0:32 Stop breaking promises to yourself 2:30 Start implementing a health routine 4:01 Tiege Hanley Sponsor ad 6:00 Stop being stuck in victimhood 7:48 Start paying attention to red flags and incompatibility 9:08 Stop relying on alcohol 11:11 Start understanding the impact of your circle
I just turned 33 a couple of days ago, I was weighed the most on January 1st 2023… at 224.6lbs and started 2024 at 209lbs and made it my mission to lose weight. As of this morning I weighed in at 175.8lbs, only down side (not really) is that I had to buy all new clothes and donate all of my old clothes.
@@CourtneyRyan I’m twenty eight years old too I’m a black belt at this taekwondo school for 13 years it’s was good back when I was 15 years old but now it’s becoming a horrible school for me now because everyone them is so mean to me there and that’s why I’m going to move on to tiger Schulman’s mixed martial arts gym to become a mma fighter so that’s one thing I’m going to do now before I turned thirty.
I simultaneously hate and love clicking on a Courtney Ryan video. I hate the short term discomfort of being held accountable for my laziness by her and being reminded that I should be working harder than I am to be the best man I can be. And I love that she has the courage to tell us men truths we don't always want to hear because she knows it's good for us. She doesn't pander to her followers out of fear she'll lose them. So grateful for the wisdom, Courtney! Thank you for your insights. Your channel has made me a better man.
As a 30 year old man, I approve of this message. Keeping promises you make to yourself just makes you feel like a much better person, especially if you've been struggling to love yourself.
Courtney, first off, I'd like to tell you that I subscribe to very few channels, but yours was an instant decision for me. At first, your beauty caught my attention, but the competition for men’s attention is fierce these days on social media. For me, it takes a very special person with depth, wisdom, intelligence, and a willingness to share their inner truth to keep my attention. I’m 57 years young and do all of the things you mention. My significant other is 25 years my junior, and we have an amazing relationship, built on so many of the principles you share with men in your videos. In a world filled with content-pushing manipulation tactics and shallow, destructive behaviors in relationships, it's truly inspiring to find a unicorn like you shining amongst the darkness. Thank you for sharing your knowledge and for being a beacon of truth in these important discussions. Your content is not only enlightening but also empowers both men and women to strive for better, more meaningful relationships. Keep doing what you’re doing-you’re making a difference!
I've never been a regular drinker because I've seen second-hand how alcohol can ruin otherwise good people. It's strange how ubiquitous its acceptance is to the point that sometimes you'll be shamed for being a prude if you're not available to get drunk.
i was never drunk and never cared to fit in. i don't do anything on the basis of how popular it is. does that keep me lonely? yep, but i'd rather be alone than around the wrong people.
Same here. I was just a casual light drinker in my early 20s-typically the 1, 2, 3, and done type, and most of the time not even finishing the third. The last time I was at a bar, I was sitting at the local pub, sipping on one Rolling Rock while waiting for my then-girlfriend. There was one guy who obviously had too much to drink and was stumbling around, bumping into other patrons. He ended up falling on top of someone, and chaos erupted. Chairs, tables, glasses, and bottles started flying everywhere. Everyone evacuated while the cops were on their way. I thought to myself, “You know, I was just waiting for my girl, and suddenly there are two guys killing each other! You can't even sit and relax while waiting for your honey.” That was my final time at a bar, pub, sports bar, etc., and I also quit drinking altogether because I can't metabolize alcohol well. It just made me realize that even only drinking two and a half bottles/cans a week was enough to be around the chaos and mess.
You hit it on the head with the "not breaking the promises to yourself"!! Right now I'm 25 going through probably the hardest turning point in my life. To keep it short, I'm going to lineman school so I can become a lineman (someone that works on power poles) and be a better "candidate" for a woman. The best part is, I'm extremely scared of heights. I've had a very good support group, but the biggest thing is the promises I give myself on conquering my fear of heights and the academic aspect of the school. The whole reason why I'm putting myself through this is because I want to make my future family and family right now proud. (Also love the thought of the trade haha) Its very hard to keep the promises to myself especially when I'm deathly afraid, but its the best feeling when I accomplish it. This goes for a lot of other things in my life not only this but also going out more. I can tell that my confidents has risen exponentially which in turn helps me get out of my comfort zone more and more. Super grateful for the videos you post!
Motivating! Keep going. Study and follow all of the safety protocols you are being taught. You’re learning an important skill, and linemen are always in demand. Aim to one day manage lineman. You’re 25, you are in a good place. Enjoy the journey.
The years stretched out in my case😂 my will and wit are still mostly reigning, but my judgement is getting better now…it’s unfortunate what it takes to get better judgement…..all you guys are supporting Teige Hanley…😂
As true now as it was then. And in another 200 years, that quote will still be 100% spot on. Amazing guy he was... Probably my favorite Founding Father.
It's been almost thirty years since I have been thirty and you're totally right. But to do the right for us and everyone else is a daily work in progress for life, you can't never give up.
Absolutely on board with dialing back and minimizing alcohol. Plus if you drink seldomly or rarely, when you do partake socially, itll be alot cheaper to get the job done.
I’m glad you talked about the benefits of not drinking. It’s nice to know that there are others who are around my age that don’t feel like they have to engage in that to have a good time. I can tell you from personal experience that I have definitely had plenty of moments where I felt like the odd one out.
As the late great Lucille Ball would say "Love yourself first and everything else falls into line". I believe that quote till this day and victimhood is not only lack of responsibility but can lead a dark path in life.
Confidence: Know who you are, and don't care. If you are going to talk to a woman don''t care if you don't get anywhere. Getting turned down is a learning experince. Keep trying the more you talk to the more relexed you become. Be yourself. If you go up to a lady and you are nervous. She will detect it and you will lose right away, You can get confidence by hanging out with ladies who know you and you can feel relaxed around. Also you are never more attractive to women than when you are with a lady, Women do watch other women. One thing that works for me is: Say something stupid to get a smile or a laugh. Its a great way to break ice. If she dose not even crack a smile move on. If she dose you are off to a good start. Also when its not working, make it your idea to leave. Make her feel like its you rejecting her. Don't give her the power of rejecting you even if thats what is happening.
I wanted to add it can back fire if you say something off collor, keep it clean. Maybe tell an old joke but give a different puchline it will throw them off balence has worked for me.
@@danjenkins21 That is hard to say as I don't know what you are like. It could be you are looking for ladies who think they are gods gift. If I am at a bar and there are 5 ladies there. 4 look fantastic but one who may be plain and is showing interest and has a great sense of humor thats who I will talking to.
@@danjenkins21 I don't know what you are like so it could be hard to tell. If you get yourself to an I don't care mind set it helps. Keep the conversation clean and don't brag. The more relaxed the better. If you are in a group try to stay near the ladies. Sometimes being quiet pays off. But if you see someone you like say hi. If you have confidence and she says I have a boyfriend (99% chance she will) Say I just thought you might like an upgrade and slowy walk away.
Keeping active is so huge. I'm only 38, but my knees are already shot from a decade of military service. My key to keeping them mobile, staying in the gym! If I take extended time off, my knees atrophy so fast, it takes me weeks to be able to jog again and have pain just walking. Much better/easier to just stay active!
