It rly rly depends on the kind of compliments, the timing and the intention. Also: Stating facts is not a compliment… It should always be spontaneous, without ANY expectations and coming straight from the heart. Anything else is just manipulation. ☝🏼
5:47 I would never loose respect for a man who shows his vulnerability in front of me, on the contrary, I'll find it so beautiful that he feels safe enough with me to cry, for instance, if sth. really sad hurts him that much.
Agree with much he says, but Porn is a hard no. I’m all about passion, creativity, and pleasing in bedroom, but porn is insidious and exploitative.. just no
I agree. There are studies that show porn change the brain and how it responds to pleasure, reducing satisfaction, because you are watching someone else have sex rather than engaging in it with yourself. Masturbation also has the same damaging effect because it's self-oriented. It really gave me chills when I heard that.
@ absolutely agree. I can tell when men watch porn when we are in the bedroom and the way they treat me. They objectify you for starters. And what you shared is the reason they do so.
The way he explained it was similar to "the guy getting it somewhere else because he doesn't feel comfortable to tell you", which I feel is a bs excuse. In this example he gave the dude watching P0rn, but a lot of cases it's the guy cheating with someone else. I feel the partner that's "ashamed" should step up and communicate rather than going and finding it elsewhere immediately, and that they should respect if one partner is uncomfortable with something
@@baconcat02 there’s 0 excuse for that garbage. I hate that society tried to tell everyone that porn is natural and healthy when it’s anything but that. It’s exploitative and easy out for men. It’s replacing relationships I think. I have very cool and attractive guy friends that admit it’s made them lazy and worse partners in the bedroom. They have no desire to build relationships. Only fans, porns, AI girlfriends are replacing women…
@@baconcat02 exactly.. when I was cheated by my ex, I thought there was no need for doing that he could've just told me.. later came to realize he wanted to keep both his "options" open just to see which one fits better, wasting precious years of my life.. I wonder the audacity of cheaters for treating people like objects!
Omg, Ismael! This video hit me, this helps me a lot to understand my man! Thanks so much! Now I have a chance to be a better wife, and than he is probably going to be a happier (and better husband). Win-win!!❤
Well about the complimenting part I have no problem in complimenting a guy but if I give them a compliment they usually think I am interested in them but I don't want them to think like that
My heart was broken countless times, and just when I had lost faith in love, an amazing man came into my life. Overcome by my fears, I ran away from the relationship. I listened to myself and realized I missed him. Now, I feel like I’ve lost him. What I’m trying to do now is face my fears, love myself, and get to know myself better. I hope that one day life will feel like a spring morning again.
I am in my 70 , and I must admit for a young guy you have a lot of knowledge. Thank you for sharing that as its about time that somebody helps younger people with the most important thing in life, the relationship.
It works for me if he wants to do the pursuing, cuz I want to be 'courted' as I like to call it haha. Also, I finally gave a direct compliment and told the guy I like that he looks good with a beard (cuz.. he does!) and I could see the thanks in his face, how he didn't look at me when I complimented him and he looked I dunno, like 'wow... that was nice...' lol.
Very good video. It takes courage to be direct. I recently did that and he asked me why??? I said that he was in denial about something. Not sure he really understood.
These items work at cross purposes to each other. I am open, honest, supportive, and self- possessed. I am kind, loving, admiring. How does that work with being pursued/ conquered? It's like you're advising ppl to be withholding and giving at the same time. I call that playing games. I'm not in high school. Games aren't part of my relationships. I am very aware of the masculinity in men. I respond to it. I think the Bruce Lee quote is better. Love is friendship caught on fire.
Thank you for summarifing all points at the end of video!! It reminded me that i requested you Ismael for these bullet points for the benefit of all us women! Much love and gratitude from India! More power to you for ur authentic, practical tips!!
