I tried getting in a relationship and buddy let me tell you I wish I never did. Biggest waste and let down I've had in a while. I was wreckless afterwards.
@RICHY8791 I was guarding my heart for a while and she was guarding her heart after she came over for the first time but I seen an opportunity but she was guarding her heart more so I pissed her off on purpose then she didn't want me no more but I tried to commit while she was It was just messed up. Also it was wrong girl wrong time.
Raised by single mother while father was absent. Took me 20 plus years to fix myself. Wasn’t mom’s fault but it jacked me. Had to learn to masculinity through adversity and success. Long hard journey - well worth it.
The older I get the more I can care less what others think of me, emotional or not. Just be who you are and if the girl hates it then she just isn't for you. Be tough boys, no matter what don't let any woman push you over. Be who you are but don't take any bs from anyone.
Well said bro. We men just have to be strong, whether we're emotional or not. Women wont punish emotional men who are also strong. They only punish weak overall men. They cant handle a strong confident assertive man.
Didn’t even need to see the video…just this comment bc it’s so true. Changing for anyone, even if you are trying to be “less emotional” than you naturally are, just means you let society walk all over you. I always wear my heart on my sleeve but I have way too much self-respect to let anyone push me around.
She doesn’t care in the moment, but eventually regrets losing a guy that truly loved her, by then it’s too late for her, and a real man never goes back to that
@@TheJoysOfUnemployment cause if she doesn't want you, she won't want you. And if you can't accept it and see the value in yourself without her, you are weak, and you start coping and you will your life build on copes... These games nowadays are totally stupid. 😂
@@sophie8466 what the O.P. was saying is that she will regret leaving the guy when she hopefully comes to her senses, and realizes he was the real one she should have kept. Especially she sees his life progress, and hers remains stagnant in the abyss of her atrocious and dumbass choice. That is what he is saying.
I am not acting that I am good when I am not in front of a woman. My mother destroyed my psyche but I still train, play music professionaly, looking forward to life. Find someone who will understand you, or be single like me. We are gonna make it brahs, love. Xx
Same here, my parents fought all the time and my mother punished me and my brother. We were made to run errands and do everything for her. While my dad was the Alpha who messed up her brains. So, we were the beta kids. It really affected my relationship in college and later in life when I wanted emotional connection with my partners. But, then I accepted their behaviour as normal and kept getting pushed. Now after years of healing , self care and meditation. I realised that my parents abused us. My brother got mentally sic k after his breakup and I had to put him in a rehab for months. It's hard to get over the past, but I found this beautiful lady who loves my company and always takes me in her arms when she see me struggle with my past. Even she was dumped by her ex, but we are both healing together. With her I find my joy, love and happiness. Pretty si ck world out there if you alone
Be single it is. I’ve experienced this enough times to learn. Showing vulnerability of any sort just kills their attraction for you. Doesn’t matter how long you been together or how into you she was previously. Just instantly dies. Act like the emotional rock who nothings bothers you, she will test this constantly, but also be screwing your brains out and crazy about you the whole time. No going back for me. Learned my lesson.
Definitely is a big turn off. I feel so bad for most people today. Society has made women act like men and men like women. Its sad because most people are affected.
Yeah I just don’t participate explaining and trying acquiesce to such behavior is ridiculous they are narcissists if they do that to you how can they raise a healthy family
What coldness are you talking about exactly? If all women are cold as ice around you then I’m sorry but it’s you who are the problem. If you are in good shape physically and have a decent personality and aren’t Pessimistic - then most women will respond and be warm towards you. It’s really that simple
It depends, being a lover is also being a fighter, you gotta be assertive and fight for you love, simple as, if you "messed up" and shown her your emotions then you can always make her come back as strong as long as you do it right, yes you can not contact her for a while then you contact back and show all the love.
If she leaves wave goodbye and move on. No crying. Make something of yourself and attract another one. Amazing when the one who left sees you with another one. Smile , and know she doesn’t like it. Stay strong.
Fascinating video, Let's stop taking relationship and family for granted. I have battled depression since my wife left me. I have tried all I can to make her see that I love her with everything I am made of but she has insisted on leaving. This has made me so empty, and I do not know what to do. I can barely function properly at work. I am frustrated and miserable. I really miss her.
My wife of 19-years divorced me (luckily it was not until our kid turned 18 and I never had to pay child support). It sucked, but luckily I have a job where there a lot of hot woman are customers. I am a pretty decent looking guy that gets a decent amount of attention from these women. When I look at a hot women I forget about my X wife completely for those moments.
My dad passed when i was 6. My mom raised me. What you said about how i express love is so true. Having a father in the home is so important to your future relationships. Now i know what women see in me. Im 37 and single btw
Being emotional is normal. But not letting them control you is whats important. Especially in this day and age. Society has put women on pedestals and made supressing emotions for men, normal. Which is really unhealthy.
Omg I laughed out loud at 11:51. Good one brother. Thank you for the wise wisdom. I’ve been binge watching your videos after feeling heartbroken from so my dates going cold on me. Now I understand, cheers 🥂.
This spoke to me. I had alot of emotional outbursts towards my now separated wife due to my own insecurities. This occurred during the final 6 months of our relationship. I acted like a woman while she was the cold, stoic one. The roles were reversed. And now I understand why she left me and won’t consider reconciliation. She saw that weakness in me and it made me completely unattractive. It hurts that I had to learn the hard way. Great video.