Hi Courtney. I've watched all your fragrance videos on this channel (and some from the fragrance channel) and they were great. You have videos like '8 sexy fall fragrances' and 'best spring fragrances' and what I'd love to see is something like '8 best all-year fragrances' for someone who's looking to dip their toes in and buy their first ever fragrance (bonus points if a bunch of your girlfriends blind react to them like on the fragrance channel, that was peak content). My favourite part of your channel is practical tips on what to buy to look my best. For example, I've gotten a watch, a couple pieces of jewellery, white sneakers and some button up shirts for layering (sleeves rolled up of course). So, totally up to you, not trying to be pushy, just sharing what I've found most helpful. Thanks for all you do.
@@CourtneyRyan i have a younger sister and im the oldest, and my parents didnt really teach me anything useful so honestly at this point, you are playing the role of older sister and i so appreciate it. sometimes i wish i had one, its scary winging it being the oldest as i dont really have anyone to learn from but atleast for short-medium form content, the advice you give is better applied practically rather than some of the weird manosphere accounts on how to treat women and people in general.
Great advice Courtney, thanks for making these vids and keep it up! I just turned 33 and have been trying to make some changes in my life, so this content is really helpful. Keeping promises to myself has been one of my weak points but I feel like I’ve been doing better. Also as someone who doesn’t drink it’s so refreshing to see others that don’t either! That’s an awesome way you put it about alcohol being the only drug you have to explain why you don’t use.
Good list, but I would like to add more! 7. Stop being negative. Complaining about everything makes you come across as a childish moron, someone even dogs would avoid. 8. Not everything is about you. Resist the urge to leave your mark on every aspect of the universe. Learn to understand and embrace your role in life. If something seems far beyond your natural abilities, it's best not to interfere with it.
I am 24 years old, so not quite the target age range but I still wanted to hear many of these advices. I co-sign all of these points, and have all of them in mind as I am trying to improve myself. The only point I slightly disagree with is the last "surrounding myself with the right people" point. I am sure this is the case for many, but simply picking and choosing the right, real friends isn't an option for me. As an introverted and shy person it has been incredibly hard for me to make new friends in my 20s, and trust me I have tried. I have realised that I am just not a likable person to many, and I will just rather stick with the friends I do have.
I found your channel some months ago and not only do I admire the professionalism you put into your videos, from editing to background, voice volume But I also have found out new things about myself like the fact that I enjoy making compliments (to anybody who deserves it) but I used to be very shy and afraid of making things sound weird (as if I were flirting, not at all my intention) And thus far, following your advices I’ve been able to compliment people in general and I have only found positive reactions so it’s your turn 🫵 Your light blue outfit is really elegant and beautiful, it matches your eye color and skin tone. You’re really an awesome person
Amazing advices here, Courtney! I'm 34 myself and I'm on a personal healing journey. It is never too late to start over and to start taking care of the things that really matter. Taking care of yourself allows you to take care of others around you.
Spot on! Thankfully I realized this early on and implemented these in my 20's. Taking care of one's health his so underrated especially now when it's so easy to overindulge. Health is wealth.
Great video, coming from a 30 year old who struggled with many of these don’t aspects. Victimizing yourself definitely prevents growth. It’s so easy for guys to ignore incompatibility due to a scarcity mindset, but it will waste your opportunity to find someone right when your hung up on someone wrong. There’s a lot of pressure to use drinking for socializing (and to “fit in” when), but there’s pride in not drinking… and on the rare occasions I have a small drink it’s pretty evident how bad it is.
I'm 48. I wish I had followed this advice in my 20s. Thank you Courtney! Also good advice would be to stop worrying so much and taking rejection personally. Setbacks, failures and disappointments happen. Things generally work out for the best if you learn from them and press merrily onwards. Life is so short. Enjoy it all!
7:48 - I’m constantly hearing about Red Flags🚩. I don’t think I’ve ever seen a comprehensive list of every Red Flag to look out for. But, I will add one more to the list: Her Family. You are not just getting married to her, you are getting married to her Entire extended family. You need to meet them and learn everything about them ASAP. Oh, the headaches and heartache that would have prevented in my life.
Honestly spot on. I’m 29 and I needed to hear this. I usually don’t listen to may women now a days just because how they are but it looks like you’re different than them. Thank you!
Happy Sunday / September, Courtney! Black 🖤 is your color. I hit 30 in November 2016 but I always like to improve myself and to be the best version of myself
Thanks as always for the great advice. You really have your stuff together. I don't know if you realize how rare of a girl you are-especially at your age. I'm still waiting to meet someone like you-attractive inside & out. I will add that with the legalization of marijuana & THC products, that this is every bit as big of a problem as alcohol is in today's world. I've also seen people who were previously straight as an arrow turn to alcohol later in life. My cousin just passed-away at the age of 58 from alcohol related problems. I had no clue this happened to her & I was shocked when I found out. Working on yourself is a lifelong commitment, but so worth it. Keep up the good work that you do!💫
THANK YOU FOR BRINGING THESE ISSUES TO MY ATTENTION, I BELIEVE IN TREATING PEOPLE AS YOU WOULD LIKE TO BE TREATED, , HOWEVER I AM NOT INTERESTED IN PRESENTING AN ILLUSION OF SOMEONE THAT I AM NOT, DO YOU COMPREHEND !!!.
As someone who’s been in a leadership position myself for several years now as 26 year old guy who’s autistic, these are the exact principles I follow to this day. I’ve been applying the fitness principle especially for over a year now. I’ve been much more consistent this year than I was last year actually. I go for a walk every single day, and I go for a run every other day to make sure I close my fitness rings which include Move, Exercise, and Stand I’m currently on a 130 day streak and counting, and I only seek to pursue even higher goals along the way. Thank you so much again Courtney for reminding me by providing this video that I’m doing a great job! And speaking of a great job of course, keep up the fantastic work ☺️
very nice video i wish i could press the like button more than once, keeping promises you make to yourself has to be the quotes of the year thank you so much
Totally agree with this list, should there be more maybe, but as is it's good enough and besides we'll see more lists like this from Courtney sooner or later.
This is very wise and mature advice! You're channel has the best and most positive dating advice that I've seen on RUclips. Thanks for all you do for us
Public comment. So true. Serving the true purpose in life. Knowing that you want in life. Self realization and self reflection allow you to think about life before you act base on how you procieve life ❤. Thank you so much Ms Courtney ❤❤❤❤
You are a great example of an embodiment of a mature women. And the type of women I look to attract. Thank you for all your work. You're an old soul for sure 👌
You are right about drinking. I gave it up this year because I didn't want to become an alcoholic like my parents. I was just at my best friends wedding and I found it annoying that I had to explain to everyone why I wasn't drinking 😒
This is gold. I am 58, been married before. I have struggled with the feeling that I felt that, on first dates, I am not being generous with her, but rather I feel that I am proving that I have financial capacity, when I must say, "I've got this" when she reaches for her purse. Getting passed that proves difficult because that "I've got this" message means that I have got it all to hand: job, house, money, relationship, crises, absolutely _all_ of it, I take on _all_ the weight from first date on. And, I must do it alone I am the man, I can and must take it. "Victim", maybe, though not intentionally. This is my greatest stumbling block. How to get passed that? I am now starting to not give a ____ what any date thinks of my dating values and just enjoy the process that unselfishly feels good to me.
