Why ? Because they are so shallow . Have to hear themselves praise themselves and admiration to feel valid to live in their perfect pretend lives !! SHALLLOOOOWWWW!!
My husband did this recently. Narcissists don't have a true identity. One day he was rambling on about himself and said "I don't know who I am anymore." All I could think was "you never did to begin with."
@@cassiebennet4262my ex confessed me how he treated women, he was always the victim, but as you know, when they say something, believe always the opposite. I knew I was in danger so when he broke up with me because I wasn't happy about something he did to me, I said to him on the phone that I will never come back. He raged, insulted me. The next day he apologized, tried to hoover me but I never came back. And no contact. I know I saved my life. He's more than a narcissist he's a real psychopath. I knew from the beginning that something was wrong with him, I promise myself from now to always trust my intuition. ALWAYS !
Literally found myself searching “how to make it work with a self centered/shallow person” on the regular because he would turn EVERY conversation back around to be about him. It was so exhausting! Even when he had NOTHING to do with what I was brining up, he had somehow done it bigger, better, faster, smarter. And everyone in our world played along with it. I’m so glad I left. So. Glad.
I'm not a narcissist but grew up in a very abusive household. As a result from the trauma, being belittled all the time it crushed my self esteem. It left me with a constant ache of having to prove myself and a need to compete to win. It didn't matter how well I knew I was doing I had a continous feeling of misfit, depressed, lonely and sad. I allowed it to lead me to becoming a alcholic, which gave me a temporary false confidence but once sober it was back to hell. Then the drinking caused problems. It was a sick vicious self destructive pattern. I was then becoming the person I wasn't when I was belittled by abusive parents. What I was repeadtly told I was, I actually became. Words are powrerful and influential, especially by those we trust and depend on. We believe it must be true if it comes from parents. It took experiencing life outside the home, experiencing and seeing how other family dynamics were, how societal operates, took getting in a quiet safe space to where I could think and see, and much more to see reality of myself and my upbringing. Reason I'm sharing this, is it was so exhausting cause the energy it took to always have to prove myself, the constant battle with self worth, always worrying about what family thought about me, people pleasing to be loved and liked, not having personal boundaries, then living with perpetual guilt for mistakes I made, how my mistakes hurt others. I can't imagine the amount of energy a narcissist uses up. When I was listening I thought to myself, geeze they have got to be exhausted, then you mentioned how much energy it takes. It also had me reflect how much energy it took for me throu my journey. It also affected my physical body resulting in medical issues. I appreciate you sharing your wisdom especially from a personal diagnosis. If anyone knows what is really going on, it would defintely be you considering you have NPD. I'm guessing you must have high functioning, cause it seems low function don't have self awareness. I apologize for the book comment. Thank you
😂😂😂I know that this is serious but when you said, “You sleep in your car? Well, I sleep under my car.” I started laughing so hard that I had tears coming out of my eyes. I had to stop the video to rewind it and laugh again. I needed that laugh.
It's funny when I think about it... Back when I was texting with my nex, tell him some news from my day, he wouldn't comment on it or engage but respond to me straight up with how was his day. It felt really strange... on the other hand I was always asking him for details etc.
I was literally googling “conversational narcissist” while I was with him at one point because I noticed how the conversations would always be so one sided. Even then I didn’t realize what he was yet. The cognitive dissonance was real. It was always about him him him. Happy to be out of that now and getting to know myself again.
The one I deal with like to brag about himself all the time, He talks about respect which he doesn’t have for others. He talks like he’s a kick ass and no one dares to mess with him but plays the victim when he starts things. Like to curse you out for infidelity that he’s caught doing and it’s nothing.
I am absolutely obsessed with your channel. I appreciate every single word that comes out of your very transparent mouth. I am excited for all the thrivers and survivors because we have people like you who keep it real thank you thank you thank you don’t worry about your haters you are truly doing God’s work stay protected.
Oh my goodness straight truth. I can go weeks sitting there listening to them non stop... when i finally get a few words in you can see their eyes rolling, boredom sets in and they are done with the convo and or change it back to them. I went almost a week to see when they would notice what was going on in my life before they even noticed they didn't have a clue on what was going on in my life. Smh.