are u saying the bloke that says he prefers his emotions to them is refusing to accept reality ?maybe maybe not i dont know him ..i woud not say its nescesserily about accepting or rejecting reality if you start to fashion out or carve out a form of masculinity ,manhood , personality or whatever ellse u wanna call it fir yourself in order to advance in society or with women instead of being who you are then in my subjective veiw you are at best pragmatic and at worst a coward ..there is a thin line between the two ... for example one could look cooly at the way men and women and infer what mode of behaviour would help one more or help one less with the opposite gender be it male or female and leave my behaviour as it is thereby in certain😮 circumstances reducing my chances of finding a viable partner or adjust it thereby raising the chances ...now we all are flawed so by all means learn new skills and if you absolutely must change yourself in whatever direction you believe facilitates living your best life, regardless of me some random cunt in the youtube comment section somewhere in the ether labelling it craven ..but lets not imply that someone who has the balls to say fuck them is a soppy whingy git who refuses to accept reality because he is to pussy to look facts in the face ...man fuckbthem i prefer my emotions to them .whatever and whoever he means by them .fuck them he says i prefer being emotionaly expresive i prefer being me instead of bowing to whatever version of me they want ...i reckon the fact dude says this shows real balls and if he is willing to pay the price more power to him ...l@@sublimeister9630
LFA!! Could not have said it better myself, sir … the scenario you described is the exact same scenario that happened to me 12 years ago … before the manosphere 💊 came to the forefront. 13 years of memories, good times, kids and my dedication … didn’t mean anything anymore. Her allegiance was to someone else now, just like that! Very painful lesson, disheartening but the most important lesson that I ever learned. Made me who I am today in 2024 … Godspeed my friend 👊🏼
You are absolutely right , it's pitiful that we have to deal with the fact that even with therapy things might not be like the ones who were raised by both parents
I've seen women complain on social media to strangers about their men expressing emotion and how their level of respect suddenly dropped after watching their men break down, for once, about something. I can be emotional, i just learned not to publicly display it, since i'm not a performer of any kind, like an actor or a singer.
Supressing emotions is very unhealthy bro. You have to be able to control your emotions. Be emotionally intelligent and strong overall. Thats the essence of a strong man that those women cant handle. Show those emotions, but dont show you dwell on them. (Stay authentic) And show your confidence and groundness. Society today has made men supress their emotions and thats freakin bad. As much as putting women on pedestals is bad. Its just as bad
@@WalkingDead520what’s the point in being with a woman u love when u can’t be 100% honest with the shit you’re dealing with bc you’re afraid she’ll leave u for some guy who happens to be more stoic than u at that time
@@PostMahomes you shouldnt be with someone you cant be authentic with. Learn to be stoic and never chase women, because they are not the prize. We men are. The problem is the system has programmed us to work the opposite way (backwards) its bad now.. And i dont know if i can say this because they delete comments, but yea anyway. Im here to help and mean no harm to anyone.
My late father was very strict and controlling. He was a good father and provider but I needed more from both. I needed more emotional support from both and my mother in later years spent most of her time in bed as a decades long chronic depressive. I don’t find myself to be a strong man and emotionally weak because I didn’t receive the level of emotional support I feel I needed. I’ve attracted codependent damaged people and most have been broken, angry abusive women that had “daddy issues” from what I now think were narcissistic fathers from broken and divorced marriages. I’m well on in years as I have been covertly manipulated and abused financially, emotionally, verbally and in one case physically but she’s passed. I see your point. Weakness invites abuse and disrespect leading me to resentment. I agree men don’t understand your points because he’s confused and reviewing what went wrong with the relationship. I think I’m a good man but not a strong one.
And yet in a society which has conditioned us to believe being vulnerable is "weak", consciously being willing to be vulnerable by choice (and not out of being controlled by your emotions) is the ultimate strength. Paradox.
This, I learned this the hard way.. also another thing is, never let another man tell you how to be, they will say "she doesn't reply to you in time, she is cucking you bro" WHO CARES? if you starting caring, that's when the "relationship" turns south.
Exactly...growing up i had no one setting constructive boundaries and rules, no one telling me to get on my ass and do homeworks or to clean my room, etc. No one telling me to be resilient and persist in adversity. My father was a timid little boy in the body of a man, a doormat to my mother. Now, at 30, i'm learning on my own how to be a man.
This just accentuates how completely incompetent I was for a relationship. As I have said elsewhere before, being 100% invisible to women has apparently been a blessing in disguise.
I’ve been with the same woman since high school and we’ve broken up a few times in 14 years but she kept coming back because I was focused on my life and not her she would come back and we’ve been together ever since and we fixed the problems we once had
As a fathers, we need to set boundaries for our sons but don't be afraid to tell them you love them. If we or they were gone tomorrow and we had never spoken those words, we will wish we had.
you are totally on the mark. great stuff at the 11 minute mark. raised by a women my downfall. my gal shifted because i was emotionally weak. a few injuries and mistake of thinking my women was in my corner
You can be upset but not looking like an emotional mess..if your dog or someone close to you pass away is an exception but in most cases you get nothing. In all honesty they may feel bad for you temporarily but eventually makes them sick of you not because they dont care but its subconscious, they are already emotional by nature and needs an "emotinally strong" man to balance it out
Well said bro. Its all about being emotionally intelligent and staying strong overall without suppressing those emotions. Stay authentic, show your emotions but also show your confidence and that nothing can control you.
Last time I cried was when I was telling my family what was the last conversation I had with my grandpa before he suddenly passed away I didn't really cry, I just let out 2 or 3 tears and a bit of nose noises; I lowkey feel very ashamed of that, am I wrong for feeling that way or was the reaction justified?
@LFA Well said. Reflecting on my last relationship, I chalked it up too different wants in life which is true. However using love as a weapon. Explains a lot. I always thought being too emotional was an issue. Just didn’t want to admit it. I’ve moved on & always learning. Your message really drives it home for me. I WAS that guy. no more.Change is inevitable. Thanks for speaking on what nobody wants to hear. I appreciate you big dog. 🤙🏽
I had a foster mom She died when i was 15 I remember her being cold, never saw her cry, she hugged me at times. Told me she loves me or misses me when i would spend time away from her. Me as an adult I am quiet Angry most the time If i try to express how someone made me feel anger comes out like a volcano so i dont do that.
amazing. damn correct. I've experienced every one of those words. But no longer, I can change and start it with myself. much appreciate it. Keep it up, buddy.☠☠
I was raised by mother and father and i only seen them fight never show love to each other and never kissed and they slept in different bedrooms. Couples staying together for the sake of kids it’s my the best thing either . I would hate to be stuck in a loveless sexless relationship like my dad has been most of his adult life
Yeah I look at the relationship between my Mother and father and I wince - they didn’t hate each other but there was no true love or warmness . They definitely didn’t set a good example and my dad completely failed in terms of telling me about life and women/relationships etc etc
I’ve made it clear to her that if she values our connection, she needs to show up with care, realness, and authenticity. I set a boundary because I realized that continuing without resolution was painful and unhealthy for me. At this point, I’ve left the door open for her to reach out, but I’m not chasing her or holding on to something that isn’t reciprocated.