Proud to admit at 31 I’ve adopted about half of these just from personal experiences! All very true. Dropping the victim mentality and changing my circle have both been game changers. 💯
Important thing: 0:31 First Thing ÷ Stop Breaking The Promises That You Make To Yourself; 2:27 Second Thing ÷ Start Implementing A Health Routine; 5:57 Third Thing ÷ Stop Being Stuck In Victimhood; 7:45 Fourth Thing ÷ Start Paying Attention To Red Flags And Incompatibility; 9:06 Fifth Thing ÷ Stop Relying On Alcohol; 11:07 Sixth Thing ÷ Start Understanding The Impact Of Your Circle, and 12:29 to summarize all the told here. What should you / we do: 1:04 First Thing ÷ Keep The Promises That You Make To Yourself; 3:07 Second Thing ÷ Ensuring That You Have The Basics In Order; 8:48 Don't Date Or Marry Person That Isn't Ready For Changes;. You are so correct about the things what you have told there Courtney. Additional things would of been these: Seventh Thing ÷ Stop Relying On Cigars Or Non-healthy Food; Eight Thing ÷ Stop Scrolling Down Social Media's On Either Phone Or Computer Whole Time (but this routine can be also used just like watching too much Netflix like you have told there). I also don't like to drink alcohol, since I avoided hanging around with my so called classmates in secondary school. And then I decided to go to hang out with others that can accept me for who am I. And I also don't regret about that decision, since those so called classmates then told this about: "Look at him. He doesn't really care (meaning as in Hollywood series and movies they say: He doesn't give a sh***t). He does not care that some countries are landlocked. Why am I not like him?" And then I replied to him this: "Who prevents you from being like me?" And when I told him that, he suddenly became quiet. Yes, we would like sometimes that we could of been told some things a bit earlier. But we are all generals after a battle. From all the told here, we can summarize the whole thing to one this. And it goes like this: "Help yourself to understand yourself." What I meant to say is that you should be supportive to yourself, since all of those things do come from ourselves. In Balkan peninsula we say one thing: "The one person that helps itself, even the mighty God will help that person as well."
One thing I learned is to recognize and stand up to abuse. It's tough to do because abuse can be very subtle or completely well-intended, especially when it involves very manipulative people and close family members.
This is a list of things that are important for Courtney. What may be important for someone else can be entirely different. I think we can agree that certain activities are almost universally not beneficial. But beyond that... not too much generalisation is possible.
You do give a solid point about this topic. The reality is that. Men and women in society are not getting together at a good enough rate along with the economy and society norms and ideologies. The fact that the population will shrink due to low birth rates in the future is very concerning. The various infrastructures that need to be maintained will not be possible. If you are working at Wendy's, a desk job pays the same or, if not more, than an infrastructure job. And there is also going to be less manpower to maintain this in the future. It will cause it to crumble faster. People who work these jobs go unappreciated. They make about the same or less money as most jobs in this country to survive now. It is more of a community service than an actual job anymore. People leave for easier and less physically demanding jobs with much better pay, relaxed regulation, and less corporate BS that affects them mentally. People follow the money. If you can't get electricity, food, or service. I don't know what to tell ya. There will be a breaking point in time when these people can not cover all the infrastructure in this country. It will be interesting to see how we get out of this one.
Sugar, High Fructose Corn Syrup, Alcohol Cooking for one's self really helps to control for a person's sugar intake. Sugar is in everything! Well, almost. Also portion control. It is too easy to eat too much when eating out. It is easier when eating at home. And of course there's the cost savings, which is substantial. Recognizing that Fructose and Alcohol have to be metabolized by the liver is very fat inducing has got me working on reducing those (I'm not much of a drinker but do have my proclivities for soda). Becoming aware of one's sugar intake and reducing it is one of the actions I'm working on to reduce my belly and love-handle fat.. (High calorie fancy and expensive coffee drinks anyone?)
As a guy who is literally about to enter his 30s within a few weeks, this is honestly great advice overall. This advice can also apply to men in their late 20s and people in general who are starting out as adults in their 20s. Two things I would add: 1. Stop think too much on the what ifs. There will never be a perfect time to do something and/or move on to better things. Either you do it now or never do it ever. Weight out your pros and cons on anything and everything and then make a final decision that works best for yourself and others. 2. Most failures and setbacks aren't ends all be alls, let alone life or death scenarios. While few are life-changing or permanent that should be put into consideration, most failures and setbacks are honestly forgivable and redeemable, let alone small and temporary. So, start fresh, do what need to do to come back, make things right and move on as wiser and better person in a best case scenario and beyond.
Hi Courtney! Thanks for a great video! These are such wise words, but I wanted to share a slightly different perspective please if thats OK? The only thing I'd love to add is that often it's so easy to forgot that for many people, particularly those with neurodivergency or similar neurological or physical disabilities, a lot of these things can feel next to impossible to achieve on a regular basis with the smptoms they face, often so much harder than for regular folks. I know neurodivergency is still a difficult subject to discuss with so much negativty and misinformation surrounding it, but the only reason I do is to share a little of my own story. As a 41 yr/old male who for nearly all of my life has fought against crippling ADHD (amongst other things) since I was around 14 years old approx, I just simply couldn't do the things you mention consistently. Trust me I tried! I tried and I tried. So. Many. Times. Did. I. Try! 😭I wanted to do it for myself, for my partners, for friends and family too. I tried to stick to routines, to follow plans, to take care of myself, to basically just attempt day-by-day what most without knowing it took for granted, or regard as the bare minimum! Despite being a straight A student throughout my life and a genunine nerd with 3 degrees, I've always struggled so hard with just doing the very basics. There simply wasn't the understanding or scientific knowledge when I was at school or university and throughout most of my 30s. It was only after being diagnosed approximately two years ago at the end of 2022, and in the last 3 months finally settling on a reuglar medication plan, that I now have the neurological freedom to follow through with things and get things back on track, going to gym, getting back into all the competitive sport training I did as a young teenager, regular health care and check-ups, etc. Basically being able to do all these simple little things most people assume is the bare minumum for an adult male! 😂 I guess if I could add anything, it's just to offer a small gentle reminder that's OK if these things haven't worked out us, there's always still time, and to encourage young guys now there is the kindness and space to seek help, as they may have been struggling with something undignosed for a very long time, that with a little professional help, could make the world of difference and to be able to achieve all of these things! Thanks again for the great channel and video, and hope it was OK to share this with you. Best wishes, Gavin .
I do yoga, and stretching is so helpful. A lot of men don't stretch because they see it as effeminate, but stretching allows you to push your body further - you recover faster. You reduce injuries. I stopped drinking around five years ago. A lot of guys are just rude. They are rude online, they are passive-aggressive in public, they are condescending at work... If you are rude to strangers, you will be rude to your partner/spouse. You can't just switch that on and off. A lot of guys think they can be a jerk to random people and suddenly be awesome with a girl they like - it doesn't work like that. Sure, you can show your best qualities, but your best is coming from your average, and your average is who you are on a regular basis. A woman can tell that you are a jerk in a few minutes.
