Can't wait to come back to this vid in a few months and see tens of thousands of views. Good advice bro, things that have helped me personally as well.
#4 the perfectionist - make mistakes (be normal) :') (I mean you don't have to prove) #3 stop filtering - stop living in your head and say it anyway (don't forget to listen to the person in front of you) #2 ping pong method - 1. Listen closely 2. Reply with your personal exp 3. Ask a question - you are allowed to make assumptions (lol, can do it all day) #1 failure compounds - fail (the more you failed the more you tried)
i tried to say things which was connected to the topic, but anytime i said something everyone just stopped talking. awkward silence, then continue like i wasnt even there. so i stopped talking, then i stopped going outside. i dont even meet ppl anymore. only time im around ppls are in work, where i have to be around them.
A summary (for me): 1. Stop being perfect, because nobody cares whether you are ideal. Being a perfectionist is harmful for you to interact with others. 2. Stop filtering. When interacting with others, do not avoid speaking what is in your mind, whether it is cringy or not. 3 and 4 are like toolkits and you have to have to use them to enhance your social skills with others. 3. The ping pong method. Which consists of 3 points, the first one is, to question them with questions (like, what is your major), then listen to them, and apply your personal experiences about the things they have talked about (for example, I heard that it is difficult to study marketing, and I believe it has other hard subjects that you have to deal with). The third point is to question them, listen to them and be curious about what they have to say. 4. Failure compounds. It is good to have awkward silence, because social skills are like a muscle, and in these awkward silences, you will gain experience from them.
Asperger’s syndrome makes it very hard for me to communicate with people but I can’t just blame it on autism and give up, I will try these tips and I hope it will help! Thank you for making this video.
I don't filter just what I say. I try to predict every possible topic and remark that has a chance to lead to what I try to avoid and avoid them too ... leaving me with almost nothing to talk about
I love how you incorporated the beautiful anime into your video. Thank you for the tip about not being perfect. We all need to relax a little more with that...
There is a great quote from how to influence people and make friends by Dale Carnegie:"The most interesting person is not actually smart or strong or anything but most interested person on others" Actually you earned another sub man keep it up
Great advice. I thought I didn’t need this video because I have been working on my social skills for the last year and I have gotten so much better at it. But I felt like something was missing. I have been less scared of talking to strangers and acquaintances. So, I thought fear was all I needed to work on to have social skills. The social skills I want to have. Then I realized I was missing something but I didn’t know what it was until I saw your video. Now I know what other steps to take and how to keep getting better and better. I have only accomplished principle 4. I need to work in the other 3 😅
the last one is so real , i used to be so so quiet and socially awkward , bcs i had been depressed for so e time , and totally stopped interacting with people , just staying in room , so when i started going out in family , friends , i couldn't come up with anything to talk about , and was do scared but i just kept trying , and shukar'Alhamdolilla , I'm not scared of interactions anymore , it's like as if i had forgotten how to talk and interact bcs of not interacting for so long , but once started doing so , i get good on this , but still I'm on my way to be more socially confident
So helpful! I am trying to become more confident and although I have there is still a long way to go so the tips in this are so useful to me and many others! Thank you
I’m 20 and I’ve been very good at socializing ever since I was young my issue is making them into a friend. My deepest fear is that everyone in my life is just talking to me out of pity and they don’t actually want to talk to me. So a friend unless I’m really close to them I feel like I’m just a burden to them. My love life also sucks I’ve had 1 LDR I’m good at flirting but making moves makes me extremely uncomfortable I’m so worried I’ll make the other person uncomfortable a lot of these fears come from trauma and it’s just a mess and a half. Thank you for this video I feel like even though I don’t have many issues the not filtering myself advice is really useful.
you’ll never be the best version of yourself. it’s an endless goal but you’ll become better than you were the day before if you continuously work towards being the best version of yourself.
The filtering one is hard for me. Trying to find that balance of knowing "right place, right time" and letting myself say whats on my mind in that moment. I personally feel the need to filter some thoughts because things I've said have come off wrong or it wasn't the right time. But now it has become overanalyzing. I feel now it would be easier to choose, being totally unfiltered vs overthinking most of the time. Finding the balance between them is what I'm still working on and struggling with.
extra tip: make jokes that are relatable to the other person! for example, if u ask someone what they study and they say like "computer science", u can reply by asking "so whens the last time u showered?" as a stereotypical joke about them, but make sure to frame it and say it like a joke and laugh it off. This is a great way to break the ice and make them more eager to open to you as people dont normally openly make fun of people they don't know that well so making fun of them in a joking manner can make it easier.