Often it is a misunderstanding between the genders. When a woman says "I want you to open up - I want you to be vulnerable with me!". More often than not, she wants you to tell her how important she is to you! Remember, they generally see things from their point of view. She is not asking you to dump your insecurities about going bald, or the size of your chop, or your PTSD - on her. Having said that - there is no point dating anyone who you can't open up to. The vast majority of women will use your insecurities against you. How do you find the good ones? You test them. If they want you to be vulnerable - make up a fake insecurity that won't trigger you and then wait for her to use it in your next fight. Lets say you make up that your relationship with your family is rather strained due to x, y, z. You will be shocked how creative they are at using that against you. She might say something like..."You are so controlling! It is no wonder your family disowned you and don't want to be around you!". Then you know to get rid of her. See why it needs to be fake?
Hey, I found your comment very interesting and I just agree. I lived the opposite of being asked to open up as I was dating this girl a couple of weeks ago that only talked about superficial things. I really wanted to know how she feels, thinks , plans for the future etc in order to see if she was a "girlfriend" material but on last date I just realized she wouldn´t. I thought she was going slow as she has just divorced but nah I tested her on the last date asking direct but polite questions and being brutally honest on my opinions to what she did not respond as I expected. However, she wanted to keep going out. No thanks, I know what I want and deserve....
@@MewluMoon It's unfortunate that sometimes the wrong people teach us bad habits just before the right ones come along. This creates confusion because many say they want a partner who is open with them. Yet, when they find such a partner, they often feel repulsed or end the relationship shortly afterward. It seems this can greatly diminish attraction. Perhaps we have differing interpretations of what it means to "open up," or maybe there's some dishonesty involved. Your ex's reaction seems typical, aligning with what many experience. Often, vulnerabilities shared in a relationship are turned against us. Ideally, a mature couple would understand each other's insecurities and either help strengthen those areas or at least safeguard them. I'm disillusioned with modern dating; it often feels like a competition between two adversaries, each trying to contribute the least.
It just so happens my wife left me 3 mos ago after 32 years of being together. Just short of our 15th wedding anniversary, she moved out by saying my trauma retriggered her trauma and she cant be around me anymore. I didnt jump for joy but am happily married. A week before i was diagnosed as a severe case of CPTSD from detatchment due to suicides ive suppressed since 1972 until 2023 my brother taking his life has surfaced all my oppresed trauma from childhood. How ironic i come across this at 59. This video is probably the most important video ill ever see.
I'm sorry to hear that man, I hope you have some family you can confide in. Can't trust that to be our wives. My wife left me at the height of my depression, which then helped me reach new heights lol. Life's a lot better now, just keep forward momentum and don't rush the healing process.
My man. I am here chuckling because you just gave dudes the most freeing thing in the world. If women do not care about when they totally dismiss you, then that is the most freeing thing in the world. In most cases dudes push (including me) the issue thinking "she will understand"....nope haha! The term bros before hoes has been told to me by so many men, in different settings and contexts. My own uncles used to say do not listen to your mother or sisters, my own boss, dude coworkers ert...Dudes (except for some sneaky little dwibs...we can always spot them). They were all right. Kevin Samuels was a real G and always right.
This is so true and with so many single parent households, romanticized by the media, statistics clearly show far more problematic behavior than with traditional 2 parent homes.
If you grew up without a father, or even worse, with a mother who unjustly and selfishly tried to get you to grow up without a father, it’s going to be a very long and arduous journey to get to the point where you want/need to be in this regard. Some of us may be too far gone and never recover. I think what the “manosphere” needs right now are guys who can tell us not that this is where we are, but can guide us and tell us what we need to do to get to where we need to be. Unfortunately, there seem to be a shortage of men like this out there, probably because this is unprecedented territory for a society, and also because not many men have succeeded thus far in accomplishing that.
Yeah I have to be brutally honest - when I read the comment sections on content like this I just put my head down and shake my head. You have grown ass men that are so lost and have no confidence or social skills. I honestly don’t know what to tell a guy that is 28 years old and plays videogames all night long and has no game or social skills .. if you don’t learn the bare basics of talking to women in your teens or early 20s then i don’t know how to get guys out of that spot Oh and then you have the really bitter guys that just watch content like this and complain about women. They are just as bad And yes, no one in the mainstream is telling these guys how to behave
You are absolutely right. As a man, you use your emotions very sparingly. Women look to the man for strength. Women are always overly emotional and all over the place. The man has to be the man, the rock. If a woman wants to leave you say “ ok, bye.”
Great video as always but I believe many men are done with relationships anyways. They hookup, bust and that's it. I'm one of them. I embrace my solitude and peace and avoid any turmoil that any relationship will unavoidably bring
You don't need such as pure noble woman. Have a decent woman (25% of women are like that) and keep her in line by being an attractive masculine man to her.
If you bring integrity, like an armor to the battle, you can find any type of women: narcissists, serial daters, cheaters, liars. You will dump them in no time, cuz you have got so many hobbies and interests that you practice the real hypergamy: finding some1 who loves you.
Happened to me, learned the hard way. She's never been the same since. Understanding how I got there and the mechanism involved, I can now say it could have been different, and we could still be together. The positive thing is that it won't happen again. Great ending and great song by the way, if anyone knows the name please write it down. Stay strong!
Thanks so much for the value in this video, i had a father but he never showed me love like you did and then he and mom divorced so i was never raised properly and now i suffer because of a girl for months every day i think of her but i am getting better i think, now i only have to find other girls to be healed i think, it's hard but i am ok, thank you!
I've run into this trying to be better and better man. I like talking to people in relationships, they don't care that there man is basically themself.
@@YoungLifeEmpireso andrew tate is a woman then? The guy can't give one interview without talking at light speed and visibly and soundly in an anger mood. 😂
And you can only have strength when you’ve gotten to the place that WALKING AWAY is ok. YOU CANT FAKE IT!!! She’ll come back then once you’ve actually gotten over her. Question needs to be then: IS GETTING HER BACK REALLY WHAT YOU WANT?
I had a girl break up with me because she thought I lied to her about why I got fired from a company that she also worked at after I worked there. She was insecure enough to ask her coworkers why I got fired from there. We are still friends though. I was able to get over her breaking up with me within a couple days though.
