I have lost so many hours of my life over the past 3 years since downloading tiktok in the pandemic. I have folders full of saved videos of knitting projects I have never started. This is my sign to quit it for the remainder of this year, you really put into words a lot of the thoughts I have had
aww thank you for sharing your story! i am the same way, i had thousands of saved art and crochet videos that i never did. now whenever i want a project i will use pinterest on my computer or google one !
You are a smart young lady. Deleting social media is the number one thing that has gotten me to get my finances in order! Really cleared up headspace in my brain for me to prioritize the most important things in life. Screw social media! Keep doing ya thing you’ll get where you need to be sooner than later, thanks for the video.
I stopped using social media exactly a year and a month ago and I have absolutely no regrets. You've done yourself such a solid, especially mentally. My mental health is much better now.
I closed all my social media accounts a few months ago. I’m finding myself less on my phone. More on my kindle reading books or just doing more things around the house. It’s the best thing I’ve ever done in my life. Glad you took the plunge! On a side note, your eyes are so nice!!
I did the same exact thing. I feel like social media is a trap and it is so easy to compare yourself. Life is short and I realized that when I waste time on social media the days just go by too fast. I love your videos keep up the good work
@@Gamergirlyoshi I grew up in the 90s too and I think we are really lucky as a generation to be able to live tech free as kids but enjoy the benefits of tech as adults (still wreaks havoc in our lives as adults though!)
I'm trying to cut down on my social media use (I still find some stuff useful to keep in touch with a few people but I don't post and as soon as I catch myself scrolling instead of searching for something I turn it off. Not perfect but better than what I was doing) and finding/restarting hobbies helps a ton. It sounds so silly but I bought coloring books, sudoku books, and word search books and I love them. I also find I'm reading more, listening to more music, and finishing craft projects. Right before the pandemic I switched to local news for wanting to stay informed. I found a roku app for local news where I enter in a zip code and they have streams of the news from like an hour ago or whenever the last airing was. It's so much better than 24 hour news and I honestly feel more informed because it includes local things like bridge closures and stuff so I feel like I know what's actually going on around me.
I've watched way too many videos about smartphone/social media detox by now and yet you're the first person to describe exactly my relationship with social media. I have this need to define who I am through social media, aesthetics, hobbies... which makes me constantly redo my profiles, especially on twitter, follow/unfollow people and pages accordingly to who I wanna be or how I feel like at the moment... and this makes me feel lost and chaotic. I can't tell who I am. I only noticed that this is what makes me addicted to social media when I realized that I follow this pattern with online games too: I want to have *that* character that is so aesthetic, I want to have a nickname that people will remember, I want to be good and to be seen that way. Then a new character that looks cooler comes out and I change my focus. I think that the big problem is insecurity, I don't think that I'm interesting nor have an interesting life in reality so I try to hide it with this online persona that is cooler :(
It’s strange for me to say but I’m excited to use my phone less. I started declutter my social media apps, I kept a few since I’m still learning how to reduce my phone usage. Tysm for posting this video ❤
I pretty much stopped using social media last year, but now I'm even more addicted to youtube instead. This video was a good reminder of why I stopped and I gotta rethink my relationship to youtube haha
this honestly perfectly encapsulated how I feel. watching this video I just deleted all my social media apps because I also struggle with bpd and feeling like i'm behind. going to try and at least go the summer without social media, and hopefully longer after that!
I deleted social media 2 days ago and I feel so much better and I can feel myself getting exited about little things again and I can feel my childhood self coming back than just being emotionless sitting in my bed all day and I’m going on holiday in 2 weeks and I know if I had social media I would be more bothered about pictures for Instagram etc but now I know I don’t have it it is a relief to know this is for me and my memories and I can’t fully experience it :)
I have been going back and forth about this, but I think I’m going to do it!! I’d love to move more toward RUclips content. I love the idea of corresponding blog posts too!
Did this im 2015 and I feel... Alive... and actually in the moment. The only downside is forgetting to take pictures of moments/places lol but hey actually participating in the moment will do that.
