Ode to the 1st Born
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Hi! I'm Taylor Calmus, a rural South Dakota born and Colorado-based actor/comedian. I started Dude Dad© two weeks before my son Theo was born as a way to stay creative while learning to be a father. My wife Heidi and I now have 4 kids and over 500+ videos. We also have a TV show on the Magnolia Network called Super Dad. My purpose for the channel is to entertain, enlighten and inspire.
Ode to the First Born
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Bro, wasn't expecting to cry right now. What a beautiful message to leave for your child. You also opened my mind to what my parents went through raising me. Just... beautiful.
Yeah, it's been something on my heart for a while now
I know I was like expecting something like a lot of people do about you know your oldest child your middle child your youngest child type of stereotypes. And I really don't like those they can be funny but this was gosh I'm starting to cry again😢😅❤
I'm not crying, your crying 🙃
Dude, that hit me harder than I expected. I’m not even a parent. Just the oldest kid and now I understand my parents more.
@@DudeDad God loves you and Jesus died on the cross for you and you @KairaisnotaLiopleurodon and you
Didn’t know dude dad was gonna make me cry. Spot on Taylor!
He's made me cry a few times.
Why you have me crying when I only have one child who has her own one child. 😭😭😭😭
I’m not crying your crying !😢
Being a grandparent is the best, isn't it?
I’m working Taylor!! I needed a laugh and instead got a heartwarming love letter! I didn’t want to cry but well, it’s happening now! I hope nobody notices!!
you coworkers will just think you're really passionate about your work :)
@@DudeDad I do appreciate it!!
Yeah!! Thanks alot Taylor 😊😂❤Went from crying laughing to just crying 😢
Dude dad!!! I found you when I was recovering from surgery and the first post I saw was the one where you just talk to us about what becoming a dad was like. You cried, I cried, I forwarded it to my wife, she cried.
I love and appreciate your crazy antics, but your philosophical take on your experience as a dad really floats my boat. As an Early Childhood educator since the early 80’s, I’ve watched Fathering become “ a thing”. We educators always knew fathers ( and their partners and kids) were really missing out! Now? 100% of the children I care for have involved, present fathers and mothers! ( or two fathers or two mothers) what a wonderful world! And, I think YOU helped make it fun and cool and EXPECTED. I’m so grateful for your work. We are so lucky you and your wife do what you do. 💜
Oh man. This made me so emotional. My first turns 15 today. Everything you say here is so true. It’s a new frontier having a growing teen son. 😭
Thanks, Taylor. As the oldest of four, this hit home for me. I got all the privileges (always riding shotgun in the front seat), but I also shouldered the responsibility of helping my single mom raise my other three siblings. What an honor ❤
Helping your single mom raise your siblings is extremely hard when you’re 13 and you have to grow up fast cuz you have to take care of your mom too because she’s so depressed she won’t eat. Forget having time to do your own homework. It’s strange none of my teachers even had a parent teacher conference with how much I struggled in school.
@@Mrs.NRalphs I was young, too. But my mom courageously left my alcoholic father, worked two jobs and went to school to support us and give us a better life. I feel blessed. Others had it much tougher 😔
@@Love_Jesus_NOW It took me calling the cops on my dad also an alcoholic for her to finally leave him. I think she finally realized it was doing us more harm than good. She was trying to stick it out until my youngest sister was 18 I’m glad she didn’t. Although she did work to support us she the divorce and being a single mom stress caused her to fall into depression. She lost so much weight from not eating. I had to make her eat a little before leaving the table like I was the parent. Plus make sure my sister did their homework and do chores and cook dinner.
I have 7 grown children across a span of 21 years. No truer words were ever spoken. I have apologized to my two oldest kids because I was learning how to parent on them.
Wayamint, i was supposed to get the NEW stuff?!?! 😂
I was thinking same thing! I got my cousins hand-me-downs lol
haha, he's the "oldest cousin" so he doesn't have that opportunity
I got my older cousins' hand-me-downs....
This is so true!!! I was just thinking all this with our oldest, and how each stage is new for the both of us. ❤ Thanks for making this video.
Glad it resonated with others!
My husband and I have 3 boys, and my oldest just turned 8 yesterday and this hit home, and I didn't think I was going to cry, but this was something I needed to hear today so thank you Taylor 😊
Glad this resonated...Thanks for watching :)
lol... wait what... I'm the oldest - I didn't get squat! Siblings are the best though!
For Pete sake!!! I'm watching this just before leaving for my oldests senior pictures😢 This is definitely a huge year! ❤
I clicked knowing I’m gonna laugh then cry. You did not disappoint
My oldest is 26. I have said for ages how much I learned from him and how he made me a better parent for his younger siblings.
