Could I have developed CPTSD from having a parent suffering from a severe mental health disorder from an early age such as Undiagnosed Covert NPD? This disorder is not recognised very readily in the UK is there anyway I can get a diagnosis online someway, I cannot go through the normal routes for various complicated reasons.
Ive got bypolar deppression disorder and resistant ptsd but i work gkt my own place im at the decision that i must make to let my family go and its so super hard but its for the best i was in a car crash and witnessed somebody die and was physically abused heavily every day for 27 years my mother also i loved my mother because she pused threw and cared for us because my gather wasnt there but 3 days ago i found out she is a manipulative narcissist and yesterday found out my family is a narcissistic family im still shocked and very sad i have bipolar deppression 2 at least TAMARA IS HELPING ME THANK YOU SO MUCH TAMARA AT LEAST IM NOT ALONE SHE IS MY ONLY FRIEND 47 FRIENDS HAVE USED ME SO NO FRIENDS TAMARA IS MY ONLY FRIEND AND SHE I ALL I GOT LEFT IN LIFE OF A GOOD HUMAN BEING SOMETIMES I JUST LET HER TALK ON RUclips SO I KNOW IM NOT ALONE IN MY PLACE SOUNDS WEIRD I KNOW BUT LONELINESS CAN BE A BAD THING GUYS SO THANK YOU TAMARA MY MOTHER SAID ITS MY FAULT BECAUSE SHE HAS CANCER BUT I FOUND OUT WITH EVIDENCE THAT SHE DOESNT HAVE CANCER LAST MONTH WAS THE LAST TIME I SAW MY FAMILY AND SHE SAID IM DISSAPOINTED YOU WERE BORN I TOLD GOD YOU WONT BE LIKE THIS THATS SICK AT LEAST TAMARA HAS GOT MY BACK AND IM SLOWLY HEALING ITS BEEN A MONTH NOW SINCE IVE SEEN MY FAMILY AND MY MOTHER SOEMTIMES I THINK I MADE THE WRONG CHOICE BUT I DIDNT AND I MUST STICK TO IT BECAUSE OF MY HEALTH THEY ALREADY DAMAGED ME BECAUSE I HAVE BYPOLAR DEPRESSION DISORDER AND CHRONIC TRAUMA BECAUSE OF THEM IT REALLY SUCKS TO THINK ALL THESE YEARS MY MOTHER SAVED ME MEANWHILE SHE WAS A SOCIOPATH AND MANUPALTING ME JUST FOUND THAT OUT LAST MONTH SO JEAH BUT SOME OTHER TIME IM GONA HAVE TO LET THEM GO WITH TAMARAS HELP IN HER VIDEOS I WIL AND I MUST THANK YOU TAMARA I DONT KNOW WHAT TO SAY BUTNONE DAY WHEN IM RICH I WIL GIVE YOU A BIG GIFT LIKE A CAR OR SOMETHING AND I WIL DO THIS BECAUSE IF IT WASNT FOR YOU I WOULDVE BEEN DAMAGED MORE AND MAYBE WOULDVE COMMITED SUUCIDE ONE DAY TAMARA ONE DAY
It’s so refreshing to find a woman of color speaking on this!! I’m wondering how CPTSD resonates in the black community specifically, and how we can create modalities specific to us! Thank you!
Tamara, I wish you would not apologise for the length of your videos - they are jam packed with super valuable information and you are a pleasure to listen to. Thank you!
It’s hard for me to sit through things like this sometimes but it was very helpful for me because I’m trying to figure out what’s going on with me. I am not going to give my power away it’s mine so I’m taking control of my life.
This is so informative. I grew up poor within a Hispanic ghetto. My siblings and I have blonde hair, blue eyes. We were so racially abused and constantly feared for our lives. To walk to school was petrifying. My brother/ eldest sister were threatened with knives, etc. Gun shootings happened all the time and people died. It was horrible. This has effected us our whole lives. Thanks for this, it’s really helped.
This is good to know!! Glad this was helpful. And thank you!! I'm so sorry this has happened to you. It's terrifying to say the least. I wish you good health as you heal. This trauma can last a while.
This is very helpful information again. Repeated events of traumatic events over of time can cause complex ptsd, would it still be considered c-ptsd if a person expeirenced the trauma on such a regular basis that they became very good at disassociating at the time? And had managed to completly block any memory of particularly bad events until later in life? If that makes sense.