I NEVER got to talk about myself. He never asked me about my day. In the beginning I was like “oh my gosh I am learning so much about him.” Then eventually I got tired of it. (Amongst the emotional abuse too)
I had a tenant that was in his words, "from a very rich family" "Had a "high placed job" " makes more money than you could imagine"...."could only drive a luxury car". With in 2 weeks he was fired from his job, had his.car re- possed and had a massive slap down from his "Very (not) rich"family. Talk about a collapse......oh, and I evicted him.
"The Success Olympics or the Struggle Olympics", SPOT ON! It's either "WE work HARD for OUR money, you, of course, do not... or "I'm so TIRED of ALWAYS being the one who..." whatever minimal effort they put into something. When you try and explain that you've done more or better, suddenly they're deaf, and possibly the start of histrionics.
💯💯💣 yes they know that they're not ish..... they do both hype themselves when you're successful....cut themselves down when you're down. You're so so spot on Lee!!!!
Oh this one is so true & SO irritating 🤨That's one of my first signs that give them away. Try dare saying something about you & watch how they turn to them. Thanks Lee😊
Yep my son-in-law was going head to head with my 95 yr old mother-in-law by one upping her when her hip replacement was hurting & another ailment. Everything the poor old woman said he commented back that he had more pain, a worse injury, etc.. My daughter looked at him with shock & embarrassment. Her 4 Uncle's & Dad were also hearing him talk from across the room. That moment confirmed the nightmare I knew our family was in for in the future with this self absorbed a-hole. Unfortunately I wasn't wrong because our life with him has been full of Threats to Blackmail with Lies, Financial Abuse, Theft & other forms of Abuse💔. We're just tired of living in The Hellish Version of Ground Hogs Day because of this Demonic 👹 Monster.
Shame...shame...shame...shame. As a survivor I have reached the high of having NO SHAME TO MY GAME. Now I am a warrior! Once a person holds no shame within from their CPTSD they are unstoppable to those full of shame trying to bring others down to make themselves feel better. Lee by all means take NO SHAME TO MY GAME and put it on a shirt so we can wear what we know is within but others think we have and can be used against us.
My narc-parent would blab on and on about the most mundane things in their life, while my eyes glaze over like pottery. Like, 'I don't care about your spaghetti-squash dinner and I don't want to hear about it every-damn-time I have to see you.' But they have nothing else in their life, so you have to listen and feign interest or they get mad or hurt that you won't listen and don't care. You have to fake every emotion to entertain them or they get all mad like the babies they are. And yes, it is very tiring. And on the weekdays when they're 'too tired' or in reality, drunk, I have to get a phone-call and stop whatever I'm doing and pay them attention. And those are worse because it's 30-40 mins of the same questions and comments because they're drunk and can't follow their own conversation. I don't want to care anymore. NoContactFTW!!
Spaghetti squash recipe ? Haha. Do share, and relieve yourself of that burden. I'm sure you have it memorized. Make lemonaide out of lemons from this. Haha...as a matter of fact as narcissist survivors we should make a cook book out of all the bragging we have stuck in our heads. I mean...it'd be the best recipes in the world!!
They don’t understand the more they blab off about themselves the less people take them seriously or even want to be around them they will literally talk you to sleep about themselves
Because no one never ever paid them no mine gave them tension and love when they were young and as they got older, they did what they wanted to do and people started pushing them away. They think highly about themselves. They are a whole mess unless like you say Lee you get help Understand love respect boundaries Blessings to you and your family🥰
Not true, my ex is an example of a narcissist that he was admired since he was little, he grew up spoiled, full of attention on him so he started doing the same with women to feel more and more validated because he likes to be the center of attention. He enjoys others being around him, praising him, complimenting him and all, he never gets enough of it. Especially when it comes to women. We knew each other since we were kids, so yeah. But his whole family is narcissistic, it's always all about them. Have no empathy towards anyone else.
I use to try to uplift in my relationships so they would know they are important too what u give them they will go give it to other people. It was that point i will never put anyone before me or uplift them or encourage them to take money, encouragement, resources to other people that never worked for it shit hell no. Never again
They want you to be their therapist, yet if you need support, they tell you to talk to a therapust. This year I am donating to our local shelter. I wanted to donate the money I would spend on them for Xmas to this shelter on behalf of them. Nope, they want gifts, more gifts. If you go through a crisis, they only talk about themselves. They never change Unfortunatly, many of my therapist colleagues will not see narcissists. This is of no disrespect. These are facts.
Story has to involve them in some way. They get distracted and lose interest if you want to talk about something that doesn’t involve them…especially if on the phone.
