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Honest question have you ever found a full body mannequin that rages from 1xl to 4xl? I’ve been inspired lately to make my own clothes and I can’t seem to find one anywhere 🥲
You mentioned gender-neutral pants. Something that a lot of people don't know is that the dungarees the guys in the navy wore in the 70s were actually a womens cut! Which is why they made hubby's ass look so fine!
A comment on the history of women wearing pants; in 1968, we girls were required to wear a dress to evening football games and after dances. This wasn't fully lifted until 1971.
I feel like there is SO much to say about women and pants honestly, and one minute isn’t nearly enough time to talk about it fully. It’s so wild to me how an article of clothing can cause such a rise in people!
@@GunnarDeatherage That's how it was for me too...skirts stopped being required in my senior year the 1975-76 school year. Skirts were real short then too. The length made me feel vulnerable. My mom always made matching Short shorts (aka:hot pants) that I wore under my short skirts...it was liberating and cute. I was in a fashion class of my own....I have had very interesting tastes all of my life.
I remember in the mid 90’s working at an estate planning firm in North Carolina. The women working at the firm were forbidden to wear pants while at work. And, we all had to make sure we wore panty hose with our dresses and suited skirts. Let’s just say panty hose on humid NC summers was THE WORST. As much as I loved the job, leaving behind the patriarchal dress code was a definite plus.
@@GunnarDeatherage I remember the day in the 60s when we were finally allowed to wear pants to school. Trousers or bifurcated skirts have an interesting history, starting with the fact that they were derided by the ancient Greeks as effeminate because they were only worn by women in ancient Asiatic cultures. I've got, like, an essay on it somewhere among my ramblings on here.
@@kellyharper367...I wish my mother had thought of that idea too. I lived in Iowa during my childhood. So skirts were really a problem in the winters. I remember how much I hated skirts. The worst is that for school we weren't allowed to wear long skirts to stay warm.
Gunnar, I love when you look up to the camera while sewing and give us a little smile! Your spirit is so warm and comforting. Wishing you all the best ❤❤
In 1999, I worked in a corporate environment with a dress code that specified women could only wear dresses or skirts, knee length or longer and stockings were required. We froze in winter and sweating in hot, humid summers. We tried to petition to allow pants for women but were denied. One day, 2 women with a clipboard were going from one female worker to another. They got to our team and advised all the female employees they were required to offer up a leg so that one of the women could feel our lower leg to verify we were wearing stockings. 😲 I looked at them both and said, "No. If you touch me I will press charges of sexual harassment. There is no need for either of you to verify we are wearing stockings by touch when you can clearly see that we are. It's wildly inappropriate, abusive, demoralizing, and frankly bizarre and disturbing." The other women on my team also refused and the next day, we all wore pants to work and one of our male colleagues wore a skirt and stockings in solidarity 😊❤. I left that job shortly after.
this is pure sexism, and the women who came along to check your legs should be ashamed. Good on you for wearing pants the next day and well done for your male colleagues who supported you!
I grew up in Texas in the 1950's. Female students K-12 were not allowed to wear pants or sandals or patent leather shoes. Pants were masculine. Sandals showed too much skin. Boys could look up our dresses/skirts in the reflection from patent leather. It was a ridiculous way of living and stopped in the 1960's when students said ENOUGH. I love your pattern and the thoughtfulness behind it.
A friend of ours who meant well asked this question of my wife, and asked in a very apologetic and earnest way that made it clear that she legitimately was confused, because she was raised on the belief that men doing "masculine roles" and women doing "feminine roles" was intrinsic to family cohesion. So my wife politely explained that the question of who is the man and who is the woman is like asking who is the fork and who is the knife, when in truth we are a pair of chopsticks. She immediately got it and loved the explanation. What makes me sad though is how many times we've since used the explanation, and almost every married straight cis woman we've talked to has laughed and said "Wow, I wish I could have that kind of relationship instead."
Great answer, and yes, it's usually cis hetero women asking because they did not ask the right questions of their man before getting married. I'm looking forward to late onset marriage and having recently shared a house with my youngest brother. I've got more clarity than ever before... Anyway, I'm off to put the bins out ❤
I’m in a hetero marriage and we do have that sort of relationship, because we’re both very open-minded and logical, and give the middle finger to sexist traditions. We both support and guide each other as needed, and recognise each others’ strengths and weaknesses.
Fantastic metaphor! I've been married for nearly 36 years, man and woman, and I have been the one to carry and raise my children, handle the finances and run the house. I've made it so my husband "thinks" HE is the one in charge but I was raised by parents who split responsibilities equally. He and his siblings were raised by parents where his mom was in charge of EVERYTHING. She tried to tell me to "submit" to my husband because he's in charge of the marriage. BS! I've shown her and tell her that I am not going to lose MY identity as a strong woman. Unfortunately, LOL, my oldest daughter is too much like her dad and her grandmother. 😅
Love the preciseness of your work. I wish I had stayed with this art rather than picking an academic major in college. Big mistake. Circa 1960 - high school, skirts had to be knee length or longer. No sandals. So Cal. I’m now in my 80s.
I don't know what's the fascination knowing who wears the pants" I have heard same question remarked to heterosexual couples "she wears the pants in that house"...smh
Both pair came out stunning. I never liked the whole "who wears the pants?" issue, bc in a family roles are fluid and often times, roles and moments of greater or lesser influence can change. No matter what, you guys do you, it's all that really matters. Your lives are yours to live on your own terms, and you're doing that beautifully❤
"Who wears the pants" is a backhanded question to reference who is the Superior or the control in the relationship. The only people who would ask this type of question are those that have no respect for anyone other than a male-dominated patriarchal relationship. It's about time to shrug off those gender stereotypes and celebrate love in all forms and people who come in all colors sizes and personalities!!