Hey! Thank you for sharing your story. I've been in this constant battle of deleting apps and redownloading them for like a year straight. I have an anxiety disorder and I've found that all the information, and like you mentioned, "experiencing all the emotions at once" has brought me even more anxiety, and if you look at it as it is... like, it's almost kinda obvious that it isn't healthy? Like I tell myself that, and I'm like, this is so completely obviously not good, lol. I've also done the thing where I've deleted all of my following on Instagram because I don't really want to care about how I'm being perceived. Plus, I feel like the aesthetic I've tried to reach has always been unattainable or I'm just always unhappy with what I've posted. Do you think that has anything to do with BPD? Or do you think you doing that yourself is connected to the BPD? I've always been curious about that in myself. Sending good energy your way
i 100% agree with you and in terms of it being connected to bpd it definetly could be in my experience because i really struggle with constant small hyperfixations and then it wears off really fast and leaves me feeling like crap and those hyperfixations reflect in what i posted or what i looked at (sorry this probably doesn’t make any sense it’s hard to explain)
I’m at a point where I want to quit social media. I have essentially quit facebook. I check it for a max of ten mins a day now but I’m on instagram and tiktok for hours and hours a day and it’s honestly embarrassing
I really want to do this too but i work from home and have very little social interaction on a day to day basis. Social media is sort of my connection to the outside world, sadly. Need to ponder this some more...
That is so fair !! I think there’s ways to find a good balance with it, I unfortunately can’t rn with where I am in life so I decided to just be better without it
Perhaps consider joining a class at your local community college or something like that? :) it’s a nice place to meet people with similar goals/interests. I WFH too, and I just started taking classes at my local CC and can actually socialize now! It’s been very nice.
Im going through the exact same toxic cycle. Delete,reactivate,delete,reactivate.. i have hardly any followers on my social media which makes me feel awful about myself. Always comparing myself to others. I cannot live without snapchat filters. Its so bad. I just want the lot gone for good. But i can't seem to do it
I'm 28 (29 at the end of this months) i should've stop using SM before my 20's, because i lived 50% on good things, but 50% of my time should've been spent on something more essential and beneficial things to do. I've stopped at the start of this week, and i've noticed some behaviour change in my life. Oh well, better late than never i guess.
7 minutes in but the vulnerability in this is so comforting this is so relatable! I was just telling my mom that even tho I’m 24 I have no idea who I even am and that it’s solely because of social media 💕 excited to finish
I’m so exited to buy books and get more knowledge from actual history etc instead of TikTok and buying unnecessary things and feeling exited to just buy things I need and not care about the brand etc and care for like just warmth and not what other people wear it’s just so refreshing to get to know yourself and get around nature and appreciate it
Stranger here 👋🏻 Good for you! As I have an online business, I am somewhat destined to be on social but I schedule everything from laptop and scheduling tool. Hardly ever opening IG etc. Now, research the radiation that this apple watch causes… That should be out the window asap :) Good luck!
hi! thank you so much for your input, i also have an online business! i am trying to navigate how to make it work with just using youtube. thank you for the suggestion about the radiation- i am aware and i think that since i dont really wear it very often, and if its going to help me curb my phone addiction, its okay for now! many other things in our lives cause a ton of radiation as well. i dont intend on using these things for the rest of my life but we all have to start somewhere:)
I feel like TikTok has taken over my life in some ways but I always have had trouble deleting it because I didn't want to miss out or not get sent TikToks from my friends. thank you for posting this!
that’s fair ! i felt the same way, i talked to my friends and asked them to just send me the link to any reels/tiktoks they wanted to send me because you can open it in safari/chrome, it took me a while to get to this point but it’s so worth it imo
I've been in the same situation. I loved rewatching my liked videos so I felt like i would regret deleting tiktok if I can't watch them again. It's been 3 months since deleting it and I don't even remember what my liked videos vere about. Totally worth it
also! the reference to Harmony😭 ugh i miss her youtube sooo so much but i was so happy for her when she made that choice and remember thinking “wow, wish I could do that” but like…I can lol
I'm 31 and I relate to a lot of this, although I'm grateful I was at least a little older when social media became ubiquitous. (I had Facebook and access to my own laptop starting in middle school, but I didn't have a smartphone until college.) But I was absolutely addicted to social media for most of my teens and young adulthood. It helped me escape, but it also delayed me in figuring out who I am and taking control of my life. The less time I spend on my phone, the more grounded I feel in myself.