Great tips that can absolutely apply to people of any age, Courtney! Getting out of the victim mindset was the hardest for myself, but 100% worth it. It was easier when I realized the external factors in my life were not unique and that I owed it to myself to get to that better life.
When I was young there was some pressure to drink, to party, and to party hard. It was pretty bad and seemed to get worse as I aged out of college culture. It’s nice to see society pushing back against drunk culture. Hopefully we don’t swing too far and repeat prohibition, but probably best not to make drinking alcohol a regular activity
I drink maybe once in a 6 month period when i'm craving it. When I tell people this, they look at me like I think i'm above all. At work, people show up inebriated (from drinking or vaping/smoking) . I feel sorry for those people. The best people i've known in life do NOT rely on substances to cope, you rely on the strength from within
Guys, I could not agree more with pretty much everything Courtney said on this video. I’m 36 now, but I’ve a lot of dissatisfaction with several things in my life, so I’ve recently made some important changes, and they relate to what she touched on. For instance, I implemented a daily morning routine (walk, exercise & cold shower), as well as an evening one (wind down & read the Bible before bedtime). As a consequence of reading the Bible, I realized some things about myself, specifically my identity; and this, in turn, led me to realize who I should be picking as friends or as my inner circle (I am aware that religion and spirituality is a very personal thing, so to each his own). I’ve cut down on drinking a lot; I’ll still have the glass of wine or beer with lunch on the weekends, or on some special occasion, but my self-control has improved considerably. All of these changes, plus maybe a few others I’m not mentioning for brevity, have improved my life in the following ways: better sleep, physical health, emotional health, mental health, social skills, self esteem, and self love. If you read this far, know this: it’s never too late. You can start making a change to your life today, for the better.
Love your content. I am a 47 year old man and I can’t believe you speak with the maturity that you do at 28. You must have had amazing parents or other guidance, I can only assume. Thanks for all the style advice too. I need it.😂
About a year ago i changed my diet, every meal is made at home and takes 15-20 minutes depending on what im making. it only costs me 7-9$ per meal. Whole foods only, zero carbs, zero sugars or sweeteners and zero ultra processed foods. Ive lost in total 50 lbs, gained a bunch of muscle and leaned out to the point that people who havent seen me since the change cant believe it. Progress is slow but worth it in the end!
From an older guy, 1. Make sure you have a six month to a year emergency fund, eliminate all credit card, car and school debt before spending. Once debt is done start with safe investments to start the compound interest effect. 2. Follow a health routine as outlined in the video. 3. Develop a consistent networking strategy. Keep building bridges and relationships with high quality individuals. 4. Follow a skill development plan. Keep up with technology, enhance leadership skills and make sure you are growing intellectually. 5. Keep positive. Stuff happens, it is up to you to develop strategies to keep yourself in good situations and moving forward.
I 100% agree with almost everything you said; only thing that I'd say maybe if you're someone like me who needs to get out more and be a bit more social and break his own introversion, I would still consider drinking maybe one cocktail or something like that not enough harmful to discard it as a way to make things a little bit easier. Don't rely on it and be balanced ofc.
Therapy is a brilliant tool for self improvement, even if you don't have any problems that you think need solving. You also want to find a therapist that you gel with, I have had multiple amazing therapists - but my life truly took a turn when I found one that fit.
Walk with intention speak with intention and act with intention and not only will you eventually feel more confident, people will perceive you as confident
I'm 30, and I'm in that strange middle ground where I'm still in the lazy/ victimhood area that continues bad habits and the other side of eating better, workouts even if it's a short time and being comfortable being myself. Witch is something a lot of men deal with. Isolation is the largest problem many face, including myself.
2 things I’d love to add to this video 1. Keeping your house clean ( adding tips, tricks & products to use) 2. Learning how to cook. What are some simple and quick meals men can prepare for themselves? What are some meals men can cook for the woman they’re dating? It’s easy to tell men to stop eating processed junk but most guys are going to still wait 15 minutes in the Wendy’s drive thru after work Cooking for a woman’s also a great opportunity to blow her away so what should a date at your place look like?
I love the advice about maintaining a side chick to neutralize the power of the main chick and how it reduces the probability of a future divorce court grape scenario.
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0:32 Stop breaking promises to yourself
2:30 Start implementing a health routine
4:01 Tiege Hanley Sponsor ad
6:00 Stop being stuck in victimhood
7:48 Start paying attention to red flags and incompatibility
9:08 Stop relying on alcohol
11:11 Start understanding the impact of your circle
4.01 is the 🍒 on the cake😅
Those red flags man
Gotta be better
Please don’t do this.
Thanks. You are wise beyond your years! 😁
Thanks for this!!
I just turned 33 a couple of days ago, I was weighed the most on January 1st 2023… at 224.6lbs and started 2024 at 209lbs and made it my mission to lose weight. As of this morning I weighed in at 175.8lbs, only down side (not really) is that I had to buy all new clothes and donate all of my old clothes.
Keep going, brother! Listen to the Bloodsport soundtrack for more inspiration! FIGHT TO SURVIIIIIIVE!
I’d also like to recommend “Hold on to that vision” from no retreat no surrender. Keep at it man!!
This is awesome. So proud of you!!! I hope you’re proud of yourself too ❤️
@@CourtneyRyan I’m twenty eight years old too I’m a black belt at this taekwondo school for 13 years it’s was good back when I was 15 years old but now it’s becoming a horrible school for me now because everyone them is so mean to me there and that’s why I’m going to move on to tiger Schulman’s mixed martial arts gym to become a mma fighter so that’s one thing I’m going to do now before I turned thirty.
I simultaneously hate and love clicking on a Courtney Ryan video. I hate the short term discomfort of being held accountable for my laziness by her and being reminded that I should be working harder than I am to be the best man I can be. And I love that she has the courage to tell us men truths we don't always want to hear because she knows it's good for us. She doesn't pander to her followers out of fear she'll lose them. So grateful for the wisdom, Courtney! Thank you for your insights. Your channel has made me a better man.
Aww I’m so glad you’re here! This comment speaks volumes of who you are - thanks for being so kind. Hugs! ❤️❤️
As a 30 year old man, I approve of this message. Keeping promises you make to yourself just makes you feel like a much better person, especially if you've been struggling to love yourself.
Love it! 🥰
In my 40s, it still applies 🎉
@@CourtneyRyan but Teddy looks like he's about 23?
Courtney, first off, I'd like to tell you that I subscribe to very few channels, but yours was an instant decision for me. At first, your beauty caught my attention, but the competition for men’s attention is fierce these days on social media. For me, it takes a very special person with depth, wisdom, intelligence, and a willingness to share their inner truth to keep my attention.
I’m 57 years young and do all of the things you mention. My significant other is 25 years my junior, and we have an amazing relationship, built on so many of the principles you share with men in your videos. In a world filled with content-pushing manipulation tactics and shallow, destructive behaviors in relationships, it's truly inspiring to find a unicorn like you shining amongst the darkness.
