Timestamps! 0:39 1. I just started to trust and open up to my therapist, and I recently shared my deepest traumas. I am still not able to speak about them, but I’ve finally “told” someone... 9:02 2. Why am I still angry and resentful at the world after being bullied? I'm 21 now and was severely bullied between 11 and 18 and still struggle with anger/trust issues with everybody I... 14:40 3. From childhood on, I've been playing fake scenarios in my head before I fall asleep. I can't remember at which age I started this and I'm curious where this behavior could... 24:17 4. I’ve been working with my therapist for a few years now (on and off since covid) and I’ve got a topic I need to talk about and work through but I just can’t say what I’m feeling or thinking about... 34:04 5. I hope you’re doing well. Is there a name for when someone experiences symptoms of depression for 10-14 days? Occasionally, I will feel unmotivated, exhausted, withdrawn and struggle to enjoy my... 38:00 6. Could you possibly talk about the symptom overlap between C-ptsd and ASD? As someone with both diagnoses I wish I could understand the roots of my struggles. Are my... 44:07 7. Happy thursday! How do I deal with feeling like I have to start over again and again due to my mental illness? I'm 26 now and still working on getting my bachelors degree. I had to... 48:42 8. How can I cope with my therapist being neutral? You know how you sometimes say “I want to punch them [abusers] in the face”? I really wish my therapist was... 54:25 9. How important would you say that a feeling of hope is in therapy? What role does it play for recovery and for the therapeutic process in general and in my case in particular? I've been in therapy for C-PTSD since...
I've been in the back of an ambulance several times. It is traumatizing. However, I like to deal with things through humor, so, anytime I see an ambulance wailing down the road, and especially if I'm with someone, I'll yell, "oh look! My ride's here!" My mom doesn't laugh, but I do.
I too was once brought by an ambulance to the hospital because my psychotherapist was afraid I did something to myself. And yes I can understand you! For one year or longer I couldn't see an ambulance without the thought "They are coming for me.". Even now I am not the same I was before.
@@LisaEti I also wanted to say that I am terribly sorry you are traumatized like that and I hope something is done to help emergency care workers become more trauma-informed to help reduce how traumatic the experience is for those of us going through it.
To those who can’t talk about trauma, try drawing. My therapist is trained(certified) in art therapy and I learned so much about myself from drawings. I just sat and drew from my memories and while initially, I had no feelings or emotions associated with what I drew, eventually I slowly began to feel the feelings. I shared my drawings with my therapist and she helped me process what I remembered with the help of these drawings. Knowledge is power and understanding ourselves in relation to our past, is vital for recovery, in my opinion/ experience.
Hey Kati! Thank you for these podcasts. You always make videos that end up answering questions I've been pondering. One recommendation - you could add timestamps for questions in the description itself. I'm grateful to those who add them in the comments but please consider having it in the description in case someone doesn't add it to comments 🙈
Thank you so much for this video. I am now working with a new therapist but I had just opened up about a major trauma for the first time with my previous therapist and completely dis-regulated and dissociated, and fell into an anxious depression, very unstable. I was asking for extra time and was told no. I thought that I was just needy and for the first time since a few month, I feel validated by you explaining that sometimes after someone opens up about a trauma, they need to talk more about it... man... I feel terrible that I blamed myself for being a needy baby about it... thank you again for this video. This helps me at least to know that I was not at fault for it.
I’ve eye care bract issues that can vary in degree from how Kati mentioned but also varies to being highly noticed by me and can be painful to maintain… it’s a spectrum and quite a bit of variance. It’s like sensory issues no they’re not required but they are frequently there.
@@kaelendra Of course. As many things in the diagnostic criteria are. Almost all online sources I see list lack of eye contact as a guaranteed or nearly guaranteed symptom, so I wanted to share my experience. So yeah, we're both correct. Edit to say that I agree with the sensory issue statement. Can be overstimulated or understimulated or both or neither. I went for years not realizing I had any sensory sensitivities because being overstimulated was so normal for me.
On question 8, I really thought that this stand off approach to therapy doesn't still exist and is now just a cliche from 70's TV when there were few if any therapists around, and the psychiatrist never gives feedback, just writes in a notebook and asks what do you think? And not blaming the abuser could just lead to more self blame. Not putting blame where it belongs feels akin to accepting a fake apology of sorry IF I hurt you!
I suffer from cptsd I had therapy and had the hopeless feelings sometimes still do then I got to a point where I know I'm going to have bad days and now I try and just get on with being me because I'm doing my life my way for me getting a job keeping busy
Thank you for creating this supporting community. It’s been years since I started watching your videos and you probably know that, but the growth this channel allows and the guidance is beyond words. Thank you
Timestamps!
0:39 1. I just started to trust and open up to my therapist, and I recently shared my deepest traumas. I am still not able to speak about them, but I’ve finally “told” someone...
9:02 2. Why am I still angry and resentful at the world after being bullied? I'm 21 now and was severely bullied between 11 and 18 and still struggle with anger/trust issues with everybody I...
14:40 3. From childhood on, I've been playing fake scenarios in my head before I fall asleep. I can't remember at which age I started this and I'm curious where this behavior could...
24:17 4. I’ve been working with my therapist for a few years now (on and off since covid) and I’ve got a topic I need to talk about and work through but I just can’t say what I’m feeling or thinking about...
