Polygyny Series- women are jealous

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  • Опубликовано: 4 дек 2024

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  • @fatemazohora7655
    @fatemazohora7655 3 года назад +51

    woman are jealous cz man dont treat equally.. after getting a new curvy wife he forgets about the mother of his children.. this is the example of most man.

    • @alghurraba
      @alghurraba 3 года назад +3

      This happens 99% of time. Women do not like polygamy because men are losers unable to manage it.

    • @fatemazohora7655
      @fatemazohora7655 3 года назад +1

      @@blacka7579.. that was stupid.. u dont even know whether i m married or not.. or in a relationship or not..

    • @angelinataherin3102
      @angelinataherin3102 3 года назад

      @@blacka7579 how do u know that?

    • @angelinataherin3102
      @angelinataherin3102 3 года назад +1

      @@blacka7579 why should I do that? as a human we should be concerned more about our lives and what's going on in it rather than others

    • @fatemazohora7655
      @fatemazohora7655 3 года назад +1

      @@angelinataherin3102 i wish the same sister

  • @cristystagnar6797
    @cristystagnar6797 3 года назад +65

    Why is jealousy in a husband towards a wife acceptable but a wife’s jealousy towards her husband not? I hear it framed as this is his right to be jealous and that it somehow elevates his honor. However any jealousy a wife feels is framed as petty and a trait to be removed. I genuinely don’t understand why one emotion is framed differently between the sexes.

    • @uthman1136
      @uthman1136 3 года назад +11

      No that is not true. In certain cirdumstances a wifes jealousy is considered a good trait like the jealousy of being cheated on. On the other side a man's jealousy can be a bad trait as well like when he is jealous on his ex or when he does not want to marry a divorcee because of his jealousy.

    • @cristystagnar6797
      @cristystagnar6797 3 года назад +12

      @@uthman1136 These are some good points. However, I’m asking why a wife’s jealousy regarding her relationship with her husband is framed differently than a husband’s jealousy in regard to his relationship with his wife. Specifically, that it is deemed natural for him to demand exclusivity from her and for him to be jealous of any non related male that she interacts with. However, any equal feelings of jealousy of a woman towards his relationships with other females is marked as petty and something to be overcome by a good god fearing wife. Same situation. Same emotion. Different interpretations of what this means in the two sexes

    • @RAH.910
      @RAH.910 3 года назад +2

      so true

    • @mashaalmuhammad3123
      @mashaalmuhammad3123 3 года назад +4

      @@cristystagnar6797 jealousy when her husband interacts with non mehram is not petty and it is a good thing.What is petty is extreme jealousy where they get suspicious or doubt him unless it is something proven.Also some get jealous when her husband interacts or spend time with his sister or mother ,that is also considered petty.

    • @mashaalmuhammad3123
      @mashaalmuhammad3123 3 года назад +6

      Also women getting jealous of her husband marrying second wife is something natural .Wives of Prophet also used to get jealous

  • @Moses-jo5ox
    @Moses-jo5ox 3 года назад +42

    Bro this video and channel deserves way more recognition... like if I owned RUclips I’d put this on everyone’s recommendation page.
    Allahumma Barik

    • @ibnamanot
      @ibnamanot 3 года назад

      Allahumma baarik. ikr?

    • @seekfactsnotfiction9056
      @seekfactsnotfiction9056 3 года назад

      Still sharing his channel and the word of Haqq is doable in all circumstances

  • @aliaasfar1791
    @aliaasfar1791 3 года назад +42

    Problem is when a woman makes it very clear she won't accept a 2nd wife, the man accepts and marries her. Then a couple years into the marriage he starts changing, lying, cheating, marries in secret more than once, lies when caught, does not give the 1st wife her rights, ignores her, doesn't come home, picks fights for no reason etc etc. This after 1st wife gave no reason for this treatment. That's just wrong. If a man can't be a real man with 1, he won't be a man with 4!

