I was searching this video on your channel, and then started watching one of your video, but, the very next video I was recommend was this (which i was searching for 😅).... I now (after reading this comment) realised u 2 r different people 😮😅😂❤
@@Shweta-Arora Thank you so much to both of you shweta mam and neha mam. You both say those things that I didn't knew I was doing. I am so glad you guys have said it. Thank you so much.
I am forty years of age today. After a miserable existence of nearly twenty years, I realized what you said two years earlier - and decided to do what is in alignment with my true self. Happy news is, I am happier these days.
1. don't expect from people 2. spend your life where you are happy 3.spend time with your parents 4.No need to go far from your home 5.Give yourself value from other people
In my childhood, I studied very hard, trying to meet expectations of my parents. Once i realised how damaging it was for me, I slowly left studying hard, & started getting lower grades. If course my parents were very upset, but I didn't care much, cuz i knew how badly it affects me. Now, after graduation, my parents & society expects me to get a "good" job that pays high salary. But I didn't go down that path, I'm looking for a simple job with low salary, that allows me to have work life balance and give me enough time to not burnt out & be in peace with myself..
This is so true, the major thing that I realized is as soon as you stop listening to others they get offended but just look at yourself, you are at peace, you are doing what you always wanted to and that's enough. People generally sideline the one who is different from them but that's what makes us special and I find happiness in being different. Thanks a lot for this video!!
At such a young age it seems you have discovered the reason of existence which normally comes through lot of experience. Well done 👍 I too had lost my job and was frustrated and unhappy but slowly realised that whatever little I am earning without a secured job is actually what I Love. It gives me time to pursue my hobbies and live the life I want without cutthroat competition. I am happy today, Thanks 👍
@@Shweta-Arora hello dii I am a 12 th class student nd I know this in my these initial days it's a lot for mee and for my future ' Btw aase hre mere jaise Or Sare logo ko apne experience share kijiye to find the right path for uss l..... ❤❤❤
@@Shweta-Arora have spent almost all my life meeting expectations now im unknown to even my self i dont know what i like what r my choices where i will be happy
Girl, I think you are a lot younger than me and this concept is not something new and yet seeing a young female talk so confidently makes me want to follow my instincts and passion which I have been putting off coz as u know everyone needs a " job " right as per societal standards. God just brought ur video on my homepage even though I never searched anything related to this. You are my life changer girl! I am gonna take that risk.❤ This is the first time I am watching you and you will be the reason for the good things to come into my life from now on!🎉 A big Thank You!!!❤
I also came across the channel 1st time and without any doubt, it's one of the few videos, that I found genuinely helpful, with such calm voice. Today, everybody is running after money, and the youth is under peer pressure. We need to set priorities and live our lives the way we want.
Can't tell you how relatable and pleasing this felt to me. I am stuck in this thinking since childhood and now started to realize that importance of having command over your own decisions and lifestyle. Thank you Shweta for this wonderful message, hope you achieve all the heights in your life.
I can hear the pain in your voice, it takes a lot of time to get out of this.. Luckily I learnt this earlier in life and I'm watching this video just cause it's your video. Stay happy madam. You deserve everything ❤️
@@Shweta-Arorait feels like i m talking to myself.. I feel the same every second of my life that society forced me to do things which i don't want to do.. Specially my in-laws.. ma'am plz make a video on how to deal with this kind of in-laws who want that i should live my life according to their convenience..i don't want to become an ideal daughter-in-law. I just want to be happy. But nobody can understand my situation .i diagnosed with some health problems too...
I literally felt each and every word you poured out. I'm at a point in my life where I feel like I've made a lot of wrong choices. It's hard to appreciate how those choices have actually brought me happiness when I'm constantly plagued by regrets. I don't have any close friends to talk to, and sometimes I wish there was someone I could share my thoughts with. But even after thinking about it for an hour or two, I always end up being happier by myself. It's strange, but being honest with myself seems to work better than trying to impress others. I think When you do something with honesty it reflects in everything you do even if somebody expects it otherwise. Thank you!
More power to you girl! Its a hard thing to contemplate your thoughts and emotions, and then reach out to others, to guide them with what you have learnt! I am sure many people can relate to this in todays world.
As an IIM grad & RUclipsr, I had made too many expectations scenarios (3rd category) in my mind related to placements & videos. These imaginary expectations kept me disappointed even after getting placed. Me & My parents were genuinely really happy with my placement as it had exactly whatever I wanted, but I was too worried about my Subscribers that they might think I haven’t got really great package in terms of money. But later on I figured out, I have always got their love because of what I am not what people want me to be. And actually I got much much love after my placement video😭❤️ I am really proud of everything I’ve achieved till now❤️
Thanks mam for sharing this wonderful message. Happiness is a state of mind. "Lord Buddha" said, "There is no path to happiness. Happiness itself is the path." 😊❤
I'm way too tired to write how much i could relate to this, and why my experiences which deeply destroyed my mental and physical health made me relate to this. so let me just say simply....this video came to me when i most needed it. the more you spoke, the more i felt a direct reach out to my heart and spirit telling me i'm not alone, i'm not alone. thank you. i'm genuinely speechless. i can confirm you've literally saved one person today.
" Happiness is covered with dust of expectations, conditioning, need of approval, fear". Beautifully said. I am carrying this burden to be somebody. And I put that on people in my life. I want then to be their best , no matter what is the cost or the prize. In my world, in every context easy and spontaneity is not acceptable. Whereas something that is Hard, fearful, burdened is valuable. I am a surgeon by profession. All of think about is learn the rare and be the answer to every situation. That is so unnatural. This stops now. I am curious by nature but have become nerd by my own expectation. I am gonna take a risk to be lead by curiosity. And leave the rest.
Hi Di, loved this video. I have a story which I don't usually talk about - one thing about me is that I am a huge people pleaser, I seek a lot of external validation which is why I am never satisfied. So what happened was, I was in class 10th and I had to make a choice between Science and Commerce. As far as I knew, I loved business, I loved reading economic times and even I used to borrow books from 11th grade Commerce teachers to learn the subjects in 10th itself. But there was such a huge expectation of me to choose Science from my parents and society (ki intelligent hai, Commerce lena is a failure - atleast that's what I thought they thought) that I ended up taking Science. You won't believe what I did after an year. I remember it was my chemistry final exam and although i had prepared well, I was so sick of everything that I walked up to Dad crying and said I don't want to do this anymore. I don't want to do science anymore. He was obviously shocked but he supported me v well. We sat down and considered every possibilities then took the decision of repeating 11th again. And i would say I was extremely lucky that we had to move out from my hometown to Delhi (because of dad moving abroad) and I got a chance to do Commerce from 11th again here in Delhi. I didn't have to face being an year behind when my batch mates moved ahead to 12th science. So yea, that's my story. This thing made me to make sure that every decision I was taking was for me then onwards. Love you ❤️
I can understand your pain because still now also I am going through it I want to become a CA after 10th but my family forced joined science and I was dumb that I chose biology just because I don't like Physic, Chemistry but after that, I came to know that it is a mandatory subject. Right now doing my Pharmacy 2nd year having 5 backlogs and just taken the expectation of my parents for clearing the Pharmacy I want to be a part of MBA student in IIM that's the future. Now clearing the backlog as well as semester subjects too. 😀 just smiling with my story and pain
Anamika - ❤️❤️❤️❤️🥺🥺🥺🥺 Thank youuuu for sharing your story and being brave enough to choose what you wanted to do. It is a very relatable choice that most of us had to make in our schools and I wish more parents understood that sometimes their over concern ends up killing their children's dreams. I'm just happy this incident shaped your life! Having met you, I see a bold, confident and strong woman in you. Keep soaring higher ❤️🌸 Love you too!!