OMG all the time and the same damn stories .... At the end he'd yell at me for not looking at him when he was telling me a story I'd heard hundreds of times
YES! The SAME STORIES all the time. Like they have record inside and just start to play. Wow. To me is direct representation of how in fact they and their consciousness is looped and sealed.
One told me that he was going to retire in 2 yrs. I don't care. His dad has always loved buicks. I don't care about that either. I did care about him doing his so called partner for 7 hrs with no commitment. She was committed, he was not. Then when she got a promotion at work he dumped her. His excuse was now I'm going to see her less so I'm out. That wasn't the real reason. The real reason was she just bought a house bec she refused to move in with him, so to save face he dumped her. It was a preemptive strike. I dropped him without another word. That was the first and last so called date. Hear me good yall. An intelligent, observant empath is a threat to a narc. Dont listen to what they tell you, look at the real reason thy did what they did. Also look at how they treat you and others. DUMP THEM ON THE FIRST DATE!
Why? Because in their heads they think they are Gods. So they praise themselves 24/7. And they want to push themselves up. For other people it is just ridiculous but they don´t even recognize that. You don´t have to talk about something if it is really that great. And it is all about admiration (people should praise them too and what not)... In fact it would be better if they really reflect themselves and see things for what they really are (instead praising everything they do).
Why ? Because they are so shallow . Have to hear themselves praise themselves and admiration to feel valid to live in their perfect pretend lives !! SHALLLOOOOWWWW!!
Sometimes they talk about themselves so much that they make confessions...
My husband did this recently. Narcissists don't have a true identity. One day he was rambling on about himself and said "I don't know who I am anymore." All I could think was "you never did to begin with."
@@cassiebennet4262my ex confessed me how he treated women, he was always the victim, but as you know, when they say something, believe always the opposite. I knew I was in danger so when he broke up with me because I wasn't happy about something he did to me, I said to him on the phone that I will never come back. He raged, insulted me. The next day he apologized, tried to hoover me but I never came back. And no contact. I know I saved my life. He's more than a narcissist he's a real psychopath. I knew from the beginning that something was wrong with him, I promise myself from now to always trust my intuition. ALWAYS !
Literally found myself searching “how to make it work with a self centered/shallow person” on the regular because he would turn EVERY conversation back around to be about him. It was so exhausting! Even when he had NOTHING to do with what I was brining up, he had somehow done it bigger, better, faster, smarter. And everyone in our world played along with it.
I’m so glad I left. So. Glad.
I'm not a narcissist but grew up in a very abusive household. As a result from the trauma, being belittled all the time it crushed my self esteem. It left me with a constant ache of having to prove myself and a need to compete to win. It didn't matter how well I knew I was doing I had a continous feeling of misfit, depressed, lonely and sad. I allowed it to lead me to becoming a alcholic, which gave me a temporary false confidence but once sober it was back to hell. Then the drinking caused problems. It was a sick vicious self destructive pattern. I was then becoming the person I wasn't when I was belittled by abusive parents. What I was repeadtly told I was, I actually became. Words are powrerful and influential, especially by those we trust and depend on. We believe it must be true if it comes from parents. It took experiencing life outside the home, experiencing and seeing how other family dynamics were, how societal operates, took getting in a quiet safe space to where I could think and see, and much more to see reality of myself and my upbringing.
Reason I'm sharing this, is it was so exhausting cause the energy it took to always have to prove myself, the constant battle with self worth, always worrying about what family thought about me, people pleasing to be loved and liked, not having personal boundaries, then living with perpetual guilt for mistakes I made, how my mistakes hurt others. I can't imagine the amount of energy a narcissist uses up. When I was listening I thought to myself, geeze they have got to be exhausted, then you mentioned how much energy it takes. It also had me reflect how much energy it took for me throu my journey. It also affected my physical body resulting in medical issues.
I appreciate you sharing your wisdom especially from a personal diagnosis. If anyone knows what is really going on, it would defintely be you considering you have NPD. I'm guessing you must have high functioning, cause it seems low function don't have self awareness. I apologize for the book comment. Thank you
Thank you for sharing. I completely understand where your coming from.
😂😂😂I know that this is serious but when you said, “You sleep in your car? Well, I sleep under my car.” I started laughing so hard that I had tears coming out of my eyes. I had to stop the video to rewind it and laugh again. I needed that laugh.
