I remember when I came out as bi to my mom, I was so scared. My so called best female friend was in fact my gf and had been for years. All she said was "Yes. So? I already know. I've always known". It was in that moment I knew the TRUE love of a parent.
Just because you don’t support doesn’t mean that you are a homophobic because homophobic means that you hate the lgbtq community but if you don’t support and you still love the people doesn’t make you a homophobic
I feel like one of the most underrated things about Lydia is that even when she thought she wasn't okay with it, she *never* let Elena know that. The only thing she ever showed Elena was love and support, because Elena feeling safe and happy came first. So many parents and family members could learn from that.
Yeah I also agree that parents and family members can learn from this because most family's try to scare you straight right? and I don't think it's fair to do that because they are not going to change if you force it on them-
I love that a woman who was raised into homophobia went into “I’m not okay with it.” to “She’s my granddaughter and I love her no matter what”... “So tell me, when is the parade” I actually love her so much 🏳️🌈🇨🇺
The fact that Lydia knew that the whatever issues she had with the gay community were her issues alone and not to be bashed and thrown onto an innocent child needs to be recognized and learned from.
@Rose Chesson Not seeing homosexuals as equals, and not supporting their equal rights...means you are homophobic. If you are not homophobic, you would see homosexuals as your fellow human.
@Rose Chesson homophobia isn't just "I hate gay people". It's seeing them as not equal and not letting them have equal rights like marriage or telling us we are sinners even if we aren't religious
@@rayijamona497 and even the catholic ones had no problem saying the pope is not a real catholic when he said same sex couples should be allowed to engage in civil union xD
@@rayijamona497 ppl who try to use Christianity as a reason to hate and/or degrade others are not Christians. They’re just ppl twisting a belief system in order to try to justify the messed up views they already have.
My immigrant Grandmother knew before my Mother. Even when my Mom used to talk about when I would get married someday, my Grandmother would tell her to leave me alone and let me live my life. She knew.
I would tell my grandmother first too. She was a firm Catholic for most of her life, and she raised her kids that way but as she got older she became so much more open-minded and she's probably one of the family members I admire most. At that age she just has a wisdom and maturity that our mothers' generation doesn't really have yet despite being raised in more liberal times, and I respect that so much.
Lmao grandma kept spoiling me with "boy stuff" (boy's underwear, clothes, toys, etc.) when I was growing up and my mom didn't like it. I was like 4 then. Grandma knew before I even did.
What I absolutely love about Lydia, it's not just the fact that she worked out her homophobia in 10 seconds, it's the fact that she managed to compliment herself at the same time.
@@kiaminaya5731 I mean, the "God made us in His image and He doesn't make mistakes" should still work. And like, the no judging thing is still applicable, but idk
@@annabethchase3612 Yeah but the "who am I to go against the Pope" can only work on a catholic. Also, Im not sure the "made in Gods image" is applicable to any non-abrahamic religion. Just pointing out.
I always thought it was kind of wasted opportunity that Elena and Josh didn't stay friends (on screen). They were great together and I totally see best friends potential!
I know I'm a few years late but that's what always bugged me about that season two episode where Elena didn't have have friends to introduce Syd to. Who were all those kids at her birthday?! Where did Josh go?
@@amandajohnson3531 I'm a few years late now but right?? I feel that they only made her friendless so Syd could stick out as like the most important person in her life which is sad bc I loved Carmen and Josh
@@carrotcrunch3414 who were all those teenagers who were willing to learn intricate dance routines?! You don't do that for people you don't know! I understand why Carmen wasn't introduced to Syd in that episode, she was an online friend at that point, but where did Josh go?! They could've gotten some good comedy with homeschool vs. private school interactions or Syd reacting to her very nerdy, activist gf being best friends with a star athlete.
@@amandajohnson3531 right? they all dressed up and danced for Elena! There's no way she wasn't semi-popular based on that! I get that but I would've like Carmen to be mentioned a little bit more! Yes!! That'd would've been so cool! I would've loved to see that episode!