Thanks Beth! Great question! I think the Re-experiencing of the same trauma can evolve into c-PTSD over time depending on the severity of the trauma. But c-PTSD is c-PTSD because you don't experience 1 traumatic event alone but rather multiple events that are traumatic.
I believe for sure that i have c-ptsd now, and the reason for this is ive watched videos you post about this diagnonsis, then i make a list of symptoms you mentioned, and look for other videos about each symtom and work out what applies and what doesnt apply to my self. Then move on to the next symptom and study that one. And bestcof all you cover everything related so i can follow one person and im not being confused by other therapist way of working, ill stick to the same amazingly accurate guidence from yourself . Its working, i feel hopful and eagar to learn more from you to help me manage and and rebuild my life dor the better. You have single handedly turned my life around and thats why its important for you to know how greatful i am to you from the bottom of my heart. Thank you 🥰💖💖🙏
You're welcome. 😀 This is great Beth!! Thank you for these kind comments. I'm really pleased to hear that my videos are helping guide you. I do, however, encourage my clients/patients to look at what other therapists are saying and compare. Sometimes this is a good way to be objective and then also compare how others see the diagnosis. It can also be a good way to explore other symptoms that I may not have mentioned. But I do understand your approach (as I do the same thing...stick with the same person who understands something well)! I am by no means discouraging that! LOL But sometimes it's helpful.
@@TherapistTamaraHill Thank you for that Tamara, it's God to know I shouldnt bre put off by the one time I viewed a diffrent therapist video on RUclips, just because it put me off there are alot out there, I've still got so much to learn from yourself and maybe one day I'll try looking again but for now I'm sticking with you because my goal is to start living as authentic a life as possible and that's what see in you. This is why I send so many people the link to your channel. On line and in groups, and I keep getting thank you messages for sharing your page .
what about theory that narcissistic parents (cold and distanced parents, emotionally and pscyhological abusive) causes cptsd on their children ??? exuse my eng grammar
No worries. I understood what you meant! This can cause it as well. Anything that comes at you when you aren't prepared to cope with it is trauma. If it is repeated and involves a series of situations it may classify as complex.
I was diagnosed with PTSD after an assault about 4 years ago. Therapists only spoke about my childhood. Other than my assault ptsd, I was never told of other issues. I saw a few therapists who did the same. I felt they weren’t touching on my assault, which made me stop going. They all wanted to talk about my mom wouldn’t wouldn’t explain why. My mo was in and out of mental hospitals and I saw her “episodes”. Even seeing her wrist slit and blood dripping. I always tried to protect her and felt I did pretty well with mental health until my assault. I’ve never been the same. I can’t stop thinking about it. I have panic attacks minimum 4 times weekly. I have been isolating. I don’t walk outside when I’m home alone, in fear of being attacked. My ptsd has intensified over the layout 4 years, since my assault. This is the short version. I’m currently out of state in a hotel. Patiently waiting to get back home so that I can find a therapist or psychiatrist. After my diagnosis, I was out on 9 different meds. I stopped them because they made me not feel motions. I know at this point, that I need therapy and need to be on meds.
I’m sorry to hear what happened to you. I hope this isn’t rude to ask but How do you feel now? I can’t share my experience in full but I understand how you feel and had some similar events but it started at an early age.
Thanks for this video, it was very helpful in explaining the differences between CPTSD and PTSD. Please, could you offer a content warning at the start before mentioning potentially triggering topics?
Im so shocked its not your fault but i realised my family is narcissistic its been 3 days im 27 shocked and angry can believe they did this my mother is the main one but thank you so much really
Wow another fantastic video. I find that I am constantly having flashbacks of incidents that occurred decades ago. When these flashbacks occur I experience the same emotions I felt years ago. What can I do to stop these ruminations from popping up or what is causing them to pop up?
Good video, I have been looking for in-depth info on this. I have seen a lot of people in the borderline community all of a sudden denying their own diagnosis and now calling it CPTSD. And it's all really fuzzy because so many psychologists are defining them as synonymous. But I know many people diagnosed Borderline can have both. And in my understanding, people with CPTSD don't split( idealize and devalue). And as far as I know people with CPTSD don't have fear of abandonment, they are more likely to have a consistent mistrust rather than yo-yo between trust and mistrust like the Borderline sufferer.