Thank you for sharing your knowledge and for being a beacon of truth in these important discussions. Your content is not only enlightening but also empowers both men and women to strive for better, more meaningful relationships. Keep doing what you’re doing-you’re making a difference!
🥹 you are so kind. Thank you! I’m so glad you’re here!!
@@CourtneyRyan When we live in our inner truth the universe rewards us with remembering who we truly are. You're doing just that. :)
I've never been a regular drinker because I've seen second-hand how alcohol can ruin otherwise good people. It's strange how ubiquitous its acceptance is to the point that sometimes you'll be shamed for being a prude if you're not available to get drunk.
i was never drunk and never cared to fit in. i don't do anything on the basis of how popular it is. does that keep me lonely? yep, but i'd rather be alone than around the wrong people.
The recovery community talks about this a lot. It is very weird that it is so normal.
Same here. I was just a casual light drinker in my early 20s-typically the 1, 2, 3, and done type, and most of the time not even finishing the third. The last time I was at a bar, I was sitting at the local pub, sipping on one Rolling Rock while waiting for my then-girlfriend. There was one guy who obviously had too much to drink and was stumbling around, bumping into other patrons. He ended up falling on top of someone, and chaos erupted. Chairs, tables, glasses, and bottles started flying everywhere. Everyone evacuated while the cops were on their way. I thought to myself, “You know, I was just waiting for my girl, and suddenly there are two guys killing each other! You can't even sit and relax while waiting for your honey.” That was my final time at a bar, pub, sports bar, etc., and I also quit drinking altogether because I can't metabolize alcohol well. It just made me realize that even only drinking two and a half bottles/cans a week was enough to be around the chaos and mess.
You hit it on the head with the "not breaking the promises to yourself"!! Right now I'm 25 going through probably the hardest turning point in my life. To keep it short, I'm going to lineman school so I can become a lineman (someone that works on power poles) and be a better "candidate" for a woman. The best part is, I'm extremely scared of heights. I've had a very good support group, but the biggest thing is the promises I give myself on conquering my fear of heights and the academic aspect of the school. The whole reason why I'm putting myself through this is because I want to make my future family and family right now proud. (Also love the thought of the trade haha) Its very hard to keep the promises to myself especially when I'm deathly afraid, but its the best feeling when I accomplish it. This goes for a lot of other things in my life not only this but also going out more. I can tell that my confidents has risen exponentially which in turn helps me get out of my comfort zone more and more. Super grateful for the videos you post!
Motivating! Keep going. Study and follow all of the safety protocols you are being taught. You’re learning an important skill, and linemen are always in demand. Aim to one day manage lineman. You’re 25, you are in a good place. Enjoy the journey.
"At twenty years of age the will reigns; at thirty, the wit; and at forty, the judgement" - Ben Franklin
Wow, Ben Franklin, you're really kind of a sleazebag.
The years stretched out in my case😂 my will and wit are still mostly reigning, but my judgement is getting better now…it’s unfortunate what it takes to get better judgement…..all you guys are supporting Teige Hanley…😂
As true now as it was then. And in another 200 years, that quote will still be 100% spot on. Amazing guy he was... Probably my favorite Founding Father.
To be fare people didn't live nearly as long in his time.
Not necessarily.
It's been almost thirty years since I have been thirty and you're totally right. But to do the right for us and everyone else is a daily work in progress for life, you can't never give up.
Absolutely on board with dialing back and minimizing alcohol. Plus if you drink seldomly or rarely, when you do partake socially, itll be alot cheaper to get the job done.
I’m glad you talked about the benefits of not drinking. It’s nice to know that there are others who are around my age that don’t feel like they have to engage in that to have a good time. I can tell you from personal experience that I have definitely had plenty of moments where I felt like the odd one out.
As the late great Lucille Ball would say "Love yourself first and everything else falls into line". I believe that quote till this day and victimhood is not only lack of responsibility but can lead a dark path in life.
Confidence: Know who you are, and don't care. If you are going to talk to a woman don''t care if you don't get anywhere. Getting turned down is a learning experince. Keep trying the more you talk to the more relexed you become. Be yourself. If you go up to a lady and you are nervous. She will detect it and you will lose right away, You can get confidence by hanging out with ladies who know you and you can feel relaxed around. Also you are never more attractive to women than when you are with a lady, Women do watch other women. One thing that works for me is: Say something stupid to get a smile or a laugh. Its a great way to break ice. If she dose not even crack a smile move on. If she dose you are off to a good start. Also when its not working, make it your idea to leave. Make her feel like its you rejecting her. Don't give her the power of rejecting you even if thats what is happening.
I wanted to add it can back fire if you say something off collor, keep it clean. Maybe tell an old joke but give a different puchline it will throw them off balence has worked for me.
From my experience, being myself hasn't gotten me anywhere. So, what could be wrong?
@@danjenkins21 That is hard to say as I don't know what you are like. It could be you are looking for ladies who think they are gods gift. If I am at a bar and there are 5 ladies there. 4 look fantastic but one who may be plain and is showing interest and has a great sense of humor thats who I will talking to.
@@danjenkins21 I don't know what you are like so it could be hard to tell. If you get yourself to an I don't care mind set it helps. Keep the conversation clean and don't brag. The more relaxed the better. If you are in a group try to stay near the ladies. Sometimes being quiet pays off. But if you see someone you like say hi. If you have confidence and she says I have a boyfriend (99% chance she will) Say I just thought you might like an upgrade and slowy walk away.
@@danjenkins21 I sent two replies but it looks like they did not go through. But I wnat you to know that I did reply
Keeping active is so huge. I'm only 38, but my knees are already shot from a decade of military service. My key to keeping them mobile, staying in the gym! If I take extended time off, my knees atrophy so fast, it takes me weeks to be able to jog again and have pain just walking. Much better/easier to just stay active!
Hi Courtney. I've watched all your fragrance videos on this channel (and some from the fragrance channel) and they were great. You have videos like '8 sexy fall fragrances' and 'best spring fragrances' and what I'd love to see is something like '8 best all-year fragrances' for someone who's looking to dip their toes in and buy their first ever fragrance (bonus points if a bunch of your girlfriends blind react to them like on the fragrance channel, that was peak content).
My favourite part of your channel is practical tips on what to buy to look my best. For example, I've gotten a watch, a couple pieces of jewellery, white sneakers and some button up shirts for layering (sleeves rolled up of course). So, totally up to you, not trying to be pushy, just sharing what I've found most helpful. Thanks for all you do.
Just turned 36. I'm doing all the things listed in this video. Made me feel like i'm on the right path!
She is right . If you don't have a big sister, listen to Courtney. Hear what she says.
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I have 3 older sisters and I’m really surprised I didn’t catch the gay from watching how they operate.
@@no_regerts5176 I don't have a sister elder or younger. Maybe I would have been wiser if I had.
Marriage isn't the most important decision. It's the worse decision you could make.