I am a perfectionist in general and I find myself acting on this tendency in my social interactions as well.. These are some great tips. My favorite is the last point - failure compounds. But the more I fail, the more awkward silences and rejections I face, the better I get, the more COURAGEOUS I get. And that's the most important thing - not to be perfect in social interactions but to have the courage to face what scares me, which is mainly rejection.
Fuck the last one hit hard I grew being very antisocial to being very social having a lot of friends till i started filtering out the fake and bad ones and became more introverted again and now I'm trying to be more social again and its hard but i juts need to practice more again 💪💪💪
i havent watched the vid yet, but the thing that worked for me as a shy introverted guy the best is just having fun, like just dont give a fuck, ik, easier said that done, but once u get used to it and get comfortable, and just start sayin the most random shi possible, its very easy, just dont force shi and have fun with it
00:51 Avoid a perfectionist mindset for social confidence. 01:35 Let go of the need to prove yourself 02:28 Stop filtering and overthinking in conversations 03:13 Overcome the perfectionist mindset and embrace action-oriented principles 04:00 Active listening and engaging in conversation 04:50 Show genuine interest and intrigue 05:40 Consistent social interaction improves social skills like a muscle.
Concepts that you make up in your head will just have a small impact on your improvement of social skills. The only real way to improve is to release negative past experiences and make your nervous system feel safe in social situations
If you want to study this video like me here’s some time stamps: 1:18 the perfectionist 2:28 stop filtering 3:46 the ping pong method 5:35 the failure compounds
The second one makes sense except I genuinely run out of things to talk about. Or have no idea how to keep a conversation going. It’s not cuz I’m preventing myself from saying something “weird,” I just have no idea-
Humans are actually social beings. If you feel like that, its cause you truly believe that you dont wanna talk to ppl or its just that you havent had much experience. This is to say that some ppl are introverted and extroverted but its influence is actually much smaller than what everyone believes.
I don't have problem with talking to people my problem is that whenever I go to another place I get scared by the people and just want to go back home asap I feel trapped when I go to new place and fully dependent on others like a baby
Wow this is a great video, better than I expected. I didn't think deep about these first 2 points. Man I highly recommend everyone to read Dale Carnegie's book. If only we follow his techniques, we all can easily make 20-30 good friends.
I think the reason I'm having a hard time to talk to people is because of my bad experiences from others cause i have neighbors who's quiet and look kind but in reality they that shitiest people in the world there's a long story about it but its hard to tell but i will tell some of it this neighbors frame me up and because of it i got a bad reputation even though reason of what i did is not wrong they frame me up after that they also did bad things that only i could know that there no evidence that will be left so they will not caught they steal from us and trespass at our house when were asleep they someone who low profile they poison my grandma that cause her to get sick and die but my relatives just dont know it cause how i'm gonna explain it when there's no physical evidence and i didn't caught them in act they have accomplices and they're so big i know who's person with them whom i meet cause they give me a sign like they insulting me the only reason i know that my neighbors done it is because i heard them talking about it. Now for every person i meet I'm having a hard time to interact with them cause in my mind does this person with them.
I feel like number 2 and 3 are kind of contradictory. No filters is great. But then ping pong has got you analysing a conversation and not just saying what first comes to your mind. What if all you want to say is "oh cool" to someone saying they did an engineering degree. What if that is something that just doesnt excite you? Or maybe it does and you want to ask oooh what did you do your dissertation on? I dunno just sounds like they kind of counter each other, when youre sat their thinking "how to i come across as interesting or pretend to be interested"
🎯 Key Takeaways for quick navigation: 00:00 *🗣️ Social confidence is achievable by understanding simple principles, not just personality traits.* 01:23 *💡 Trying to impress others leads to tension and nervousness; embracing imperfection and having nothing to prove makes you more approachable.* 02:22 *🚫 Stop filtering thoughts to avoid awkward silences; allow yourself to speak freely in conversations.* 03:44 *🏓 Use the pingpong method: listen, share your opinion, and ask relevant questions to keep conversations flowing.* 05:36 *💬 Embrace awkward silences and failures in conversations as opportunities for growth in social skills.* Made with HARPA AI
I feel like I'm forcing myself too much to talk with people.. last time I had a conversation with an aunt, yes she was an interesting and brilliant person but I felt so bad talking to her, she was talking nice but still i felt something off about her, i felt like she talked a lot , at the beginning she was interesting to talk with but after sometime i started to feel bad cuz she talked a lot and started to talk about random stuffs i didn't really want to know and she barely let me talk finally i somehow ended the talk with an awkward silence.. I felt so overwhelmed the whole day after talking to her. Is something wrong with me?
this video is sad and .... its sad thats this kind of video exist! For have friend, you must have the basics, bring them love/support, share moment / passion, be able to talk normally ( show interest naturally to the other) SO MANY PEOPLE DONT KNOW HOW TO TALK, EXPRESS THEMSELF I HATE U! you dont have to manipulate other, i dont like this vid
Can't wait to come back to this vid in a few months and see tens of thousands of views. Good advice bro, things that have helped me personally as well.