Man, That hit hard. I just took my 1st born who is 7 out for his first Yes Day and I realized I need to do it more often. Sometimes, I’m a grumpy old dad because I’m just trying to figure it all out too and I need to let my guard down. Thanks for posting, Taylor.
I was very badly abused as a child. My oldest daughter and I truly learned how to love together. It was the most beautiful experience. She's 35 now and we talk daily. ❤❤
Wow! that hit home 100%! Thank you for such a beautiful ode to first borns!! I'm not crying, your crying 😭❤
Dang Taylor, you didn't have to make me start crying at work!
Made my eyes water- I was blessed with 4 kids and this is so true!!
Team Four Kids!
First borns are the best. IT starts it ALL! Why you making me cry here man. YEASUS, cutting a huge bag of onions here.
As the first and last child - an only child, i can really appreciate expressing 2 sides to EVERY story! Yours and ours! Now THATS REAL parents! You might have not had the knowledge for a first born but you definitely had the spirit of being a parent - a rare meaningful parent for life that so many kids would have loved even your "mistakes ". Keep being you!
I appreciate the message!
This made me tear up! All of it is so true!
I LOVED IT!!
So totally true, my firstborn is one of my greatest friends. Now that they are adults with there own kids and I’m (older🤣) , it’s their turn now….
Jeeeeeeeeezus, that gave my eyes the allergies ❤❤❤ You’re a really wonderful Dad💕
Awesome take! Great point and so true
My mom, dad, only sister, brother in law, wife and first child are all firstborns...I'm surrounded 🤣
Beautiful message!! As a first born, I’m a little jelly of your first born 😂
When my twin bros were born, most of my parents friends meeting me for the first time would say “I didn’t know you existed”. Let me just say, what a wonderful thing to tell a child, for sure will not cause any issues 😂😂😂
So sweet! I love when you make videos like this. Our first gets the most, but also has the most responsibility, expectations, and (like you said) mistakes from us. She handles it with such grace and joy. Definitely type A! ❤️
Shout out to all the first borns (including myself) ❤ this is so true
Its So true that parents grow with the first born child. ❤️
Yup, just trying to figure it all out!
So perfectly said. Thank you, from 58 year old, oldest child and now grandmother. ❤
God bless you and your wonderful family. I wish you nothing but the best.
You're comedy is on another level, but these are by far my favorite @DudeDad videos!
Sending our firstborn off to college, out of state, this summer. Very meaningful and sweet video, thank you! ❤
This was really beautiful, Taylor! I'm wiping tears right now 😭
Ha ha ha 🤣 I am the first born! But in many ways, I was also a middle child because my brothers always demanded way more time and energy than I ever did. I was forced to learn about complicated mental health issues very very young because my siblings both were adopted from extremely abusive environments. The birth mother smoked and drank a lot during the pregnancy and… yeah that stuff messed up their brain chemistry & ability to function normally. So… who got all the chores? Yup it was me. 😭 Now that I’m older and a young adult I understand everything better, but it doesn’t really make growing up with all the domestic violence from my brothers hurt any less. 😢
I’m not crying, my eyes are sweating. So well said Taylor
Amazingly done! Such a sweet perspective.
I just sent this to my 27 y.o. son...who helped me raise his brother, his other brother, his other other brother, his littlest brother, and finally his surprise twin baby sisters who just turned 18. We drove home from the hospital with the flashers on with him, but literally stopped for burgers on the way home with his sisters. He was there for me always...he can change diapers and put a puzzle together while rocking a bouncy like nobody's business.
Thanks for sharing...a lot of smiles and memories revisited.
Woah, wonder what his first born thinks of this video.
someday he'll watch this and I hope he's proud of how we raised him.
How precious!!!! Love it!!!
Thank you! 😊
@@DudeDad you are so welcome! You have such a beautiful family!!
Now I’m crying, I wish I had parents like you, being first can be horrible. 😔
I'm not crying, you are!!!❤😊
My oldest is twenty now. He has three younger siblings still at home. This is true in every way. Beautifully expressed. Thank you.