My Catholic mother showed this to me and this in addition to everything else made me so happy to be in this family and Catholic too :> She’s so accepting of my own coming out and I couldn’t be happier. ❤️
Something that I appreciate about Abuelita is that she doesn't alter her religious beliefs for the sake of Elena's sexuality. She doesn't agree with it or necessarily understand it, but she still loves Elena and refuses to treat her differently. That's how things SHOULD be. Even if you don't agree or understand something, you should ALWAYS respect those who decide to live their lives differently.
my grandmother was just like Lydia. i didn't have a good experience coming out, i almost got kicked out of the house and i even tried to end my life, but my grandma hugged me and said accept me. when she passed away, it was just like Lydia so this series became my way of contacting my grandma and i couldn't be more happy that i had her
So my familys struggling to accept im gay and im tricking them into watching this show because its our family literally this how my family is my gramma, mom, brother and our sorta stepdad who sint with our mom but always at our house, and so far they think it funny and im waiting for this episode to see there reaction lol
Ah that's so clever! I really hope they come to terms with accepting you for who you are! 💞 You're very strong for going through times like this but remember that if you need any support, don't hesitate to reach out 😊
Also, even before she reflected aboutz the topic and when she was "not okey" with it she wasn't saying anything bad to Elena. First reaction was just support and love even tho she was probably shocked so she could figure out her true thoughts without hurting Elena in any way
"Love does no harm to its neighbor, therefore love is the fulfillment of the law." - Romans 13:10 Also if you're using the Bible to hurt others, you're using it wrong.
Why can’t more people be like Lydia and why can’t more religious people come to this conclusion? God made us in His image, God doesn’t make mistakes and God loves ALL His children. WHAT PART OF THAT SAYS ‘HATE’?! BE LIKE LYDIA DANG IT AND LOVE YOUR FAMILY!!!
She is the best. Even though she is religious, Abuelita made the excuse that god made us in his image and the Pope said who am I to judge, so she overcame not being okay with it and has accepted her granddaughter, which is what a grandmother should always do. She is so amazing and so precious. She is and always will be one of my favourite tv characters and grandmas
One of my friends from high school is also gay. When he told his dad, he had the same reaction "oooh when is the parade?" It's nice cause he was very scared to tell his dad, but I laughed cause all his dad cared about was going to a daggone gay pride parade.
I still re watch this scene over and over again. This is the one scene where I realized that something like that can and should happen in real life. If we are religious people, we should try to understand that being a part of the LGBTQ+ community is something that people shouldn't feel ashamed about or to feel trapped about not being able to their true self. Not sure if I got it correctly though. My point is that just because people are religious, it doesn't they have to turn their backs on people who are apart of the LGBTQ+ community. Everyone deserves to have both a religion and a way to truly love themselves as people. Edit: I seriously love this scene. It was truly chef's kiss.
Having Rita Moreno as abuelito is very apropos. She gained a huge gay following after her role as Googie Gomez in "The Ritz" (1975). She was an ally to the gay community back in the early 80s at a time when it was particularly unpopular. She has always been a sincere friend to marginalized groups.
That was how I worked it out when my cousin came out. Same process for me, but I refuse to go against God and the prophet of my church, and if both have made it abundantly clear that we are not to judge and to love that’s what I have to do. So glad I did, that’s how it ought to be
my mom is religious, and the day she found out i was with a girl, she cried because i know what's the truth of being in the lgbtq community, and she was very disappointed that i was with one. she always questions me why i was with a girl, and i said i just find them attractive and it makes me happy. she tells me about all the sex and she doesnt want to see me married with a girl, and that was never her dream. i planned to come out to her as a bisexual last week, and she said she isnt supporting me, her best friend told her that im her daughter and should have the support, especially since shes my mom. after the day she found out i was with a girl, i told her it was a prank. but this time i decided to be more honest to her. she doesnt like the fact that im bisexual but she wont support me either, but call me a faggot. i pray to god to just at least her get her there to support me.