I know it's easier said than done, but without sounding like a wise @ss dude, I can tell you from decades of experience that you should seldom reveal your emotional state to a woman, only show just enough affection to keep her guessing and wondering what she's done wrong. My favorite word works like charm every time, and it's more simple than you'd think. The magic word is: NO ! Women hate it when you set boundaries and you put them in their place, but it works. They might get pissed at you, but coming back to you every time. It's hard, daily work worth trying. Another trick is leaving for the day and not telling her where you are, while not answering your phone either. Simply not be available to her ! If she asks where you going, just tell her you are busy, will talk later. The more you are avail to her, the more she will crap on you. Don't be a SIMP ! Remember most women aren't the price, You are! Another golden pill you have to swallow early on in life is; never ever reveal your true financial state to anyone, especially not to a woman. Remember 9 out of 10, She has absolutely nothing to bring to the table, other being cute. So don't be depressed over a female, she is not worth is, and there is always a better one out there waiting for you, ready to love and provide her devotion.
We need to go back to the old ways of dating. I got played and hurt too. I fell in love. I got my heart broken. Men seem cold and want to be chased. Stay away from the girls with too much makeup and fingernails and not enough clothes. That's the female player... She's looking for the BBD (bigger better deal.)
You're right man i was raised by my mom i never knew my dad maybe he's dead i don't know and never had succes with women but it's okay iv'e been so long alone now that i begin to like it to be honest so i don't care if they see me as a weak emotional or whatever sometimes i laugh about it😂
I pay attention when dating to everything the woman says and how she reacts to any situation and questions.......pay attention to eye movements expresstion...
Ok, I'm guilty of this, way back, when I was young, dumb, and selfish. Now I understand the pain I inflicted upon a man who loved me unconditionally. And gave me the world. Unfortunately, Karma caught up with me quicker than the speed of light, which lasted over a decade of pain and suffering. I will never hurt anyone like that ever again. I'd rather be alone for the rest of my life.❤ I felt his pain.....
Just wanna put this in, that if your parents relationship is flipped and your mother is the dominant one, you can also pick up those motherly traits. Took me a lot of years to see this as people just say "oh you are just more emotional".
Just because a father is physically present in boy's life, doesn't mean anything. If he is a deadbeat, doesn't care about his son, the kid will grow up the same way he would if his father wasn't there physically.
I wont get married so i dont mind jumping through a few hoops to get some tail they all leave anyways when i dont take the ultimatum Im not controlling, i just know what i wont tolerate !!!
Fuck modern-day relationships, it's all a game. Peace, quiet, and freedom. 😴
Waiting on AI robots to replace these women
Preach plus trading
I tried getting in a relationship and buddy let me tell you I wish I never did. Biggest waste and let down I've had in a while. I was wreckless afterwards.
@@Peyton_Edwards Now you understand why it's not worth it. Take that experience with you for life and never let it happen to you again. Stay safe!
@RICHY8791 I was guarding my heart for a while and she was guarding her heart after she came over for the first time but I seen an opportunity but she was guarding her heart more so I pissed her off on purpose then she didn't want me no more but I tried to commit while she was
It was just messed up. Also it was wrong girl wrong time.
Raised by single mother while father was absent. Took me 20 plus years to fix myself. Wasn’t mom’s fault but it jacked me. Had to learn to masculinity through adversity and success. Long hard journey - well worth it.
Bruh I feel like I am learning masculinity at 28 and I had a dad
same
@@SolutionOrientedMan same here man.
same bro. i was raised by single mother. my parents divorced when i was 12. after that my father is gone
Its insane what we are taught and what we are not taught. Poor mentorship for men especially.
The older I get the more I can care less what others think of me, emotional or not. Just be who you are and if the girl hates it then she just isn't for you. Be tough boys, no matter what don't let any woman push you over. Be who you are but don't take any bs from anyone.
Well said bro. We men just have to be strong, whether we're emotional or not. Women wont punish emotional men who are also strong. They only punish weak overall men. They cant handle a strong confident assertive man.
Facts
Just get a dog and be happy. Woof !
Nice bro
Didn’t even need to see the video…just this comment bc it’s so true. Changing for anyone, even if you are trying to be “less emotional” than you naturally are, just means you let society walk all over you. I always wear my heart on my sleeve but I have way too much self-respect to let anyone push me around.
She doesn’t care in the moment, but eventually regrets losing a guy that truly loved her, by then it’s too late for her, and a real man never goes back to that
Stupid?
@@sophie8466 yes narcissistic people are stupid
@@sophie8466 why?
@@TheJoysOfUnemployment cause if she doesn't want you, she won't want you. And if you can't accept it and see the value in yourself without her, you are weak, and you start coping and you will your life build on copes... These games nowadays are totally stupid. 😂
@@sophie8466 what the O.P. was saying is that she will regret leaving the guy when she hopefully comes to her senses, and realizes he was the real one she should have kept. Especially she sees his life progress, and hers remains stagnant in the abyss of her atrocious and dumbass choice.
That is what he is saying.
I am not acting that I am good when I am not in front of a woman. My mother destroyed my psyche but I still train, play music professionaly, looking forward to life. Find someone who will understand you, or be single like me. We are gonna make it brahs, love. Xx
Good mindset to have these jezebels are evil
Same here, my parents fought all the time and my mother punished me and my brother. We were made to run errands and do everything for her. While my dad was the Alpha who messed up her brains. So, we were the beta kids.
It really affected my relationship in college and later in life when I wanted emotional connection with my partners. But, then I accepted their behaviour as normal and kept getting pushed. Now after years of healing , self care and meditation. I realised that my parents abused us. My brother got mentally sic k after his breakup and I had to put him in a rehab for months.
It's hard to get over the past, but I found this beautiful lady who loves my company and always takes me in her arms when she see me struggle with my past. Even she was dumped by her ex, but we are both healing together.
With her I find my joy, love and happiness.
Pretty si ck world out there if you alone
@@TruthTriumphs777 Keep going brother 👊
Be single it is. I’ve experienced this enough times to learn. Showing vulnerability of any sort just kills their attraction for you. Doesn’t matter how long you been together or how into you she was previously. Just instantly dies. Act like the emotional rock who nothings bothers you, she will test this constantly, but also be screwing your brains out and crazy about you the whole time. No going back for me. Learned my lesson.
@@TruthTriumphs777 -- don't get too attached to her. Love her but do not be in love with her. Otherwise she will eventually take control.
I find that the coldness a lot of women exhibit to be a big turn off
Definitely is a big turn off. I feel so bad for most people today. Society has made women act like men and men like women. Its sad because most people are affected.