    • @Bestdealsffm
      @Bestdealsffm 3 года назад +4

      But Allah gives him the right to marry 4 so 🤷‍♂️

    • @aliaasfar1791
      @aliaasfar1791 3 года назад +8

      @@Bestdealsffm No, if a woman makes it clear b4 Nikkah,
      the man should go look for another woman to marry if he has intentions to marry more than 1. Especially evil of him when he had no reason to marry 2nd.

    • @Bestdealsffm
      @Bestdealsffm 3 года назад +6

      @@aliaasfar1791 how there is something to make clear if Allah says its halal

    • @onmyway7493
      @onmyway7493 3 года назад +8

      @@Bestdealsffm what Alia is saying is that if the girl make it clear in the marriage contract that she doesn’t want him to get a second wife and the guy accepts it, she has the right to divorce if he doesn’t fulfill it. It’s halal but it’s a right of the wife to choose it but only before the nikkah. If the guy won’t accept it he should find someone else

    • @hudakristall3139
      @hudakristall3139 3 года назад +5

      Salam aleikum, you all woman should know how to treat your husband that he wouldnt want a second wife,specially if youre jealous!its not so difficult.1.take care of yourself! Not important if youre slim,chubby, fat,breastfeeding,pregnat.Make yourself pretty at home,2.give him intercourse ,and do it from yourself also,not only when he wants! Make him satisfied!!! Simple,do it very often, also if you Think youre tief sometimes.
      He will be happy

  • @KS-cl8br
    @KS-cl8br 3 года назад +30

    We are not Mormans. We can believe that polygamy is allowed since Quran and hadith allow it. While simultaneously saying I would never allow my husband to take another wife. Just talk and have it in the contract that it's not for him to do. If he wants it say no and turn down the marriage and find a good husband. For example milk, radishes, and mustard are halah - me not eating them are because they don't suit my taste.

    • @KS-cl8br
      @KS-cl8br 3 года назад +2

      Poligymy is not required.

    • @OsadeTOOT
      @OsadeTOOT 3 года назад +5

      if Allah gave the husband this right, why do you take it away from him? As long as he's good to both of you.

    • @angelinataherin3102
      @angelinataherin3102 3 года назад +8

      @@OsadeTOOT it's her "preference"

    • @DiaryofaNomad
      @DiaryofaNomad 3 года назад +7

      The reality is there is tons and tons of good Muslim women to marry. There is not enough good Muslim men so men tbh get their pick and choice as we all know. Men are made to be polygamous. This is how Allah swt made them and that’s why he allowed it.
      Society is facing huge problems because women are against polygamy.
      Just look at us. Our society is breaking and crumbling.

    • @KS-cl8br
      @KS-cl8br 3 года назад +2

      @@OsadeTOOT Because m○Ron, most would not be GOOD to both. If he was good then why would you want to share. Sure it's allowed but I know a couple of $stupid women who allowed her husband to remarry. Why risk a good marriage by bringing in another person. One woman complains. Her husband will take wife 2 on vacations and give her fancy gifts but he claims he is being equal because he used to do this for the first wife citing 15+ years when she was the only wife.

  • @reuben1527
    @reuben1527 Год назад +14

    It's not jealousy, it's 100000000000% hurt and the realization that us woman were never really loved - we first get upset and then we leave ...... just like I did

    • @xcurrentbreeze6626
      @xcurrentbreeze6626 Год назад +5

      this is just a failure to understand men and women are different.
      As a mother, you can love all your children equally. Even if you have a favorite, you try not to show it and to be fair (at least if you're a good mother).
      Men are the exact same with women, we can love multiple women and love them all, even if that seems like an insane idea to you as a woman. God made us different - a woman typically wants one man to take care of her and their child, and a man typically wants multiple women he can spread his children with
      also, you said it not jealousy.... and then you proceeded to explain how you were jealous.