This is pretty much what my grandma would do nowadays. Because she is(was) pretty homophobic and transphobic but then said; "Who am I to judge? It's not my business. They should be treated like everyone else. I have gay friends and family and I have transgender friends and family. I will not leave them just because they're gay." I am openly a Agender (planning to transition) Demiromantic Panromantic Greysexual Bisexual, so to know that she'd still see me as her grandchild even after I identify as this is amazing.
Expectations Mami: She's my granddaughter and I'll always love her Reality Anti-LGBT: Homosexuality is a sin Me: Haven't you heard of Jesus died died for our sins
My moms homophobic too, she doesn’t understand why the same sex should be together bc of religion but my uncle, her brother is gay and I asked her if she accepts him she said “he’s my brother I have to accept him, I don’t support it but I love my brother”
She basically made any excuse to accept her instead of using any excuse not too, which is what a grandmother should do
I remember when I came out as bi to my mom, I was so scared. My so called best female friend was in fact my gf and had been for years. All she said was "Yes. So? I already know. I've always known". It was in that moment I knew the TRUE love of a parent.
which is what everybody should do
That right there…what you just said…it’s beautiful ❤️ wish had been like this when i came out
@@kaitlynleehagar1148 awwww that's so cute.
The fact that she over came homophobia in 10 seconds is what makes her one of my favorite characters
Agreed! She didn’t want to go against god and she didn’t what to go against her own granddaughter. She made a very good reason to support elena
She’s amazing
@Jack Weinheimer it's not a lifestyle but ok....😐
Just because you don’t support doesn’t mean that you are a homophobic because homophobic means that you hate the lgbtq community but if you don’t support and you still love the people doesn’t make you a homophobic
@Jack Weinheimer it’s not a choice or life style. maybe you should edit ur reply
I feel like one of the most underrated things about Lydia is that even when she thought she wasn't okay with it, she *never* let Elena know that. The only thing she ever showed Elena was love and support, because Elena feeling safe and happy came first.
So many parents and family members could learn from that.
So true.
I think Elena is also very sensitive so I like that Pen and Lydia took that into consideration.
Aelia's Manga and Book Reviews aside from being sensitive, anyone would be upset if their family didn’t accept them whether they’re sensitive or not
I love Lydia so much
Yeah I also agree that parents and family members can learn from this because most family's try to scare you straight right? and I don't think it's fair to do that because they are not going to change if you force it on them-
I love that a woman who was raised into homophobia went into “I’m not okay with it.” to “She’s my granddaughter and I love her no matter what”... “So tell me, when is the parade” I actually love her so much 🏳️🌈🇨🇺
In literally 30 seconds it’s the best
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"So when is the parade?" HAHAHAHA abuelita ❤
"I told you!" 😂😂 lol she knew she was gay before she even daid anything!!
Abuelita is amazing.. glad she’s not homo fallopian 🤣
Mercy Afolabi better than homophobic!
That should be the new name for the homophobes
At first I thought she was trying to say narrow-minded Homosapien and I felt so stupid when the mom cleared it up
The fact that Lydia knew that the whatever issues she had with the gay community were her issues alone and not to be bashed and thrown onto an innocent child needs to be recognized and learned from.
Did... did she just talk herself out of homophobia?
That’s what I like about her, she didn’t support elena at first but she gave Herself a reason to
Self-reflection is a blessing. Say it out loud, in front of a mirror, then decide how to treat your fellow (wo)man.
@Rose Chesson Not seeing homosexuals as equals, and not supporting their equal rights...means you are homophobic. If you are not homophobic, you would see homosexuals as your fellow human.
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@Rose Chesson homophobia isn't just "I hate gay people". It's seeing them as not equal and not letting them have equal rights like marriage or telling us we are sinners even if we aren't religious
Elena and Josh would have made a perfect couple, too bad he's vegan :(
I FUCKING WHEEZED
HAHAHAHAHA
LMAO I FUCKIN SPAT MY TEA
I thought he was American
I actually really wanted him to be like her best friend in the show (lowkey wishing he was bi); but he just disappears.