This is debatably just straight up nitpickery but RUclips is social media. Also please continue to make the exception for social media that isn't social networks. Of course you know some of them are and aren't culture creators depending on how they are used some people use RUclips to network and some use IG to document their artistic or athletic journey. But back to the point yeah social networking I don't miss it I resent how Facebookish LinkedIn has made professional networking we don't need more ambiguity between the social and professional realms is worklife not already unpleasant enough? Really it is the way to go I never meet someone else who has retired from social media and regretted it. I tried disconnecting I liked it so much it became permanent I mean except sweet sweet precious RUclips how could I stay away.
I’ve never heard anyone talk about the cycle of constant rebranding and aesthetic changing on social media. It stresses me out so much and then I feel stupid 🫠
I have lost so many hours of my life over the past 3 years since downloading tiktok in the pandemic. I have folders full of saved videos of knitting projects I have never started. This is my sign to quit it for the remainder of this year, you really put into words a lot of the thoughts I have had
aww thank you for sharing your story! i am the same way, i had thousands of saved art and crochet videos that i never did. now whenever i want a project i will use pinterest on my computer or google one !
Hugs 🥹
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It’s definitely life changing, those who say otherwise are probably addicted to social media.
You are a smart young lady. Deleting social media is the number one thing that has gotten me to get my finances in order! Really cleared up headspace in my brain for me to prioritize the most important things in life. Screw social media! Keep doing ya thing you’ll get where you need to be sooner than later, thanks for the video.
I stopped using social media exactly a year and a month ago and I have absolutely no regrets. You've done yourself such a solid, especially mentally. My mental health is much better now.
that’s amazing ! thank you for sharing
I closed all my social media accounts a few months ago. I’m finding myself less on my phone. More on my kindle reading books or just doing more things around the house. It’s the best thing I’ve ever done in my life. Glad you took the plunge! On a side note, your eyes are so nice!!
I did the same exact thing. I feel like social media is a trap and it is so easy to compare yourself. Life is short and I realized that when I waste time on social media the days just go by too fast. I love your videos keep up the good work
I agree !! And thank you!!
I grew up in the analog days of the 1970s. I sure do miss those days.
I grew up in the 80s and 90s I miss those days as well.
@@Gamergirlyoshi I grew up in the 90s too and I think we are really lucky as a generation to be able to live tech free as kids but enjoy the benefits of tech as adults (still wreaks havoc in our lives as adults though!)
I'm trying to cut down on my social media use (I still find some stuff useful to keep in touch with a few people but I don't post and as soon as I catch myself scrolling instead of searching for something I turn it off. Not perfect but better than what I was doing) and finding/restarting hobbies helps a ton. It sounds so silly but I bought coloring books, sudoku books, and word search books and I love them. I also find I'm reading more, listening to more music, and finishing craft projects.
Right before the pandemic I switched to local news for wanting to stay informed. I found a roku app for local news where I enter in a zip code and they have streams of the news from like an hour ago or whenever the last airing was. It's so much better than 24 hour news and I honestly feel more informed because it includes local things like bridge closures and stuff so I feel like I know what's actually going on around me.
I've watched way too many videos about smartphone/social media detox by now and yet you're the first person to describe exactly my relationship with social media. I have this need to define who I am through social media, aesthetics, hobbies... which makes me constantly redo my profiles, especially on twitter, follow/unfollow people and pages accordingly to who I wanna be or how I feel like at the moment... and this makes me feel lost and chaotic. I can't tell who I am.
I only noticed that this is what makes me addicted to social media when I realized that I follow this pattern with online games too: I want to have *that* character that is so aesthetic, I want to have a nickname that people will remember, I want to be good and to be seen that way. Then a new character that looks cooler comes out and I change my focus.