Yeah I just don’t participate explaining and trying acquiesce to such behavior is ridiculous they are narcissists if they do that to you how can they raise a healthy family
#manlets
Same here. Can't stand that.
What coldness are you talking about exactly? If all women are cold as ice around you then I’m sorry but it’s you who are the problem. If you are in good shape physically and have a decent personality and aren’t
Pessimistic - then most women will respond and be warm towards you. It’s really that simple
There’s almost nothing more mercilessly mercurial and unforgiving than dating in the 21st century.
Accurate. Women are cold as ice.
Because society has made them like that, just as they have made men supress their emotions. Its all bad.
If a woman is into you then she will go out of her way to treat you well. Women are the nurturers
They only respond/react to FORCE..not love.
Women are more emotionally masculine these days and men become little girls, god help us with this leftist mess.
Buddy’s neighbour going at it with the chainsaw😂
Lmfao
That background noise had me rolling on the floor laughing 😂 🤣!
Yeah lol
Lmao. I’m driving and keep looking around like WTF is that?!! 😂
Just doing man things. All good.
I'm a very emotional man. I started crying during this and my girl caught me. She told me my tears turned her on then she gave me head. 😂
Sayeth whaaaat....???
😂
She did it for self pity, the moment she finds a more masculine men she will leave ya, it's over.
@Allah_Loves_Forgives_and_Saves Does your Mom count? 👩
@knowledgeharvester5438 People actually took this comment seriously. 🤣 I love it. I made up the whole thing. I was trolling.
He’s correct. Women never come back. No contact will not attract her back once you F up.
Would not never come back
It depends, being a lover is also being a fighter, you gotta be assertive and fight for you love, simple as, if you "messed up" and shown her your emotions then you can always make her come back as strong as long as you do it right, yes you can not contact her for a while then you contact back and show all the love.
If she leaves wave goodbye and move on. No crying. Make something of yourself and attract another one. Amazing when the one who left sees you with another one. Smile , and know she doesn’t like it. Stay strong.
If they're a gold digger and your bank account isn't empty yet they may come back 😂😅
@@kentfitzsimmons6872lol in the meantime she is with someone better not sticking around to see who have now.
This Happened to me Last yr. When i loved her the most. I was at my weakest.
Fascinating video, Let's stop taking relationship and family for granted. I have battled depression since my wife left me. I have tried all I can to make her see that I love her with everything I am made of but she has insisted on leaving. This has made me so empty, and I do not know what to do. I can barely function properly at work. I am frustrated and miserable. I really miss her.
I'm keen on meeting the counsellor you're talking about. What steps should I take?
Thank you for this information. I have just looked her up on Google. impressive.
My wife of 12 years left me, turns out she was a covert narcissist..and her leaving me turned out to be a blessing in disguise
My wife of 19-years divorced me (luckily it was not until our kid turned 18 and I never had to pay child support). It sucked, but luckily I have a job where there a lot of hot woman are customers. I am a pretty decent looking guy that gets a decent amount of attention from these women. When I look at a hot women I forget about my X wife completely for those moments.
That's your first mistake you tried too hard, dont try at all, let her leave
My dad passed when i was 6. My mom raised me. What you said about how i express love is so true. Having a father in the home is so important to your future relationships. Now i know what women see in me. Im 37 and single btw
Boy I haven't related to a more relatable topic
It's okay to be an emotional man, but do it cautiously in this day and age
Unless you are a literal psychopath, like your brain is literally different than 99% of Humans. You are emotional
Being emotional is normal. But not letting them control you is whats important. Especially in this day and age.
Society has put women on pedestals and made supressing emotions for men, normal. Which is really unhealthy.
This is tuff times for Men And as Men we gotta Guide each other.
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Omg I laughed out loud at 11:51. Good one brother. Thank you for the wise wisdom. I’ve been binge watching your videos after feeling heartbroken from so my dates going cold on me. Now I understand, cheers 🥂.
This spoke to me. I had alot of emotional outbursts towards my now separated wife due to my own insecurities. This occurred during the final 6 months of our relationship. I acted like a woman while she was the cold, stoic one. The roles were reversed. And now I understand why she left me and won’t consider reconciliation. She saw that weakness in me and it made me completely unattractive. It hurts that I had to learn the hard way. Great video.
I needed to hear this. Thank you.
Stoicism is the best form of maturity
Very true. Every man needs to learn to be stoic
This, I was happy being stoic with her and all that, the moment I show love and affection guess what? it all start going downhill..
I prefer my emotions than them
You mean when you were just “Cry Baby” in their arms and suckling on their breast. Ha-ha! 👍😂
Manhood is not only your idea of Manliness but also accepting the truth of Reality. 🙏🏼😊
Put on a dress 👗 than, plenty are.
im guessing youre not in the best shape and eat properly, either.
are u saying the bloke that says he prefers his emotions to them is refusing to accept reality ?maybe maybe not i dont know him ..i woud not say its nescesserily about accepting or rejecting reality if you start to fashion out or carve out a form of masculinity ,manhood , personality or whatever ellse u wanna call it fir yourself in order to advance in society or with women instead of being who you are then in my subjective veiw you are at best pragmatic and at worst a coward ..there is a thin line between the two ... for example one could look cooly at the way men and women and infer what mode of behaviour would help one more or help one less with the opposite gender be it male or female and leave my behaviour as it is thereby in certain😮 circumstances reducing my chances of finding a viable partner or adjust it thereby raising the chances ...now we all are flawed so by all means learn new skills and if you absolutely must change yourself in whatever direction you believe facilitates living your best life, regardless of me some random cunt in the youtube comment section somewhere in the ether labelling it craven ..but lets not imply that someone who has the balls to say fuck them is a soppy whingy git who refuses to accept reality because he is to pussy to look facts in the face ...man fuckbthem i prefer my emotions to them .whatever and whoever he means by them .fuck them he says i prefer being emotionaly expresive i prefer being me instead of bowing to whatever version of me they want ...i reckon the fact dude says this shows real balls and if he is willing to pay the price more power to him ...l@@sublimeister9630
LFA!! Could not have said it better myself, sir … the scenario you described is the exact same scenario that happened to me 12 years ago … before the manosphere 💊 came to the forefront. 13 years of memories, good times, kids and my dedication … didn’t mean anything anymore. Her allegiance was to someone else now, just like that! Very painful lesson, disheartening but the most important lesson that I ever learned. Made me who I am today in 2024 … Godspeed my friend 👊🏼
Teach me brother . I’m listening. I’m subscribed. I’m ready for change . Man up ! No more ignorance.