@@birdgirl2623yes. I remember my mom always saying about her friends daughter "she's definitely a man in the relationship!!" like. no, that's completely the opposite to what you want. we do not want a man in the relationship, that's the entire point. she's engaged now, btw- to a masc lesbian. but Jess is also not the "man"
I just want to say, that I think it’s beautiful how we are breaking out of the binds of what love and a relationship “should be” in this modern age; I mean think about the women and men who fought for women’s rights and civil rights in the past. Sometimes I just breath in how free this time in history is, and though it still has many many problems, how proud those our ancestors would be at how far we’ve come. This world is truly so gorgeous and full and free in this time in history, I fall a little bit more in love with it every day it seems. ✌️🩵
@@birdgirl2623 Yes, it's like asking a lesbian couple "Whose the man?" Well neither of us honey, that's the point. Unfortunately a lot of straights can't get past the idea that all relationships are copies of heteronormative relationships.
I always hated the question about “who wears the pants”. Relationships are a give and take, and both people should be seen as a team. We need to get out of thinking that one partner is a master while the other is a servant. WTF?! It’s just an unevolved question.
Dresses/skirt combos make me feel powerful in different ways depending on the style. I was all tomboy growing up and hated wearing anything feminine looking before 8th grade. It's quite the change♡ Any style we put on is making an outward show of ourselves and projecting how we want to be viewed, there is always a power in that. Even if it says let me feel hidden because that is as bold a statement as any other. ♡
I always like seeing someone who does not owe anyone an explanation of their relationship answering in a unique and creative way. It's even better when it answers nothing.
Flat and beautiful! I was scrolling on thru shorts quickly and heard your kind voice and rolled right back to you. Love your talent, inspiration and easy kindness. I wish all the best things for you!!
I will never understand why people think it is any of their business to ask these kinds of questions. It truly shows their ignorance and lack of integrity. Maybe some day people will just be happy that others are in a loving and caring relationship.
Same thing when they ask lesbian couples “so who’s the man then?” So freaking disrespectful and ignorant and not your business what happens in their home #ally
@@wendymarieglew6548sorry hun but that's not the same question.... who wears pants in the relationship is a figurative speech meaning who is the bossy one in the relationship.... Were as in which is the man of the relationship means who is the dominant person in the relationship....and yes with this you are every right to be annoyed, but just annoyed nothing else. That has nothing to do with gender..... it's like when someone ask you how do you do ? Your reply is how do you do ? You dont tell them how you are doing 🤯
@@sheyshey1306 actually my step daughter and her wife get this question all the time and she’s so sick of answering. They’re equals and take responsibility of their own actions and admit accountability for their mistakes. They also have a 2 year old and they’re showing her that it is perfectly fine to ask questions just don’t be rude, nosy or disrespectful, hence #ally
@@wendymarieglew6548 I am with you, they must get annoyed when they get asked who is the man in the relationship because that is none of their business.... I just hope that we are going to leave behind a better world for their daughter.... love is a wonderful emotion, they are lucky and blessed enough to find someone they love and to find someone who love them back .... Gender is out of the question when it comes to love. Love is both a blessing and Gift that others will never get to experience... love is about how much you care for that person , not their gender .... At the end of the day I just hope we leave behind a better world for the younger generations. I wish that the annoying questions will stop for your daughter, but then again we humans can be ignorant and arrogant, so the best I can do is try to leave behind a better world ....were love is like breathing OXYGEN.
@@sheyshey1306It was about bring sure a woman was under the man's control. It was always a demeaning question. Please, don't suggest women still must tolerate it.
I don’t think the term “wearing the pants” always means that there is a negative or unhealthy power dynamic. It can also just mean that one person is the more dominant partner and usually makes the decisions. That can simply be due to personality and circumstance. Nevertheless, there is sometimes a need for a power dynamic in a loving relationship and you can absolutely still have teamwork and growth _inside_ that power dynamic as well - those things aren’t mutually exclusive. For example, I’ve been with my husband over ten years now but because he owns his own company and has to make so many decisions at work everyday, when it comes to our relationship, I am the one who usually ends up making most of the decisions and is the more dominant of the two. It’s just the dynamic that works for us and it doesn’t mean that we don’t work together and grow as a couple.
@@nailartguy3363 different things work for different people, true. But I have never heard the phrase in connection to "who's the household administator" with a neutral connotation. Most often than not it has been used to identify the partner who is "the boss" understood as a recipient of all of the efforts of the other partner. Where the one cared for and "listened to" is the one "wearing pants". The problem here is how it's used. It doesn't matter who cooks or works and decides where to go on a holiday. Those are just tasks. The problem is that the phrase suggests the presence of the old-fashioned ways and people trying to "translate" the LGBTQ+ relationships into the 50's idea of a relationship. This is my problem with it. There's no need to "translate". Relationship is a relationship and it's not very kind to pry anyway. It's simply okay if you find what works for you. But maybe let's ditch the ridiculous saying 😉
@@sheimi91 Yeah I think it’s a stupid thing to say, especially to people who are in LGBTQ+ relationships, as I have been asked that question many many times, but I definitely prefer that to “So who is the man and who is the woman?” 🤣 I just wanted to point out that even a relationship where one person does technically “wear the pants” can still be a loving, caring relationship with teamwork and mutual growth. You might not have ever heard of the expression used that way, but if you look up “to wear the pants” it is often defined as “to be the person in a relationship who makes the decisions” or “to be the dominant partner in a relationship”. So while it is an old-fashioned expression rooted in a heteronormative, gendered view on relationships, it’s not _always_ used in such a negative way as you think. I agree that it would be great if we ditched it, but let’s also not make reductive generalizations about other people’s relationships, particularly not when based on our interpretation of an outdated saying. 😉
@@nailartguy3363 I really appreciate this exchange we're having here 😉 I see your point and true, maybe my judgement is a bit too harsh. I just care a lot about how language influences the way we think, and the other way round. Precisely like the "man and woman" question is reaaaally bad 😅. I'm trying to pay more attention to how we speak about those things, both in English and in my own language. So maybe to sum up my thoughts so far - phrases and vocabularies aside 😉 - as long as we feel safe and loved and appreciated in our relationships it doesn't matter what the task distribution is. But I will definitely keep what you shared with me in mind ⭐
As girls, my classmates fought to be able to wear Jeans and pants to high school. We had to kneel to be measured if our skirts were too short. So I at 69, almost 70, really appreciate wearing pants. Due to a disability that requires wearing special shoes that do not go with dresses, I usually wear pants, looking forward to this pattern
I seriously love everything you do, I have been sewing for 6 years and I often feel like I’m not skilled enough to make the things I want to and I get burnt out so easy but every time I see your videos I immediately want to get sewing and make everything I’ve ever dreamed of. ❤️ keep being amazing!