  • @Onajourney519
    @Onajourney519 3 года назад +26

    It's very difficult because it means you may lose your husband those things happen, it's not black and White. If you don't lose them they may prefer the other one and are not available to you. A man can't control his feelings he can't choose which one he loves more. It's deeply difficult.

    • @Onajourney519
      @Onajourney519 3 года назад +4

      @@DwayneMCyrus it does happen I think it's a risk on all wives, first second ect... It takes a certain type of man to do practice polygyny, he needs to be financially well off he needs to have the upper hand... anyways very long discussion and if he's deviated cheating ect... Polygyny will not solve it he needs therapy.

    • @aliaasfar1791
      @aliaasfar1791 3 года назад +2

      All the more reason to stay with one wife. Most men can't handle one these days. Men aren't what they used to be! Get over yourselves.

    • @Ikhomjon
      @Ikhomjon 2 года назад +1

      @@Onajourney519 loving someone more doesn't interfere with justice, i still can treat equally be the best husband even though i might love 1st wife more.

    • @Onajourney519
      @Onajourney519 2 года назад +5

      @@Ikhomjon true but it's.not a nice feeling for the wife. Who wants to be loved less? No one

    • @Ikhomjon
      @Ikhomjon 2 года назад +1

      @@Onajourney519 the thing is she doesn't know that I love her less. I agree man still love one wife more over the other, but it's inside, ur able to hide that feeling.

  • @lyndapearson2870
    @lyndapearson2870 3 года назад +33

    And men wouldn't be jealous if we married again...

    • @thehourglassfan3515
      @thehourglassfan3515 3 года назад +3

      You beat me to it lol.

    • @alqubrusia
      @alqubrusia 2 года назад

      Men are polygamous by nature - not women + islamically that not allowed

    • @arsheenzahid1972
      @arsheenzahid1972 2 года назад +3

      @Mohammad Bakeer then how does it work like,what do you think we (girls) have no feelings?

    • @u-kneeque
      @u-kneeque 2 года назад

      @Mohammad Bakeer
      I've known a woman who got d!vorced after 3 children, and when her ex husband heard that she got engaged he beh£aded her and threw her body in the sea. Men are very jealous and possessive. In a Muslim community men and women are supposed to be able to get divorce and remarry with no problem. But cultures say nono to women divorce nono to women getting remarried. Educate yourself on Islam and leave behind the weak hadiths and horribIe culture.

    • @reuben1527
      @reuben1527 Год назад

      @@arsheenzahid1972 we are just warm wet holes to them. No they don't care and they prove it

  • @882517
    @882517 3 года назад +25

    i think most women wouldn’t have a problem with having a sister wife… in my opinion the whole issue is more subtile. a lot of men (not all of course) don’t care about god, they don’t care about the feelings of others… they only care about their ego whether it's consciously or unconsciously. This causes them to have a very narrowminded view of the world...such men lack a holistic way of thinking which would be necessary to make the whole dynamic of several wives peaceful.

    • @alghurraba
      @alghurraba 3 года назад +5

      Yes, you're totally right. And huge majority of men are like this.

    • @NadeemAhmed-nv2br
      @NadeemAhmed-nv2br 3 года назад

      You do know that a man cannot marry his wife sister right as long as he's married to her so you can't have a sister wife

    • @LazyPepe2359
      @LazyPepe2359 3 года назад +1

      @@NadeemAhmed-nv2br sister wife means the other wife of the husband not the wife's sister lmao

    • @z.a.1237
      @z.a.1237 2 года назад

      Yes. As I see you are totally right.

  • @kaddydibba823
    @kaddydibba823 3 года назад +14

    Thank you that’s what I was saying ladies should speak before marriage

  • @helenachristi7720
    @helenachristi7720 3 года назад +8

    I married once and don’t wish to marry again. I meant it with my entirety when I married and be let me down. I am better to live alone as I know a man prefers a virgin anyway and if I am not adored completely I wouldn’t want to know. At least I have loved truly once in my life.