You are a wise man !
You are absolutely right , it's pitiful that we have to deal with the fact that even with therapy things might not be like the ones who were raised by both parents
I learned this the hard way
the only positive of learning it the hard way is you realise how true it is and you can learn more from that experience to not do it again.
@@JangoBlader Exactly
same
#metoo
Yup. We all live the same life 😂
Great video. Now all woman are not same. If I am with a man that dont display emotion I will probably leave him thinking he is a pshyco.
He didn’t say not to display emotions. He said not to show too much emotion. Which is correct ✅
@@Cyab22Im still confused. So I should never I love her once per year? Wtf are women on I dont get this
LFA cookin with high heat.
thx for the words.
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You're right, there never has been a time when women didn't pick the winners. It's just more out in the open now.
I've seen women complain on social media to strangers about their men expressing emotion and how their level of respect suddenly dropped after watching their men break down, for once, about something. I can be emotional, i just learned not to publicly display it, since i'm not a performer of any kind, like an actor or a singer.
Supressing emotions is very unhealthy bro. You have to be able to control your emotions. Be emotionally intelligent and strong overall. Thats the essence of a strong man that those women cant handle. Show those emotions, but dont show you dwell on them. (Stay authentic) And show your confidence and groundness.
Society today has made men supress their emotions and thats freakin bad. As much as putting women on pedestals is bad. Its just as bad
Lol you think you're superior for holding in emotions, this society and humanity has been pathetic since day 1
@@WalkingDead520what’s the point in being with a woman u love when u can’t be 100% honest with the shit you’re dealing with bc you’re afraid she’ll leave u for some guy who happens to be more stoic than u at that time
@@PostMahomes you shouldnt be with someone you cant be authentic with. Learn to be stoic and never chase women, because they are not the prize. We men are. The problem is the system has programmed us to work the opposite way (backwards) its bad now.. And i dont know if i can say this because they delete comments, but yea anyway. Im here to help and mean no harm to anyone.
Been through this and now I’m fine with being single made me a lot stronger will never go back down that road
Best advice ever !they should teach this in college instead of those unnecessary classes
My late father was very strict and controlling. He was a good father and provider but I needed more from both. I needed more emotional support from both and my mother in later years spent most of her time in bed as a decades long chronic depressive. I don’t find myself to be a strong man and emotionally weak because I didn’t receive the level of emotional support I feel I needed. I’ve attracted codependent damaged people and most have been broken, angry abusive women that had “daddy issues” from what I now think were narcissistic fathers from broken and divorced marriages. I’m well on in years as I have been covertly manipulated and abused financially, emotionally, verbally and in one case physically but she’s passed. I see your point. Weakness invites abuse and disrespect leading me to resentment. I agree men don’t understand your points because he’s confused and reviewing what went wrong with the relationship. I think I’m a good man but not a strong one.
Women resent and hate weakness by nature. A harsh truth it's better to accept FULLY without sugarcoating it.
And yet in a society which has conditioned us to believe being vulnerable is "weak", consciously being willing to be vulnerable by choice (and not out of being controlled by your emotions) is the ultimate strength. Paradox.
Detachment, the ultimate cocktail of deliciousness, just dont play the game and you're a free man 🍸
ok but you still need them to have sex
This, I learned this the hard way.. also another thing is, never let another man tell you how to be, they will say "she doesn't reply to you in time, she is cucking you bro" WHO CARES? if you starting caring, that's when the "relationship" turns south.
Amen.
Amen.
Amen.
I don't care how bad my day is going. When LFA posts a video, it gets better
This applies to all relationships. Be strong. No one will manipulate you. Thanks for your insights.
You have wisdom way beyond your years, my friend.
facts! SPITTIN FACTS get your note book and pen take notes ya'll!
Exactly...growing up i had no one setting constructive boundaries and rules, no one telling me to get on my ass and do homeworks or to clean my room, etc. No one telling me to be resilient and persist in adversity. My father was a timid little boy in the body of a man, a doormat to my mother.
Now, at 30, i'm learning on my own how to be a man.
This just accentuates how completely incompetent I was for a relationship.
As I have said elsewhere before, being 100% invisible to women has apparently been a blessing in disguise.
If you are truly 100% invisible to women then you need to work on yourself more.. hit the weights and develop your personality
@@brianmeen2158 I'm 57 and I'm done. I was done 40 years ago before it ever started.
@@brianmeen2158 I'm 57. It was over for me 40 years ago.
It can be.
It can be.
Thank you LFA. You’ve no idea how helpful your videos are. Keep them coming!
I’ve been with the same woman since high school and we’ve broken up a few times in 14 years but she kept coming back because I was focused on my life and not her she would come back and we’ve been together ever since and we fixed the problems we once had
Getting with a woman early on, as long as she didn't have others builds the strongest bond
Getting with a woman early on, as long as she didn't have others builds the strongest bond
As a fathers, we need to set boundaries for our sons but don't be afraid to tell them you love them. If we or they were gone tomorrow and we had never spoken those words, we will wish we had.
LFA hits another home run with this clip great reporting.
you are totally on the mark. great stuff at the 11 minute mark. raised by a women my downfall. my gal shifted because i was emotionally weak. a few injuries and mistake of thinking my women was in my corner
You can be upset but not looking like an emotional mess..if your dog or someone close to you pass away is an exception but in most cases you get nothing. In all honesty they may feel bad for you temporarily but eventually makes them sick of you not because they dont care but its subconscious, they are already emotional by nature and needs an "emotinally strong" man to balance it out
Well said bro. Its all about being emotionally intelligent and staying strong overall without suppressing those emotions. Stay authentic, show your emotions but also show your confidence and that nothing can control you.
Last time I cried was when I was telling my family what was the last conversation I had with my grandpa before he suddenly passed away
I didn't really cry, I just let out 2 or 3 tears and a bit of nose noises; I lowkey feel very ashamed of that, am I wrong for feeling that way or was the reaction justified?
@@Sohelanthropus you shouldn't feel ashamed and you shouldn't bottle it inside. There are healthy ways to release privately without being judged.
Much as I hate to admit it, you've nailed it right there👍
@LFA
Well said. Reflecting on my last relationship, I chalked it up too different wants in life which is true. However using love as a weapon. Explains a lot. I always thought being too emotional was an issue. Just didn’t want to admit it. I’ve moved on & always learning.