I felt this on such a deep level. ❤❤❤
This is so true and MY LIFE as the first born dictator *I mean first born child!* 😂😂
This is the kind of thing which I felt but could never put to words… wish I could’ve heard this from my dad or that I’ve made him proud as his son.
my mom and I when I was a young child about 8 maybe 9 years old were going through some stuff in the closet of our trailer I said hey Mama what is this bag full of hair it was just a little bag plastic bag that was the type used for sandwiches or fruit and my sister the eldest one my mom let out a howl and a roar and a laugh my mom was at work at a tv station in St Louis Mo she came home to Cahokia Illinois and my mom hit the door shut it locked it sat down in the chair in the living room of my maternal grandparents house.My grandma a southern belle from Oneonta Alabama came into the living room with a clear plastic bag with my oldest sisters bangs that were cut off. My grandma said your daughter gave herself quite a haircut before I caught her but at least I caught her before she went any further. My mom said can I talk to her I am not going to ground her but the bangs is enough punishment so my mom mom asked my sister what she was thinking and my mom could not repeat the answer to me but it way hysterical the way my mom was laughing about it
I lost my first child to a very rare/fast growing brain cancer when she was 6. Enjoy your firstborns, and all the others that come after. We never know how long we have with them. 💗
I'm not crying your crying! 😭🥰
Wow, this brought tears to my eyes. I wish that my parents had told me this, so thank-you for putting it so thoughtfully in words.
I'm a first born about to turn 60 🥰 This was sweet, funny and pretty accurate. Love this 🥰
Oh god my tiny little heart! That was so sweet.
Just got home from my first born's graduation. Watched this and broke down. Needed words for this. Thank you.
You come to this channel for the laughs and get kicked in the feels!! I'm a fan of this video for sure.
I'm not crying your crying. This is well said and on point
It’s been 34 years since our first was born. We raised her and her 3 siblings. This is so true, raising your first is a crash course of OTJ training. Mistakes were made, but she’s done a fantastic job of being an adult. As have 75% of our kids. That last one is still struggling, hopefully he’ll get his act together soon.
Thanks for this heartfelt message. The tears are real.
but then the youngest and the oldest will make sure the family has more family time as they get older
🥹🥹🥹 I wish u were my age and ur take on adult kids raising their own kids ....got news for all u young parents THIS FIRST STUFF NEVER ENDS!! I am a grandmother of 10 amazing grandchildren and my 3 kids that have spouses??? Yep! Still learning how to b a Mom to my adorable babies that now have teenagers and infants....dang the struggle is real to do this right....
Good on you for being present through every stage!!!
Ugh ...this was so emotional and well said❤ i feel this for my first born too
What a beautiful message! I am a firstborn, and this really hits home. My husband and daughter are also firstborns. ❤
Wow.... this was a thing that God orchestrated! Literally last night I was talking to Jesus about all my guilt and shame about my parenting mistakes. I felt like I have screwed up my 1st child so bad! But I know I've been trying my hardest to get it right. And when she's not having meltdownw and attacking kids on the playground?(Yesterday afternoon) She's the sweetest girl at comforting and checking on me. Im so thankful to God that you made this video at this exact moment.
We're all learning along the way! You got this!!
So true bro! Just found out we got blessed with a 3rd child. 8 years apart from the oldest sibling. Should be fun 😅
congrats!!
I just had our Second join us a few weeks ago and everything you said has hit home big time. Thank you for sharing! I really wanted to share this on Facebook but Facebook has blocked me from sharing your video!
This middle child thanks you for making me cry. 🥹🥹😂😂
That was not what I was expecting from you. 😢. It was so sincere and absolutely heartfelt. So true. Ya all are amazing parents. ❤
As a first born, Thank you for this. 😢❤
Oh Man that made me cry 😢! I have only one child. This hit me so hard! 😢
Just wait until he becomes a teenager… all I gotta say is good luck my friend.
thanks for the heads up...i think?! haha
I can’t crying before my coffee not cool 😭
My first born is a dad of three girls. Loved your video. Brought tears to my eyes. Love you all
Sobbing. This is beautiful.
I'm in tears❤
sorry bout' that!
@@DudeDad it's meant in a good way.
This is so beautiful 😭😭😭
This is so beautiful ♥️
I came here for a laugh dangit!!! This sappy crap is UNACCEPTABLE!!! 😭😭😭😭
Ok...ugly crying over here, hugging my big boy. He will be a big brother in just days, and the idea we are still just learning as we go along...😭😭😭
So absolutely true as my oldest son is now 19. And my youngest is 7. We have 6 children. There is such a learning process with parenting! It never quits. I learn something new every day. 💚
Dangit Taylor! I didn't want to cry today. ❤
I’m the first born, and this video hit home! I think a lot of my stuff came/comes from yard sales and Goodwill with new stuff. Also, a you first born er no? Thanks Taylor!
And now I'm crying
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Heck yeah man. Good video. Both my wife and I are firstborns, and I am watching this while holding my firstborn who is a few months old. It’s a great unknown but so good
Being the first born child carries a lot of heavy weight. I’ve always told my children the same ideology. I always say the first born children are the guinea pigs. I also always said to be the first born means the strongest, not to downplay anybody else’s struggle, but the oldest ends up being responsible for everybody in the family at some point. Great video.