  • @iloveloveu
    @iloveloveu Год назад +1

    the arabic pronunciation is too impressive, mashallah

  • @nasma4477
    @nasma4477 3 года назад +10

    Asalamoe alykum
    Want to ask, if a woman is a good beliefer and submit and after that her husband Married the second wife she lost love for him BECAUSE of him lying and doing in secret and she know doesnt feel any love for him ecpecialy intiem relation.
    Does she has the right to ask for divorce

    • @seekfactsnotfiction9056
      @seekfactsnotfiction9056 3 года назад

      @precizion Well said. IslamQA is the best website with authentic fatwas. May Allah protect The Sheikh who established it - Sheikh Muhammad Salah Al-Munajed (فك الله أسره)

    • @seekfactsnotfiction9056
      @seekfactsnotfiction9056 3 года назад +1

      @nasma Your question is not an easy issue that anyone is dare to give u a fatwa online. See a local knowledgable real scholar (not a polular daa3i) and discuss with the issue sincerely in order for him to get the complete picture, then only it will be clear to you what could be a better solution. Listening to fatwas or reading about similar related situations is a good start to just have a general idea about the whole topic and the consequences, but never make your decision based on any online consultations when it comes to marital relationship. It is not that simple. Keep in mind Islam will NOT betray anyone's rights. Put your trust in Allah. Remember no one is perfect. Everyone may have different flows from the other person. It is like a circle! Check out this hadeeth
      عن أبي هريرة رضي الله عنه قال: قال رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم: «لَا يَفْرَكْ مُؤْمِنٌ مُؤْمِنَةً إِنْ كَرِهَ مِنْهَا خُلُقًا رَضِيَ مِنْهَا آخَرَ»
      FYI The Hadith applies to both gender in implementing
      والله أعلم

    • @JahannamHellfire
      @JahannamHellfire 3 года назад +5

      My husband lied and tricked me, I lost all love for him and started hating the pig! I divorced him...

    • @JahannamHellfire
      @JahannamHellfire 3 года назад +8

      @precizion Now i divorced him, he doesn't ring, text or visit our child, nothing. He dont care.

    • @aliaasfar1791
      @aliaasfar1791 3 года назад +3

      @@JahannamHellfire I did the same.

  • @preciousstone37
    @preciousstone37 3 года назад +5

    Its all very well in theory but in practice its a completely different ball game. Both for men and women and im speaking from experience. Women do not respect men when they use their weakness as a reason to take another woman. They need to use their words wisely but they don't in most cases and accuse woman of jealousy. I hate the word jealousy it makes even more upset. When you use that word uou immediately lower the womans characters. She may not be jealous, just knows that you are not doing it properly

  • @iloveloveu
    @iloveloveu Год назад +1

    26:01 the matrix has nothing on u omg😭

  • @yazzbazzs3602
    @yazzbazzs3602 3 года назад +2

    Very inspiring lecture MashaAllah shiekh may Allah reward you. Ameen 🌸

  • @iloveloveu
    @iloveloveu Год назад +1

    such useful and informative content, i

  • @afreenyakub3639
    @afreenyakub3639 Год назад +1

    It’s important to discuss about this before marriage with all seriousness and not just say what the lady wants to hear. Many men say things like u are my one and only, but a few years and children later, they suddenly want to practice their right! Why not just tell the girl from the beginning that I am planning on exercising my right sometime in the future. At least that way she gets to decide if she wants to be in a polygamous relationship in the future. Subsequent wives have a choice when they enter into a relationship with a married men, but unsuspecting first wives pay the price for the man “changing his mind.” To be put in a state where you have no choice but to stay due to financial dependency or for the sake of kids can really create resentment in the heart of a woman. It’s not just jealousy, it’s the lack of choice and the feeling of being forced into an arrangement one didn’t choose only because a man wants to suddenly exercise his right.