Gunnar, those pants are gorgeous! Not only are they classic, they're adaptable. The pattern is perfect and can make a statement in every season, and in wide range of fabrics. And not only are they gender inclusive, they're size/shape inclusive! Tall, thin, broad, plus or petite - this garment will look tailored and fabulous!
Oh my Goddess…I love this sentiment & the way it is expressed here so much it nearly brought me to tears ❤️ You such are a beautiful light, Gunnar, please keep on shining 🌟 Love, light, & warmth to the beautiful both you ❤️🌟
While in the United States Marine Corps I had to climb ladders in a skirt. That was in 1980. I was finally given a “pants chit” in 1981 which allowed me to wear them. The struggle was real 😂I so love what you do and your insights. Be blessed.
I love you’re outlook on this!! No one should “wear the pants”! You should be equals and walk side by side. Not in front or behind. I absolutely LOOOVE these pants!! Trying to find cute, practical and not outrageously expensive pants for a working woman is so hard and these are perfect. Thank you!! ❤❤
My father was an excellent tailor! On this vídeo, I went back to the past and reminded my loved father! He used to saw with my younger sister on his lap!❤
I absolutely love your work ❤️ and today's lesson on relationship equality. No one ever says "who wears the skirt in this relationship?" Pants dress, skirt , flats heels boots all can make a person feel powerful! Thank you so much for being so open! what is your nail polish?
I wear “the pants” in my relationship when it comes to the finances being brought in. My partner wears “the pants” when it comes to maintaining our food and the housework because he’s at home all the time.
Who wear the pants… really some people are so ignorant. Equality is just too hard to comprehend. Love what you do, who you are, and look forward what is coming next. I’m thinking about purchasing something next year for my nephews wedding in the spring.
@@GunnarDeatherage i cannot carry a purse because i would forget it somewhere. If you sold girls pants with pockets, i would be an amazing customer. You are not only great at sewing, you are so sweet on your videos. I cannot sew a straight line to save my life!
Side note but I also hate how "wow, she wears the pants" is used as an insult anytime a woman shows "assertiveness" towards her husband in any form and to any degree. It could be about something as dumb as choosing a restaurant or vetoing a big purchase. Frankly it's insulting to both of them, labeling the woman as "bossy" and the man as a "doormat". Y'all don't know their relationship, as long as it's healthy, consented and balanced, leave them alone!!
My mother got sent home from school in kindergarten for wearing pants. It took her a long time to wear dresses and skirts for her own pleasure rather than feeling forced.
Love these! I'm so glad this video popped up for me. As a side note, I fully expected the end result to be one garment that was pants for you both...either four legs or three, with the middle one being large enough for two legs, so you could 'wear the pants' at the same time. 😂
I'll never forget a traumatic event in my life when I wore pants to walk to my elementary school on a snow blowing day back in the 60s. I was sent to the principles office and made to stay in there until my mother could bring me a dress to school! I was a tiny thing and froze to death anyway., but was shamed and humiliated that day for trying to stay warm! Thank you, Gunnar for this beautiful tribute to fairness.
Oh my, those are elegantly sophicated and put me in mind of the roaring 20's or suchlike. Good on you, that person wasn't brought up right and someone needs to have a word to their parents and ask them how they let them out of the house without explaining simple things like being polite and knowing when to keep your trap shut!
Your work is amazing and the fabric is gorgeous. I already love plaid, but with the olive green I love it more. This might be nice as a matching vest. 😁
for me the question "who wears the pants" is just a cover for "whos the man in the relationship" and as a lesbian soooo many ask this like no ones the man! unless your literally asking for terms of style then its absolutely not me! and Gunnar, those pants are so pretty i love it
Gunnar, I love you so much. Thank you for being such a stellar human for simply living your life and ignoring the haters on for reminding me that being unique is the purest definition of beauty. My little rainbow family sure does love your little rainbow family.
Gunnar, I love your work! Just beautiful! I was wondering if you might do a tutorial on how to match plaids. I sew costumes but never really learned how to plaids.
@GunnarDeatherage Perfectly explained! I love how you talked about the roles of partners. My son and his husband believe the same way.(our whole family does- we are 100% supportive of any and all relationships that are loving & healthy) I’m so thrilled I found your channel! My favorite (because I would absolutely wear it alllll the time so far is the Dark Academia dress😍😍😍
I remember finally be allowed to wear pants to school in the late 70's! And we could wear only PANT-SUITS, not just pants & absolutely no jeans! This was public school too. We literally froze wearing our mini- skirts in the winters before this. ( Maxi skirts were not allowed). Love this pant style! Very cool vibe.