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They dont know what else to do but speak in themselves. My children just chose to ignore their biological dad and keep going on with our life.
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Your children know what is right for them... My children also ignore their dad and don´t want something to do with him. In fact that is really sad ...
It's funny when I think about it...
Back when I was texting with my nex, tell him some news from my day, he wouldn't comment on it or engage but respond to me straight up with how was his day. It felt really strange... on the other hand I was always asking him for details etc.
Narc news network...😂 Love it! We've been calling them TEDtalks...lol
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Its always a competition with them its draining 😪
I was literally googling “conversational narcissist” while I was with him at one point because I noticed how the conversations would always be so one sided. Even then I didn’t realize what he was yet. The cognitive dissonance was real. It was always about him him him. Happy to be out of that now and getting to know myself again.
They want to feel important !!
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The one I deal with like to brag about himself all the time, He talks about respect which he doesn’t have for others. He talks like he’s a kick ass and no one dares to mess with him but plays the victim when he starts things. Like to curse you out for infidelity that he’s caught doing and it’s nothing.
They are self centred and self OBSESSED
I am absolutely obsessed with your channel. I appreciate every single word that comes out of your very transparent mouth. I am excited for all the thrivers and survivors because we have people like you who keep it real thank you thank you thank you don’t worry about your haters you are truly doing God’s work stay protected.
Oh my goodness straight truth.
I can go weeks sitting there listening to them non stop... when i finally get a few words in you can see their eyes rolling, boredom sets in and they are done with the convo and or change it back to them. I went almost a week to see when they would notice what was going on in my life before they even noticed they didn't have a clue on what was going on in my life. Smh.
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I NEVER got to talk about myself. He never asked me about my day. In the beginning I was like “oh my gosh I am learning so much about him.” Then eventually I got tired of it. (Amongst the emotional abuse too)
Same thing here
Some feel superior to others. ! Grandiose. !!! 😊
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Good video. Explains why my family had no clue what my job was lol
I had a tenant that was in his words, "from a very rich family" "Had a "high placed job" " makes more money than you could imagine"...."could only drive a luxury car". With in 2 weeks he was fired from his job, had his.car re- possed and had a massive slap down from his "Very (not) rich"family. Talk about a collapse......oh, and I evicted him.
"The Success Olympics or the Struggle Olympics", SPOT ON! It's either "WE work HARD for OUR money, you, of course, do not... or "I'm so TIRED of ALWAYS being the one who..." whatever minimal effort they put into something.
When you try and explain that you've done more or better, suddenly they're deaf, and possibly the start of histrionics.
💯💯💣 yes they know that they're not ish..... they do both hype themselves when you're successful....cut themselves down when you're down. You're so so spot on Lee!!!!
Oh this one is so true & SO irritating 🤨That's one of my first signs that give them away. Try dare saying something about you & watch how they turn to them. Thanks Lee😊
Yep my son-in-law was going head to head with my 95 yr old mother-in-law by one upping her when her hip replacement was hurting & another ailment. Everything the poor old woman said he commented back that he had more pain, a worse injury, etc.. My daughter looked at him with shock & embarrassment. Her 4 Uncle's & Dad were also hearing him talk from across the room. That moment confirmed the nightmare I knew our family was in for in the future with this self absorbed a-hole. Unfortunately I wasn't wrong because our life with him has been full of Threats to Blackmail with Lies, Financial Abuse, Theft & other forms of Abuse💔. We're just tired of living in The Hellish Version of Ground Hogs Day because of this Demonic 👹 Monster.
Shame...shame...shame...shame. As a survivor I have reached the high of having NO SHAME TO MY GAME. Now I am a warrior! Once a person holds no shame within from their CPTSD they are unstoppable to those full of shame trying to bring others down to make themselves feel better. Lee by all means take NO SHAME TO MY GAME and put it on a shirt so we can wear what we know is within but others think we have and can be used against us.
He’s constantly taking and touching what’s not his and thinks it’s ok to break.
Get your hidden camera out of my house, sir. Lol Damn, this just hit so hard.
My narc-parent would blab on and on about the most mundane things in their life, while my eyes glaze over like pottery. Like, 'I don't care about your spaghetti-squash dinner and I don't want to hear about it every-damn-time I have to see you.' But they have nothing else in their life, so you have to listen and feign interest or they get mad or hurt that you won't listen and don't care. You have to fake every emotion to entertain them or they get all mad like the babies they are. And yes, it is very tiring. And on the weekdays when they're 'too tired' or in reality, drunk, I have to get a phone-call and stop whatever I'm doing and pay them attention. And those are worse because it's 30-40 mins of the same questions and comments because they're drunk and can't follow their own conversation. I don't want to care anymore. NoContactFTW!!
