I went through something similar early this year. It was a friend I loved as if she was my sister. I realized that I loved the image of her that I created in my head more than the person she actually was. I’m still mourning it, and I felt a real loss when I ended the friendship. But I know it was the right thing to do, and the dynamic was too toxic to continue.
just because you have known them for 10 years doesn't mean they're a good friend to you. Damn wish I had known that months ago when I was holding onto a friendship already dead. Ended it this weekend and a giant amount of weight has left my shoulders.
I just had an awful friendship breakup. The whole “process” lasted 3 months and I couldn’t stop crying and having anxiety attacks, I feel guilty even though the main issue wasn’t caused by me. I’m scared of starting school again and having to hang out with new people whilst having them around.
im in a very similar situation rn and it was refreshing to see this. something ive understood from this experience is that you cant expect people to be like you. you cant always expect the same politeness/understanding you give them from them. i realize now that my friend will neither apologize to me nor talk to me again. and its not my fault so i dont gotta worry about it anymore. anyways, hopefully youre doing better now
I had a friendship breakup in 2020 and sometimes I regret it 'cause I think I could've handled it better and maybe turn the friendship into a simple acquaintances relationship. but, still, I feel so much better without her, my life took a great turn and looking back I just felt like wasting time while being her friend. my resolution is to take things in a more light-hearted way and don't expect much from friends. I feel like lifetime friends are probably 3 if you're lucky, all the rest are just seasonal friends. and I'm OK with this
I had a friend that I genuinely thought would be my forever friend. A little tiff happened between 2 mutual friends and I tried to maintain it so we could remain a group. Not only did she hate that, she chose another girl to be her best friend and talked about me behind my back as if what I did was so heinous. I used to be so heartbroken about it but now I see how self-serving she is. She even had the audacity to say that me trying to repair the friendship is "making things about me." She's not completely wrong but I think when you confront a friend, there should be a bit of softness or buffer because that's supposed to be your best friend...but no. Guess not. Wish her the best but no room for that kind of mentality.
I resonated so much with this. I cut off a lot off people this year and I’ve been feeling a lot better and it’s made room for friends who bring that sun
Loved the video. Broke off with a childhood friend last summer. And it was one of the best decision and long overdue. I was watering a dead plant and she was draining my energy and bringing so much of her drama. Now I might not have found a new friend yet, but I am meeting new ppl and that is so much fun! 😊
Still questioning if I made the right decision reconnecting with a previous bestfriend; it doesn't always feel good.. Still feel like undertones of bullying, gaslighting and purposefully misunderstanding someone so that you can mock them. Truly hope God blesses me with good friends this year, that I am proud of, feel good with & absolutely enjoy.
I cannot tell you how many times i have watched this over the last six months. Two friends were cut as a result, hanging onto something that was no longer serving me. You are soooo right!! Also you’re making me crave spaghetti queen that looks delicious! ♥️
Currently going through the exact loss of a best friend. The first 3 days were the hardest. I have plenty of people who have been telling me exactly what you said about making room for others to love me. This helped alot! Thank you!!
Going through this exact same scenario. We bonded years ago over my divorce and her bad marriage. We were attached at the hip and everyone thought her and I were a couple…lol. It felt great to have such a close bond with a friend again. Flash forward to present time…. She met another controlling guy a year ago that had more red flags than a 49ers parade. She constantly told me all sorts of bad things about this guy’s insecurities and jealousy after one month of dating. Of course, I couldn’t stand him after everything I heard for weeks and weeks. He eventually got jealous of our friendship and got mad when her and I got together. Eventually she started changing and sounded like him after awhile. Started lying to me. I confronted her about the way she was treating me and how the lying hurt and she apologized and said sorry. Unfortunately nothing changed. She was going to break it off with the guy after their Hawaii trip in a few months back because he was an asshole and kept giving her the silent treatment as punishment we he got mad. He ended up proposing to her and to my amazement…she said yes. I finally realized that our friendship was built off of trauma bonding and was complete one sided after awhile but did t want to believe it. I held on to the friend I had in my head that brought so much fun and joy into my life. Eventually the friendship started bringing out a side of me that was not good and was becoming so toxic and stressful. I finally sent her and email on November 1st and let her know that I appreciated the friendship we once had, but had to distance myself from her going forward and that our lives and values were just too different to continue hanging out. I finally valued and respected myself enough to make the heartbreaking decision…but two months later, I’m happy and my anxiety is lower than ever. In the end…best decision for myself and for her as well and no regrets whatsoever. Blessing in disguise that the heartache of it all made me grow into a better version of myself in the end.