34:04 5. I hope you’re doing well. Is there a name for when someone experiences symptoms of depression for 10-14 days? Occasionally, I will feel unmotivated, exhausted, withdrawn and struggle to enjoy my...
38:00 6. Could you possibly talk about the symptom overlap between C-ptsd and ASD? As someone with both diagnoses I wish I could understand the roots of my struggles. Are my...
44:07 7. Happy thursday! How do I deal with feeling like I have to start over again and again due to my mental illness? I'm 26 now and still working on getting my bachelors degree. I had to...
48:42 8. How can I cope with my therapist being neutral? You know how you sometimes say “I want to punch them [abusers] in the face”? I really wish my therapist was...
54:25 9. How important would you say that a feeling of hope is in therapy? What role does it play for recovery and for the therapeutic process in general and in my case in particular? I've been in therapy for C-PTSD since...
Thank you!! 🤗🤗
@@askkatianything you’re welcome!
I've been in the back of an ambulance several times. It is traumatizing. However, I like to deal with things through humor, so, anytime I see an ambulance wailing down the road, and especially if I'm with someone, I'll yell, "oh look! My ride's here!" My mom doesn't laugh, but I do.
I too was once brought by an ambulance to the hospital because my psychotherapist was afraid I did something to myself. And yes I can understand you! For one year or longer I couldn't see an ambulance without the thought "They are coming for me.". Even now I am not the same I was before.
@@LisaEti I also wanted to say that I am terribly sorry you are traumatized like that and I hope something is done to help emergency care workers become more trauma-informed to help reduce how traumatic the experience is for those of us going through it.
@@brittanywilcox7377 thank you. I wish you the same.
I can relate to this entire comment 1,000%
To those who can’t talk about trauma, try drawing. My therapist is trained(certified) in art therapy and I learned so much about myself from drawings. I just sat and drew from my memories and while initially, I had no feelings or emotions associated with what I drew, eventually I slowly began to feel the feelings. I shared my drawings with my therapist and she helped me process what I remembered with the help of these drawings. Knowledge is power and understanding ourselves in relation to our past, is vital for recovery, in my opinion/ experience.
Hey Kati! Thank you for these podcasts. You always make videos that end up answering questions I've been pondering.
One recommendation - you could add timestamps for questions in the description itself.
I'm grateful to those who add them in the comments but please consider having it in the description in case someone doesn't add it to comments 🙈
Thank you so much for this video. I am now working with a new therapist but I had just opened up about a major trauma for the first time with my previous therapist and completely dis-regulated and dissociated, and fell into an anxious depression, very unstable. I was asking for extra time and was told no. I thought that I was just needy and for the first time since a few month, I feel validated by you explaining that sometimes after someone opens up about a trauma, they need to talk more about it... man... I feel terrible that I blamed myself for being a needy baby about it... thank you again for this video. This helps me at least to know that I was not at fault for it.
Thank you for answering my question, Kati. You said something that was especially comforting for me to hear.
Glad it was helpful!
Just FYI, I have ASD but never had eye contact issues as part of the diagnosis. It's common but not a requirement. :)
I’ve eye care bract issues that can vary in degree from how Kati mentioned but also varies to being highly noticed by me and can be painful to maintain… it’s a spectrum and quite a bit of variance.
It’s like sensory issues no they’re not required but they are frequently there.
@@kaelendra Of course. As many things in the diagnostic criteria are. Almost all online sources I see list lack of eye contact as a guaranteed or nearly guaranteed symptom, so I wanted to share my experience. So yeah, we're both correct.
Edit to say that I agree with the sensory issue statement. Can be overstimulated or understimulated or both or neither. I went for years not realizing I had any sensory sensitivities because being overstimulated was so normal for me.
Yup and I’d just wanted to point out diff people could have diff types es of reactions too. 🥰
@@kaelendra absolutely. One of the frustrating things about it is when people assume that something is stereotypical so everyone must have it.
@@mason74551 same. There’s a lot of the stereotypes I don’t match.
Hi Kati, thank you so much for answering my question about the bullying. It really made me feel validated. Very much grateful 😊
On question 8, I really thought that this stand off approach to therapy doesn't still exist and is now just a cliche from 70's TV when there were few if any therapists around, and the psychiatrist never gives feedback, just writes in a notebook and asks what do you think?
And not blaming the abuser could just lead to more self blame. Not putting blame where it belongs feels akin to accepting a fake apology of sorry IF I hurt you!
Intrusive harm thoughts can also be prevalent with OCD and Major Depressive Disorder and sometimes with GAD.
these questions came at a great time for me thank u
I'm so glad!
i love your podcast!!
I suffer from cptsd I had therapy and had the hopeless feelings sometimes still do then I got to a point where I know I'm going to have bad days and now I try and just get on with being me because I'm doing my life my way for me getting a job keeping busy
Thank you for your answer on my question. Some thoughts I haven't thought of before.
Happy to help!
I wish more therapists knew their limitations. I have had so many really bad experiences with therapists.
Thank you for creating this supporting community. It’s been years since I started watching your videos and you probably know that, but the growth this channel allows and the guidance is beyond words. Thank you
You are so welcome
Always so good Kati
You're so sweet and understanding lol
i had 6 sessions with my therapist and nothing changes im diagnozed with disassoiated and amenisia
Do a video on gangstalking
Wait?. But you don't have any of those specialties and seem to treat ptsd and wrote a book about it?.
People need time off and more money, not good listeners.