@@CourtneyRyan i have a younger sister and im the oldest, and my parents didnt really teach me anything useful so honestly at this point, you are playing the role of older sister and i so appreciate it. sometimes i wish i had one, its scary winging it being the oldest as i dont really have anyone to learn from but atleast for short-medium form content, the advice you give is better applied practically rather than some of the weird manosphere accounts on how to treat women and people in general.
your message is a real gem in the flood of crap that can be found on the internet today
Great advice Courtney, thanks for making these vids and keep it up!
I just turned 33 and have been trying to make some changes in my life, so this content is really helpful. Keeping promises to myself has been one of my weak points but I feel like I’ve been doing better.
Also as someone who doesn’t drink it’s so refreshing to see others that don’t either! That’s an awesome way you put it about alcohol being the only drug you have to explain why you don’t use.
Good list, but I would like to add more!
7. Stop being negative. Complaining about everything makes you come across as a childish moron, someone even dogs would avoid.
8. Not everything is about you. Resist the urge to leave your mark on every aspect of the universe. Learn to understand and embrace your role in life. If something seems far beyond your natural abilities, it's best not to interfere with it.
I am 24 years old, so not quite the target age range but I still wanted to hear many of these advices.
I co-sign all of these points, and have all of them in mind as I am trying to improve myself. The only point I slightly disagree with is the last "surrounding myself with the right people" point. I am sure this is the case for many, but simply picking and choosing the right, real friends isn't an option for me. As an introverted and shy person it has been incredibly hard for me to make new friends in my 20s, and trust me I have tried. I have realised that I am just not a likable person to many, and I will just rather stick with the friends I do have.
I found your channel some months ago and not only do I admire the professionalism you put into your videos, from editing to background, voice volume
But I also have found out new things about myself like the fact that I enjoy making compliments (to anybody who deserves it) but I used to be very shy and afraid of making things sound weird (as if I were flirting, not at all my intention)
And thus far, following your advices I’ve been able to compliment people in general and I have only found positive reactions so it’s your turn 🫵
Your light blue outfit is really elegant and beautiful, it matches your eye color and skin tone. You’re really an awesome person
Amazing advices here, Courtney! I'm 34 myself and I'm on a personal healing journey. It is never too late to start over and to start taking care of the things that really matter. Taking care of yourself allows you to take care of others around you.
Spot on! Thankfully I realized this early on and implemented these in my 20's. Taking care of one's health his so underrated especially now when it's so easy to overindulge. Health is wealth.
I’m 31, and already doing all of these things. Glad to hear I’m on the right track.
Thank you, Courtney.
It's very nice how calm you are and how fast you talk.
I should work on this skill.
It starts with love, it's so difficult to do these things for ourselves when we don't think we deserve it
Great video, coming from a 30 year old who struggled with many of these don’t aspects. Victimizing yourself definitely prevents growth. It’s so easy for guys to ignore incompatibility due to a scarcity mindset, but it will waste your opportunity to find someone right when your hung up on someone wrong. There’s a lot of pressure to use drinking for socializing (and to “fit in” when), but there’s pride in not drinking… and on the rare occasions I have a small drink it’s pretty evident how bad it is.
Another Good Video. Thanks , Mrs.Ryan...
I'm 48. I wish I had followed this advice in my 20s. Thank you Courtney! Also good advice would be to stop worrying so much and taking rejection personally. Setbacks, failures and disappointments happen. Things generally work out for the best if you learn from them and press merrily onwards. Life is so short. Enjoy it all!
always appreciate your work, CR - thank you
7:48 - I’m constantly hearing about Red Flags🚩. I don’t think I’ve ever seen a comprehensive list of every Red Flag to look out for. But, I will add one more to the list: Her Family. You are not just getting married to her, you are getting married to her Entire extended family. You need to meet them and learn everything about them ASAP. Oh, the headaches and heartache that would have prevented in my life.
How about her friends?
Honestly spot on. I’m 29 and I needed to hear this. I usually don’t listen to may women now a days just because how they are but it looks like you’re different than them. Thank you!
different how exactly? She married a rich man who isn't even attractive
Thank you Courtney. I found it really helpful, I hope I could start with small changes.
Happy Sunday / September, Courtney! Black 🖤 is your color. I hit 30 in November 2016 but I always like to improve myself and to be the best version of myself
Hi John! Hope you have a fabulous Sunday! 🥰
@@CourtneyRyan I appreciate Courtney and enjoy your Labor day weekend! Keep up the good work ❤. What's your zodiac sign, Courtney if I can ask you?
@@johngonzalez4298 I’m a Sagittarius! My birthday is December 11th 😊
@@CourtneyRyan That's awesome, Courtney! I'm a Scorpio as my birthday is November 7th 😊
Thanks as always for the great advice. You really have your stuff together. I don't know if you realize how rare of a girl you are-especially at your age. I'm still waiting to meet someone like you-attractive inside & out. I will add that with the legalization of marijuana & THC products, that this is every bit as big of a problem as alcohol is in today's world. I've also seen people who were previously straight as an arrow turn to alcohol later in life. My cousin just passed-away at the age of 58 from alcohol related problems. I had no clue this happened to her & I was shocked when I found out. Working on yourself is a lifelong commitment, but so worth it. Keep up the good work that you do!💫
THANK YOU FOR BRINGING THESE ISSUES TO MY ATTENTION, I BELIEVE IN TREATING PEOPLE AS YOU WOULD LIKE TO BE TREATED, , HOWEVER I AM NOT INTERESTED IN PRESENTING AN ILLUSION OF SOMEONE THAT I AM NOT, DO YOU COMPREHEND !!!.
Hi Ms. Courtney, I don't drink either and has saved me from a lot of problems in my life. Great points Ms.!
I strongly agree with all the tips you shared with us here, they will have big impacts in your life down the line, I practiced them my self.
As someone who’s been in a leadership position myself for several years now as 26 year old guy who’s autistic, these are the exact principles I follow to this day. I’ve been applying the fitness principle especially for over a year now. I’ve been much more consistent this year than I was last year actually. I go for a walk every single day, and I go for a run every other day to make sure I close my fitness rings which include Move, Exercise, and Stand
I’m currently on a 130 day streak and counting, and I only seek to pursue even higher goals along the way. Thank you so much again Courtney for reminding me by providing this video that I’m doing a great job! And speaking of a great job of course, keep up the fantastic work ☺️
This is excellent content, Courtney❤ Thanks for gently and strongly pointing out self-care as a cornerstone to success in all areas.
Thanks for the video! I turned 29 yesterday so this was timely!
Great recommendations, thanks.
Thank you Courtney
very nice video i wish i could press the like button more than once, keeping promises you make to yourself has to be the quotes of the year thank you so much
Totally agree with this list, should there be more maybe, but as is it's good enough and besides we'll see more lists like this from Courtney sooner or later.
This is very wise and mature advice! You're channel has the best and most positive dating advice that I've seen on RUclips. Thanks for all you do for us
🥹 it’s my pleasure! Thanks for being here!