Hello Ismael I have a friend and he seldom tells me his vulnerable sides of him. I mean he seems so lonely but he treats me kinda well I dont know how to make him much more open
Hi, Ismael! Thanks for the tips. I'm dating someone and, even without planning it, we end up kissing on the first date. So we go straight to romance and the conquest part is over. We're having some communication problems. Things have cooled off between us. I've heard that men tend to pull away when they're emotionally vulnerable and when they expect something bad to happen in the relationship. Because they have trauma, they "turn on" the escape route.Or maybe he just lost interest and wants to see if we can connect in another way. Anyway. I do the same as your mother - I cut my hair, buy new clothes, renew myself. It's therapeutic ❤
he left me bc i disrespected him and his father i was so frustrated at that time, now I'm alone depressed i still love him so much a part of me want to give up. on him bc i just want him to bhe happy but every day i think of us being together he said to me clearly he don't want to be in relationship with me but he still my friend now I'm regretting about my past behavior and miss us, its been 6 months that our relationship ended ,it affected my heath, studies soo much and I'm depressed worst part is I'm not able to express these feeling to him bc now he clearly said- i don't want to know all this it affect my mental health so i just keep things to me dying inside everyday
What answer are you looking for exactly? He said he doesn't want to be in a relationship with you. When a guy says this, don't take it lightly. He's gotta want to be with you too for things to work. It's best to accept that its over, learn what you can from the experience, and move forward. Breakups are difficult, but it's okay, you'll recover from this.
that's a good one! I thought you're going to share it and you made me laugh when you're just kidding. I learned a lot today. Thanks Ismael! Keep making these kinds of videos. its very helpful.
Thank you Thank you and your voice and laid back delivery and subtleties, I often get some kind of impression beyond just what you’re saying which is it’s probably reminding me of my prior love 20 years ago before he died. I think his father was from Mexico maybe or from South America and Had been a professor. Anyway, today, a man that I am very in tune with and a friend I have some kind of deep connection with who tells me he doesn’t like to be labeled that people should not be labeled and even to say somebody is gay or hetero is what he’s talking about. So I’ve developed a whole different philosophy in over 50 years, but I’m also not looking at quite the same way as when I was in my 20s. So like you say for relationships to change, I have to change. I get it. You have good insights and upbringing. Ismael.
Thanks Ismael .. I Wished You and Your Beautiful Family a Blessed Happy New Year, 2025 Glorious and Filled of Happiness in Your Entire Family Circle. God Bless You All 😇🙏😇
How can I tell if my guy is affected by my compliments because I compliment him a lot and not silly ones but very direct ones. He usually thanks me but is that enough of a good sign? He’s been with me 2 years and calls several times a day. We live in different states but see each other monthly. I think I am ok but when I learn things from you I feel maybe there are things I am missing. 🤷🏻♀️❤️
From what you’ve described, it sounds like he’s a caring and consistent guy. You might be overthinking things. Remember, you can always work on improving your relationship, but that doesn’t mean there’s anything wrong with it as it is.
I use chat gtp while talking with my long distance bf too. 😢 it's exhausting. I just wanted to give replies by analysing his every words. Pathetic. I have to improve myself . I have to score well in exams to impress him so that I can improve myself too
Wow. I hope you're not being serious. If you're using chat GPT to have conversations with him, you're being incredibly fake and self-centered, which will always end badly. 😬
He likes me but he doesn’t ask for my number. I’ve given him signs I’m digging him by walking with him to his break and working with him in the same department. I asked to work with him since it wasn’t busy. I’ve looked for him to let him know I am interested. He doesn’t take action. What else should I do ?
Ahh my brain tempted me to imagine that fantasy the 50 Shades of Gomez.I can't sleep back again with my imagination. Forgive me for what i have sinned.😅😂
If a guy says that he wants to become a better person and that it's just too early for him to have a relationship, is that just a kind way of rejecting or does he mean it? He keeps on saying that he never thought of me in a romantic way but then again he also says things like, if we were older I would've loved you or in my eyes it's impossible to not love you. He now asked for time to change and work on himself while we shouldn't have contact at all. Does he actually imagine having a future with me or is he just avoiding a straight forward rejection?
Gomes is a rare combo of mind and looks.. (what he teaches me .. prepares me to be ideal for guys JUST like him!) The only catch here is.. who said I want just one ^^' .. (non-monogamic here) 🤟🏼😁!!®
It's possible, but in the cultures of the Iberian Peninsula it's normal to see these names, like Fatima, common name for girls and doesn't mean religion
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It means a lot to me to see you want to learn about these topics.
God bless
Compliments are so important, both for men and women. They show the person is generous and appreciative of you.
It rly rly depends on the kind of compliments, the timing and the intention.
Also: Stating facts is not a compliment…
It should always be spontaneous, without ANY expectations and coming straight from the heart. Anything else is just manipulation. ☝🏼
@@karadiberlino In my comment I am referring to compliments coming straight from the heart since I know how to identify manipulation. 👍
Absolutely, genuine compliments build connection and show you value the other person.