She worked that out in ten seconds. My mother could never
Same 😭😭😭
If only all homophobes worked it out like that
Not all homophobes are catholic. And see the pope as the closest thing to god. So unfortunately
@@rayijamona497 and even the catholic ones had no problem saying the pope is not a real catholic when he said same sex couples should be allowed to engage in civil union xD
@@ransherman1611 yeah like wtf. I like christianity but i don’t like christians
@@rayijamona497 Don't generalize. My parents are both Christian and neither is homophobic. Not every Christian is the same.
@@rayijamona497 ppl who try to use Christianity as a reason to hate and/or degrade others are not Christians. They’re just ppl twisting a belief system in order to try to justify the messed up views they already have.
Lydia is honestly an icon I love her
My immigrant Grandmother knew before my Mother. Even when my Mom used to talk about when I would get married someday, my Grandmother would tell her to leave me alone and let me live my life. She knew.
I would tell my grandmother first too. She was a firm Catholic for most of her life, and she raised her kids that way but as she got older she became so much more open-minded and she's probably one of the family members I admire most. At that age she just has a wisdom and maturity that our mothers' generation doesn't really have yet despite being raised in more liberal times, and I respect that so much.
hutch awww
@@Amber-oc9ih Once you get old you probably accept the fact the world changes and you have to accept it. That's my belief
Lmao grandma kept spoiling me with "boy stuff" (boy's underwear, clothes, toys, etc.) when I was growing up and my mom didn't like it. I was like 4 then. Grandma knew before I even did.
Sorry to disappoint but u can still get married...lol. Abuelas are the best. Lydia reminds me of mine. RIP.
The moment she used the religion argument she immediately proves the religion argument is bullshit and is now cool with it. God I love this show
What I absolutely love about Lydia, it's not just the fact that she worked out her homophobia in 10 seconds, it's the fact that she managed to compliment herself at the same time.
“So, what? Am I going to go against the pope and god? WHO THE HELL DO I THINK I AM?!” Well that as good away to work it out as any
Show this to everyone who is homophobic on the basis of religion
It only works with catholics but gg.
@@kiaminaya5731 I mean, the "God made us in His image and He doesn't make mistakes" should still work. And like, the no judging thing is still applicable, but idk
@@annabethchase3612 Yeah but the "who am I to go against the Pope" can only work on a catholic. Also, Im not sure the "made in Gods image" is applicable to any non-abrahamic religion. Just pointing out.
"Love does no harm to its neighbor, therefore love is the fulfillment of the law." - Romans 13:10
Also if you're using a Bible to hurt others, you're using it wrong
I always thought it was kind of wasted opportunity that Elena and Josh didn't stay friends (on screen). They were great together and I totally see best friends potential!
Right? Because Carmen moved away and he was a vegan.
I know I'm a few years late but that's what always bugged me about that season two episode where Elena didn't have have friends to introduce Syd to. Who were all those kids at her birthday?! Where did Josh go?
@@amandajohnson3531 I'm a few years late now but right?? I feel that they only made her friendless so Syd could stick out as like the most important person in her life which is sad bc I loved Carmen and Josh
@@carrotcrunch3414 who were all those teenagers who were willing to learn intricate dance routines?! You don't do that for people you don't know! I understand why Carmen wasn't introduced to Syd in that episode, she was an online friend at that point, but where did Josh go?! They could've gotten some good comedy with homeschool vs. private school interactions or Syd reacting to her very nerdy, activist gf being best friends with a star athlete.
@@amandajohnson3531 right? they all dressed up and danced for Elena! There's no way she wasn't semi-popular based on that! I get that but I would've like Carmen to be mentioned a little bit more! Yes!! That'd would've been so cool! I would've loved to see that episode!
oh my god! hahahahha
you just worked that out in 10 seconds hahahahha
she talked herself out of homophobia in less then 60 seconds 😭😭😭😭
And when she says, “So tell me. When is the parade?” I just loved it 🥰
My Catholic mother showed this to me and this in addition to everything else made me so happy to be in this family and Catholic too :> She’s so accepting of my own coming out and I couldn’t be happier. ❤️
One of the best scenes in any tv shows ever
i love how she just talked herself out of it and was like "aight i'm good now"
Abuelita is the best
Something that I appreciate about Abuelita is that she doesn't alter her religious beliefs for the sake of Elena's sexuality. She doesn't agree with it or necessarily understand it, but she still loves Elena and refuses to treat her differently. That's how things SHOULD be. Even if you don't agree or understand something, you should ALWAYS respect those who decide to live their lives differently.