Harshit - Can feel your pain ❤️❤️🥺🥺 It's strong of you to acknowledge whatever happened and realise what you truly wanted. It doesn't necessarily mean correcting what happened in the past. It just means listening to your heart more often in the present ❤️❤️❤️❤️
Thank you so much mam for your guidance...because surrounding myself no one existing like you, where I share my thoughts & questions and got those answers. So really thankyou so much mam..❤️
Hi Shweta, I am Dr. Adit from Mumbai. Thanks a lot for this wonderful video ! I could relate to literally each of the points which you discussed. For example, I am a person who likes to mix only with selective people, wear simple clothes, doesn't enjoy shopping much (not at all actually) and doesn't like reading newspaper since childhood. I feel I was also under this burden of "expectations", some from others and some from myself. But now I have started changing myself and the way I look at my life. I have always tried my best to "fit-in" but could not and so I used to think I m inferior than others. But eventually I realised the qualities which made me different than others and which, I thought, were flaws; were actually the gifts from the God. And they make me a much better, sorted and a clear-visioned person than most others around me. So I fully resonate with what you told in your video. Thanks once again !!! 🙂👍🏻
Absolutely true. I too have same thinking and feel the same ! “Just be yourself, there is no one better" thus always keep in mind that to shine your brightest light is to be who you truly are. Just look at yourself in the mirror and focus on what you need to do to get better. Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind. Always remember, your focus determines your reality. Where you hang your feelings is where you hang your focus.😉💯
This is one the most relatable videos of yours I’ve seen . I was a people pleaser so I used to constantly seek validation from others but now every conversation I have or any decision I make, or if I get an uneasy feeling in any conversation I stop myself and ask the question “what do I want?” And even though we don’t realise it we more often than not answer questions which seem very normal to the society and lie even though we don’t feel that way- basic eg: If someone asks “how are you?”were so conditioned to say yeahhh I’m good Wbu? Also I would suggest you to read this book ‘Not nice’ it personally helped me to be truly myself . You sound so articulate and transparent, thanks for sharing this hope you only do whatever it is that you want ❤❤
I'm 23 now and I'm doing the same till date. At the end of every day I feel frustrated. These expectations are restricting me from becoming myself. Thanks didi I can relate with you 💯% and I am a CAT aspirant too. This will really help me in future
Beautiful!! Seeing people trying to meet out those expectations laid down by their friends, peers, society etc. Expectations or rather frameworks... Framework of what an ideal happiness should look like, what socializing is, what a friendship is, what a relationship is, a college life is, success is, all of it!! Seeing people trying so hard to fulfill and live by all these frameworks, trying to fit in... and after doing all of it you see their face and you can clearly see a sense of betrayal... They didn't get what was promised after all... Try to understand their helplessness! Firstly they put in everything and sacrificed their individuality to fit into those so called perfect frameworks and now they cant even announce that betrayal, that they simply didn't get anything out of it or rather what was expected... So what do they choose to do? They choose to stick to the same crowd, the same people who were all collectively betrayed and keep assuring and conforming to each other that yes they got something out of it, that the sacrifice of their choices and individuality was not entirely futile.... And one of the ways of doing so is to pull others in the framework too.... Pulling and persuading other people to follow what they did and are doing is yet another way to convince yourself against the futility of following the crowd, the notions, the expectations, and the framework... This is the condition of most people I see nowdays.... A saddened and doubtful self covered with the veil of confidence and social media happiness approved by the crowd.... Hopefully this video of yours can help many such people introspect and maybe find their way out of it....
That's where self respect comes into play.We must learn to respect our decision.If we fail we learn if we get the desired goal that's cool.But I have seen some people taking this concept in a wrong way.They try to feed there ego rather than understanding themselves.We should never force ourselves into doing something, stop using words like " I should or I must do this" etc. We should instead use words like " I get to do" see how perspective changes.And lastly we should stop expecting from others try to live a life of abundance.We should develop strength and power in our personality and learn to express our terms and needs and desires in a healthy way so that others are less likely to misunderstand us.
It has become a norm nowadays to get a degree from premier institutes and work at big MNCs or to go abroad for higher studies. People start following the same herd mentality. Glad that you spoke your heart out and stopped worrying about what others think
You are Amazing and we all are busy in people pleasing all the time in the hopes of getting fit in a certain criteria or to be liked by people, but the key is to do whatever you want to do and right ones will always stay by your side.
I am glad to have you in my life, you care about us so much about our mental health our progress and thank you for always motivating us and guiding us through the dark with your light of wisdom.
I am a bank employee. There is no single day for me without frustration and anger. I try to calm myself but I can't whoever call me I remove my frustration on that call. But I have learned a new thing to use frustration in a better way. For my future goals. 👍👍👍
"You are not what you think you are, you are not what others think you are but you are what you think others think you are" It's tough to understand the above quote but once you do you will be more happy in life. Few days back i came across this quote while watching a philosophy video and realized that my self image in my mind is not mine and it has never been but now i fell happy alot more happy having understood yes people will have expectations and a certain image of me in thier mind and they will think thousands of things about me but it doesn't matter at all. All i have to do is not think what they think of me... Agar yeh bhi mai sochunga ki log kya sochenge toh log kya sochenge... Surely self love is really important but if you are not achieved anything in life struggling with day to day work not earning well right now, are unhealthy, lonely, want all things to change you will have to work on this yourself and not according to what others think you should do about these issues for the fastest and best results. otherwise its a never ending loop. I have not achieved anything yet in life that i fell is significant enough to tell people but so what i might have better understanding of alot of things than others do and i am happy. And that's all what matters right now..
True words - Happiness is a glass covered with Dirt and that dirt is expectations of people from you , so you have to clean that dirt to be happy in your life because in the end your happiness matters cause you have only One life❤😊
I was going through a phase where I want to change something big but now I realised that I am chasing to impress some other person's expectations which is an assumption of mine only. Thank you for this.❤😁 Sometimes RUclips's recommendation is sooo on point! 😊
आपने यहाँ इतना जो सब कहा, आप इसी पर बने रहना। बिल्कुल पर्फेक्ट फ़ंडा है, खुश रहने का। कोई बाबा लोग भी नही देंगे यह सीख, जो आपने यहाँ दी हैं। Best wishes to you, always.
Mere saare decision mere hai , mai khush hun aur mujhe wo hint mil gya shweta mam ❤thank you for being this way mam I am.so grateful to have you on youtube 👍
*Totally agree* 🙄🤚 I never watch NEWS chanels OR read newspapers and *I am way more positive and peaceful* There IS no need to know wats OUTSIDE of US, unless we are DONE with wats INSIDE of us.
It's good that you're spreading this message to so many people. I found your video really late and had to figure this out for myself. I'm happy from many years doing the same things you mentioned here. You have saved a lot of trouble for a lot of people with this simple video. Keep up the good work.
Speaking of your friend's example he tried to impose and put you in his frame of happiness and enjoyment. This isn't your plate and people should learn to swipe left to these people. However, there is a very thin line between "getting stuck into comfort zone" and "growth, discipline, exploration". Even sometimes we disagree to some things or discipline, but once we try them outside our comfort zone, it leads to pleasure. But I agree, how important it is to filter and say NO to people.
Hi, I relate to your story a lot. Like yourself, I think I too have discovered how easy it is to be happy as the ingredients are very simple, however what is toughest is to stick to that and continue on a daily basis with ignoring all the noise as well. To be happy, you need to be grateful of this life, you need to thank god for anything and everything and you need to be kind to others. Most simplest ingredients, most cheapest items but the most toughest to follow on a DAILY BASIS!! we remember to say thank you for good things but never for bad things. We remember god in bad times but not in good times. We show kindness to only people who talk to us properly. I have found ways of being happy myself and sticking to it and ignoring all the bullshit that people give that change your job get bigger package etc etc nonsense! I feel very blessed every morning and that helps me give more gratitude for this life!! Thank you!
Hey! thankyou for this video...i feel nothing can match this title more than my life. I have been appearing in mba and masters exams from the last 2 years and couldn't even crack a single one. Rather than my failure, what bothered me the most was that what people will think about me if I don't do well. My elder sister also works in a big 4 company and there is a constant pressure to match her level. In my life I have no direction now I am just following the concept of happiness that worked for my sister. Currently, I am doing masters from my graduation from college only and I literally cry every day due to the exceeding pressure and I cant even let it go due to the fear that I cant crack any other exam. My classmates have settled in other states who were far behind me during college as well and I cant explain how frustrating it is to not be where you imagined yourself to be. But trying is the only option in my life now and I have to deal with this. So, in order to get some happiness I blankly scroll youtube nowadays with no will to do anything which obviously isn't a good antidote. Figuring how to stand back up and move ahead. Thanks for supporting always...a huge fan 💓
Mam, but sometimes we have to do some actions that we don't like that much. Waking up at 6, studying long hours, cutting off with friends, maybe someone doesn't enjoy it, but he/she has to build a discipline to achieve something that he/she has desired. Plus there is a thin line being in comfort zone and being happy, and we wouldn't know when we lost track of time without discipline. Your point of view was amazing to be retrospect but I think a person realizes this himself/herself.