I am a women, an angry neighbor knocked on my gate ( a man) and boy was he pissed ! He wanted to talk to my husband, I said he was sleeping, he told me I was lying ( and yes I was) He asked me , who wears the pants in my house, I told him, he was speaking to her ! Lol
Fashion has always been a hot topic! I remember the humiliation of being asked to leave church services bc of my clothing choices in 1969, which were modest, by today's standards...
Love the matching plaids in your pants. Learning how to sew, i was introduced to sewing with plaids. Matching them was the hardest thing to do in sewing. The garment was an À-line full length skirt. Now when shopping, I notice all the unmatched plaid garments being sold.
My grandma born in 1928 made a scandal in her town for being the First Lady to wear pants, she was the talk of the town and when asked why she was wearing them she replied “they’re just more functional” lol the classiest most feminine lady and she always wore pants
My mother's side of the family have been farmers well over 100 years. Also coincidentally woman heavy, they have just tended to be born at a higher percentage in our line. We have broken out of corsets, skirts, dresses, and all the rest long before the modern world. Ain't got time for that
My Mama is self made..she is the first women i know who wore a business suit to the office in Australia in the late 60s..i love your pattern so strong💝🌹
Oooh these are FABULOUS! And what a spectacular message! I’ve been told and heard over the years oh well “we know who wears the pants in that relationship” - meaning me, as opposed to my husband. And my response is always very similar - sometimes we both do, sometimes neither of us does 😌 but that’s right! It’s a partnership!!! As it should be!!!
beautiful !!!! here a quote: "Your Honor, I aways wear pants. And on the night in question, instead of wearing them underneath, I wore them just like men do, based on my perfect civil right to do so, on the OUTSIDE" --Luisa Capetillo After getting arrested for wearing pants. she was Puerto Rican, a reader for workers at cigarettes factory, incredible speaker, leader of labour movements, pioneer, forward thinking and tactics, home schooled by liberal parents. In 1915 wore pants in public even before Eleanor Roosevelt--1933, horse riding horses- .
Love the pants. And yes to your point. A relationship is a partnership, is about equality, balance, and shared values, not about power. By the way, I love all your creations! You are an amazing artist and creator and a beautiful soul!
THESE PANTS ARE BEAUTIFULLLLLLLLLLL?????????????????? im so picky when it comes to pants and shorts and stuff but this is LITERALLY STUNNING AND PERFECT
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what's the name of your sewing machine please. thank you
beginner friendly as in I have a sewing machine but I'm afraid to take it out of the box? I love your videos, thank you so much.
I love the pants and the commentary! Thank you for talking about women's rights. We haven't had them for very long.
Honest question have you ever found a full body mannequin that rages from 1xl to 4xl? I’ve been inspired lately to make my own clothes and I can’t seem to find one anywhere 🥲
You mentioned gender-neutral pants. Something that a lot of people don't know is that the dungarees the guys in the navy wore in the 70s were actually a womens cut! Which is why they made hubby's ass look so fine!
A comment on the history of women wearing pants; in 1968, we girls were required to wear a dress to evening football games and after dances. This wasn't fully lifted until 1971.
I feel like there is SO much to say about women and pants honestly, and one minute isn’t nearly enough time to talk about it fully. It’s so wild to me how an article of clothing can cause such a rise in people!
@@GunnarDeatherage That's how it was for me too...skirts stopped being required in my senior year the 1975-76 school year. Skirts were real short then too. The length made me feel vulnerable. My mom always made matching Short shorts (aka:hot pants) that I wore under my short skirts...it was liberating and cute. I was in a fashion class of my own....I have had very interesting tastes all of my life.
I remember in the mid 90’s working at an estate planning firm in North Carolina. The women working at the firm were forbidden to wear pants while at work. And, we all had to make sure we wore panty hose with our dresses and suited skirts. Let’s just say panty hose on humid NC summers was THE WORST. As much as I loved the job, leaving behind the patriarchal dress code was a definite plus.
@@GunnarDeatherage I remember the day in the 60s when we were finally allowed to wear pants to school. Trousers or bifurcated skirts have an interesting history, starting with the fact that they were derided by the ancient Greeks as effeminate because they were only worn by women in ancient Asiatic cultures. I've got, like, an essay on it somewhere among my ramblings on here.
@@kellyharper367...I wish my mother had thought of that idea too. I lived in Iowa during my childhood. So skirts were really a problem in the winters. I remember how much I hated skirts. The worst is that for school we weren't allowed to wear long skirts to stay warm.
Gunnar, I love when you look up to the camera while sewing and give us a little smile! Your spirit is so warm and comforting. Wishing you all the best ❤❤
In 1999, I worked in a corporate environment with a dress code that specified women could only wear dresses or skirts, knee length or longer and stockings were required. We froze in winter and sweating in hot, humid summers. We tried to petition to allow pants for women but were denied. One day, 2 women with a clipboard were going from one female worker to another. They got to our team and advised all the female employees they were required to offer up a leg so that one of the women could feel our lower leg to verify we were wearing stockings. 😲 I looked at them both and said, "No. If you touch me I will press charges of sexual harassment. There is no need for either of you to verify we are wearing stockings by touch when you can clearly see that we are. It's wildly inappropriate, abusive, demoralizing, and frankly bizarre and disturbing." The other women on my team also refused and the next day, we all wore pants to work and one of our male colleagues wore a skirt and stockings in solidarity 😊❤. I left that job shortly after.
this is pure sexism, and the women who came along to check your legs should be ashamed. Good on you for wearing pants the next day and well done for your male colleagues who supported you!