I can relate. I have a lot of similarities to my recent experience. I like what you said at the end regarding valuing and respecting yourself. I feel the same regarding my situation and why I chose to end the friendship. I'm still having some pain, though, but I know I will eventually heal.
going through a friendship breakup rn she was my absolute best friend for four years, just like u said a guy kinda came into it and it felt like it was a one sided friendship too and i know i made the right decision it just hurts but this helps thanks bae, cheers
Well, when your friends husband has to cough all through conversations with your friend and she says nothing its rude. Your friend invites you to a wedding only to be a babysitter for their dad during the event when you cane to be at a wedding and not babysit.
so at uni i had a three person group with another girl but we ended up not being close to the 3rd member as she was always distant to us and wouldn't join in conversations. most of the time she would have this jealousy vibe and would want everything to herself. in time member 1 and me became very close, I knew her as my sister practically. then she moved abroad in this time we started having problems in our friendship, but we stayed in contact, would FaceTime from time to time, I went three times to see her as she wasn't financially able to come to where I was, 4 years went by, all of a sudden the 3rd member in our old group flew out to her and explained god knows what to her, and she decided to block me off everywhere- Im like really upset but even though she has seen my messages without no heads she's done something like this and im ilke heart broken I don't know what it is. I sacrificed so much for her, like my life decisions, all the emotional, financial support without even thinking. but then she's just pressed a button without even like asking me if what was said was true. im so broken because I do really miss her so much, but just blocking without saying a word is just so upsetting. please give me some advice im losing my head
I just literally let go of a friend for that reason only. I was definitely watering a dead plant. Like, if i wasn't watering, she wasn't watering herself, but instead she would put me on this unrealistic pedestal while also not doing her own work. So when i take away access I'm now ''selfish'' and i've never ''supported'' them. Which is so crazy bc I've been standing there with MY pot in hand watering you this entire time, just exhausted. And she knew i was exhausted too. She admitted the comfortability at my expense.
mine was just a few days ago, I found out she hacked my Facebook and messenger so basically, she read my private messages, and before I knew that she was ranting on Instagram stories about a "certain" someone she says backstabbing her. She logged in to my acc a lot of times. I was really shocked I can't believe it we had been friends for 5 years and yet she did that. My other friend and I was talking about how she changed a lot ever since she got a boyfriend in a negative way she always wants drama. And we don't want that. And now our 5-year friendship is gone. It's hard but I'm trying to get over it thank you for the video!
I just went through it about a month ago. Four years of close friendship, always treated her like she was my sister here away from my homecoutry and here we go the loyalty and trust is broken over a guy who was my ex bf.. I couldn't belive what was happening. But I guess she wasnt my best friend afterall. Glad this toxic cycle is over. It hurts but its for the best. If I had forgiven her, our friendship would never be the same. So it had to end anyway.
Hi Ashley, I just discovered your channel and watched a couple videos because - surprise! I broke up with my friend a few days ago and she was the type of friend that filled my days and my phone so I am feeling it. I love the way you talk to your viewers like friends because especially for someone like me who is down a friend right now it feels like I've made a new friend watching your video. That sounds corny haha. I'm from ON, living in BC now, and have lots of friends from Toronto and the GTA (not the same I know) so I love your videos and speaking style, super relatable to me... I also watched your video on twin flames because I felt like the friend I lost was some type of karmic connection and wanted to explore that topic - anyways, love your videos !