When you decide to wake up at 6 am, is it something YOU want to do? As long as it is, it wouldn't create any frustration in you. E.g. when I'm working on my scripts, sometimes I choose to stay awake till 2 am. Nobody forces me to. Nobody compels me to. Nobody tells me it's the right thing to do. I know it is the right thing for me to do that day. Because I want to do it. There's a difference between someone controlling your actions (directly or via expectations) vs you controlling your actions. The second one is what we call discipline. When you choose to do something because you know it needs to be done because YOU want the result. When it's not YOU who wants the result, the very same task will cause unhappiness.
For the past few months , i was in depression, edgy,rude, loads of tension for only one reason - "get a job as soon as possible". my parents expected me to get a job after the completion of mern stack course but for some reasons i did not get a job till now because of less demand. im trying my best to get a job but my parents did not understand what im going through. i was suicidal but now i realized one thing what are things that make me happy and i told myself -" is this my life going to be". so i decided whatever future holds for me, im what im supposed to. i watched guardians of galaxy vol3 last night and i was so happy after along time and said to myself-"is this what im missing inside me". thankyou shweta for such motivational thoughts because in this cruel world you deliver such kind of topics which really touch my soul.
OMG... how easily you conveyed the feeling of thousands of people. Log ko samaj tak nahi aata ho kya raha hai actuually. and you smoothly diagnose it.. Totally appreciate the way you described it.
This is so relatable, we all live the life in disguise we tend to forget our own sense of happiness. I am really touched by your videos . Lets not pretend to be happy.
We are always in a pursuit of happiness mode, what we all need is to stop for a while and look for what we really want from our life and what's real happiness is. Can exactly relate to what you said. I have also successfully overcomed this phase in my life. And so beautifully you shared your experience. Thank you so much.💞 I started experiencing real happiness in the past few months by realising what I really wanted for myself, and I learned that from being a spiritual person.
Wow, so beautifully said dear 🙌💖🙌 I don't know, but I suffered for a very long time, for the same reasons, to keep the relatiships happy 🙄🙃☹️ I am 53 now ❣️ From 1-2 yrs, I am working on my feelings, emotions, relationships 🙏😇 need to go ahead, a lot more to overcome 👍🙁 Felt so good, listening to u 🫶💖🫶 Sharing it with few, who have the same issues 🙌💖🙌 Thank u so much 🙏🥰 God bless ❤️
Thank you very much for the video. Main job karna start Kiya hoon. Almost 45 days hue hain. But main last ke 1 mahine se Roz negativity mein jee Raha tha. Because meri sales based job hai to mujhe bohot frustration ho rahi thi isliye ki main bohot logon se milta hoon but sales ya conversion less than 5% ke saath hota hai. To yahi sochta tha ki kya karu, kaise Karu, etc. Roz Ghar ki yaad aati thi, Roz sochta tha ki resignation ke paper daal doon. Isliye bhi Aisa sochta tha kyunki meri boss ne mujhe keh Diya tha ki unhe 'dhandha' chahiye mujhse, to iss baat ka itna pressure tha mujhpe ki mujhe ma'am ke expectations pe khara utarna hai ki main unhe khush karne ke chakkar mein khud ko niraash kar raha tha. Ab jab aaj main yeh video dekha to laga ki main galat kar raha hoon. Mujhe sirf apna best dena hai. Sales hona nahi hona mere bas mein nahi hai. And ma'am ne kabhi mujhse directly nahi kaha ki woh mujhse sales target pura karna expect karti Hain balki yeh maine khud Maan liya tha ki ma'am ko aisi umeed hai mujhse. To ab aaj se fake expectations se bachna hai mujhe and apna kaam karte rehna hai. Rahi baat iski ki koi kaha rehta hai ya kitna kamata hai, aakhir mein sukh aur chain ghar mein aake hi milta hai. Hope so ki kuch time baad main apne ghar jaake job kar saku and parents ke saath hamesha reh sakoon..❤
The best principle to be happy in life is to have a Natural Life without going for comparisons: Contentment with what have been bestowed is the best; go for needs not greed. Simple is the best -- a natural living without showoff and society's anticipations. If you want to remain single, then it is good to be like that; why to go for marriage just because every second person gets married, or just because it is society's norm that after settling down and becoming self-dependent, one "must" get married. Society never cries or consoles you, but expects every odd thing from you. Pray God to save you from such a so-called society!!!
Was facing something from last so many days.....and still its not easy to adapt a postivie thinking instantly.... but atleast this video gave a glimps of why we fail to give our 100% in anything we are donig. Thanks for the video..✨
Very needful information. Me india me 50-60 hazar earn karta tha, khush tha. Najane kese mere mind me yeh aa gaya ki 50-60 hazar kuch nahi hote log 2lakh 3 lakh kamate hai mahine ke, teri tankhaw to kuch ni hai. Par phir mene tarika nikala ki videsh me rehne waale ache se kamate hai aur canada ka visa sabse easy hai. Phir mene taiyaari ki mehnat ki canada aa gaya par yhaan IT ki jobs ki bhaari kami hai, reference ke bina to kisi ko bhi job nahi milti. Majduuri waali jobs me bhi reference chahiye, woh bhi bina reference ke nahi milti. Ab yhaan canada me na to job hai, na gaadi hai, na ghar hai, upper se kharcha nikalna rehne ka padhai ka sab muskhil me. Yhaan 3-5km phaltu me chalna padta hai har jagah bus se jana padta hai chalna to thik hai par din ke 3-4 ghante to bus me hi chale jaate hai kahi jaane ke liye. Me ek daldal me phas chuka hu. Me jo tha me khush tha. Logo ko bolne deta kya pahark padta hai. Me india me khush tha, agar canada me bhi majduri karna hai to india me hi kar lo majduri. Ab me bilkul rasta bhatak chuka hu. Pese bhi thuk gaye aur koi future bhi ni. Pehle me khush tha ab nahi hu 1% bhi nahi.
Thanks for making this video on Minimalism, Shweta. Although different people has different ways to find their happiness based on how they define happiness in the first place, but what I have realised as of now is that living a Minimalist life is the most practical way to reach long term happiness for most of the people out there.
Not that long man. 😅 Those people probably don't watch such videos. May be news, cricket and viral stuff. I'm pretty sure most of her viewers are max 35 years of age.
Shweta, whatever you have said exactly resonate with one of the greatest soul's saying which I came across in one of Jay Shetty's show, " You are not what you think of yourself. You are not what others think of yourself. You are what you think other think of yourself"
Managing expectations had always been a thing I knew I needed but it got so mixed with academic, social, professional & self-imposed validation that I'm lost as to what I want. I've forgotten what makes me happy anymore... This video does make me think of taking care of myself.
Hi Shweta, I have always seen you have a different perspective of viewing life. I was also fed-up throughout my school to become the top ranker and highest scorer. It was in college I decided to walk through the path I want and career I want to persue leaving behind parents, teachers and society's expectations. Thankfully I am successful in it today and everyone including myself are happy now. Anyways, some of the traits you just mentioned are so much in common between us. It will be great to have a Chai-Pe-Charcha with you someday !!! Let me know if you are in Bangalore sometime.
Hey Shewta, This video is so inspiring. You were just so true to yourself. I also have the same nature and while watching your video, I could relate myself with every single second of your video. I watch almost every RUclips video on 1.5x but when I started watching your video then within 1 minute I restarted the video with 1x normal speed and It was so relatable and inspiring. Thank you for expressing your valuable thoughts.❤️❤️❤️
whatever you said, the same things I am facing in my life right now, I was in Big 4 and I lost my job due to lay off, it been 4 months now that am Jobless but even I am happy today because I don't want to work in corporate and as you said because of my parent expectation I done that job but in the past 2 years of my IT experience I haven't learned any new thing and I felt I am wasting my time here but I am so happy that I got this video because of this video I more clear on my future roadmap and one last thing I would suggest to all that "Zindagi me jo pasand aata hai karne ko bas wahi cheez karna Qnki dusaron k expectation khud k samjh kar wo cheez apnane me tumhara nuksaan hoga qnki bahar ki duniya tumse khush rahegi but andar se tum dukhi rahoge uss cheez ko lekar. " Thanks for this great content!
I can relate to this on another level. You were breaking down as you were talking and hurted me cuz I see my reflection in you. Hope you're doing better now. And i hope that i also find a way to drop all this and my my inner happiness.
