ❤ love all your videos!!! Love from Tennessee
I am both anxious and disorganized for sure.
we needed this
anxious attachment since day 1😅🥲
I’m definitely more of an anxious attachment stylistic person. It’s definitely strange because I’m usually the logical type, but then I just get all gooey wanting intimacy, it’s so weird thinking about it
thank you for this ❤ love from cape town, south africa. I'm your biggest fan!
Love this video!! Now I know I have avoidant attachment. Thanks for the video!!
disorganised but slowly working on it
slowly working on it - I like that :)
I was anxious and avoidant, but I'm leaning more toward secure now, though I'm still working on it.
Avoidant and Disorganised, it’s so hard and horrible to try to love but can’t cause of fear
anxious one-i knew already
Mixed secure and anxious 😊
Anxious Attachment
Love your videos
Heading to build the Secure Attachment with myself first 😊
I definitely have anxious, and it's the worst because I constantly need reassurance because I never grew up with any type of reassurance...
Anxious attachment
I’m mostly secure but depending on my partner I can become disorganized. Thank you this video it made me feel so validated💙
Grt information and beautifully represented✨
Thanks a lot 😊
This is something I needed to know...
Glad it came across you and I hope it helped
I'm more on anxious attachment but as we communicated well, I see myself doing best for me, still checking if he replied but I'm more comfortable knowing he's just having Sunday with his family. But oftentimes, I want him to chat with me 😂 anxiousness is soooo much sometimes
Heyyy I didn't know you had a RUclips channel I came from Instagram 😅 this is amazing and yeahhhh my style is anxious 😅😅❤
Disorganised attachment 😢.. I got it now!!
This is interesting 👌👏 and straight to the point
Good one mate!! Was already doing some shadow work lately, ig it'll just make it better :)
I have Anxious attachment style and its sometimes the worst when I can't help but overthink about every little detail. It's depressing 😢
Definitely anxious attachment 😢
As an anxious person mixed with disorganised, it's pure torture 🥲
i feel that i have an avoidant attachment style, but recently i feel that it turns into disorganized attachment style. i've been reading book to understand on how to work on it, there's always room for growth and changes
I believe that I have an anxious attachment, but I know that at sometimes I have had disorganized attachment.
I didn't even know disorganized attachment existed. Turns out I have it
Anxious attachment and it is so hard
I am disorganized but i think i already knew. And that is just the tip of the iceberg
I'm the one who doesn't message people, the one who can disappear for days at a time, but it's not bc I don't care. In fact, I care waaay too much and worry about smother people and pushing too hard because I don't like to be pushed on--at least until I do. I struggle with letting people in, and when I finally do, it's like I'm quietly preparing for things to go wrong, but I don't want them to. So I guess I'm caught somewhere between anxious-avoidant and just plain disorganized. Sigh.
When im getting to know a stranger, im a disorganised attachment. Then after a while, i became anxious attachment for a month or two. Now? Im secure-ly attached with Adam, Bal and everyone I love
Am I the only one who experiences anxious, avoidant, and disorganized attachment styles? 🥺
Honestly, your videos help a lot; they're truly therapeutic for me! ❤
fun fact the attatchment styles theory is part of what is called the psycho-dynamic therapies and its one of the few psychoanalitic theories supported by empirical evidence. also, disorganized attachment is very characteristic in people with borderline personality disorder
This gave me hope I’m anxious attachment. I had parents, mum with anxious attachment and dad avoided attachment. So I jump from anxious and disorganised attachment. I get scared thinking if I open up can the other person be trusted? Or I get scared assuming why hasn’t he text etc . I know you can’t fix someone but sometimes if you’re a puzzle then you just need the correct puzzle piece.
Thank you! Amazing video! Looks like I am Anxious attachment :/
Love your videos fr❤
This was so eye opening. At first I thought I was anxious but now I think I’m disorganized. Is it possible to be both?
Anxious while sometimes being disorganized 😢
As a FA my biggest heart break was with a DA, I am glad now that I can move on, but it doesn't mean it hurt. He just couldn't meet my need to be loved.
very anxious, secure- not,fear of abandonment
I'd say I'm anxious and disorganized with a dash of avoidant.
Disorganized with a pinch of anxiety, what you said really resonates with me. I’m terrified and exhausted of dating. Craving for that affection and connection but getting scared and pulling up the walls really is tiresome and something I need to learn how to let go of in order to grow in that secured style. Thanks for the eye-opener 🤍
Anxious attachment yup thats me
Hey Joey i think am beside you on that couch 😂...... but it hepl ....you helped .... keep on ❤❤
I think I'm mix of anxious and secure attachment style. I'm acting like a secure one but I have this constant anxiety. I think that I'm secure one just for this one boy. We were friends almost our whole life, dated for 8 months and he left me month and half ago because he lost feelings. We are still in touch and we want to stay friends but it's hard for us. He said he still loves me but as a friend and he is devastated because HE hurt me (he hates seeing me sad). He is very important to me and I trust him more than anyone so I don't think I'll trust any other boy like that. I decided to let him be happy, even if it is without me, even tho I want him so much. I just don't want him to be sad when I leave because I think he will regret letting me go and I hate the fact that he could be in pain. I want to protect him. And the more I talk about this, the more I know that I need to let him go.
Having friendship feels like it’s ending because I feel like my friends see me invisible sometimes but sorry to say this I never had a relationship I only had one in grade 0
I'm both anxious and avoidant