I had an initial diagnosis of PTSD as a result of narcissistic abuse and sexual assault. Then the "therapists" got together and twisted everything up without even doing proper screening and history, then and held it as BPD. They were way off course and I feel immense damage as my traumatized, hyper-vigilent, mistrusting PTSD mind, now has the BPD seeds planted. Another differentiating characteristic btw CPTSD and BPD, is that BPD is a personality disorder.... DSM states something like... pervasive symptoms. You would have recognized these traits for your whole life, versus PTSD which comes about from something external to your being. Also... the identity disturbance of the self... with BPD it is inherent, and with CPTSD it is triggered by external influences. This is a key difference and easy to monitor and self determine. My heartfelt thoughts are with those who have suffered the misdiagnosis due to ignorance and professional arrogance.
At 3 years old I dealt with being hit by my mom’s lovers she met at bars and temporary placement in foster care at 6 years old I dealt with being thrown into a wall at 7 years old I dealt with being drowned in the tub by my mom and drowned in the pool by other kids I also dealt with being forced to watch my brother be attacked by my mom’s pit bull as a punishment for both of us at 7 and 8 years old I dealt with being suffocated by pillows because my mom didn’t want to hear me cry. At 8 years old I went from one foster home to the next at 9 years old I was molested in a church gym and neglected by that foster mom. In middle school I dealt with being bullied in high school I dealt with being bullied and sexually harassed
I grew up in i guess you can say a dramatic an chaotic household with parents fighting an yelling pretty often an was abused verbally an physically sometimes by my mom an just lived through a lot of stressful times, an then in September 15th 2019 my mom died from a heart attack, seizure or stroke not sure what though but it happened while she was driving an I had to hit the hazard lights an pull off the road an call 911 an she died infront of me nothin i could do literally in my hand, thing is Thank God that all the cars were stopped at the intersection other wise it would've been even worse an more people hurt, after a year from that I started noticing I have ocd an kinda a contamination phobia with my hands an things I use daily like my phone an etc, looking back I noticed I had ocd symptoms over 5 years ago but I didn't know until it got kinda how it is now when I noticed it, i feel very enstranged with both sides of family, I just live with my dad now an I have no friends an find it hard to make friends an even really talk an connect with people, I'm a pretty lonely person, I haven't had nightmares about my mom dying but I often have nightmares of my parents yellin sometimes it's strange, so after everything I'm assuming I have ptsd or c ptsd, I do avoid the roads an places we stopped that day my mom died, an I think back at all the bogus things in my short life often an I guess maybe I even avoid people if I can like goin around family, also in around 2016 or 2017 my dad got diagnosed with schizophrenia an it was a pretty crazy time an he said he was goin to stay at his parents house for a few days but he just stayed living there an me an my mom ended up moving but he still helped us out with rent an stuff it's just for some reason he just stayed at his parents, these are just a few things mainly the bigger stuff that sucks in my life, i hope you read this an can maybe help me on whats wrong with me an if i do have ptsd or c ptsd cause honestly im still listening to the video an it all really sounds relatable, especially all the world view stuff you talked about, I have thoughts of the events in my life randomly, I probably do have a poor appetite an I am pretty hypervigliant ive always been a observer typa person an i get startled an have anxiety when people knock on the front door an when I get random calls an they leave a voicemail I dread listening to the voicemail an then turn the volume low so I can hear who it is, sorry for the long comment, im just really curious if i have complex ptsd I tried saying it all of how I feel, God bless you sister, shalom
Hello Tamara Video was not long, just very helpful. Thank you, Thank you, Thank you Been a long time trying to get help. Now know been in TRAUMA a long time maybe PTSD or Complex PTSD, along with ADHA African-American black women at Sixty, went through life and dealt the best you can
Absolutely on point thanks for sharing My experience with child trauma coming up as a kid during the 60's Myself and my first cousins playing out the Avatar character in the Colonial mainstream world For Indigenous Maori it all boils down to the Indigenous Land My family in particular descend from huge Indigenous Estate of Land going back many centuries My mom's Mom passed away in 1949 and her Granny passed away in 1952 and none of there Descendants have lived on there Shares ever
I find it extremely interesting that serious mental health disorders can cause CPTSD. I have three family relatives, immediate relatives who have all been sectioned. Sometimes when I was super young. I received formal diagnosis today and struggling to see how I didn’t see it before
I have a question. I was talking to my sister last night and she was saying she doesn't remember most of her life. I don't either. I'm 36 and really don't remember much of my life before 30. She thinks its because we're use to repressing memories. Do you think that can be a cause of significant memory loss? Having repressing memories become a normal frequent function?