You know di in the world where almost every content creators look only for selling courses, You Give us the best content free of cost This world need more people like you.❤
Very carefully well crafted words...........thanks for this.....I understood today that the bottom line is to live in present and try to know what I feel about myself........there is a world inside us and according to me "aapke andar ek brahmand h aur agar aapne use samajh liya toh aap sab bhramo se dur ho jayenge " Thanks .......and one more thing u hv just earned for urself an ardent follower........ya it's true read that again.....😊
After so long I feel so connected... You actually telling the true fact of our overthinking life. Rather chasing our dreams, we do actually forgot the true realism, these days materialistic stuff happens. Our relatives somehow if they are in a big position, wether your parents force you to overcome that pace or not We guys often get so much indirect pressure as to conquer that position, brand etc. And then we realize very late that I / We are seriously happy or not. Life is Frustrated Sweta Mam, We are the only one to mess up our life in a defamed and contradictaory stage, everyone is facing somewhat a problem. 🥲😞 But, Sweta Mam Thanks For These Videos. I feel so soul to soul connect. ❤
Zist is learn how to say 'NO', and Be you what you are. I have realized later in my life it works like wonder. but yes prioritize the activities which works for you and keep you happy with out damaging social harmony and environment.
This video came to me exactly when I had this crippling unhappy feeling. Nothing really caused it. It just hit me all of sudden and i just didn't understand where this even came from. I can't believe the coincidence of you putting out this video at this hour. The reason being whenever i have felt sad previously something has always caused it or someone that i can point fingers at. But this felt different so much that i couldn't even cry unlike otherwise. I was just numb not knowing what to do with this feeling. Its after watching this video i felt like i could breathe again. Not even exaggerating. It felt like a virtual hug. Thankyou.
Yar shweta you were just telling my life's story.. that is so me..i do have many friends living in big cities but I m way more happy living in a small town, with my parents.. nothing gave me more sukoon than having evening tea with them❤
This is what Mark Ransom said in his book. If you are chasing something, then you lack the thing at the first place. And hence you are stuck in the vicious loop.
I was disappointed with myself for not cracking the b school I desired, but after taking it with seniors I am quite happy about converting to IIT Dhanbad and I am ready to work hard as much as possible And not let the expectation of others and myself ruin my journey to MBA. Thank you for all the support, Your varc strategy helped me a lot.
Congratulations on making it to IIT Dhandbad and even more happy that you are not letting others expectations affect you ❤️ Best wishes for the journey ahead!
Mam, We are surrounded by 2 kinds of people. 1. Well wishers who genuinely want us to improve in our life. 2. The people who just want to interfere in our life by giving some or other suggestion. I must say, recognizing people is important, that who is our well wisher and who are not. The words said by our well wishers ( Parents, Teachers, coaches) should be definelty taken into consideration. It will surely provide best things possible to us.
@Shweta Two things i like about your videos the most. One is your voice throw, very natural and second your way of waving hand at the start of the video. Rest all other good things I know you know it better. Thanks
Shweta Arora is like that bagal wala friend who you can always bother with your small small queries regarding preparation, career and life But she'll always be there to help us and motivate (and definitely inspire as she's an IIM alumnus) Aisa na bas video click karke hi positive vibes aane lagti hai😊😊😊 I'd wish to become like someone like this in the future. Because positivity is a vital nutrition to growth...
You're very inspiring di . This is a truth that I realised after some depression phase last year . Some people want you to behave according to them but don't want to stand up to your expectations,sad reality of this world.
Very well spoken, Shweta. I have lived my life following these principles and the little doubt that I had just vanished when I heard your talk. BTW I am 51 years old 😊… and I have supported my children to think likewise but peer pressure is not easy to handle….good job, you I believe don’t even need praise to make you happier as you have got it all sorted at such a young age … God Bless
Hi di your videos are really helpful for me. Di it's a request ki Aap depression, anxiety, Panic attack k upar bhi videos banaye, discuss kare suggestion De aur motivation bhi.
Bro, I think as long as we are in this jeevan chakra full of relations around, humlog kahi na kahi "expectations" se bandhe hue hi rahenge and it's completely natural and normal. But yes, "apne mann" ka karne ki liberty har insaan ke paas hoti zaroor hai, but alag alag timeframe mein. "Expectation" and "responsibility" me farak aa jata hai.
Of this current society, your happiness is not worth a penny. Until you reach the expectations of the public cornered by surrounding you. Thankyou. Namaste. Jai Hind 🇮🇳 🪷🕉️
I can understand your pain because still now also I am going through it I want to become a CA after 10th but my family forced joined science and I was dumb that I chose biology just because I don't like Physic, Chemistry but after that, I came to know that it is a mandatory subject. Right now doing my Pharmacy 2nd year having 5 backlogs and just taken the expectation of my parents for clearing the Pharmacy I want to be a part of MBA student in IIM that's the future. Now clearing the backlog as well as semester subjects too. 😀 just smiling with my story and pain
Some one so successful like you preaching these words is just awesome, i hope now some pseudo i know all will watch it and understand and stop commenting on others life.
ya you told me the truth that i am hiding it from myself from so many years not just days but from past few months i was so burned out because i am not meeting others expections , and imagined theire expections as mine which i wanted from myself .Because of that was i started staying late night to beinge watch the series so that i could discuss about that seies with my friends so that i should not feel left out you know i am talking about FOMO but i was never ever late night person i am early to bed and ealry to rise kind of person through this staying late nights it has impacted my health also sometime. And i have usumed so many such expections for myself without thinking about them whether its mine or others like everybody is telling me to read more self-help books ,you should be fast learner,you should dress up nicely, you should talk less,these expections are killing me from inside from past few months as i was not meeting them i started doubting my abilities . Not necessarily these expections are told by someone in this digital world when you are easily influenced by youtubers or any other content creators that what you are doing is wrong you should do other things and achive these many goals in such age so stay away from such advices and life will become much more easier then what you thinik. But after watching your video now i can declutter my expections list and find what truly makes me happy . Thank you so much to making this video and sharing it with us your valuable thoughts upon this topic 🙂
I am so happy for you for sharing this! This will clear many of us Minds to live Extraordinary Happy Lives! Finally, we have to accept 'Who We Are'! and 'What we are born with'. That will not only make us Happy but also, Family, Friends, Relatives, and People will also Accept Us Who We Are. Thanks for sharing. Have a Happy day!
This videos timing is so apt ...i have been unhappy, burdened for months due some expectations... I don't want to live like this ,this video actually defined my life ❤thanks for giving clarity 🙏🏻
I love you even more for saying it out loud❤
❤ This means a lot more coming from you than anyone else, CA Neha ❤️
I was searching this video on your channel, and then started watching one of your video, but, the very next video I was recommend was this (which i was searching for 😅).... I now (after reading this comment) realised u 2 r different people 😮😅😂❤
CA Neha❤
Great video
@@Shweta-Arora Thank you so much to both of you shweta mam and neha mam. You both say those things that I didn't knew I was doing. I am so glad you guys have said it. Thank you so much.
"Tension is who you think you should be , Relaxation is who you actually are....!😊
Great line
Who yaha kaise lagegaa 👀
Naval Ravikant
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This made me smile. :)
I am forty years of age today. After a miserable existence of nearly twenty years, I realized what you said two years earlier - and decided to do what is in alignment with my true self. Happy news is, I am happier these days.
God bless you....
1. don't expect from people
2. spend your life where you are happy
3.spend time with your parents
4.No need to go far from your home
5.Give yourself value from other people
"Happiness Is A State Of Mind, That Has Nothing To Do With External World"
-- Sri Krishna 🙏
Sometimes that external world can win your conscience:- the Queen of Gandhar lady Gandhari
But state of mind is influenced by the external world.
So this statement is incorrect in context to reality.
External world matters a lot
Jai Sri Krishna ❤
''Pain is certain but your suffering is always optional'' loved your concept of happiness mam.❤
suffering is a part of your life. One enjoys happiness because of your suffering experience.
In my childhood, I studied very hard, trying to meet expectations of my parents. Once i realised how damaging it was for me, I slowly left studying hard, & started getting lower grades. If course my parents were very upset, but I didn't care much, cuz i knew how badly it affects me.
Now, after graduation, my parents & society expects me to get a "good" job that pays high salary. But I didn't go down that path, I'm looking for a simple job with low salary, that allows me to have work life balance and give me enough time to not burnt out & be in peace with myself..
I love this 💕💕💕💕💕
Same me
This is so true, the major thing that I realized is as soon as you stop listening to others they get offended but just look at yourself, you are at peace, you are doing what you always wanted to and that's enough. People generally sideline the one who is different from them but that's what makes us special and I find happiness in being different. Thanks a lot for this video!!