Glad you found it helpful! Preciate your kind words🙏
this aged very well
Right? It worked out too well @@purplecrab586
Almost 100k🙏
Hundred of thousands*
#4 the perfectionist - make mistakes (be normal) :') (I mean you don't have to prove)
#3 stop filtering - stop living in your head and say it anyway (don't forget to listen to the person in front of you)
#2 ping pong method - 1. Listen closely 2. Reply with your personal exp 3. Ask a question - you are allowed to make assumptions (lol, can do it all day)
#1 failure compounds - fail (the more you failed the more you tried)
Thank you for important summary
Bs is depend how people will go far
i tried to say things which was connected to the topic, but anytime i said something everyone just stopped talking. awkward silence, then continue like i wasnt even there. so i stopped talking, then i stopped going outside. i dont even meet ppl anymore. only time im around ppls are in work, where i have to be around them.
Im not that awkward but that part about having nothing to prove kinda resonated with me, thanks for making me realize.
A summary (for me): 1. Stop being perfect, because nobody cares whether you are ideal. Being a perfectionist is harmful for you to interact with others. 2. Stop filtering. When interacting with others, do not avoid speaking what is in your mind, whether it is cringy or not. 3 and 4 are like toolkits and you have to have to use them to enhance your social skills with others. 3. The ping pong method. Which consists of 3 points, the first one is, to question them with questions (like, what is your major), then listen to them, and apply your personal experiences about the things they have talked about (for example, I heard that it is difficult to study marketing, and I believe it has other hard subjects that you have to deal with). The third point is to question them, listen to them and be curious about what they have to say. 4. Failure compounds. It is good to have awkward silence, because social skills are like a muscle, and in these awkward silences, you will gain experience from them.
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Asperger’s syndrome makes it very hard for me to communicate with people but I can’t just blame it on autism and give up, I will try these tips and I hope it will help! Thank you for making this video.
Good luck🫂
Here before the millions!
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I don't filter just what I say. I try to predict every possible topic and remark that has a chance to lead to what I try to avoid and avoid them too ... leaving me with almost nothing to talk about
same with me
I love how you incorporated the beautiful anime into your video. Thank you for the tip about not being perfect. We all need to relax a little more with that...
There is a great quote from how to influence people and make friends by Dale Carnegie:"The most interesting person is not actually smart or strong or anything but most interested person on others"
Actually you earned another sub man keep it up
Great advice. I thought I didn’t need this video because I have been working on my social skills for the last year and I have gotten so much better at it. But I felt like something was missing. I have been less scared of talking to strangers and acquaintances. So, I thought fear was all I needed to work on to have social skills. The social skills I want to have. Then I realized I was missing something but I didn’t know what it was until I saw your video. Now I know what other steps to take and how to keep getting better and better. I have only accomplished principle 4. I need to work in the other 3 😅
Glad it helpedd
the last one is so real , i used to be so so quiet and socially awkward , bcs i had been depressed for so e time , and totally stopped interacting with people , just staying in room , so when i started going out in family , friends , i couldn't come up with anything to talk about , and was do scared but i just kept trying , and shukar'Alhamdolilla , I'm not scared of interactions anymore , it's like as if i had forgotten how to talk and interact bcs of not interacting for so long , but once started doing so , i get good on this , but still I'm on my way to be more socially confident
Let’s go 💪
What a great vibe this video has, love it
your voice is so calm
the author of the content put a lot of effort into the video, it’s very noticeable
So helpful! I am trying to become more confident and although I have there is still a long way to go so the tips in this are so useful to me and many others! Thank you
Glad you found it helpful
I’m 20 and I’ve been very good at socializing ever since I was young my issue is making them into a friend. My deepest fear is that everyone in my life is just talking to me out of pity and they don’t actually want to talk to me. So a friend unless I’m really close to them I feel like I’m just a burden to them. My love life also sucks I’ve had 1 LDR I’m good at flirting but making moves makes me extremely uncomfortable I’m so worried I’ll make the other person uncomfortable a lot of these fears come from trauma and it’s just a mess and a half. Thank you for this video I feel like even though I don’t have many issues the not filtering myself advice is really useful.