What a sweet colleague this is (the solidarity one) !! and I'm impressed+ proud of your all 's reaction 😊😊 bravo
That sounds terrible. What was the company and job?
This right here is why we don’t have the same problem today!!!
We all stand on your shoulders.
THANK YOU! 🥰🥰🥰
Wow!!!
"We both wear them....that's the point." I love you.
I grew up in Texas in the 1950's. Female students K-12 were not allowed to wear pants or sandals or patent leather shoes. Pants were masculine. Sandals showed too much skin. Boys could look up our dresses/skirts in the reflection from patent leather. It was a ridiculous way of living and stopped in the 1960's when students said ENOUGH.
I love your pattern and the thoughtfulness behind it.
A friend of ours who meant well asked this question of my wife, and asked in a very apologetic and earnest way that made it clear that she legitimately was confused, because she was raised on the belief that men doing "masculine roles" and women doing "feminine roles" was intrinsic to family cohesion.
So my wife politely explained that the question of who is the man and who is the woman is like asking who is the fork and who is the knife, when in truth we are a pair of chopsticks. She immediately got it and loved the explanation.
What makes me sad though is how many times we've since used the explanation, and almost every married straight cis woman we've talked to has laughed and said "Wow, I wish I could have that kind of relationship instead."
Chopsticks, how beautiful! Such a great metaphor.
Great answer, and yes, it's usually cis hetero women asking because they did not ask the right questions of their man before getting married.
I'm looking forward to late onset marriage and having recently shared a house with my youngest brother. I've got more clarity than ever before...
Anyway, I'm off to put the bins out ❤
At a friend's wedding a lady told the groom "you may wear the pants, but she will tell you what type you put on," boy was she right
I’m in a hetero marriage and we do have that sort of relationship, because we’re both very open-minded and logical, and give the middle finger to sexist traditions. We both support and guide each other as needed, and recognise each others’ strengths and weaknesses.
Fantastic metaphor! I've been married for nearly 36 years, man and woman, and I have been the one to carry and raise my children, handle the finances and run the house. I've made it so my husband "thinks" HE is the one in charge but I was raised by parents who split responsibilities equally. He and his siblings were raised by parents where his mom was in charge of EVERYTHING. She tried to tell me to "submit" to my husband because he's in charge of the marriage. BS! I've shown her and tell her that I am not going to lose MY identity as a strong woman. Unfortunately, LOL, my oldest daughter is too much like her dad and her grandmother. 😅
When I see what you create, I smile! Your narrative was important and the pants, fantastic!!!
Love the preciseness of your work. I wish I had stayed with this art rather than picking an academic major in college. Big mistake. Circa 1960 - high school, skirts had to be knee length or longer. No sandals. So Cal. I’m now in my 80s.
"Who wears the pants"
"We both do, thats the point" preach!
I don't know what's the fascination knowing who wears the pants" I have heard same question remarked to heterosexual couples "she wears the pants in that house"...smh
You are both so handsome.
The new phrase should be "Who has the better pockets."
Both pair came out stunning.
I never liked the whole "who wears the pants?" issue, bc in a family roles are fluid and often times, roles and moments of greater or lesser influence can change.
No matter what, you guys do you, it's all that really matters. Your lives are yours to live on your own terms, and you're doing that beautifully❤
"Who wears the pants" is a backhanded question to reference who is the Superior or the control in the relationship. The only people who would ask this type of question are those that have no respect for anyone other than a male-dominated patriarchal relationship. It's about time to shrug off those gender stereotypes and celebrate love in all forms and people who come in all colors sizes and personalities!!
They wanted to ask an even ruder, more inappropriately intrusive question.
@@birdgirl2623yes. I remember my mom always saying about her friends daughter "she's definitely a man in the relationship!!" like. no, that's completely the opposite to what you want. we do not want a man in the relationship, that's the entire point. she's engaged now, btw- to a masc lesbian. but Jess is also not the "man"
I just want to say, that I think it’s beautiful how we are breaking out of the binds of what love and a relationship “should be” in this modern age; I mean think about the women and men who fought for women’s rights and civil rights in the past. Sometimes I just breath in how free this time in history is, and though it still has many many problems, how proud those our ancestors would be at how far we’ve come. This world is truly so gorgeous and full and free in this time in history, I fall a little bit more in love with it every day it seems. ✌️🩵
It's still fitting sometimes.
For me the question today means "So, who is the dominant or bossy one?"
There can be one and there can't.
@@birdgirl2623 Yes, it's like asking a lesbian couple "Whose the man?" Well neither of us honey, that's the point. Unfortunately a lot of straights can't get past the idea that all relationships are copies of heteronormative relationships.
I so admire you, Gunnar! Your talent is incredible and your commentary so thoughtful.
I always hated the question about “who wears the pants”. Relationships are a give and take, and both people should be seen as a team. We need to get out of thinking that one partner is a master while the other is a servant. WTF?! It’s just an unevolved question.
So so true!
thats how it should be ideally...but theres always a dominant one in relationships that has the final say
@@SuicidalSummerSnowWoman not always. And sometimes both people have final say in different circumstances, depending on expertise.
@@SuicidalSummerSnowWoman The ideal relationship has equal compromise and doesn't have one dominating the other.
Un-evolved thinking
Dresses/skirt combos make me feel powerful in different ways depending on the style. I was all tomboy growing up and hated wearing anything feminine looking before 8th grade. It's quite the change♡ Any style we put on is making an outward show of ourselves and projecting how we want to be viewed, there is always a power in that. Even if it says let me feel hidden because that is as bold a statement as any other. ♡
I always like seeing someone who does not owe anyone an explanation of their relationship answering in a unique and creative way. It's even better when it answers nothing.