The pain you had while telling this story was very relatable to me . Wasted 23 years of my life always thinking about others
At such a young age it seems you have discovered the reason of existence which normally comes through lot of experience. Well done 👍 I too had lost my job and was frustrated and unhappy but slowly realised that whatever little I am earning without a secured job is actually what I Love. It gives me time to pursue my hobbies and live the life I want without cutthroat competition. I am happy today, Thanks 👍
So happy to hear your story, only those who have experienced it know the joy of doing what you love ❤️
@@Shweta-Arora hello dii I am a 12 th class student nd I know this in my these initial days it's a lot for mee and for my future
' Btw aase hre mere jaise Or Sare logo ko apne experience share kijiye to find the right path for uss l..... ❤❤❤
@@Shweta-Arora have spent almost all my life meeting expectations now im unknown to even my self i dont know what i like what r my choices where i will be happy
Hi Shweta, you are gem for many of us
Pefectly said.
Girl, I think you are a lot younger than me and this concept is not something new and yet seeing a young female talk so confidently makes me want to follow my instincts and passion which I have been putting off coz as u know everyone needs a " job " right as per societal standards. God just brought ur video on my homepage even though I never searched anything related to this. You are my life changer girl! I am gonna take that risk.❤ This is the first time I am watching you and you will be the reason for the good things to come into my life from now on!🎉 A big Thank You!!!❤
Wow 😊
Ditto
I also came across the channel 1st time and without any doubt, it's one of the few videos, that I found genuinely helpful, with such calm voice. Today, everybody is running after money, and the youth is under peer pressure. We need to set priorities and live our lives the way we want.
Can't tell you how relatable and pleasing this felt to me. I am stuck in this thinking since childhood and now started to realize that importance of having command over your own decisions and lifestyle. Thank you Shweta for this wonderful message, hope you achieve all the heights in your life.
I can hear the pain in your voice, it takes a lot of time to get out of this.. Luckily I learnt this earlier in life and I'm watching this video just cause it's your video. Stay happy madam. You deserve everything ❤️
Thank you so much ❤️ I believe everything comes to us when it's supposed to. I'm just glad it did ❤️
Mam, suddenly mujhe aisa lga, ki apne upar se maine bohot saara burden drop kr dia h
@@Shweta-Arorait feels like i m talking to myself.. I feel the same every second of my life that society forced me to do things which i don't want to do.. Specially my in-laws.. ma'am plz make a video on how to deal with this kind of in-laws who want that i should live my life according to their convenience..i don't want to become an ideal daughter-in-law. I just want to be happy. But nobody can understand my situation .i diagnosed with some health problems too...
@@shivanimashru9477what happened? Are you being forced to do job?
I literally felt each and every word you poured out. I'm at a point in my life where I feel like I've made a lot of wrong choices. It's hard to appreciate how those choices have actually brought me happiness when I'm constantly plagued by regrets. I don't have any close friends to talk to, and sometimes I wish there was someone I could share my thoughts with. But even after thinking about it for an hour or two, I always end up being happier by myself. It's strange, but being honest with myself seems to work better than trying to impress others. I think When you do something with honesty it reflects in everything you do even if somebody expects it otherwise.
Thank you!
I could resonate with your comment
More power to you girl! Its a hard thing to contemplate your thoughts and emotions, and then reach out to others, to guide them with what you have learnt! I am sure many people can relate to this in todays world.
As an IIM grad & RUclipsr, I had made too many expectations scenarios (3rd category) in my mind related to placements & videos. These imaginary expectations kept me disappointed even after getting placed.
Me & My parents were genuinely really happy with my placement as it had exactly whatever I wanted, but I was too worried about my Subscribers that they might think I haven’t got really great package in terms of money.
But later on I figured out, I have always got their love because of what I am not what people want me to be. And actually I got much much love after my placement video😭❤️
I am really proud of everything I’ve achieved till now❤️
I watched your placement story video ...admire your work on youtube😊
Saying that line " I am proud of Myself" is the first step towards self love👍
no one is asking whether u r an IIM graduate or not...no need to mention that..✌✌
Thanks mam for sharing this wonderful message.
Happiness is a state of mind. "Lord Buddha" said, "There is no path to happiness. Happiness itself is the path."
😊❤
Yesss ❤️🌸 Such beautiful lines!
I'm way too tired to write how much i could relate to this, and why my experiences which deeply destroyed my mental and physical health made me relate to this.
so let me just say simply....this video came to me when i most needed it. the more you spoke, the more i felt a direct reach out to my heart and spirit telling me i'm not alone, i'm not alone.
thank you. i'm genuinely speechless. i can confirm you've literally saved one person today.
U can't make everyone in life happy...ur not a cookie
" Happiness is covered with dust of expectations, conditioning, need of approval, fear". Beautifully said. I am carrying this burden to be somebody. And I put that on people in my life. I want then to be their best , no matter what is the cost or the prize. In my world, in every context easy and spontaneity is not acceptable. Whereas something that is Hard, fearful, burdened is valuable. I am a surgeon by profession. All of think about is learn the rare and be the answer to every situation. That is so unnatural. This stops now. I am curious by nature but have become nerd by my own expectation. I am gonna take a risk to be lead by curiosity. And leave the rest.
Hi Di, loved this video. I have a story which I don't usually talk about - one thing about me is that I am a huge people pleaser, I seek a lot of external validation which is why I am never satisfied. So what happened was, I was in class 10th and I had to make a choice between Science and Commerce. As far as I knew, I loved business, I loved reading economic times and even I used to borrow books from 11th grade Commerce teachers to learn the subjects in 10th itself. But there was such a huge expectation of me to choose Science from my parents and society (ki intelligent hai, Commerce lena is a failure - atleast that's what I thought they thought) that I ended up taking Science. You won't believe what I did after an year. I remember it was my chemistry final exam and although i had prepared well, I was so sick of everything that I walked up to Dad crying and said I don't want to do this anymore. I don't want to do science anymore. He was obviously shocked but he supported me v well. We sat down and considered every possibilities then took the decision of repeating 11th again. And i would say I was extremely lucky that we had to move out from my hometown to Delhi (because of dad moving abroad) and I got a chance to do Commerce from 11th again here in Delhi. I didn't have to face being an year behind when my batch mates moved ahead to 12th science. So yea, that's my story. This thing made me to make sure that every decision I was taking was for me then onwards. Love you ❤️
I can understand your pain because still now also I am going through it I want to become a CA after 10th but my family forced joined science and I was dumb that I chose biology just because I don't like Physic, Chemistry but after that, I came to know that it is a mandatory subject. Right now doing my Pharmacy 2nd year having 5 backlogs and just taken the expectation of my parents for clearing the Pharmacy I want to be a part of MBA student in IIM that's the future. Now clearing the backlog as well as semester subjects too. 😀 just smiling with my story and pain
Anamika - ❤️❤️❤️❤️🥺🥺🥺🥺
Thank youuuu for sharing your story and being brave enough to choose what you wanted to do. It is a very relatable choice that most of us had to make in our schools and I wish more parents understood that sometimes their over concern ends up killing their children's dreams.
I'm just happy this incident shaped your life! Having met you, I see a bold, confident and strong woman in you. Keep soaring higher ❤️🌸 Love you too!!
Harshit - Can feel your pain ❤️❤️🥺🥺
It's strong of you to acknowledge whatever happened and realise what you truly wanted. It doesn't necessarily mean correcting what happened in the past. It just means listening to your heart more often in the present ❤️❤️❤️❤️
Thank you so much mam for your guidance...because surrounding myself no one existing like you, where I share my thoughts & questions and got those answers.
So really thankyou so much mam..❤️
@@Shweta-Arora Thank you so much, screenshoting and saving this comment ❤️❤️
Hi Shweta, I am Dr. Adit from Mumbai. Thanks a lot for this wonderful video ! I could relate to literally each of the points which you discussed. For example, I am a person who likes to mix only with selective people, wear simple clothes, doesn't enjoy shopping much (not at all actually) and doesn't like reading newspaper since childhood. I feel I was also under this burden of "expectations", some from others and some from myself. But now I have started changing myself and the way I look at my life. I have always tried my best to "fit-in" but could not and so I used to think I m inferior than others. But eventually I realised the qualities which made me different than others and which, I thought, were flaws; were actually the gifts from the God. And they make me a much better, sorted and a clear-visioned person than most others around me. So I fully resonate with what you told in your video. Thanks once again !!! 🙂👍🏻
आप जैसी नारियों के विचार सुनकर हमें proud होता है कि हम भारतीय है
Absolutely true. I too have same thinking and feel the same ! “Just be yourself, there is no one better" thus always keep in mind that to shine your brightest light is to be who you truly are. Just look at yourself in the mirror and focus on what you need to do to get better. Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind. Always remember, your focus determines your reality. Where you hang your feelings is where you hang your focus.😉💯
This is one the most relatable videos of yours I’ve seen .