I think that the big problem is insecurity, I don't think that I'm interesting nor have an interesting life in reality so I try to hide it with this online persona that is cooler :(
oh i’m so glad i am not the only one !! i was starting to feel crazy, i am going to make a part 2 soon and reply to your comment more in that video
It’s strange for me to say but I’m excited to use my phone less. I started declutter my social media apps, I kept a few since I’m still learning how to reduce my phone usage. Tysm for posting this video ❤
aw that’s amazing !! it felt like that for me too
I pretty much stopped using social media last year, but now I'm even more addicted to youtube instead. This video was a good reminder of why I stopped and I gotta rethink my relationship to youtube haha
i’m doin the exact same thing it’s hard to find the balance
this honestly perfectly encapsulated how I feel. watching this video I just deleted all my social media apps because I also struggle with bpd and feeling like i'm behind. going to try and at least go the summer without social media, and hopefully longer after that!
aw i’m so happy it could help you!!!
I have BPD as well. This video connected to me so well. Thank you for your transparency and honestly ❤️
I deleted social media 2 days ago and I feel so much better and I can feel myself getting exited about little things again and I can feel my childhood self coming back than just being emotionless sitting in my bed all day and I’m going on holiday in 2 weeks and I know if I had social media I would be more bothered about pictures for Instagram etc but now I know I don’t have it it is a relief to know this is for me and my memories and I can’t fully experience it :)
Love it. I have the same problem and cut it off from my life definitely. Thank you for sharing your thoughts 🫶🏻
I have been going back and forth about this, but I think I’m going to do it!! I’d love to move more toward RUclips content. I love the idea of corresponding blog posts too!
your vid inspired me to delete tiktok, it's not really helping me in any way 😅
aww i’m glad it inspired you!! i might make a part two of this video talking more in depth on some things
Loved this video, keep em coming! You’re doing amazing 🔥
Came across your video and just want to say THANK YOU! You’re AMAZING!
awww !! no thank YOU!!! that made my day 🩷
The one thing I dislike about Pinterest is the amount of ads now! It’s nearly unusable for me now. :(
Same I hate the ads too!
YEAH! half of the PINS are actually ads!!!
Love your vibes, thanks for sharing!
Did this im 2015 and I feel... Alive... and actually in the moment. The only downside is forgetting to take pictures of moments/places lol but hey actually participating in the moment will do that.
That’s amazing ! I’m slowly getting there
Hey! Thank you for sharing your story. I've been in this constant battle of deleting apps and redownloading them for like a year straight. I have an anxiety disorder and I've found that all the information, and like you mentioned, "experiencing all the emotions at once" has brought me even more anxiety, and if you look at it as it is... like, it's almost kinda obvious that it isn't healthy? Like I tell myself that, and I'm like, this is so completely obviously not good, lol. I've also done the thing where I've deleted all of my following on Instagram because I don't really want to care about how I'm being perceived. Plus, I feel like the aesthetic I've tried to reach has always been unattainable or I'm just always unhappy with what I've posted. Do you think that has anything to do with BPD? Or do you think you doing that yourself is connected to the BPD? I've always been curious about that in myself. Sending good energy your way
i 100% agree with you and in terms of it being connected to bpd it definetly could be in my experience because i really struggle with constant small hyperfixations and then it wears off really fast and leaves me feeling like crap and those hyperfixations reflect in what i posted or what i looked at (sorry this probably doesn’t make any sense it’s hard to explain)
I love your videos so much!!! You have such a cool energy 🥺
aww thank you !!
I’m at a point where I want to quit social media. I have essentially quit facebook. I check it for a max of ten mins a day now but I’m on instagram and tiktok for hours and hours a day and it’s honestly embarrassing
I really want to do this too but i work from home and have very little social interaction on a day to day basis. Social media is sort of my connection to the outside world, sadly. Need to ponder this some more...
That is so fair !! I think there’s ways to find a good balance with it, I unfortunately can’t rn with where I am in life so I decided to just be better without it
Perhaps consider joining a class at your local community college or something like that? :) it’s a nice place to meet people with similar goals/interests. I WFH too, and I just started taking classes at my local CC and can actually socialize now! It’s been very nice.
Im going through the exact same toxic cycle. Delete,reactivate,delete,reactivate.. i have hardly any followers on my social media which makes me feel awful about myself. Always comparing myself to others. I cannot live without snapchat filters. Its so bad. I just want the lot gone for good. But i can't seem to do it
you’re not alone in that! i still am really struggling with it, im going to make a part two to this video with some advice and an update !