She even gives elena advice to find her a girlfriend
So when is the parade?
ABUELITA THE ONE AND ONLY❤
I loved this scene so much
my grandmother was just like Lydia. i didn't have a good experience coming out, i almost got kicked out of the house and i even tried to end my life, but my grandma hugged me and said accept me. when she passed away, it was just like Lydia so this series became my way of contacting my grandma and i couldn't be more happy that i had her
Haven’t watched this clip in a long time and I forgot how much I loved it. She just works it out in ten seconds I love her
So my familys struggling to accept im gay and im tricking them into watching this show because its our family literally this how my family is my gramma, mom, brother and our sorta stepdad who sint with our mom but always at our house, and so far they think it funny and im waiting for this episode to see there reaction lol
Ah that's so clever! I really hope they come to terms with accepting you for who you are! 💞 You're very strong for going through times like this but remember that if you need any support, don't hesitate to reach out 😊
@@daniellearredondo4067 ive been out for like 8 years to evryone else theyll get over it there just old lol
What happened ?
What happenedddd
What happened to see if I'll do that to my parents too...😂
"She is my granddaughter and I love her no matter what." 😢❤
"when is the parade?" I LOVE YOUUU HAHAHHHA 🤣💙
mommy axe hug 🤗
Also, even before she reflected aboutz the topic and when she was "not okey" with it she wasn't saying anything bad to Elena.
First reaction was just support and love even tho she was probably shocked so she could figure out her true thoughts without hurting Elena in any way
I was so happy watching this scene again. Then I started crying because I remembered the show's cancelled!
"Love does no harm to its neighbor, therefore love is the fulfillment of the law." - Romans 13:10
Also if you're using the Bible to hurt others, you're using it wrong.
Why can’t more people be like Lydia and why can’t more religious people come to this conclusion? God made us in His image, God doesn’t make mistakes and God loves ALL His children. WHAT PART OF THAT SAYS ‘HATE’?! BE LIKE LYDIA DANG IT AND LOVE YOUR FAMILY!!!
I love abuelita!!!!
She is the best. Even though she is religious, Abuelita made the excuse that god made us in his image and the Pope said who am I to judge, so she overcame not being okay with it and has accepted her granddaughter, which is what a grandmother should always do. She is so amazing and so precious. She is and always will be one of my favourite tv characters and grandmas
I love the grandma
OK if my grandparents could do I would go over there willingly
One of the saddest things about odaat getting cancelled is that we never saw Lydia at a pride parade
One of my friends from high school is also gay. When he told his dad, he had the same reaction "oooh when is the parade?" It's nice cause he was very scared to tell his dad, but I laughed cause all his dad cared about was going to a daggone gay pride parade.
when i saw this scene the first time i was like "what just happened?" she went from reacting like i assumed she would and did a 180 in 10 seconds
one of the greates characters of all time. 😌
I still re watch this scene over and over again. This is the one scene where I realized that something like that can and should happen in real life. If we are religious people, we should try to understand that being a part of the LGBTQ+ community is something that people shouldn't feel ashamed about or to feel trapped about not being able to their true self. Not sure if I got it correctly though. My point is that just because people are religious, it doesn't they have to turn their backs on people who are apart of the LGBTQ+ community. Everyone deserves to have both a religion and a way to truly love themselves as people.
Edit: I seriously love this scene. It was truly chef's kiss.
This is the single piece of greatest comedy ever
i come back to watch this every time i need to see something good
I wish more people were accepting like this
Lydia has so much common with korean grandmothers (which I hated so much) but I'm glad she's better
The way she talked herself out of being homophobic so fucking quickly-
I love her-
Having Rita Moreno as abuelito is very apropos. She gained a huge gay following after her role as Googie Gomez in "The Ritz" (1975). She was an ally to the gay community back in the early 80s at a time when it was particularly unpopular. She has always been a sincere friend to marginalized groups.