I was a people pleaser so I used to constantly seek validation from others but now every conversation I have or any decision I make, or if I get an uneasy feeling in any conversation I stop myself and ask the question “what do I want?” And even though we don’t realise it we more often than not answer questions which seem very normal to the society and lie even though we don’t feel that way- basic eg: If someone asks “how are you?”were so conditioned to say yeahhh I’m good Wbu? Also I would suggest you to read this book ‘Not nice’ it personally helped me to be truly myself . You sound so articulate and transparent, thanks for sharing this hope you only do whatever it is that you want ❤❤
I'm 23 now and I'm doing the same till date. At the end of every day I feel frustrated. These expectations are restricting me from becoming myself. Thanks didi I can relate with you 💯% and I am a CAT aspirant too. This will really help me in future
Beautiful!! Seeing people trying to meet out those expectations laid down by their friends, peers, society etc. Expectations or rather frameworks... Framework of what an ideal happiness should look like, what socializing is, what a friendship is, what a relationship is, a college life is, success is, all of it!! Seeing people trying so hard to fulfill and live by all these frameworks, trying to fit in... and after doing all of it you see their face and you can clearly see a sense of betrayal... They didn't get what was promised after all... Try to understand their helplessness! Firstly they put in everything and sacrificed their individuality to fit into those so called perfect frameworks and now they cant even announce that betrayal, that they simply didn't get anything out of it or rather what was expected... So what do they choose to do? They choose to stick to the same crowd, the same people who were all collectively betrayed and keep assuring and conforming to each other that yes they got something out of it, that the sacrifice of their choices and individuality was not entirely futile.... And one of the ways of doing so is to pull others in the framework too.... Pulling and persuading other people to follow what they did and are doing is yet another way to convince yourself against the futility of following the crowd, the notions, the expectations, and the framework... This is the condition of most people I see nowdays.... A saddened and doubtful self covered with the veil of confidence and social media happiness approved by the crowd.... Hopefully this video of yours can help many such people introspect and maybe find their way out of it....
Absolutely True!
That's where self respect comes into play.We must learn to respect our decision.If we fail we learn if we get the desired goal that's cool.But I have seen some people taking this concept in a wrong way.They try to feed there ego rather than understanding themselves.We should never force ourselves into doing something, stop using words like " I should or I must do this" etc. We should instead use words like " I get to do" see how perspective changes.And lastly we should stop expecting from others try to live a life of abundance.We should develop strength and power in our personality and learn to express our terms and needs and desires in a healthy way so that others are less likely to misunderstand us.
One of the very few genuine educator in india , thank you so much ma'am
It has become a norm nowadays to get a degree from premier institutes and work at big MNCs or to go abroad for higher studies. People start following the same herd mentality.
Glad that you spoke your heart out and stopped worrying about what others think
Yeah right
You are Amazing and we all are busy in people pleasing all the time in the hopes of getting fit in a certain criteria or to be liked by people, but the key is to do whatever you want to do and right ones will always stay by your side.
हर आदमी का satisfaction अलग अलग होता है, ये वीडियो सिर्फ आपके बारे में था । जरूरी नही की आपकी इन बातों को फ़ॉलो करके सब खुश हो सकते हैं !
I am glad to have you in my life, you care about us so much about our mental health our progress and thank you for always motivating us and guiding us through the dark with your light of wisdom.
I am a bank employee. There is no single day for me without frustration and anger. I try to calm myself but I can't whoever call me I remove my frustration on that call. But I have learned a new thing to use frustration in a better way. For my future goals. 👍👍👍
Which bank bro ?
Manager in bank?
@@atthe_rate_of_nothing in Co-Op Bank
@@Subhadwip-gq6vo junior clerk
Bro mujhe bank lootna h , please help krdo🙏
"You are not what you think you are, you are not what others think you are but you are what you think others think you are"
It's tough to understand the above quote but once you do you will be more happy in life.
Few days back i came across this quote while watching a philosophy video and realized that my self image in my mind is not mine and it has never been but now i fell happy alot more happy having understood yes people will have expectations and a certain image of me in thier mind and they will think thousands of things about me but it doesn't matter at all. All i have to do is not think what they think of me...
Agar yeh bhi mai sochunga ki log kya sochenge toh log kya sochenge...
Surely self love is really important but if you are not achieved anything in life struggling with day to day work not earning well right now, are unhealthy, lonely, want all things to change you will have to work on this yourself and not according to what others think you should do about these issues for the fastest and best results. otherwise its a never ending loop.
I have not achieved anything yet in life that i fell is significant enough to tell people but so what i might have better understanding of alot of things than others do and i am happy.
And that's all what matters right now..
Well said. If you’re not doing it for yourself, you will never be happy.
True words - Happiness is a glass covered with Dirt and that dirt is expectations of people from you , so you have to clean that dirt to be happy in your life because in the end your happiness matters cause you have only One life❤😊
I was going through a phase where I want to change something big but now I realised that I am chasing to impress some other person's expectations which is an assumption of mine only. Thank you for this.❤😁 Sometimes RUclips's recommendation is sooo on point! 😊
Wow!! I just stumbled upon this video, and can't explain how much I relate to this. Thank you so much, Shweta I really needed to hear this.
आपने यहाँ इतना जो सब कहा, आप इसी पर बने रहना। बिल्कुल पर्फेक्ट फ़ंडा है, खुश रहने का। कोई बाबा लोग भी नही देंगे यह सीख, जो आपने यहाँ दी हैं। Best wishes to you, always.
Mere saare decision mere hai , mai khush hun aur mujhe wo hint mil gya shweta mam ❤thank you for being this way mam I am.so grateful to have you on youtube 👍
*Totally agree* 🙄🤚
I never watch NEWS chanels OR read newspapers and *I am way more positive and peaceful*
There IS no need to know wats OUTSIDE of US, unless we are DONE with wats INSIDE of us.
AGREE
It's good that you're spreading this message to so many people. I found your video really late and had to figure this out for myself. I'm happy from many years doing the same things you mentioned here. You have saved a lot of trouble for a lot of people with this simple video. Keep up the good work.
Speaking of your friend's example he tried to impose and put you in his frame of happiness and enjoyment. This isn't your plate and people should learn to swipe left to these people. However, there is a very thin line between "getting stuck into comfort zone" and "growth, discipline, exploration". Even sometimes we disagree to some things or discipline, but once we try them outside our comfort zone, it leads to pleasure. But I agree, how important it is to filter and say NO to people.
Hi, I relate to your story a lot. Like yourself, I think I too have discovered how easy it is to be happy as the ingredients are very simple, however what is toughest is to stick to that and continue on a daily basis with ignoring all the noise as well. To be happy, you need to be grateful of this life, you need to thank god for anything and everything and you need to be kind to others. Most simplest ingredients, most cheapest items but the most toughest to follow on a DAILY BASIS!! we remember to say thank you for good things but never for bad things. We remember god in bad times but not in good times. We show kindness to only people who talk to us properly. I have found ways of being happy myself and sticking to it and ignoring all the bullshit that people give that change your job get bigger package etc etc nonsense! I feel very blessed every morning and that helps me give more gratitude for this life!! Thank you!
Hey! thankyou for this video...i feel nothing can match this title more than my life. I have been appearing in mba and masters exams from the last 2 years and couldn't even crack a single one. Rather than my failure, what bothered me the most was that what people will think about me if I don't do well. My elder sister also works in a big 4 company and there is a constant pressure to match her level. In my life I have no direction now I am just following the concept of happiness that worked for my sister. Currently, I am doing masters from my graduation from college only and I literally cry every day due to the exceeding pressure and I cant even let it go due to the fear that I cant crack any other exam. My classmates have settled in other states who were far behind me during college as well and I cant explain how frustrating it is to not be where you imagined yourself to be. But trying is the only option in my life now and I have to deal with this. So, in order to get some happiness I blankly scroll youtube nowadays with no will to do anything which obviously isn't a good antidote. Figuring how to stand back up and move ahead. Thanks for supporting always...a huge fan 💓
Where you imagined yourself to be.. is your own portrayal of yourself or influence of others. First, figure that out.