Ashley, thank you for sharing this! I’m currently trying to decide if I should keep these friends of mine. I have two friends who are living with me. They don’t like my boyfriend, but can’t tell me why. They said it’s based on vibes. So they have given me house rules that I can only bring him to the house three to four times a week to stay overnight, no consecutive nights and I need their permission before he comes over. I feel like I pay rent and he’s my bf and we’ve been very respectful to their space and the shared space. We also spend most of our time upstairs in my room. I feel like it’s not fair for them to trying to control my life, but they said that my bf makes them uncomfortable and they don’t sleep well at night when he’s over. I’m not really sure if I should stand up for myself or live by their rules.
If y’all just grew up apart it’s different I guess if they actually did something to hurt you.. like If they hurt you I wouldn’t reach out. I wouldn’t invite a thief back into my house if I know they’ve robbed me once it’s okay to forgive but some people have to be left where they were. I’m a very forgiving person so I’ve forgiven alot of people and accepted them back into my life and then regretted it lol.. soooo idk it’s so hard but it’s the same way with friends.
friendship breakup? i didn't know that was a thing. wow. I dont keep anyone so close to break up with them. I am a weirdo, i know. But i am content flying 😌 like this.
The spaghetti looks great looks better than when I cook spaghetti, I'm not judging cuz I get seconds and sometimes thirds too. When I'm hurting I find other ways to have fun you give great advice Ash. I'm wondering when y'all end friendships do y'all friend each other on social media too?
GOSH CAN WE TALK LIKE ON THE PHONE BECAUSE IM TRYING SO HARD TO END A 10 YEAR FRIENDSHIP BUT ITS HARD THIS VIDEO CAME RIGHT IN TIME. ITS MY BIRTHDAY AND I WANNA END IT SO BAD
So I know that this is a year late, but I’m going through it. I broke up with my best friend at the end of 2023. It happened because he was still friends with my abusive ex who is also probably a pedophile, and he knew full well he had a choice in that. He said I was his best friend, that he loved me, and yet he was still friends with the man who sexually assaulted me. He also didn’t seem to understand that trauma doesn’t just go away, that I couldn’t be the same friend to him I once was anymore. On that note, that friend I was was someone who sacrificed themself for him every single day basically. Every time we tslked, it hurt, because deep down I’d gathered that he only liked our friendship because it served him (and not me). He never wanted to get to know me unless it was by picking it up from body language or patterns or something (if it was something that had to come from me actually telling him, he wouldn’t listen). He was a horrible friend. Yet I still miss him. I still misd how he got excited over little things, I still miss his hugs. I don’t know, it’s still a lot.
Same, I just broke up with my ex bsf for 10yrs,our relationship has really been messing with my mental health, I didn't know if I should give her another chance and maybe she would have changed, or if I should have cut the relationship off in general. I felt like our relationship was very one sided. I couldn't tell her about certain things, but she wants to be able to tell me things I couldn't speak about, and she would want me to give her good advice though. I felt like she was low-key jealous of me with certain things, she hardly understood mee, it was too much, but honestly I'm really glad I ended the friendship, I'm More disappointed then anything, but I'm grateful for being able to do what's best for me and my mental health
@@j..7831 I think it was good you broke up with her, though it is really really hard. It sounds like that relationship wasn't a good one, and I really hope you have better relationships in the future.
so i’m new to my spiritual journey and i watched your “okay i’ve started .. now what?” video i stayed up till 12 last night writing prompts for my journal, downloaded some new books, and meditation and routine apps . i feel so new to this but the main reason was to find myself. but there’s one thing that dwells in my mind. should i keep my boyfriend around? should we take some time off ? what do i do ?