Spaghetti squash recipe ? Haha. Do share, and relieve yourself of that burden. I'm sure you have it memorized. Make lemonaide out of lemons from this. Haha...as a matter of fact as narcissist survivors we should make a cook book out of all the bragging we have stuck in our heads. I mean...it'd be the best recipes in the world!!
Not "sleeping under the car" 😂
Love the intro
Thank you for covering this 💡💡💡-Xclusyph Icon
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They don’t understand the more they blab off about themselves the less people take them seriously or even want to be around them they will literally talk you to sleep about themselves
Because no one never ever paid them no mine gave them tension and love when they were young and as they got older, they did what they wanted to do and people started pushing them away. They think highly about themselves. They are a whole mess unless like you say Lee you get help Understand love respect boundaries Blessings to you and your family🥰
Blessings to you and yours as well
Not true, my ex is an example of a narcissist that he was admired since he was little, he grew up spoiled, full of attention on him so he started doing the same with women to feel more and more validated because he likes to be the center of attention. He enjoys others being around him, praising him, complimenting him and all, he never gets enough of it. Especially when it comes to women. We knew each other since we were kids, so yeah. But his whole family is narcissistic, it's always all about them. Have no empathy towards anyone else.
yes, I like that intro
Thank you
Aint that the truth
I use to try to uplift in my relationships so they would know they are important too what u give them they will go give it to other people. It was that point i will never put anyone before me or uplift them or encourage them to take money, encouragement, resources to other people that never worked for it shit hell no. Never again
They want you to be their therapist, yet if you need support, they tell you to talk to a therapust. This year I am donating to our local shelter. I wanted to donate the money I would spend on them for Xmas to this shelter on behalf of them. Nope, they want gifts, more gifts.
If you go through a crisis, they only talk about themselves. They never change Unfortunatly, many of my therapist colleagues will not see narcissists. This is of no disrespect. These are facts.
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Here's a question: can you smother a narcissist with attention, or are they all consuming? Like a glutton?
Story has to involve them in some way. They get distracted and lose interest if you want to talk about something that doesn’t involve them…especially if on the phone.
It’s wild
I like you. Your intro is sooooo.. narcissistic. LOL I think you're doing good, though, Mr. Hammock. Keep it up.
"Narc Network News" 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Lady at work was always doing that.plus everything she did had to have pictures to show everybody.like a little kid.
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Another annoying thing he does is wear my clothes and use my shoes when my feet are smaller.
And if a person says alot about themselves the NP will accuse them of the me me me me!
I want to send it to him 😭
And i don't care if they brag on themselves and talk about me they don't know what I got going on cause i don't share it
OMG all the time and the same damn stories .... At the end he'd yell at me for not looking at him when he was telling me a story I'd heard hundreds of times
YES! The SAME STORIES all the time. Like they have record inside and just start to play. Wow.
To me is direct representation of how in fact they and their consciousness is looped and sealed.
One told me that he was going to retire in 2 yrs. I don't care. His dad has always loved buicks. I don't care about that either. I did care about him doing his so called partner for 7 hrs with no commitment. She was committed, he was not. Then when she got a promotion at work he dumped her. His excuse was now I'm going to see her less so I'm out.
That wasn't the real reason. The real reason was she just bought a house bec she refused to move in with him, so to save face he dumped her.
It was a preemptive strike.
I dropped him without another word. That was the first and last so called date.
Hear me good yall.
An intelligent, observant empath is a threat to a narc. Dont listen to what they tell you, look at the real reason thy did what they did.
Also look at how they treat you and others.
DUMP THEM ON THE FIRST DATE!
They just want you to like them
No it is much more. They want people to admire them not only like them. They want to be better than other people.
Why? Because in their heads they think they are Gods. So they praise themselves 24/7. And they want to push themselves up. For other people it is just ridiculous but they don´t even recognize that. You don´t have to talk about something if it is really that great. And it is all about admiration (people should praise them too and what not)... In fact it would be better if they really reflect themselves and see things for what they really are (instead praising everything they do).
They will do anything to get the attention on them.... “except work”. U forgot that part.
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