Mam, but sometimes we have to do some actions that we don't like that much. Waking up at 6, studying long hours, cutting off with friends, maybe someone doesn't enjoy it, but he/she has to build a discipline to achieve something that he/she has desired.
Plus there is a thin line being in comfort zone and being happy, and we wouldn't know when we lost track of time without discipline.
Your point of view was amazing to be retrospect but I think a person realizes this himself/herself.
When you decide to wake up at 6 am, is it something YOU want to do? As long as it is, it wouldn't create any frustration in you. E.g. when I'm working on my scripts, sometimes I choose to stay awake till 2 am. Nobody forces me to. Nobody compels me to. Nobody tells me it's the right thing to do. I know it is the right thing for me to do that day. Because I want to do it.
There's a difference between someone controlling your actions (directly or via expectations) vs you controlling your actions. The second one is what we call discipline. When you choose to do something because you know it needs to be done because YOU want the result. When it's not YOU who wants the result, the very same task will cause unhappiness.
@@Shweta-Arora Very well explained. Videos like this will help students like us to prioritize our attention. Kudos to your content.❣️
For the past few months , i was in depression, edgy,rude, loads of tension for only one reason - "get a job as soon as possible". my parents expected me to get a job after the completion of mern stack course but for some reasons i did not get a job till now because of less demand. im trying my best to get a job but my parents did not understand what im going through. i was suicidal but now i realized one thing what are things that make me happy and i told myself -" is this my life going to be". so i decided whatever future holds for me, im what im supposed to. i watched guardians of galaxy vol3 last night and i was so happy after along time and said to myself-"is this what im missing inside me". thankyou shweta for such motivational thoughts because in this cruel world you deliver such kind of topics which really touch my soul.
OMG... how easily you conveyed the feeling of thousands of people.
Log ko samaj tak nahi aata ho kya raha hai actuually. and you smoothly diagnose it..
Totally appreciate the way you described it.
This is so relatable, we all live the life in disguise we tend to forget our own sense of happiness. I am really touched by your videos . Lets not pretend to be happy.
We are always in a pursuit of happiness mode, what we all need is to stop for a while and look for what we really want from our life and what's real happiness is. Can exactly relate to what you said. I have also successfully overcomed this phase in my life. And so beautifully you shared your experience. Thank you so much.💞 I started experiencing real happiness in the past few months by realising what I really wanted for myself, and I learned that from being a spiritual person.
Wow, so beautifully said dear 🙌💖🙌 I don't know, but I suffered for a very long time, for the same reasons, to keep the relatiships happy 🙄🙃☹️ I am 53 now ❣️ From 1-2 yrs, I am working on my feelings, emotions, relationships 🙏😇 need to go ahead, a lot more to overcome 👍🙁 Felt so good, listening to u 🫶💖🫶 Sharing it with few, who have the same issues 🙌💖🙌 Thank u so much 🙏🥰 God bless ❤️
Thank you very much for the video.
Main job karna start Kiya hoon. Almost 45 days hue hain. But main last ke 1 mahine se Roz negativity mein jee Raha tha. Because meri sales based job hai to mujhe bohot frustration ho rahi thi isliye ki main bohot logon se milta hoon but sales ya conversion less than 5% ke saath hota hai. To yahi sochta tha ki kya karu, kaise Karu, etc. Roz Ghar ki yaad aati thi, Roz sochta tha ki resignation ke paper daal doon. Isliye bhi Aisa sochta tha kyunki meri boss ne mujhe keh Diya tha ki unhe 'dhandha' chahiye mujhse, to iss baat ka itna pressure tha mujhpe ki mujhe ma'am ke expectations pe khara utarna hai ki main unhe khush karne ke chakkar mein khud ko niraash kar raha tha.
Ab jab aaj main yeh video dekha to laga ki main galat kar raha hoon.
Mujhe sirf apna best dena hai.
Sales hona nahi hona mere bas mein nahi hai.
And ma'am ne kabhi mujhse directly nahi kaha ki woh mujhse sales target pura karna expect karti Hain balki yeh maine khud Maan liya tha ki ma'am ko aisi umeed hai mujhse.
To ab aaj se fake expectations se bachna hai mujhe and apna kaam karte rehna hai.
Rahi baat iski ki koi kaha rehta hai ya kitna kamata hai, aakhir mein sukh aur chain ghar mein aake hi milta hai.
Hope so ki kuch time baad main apne ghar jaake job kar saku and parents ke saath hamesha reh sakoon..❤
The best principle to be happy in life is to have a Natural Life without going for comparisons: Contentment with what have been bestowed is the best; go for needs not greed. Simple is the best -- a natural living without showoff and society's anticipations. If you want to remain single, then it is good to be like that; why to go for marriage just because every second person gets married, or just because it is society's norm that after settling down and becoming self-dependent, one "must" get married. Society never cries or consoles you, but expects every odd thing from you. Pray God to save you from such a so-called society!!!
Was facing something from last so many days.....and still its not easy to adapt a postivie thinking instantly....
but atleast this video gave a glimps of why we fail to give our 100% in anything we are donig. Thanks for the video..✨
Very needful information. Me india me 50-60 hazar earn karta tha, khush tha. Najane kese mere mind me yeh aa gaya ki 50-60 hazar kuch nahi hote log 2lakh 3 lakh kamate hai mahine ke, teri tankhaw to kuch ni hai. Par phir mene tarika nikala ki videsh me rehne waale ache se kamate hai aur canada ka visa sabse easy hai. Phir mene taiyaari ki mehnat ki canada aa gaya par yhaan IT ki jobs ki bhaari kami hai, reference ke bina to kisi ko bhi job nahi milti. Majduuri waali jobs me bhi reference chahiye, woh bhi bina reference ke nahi milti. Ab yhaan canada me na to job hai, na gaadi hai, na ghar hai, upper se kharcha nikalna rehne ka padhai ka sab muskhil me. Yhaan 3-5km phaltu me chalna padta hai har jagah bus se jana padta hai chalna to thik hai par din ke 3-4 ghante to bus me hi chale jaate hai kahi jaane ke liye. Me ek daldal me phas chuka hu. Me jo tha me khush tha. Logo ko bolne deta kya pahark padta hai. Me india me khush tha, agar canada me bhi majduri karna hai to india me hi kar lo majduri. Ab me bilkul rasta bhatak chuka hu. Pese bhi thuk gaye aur koi future bhi ni. Pehle me khush tha ab nahi hu 1% bhi nahi.
The third kind of expectations you spoke about is called "Assumptions". Sanity is the cure for it.
Thanks for making this video on Minimalism, Shweta.
Although different people has different ways to find their happiness based on how they define happiness in the first place, but what I have realised as of now is that living a Minimalist life is the most practical way to reach long term happiness for most of the people out there.
massive respect! you might have understood something which people realize in their later half of lives
Not that long man. 😅
Those people probably don't watch such videos.
May be news, cricket and viral stuff.
I'm pretty sure most of her viewers are max 35 years of age.
Shweta, whatever you have said exactly resonate with one of the greatest soul's saying which I came across in one of Jay Shetty's show, " You are not what you think of yourself. You are not what others think of yourself. You are what you think other think of yourself"
Managing expectations had always been a thing I knew I needed but it got so mixed with academic, social, professional & self-imposed validation that I'm lost as to what I want. I've forgotten what makes me happy anymore... This video does make me think of taking care of myself.
Hi Shweta, I have always seen you have a different perspective of viewing life.
I was also fed-up throughout my school to become the top ranker and highest scorer. It was in college I decided to walk through the path I want and career I want to persue leaving behind parents, teachers and society's expectations. Thankfully I am successful in it today and everyone including myself are happy now.
Anyways, some of the traits you just mentioned are so much in common between us. It will be great to have a Chai-Pe-Charcha with you someday !!!
Let me know if you are in Bangalore sometime.
Hey Shewta,
This video is so inspiring.
You were just so true to yourself.
I also have the same nature and while watching your video, I could relate myself with every single second of your video.
I watch almost every RUclips video on 1.5x but when I started watching your video then within 1 minute I restarted the video with 1x normal speed and It was so relatable and inspiring.
Thank you for expressing your valuable thoughts.❤️❤️❤️
whatever you said, the same things I am facing in my life right now, I was in Big 4 and I lost my job due to lay off, it been 4 months now that am Jobless but even I am happy today because I don't want to work in corporate and as you said because of my parent expectation I done that job but in the past 2 years of my IT experience I haven't learned any new thing and I felt I am wasting my time here but I am so happy that I got this video because of this video I more clear on my future roadmap and one last thing I would suggest to all that "Zindagi me jo pasand aata hai karne ko bas wahi cheez karna Qnki dusaron k expectation khud k samjh kar wo cheez apnane me tumhara nuksaan hoga qnki bahar ki duniya tumse khush rahegi but andar se tum dukhi rahoge uss cheez ko lekar. " Thanks for this great content!