Perfectly expressed!❤
nice pants!!!
Flat and beautiful! I was scrolling on thru shorts quickly and heard your kind voice and rolled right back to you. Love your talent, inspiration and easy kindness. I wish all the best things for you!!
Gorgeous pants with a classy 1940s vibe and a soft and comfy look. You BOTH wear them well.
You both are the most wholsome!! I enjoy every moment you choose to share. Thank you for being such a good example of humanity ❤️
I will never understand why people think it is any of their business to ask these kinds of questions. It truly shows their ignorance and lack of integrity. Maybe some day people will just be happy that others are in a loving and caring relationship.
Same thing when they ask lesbian couples “so who’s the man then?” So freaking disrespectful and ignorant and not your business what happens in their home #ally
@@wendymarieglew6548sorry hun but that's not the same question.... who wears pants in the relationship is a figurative speech meaning who is the bossy one in the relationship....
Were as in which is the man of the relationship means who is the dominant person in the relationship....and yes with this you are every right to be annoyed, but just annoyed nothing else.
That has nothing to do with gender..... it's like when someone ask you how do you do ? Your reply is how do you do ? You dont tell them how you are doing 🤯
@@sheyshey1306 actually my step daughter and her wife get this question all the time and she’s so sick of answering. They’re equals and take responsibility of their own actions and admit accountability for their mistakes. They also have a 2 year old and they’re showing her that it is perfectly fine to ask questions just don’t be rude, nosy or disrespectful, hence #ally
@@wendymarieglew6548 I am with you, they must get annoyed when they get asked who is the man in the relationship because that is none of their business.... I just hope that we are going to leave behind a better world for their daughter.... love is a wonderful emotion, they are lucky and blessed enough to find someone they love and to find someone who love them back ....
Gender is out of the question when it comes to love. Love is both a blessing and Gift that others will never get to experience... love is about how much you care for that person , not their gender ....
At the end of the day I just hope we leave behind a better world for the younger generations.
I wish that the annoying questions will stop for your daughter, but then again we humans can be ignorant and arrogant, so the best I can do is try to leave behind a better world ....were love is like breathing OXYGEN.
@@sheyshey1306It was about bring sure a woman was under the man's control. It was always a demeaning question. Please, don't suggest women still must tolerate it.
I love how you push back with creativity.
...aaaaand how about we acknowledge that there's no need for a power dynamic in a loving relationship but plenty of space for teamwork and growth?
Yes!!
I don’t think the term “wearing the pants” always means that there is a negative or unhealthy power dynamic. It can also just mean that one person is the more dominant partner and usually makes the decisions. That can simply be due to personality and circumstance. Nevertheless, there is sometimes a need for a power dynamic in a loving relationship and you can absolutely still have teamwork and growth _inside_ that power dynamic as well - those things aren’t mutually exclusive.
For example, I’ve been with my husband over ten years now but because he owns his own company and has to make so many decisions at work everyday, when it comes to our relationship, I am the one who usually ends up making most of the decisions and is the more dominant of the two. It’s just the dynamic that works for us and it doesn’t mean that we don’t work together and grow as a couple.
@@nailartguy3363 different things work for different people, true. But I have never heard the phrase in connection to "who's the household administator" with a neutral connotation. Most often than not it has been used to identify the partner who is "the boss" understood as a recipient of all of the efforts of the other partner. Where the one cared for and "listened to" is the one "wearing pants". The problem here is how it's used. It doesn't matter who cooks or works and decides where to go on a holiday. Those are just tasks. The problem is that the phrase suggests the presence of the old-fashioned ways and people trying to "translate" the LGBTQ+ relationships into the 50's idea of a relationship. This is my problem with it. There's no need to "translate". Relationship is a relationship and it's not very kind to pry anyway. It's simply okay if you find what works for you. But maybe let's ditch the ridiculous saying 😉
@@sheimi91 Yeah I think it’s a stupid thing to say, especially to people who are in LGBTQ+ relationships, as I have been asked that question many many times, but I definitely prefer that to “So who is the man and who is the woman?” 🤣 I just wanted to point out that even a relationship where one person does technically “wear the pants” can still be a loving, caring relationship with teamwork and mutual growth. You might not have ever heard of the expression used that way, but if you look up “to wear the pants” it is often defined as “to be the person in a relationship who makes the decisions” or “to be the dominant partner in a relationship”. So while it is an old-fashioned expression rooted in a heteronormative, gendered view on relationships, it’s not _always_ used in such a negative way as you think. I agree that it would be great if we ditched it, but let’s also not make reductive generalizations about other people’s relationships, particularly not when based on our interpretation of an outdated saying. 😉
@@nailartguy3363 I really appreciate this exchange we're having here 😉 I see your point and true, maybe my judgement is a bit too harsh. I just care a lot about how language influences the way we think, and the other way round. Precisely like the "man and woman" question is reaaaally bad 😅. I'm trying to pay more attention to how we speak about those things, both in English and in my own language. So maybe to sum up my thoughts so far - phrases and vocabularies aside 😉 - as long as we feel safe and loved and appreciated in our relationships it doesn't matter what the task distribution is. But I will definitely keep what you shared with me in mind ⭐
The politeness of, that's the point, had me smiling.
As girls, my classmates fought to be able to wear Jeans and pants to high school. We had to kneel to be measured if our skirts were too short. So I at 69, almost 70, really appreciate wearing pants. Due to a disability that requires wearing special shoes that do not go with dresses, I usually wear pants, looking forward to this pattern
Damn. Thank you for paving the way for us fr.