2:38 I want to hear that "50 shades of Gomez" 😂😂
See "Brad Williams" he's probably TALLER!
sign me up too 😂❤
@@d1v1n1ti Let us all sign up for this! 😂😂
Yea! Do tell!! 😁☺️😍
Lmao 😅
Ladies be careful with the men who shows too much of his vulnerable side as he can be a covert narcissist.
💯!!!
Yes yes yes to this! Both my exes had sob stories about their exes and bad upbringing
Only if he does this too soon. Hopefully they are more vulnerable over time as the relationship grows. But yes.
This is 💯 fact.
5:47 I would never loose respect for a man who shows his vulnerability in front of me, on the contrary, I'll find it so beautiful that he feels safe enough with me to cry, for instance, if sth. really sad hurts him that much.
Agree with much he says, but Porn is a hard no. I’m all about passion, creativity, and pleasing in bedroom, but porn is insidious and exploitative.. just no
I agree. There are studies that show porn change the brain and how it responds to pleasure, reducing satisfaction, because you are watching someone else have sex rather than engaging in it with yourself. Masturbation also has the same damaging effect because it's self-oriented. It really gave me chills when I heard that.
@ absolutely agree. I can tell when men watch porn when we are in the bedroom and the way they treat me. They objectify you for starters. And what you shared is the reason they do so.
The way he explained it was similar to "the guy getting it somewhere else because he doesn't feel comfortable to tell you", which I feel is a bs excuse. In this example he gave the dude watching P0rn, but a lot of cases it's the guy cheating with someone else. I feel the partner that's "ashamed" should step up and communicate rather than going and finding it elsewhere immediately, and that they should respect if one partner is uncomfortable with something
@@baconcat02 there’s 0 excuse for that garbage. I hate that society tried to tell everyone that porn is natural and healthy when it’s anything but that. It’s exploitative and easy out for men. It’s replacing relationships I think. I have very cool and attractive guy friends that admit it’s made them lazy and worse partners in the bedroom. They have no desire to build relationships. Only fans, porns, AI girlfriends are replacing women…
@@baconcat02 exactly.. when I was cheated by my ex, I thought there was no need for doing that he could've just told me.. later came to realize he wanted to keep both his "options" open just to see which one fits better, wasting precious years of my life.. I wonder the audacity of cheaters for treating people like objects!
Omg, Ismael! This video hit me, this helps me a lot to understand my man! Thanks so much! Now I have a chance to be a better wife, and than he is probably going to be a happier (and better husband). Win-win!!❤
That's wonderful to hear, Elenor. Keep us posted.
We wanted to hear the part about Ismaël Gomez's Fifty Shades. 😅😅
50 shades 😅lol I think I got a rough idea😂
Gotta keep the mystery alive...
Oh nooo, plz...or my fantasy of Ismael as prince charming fades rapidly
@@harry7berry13why is he not prince charming if he’s charming in bed?
Man I was so ready to listen to the 50 shades of Gomez 🤣😂
Me, too!
😂😂😂
Well about the complimenting part
I have no problem in complimenting a guy but if I give them a compliment they usually think I am interested in them but I don't want them to think like that
So true!!!
@4America2024 yeah
Your examples provide so much clarity. Thank you.
I’m glad they help.
Watching your videos helped me stay single. Tired of games men play. Just tired!
My heart was broken countless times, and just when I had lost faith in love, an amazing man came into my life. Overcome by my fears, I ran away from the relationship. I listened to myself and realized I missed him. Now, I feel like I’ve lost him. What I’m trying to do now is face my fears, love myself, and get to know myself better. I hope that one day life will feel like a spring morning again.
2:40 Bro save his reputation 😂😅
Thank you, Ismael, for setting up this great channel!
Have a Wonderful Christmas and New Year ahead, Everyone!🌟
I am in my 70 , and I must admit for a young guy you have a lot of knowledge. Thank you for sharing that as its about time that somebody helps younger people with the most important thing in life, the relationship.
The first few sentences - yes spot on 😅
It works for me if he wants to do the pursuing, cuz I want to be 'courted' as I like to call it haha. Also, I finally gave a direct compliment and told the guy I like that he looks good with a beard (cuz.. he does!) and I could see the thanks in his face, how he didn't look at me when I complimented him and he looked I dunno, like 'wow... that was nice...' lol.