What should I do? We had a fallout with a best friend bc I talked shit to her other best friend (let’s her her other best friend “best friend A”) and of course she was protective of them but best friend A was trying to start some beef o like bc every interaction I had with them was very conflicting like “what did I do wrong this time?” (or in my perspective). Tbh I let my emotions get to me and said all that MEAN STUFF towards best friend A and I COULDVE just leave in silent but I didn’t bc I felt disrespected and walked on. Yeah and now me and her aren’t friends anymore, we distant ourselves from each other for like month (but it felt like years went by) and we were friends again slowly but I wanted to hangout with her and she kept saying she was busy. I was trying to be friends with her again and making an effort of wanting to hangout. She said that “You clearly don’t want us to be friends again, so why should I? Idk if it’s the right thing to reach out to her again, we broke up and we’re friends again but right after shortly we had a fallout. I want to clear my name and give her an explanation but idk it’s the Right thing to do. I really messed up and want to make things up but I was too impatient for us to be best friend again
It just happened 2 weeks again and I’m not proud of the person that I was in that moment. My best friend tried calling but I just ignored her calls and I said “I’m tired”. And they replied that “No it’s either talk to me now or I’m not gonna talk to you again” Idk if it’s the right thing to reach out to her when I was ignored her calls. Also she blocked me on everything but I can still contact her with limited resources
Well it was kind of a mutual thing she got upset with me cause she thought i took something from her…I’m like what type of friend are u to even think that?! We got in a HUGE argument i told her she can block me she comes back and curses me extremely out and says when she’s see me it son side..CHILE I’m 31 lol i don’t have time for anything like that. Sadly I’m grieving more over losing a friend than losing her
I had to breakup a friendship with my guy friend he was just really selfish and not a good friend to me he would lie a lot and before the friendship breakup he asked for help like and advice wanting me to pretend to be him online to look for women to find sex and he was in a relationship he had a girlfriend and he wasn't thinking in his brain cause he was an idiot if you're having problems in your relationship and it's not going more further and your stuck in the same page just tell her be honest and don't lie to your lover and if you're just cheating behind her back then you don't love her anymore and your just going to make it worse and worse in your relationship cause you are already destroying it and doing it you know better so I had to cuss at him and tell him I'm sorry but your hurting two people me and your girlfriend it's not fair to her either so your not a really good friend and I couldn't keep going with our friendship cause he will be hurting me over and over again so I did the right thing and the right choice so now I'm healing away The pain and feeling more better and having peace in my life and keep on going in my life so that was my friendship breakup story !!!!!
Hi! I’m happy your video popped up. I’ve been thinking of cutting a friend off. She calls me BFF and I don’t call her that anymore. The pages she’s on I (and other friends) have left that chapter many moons ago. 2024 is coming…TFS the podcast! 😊 #iSUBSCRIBED
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I went through something similar early this year. It was a friend I loved as if she was my sister. I realized that I loved the image of her that I created in my head more than the person she actually was. I’m still mourning it, and I felt a real loss when I ended the friendship. But I know it was the right thing to do, and the dynamic was too toxic to continue.
going through this too,, genuinely relate to mourning it even if it was the right and best thing to do
Same
Same thing happened to me. I thought of her as my little sister too. Things had become toxic for us both.
This happened to me too, it sucks
Yes let’s normalize how bad friendship breakups hurt just as bad as romantic breakups
If not worse
That part 🙌🏽
just because you have known them for 10 years doesn't mean they're a good friend to you. Damn wish I had known that months ago when I was holding onto a friendship already dead. Ended it this weekend and a giant amount of weight has left my shoulders.
“If you go through a friendship breakup and your life doesn’t change, you made the right choice” yes fr
I just had an awful friendship breakup. The whole “process” lasted 3 months and I couldn’t stop crying and having anxiety attacks, I feel guilty even though the main issue wasn’t caused by me. I’m scared of starting school again and having to hang out with new people whilst having them around.
im in a very similar situation rn and it was refreshing to see this. something ive understood from this experience is that you cant expect people to be like you. you cant always expect the same politeness/understanding you give them from them. i realize now that my friend will neither apologize to me nor talk to me again. and its not my fault so i dont gotta worry about it anymore. anyways, hopefully youre doing better now
Omg you're so relatable. I'm going through this right now
I had a friendship breakup in 2020 and sometimes I regret it 'cause I think I could've handled it better and maybe turn the friendship into a simple acquaintances relationship.