Pray for me that I become best version of myself
you’ll never be the best version of yourself. it’s an endless goal but you’ll become better than you were the day before if you continuously work towards being the best version of yourself.
The filtering one is hard for me. Trying to find that balance of knowing "right place, right time" and letting myself say whats on my mind in that moment. I personally feel the need to filter some thoughts because things I've said have come off wrong or it wasn't the right time. But now it has become overanalyzing. I feel now it would be easier to choose, being totally unfiltered vs overthinking most of the time. Finding the balance between them is what I'm still working on and struggling with.
You got this bro
Short & concise. Stellar vid
Thank you
extra tip: make jokes that are relatable to the other person! for example, if u ask someone what they study and they say like "computer science", u can reply by asking "so whens the last time u showered?" as a stereotypical joke about them, but make sure to frame it and say it like a joke and laugh it off. This is a great way to break the ice and make them more eager to open to you as people dont normally openly make fun of people they don't know that well so making fun of them in a joking manner can make it easier.
The best and very simple video I have ever seen on this Topic!!
Hoping It will get millions of views for posting such a great video:)
Thank you!
I am a perfectionist in general and I find myself acting on this tendency in my social interactions as well.. These are some great tips. My favorite is the last point - failure compounds. But the more I fail, the more awkward silences and rejections I face, the better I get, the more COURAGEOUS I get. And that's the most important thing - not to be perfect in social interactions but to have the courage to face what scares me, which is mainly rejection.
i like this video because it doesnt make me hate myself
Outstanding vid bro. Well done, I’m sure it will receive the love it deserves.
This video is actually a really good one. Out of all the videos on this topic this is the best.
Thank you
Fuck the last one hit hard I grew being very antisocial to being very social having a lot of friends till i started filtering out the fake and bad ones and became more introverted again and now I'm trying to be more social again and its hard but i juts need to practice more again 💪💪💪
you got this dude 🙂
precious info
Immensely helpful. Going to try and implement these techniques more
i havent watched the vid yet, but the thing that worked for me as a shy introverted guy the best is just having fun, like just dont give a fuck, ik, easier said that done, but once u get used to it and get comfortable, and just start sayin the most random shi possible, its very easy, just dont force shi and have fun with it
That was a great video. So concise. Thank You.
00:51 Avoid a perfectionist mindset for social confidence.
01:35 Let go of the need to prove yourself
02:28 Stop filtering and overthinking in conversations
03:13 Overcome the perfectionist mindset and embrace action-oriented principles
04:00 Active listening and engaging in conversation
04:50 Show genuine interest and intrigue
05:40 Consistent social interaction improves social skills like a muscle.
Concepts that you make up in your head will just have a small impact on your improvement of social skills. The only real way to improve is to release negative past experiences and make your nervous system feel safe in social situations
If you want to study this video like me here’s some time stamps:
1:18 the perfectionist
2:28 stop filtering
3:46 the ping pong method
5:35 the failure compounds
i always watch videos about the same sort of topic, but i feel like this video made me understand it better!
Sure. Sometimes people with self confidence walk past me, within a foot. That’s quite close, cosmically.
Very good video thank you🦑
Omg yes, #3 soo much 😩
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Brooo if you ain’t a bot, you a real one
That is like real good advice
The second one makes sense except I genuinely run out of things to talk about. Or have no idea how to keep a conversation going. It’s not cuz I’m preventing myself from saying something “weird,” I just have no idea-
Yes it is
Advice i can give -
Head up
Smile but not too much
Don't force relationships with unlike minded people .
Great video , thank you
This video helped me alot
Why is it that channels with less subcriber provide more wisdom ?
its not that i cant make up a conversation its just that im bored in it i enjoy more in peace and myself alone
You are lying to yourself if you believe that
Humans are actually social beings. If you feel like that, its cause you truly believe that you dont wanna talk to ppl or its just that you havent had much experience. This is to say that some ppl are introverted and extroverted but its influence is actually much smaller than what everyone believes.
Great video thank you so much!
I don't want to use tricks to make people like me. In the end they will not like me but instead they will like the person your pertending to be.
Hell yeah!
Nice video!!
Thank you!
Great video mate. Keep them coming..