Love the back ground!❤
Thank you for your work. The way you speak to and deliever messages to us women is really receivable and easy to integrate. Thanks.
Thanks a lot, though I have no man, but it's food for thought, definitely))
7:26 She's absolutely right 🤩
You, your insights and brill analogies are FAB. So few MEMORABLE teachers out there in this genre! I only just found you today..
Very good video. It takes courage to be direct. I recently did that and he asked me why??? I said that he was in denial about something. Not sure he really understood.
Very very nice points
This is so spot on
These items work at cross purposes to each other. I am open, honest, supportive, and self- possessed. I am kind, loving, admiring. How does that work with being pursued/ conquered? It's like you're advising ppl to be withholding and giving at the same time. I call that playing games. I'm not in high school. Games aren't part of my relationships.
I am very aware of the masculinity in men. I respond to it. I think the Bruce Lee quote is better.
Love is friendship caught on fire.
You got me at that part 😂
Love ur advice, as ALWAYS spot on! Regards from 🇬🇧
I am very selective and I am very choosy. I don't know who I date and when I love, I love all in.
I guess it was too much too fast.
Thank you for summarifing all points at the end of video!! It reminded me that i requested you Ismael for these bullet points for the benefit of all us women! Much love and gratitude from India! More power to you for ur authentic, practical tips!!
Hello Ismael
I have a friend and he seldom tells me his vulnerable sides of him. I mean he seems so lonely but he treats me kinda well
I dont know how to make him much more open
You are amazing!! ❤
Hi, Ismael! Thanks for the tips. I'm dating someone and, even without planning it, we end up kissing on the first date. So we go straight to romance and the conquest part is over. We're having some communication problems. Things have cooled off between us.
I've heard that men tend to pull away when they're emotionally vulnerable and when they expect something bad to happen in the relationship. Because they have trauma, they "turn on" the escape route.Or maybe he just lost interest and wants to see if we can connect in another way. Anyway. I do the same as your mother - I cut my hair, buy new clothes, renew myself. It's therapeutic ❤
Very helpful!
he left me bc i disrespected him and his father i was so frustrated at that time, now I'm alone depressed i still love him so much a part of me want to give up. on him bc i just want him to bhe happy but every day i think of us being together he said to me clearly he don't want to be in relationship with me but he still my friend now I'm regretting about my past behavior and miss us, its been 6 months that our relationship ended ,it affected my heath, studies soo much and I'm depressed worst part is I'm not able to express these feeling to him bc now he clearly said- i don't want to know all this it affect my mental health so i just keep things to me dying inside everyday
pls answer
What answer are you looking for exactly? He said he doesn't want to be in a relationship with you. When a guy says this, don't take it lightly. He's gotta want to be with you too for things to work. It's best to accept that its over, learn what you can from the experience, and move forward. Breakups are difficult, but it's okay, you'll recover from this.
it was all my fault , he was really nice boy my words changed him completely
Thank you!
You are appreciated
How do we build an emotional connection with a man? and how do we know if that connection is built or not?
Such good advice x
Why only what men want? Why not what women want? Can you make video on that. I'm sure we want bare minimum. 😅
Because he is a man, go watching women’s
This was a great video! I’ve learned so much. ❤
I’m so glad you enjoyed it. What was your favorite takeaway from the video?
that's a good one! I thought you're going to share it and you made me laugh when you're just kidding. I learned a lot today. Thanks Ismael! Keep making these kinds of videos. its very helpful.
Thank you Thank you and your voice and laid back delivery and subtleties, I often get some kind of impression beyond just what you’re saying which is it’s probably reminding me of my prior love 20 years ago before he died. I think his father was from Mexico maybe or from South America and Had been a professor.
Anyway, today, a man that I am very in tune with and a friend I have some kind of deep connection with who tells me he doesn’t like to be labeled that people should not be labeled and even to say somebody is gay or hetero is what he’s talking about. So I’ve developed a whole different philosophy in over 50 years, but I’m also not looking at quite the same way as when I was in my 20s.
So like you say for relationships to change, I have to change. I get it. You have good insights and upbringing. Ismael.
Thank you! 😅
Thank you ❤❤❤
Watching porn together?? 👎🏼
I wouldn't date someone that felt it was harmless.