but, still, I feel so much better without her, my life took a great turn and looking back I just felt like wasting time while being her friend.
my resolution is to take things in a more light-hearted way and don't expect much from friends. I feel like lifetime friends are probably 3 if you're lucky, all the rest are just seasonal friends. and I'm OK with this
You literally explained every feeling that I’m feeling right now. I’m so happy you made this video. It’s really a lot of people, very much appreciated
I had a friend that I genuinely thought would be my forever friend. A little tiff happened between 2 mutual friends and I tried to maintain it so we could remain a group. Not only did she hate that, she chose another girl to be her best friend and talked about me behind my back as if what I did was so heinous. I used to be so heartbroken about it but now I see how self-serving she is. She even had the audacity to say that me trying to repair the friendship is "making things about me." She's not completely wrong but I think when you confront a friend, there should be a bit of softness or buffer because that's supposed to be your best friend...but no. Guess not. Wish her the best but no room for that kind of mentality.
I resonated so much with this. I cut off a lot off people this year and I’ve been feeling a lot better and it’s made room for friends who bring that sun
Loved the video. Broke off with a childhood friend last summer. And it was one of the best decision and long overdue. I was watering a dead plant and she was draining my energy and bringing so much of her drama. Now I might not have found a new friend yet, but I am meeting new ppl and that is so much fun! 😊
Update: She tried to reconcile, but I did decline respectfully and wished her the best. I am sure, that I made the right desicion.
Still questioning if I made the right decision reconnecting with a previous bestfriend; it doesn't always feel good.. Still feel like undertones of bullying, gaslighting and purposefully misunderstanding someone so that you can mock them. Truly hope God blesses me with good friends this year, that I am proud of, feel good with & absolutely enjoy.
I cannot tell you how many times i have watched this over the last six months. Two friends were cut as a result, hanging onto something that was no longer serving me. You are soooo right!! Also you’re making me crave spaghetti queen that looks delicious! ♥️
It's funny how even when you're being vague, it's totally relatable.
Lol the timing of this is super relevant. I’ll take it as a sign ✂️ 👻 I don’t fight with friends either... like for what? 🤨
Currently going through the exact loss of a best friend. The first 3 days were the hardest. I have plenty of people who have been telling me exactly what you said about making room for others to love me. This helped alot! Thank you!!
20 years and the history of the years is all we have 🥺. Loyalty has an expiration date 😫💔🙏🏽.
Going through this exact same scenario. We bonded years ago over my divorce and her bad marriage. We were attached at the hip and everyone thought her and I were a couple…lol. It felt great to have such a close bond with a friend again. Flash forward to present time…. She met another controlling guy a year ago that had more red flags than a 49ers parade. She constantly told me all sorts of bad things about this guy’s insecurities and jealousy after one month of dating. Of course, I couldn’t stand him after everything I heard for weeks and weeks. He eventually got jealous of our friendship and got mad when her and I got together. Eventually she started changing and sounded like him after awhile. Started lying to me. I confronted her about the way she was treating me and how the lying hurt and she apologized and said sorry. Unfortunately nothing changed. She was going to break it off with the guy after their Hawaii trip in a few months back because he was an asshole and kept giving her the silent treatment as punishment we he got mad. He ended up proposing to her and to my amazement…she said yes.
I finally realized that our friendship was built off of trauma bonding and was complete one sided after awhile but did t want to believe it. I held on to the friend I had in my head that brought so much fun and joy into my life. Eventually the friendship started bringing out a side of me that was not good and was becoming so toxic and stressful. I finally sent her and email on November 1st and let her know that I appreciated the friendship we once had, but had to distance myself from her going forward and that our lives and values were just too different to continue hanging out. I finally valued and respected myself enough to make the heartbreaking decision…but two months later, I’m happy and my anxiety is lower than ever. In the end…best decision for myself and for her as well and no regrets whatsoever. Blessing in disguise that the heartache of it all made me grow into a better version of myself in the end.