I can relate to this on another level. You were breaking down as you were talking and hurted me cuz I see my reflection in you.
Hope you're doing better now.
And i hope that i also find a way to drop all this and my my inner happiness.
You know di in the world where almost every content creators look only for selling courses, You Give us the best content free of cost
This world need more people like you.❤
Your observation about the topic, your genuineness in the video, and your way of explaining are amazing
When I stopped thinking about other people's thoughts and started actually what I needed to do, I became a free bird.
Very carefully well crafted words...........thanks for this.....I understood today that the bottom line is to live in present and try to know what I feel about myself........there is a world inside us and according to me "aapke andar ek brahmand h aur agar aapne use samajh liya toh aap sab bhramo se dur ho jayenge "
Thanks .......and one more thing u hv just earned for urself an ardent follower........ya it's true read that again.....😊
BE WHO YOU ARE NOT WHOTHE WORLD WANTS YOU TO BE ❤
After so long I feel so connected... You actually telling the true fact of our overthinking life. Rather chasing our dreams, we do actually forgot the true realism, these days materialistic stuff happens. Our relatives somehow if they are in a big position, wether your parents force you to overcome that pace or not We guys often get so much indirect pressure as to conquer that position, brand etc. And then we realize very late that I / We are seriously happy or not. Life is Frustrated Sweta Mam, We are the only one to mess up our life in a defamed and contradictaory stage, everyone is facing somewhat a problem. 🥲😞
But, Sweta Mam Thanks For These Videos. I feel so soul to soul connect. ❤
I wish I could find a girl just like you. So much positivity. God bless
Zist is learn how to say 'NO', and Be you what you are. I have realized later in my life it works like wonder. but yes prioritize the activities which works for you and keep you happy with out damaging social harmony and environment.
This video came to me exactly when I had this crippling unhappy feeling. Nothing really caused it. It just hit me all of sudden and i just didn't understand where this even came from. I can't believe the coincidence of you putting out this video at this hour. The reason being whenever i have felt sad previously something has always caused it or someone that i can point fingers at. But this felt different so much that i couldn't even cry unlike otherwise. I was just numb not knowing what to do with this feeling. Its after watching this video i felt like i could breathe again. Not even exaggerating. It felt like a virtual hug. Thankyou.
Yar shweta you were just telling my life's story.. that is so me..i do have many friends living in big cities but I m way more happy living in a small town, with my parents.. nothing gave me more sukoon than having evening tea with them❤
This is what Mark Ransom said in his book. If you are chasing something, then you lack the thing at the first place. And hence you are stuck in the vicious loop.
To achive this clarity of thought, first we need to learn to become honest with ourselves.
I was disappointed with myself for not cracking the b school I desired, but after taking it with seniors I am quite happy about converting to IIT Dhanbad and I am ready to work hard as much as possible
And not let the expectation of others and myself ruin my journey to MBA.
Thank you for all the support,
Your varc strategy helped me a lot.
Congratulations on making it to IIT Dhandbad and even more happy that you are not letting others expectations affect you ❤️ Best wishes for the journey ahead!
Yar IIT dhanbad ke insider news batao kuch jo research karne pe pata chali aapko
@@Shweta-Arora thanks a lot💫
Mam, We are surrounded by 2 kinds of people.
1. Well wishers who genuinely want us to improve in our life.
2. The people who just want to interfere in our life by giving some or other suggestion.
I must say, recognizing people is important, that who is our well wisher and who are not.
The words said by our well wishers ( Parents, Teachers, coaches) should be definelty taken into consideration. It will surely provide best things possible to us.
Smart thinking 👍
@Shweta
Two things i like about your videos the most. One is your voice throw, very natural and second your way of waving hand at the start of the video. Rest all other good things I know you know it better.
Thanks
Your videos are really helpful and it gives me a clear idea of what I want to do but still selfdont is something which slows me down.
Shweta Arora is like that bagal wala friend who you can always bother with your small small queries regarding preparation, career and life
But she'll always be there to help us and motivate (and definitely inspire as she's an IIM alumnus)
Aisa na bas video click karke hi positive vibes aane lagti hai😊😊😊
I'd wish to become like someone like this in the future.
Because positivity is a vital nutrition to growth...
Emotion summarised well
Now a days My happiness is depends upon my mock score
Happiness is too fluctuating
But now I am happy
You're very inspiring di . This is a truth that I realised after some depression phase last year . Some people want you to behave according to them but don't want to stand up to your expectations,sad reality of this world.
Very well spoken, Shweta. I have lived my life following these principles and the little doubt that I had just vanished when I heard your talk. BTW I am 51 years old 😊… and I have supported my children to think likewise but peer pressure is not easy to handle….good job, you I believe don’t even need praise to make you happier as you have got it all sorted at such a young age … God Bless
Hi di your videos are really helpful for me.
Di it's a request ki Aap depression, anxiety, Panic attack k upar bhi videos banaye, discuss kare suggestion De aur motivation bhi.
Bro, I think as long as we are in this jeevan chakra full of relations around, humlog kahi na kahi "expectations" se bandhe hue hi rahenge and it's completely natural and normal. But yes, "apne mann" ka karne ki liberty har insaan ke paas hoti zaroor hai, but alag alag timeframe mein. "Expectation" and "responsibility" me farak aa jata hai.
We are so much alike!!! It's so good to find another human who feels the same.
Of this current society, your happiness is not worth a penny. Until you reach the expectations of the public cornered by surrounding you.
Thankyou. Namaste. Jai Hind 🇮🇳 🪷🕉️
00:45 your cracking voice made me emotional di 😣💔
I can understand your pain because still now also I am going through it I want to become a CA after 10th but my family forced joined science and I was dumb that I chose biology just because I don't like Physic, Chemistry but after that, I came to know that it is a mandatory subject. Right now doing my Pharmacy 2nd year having 5 backlogs and just taken the expectation of my parents for clearing the Pharmacy I want to be a part of MBA student in IIM that's the future. Now clearing the backlog as well as semester subjects too. 😀 just smiling with my story and pain
Some one so successful like you preaching these words is just awesome, i hope now some pseudo i know all will watch it and understand and stop commenting on others life.
Moral:-
Log chahe jo bhi bole tumhe jo sahi lagta hai wo karo
Thankyou so much for this. Your experience and story has been really helpful 😊
Thanks a lot❤
I had no idea how badly I wanted someone to say this to me
U suddenly appeared as an angel👼❤😂
ya you told me the truth that i am hiding it from myself from so many years not just days but from past few months i was so burned out because i am not meeting others expections , and imagined theire expections as mine which i wanted from myself .Because of that was i started staying late night to beinge watch the series so that i could discuss about that seies with my friends so that i should not feel left out you know i am talking about FOMO but i was never ever late night person i am early to bed and ealry to rise kind of person through this staying late nights it has impacted my health also sometime.
And i have usumed so many such expections for myself without thinking about them whether its mine or others like everybody is telling me to read more self-help books ,you should be fast learner,you should dress up nicely, you should talk less,these expections are killing me from inside from past few months as i was not meeting them i started doubting my abilities .
Not necessarily these expections are told by someone in this digital world when you are easily influenced by youtubers or any other content creators that what you are doing is wrong you should do other things and achive these many goals in such age so stay away from such advices and life will become much more easier then what you thinik.
But after watching your video now i can declutter my expections list and find what truly makes me happy .
Thank you so much to making this video and sharing it with us your valuable thoughts upon this topic 🙂
The real happiness comes from being content and not overstress about something that others have cause later won't bring any happiness but former will.
What a relaxing session this was !
....Especially that an English speaker not understanding the language being spoken on this video...
Pain is only temporary but victory is Forever ⚡🙌
I am so happy for you for sharing this! This will clear many of us Minds to live Extraordinary Happy Lives! Finally, we have to accept 'Who We Are'! and 'What we are born with'. That will not only make us Happy but also, Family, Friends, Relatives, and People will also Accept Us Who We Are. Thanks for sharing. Have a Happy day!
This videos timing is so apt ...i have been unhappy, burdened for months due some expectations... I don't want to live like this ,this video actually defined my life ❤thanks for giving clarity 🙏🏻