Your message really drives it home for me. I WAS that guy. no more.Change is inevitable. Thanks for speaking on what nobody wants to hear. I appreciate you big dog.
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I had a foster mom
She died when i was 15
I remember her being cold, never saw her cry, she hugged me at times.
Told me she loves me or misses me when i would spend time away from her.
Me as an adult
I am quiet
Angry most the time
If i try to express how someone made me feel anger comes out like a volcano so i dont do that.
amazing. damn correct. I've experienced every one of those words. But no longer, I can change and start it with myself. much appreciate it. Keep it up, buddy.☠☠
You nailed it man, I’ve needed to hear this shit
I was raised by mother and father and i only seen them fight never show love to each other and never kissed and they slept in different bedrooms. Couples staying together for the sake of kids it’s my the best thing either . I would hate to be stuck in a loveless sexless relationship like my dad has been most of his adult life
Yeah I look at the relationship between my
Mother and father and I wince - they didn’t hate each other but there was no true love or warmness . They definitely didn’t set a good example and my dad completely failed in terms of telling me about life and women/relationships etc etc
Wow are y'all me?
Thank you for the laugh I am glad I was a strong woman to help my son in life
Keep up the good work!
This video answered everything for me and thanks for all the information
Wish I was taught this earlier. Thanks a lot. I’ll keep up with this channel no doubt.
💯 women need our strength guys. Love yourself, love them, but don't put up with bullshit.
I’ve made it clear to her that if she values our connection, she needs to show up with care, realness, and authenticity. I set a boundary because I realized that continuing without resolution was painful and unhealthy for me. At this point, I’ve left the door open for her to reach out, but I’m not chasing her or holding on to something that isn’t reciprocated.
i love this video and i agree with you 100% i was raised by single mother and i realised after sometime that im completely fucked up
Nice job on these videos, simple format and straight to the point in a very bro talk way
Often it is a misunderstanding between the genders. When a woman says "I want you to open up - I want you to be vulnerable with me!". More often than not, she wants you to tell her how important she is to you! Remember, they generally see things from their point of view. She is not asking you to dump your insecurities about going bald, or the size of your chop, or your PTSD - on her. Having said that - there is no point dating anyone who you can't open up to. The vast majority of women will use your insecurities against you. How do you find the good ones? You test them. If they want you to be vulnerable - make up a fake insecurity that won't trigger you and then wait for her to use it in your next fight. Lets say you make up that your relationship with your family is rather strained due to x, y, z. You will be shocked how creative they are at using that against you. She might say something like..."You are so controlling! It is no wonder your family disowned you and don't want to be around you!". Then you know to get rid of her. See why it needs to be fake?
Hey, I found your comment very interesting and I just agree. I lived the opposite of being asked to open up as I was dating this girl a couple of weeks ago that only talked about superficial things. I really wanted to know how she feels, thinks , plans for the future etc in order to see if she was a "girlfriend" material but on last date I just realized she wouldn´t. I thought she was going slow as she has just divorced but nah I tested her on the last date asking direct but polite questions and being brutally honest on my opinions to what she did not respond as I expected. However, she wanted to keep going out. No thanks, I know what I want and deserve....
Drama course?
@@MewluMoon It's unfortunate that sometimes the wrong people teach us bad habits just before the right ones come along. This creates confusion because many say they want a partner who is open with them. Yet, when they find such a partner, they often feel repulsed or end the relationship shortly afterward. It seems this can greatly diminish attraction. Perhaps we have differing interpretations of what it means to "open up," or maybe there's some dishonesty involved. Your ex's reaction seems typical, aligning with what many experience. Often, vulnerabilities shared in a relationship are turned against us. Ideally, a mature couple would understand each other's insecurities and either help strengthen those areas or at least safeguard them. I'm disillusioned with modern dating; it often feels like a competition between two adversaries, each trying to contribute the least.
It just so happens my wife left me 3 mos ago after 32 years of being together. Just short of our 15th wedding anniversary, she moved out by saying my trauma retriggered her trauma and she cant be around me anymore. I didnt jump for joy but am happily married. A week before i was diagnosed as a severe case of CPTSD from detatchment due to suicides ive suppressed since 1972 until 2023 my brother taking his life has surfaced all my oppresed trauma from childhood. How ironic i come across this at 59. This video is probably the most important video ill ever see.
I'm sorry to hear that man, I hope you have some family you can confide in. Can't trust that to be our wives. My wife left me at the height of my depression, which then helped me reach new heights lol. Life's a lot better now, just keep forward momentum and don't rush the healing process.
My man. I am here chuckling because you just gave dudes the most freeing thing in the world. If women do not care about when they totally dismiss you, then that is the most freeing thing in the world. In most cases dudes push (including me) the issue thinking "she will understand"....nope haha! The term bros before hoes has been told to me by so many men, in different settings and contexts. My own uncles used to say do not listen to your mother or sisters, my own boss, dude coworkers ert...Dudes (except for some sneaky little dwibs...we can always spot them). They were all right. Kevin Samuels was a real G and always right.
Had to pause this video more than once, I thought my neighbor was snoring through the walls 😂😂😂
Dude in the background, doing his little alpha male thing by swinging a chainsaw around his head. Ironic really 🤣🤣
Behind every happy marriage is a girlfriend.
This is so true and with so many single parent households, romanticized by the media, statistics clearly show far more problematic behavior than with traditional 2 parent homes.
If you grew up without a father, or even worse, with a mother who unjustly and selfishly tried to get you to grow up without a father, it’s going to be a very long and arduous journey to get to the point where you want/need to be in this regard. Some of us may be too far gone and never recover. I think what the “manosphere” needs right now are guys who can tell us not that this is where we are, but can guide us and tell us what we need to do to get to where we need to be. Unfortunately, there seem to be a shortage of men like this out there, probably because this is unprecedented territory for a society, and also because not many men have succeeded thus far in accomplishing that.