I can relate. I have a lot of similarities to my recent experience. I like what you said at the end regarding valuing and respecting yourself. I feel the same regarding my situation and why I chose to end the friendship. I'm still having some pain, though, but I know I will eventually heal.
going through a friendship breakup rn she was my absolute best friend for four years, just like u said a guy kinda came into it and it felt like it was a one sided friendship too and i know i made the right decision it just hurts but this helps thanks bae, cheers
6 years... I mostly feel relieved.
Well, when your friends husband has to cough all through conversations with your friend and she says nothing its rude. Your friend invites you to a wedding only to be a babysitter for their dad during the event when you cane to be at a wedding and not babysit.
so at uni i had a three person group with another girl but we ended up not being close to the 3rd member as she was always distant to us and wouldn't join in conversations. most of the time she would have this jealousy vibe and would want everything to herself. in time member 1 and me became very close, I knew her as my sister practically. then she moved abroad in this time we started having problems in our friendship, but we stayed in contact, would FaceTime from time to time, I went three times to see her as she wasn't financially able to come to where I was, 4 years went by, all of a sudden the 3rd member in our old group flew out to her and explained god knows what to her, and she decided to block me off everywhere- Im like really upset but even though she has seen my messages without no heads she's done something like this and im ilke heart broken I don't know what it is. I sacrificed so much for her, like my life decisions, all the emotional, financial support without even thinking. but then she's just pressed a button without even like asking me if what was said was true. im so broken because I do really miss her so much, but just blocking without saying a word is just so upsetting. please give me some advice im losing my head
I just literally let go of a friend for that reason only. I was definitely watering a dead plant. Like, if i wasn't watering, she wasn't watering herself, but instead she would put me on this unrealistic pedestal while also not doing her own work. So when i take away access I'm now ''selfish'' and i've never ''supported'' them. Which is so crazy bc I've been standing there with MY pot in hand watering you this entire time, just exhausted. And she knew i was exhausted too. She admitted the comfortability at my expense.
mine was just a few days ago, I found out she hacked my Facebook and messenger so basically, she read my private messages, and before I knew that she was ranting on Instagram stories about a "certain" someone she says backstabbing her. She logged in to my acc a lot of times. I was really shocked I can't believe it we had been friends for 5 years and yet she did that. My other friend and I was talking about how she changed a lot ever since she got a boyfriend in a negative way she always wants drama. And we don't want that. And now our 5-year friendship is gone. It's hard but I'm trying to get over it thank you for the video!
Thank you for this. I let mine continue past it's expiration date.
I’ve been going through so much with one of my best friends and this is very eye opening. ❤️
Glad to read
Girl I absolutely love these chill chatty videos!!! You’re also making me extremely hungry🍝
LOVE THIS TOPIC!!!!! thank you ashhh
I just went through it about a month ago. Four years of close friendship, always treated her like she was my sister here away from my homecoutry and here we go the loyalty and trust is broken over a guy who was my ex bf.. I couldn't belive what was happening. But I guess she wasnt my best friend afterall. Glad this toxic cycle is over. It hurts but its for the best. If I had forgiven her, our friendship would never be the same. So it had to end anyway.
You definitely started preaching at around 15:15. Great advice....entire video!
🙌🏻It helped me alot and i learned sooo good thank you..i def needed this right now during my friendship breakup..thanks
Hi Ashley,
I just discovered your channel and watched a couple videos because - surprise! I broke up with my friend a few days ago and she was the type of friend that filled my days and my phone so I am feeling it. I love the way you talk to your viewers like friends because especially for someone like me who is down a friend right now it feels like I've made a new friend watching your video. That sounds corny haha. I'm from ON, living in BC now, and have lots of friends from Toronto and the GTA (not the same I know) so I love your videos and speaking style, super relatable to me... I also watched your video on twin flames because I felt like the friend I lost was some type of karmic connection and wanted to explore that topic - anyways, love your videos !