I'm 28 (29 at the end of this months) i should've stop using SM before my 20's, because i lived 50% on good things, but 50% of my time should've been spent on something more essential and beneficial things to do.
I've stopped at the start of this week, and i've noticed some behaviour change in my life.
Oh well, better late than never i guess.
If you miss interacting with people online then snail mail pen pals are the way to go.
7 minutes in but the vulnerability in this is so comforting this is so relatable! I was just telling my mom that even tho I’m 24 I have no idea who I even am and that it’s solely because of social media 💕 excited to finish
aww 🥹 thank you so much! you are so not alone ! i’m also 24 and i am just now trying to figure myself out, we got this :)
I’m so exited to buy books and get more knowledge from actual history etc instead of TikTok and buying unnecessary things and feeling exited to just buy things I need and not care about the brand etc and care for like just warmth and not what other people wear it’s just so refreshing to get to know yourself and get around nature and appreciate it
thank you so much for sharing !! that makes me so happy
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Stranger here 👋🏻 Good for you!
As I have an online business, I am somewhat destined to be on social but I schedule everything from laptop and scheduling tool. Hardly ever opening IG etc.
Now, research the radiation that this apple watch causes… That should be out the window asap :) Good luck!
hi! thank you so much for your input, i also have an online business! i am trying to navigate how to make it work with just using youtube. thank you for the suggestion about the radiation- i am aware and i think that since i dont really wear it very often, and if its going to help me curb my phone addiction, its okay for now! many other things in our lives cause a ton of radiation as well. i dont intend on using these things for the rest of my life but we all have to start somewhere:)
I just wanna say that I loveeeee your hairstyle it suits you so well!
thank you !!
I feel like TikTok has taken over my life in some ways but I always have had trouble deleting it because I didn't want to miss out or not get sent TikToks from my friends. thank you for posting this!
that’s fair ! i felt the same way, i talked to my friends and asked them to just send me the link to any reels/tiktoks they wanted to send me because you can open it in safari/chrome, it took me a while to get to this point but it’s so worth it imo
yes that's a great solution! you've really inspired me to try deleting my account :)@@lostinthewoodswithtay
I've been in the same situation. I loved rewatching my liked videos so I felt like i would regret deleting tiktok if I can't watch them again. It's been 3 months since deleting it and I don't even remember what my liked videos vere about. Totally worth it
I'm so glad RUclips showed this to me. Very inspiring. Thank you!
i’m so glad you found it inspiring ! 🩵
also! the reference to Harmony😭 ugh i miss her youtube sooo so much but i was so happy for her when she made that choice and remember thinking “wow, wish I could do that” but like…I can lol
omg i remember harmony nice i miss her so much!! i hope she is peaceful and happy
I'm 31 and I relate to a lot of this, although I'm grateful I was at least a little older when social media became ubiquitous. (I had Facebook and access to my own laptop starting in middle school, but I didn't have a smartphone until college.) But I was absolutely addicted to social media for most of my teens and young adulthood. It helped me escape, but it also delayed me in figuring out who I am and taking control of my life. The less time I spend on my phone, the more grounded I feel in myself.
thank you for sharing your story ! i’m glad you feel better without it
This was incredibly timely for me. Thank you. 💚
This is debatably just straight up nitpickery but RUclips is social media. Also please continue to make the exception for social media that isn't social networks. Of course you know some of them are and aren't culture creators depending on how they are used some people use RUclips to network and some use IG to document their artistic or athletic journey. But back to the point yeah social networking I don't miss it I resent how Facebookish LinkedIn has made professional networking we don't need more ambiguity between the social and professional realms is worklife not already unpleasant enough? Really it is the way to go I never meet someone else who has retired from social media and regretted it. I tried disconnecting I liked it so much it became permanent I mean except sweet sweet precious RUclips how could I stay away.
Happy for you!
Thank you!
I’ve never heard anyone talk about the cycle of constant rebranding and aesthetic changing on social media. It stresses me out so much and then I feel stupid 🫠
I tutor 2nd graders and they talk about watching TikTok! I couldn’t believe it
right !! it’s such a viscous and toxic cycle and it literally feels like a war inside me anytime it happens