Thank you! And will do
I don't have problem with talking to people my problem is that whenever I go to another place I get scared by the people and just want to go back home asap I feel trapped when I go to new place and fully dependent on others like a baby
I'm 20 btw
Blasting the song ”Ciggarettes and alcohol” on in your earphones also help a lot.
Great advice here!
Confident Introvert
thank you
Wow this is a great video, better than I expected. I didn't think deep about these first 2 points.
Man I highly recommend everyone to read Dale Carnegie's book. If only we follow his techniques, we all can easily make 20-30 good friends.
I think the reason I'm having a hard time to talk to people is because of my bad experiences from others cause i have neighbors who's quiet and look kind but in reality they that shitiest people in the world there's a long story about it but its hard to tell but i will tell some of it this neighbors frame me up and because of it i got a bad reputation even though reason of what i did is not wrong they frame me up after that they also did bad things that only i could know that there no evidence that will be left so they will not caught they steal from us and trespass at our house when were asleep they someone who low profile they poison my grandma that cause her to get sick and die but my relatives just dont know it cause how i'm gonna explain it when there's no physical evidence and i didn't caught them in act they have accomplices and they're so big i know who's person with them whom i meet cause they give me a sign like they insulting me the only reason i know that my neighbors done it is because i heard them talking about it. Now for every person i meet I'm having a hard time to interact with them cause in my mind does this person with them.
Damn sorry about that… there are bad people but there re also really good people as well. So ig you just have to slowly expose urself again
Oh it's easy is it. Tell that to heaps of people I know who just can't do it
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I feel like number 2 and 3 are kind of contradictory. No filters is great. But then ping pong has got you analysing a conversation and not just saying what first comes to your mind.
What if all you want to say is "oh cool" to someone saying they did an engineering degree. What if that is something that just doesnt excite you? Or maybe it does and you want to ask oooh what did you do your dissertation on?
I dunno just sounds like they kind of counter each other, when youre sat their thinking "how to i come across as interesting or pretend to be interested"
What is the anime at 0:23 with the guy sat down looking at pieces of paper??
Think it might be "From up on Poppy Hill". Ghibli movie.
Awesome video
Preciate it
I love your b-roll choice. How do you go about finding footage for your videos?
Pinterest and Tenor. Use anime related keywords
Could you guys please list the animes you use?
Yeah that's really who i am.....
🎯 Key Takeaways for quick navigation:
00:00 *🗣️ Social confidence is achievable by understanding simple principles, not just personality traits.*
01:23 *💡 Trying to impress others leads to tension and nervousness; embracing imperfection and having nothing to prove makes you more approachable.*
02:22 *🚫 Stop filtering thoughts to avoid awkward silences; allow yourself to speak freely in conversations.*
03:44 *🏓 Use the pingpong method: listen, share your opinion, and ask relevant questions to keep conversations flowing.*
05:36 *💬 Embrace awkward silences and failures in conversations as opportunities for growth in social skills.*
Made with HARPA AI
I feel like I'm forcing myself too much to talk with people.. last time I had a conversation with an aunt, yes she was an interesting and brilliant person but I felt so bad talking to her, she was talking nice but still i felt something off about her, i felt like she talked a lot , at the beginning she was interesting to talk with but after sometime i started to feel bad cuz she talked a lot and started to talk about random stuffs i didn't really want to know and she barely let me talk finally i somehow ended the talk with an awkward silence.. I felt so overwhelmed the whole day after talking to her. Is something wrong with me?
where is the discord lil bro
Lil bro💀
discord.gg/jD3YPm8BRe
What’s the song during the 3rd point?
Idk bro. I feel like talking to people is making me worse at talking to people
Hm
It’s like that at first. You just have to keep going and reflect on each situation when you get home. Just try to learn for each interaction
Ok but what if the people you want to talk to have those traits that you mentioned in the video?
Bro from where I can get anime videos for editing?
Pinterest, Tenor
what animes are there in these videos???
what animes are these anime clips from?
Are you mexican?
Snaring voice
this video is sad and .... its sad thats this kind of video exist! For have friend, you must have the basics, bring them love/support, share moment / passion, be able to talk normally ( show interest naturally to the other) SO MANY PEOPLE DONT KNOW HOW TO TALK, EXPRESS THEMSELF I HATE U!
you dont have to manipulate other, i dont like this vid
Is it manipulating or just using what you can use to make a conversation easier?
You sound like u in ur moms basement not trying to wake anyone up. Voice not convincing cool video tho
I don't know wym. His voice makes the vid sound soothing and better🤷♂️
Confidence does not exist
Wjere do you get background clips from
Have your fill for 5 more days lol