I loved this comment, thank you for sharing
I seriously love everything you do, I have been sewing for 6 years and I often feel like I’m not skilled enough to make the things I want to and I get burnt out so easy but every time I see your videos I immediately want to get sewing and make everything I’ve ever dreamed of. ❤️ keep being amazing!
Gunnar, those pants are gorgeous! Not only are they classic, they're adaptable.
The pattern is perfect and can make a statement in every season, and in wide range of fabrics. And not only are they gender inclusive, they're size/shape inclusive! Tall, thin, broad, plus or petite - this garment will look tailored and fabulous!
Oh my Goddess…I love this sentiment & the way it is expressed here so much it nearly brought me to tears ❤️
You such are a beautiful light, Gunnar, please keep on shining 🌟
Love, light, & warmth to the beautiful both you ❤️🌟
I absolutely love this. Nobody ever talks about this. Also the pants are beautiful
My Mother was born in 1956 and wasn't permitted to wear pants in high school in the Chicago Suburbs.
Just gorgeous!!!!
Every time you make something I’m amazed at how effortless and beautiful it is
the plaid/tartan matching just makes me so happy! so satisfying ♥
Relationships should be a partnership! ❤
You make me so happy Gunnar. Thank you for being such a positive influence!
Love them! And such a stupid question. It's a partnership. Not a hierarchy. 💚
What a perfect point. And you and Chris are just absolutely adorable!! 💜
While in the United States Marine Corps I had to climb ladders in a skirt. That was in 1980. I was finally given a “pants chit” in 1981 which allowed me to wear them. The struggle was real 😂I so love what you do and your insights. Be blessed.
You just seem so sweet and are just adorable!! So glad you are happy and in love!!❤😊
I love you’re outlook on this!! No one should “wear the pants”! You should be equals and walk side by side. Not in front or behind. I absolutely LOOOVE these pants!! Trying to find cute, practical and not outrageously expensive pants for a working woman is so hard and these are perfect. Thank you!! ❤❤
My father was an excellent tailor! On this vídeo, I went back to the past and reminded my loved father! He used to saw with my younger sister on his lap!❤
I absolutely love your work ❤️ and today's lesson on relationship equality. No one ever says "who wears the skirt in this relationship?" Pants dress, skirt , flats heels boots all can make a person feel powerful! Thank you so much for being so open! what is your nail polish?
I'm mad someone had the audacity! Eff dem to the moon and back!
Those pants are gorgeous! Love them!
I wear “the pants” in my relationship when it comes to the finances being brought in. My partner wears “the pants” when it comes to maintaining our food and the housework because he’s at home all the time.
Thanks for teaching me to iron everything everytime. 68 year old from KY. Thank you for you professional advise!!
Who wear the pants… really some people are so ignorant. Equality is just too hard to comprehend. Love what you do, who you are, and look forward what is coming next. I’m thinking about purchasing something next year for my nephews wedding in the spring.
Beautiful job on the pattern, choice and color of fabric and style! You both wear them well!!!
I always love your designs and how calm your videos are, I always relax when I watch your videos
Your voice , Talent , Glamour, Humor, Face expressions, especially Nail polish just Adorable 🤩 Gunnar you are really a awesome person ❤
you two look so happy being together, it's too adorable 💕
OMG, I want those plaid pants! My GOD, you Sir are SO extremely talented!!! 💗
You two are so cute and loving 😊 the pants are great. I have a hard time finding female pants with actual pockets. Its so frustrating.
They don’t give women pockets so they buy purses to hold their things….🫠
That's why I refuse to buy a purse
@@GunnarDeatheragelol! Right
@@GunnarDeatherage i cannot carry a purse because i would forget it somewhere. If you sold girls pants with pockets, i would be an amazing customer. You are not only great at sewing, you are so sweet on your videos. I cannot sew a straight line to save my life!
Side note but I also hate how "wow, she wears the pants" is used as an insult anytime a woman shows "assertiveness" towards her husband in any form and to any degree. It could be about something as dumb as choosing a restaurant or vetoing a big purchase. Frankly it's insulting to both of them, labeling the woman as "bossy" and the man as a "doormat". Y'all don't know their relationship, as long as it's healthy, consented and balanced, leave them alone!!
My mother got sent home from school in kindergarten for wearing pants. It took her a long time to wear dresses and skirts for her own pleasure rather than feeling forced.
i love it!! both of yall look fabulous!!! i can't stand yall! YALL TOO CUTE! LOL!! ALL LOVE!!!
Love these! I'm so glad this video popped up for me.
As a side note, I fully expected the end result to be one garment that was pants for you both...either four legs or three, with the middle one being large enough for two legs, so you could 'wear the pants' at the same time. 😂
Me toooo!! 😂😂😂😂
I'll never forget a traumatic event in my life when I wore pants to walk to my elementary school on a snow blowing day back in the 60s. I was sent to the principles office and made to stay in there until my mother could bring me a dress to school! I was a tiny thing and froze to death anyway., but was shamed and humiliated that day for trying to stay warm! Thank you, Gunnar for this beautiful tribute to fairness.
Oh my, those are elegantly sophicated and put me in mind of the roaring 20's or suchlike. Good on you, that person wasn't brought up right and someone needs to have a word to their parents and ask them how they let them out of the house without explaining simple things like being polite and knowing when to keep your trap shut!
Gunnar, as good as you are you NEVER owe anyone an explanation for anything!! Be Gunnar!! ❤❤❤
I love seeing your work, you have mad sewing skills and you are a beautiful, kind and caring soul❤
and that voice!
love your simplicity and pouring your heart❤ in every thing u do
Your work is amazing and the fabric is gorgeous. I already love plaid, but with the olive green I love it more. This might be nice as a matching vest. 😁
for me the question "who wears the pants" is just a cover for "whos the man in the relationship" and as a lesbian soooo many ask this like no ones the man! unless your literally asking for terms of style then its absolutely not me!
and Gunnar, those pants are so pretty i love it
Beautiful couple. I wish you a lifetime of joy together.