Ashley, thank you for sharing this! I’m currently trying to decide if I should keep these friends of mine. I have two friends who are living with me. They don’t like my boyfriend, but can’t tell me why. They said it’s based on vibes. So they have given me house rules that I can only bring him to the house three to four times a week to stay overnight, no consecutive nights and I need their permission before he comes over. I feel like I pay rent and he’s my bf and we’ve been very respectful to their space and the shared space. We also spend most of our time upstairs in my room. I feel like it’s not fair for them to trying to control my life, but they said that my bf makes them uncomfortable and they don’t sleep well at night when he’s over. I’m not really sure if I should stand up for myself or live by their rules.
If y’all just grew up apart it’s different I guess if they actually did something to hurt you.. like If they hurt you I wouldn’t reach out. I wouldn’t invite a thief back into my house if I know they’ve robbed me once it’s okay to forgive but some people have to be left where they were. I’m a very forgiving person so I’ve forgiven alot of people and accepted them back into my life and then regretted it lol.. soooo idk it’s so hard but it’s the same way with friends.
Hope that made sense.. lol
lmaoooo you're so funny. you remind me of me when im alone
Love the food and the talk. The idea is just 💯
Is the mourning for both or for just one person(me).
would have looooooved to have my 11 year okd watch this video, stellar conversation. Will save it for when shes older ❤
friendship breakup? i didn't know that was a thing. wow. I dont keep anyone so close to break up with them. I am a weirdo, i know. But i am content flying 😌 like this.
this helped me so much omg thank you.
The spaghetti looks great looks better than when I cook spaghetti, I'm not judging cuz I get seconds and sometimes thirds too. When I'm hurting I find other ways to have fun you give great advice Ash.
I'm wondering when y'all end friendships do y'all friend each other on social media too?
The disappointment 😪, it was a f u to her. It was anger for manipulative behaviors. Spaghetti looks amazing 👏
I need to hear this A week ago my bestfriends decided that I was not worth staying for after a year and a half ago and it hurt me
It’s so painful I’m going through it, has been six weeks and still hurts.
My best friend decided today after three years of friendship it's over 💔
GOSH CAN WE TALK LIKE ON THE PHONE BECAUSE IM TRYING SO HARD TO END A 10 YEAR FRIENDSHIP BUT ITS HARD THIS VIDEO CAME RIGHT IN TIME. ITS MY BIRTHDAY AND I WANNA END IT SO BAD
Right. Does she accept calls?
@@lifeofniq WE CAN TALK TOGETHER IF YOU WANT SIS!
@@missheartbreaker1213 ok cool
@@missheartbreaker1213 update: it’s too much to type sis 😩
I just left one of the same length this year
I need a friend like you in my lifeee 🖤 loved this !
So I know that this is a year late, but I’m going through it. I broke up with my best friend at the end of 2023. It happened because he was still friends with my abusive ex who is also probably a pedophile, and he knew full well he had a choice in that. He said I was his best friend, that he loved me, and yet he was still friends with the man who sexually assaulted me. He also didn’t seem to understand that trauma doesn’t just go away, that I couldn’t be the same friend to him I once was anymore. On that note, that friend I was was someone who sacrificed themself for him every single day basically. Every time we tslked, it hurt, because deep down I’d gathered that he only liked our friendship because it served him (and not me). He never wanted to get to know me unless it was by picking it up from body language or patterns or something (if it was something that had to come from me actually telling him, he wouldn’t listen). He was a horrible friend.
Yet I still miss him. I still misd how he got excited over little things, I still miss his hugs. I don’t know, it’s still a lot.
Same, I just broke up with my ex bsf for 10yrs,our relationship has really been messing with my mental health, I didn't know if I should give her another chance and maybe she would have changed, or if I should have cut the relationship off in general. I felt like our relationship was very one sided. I couldn't tell her about certain things, but she wants to be able to tell me things I couldn't speak about, and she would want me to give her good advice though. I felt like she was low-key jealous of me with certain things, she hardly understood mee, it was too much, but honestly I'm really glad I ended the friendship, I'm More disappointed then anything, but I'm grateful for being able to do what's best for me and my mental health
@@j..7831 I think it was good you broke up with her, though it is really really hard. It sounds like that relationship wasn't a good one, and I really hope you have better relationships in the future.