La abuelita que todos queremos tener.. me encanto usar la escusa que todos los homofobicos usan para aceptar en 10sec a su nieta... me encantooo
That was a pretty acrobatic form of acceptance and I love it.
LYDIA IS AMAZING I LOVE THAT WOMAN SO MUCH
This is the mental gymnastics I can approve of😂
This scene sealed the deal for me when it came to the show. And has to be one of Lydia's best moments
SHOW THIS CLIP TO THE HOMOPHOBES, ITS THAT SIMPLE PPL
I LOVE RITA MORENO
Love the “ha there is the judgement”
Best grandma ever.
That was how I worked it out when my cousin came out. Same process for me, but I refuse to go against God and the prophet of my church, and if both have made it abundantly clear that we are not to judge and to love that’s what I have to do. So glad I did, that’s how it ought to be
i still have no idea why netflix has cancelled this show..
It was picked up by PopTV! The first 7 episodes of the 4th season came out earlier this year
miranda f yeah i know!!😁 but still🙁
@@nilamarino6203 yeah, it's not the same with the shorter episodes and everything 😕
If I could show this to everyone in the world, I would.
i love her and this so muchhhh
my mom is religious, and the day she found out i was with a girl, she cried because i know what's the truth of being in the lgbtq community, and she was very disappointed that i was with one. she always questions me why i was with a girl, and i said i just find them attractive and it makes me happy. she tells me about all the sex and she doesnt want to see me married with a girl, and that was never her dream. i planned to come out to her as a bisexual last week, and she said she isnt supporting me, her best friend told her that im her daughter and should have the support, especially since shes my mom. after the day she found out i was with a girl, i told her it was a prank. but this time i decided to be more honest to her. she doesnt like the fact that im bisexual but she wont support me either, but call me a faggot. i pray to god to just at least her get her there to support me.
Penelope's face is so priceless wth
Love this show
this was my favorite scene from one day at a time
This is probably the most important scene of the series
Elena is simply the best!!!
i love her so much
Lydia is awesome. this show is so underrated man.
This is pretty much what my grandma would do nowadays.
Because she is(was) pretty homophobic and transphobic but then said; "Who am I to judge? It's not my business. They should be treated like everyone else. I have gay friends and family and I have transgender friends and family. I will not leave them just because they're gay."
I am openly a Agender (planning to transition) Demiromantic Panromantic Greysexual Bisexual, so to know that she'd still see me as her grandchild even after I identify as this is amazing.
My Grandma who is in her late 80s said "lgbtqlmnop or whatever. Just be yourself."
So awesome!!!!!!!!!
Lydia is the golden abuelita ❤
I Love lidia, is one of the best characters
This makes me happy
Expectations
Mami: She's my granddaughter and I'll always love her
Reality
Anti-LGBT: Homosexuality is a sin
Me: Haven't you heard of Jesus died died for our sins
If only all homophobic people could overcome their homophobia in 10 seconds. Lydia is AMAZING!
Everyane wants to go parade😂😂😂😂
I'm mad that this is not in netflix anymore 😡 this used to be my favorite show
Guys where do I find a video of Elena yelling in Spanish and Lydia says “So she does know spanish” or something like that
Hahaha I just love this show
My moms homophobic too, she doesn’t understand why the same sex should be together bc of religion but my uncle, her brother is gay and I asked her if she accepts him she said “he’s my brother I have to accept him, I don’t support it but I love my brother”
I want my grandmother be like abuelita 😂😂
not me crying
I mean Lydia is such a vibe. 😂
This is so fun
Everybody's saying it took her 10 seconds accept it they're wrong it was actually 46 seconds
They didn't ending make a season 4
Lydia is everything I strive to be
What episode is this
Funny 😄
lydia is the best character ever
When is the parade
Oh my god that thing is hilarious
Omg where can I watch this show ? What’s the title ? it’s so funny. Ahaha
It's a Netflix original show, called One Day At A Time :)