“Oh my gosh”!!! Simply gorgeous!! Love ❤️ them both, but I’m a sucker for plaids. You are something else!
Marlene Dietrich is largely credited for bringing pants into women's fashion. God love her for it.
Kathrine Hepburn was right behind her.
Gunnar, I love you so much. Thank you for being such a stellar human for simply living your life and ignoring the haters on for reminding me that being unique is the purest definition of beauty. My little rainbow family sure does love your little rainbow family.
Gunnar, I love your work! Just beautiful! I was wondering if you might do a tutorial on how to match plaids. I sew costumes but never really learned how to plaids.
@GunnarDeatherage
Perfectly explained! I love how you talked about the roles of partners. My son and his husband believe the same way.(our whole family does- we are 100% supportive of any and all relationships that are loving & healthy)
I’m so thrilled I found your channel! My favorite (because I would absolutely wear it alllll the time so far is the Dark Academia dress😍😍😍
And you both look great in your pants. You are immensely talented and amazing, Gunnar😊
Love your creativity, and how you make a positive response with your beautiful style!
I remember finally be allowed to wear pants to school in the late 70's! And we could wear only PANT-SUITS, not just pants & absolutely no jeans! This was public school too. We literally froze wearing our mini- skirts in the winters before this. ( Maxi skirts were not allowed). Love this pant style! Very cool vibe.
AWE MAH GAWD! ITS SO CUTE! I love the look of them! Slay man! Keep up the good work! ❤
Oh my God I NEED a pair of both of them! The fitness, the fabric and YOUR style...❤
I am a women, an angry neighbor knocked on my gate ( a man) and boy was he pissed ! He wanted to talk to my husband, I said he was sleeping, he told me I was lying ( and yes I was)
He asked me , who wears the pants in my house, I told him, he was speaking to her ! Lol
Thanks for saying this! The pants are BAD ASS! The pockets are fire!
Fashion has always been a hot topic! I remember the humiliation of being asked to leave church services bc of my clothing choices in 1969, which were modest, by today's standards...
They look incredible! Thank you for what you do, as a creator, and a kind human being.
Your truly amazing, Your talent and as a person (at least from what I see on here) you rock!!
Love the matching plaids in your pants. Learning how to sew, i was introduced to sewing with plaids. Matching them was the hardest thing to do in sewing. The garment was an À-line full length skirt. Now when shopping, I notice all the unmatched plaid garments being sold.
Bravo Gunnar, 2 spiffy gents!🌷🌷
They are GORGEOUS, FUCK that question
You are a beautiful person, Gunnar. Never change ☺️☺️💖
"We both wear them, that's the point" I howled 😂😂😂
Fantastic pattern - and I LOVE that you matched the plaids!
My grandma born in 1928 made a scandal in her town for being the First Lady to wear pants, she was the talk of the town and when asked why she was wearing them she replied “they’re just more functional” lol the classiest most feminine lady and she always wore pants
My mother's side of the family have been farmers well over 100 years. Also coincidentally woman heavy, they have just tended to be born at a higher percentage in our line.
We have broken out of corsets, skirts, dresses, and all the rest long before the modern world. Ain't got time for that
Pattern matching is such an underrated still!!
My Mama is self made..she is the first women i know who wore a business suit to the office in Australia in the late 60s..i love your pattern so strong💝🌹
My wife and I have been asked "who is the man in your relationship?" I said there isn't one that's the point.
I love this conversation..it CAN be about mutual love and respect. So many men have an archaic view of relationships...I HATE THIS QUESTION TOO.
You don't have to prove a point you are absolutely fabulous
Oooh these are FABULOUS! And what a spectacular message! I’ve been told and heard over the years oh well “we know who wears the pants in that relationship” - meaning me, as opposed to my husband. And my response is always very similar - sometimes we both do, sometimes neither of us does 😌 but that’s right! It’s a partnership!!! As it should be!!!
I really enjoy you matching the plaids. So many don't, especially winter flannel shirt makers.
Those are gorgeous trousers! They have a 1940s feel; gorgeous lines. Fully agree with all of your observations about "pants."
Love to you and Chris. You both are Amazing. 🥰
"We both wear them thats the point" slay, this is iconic
Gunnar, I LOOOOOVE your "Flat and Beautiful"!!!! You are so compassionate and loving and I wish we were friends (so you can sew something for me)!!!!
Love your work Gunnar. X
Ugh. They are gorgeous!! Great fabric choices. I'd love a pair!❤
beautiful !!!! here a quote:
"Your Honor, I aways wear pants. And on the night in question, instead of wearing them underneath, I wore them just like men do, based on my perfect civil right to do so, on the OUTSIDE" --Luisa Capetillo
After getting arrested for wearing pants. she was Puerto Rican, a reader for workers at cigarettes factory, incredible speaker, leader of labour movements, pioneer, forward thinking and tactics, home schooled by liberal parents. In 1915 wore pants in public even before Eleanor Roosevelt--1933, horse riding horses- .
Love the pants. And yes to your point. A relationship is a partnership, is about equality, balance, and shared values, not about power. By the way, I love all your creations! You are an amazing artist and creator and a beautiful soul!
The trousers are beautiful ❤❤
THESE PANTS ARE BEAUTIFULLLLLLLLLLL?????????????????? im so picky when it comes to pants and shorts and stuff but this is LITERALLY STUNNING AND PERFECT