@@jubecat1492 awwe thank you, I wish the same for your as well 🌼🌻
so i’m new to my spiritual journey and i watched your “okay i’ve started .. now what?” video i stayed up till 12 last night writing prompts for my journal, downloaded some new books, and meditation and routine apps . i feel so new to this but the main reason was to find myself. but there’s one thing that dwells in my mind. should i keep my boyfriend around? should we take some time off ? what do i do ?
i went though something slimier last year i had i j think about her a lot and I know I shouldn't but i do
What should I do?
We had a fallout with a best friend bc I talked shit to her other best friend (let’s her her other best friend “best friend A”) and of course she was protective of them but best friend A was trying to start some beef o like bc every interaction I had with them was very conflicting like “what did I do wrong this time?” (or in my perspective).
Tbh I let my emotions get to me and said all that MEAN STUFF towards best friend A and I COULDVE just leave in silent but I didn’t bc I felt disrespected and walked on.
Yeah and now me and her aren’t friends anymore, we distant ourselves from each other for like month (but it felt like years went by) and we were friends again slowly but I wanted to hangout with her and she kept saying she was busy. I was trying to be friends with her again and making an effort of wanting to hangout. She said that “You clearly don’t want us to be friends again, so why should I?
Idk if it’s the right thing to reach out to her again, we broke up and we’re friends again but right after shortly we had a fallout. I want to clear my name and give her an explanation but idk it’s the Right thing to do.
I really messed up and want to make things up but I was too impatient for us to be best friend again
It just happened 2 weeks again and I’m not proud of the person that I was in that moment. My best friend tried calling but I just ignored her calls and I said “I’m tired”.
And they replied that “No it’s either talk to me now or I’m not gonna talk to you again”
Idk if it’s the right thing to reach out to her when I was ignored her calls. Also she blocked me on everything but I can still contact her with limited resources
Well it was kind of a mutual thing she got upset with me cause she thought i took something from her…I’m like what type of friend are u to even think that?! We got in a HUGE argument i told her she can block me she comes back and curses me extremely out and says when she’s see me it son side..CHILE I’m 31 lol i don’t have time for anything like that. Sadly I’m grieving more over losing a friend than losing her
One minute in and obsessively w you!
I love podcasts and reading books
you are making me so hungry...i want to eat spaghetti now.
Thank you for this
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The timing is wild
Idk if it’s just me but you’re giving me Jenna Ortega vibes ❤❤
this was uploaded on my birthday, about 6 months before I "broke up" with my best friend
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Lmao i like you
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I had to breakup a friendship with my guy friend he was just really selfish and not a good friend to me he would lie a lot and before the friendship breakup he asked for help like and advice wanting me to pretend to be him online to look for women to find sex and he was in a relationship he had a girlfriend and he wasn't thinking in his brain cause he was an idiot if you're having problems in your relationship and it's not going more further and your stuck in the same page just tell her be honest and don't lie to your lover and if you're just cheating behind her back then you don't love her anymore and your just going to make it worse and worse in your relationship cause you are already destroying it and doing it you know better so I had to cuss at him and tell him I'm sorry but your hurting two people me and your girlfriend it's not fair to her either so your not a really good friend and I couldn't keep going with our friendship cause he will be hurting me over and over again so I did the right thing and the right choice so now I'm healing away The pain and feeling more better and having peace in my life and keep on going in my life so that was my friendship breakup story !!!!!
Hind sight Sophia with an f horrible decisions too tired to be crazy we’re said what we’ve said as you should
Why are you using spoon to eat spaghetti??? 🤣🤣🤣🤣
Hi! I’m happy your video popped up. I’ve been thinking of cutting a friend off. She calls me BFF and I don’t call her that anymore. The pages she’s on I (and other friends) have left that chapter many moons ago. 2024 is coming…TFS the podcast! 😊 #iSUBSCRIBED