Public comment. So true. Serving the true purpose in life. Knowing that you want in life. Self realization and self reflection allow you to think about life before you act base on how you procieve life ❤. Thank you so much Ms Courtney ❤❤❤❤
your nails courtneyy!!! they're amazing
You are a great example of an embodiment of a mature women. And the type of women I look to attract. Thank you for all your work. You're an old soul for sure 👌
Thank you so much 🤍 you’re so kind!
Thanks Courtney. I recently turned 21, so this video should help me structure out my 20s.
I’m 30 years old and I learned to love myself better than ever and I’m still working on my dreams
Love the message Courtney for me being 37.
You are right about drinking. I gave it up this year because I didn't want to become an alcoholic like my parents. I was just at my best friends wedding and I found it annoying that I had to explain to everyone why I wasn't drinking 😒
This is gold.
I am 58, been married before.
I have struggled with the feeling that I felt that, on first dates, I am not being generous with her, but rather I feel that I am proving that I have financial capacity, when I must say, "I've got this" when she reaches for her purse.
Getting passed that proves difficult because that "I've got this" message means that I have got it all to hand: job, house, money, relationship, crises, absolutely _all_ of it, I take on _all_ the weight from first date on.
And, I must do it alone
I am the man, I can and must take it.
"Victim", maybe, though not intentionally.
This is my greatest stumbling block.
How to get passed that?
I am now starting to not give a ____ what any date thinks of my dating values and just enjoy the process that unselfishly feels good to me.
I forgot to mention that have gone out to do "Tigger bouncing" to boost my confidence and sense of freedom.
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Love the new look, Courtney 😍
Fantastic advice something to think about! Thank you, Courtney.
Proud to admit at 31 I’ve adopted about half of these just from personal experiences! All very true. Dropping the victim mentality and changing my circle have both been game changers. 💯
Just watched the video thankyou Courtney be helpful in dates to come. Women need me
Very impactful video, nice job!
I've stopped and started all these things more times than I can count.
And I'm 43, so I'm way ahead of the game.
Thanks Court!
Important thing: 0:31 First Thing ÷ Stop Breaking The Promises That You Make To Yourself; 2:27 Second Thing ÷ Start Implementing A Health Routine; 5:57 Third Thing ÷ Stop Being Stuck In Victimhood; 7:45 Fourth Thing ÷ Start Paying Attention To Red Flags And Incompatibility; 9:06 Fifth Thing ÷ Stop Relying On Alcohol; 11:07 Sixth Thing ÷ Start Understanding The Impact Of Your Circle, and 12:29 to summarize all the told here.
What should you / we do: 1:04 First Thing ÷ Keep The Promises That You Make To Yourself; 3:07 Second Thing ÷ Ensuring That You Have The Basics In Order; 8:48 Don't Date Or Marry Person That Isn't Ready For Changes;.
You are so correct about the things what you have told there Courtney.
Additional things would of been these: Seventh Thing ÷ Stop Relying On Cigars Or Non-healthy Food; Eight Thing ÷ Stop Scrolling Down Social Media's On Either Phone Or Computer Whole Time (but this routine can be also used just like watching too much Netflix like you have told there).
I also don't like to drink alcohol, since I avoided hanging around with my so called classmates in secondary school. And then I decided to go to hang out with others that can accept me for who am I. And I also don't regret about that decision, since those so called classmates then told this about: "Look at him. He doesn't really care (meaning as in Hollywood series and movies they say: He doesn't give a sh***t). He does not care that some countries are landlocked. Why am I not like him?" And then I replied to him this: "Who prevents you from being like me?" And when I told him that, he suddenly became quiet.
Yes, we would like sometimes that we could of been told some things a bit earlier. But we are all generals after a battle.
From all the told here, we can summarize the whole thing to one this. And it goes like this: "Help yourself to understand yourself." What I meant to say is that you should be supportive to yourself, since all of those things do come from ourselves.
In Balkan peninsula we say one thing: "The one person that helps itself, even the mighty God will help that person as well."
In the western world, the saying is, "The lord helps those who help themselves."
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@@pace1195 Okay👍.
_Easily_ one of your best videos 👏🏼
One thing I learned is to recognize and stand up to abuse. It's tough to do because abuse can be very subtle or completely well-intended, especially when it involves very manipulative people and close family members.
Good video and good points. I get that your sponsored, but good skin actually comes from inside, so the diet is the key 👍
This is a list of things that are important for Courtney. What may be important for someone else can be entirely different.
I think we can agree that certain activities are almost universally not beneficial. But beyond that... not too much generalisation is possible.
You do give a solid point about this topic. The reality is that. Men and women in society are not getting together at a good enough rate along with the economy and society norms and ideologies.
The fact that the population will shrink due to low birth rates in the future is very concerning. The various infrastructures that need to be maintained will not be possible.
If you are working at Wendy's, a desk job pays the same or, if not more, than an infrastructure job. And there is also going to be less manpower to maintain this in the future. It will cause it to crumble faster. People who work these jobs go unappreciated. They make about the same or less money as most jobs in this country to survive now. It is more of a community service than an actual job anymore. People leave for easier and less physically demanding jobs with much better pay, relaxed regulation, and less corporate BS that affects them mentally. People follow the money. If you can't get electricity, food, or service. I don't know what to tell ya. There will be a breaking point in time when these people can not cover all the infrastructure in this country. It will be interesting to see how we get out of this one.
Ryan started the fire ! 🔥
Dr Daniel Amen is outstanding in so many ways. Quick pronunciation tip: “A-men”…the a being “long” as in “pray”.
STOP:
1) being poor
2) being ugly
START:
1) being rich
2) being handsome
Sugar, High Fructose Corn Syrup, Alcohol
Cooking for one's self really helps to control for a person's sugar intake. Sugar is in everything! Well, almost. Also portion control. It is too easy to eat too much when eating out. It is easier when eating at home. And of course there's the cost savings, which is substantial.
Recognizing that Fructose and Alcohol have to be metabolized by the liver is very fat inducing has got me working on reducing those (I'm not much of a drinker but do have my proclivities for soda). Becoming aware of one's sugar intake and reducing it is one of the actions I'm working on to reduce my belly and love-handle fat..
(High calorie fancy and expensive coffee drinks anyone?)
good video, thanks
As a guy who is literally about to enter his 30s within a few weeks, this is honestly great advice overall. This advice can also apply to men in their late 20s and people in general who are starting out as adults in their 20s.
Two things I would add:
1. Stop think too much on the what ifs. There will never be a perfect time to do something and/or move on to better things. Either you do it now or never do it ever. Weight out your pros and cons on anything and everything and then make a final decision that works best for yourself and others.
2. Most failures and setbacks aren't ends all be alls, let alone life or death scenarios. While few are life-changing or permanent that should be put into consideration, most failures and setbacks are honestly forgivable and redeemable, let alone small and temporary. So, start fresh, do what need to do to come back, make things right and move on as wiser and better person in a best case scenario and beyond.
Thank you.
thanks so much for all your help, you are so smart!
I agree with this. It could have even stopped at the first one, because most people know what to do but just lack the willpower to follow through.
I'm turning 28 in December so I appreciate the video. Guys, it's not an immediate change but start these habits and you'll see improvements.