😂50 shades of gomez 😂❤❤❤ plzzzzzzz
I really love this video very informative , now i know thanks for sharing your thoughts sir
I'm so glad you found the video helpful.
Gracias Ismael Dios te bendiga
Un placer. De dónde eres?
Soy de Cuba, ahora vivo en Jacksonville
De Guantanamo
50 shades pf Gomez 😂😂
Thanks Ismael .. I Wished You and Your Beautiful Family a Blessed Happy New Year, 2025 Glorious and Filled of Happiness in Your Entire Family Circle. God Bless You All
😇🙏😇
Awe Ismael do share plz! 😂
I absolutely love it when men share their their vulnerability.
Is it normal for a woman who fantasizes doing a 50 shades to a man?
Is it work for avoidance men ? Let a avoidance man to conquer or initiate text or a date is extremely difficult
How can I tell if my guy is affected by my compliments because I compliment him a lot and not silly ones but very direct ones. He usually thanks me but is that enough of a good sign? He’s been with me 2 years and calls several times a day. We live in different states but see each other monthly. I think I am ok but when I learn things from you I feel maybe there are things I am missing. 🤷🏻♀️❤️
From what you’ve described, it sounds like he’s a caring and consistent guy. You might be overthinking things. Remember, you can always work on improving your relationship, but that doesn’t mean there’s anything wrong with it as it is.
I use chat gtp while talking with my long distance bf too. 😢 it's exhausting. I just wanted to give replies by analysing his every words. Pathetic. I have to improve myself . I have to score well in exams to impress him so that I can improve myself too
I don't know what to say....
@@minakumari1515 😂 haha
Wow. I hope you're not being serious. If you're using chat GPT to have conversations with him, you're being incredibly fake and self-centered, which will always end badly. 😬
I like how my crush keeps complimenting me in the game but i never do😂😂😂🤦♂️🤦♂️🤦♂️🤦♂️
A genuine, mature man will talk about this to his woman and ask what she likes.
Absolutely. Open communication is key to a strong and healthy relationship.
Yeah..I like complimenting my man..cos his very frank wit me. ..I suppose to a certain extend....😂😊
I'm forcing my girlfriend to watch your videos mate
😂😂😂
He likes me but he doesn’t ask for my number. I’ve given him signs I’m digging him by walking with him to his break and working with him in the same department. I asked to work with him since it wasn’t busy. I’ve looked for him to let him know I am interested. He doesn’t take action. What else should I do ?
'Who cares what men want?'- Men are a lot crazier than they appear. It is very hard to manage them.
Thank you for sharing ! I am too late but possible to make it change by the help of GOD.
hey Gomez!! 😂
He wants to conquer you? What, like Mt. Everest?
Can u guide, what does an intelligent man do? when he misses his loved ones?? Is a man shows gets very emotional??
👍
Ahh my brain tempted me to imagine that fantasy the 50 Shades of Gomez.I can't sleep back again with my imagination. Forgive me for what i have sinned.😅😂
😂😂😂
❤
🤝
Why do women have to abide by all these rules to keep a man ? I think they are too demanding !
If a guy says that he wants to become a better person and that it's just too early for him to have a relationship, is that just a kind way of rejecting or does he mean it? He keeps on saying that he never thought of me in a romantic way but then again he also says things like, if we were older I would've loved you or in my eyes it's impossible to not love you. He now asked for time to change and work on himself while we shouldn't have contact at all. Does he actually imagine having a future with me or is he just avoiding a straight forward rejection?
Avoiding you darling don't waste your time he's See's you In another angle not as a lover❤
Best to let him go. If a guy wants you he will make time for you not hold you at arms length
If she would give me away at the wedding if he did, ask
What a 50 year old men finds in 40 year old women? What kind of desir he might have ?
I only clicked to let you know that I couldn’t care less. Good bye~
Gomes is a rare combo of mind and looks..
(what he teaches me .. prepares me to be ideal for guys JUST like him!)
The only catch here is.. who said I want just one ^^' ..
(non-monogamic here)
🤟🏼😁!!®
Bruhhh uhh r muslimmm ? 🥺💗
I'm curious too🥺
It's possible, but in the cultures of the Iberian Peninsula it's normal to see these names, like Fatima, common name for girls and doesn't mean religion
@ashton1952 okhh 👀
@@ashton1952 😯