  • @juraij9751
    @juraij9751 4 года назад +5

    Barak Allahu feek 💪🏼💪🏼

  • @AfAsh-g2l
    @AfAsh-g2l 9 месяцев назад

    قالت لنا بعض آنساتنا جزاهن الله كل خير .إن الغيرة تأتي من قلة الإيمان.

  • @1MeaningfulLife
    @1MeaningfulLife 3 года назад +3

    Bringing up the problems brothers and sisters are facing within their marriage is important, how is that destroying marriages. Those who are saying you are destroying marriages are emotional, or selfish or they are the ones oppresing their spous.

  • @abderrahman_01
    @abderrahman_01 2 года назад

    بارك الله فيك

  • @nafezajhaveri7485
    @nafezajhaveri7485 2 года назад +6

    Slms... you have to take age and motive into consideration... when the messenger saw was raising his children and had an extended family household.. he was monogamous... however later in his life in his fifties and sixties when he was freer of his family responsibilities he was polygamous... so i see polygamous debate and questions coming from people in their twenties thirties and fourties... its not the time in your life... if a man is done with rearing kids and establishing his purpose and he is now in his fifties then yeah it might be ok and also older women would probably be more comfortable with a cowife... but its not for people who are younger... this is just my opinion...

    • @rabiahmohammed1385
      @rabiahmohammed1385 2 года назад +1

      This is true
      It’s very painful for we the younger couple but then Allahu mustaan

  • @weshouldsaveourselves6780
    @weshouldsaveourselves6780 3 года назад +9

    look having 4 wives is sunnah so its not the be all and end all if one doesnt 4 wives.

    • @elmuatadi7197
      @elmuatadi7197 3 года назад +1

      Its not Sunnah for the maliki but recommanded (if u can).
      Other madhahibs would Say that its recommanded to limit yourself with one wife wAllahu a3lam

  • @Xxtorii91
    @Xxtorii91 3 года назад

    This video was on point Allahumma barik

  • @Leah-zg7mv
    @Leah-zg7mv 3 года назад +13

    Brother gabriel, I wonder, how many wives do you have?

    • @yourfamilydoctor172
      @yourfamilydoctor172 2 года назад +2

      With a sexy blue shirt like that, I’m sure he has several!

    • @Leah-zg7mv
      @Leah-zg7mv 2 года назад

      @@yourfamilydoctor172 lol. I wasn't making reference to that but yeah I see your point

    • @szsa1926
      @szsa1926 2 года назад +3

      I bet he has one lovely wife, that he loves dearly - I don't know, is it just me or anybody else getting this vibe?😂

    • @Marwadear512
      @Marwadear512 2 года назад

      @@szsa1926 I read that he has 3.

    • @szsa1926
      @szsa1926 2 года назад +2

      @@Marwadear512 well may allah bless them all

  • @bilkesnferdous
    @bilkesnferdous 2 года назад

    الله يرضى عليك

  • @hejsanhejda9223
    @hejsanhejda9223 2 года назад

    Not Always

  • @SaidKerimov
    @SaidKerimov 3 года назад +2

    I like your armani shirt, brother

  • @Free-11
    @Free-11 11 месяцев назад

    But still new researches should be looked at and accepted if have valid proofs. I dont agree on folowing blindly

  • @darulilm8517
    @darulilm8517 2 года назад +1

    I believe and summit to the will of Allah. I come in as a second wife then the third wife came in after then, because i am easy going person my husband took that for granted and alot of injustice for me and my son. I just live every thing to Allah. For me is a trial from Allah. I still will say polygamy is a good practice is just that we practice it in a wrong way to suit ourselves. If only we do it according to the way Allah SWT instructed us to do.