Yeah I have to be brutally honest - when I read the comment sections on content like this I just put my head down and shake my head. You have grown ass men that are so lost and have no confidence or social skills. I honestly don’t know what to tell a guy that is 28 years old and plays videogames all night long and has no game or social skills .. if you don’t learn the bare basics of talking to women in your teens or early 20s then i don’t know how to get guys out of that spot
Oh and then you have the really bitter guys that just watch content like this and complain about women. They are just as bad
And yes, no one in the mainstream is telling these guys how to behave
Oh damn I just typed out a long response to your comment and it’s gone. RUclips is getting bad in this aspect
The Tree Guys making noise in the background is perfect
Haha yah…
Yea if you was into the Texas chainsaw massacre movies
You are absolutely right. As a man, you use your emotions very sparingly. Women look to the man for strength. Women are always overly emotional and all over the place. The man has to be the man, the rock. If a woman wants to leave you say “ ok, bye.”
Good content! Greetings from Türkiye, dude.
It’s so true this why soft nice fragile man get treated very badly they suffer because the women reads that weakness
Thank you so much your work! You are an awesome person!🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉
Great video as always but I believe many men are done with relationships anyways. They hookup, bust and that's it. I'm one of them. I embrace my solitude and peace and avoid any turmoil that any relationship will unavoidably bring
There are still good women out there, that have pure hearts, problem is, they are 1 in a million unfortunately
You don't need such as pure noble woman. Have a decent woman (25% of women are like that) and keep her in line by being an attractive masculine man to her.
If you bring integrity, like an armor to the battle, you can find any type of women: narcissists, serial daters, cheaters, liars. You will dump them in no time, cuz you have got so many hobbies and interests that you practice the real hypergamy: finding some1 who loves you.
“And you know what I mean by that”. Yup
Thanks Dad.
Happened to me, learned the hard way. She's never been the same since. Understanding how I got there and the mechanism involved, I can now say it could have been different, and we could still be together. The positive thing is that it won't happen again. Great ending and great song by the way, if anyone knows the name please write it down. Stay strong!
Thanks so much for the value in this video, i had a father but he never showed me love like you did and then he and mom divorced so i was never raised properly and now i suffer because of a girl for months every day i think of her but i am getting better i think, now i only have to find other girls to be healed i think, it's hard but i am ok, thank you!
Oh, also, I did drive a girl away once from being too needy. Like you said, it’s over between me and her.
I've run into this trying to be better and better man. I like talking to people in relationships, they don't care that there man is basically themself.
Anger is the only emotion women respect 😆
Showing anger is a female emotion
@@YoungLifeEmpireso andrew tate is a woman then? The guy can't give one interview without talking at light speed and visibly and soundly in an anger mood. 😂
@@YoungLifeEmpirenice joke 😂
@@YoungLifeEmpire🤡🤡that’s an asinine statement. And all the cucks who agreed to it. Anger is a natural emotion, how we channel it is what matters.
Tate was raised by a single mother - so it all makes sense
Its all about looks!
Are
Its not
Only guys that suck with women say that sort of thing
@@MrAlio10190% of it is about looks
And you can only have strength when you’ve gotten to the place that WALKING AWAY is ok.
YOU CANT FAKE IT!!!
She’ll come back then once you’ve actually gotten over her. Question needs to be then: IS GETTING HER BACK REALLY WHAT YOU WANT?
I had a girl break up with me because she thought I lied to her about why I got fired from a company that she also worked at after I worked there. She was insecure enough to ask her coworkers why I got fired from there. We are still friends though. I was able to get over her breaking up with me within a couple days though.
I know it's easier said than done, but without sounding like a wise @ss dude, I can tell you from decades of experience that you should seldom reveal your emotional state to a woman, only show just enough affection to keep her guessing and wondering what she's done wrong. My favorite word works like charm every time, and it's more simple than you'd think. The magic word is: NO !
Women hate it when you set boundaries and you put them in their place, but it works. They might get pissed at you, but coming back to you every time. It's hard, daily work worth trying.
Another trick is leaving for the day and not telling her where you are, while not answering your phone either. Simply not be available to her ! If she asks where you going, just tell her you are busy, will talk later. The more you are avail to her, the more she will crap on you. Don't be a SIMP ! Remember most women aren't the price, You are!
Another golden pill you have to swallow early on in life is; never ever reveal your true financial state to anyone, especially not to a woman.
Remember 9 out of 10, She has absolutely nothing to bring to the table, other being cute. So don't be depressed over a female, she is not worth is, and there is always a better one out there waiting for you, ready to love and provide her devotion.
So true
We need to go back to the old ways of dating. I got played and hurt too. I fell in love. I got my heart broken. Men seem cold and want to be chased. Stay away from the girls with too much makeup and fingernails and not enough clothes. That's the female player... She's looking for the BBD (bigger better deal.)
I think that stands for something else
You also express emotions to be mentally and emotionally healthy- it can help you live longer.
You're right man i was raised by my mom i never knew my dad maybe he's dead i don't know and never had succes with women but it's okay iv'e been so long alone now that i begin to like it to be honest so i don't care if they see me as a weak emotional or whatever sometimes i laugh about it😂
Great video LFA, very informative.
Brothers unite.
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Nah everyone is fake even so called “brothers” will take advantage of you when you’re at your lowest so it’s every man for their self
@@PineappaPres14not true. I think you have been surrounded by really bad people mate
@@HCforLife1 Unfortunately that’s been my experience and what i see on social media hurts my outlook on friendships
I pay attention when dating to everything the woman says and how she reacts to any situation and questions.......pay attention to eye movements expresstion...
very good advice, this guy is one of the best youtubers on the topic. based.
Ok, I'm guilty of this, way back, when I was young, dumb, and selfish. Now I understand the pain I inflicted upon a man who loved me unconditionally. And gave me the world. Unfortunately, Karma caught up with me quicker than the speed of light, which lasted over a decade of pain and suffering. I will never hurt anyone like that ever again. I'd rather be alone for the rest of my life.❤ I felt his pain.....
All the world's a stage, And all the men and women merely players.
-- William Shakepere.
Just wanna put this in, that if your parents relationship is flipped and your mother is the dominant one, you can also pick up those motherly traits. Took me a lot of years to see this as people just say "oh you are just more emotional".
Just because a father is physically present in boy's life, doesn't mean anything. If he is a deadbeat, doesn't care about his son, the kid will grow up the same way he would if his father wasn't there physically.
They will also punish emotionless men to
In lieu of the bumper music, he should’ve had the guy with the chain saw come over and rev it, 😂
I wont get married so i dont mind jumping through a few hoops to get some tail they all leave anyways when i dont take the ultimatum
Im not controlling, i just know what i wont tolerate !!!