Hi Courtney! Thanks for a great video! These are such wise words, but I wanted to share a slightly different perspective please if thats OK? The only thing I'd love to add is that often it's so easy to forgot that for many people, particularly those with neurodivergency or similar neurological or physical disabilities, a lot of these things can feel next to impossible to achieve on a regular basis with the smptoms they face, often so much harder than for regular folks.
I know neurodivergency is still a difficult subject to discuss with so much negativty and misinformation surrounding it, but the only reason I do is to share a little of my own story. As a 41 yr/old male who for nearly all of my life has fought against crippling ADHD (amongst other things) since I was around 14 years old approx, I just simply couldn't do the things you mention consistently. Trust me I tried! I tried and I tried. So. Many. Times. Did. I. Try! 😭I wanted to do it for myself, for my partners, for friends and family too. I tried to stick to routines, to follow plans, to take care of myself, to basically just attempt day-by-day what most without knowing it took for granted, or regard as the bare minimum! Despite being a straight A student throughout my life and a genunine nerd with 3 degrees, I've always struggled so hard with just doing the very basics. There simply wasn't the understanding or scientific knowledge when I was at school or university and throughout most of my 30s.
It was only after being diagnosed approximately two years ago at the end of 2022, and in the last 3 months finally settling on a reuglar medication plan, that I now have the neurological freedom to follow through with things and get things back on track, going to gym, getting back into all the competitive sport training I did as a young teenager, regular health care and check-ups, etc. Basically being able to do all these simple little things most people assume is the bare minumum for an adult male! 😂
I guess if I could add anything, it's just to offer a small gentle reminder that's OK if these things haven't worked out us, there's always still time, and to encourage young guys now there is the kindness and space to seek help, as they may have been struggling with something undignosed for a very long time, that with a little professional help, could make the world of difference and to be able to achieve all of these things! Thanks again for the great channel and video, and hope it was OK to share this with you. Best wishes, Gavin
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I do yoga, and stretching is so helpful.
A lot of men don't stretch because they see it as effeminate, but stretching allows you to push your body further - you recover faster. You reduce injuries.
I stopped drinking around five years ago.
A lot of guys are just rude. They are rude online, they are passive-aggressive in public, they are condescending at work...
If you are rude to strangers, you will be rude to your partner/spouse. You can't just switch that on and off.
A lot of guys think they can be a jerk to random people and suddenly be awesome with a girl they like - it doesn't work like that.
Sure, you can show your best qualities, but your best is coming from your average, and your average is who you are on a regular basis.
A woman can tell that you are a jerk in a few minutes.
Great tips that can absolutely apply to people of any age, Courtney! Getting out of the victim mindset was the hardest for myself, but 100% worth it. It was easier when I realized the external factors in my life were not unique and that I owed it to myself to get to that better life.
Thank you so much for sharing this! 🥰
When I was young there was some pressure to drink, to party, and to party hard. It was pretty bad and seemed to get worse as I aged out of college culture. It’s nice to see society pushing back against drunk culture. Hopefully we don’t swing too far and repeat prohibition, but probably best not to make drinking alcohol a regular activity
I drink maybe once in a 6 month period when i'm craving it. When I tell people this, they look at me like I think i'm above all. At work, people show up inebriated (from drinking or vaping/smoking) . I feel sorry for those people. The best people i've known in life do NOT rely on substances to cope, you rely on the strength from within
Guys, I could not agree more with pretty much everything Courtney said on this video.
I’m 36 now, but I’ve a lot of dissatisfaction with several things in my life, so I’ve recently made some important changes, and they relate to what she touched on. For instance, I implemented a daily morning routine (walk, exercise & cold shower), as well as an evening one (wind down & read the Bible before bedtime). As a consequence of reading the Bible, I realized some things about myself, specifically my identity; and this, in turn, led me to realize who I should be picking as friends or as my inner circle (I am aware that religion and spirituality is a very personal thing, so to each his own). I’ve cut down on drinking a lot; I’ll still have the glass of wine or beer with lunch on the weekends, or on some special occasion, but my self-control has improved considerably. All of these changes, plus maybe a few others I’m not mentioning for brevity, have improved my life in the following ways: better sleep, physical health, emotional health, mental health, social skills, self esteem, and self love.
If you read this far, know this: it’s never too late. You can start making a change to your life today, for the better.
Love your content. I am a 47 year old man and I can’t believe you speak with the maturity that you do at 28. You must have had amazing parents or other guidance, I can only assume. Thanks for all the style advice too. I need it.😂
Yes, you best believe there are amazing, intelligent young women out there. Society likes to generalize a lot of things about people but we exist!
Another good video by Courtney Ryan
The only thing you need to do is stop dating, stop being involved in the dating world, and live purely for yourself and your own happiness.
About a year ago i changed my diet, every meal is made at home and takes 15-20 minutes depending on what im making. it only costs me 7-9$ per meal. Whole foods only, zero carbs, zero sugars or sweeteners and zero ultra processed foods. Ive lost in total 50 lbs, gained a bunch of muscle and leaned out to the point that people who havent seen me since the change cant believe it. Progress is slow but worth it in the end!
Thanks Courtney, I learned to shuffle cards on one of your videos and the chicks digged it
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From an older guy,
1. Make sure you have a six month to a year emergency fund, eliminate all credit card, car and school debt before spending. Once debt is done start with safe investments to start the compound interest effect.
2. Follow a health routine as outlined in the video.
3. Develop a consistent networking strategy. Keep building bridges and relationships with high quality individuals.
4. Follow a skill development plan. Keep up with technology, enhance leadership skills and make sure you are growing intellectually.
5. Keep positive. Stuff happens, it is up to you to develop strategies to keep yourself in good situations and moving forward.
Good advice.
As a recent divorcey i agree with the above and want to add: Dont forsake yourself for another.
The video is spot on 💯
I 100% agree with almost everything you said; only thing that I'd say maybe if you're someone like me who needs to get out more and be a bit more social and break his own introversion, I would still consider drinking maybe one cocktail or something like that not enough harmful to discard it as a way to make things a little bit easier. Don't rely on it and be balanced ofc.
Therapy is a brilliant tool for self improvement, even if you don't have any problems that you think need solving. You also want to find a therapist that you gel with, I have had multiple amazing therapists - but my life truly took a turn when I found one that fit.
best advices
Walk with intention speak with intention and act with intention and not only will you eventually feel more confident, people will perceive you as confident
I'm 30, and I'm in that strange middle ground where I'm still in the lazy/ victimhood area that continues bad habits and the other side of eating better, workouts even if it's a short time and being comfortable being myself. Witch is something a lot of men deal with. Isolation is the largest problem many face, including myself.
2 things I’d love to add to this video
1. Keeping your house clean ( adding tips, tricks & products to use)
2. Learning how to cook. What are some simple and quick meals men can prepare for themselves? What are some meals men can cook for the woman they’re dating?
It’s easy to tell men to stop eating processed junk but most guys are going to still wait 15 minutes in the Wendy’s drive thru after work
Cooking for a woman’s also a great opportunity to blow her away so what should a date at your place look like?
I love the advice about maintaining a side chick to neutralize the power of the main chick and how it reduces the probability of a future divorce court grape scenario.