  • @IM-3000
    @IM-3000 Год назад +1

    Secret marriage ?! The marriage is for making it known. What about the kids ?! Imagine siblings falling in love with each other because they don't know anything about each other

  • @MariaPerez-sb1xp
    @MariaPerez-sb1xp Год назад +1

    Are we now blaming women for their husbands watching porn and going to prostitutes, because he can't get a second wife? And what if all four wives lose their cute spark after birthing kids with weight gain and aging? If a man is not faithful with 1 wife, he won't be faithful with 4 either. You can't just divorce all four wives after you get bored.

  • @federicoferrari1986
    @federicoferrari1986 3 года назад

    Raramente ho sentito così tante fesserie

    • @z.a.1237
      @z.a.1237 2 года назад

      Sei italiano ?

  • @aishaseid2813
    @aishaseid2813 3 года назад +3

    Barakalahu fik my dear brother unfortunately we lost the truth everybody not allowed to have the second wife he cheats on her she knows he's cheating on her but she don't care we lost Iman we lost the right away ..... we lost the light way that is the Sharia .so we're having un happy life any way.

  • @Water321g
    @Water321g 2 года назад

  • @MSBJ7
    @MSBJ7 Год назад +1

    The woman has no say so, Allah made it Halal. If a woman put that condition on Nikah the man should not marry her to begin with, but even if he does he still can get a 2nd wife. The 1st wife have the option to stay or leave but never the option to make haram what Allah made Halal. I am a female by the way and I accept and support Polygyny because Allah made it Halal.

  • @Avraham.Eisenberg
    @Avraham.Eisenberg 3 года назад +11

    Yeah there is one girl that I really love but it's difficult for me too see myself being married to only one.

    • @salamkala14
      @salamkala14 3 года назад +34

      Than you don’t love her 😂😂

    • @Avraham.Eisenberg
      @Avraham.Eisenberg 3 года назад +5

      @@salamkala14 would you say that the prophet and shaba did not love their first wife?

    • @fbr29
      @fbr29 3 года назад +31

      @@Avraham.Eisenberg Can't really compare the men of today to the greatest men that have existed and everything they stood for. Would you be able to be as just as our prophet saw?

    • @Avraham.Eisenberg
      @Avraham.Eisenberg 3 года назад +18

      @@fbr29 if we get stuck to the idé that we can't extrapolate their living culture to our lives then our religion will only become a pick and choose.
      We should and are able to imitate the lives of the shaba at least when it comes to religious matters.

    • @fbr29
      @fbr29 3 года назад +7

      @@Avraham.Eisenberg especially when it comes to having more than one wife right brother? Lol

  • @johnathanlopez8040
    @johnathanlopez8040 2 года назад +3

    My wife was preaching to me how good Polygany is before marriage, now that we are married she thinks I won't be fair

  • @halimaissack4719
    @halimaissack4719 2 года назад

    Very inspirational..."you do not invalidate anything in islam..".you submit to Allah Azzawajal...

  • @user-co8uf1mj6c
    @user-co8uf1mj6c 3 года назад

    they are not jealous, women don't know what is jealous, they are envious.

    • @princessdaphne444
      @princessdaphne444 2 года назад

      it depends on the situation 🤦‍♀️ jealousy and envy are totally different so ofc a woman knows how to be both, whereas envy is a sin but jealousy is fine

    • @imansalem2453
      @imansalem2453 2 года назад +1

      Are you a woman to know how she feels?

    • @user-co8uf1mj6c
      @user-co8uf1mj6c 2 года назад

      @@imansalem2453 no but i can see their acts

    • @imansalem2453
      @imansalem2453 2 года назад +5

      @@user-co8uf1mj6c women can get jealous.
      I don't understand how you want someone to let their spouse love,hug and kiss another one.
      Men can't truley love many women they just love sex .
      So polygamy is just an emotionless relationship .

    • @aspiringkamikaze1894
      @aspiringkamikaze1894 2 года назад

      Imagine being a Rafidite 😂 what are you doing creeping about here, go back to self flagellation