That was really sweet! It had me 😭😭😭 I’m a first born who currently has my first child. It’s been tough so thanks for this!
I have 9…. (our oldest is a Saint! )
A good friend coined a VERY TRUE phrase for the First Born…
“The Practice Kid!”.
so SO True!
Have fun Mom& Dad…the best is yet to come…..
Grandchildren!
- I’m in charge. ✅
- I’m the loudest. ✅
- Type A ✅✅
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I have a lot of younger brothers. They would appreciate your sympathy.
I'm not crying, YOU'RE crying!! 😂 Great video and reminder to say thank you and will always love you to my daughter.
Just Beautiful 😢
My 5 year old (the epitome of the oldest/first born) was building a little town with his brother yesterday with magnetic blocks and was screaming, "HEIDI... HEIDI, COME LOOK AT THIS!"... now my name is not Heidi, so I kept on cooking. But when he kept screaming that at me over and over and OVER again I finally asked him, "What on God's green earth are you saying?" He said "MOOOOOM! We're being Dude Dads! I'm trying to show you this building I made." Later i found out he watched the "If husband's were toddlers" episode with his grandpa the night before and life made since again lol. I just wanted to tell you thank you for being one of the youtubers that kids can actually watch and admire. When their own dads are not around so much its nice for them to have a TV dad to watch doing awesome stuff with his kids and wife .
Me being the oldest by only 19 months....... to siblings that were twins.... HELL ON EARTH!!!!!! I had to be the responsible one ALL THE TIME! I had to set the good example. They did anything wrong and it was my fault because I wasn't watching them close enough or I must've done something and they were copying it.
I got to be the Golden Child AND the Black Sheep all in one!! "Why can't you be more like your older sister? She's practically perfect in every way!" and "This is all your fault young lady they were your responsibility!"
They hated me and I hated them.........we still do, now in our mid 50s!!!!
I was the one that may have gotten new toys, but I was expected to share...and because the two of them screamed so much, the things I had to wait till a certain age to get, they got immediatly just to shut them up and leave our folks alone. So what was the point of me waiting?
I was the guinea pig they screwed up on ........only to repeat that with the other two because they never should've been parents.
It's wonderful to see what parenting could've been like for me as a child, if I'd just been born to healthy parents. I have a one and done due to health issues with the pregnancy. He's gonna be 23 and I think over all, even though I was so screwed up as a kid, because I said - anything and everything my parents do - I WILL DO THE EXACT OPPOSITE!!!!!!!!! seems to have worked out quite well! My son is a home health aid, and a wonderful fun/and funny guy.
“We will give you everything, including our mistakes” 😫😫😫….I got pregnant with my firstborn at 19, and he was an only child till he was almost 12. I did indeed grow up with my older. He turned out good too. 😂
NOT funny Dude Dad.....But heartwarming. Good video
So sweet-made me 😭
OMG this is so real! Also have something else to add to this that might make more sense in what you are say.
Try to keep an open mind:
So, when you turn 18 you are a new Adult. You can look at it as you are an 18 year old child and 0 (or newborn) Adult. Just like when you are born you have no experience at being an adult. You have some ideas from you childhood but have never fully experienced it .... yet. So, as you get older you are no longer a child but growing now as an adult. 18/0 Adult, 18/1 Adult, 18/2 Adult. You see the growth here. You will always be an 18 year old child (a max level for those video gamers) and have all of those experience and knowledge that you acquired while growing up. Now you are growing up as an adult and acquiring Adult experience and knowledge (Military, College, Jobs, Bills, Dating, Possibly taking care of yourself).
Then the next step of a person would be from that of an Adult to a Parent. We had our First when I was 33 (Yeah a little older). I am now 51.
So going the next step, right now I am an 18 year old child / 15 year old Adult / 18 year old Parent and still growing.
Ngl. Our eldest is gonna be 15 in a week's time. THE EMOTIONS!!!
Our first born daughter got MY old tricycle for Christmas! We had no money.
Shes 43 now. She didnt care!!😁
Didn't expect to cry! What a beautiful heartwarming message!
I cried....cause...that is how I felt with my first. My Second child had it so much easier...cause I learned so much with my first. you make all your mistakes with the first one...the others...get the benifit...of those mistakes....Loved this video!...
Greetings! I am firstborn! I vouch for all of this.
Except for the vocalizing part. I’m autistic, so it was actually the middle siblings who had the loudest voice in the house. 😅