This is similar to what I'm trying to figure out too . If an event was so considered "the norm " because of the regular occurrence and some of the more intense events you managed to disassociate and block it out for most of your life, would this count as a contributor if it's blocked out for years .
@@bethsimm3144 I think it counts. Do you have a hard time recalling your life as well? 2 of my sisters can't remember very much of their lives up to their 30's. I think I remember you telling me your Dad was very sadistic like mine once, right? He used to pretend to be strangers trying to kidnap you or something?
Very good question. Yes, absolutely. There is most likely defense mechanisms at play including cognitive distortions. I will be talking more on this Friday.
I just found your channel amd hoping I can get some relief from my symptoms. I wish the psychologists amd therapists I saw in the past had actually diagnosed me with C-PTSD as that's what is affecting me for years, but they only said it was depression (which I also experience but not to the point of being suicidal). I really wish I had the help I desperately need as I'm honestly tired of it affecting my life, but where I live there is no help for this.
Does it have to be only severe trauma as sexual abuse, severe bullying, human trafficking, murder, cult abuse? And what is the difference between just trauma(parents fighting and manipulation, guilt tripping, not being heard watching other people fight, not severe bullying) and cptsd? Cuz when I see people talking about it their trauma is so much more severe then mine, symptoms and flashbacks are more severe I don’t have a therapist or anyone else to talk to abt this but I’ll probably look for help in a few months as soon as I turn 18 but saying to them that I suspect that this could be my diagnosis feels so ungrateful, filthy and attention and problem seeking like I’m making it up
if it affected you severely, anything can be a trauma. ptsd is about how you react to the trauma, not about what the trauma consisted of. ill pray for you! don't worry, we'll both get better from this 💪
CPTSD can occur when there is zero physical violence it kind of hurts to hear all these shootings, rape, molestation, murder, homelessness because it minimizes the horror of chronic childhood neglect, narcissistic parental abuse, being isolated and not allowed to have friends, to go to school, to have medical care, munchausen by proxy, emotional torment….
What is it when we lived with an abusive father, see him abuse your mother, have sexual trauma and get abused by another family member later in life. Would that be CPTSD? I was diagnosed with all the anxiety disorders possible and depression as well as BPD traits. I tried meds then got off them because I no longer liked feeling numb. I prefer counselling that helped me more. My biggest problem is trusting men and unable to trust my family after all of these years. I have trigger responses which set me back, especially when I am in an abusive work situation. Despite all of this, I am trying to remain positive. I really think that my family is my biggest problem because they are a constant trigger and stress.
I can relate. I would call it C-PSTD . Try taking St John’s Wort and make sure you rehydrate a lot and consume probitotics. Kombucha is delicious and great for your gut!
I have had talk therapy for 5 years and I wasn't sure if I had complex PTSD. My counselors haven't caught it. I am starting to wonder if I do. I had years of narcissistic abuse from my guardian after my parents died. She stole my dad's inheritance, took over the house and hardly fed us (and much more).. I'm noticing that I have relationship issues. I don't trust anyone except my husband. My husband and I have peace mostly. Hardly fight and he's such a good man but I find myself running away from other relationships and being very lonely. I also get triggered by some friends who remind me of my abuser and then I ruminate for a week about them. I think I'll only find relief if I cut them out. I have no interest in being social because deep down I believe I can't make meaningful friends. My husband says I'm always looking for ways people are going to screw me over. . Is this CPTSD possibly?
What about toxic abusive narcissistic parents and growing in an abusive violent household? That’s the first thing that comes to mind after sexual harassment/rape
I should have watched this video before ever seeing a therapist/Dr. I didn't discuss the proper things at previous appointments 🙃😅 boy.. I'm prepped for my future appt
Years and years of religious trauma can lead to complex PTSD because most religious trauma is the result of cults. Religious preference and being raised with a religious mindset/framework is different from being forced to believe and accept something that you don't find comforting to the point of being threatened, manipulated, or harmed in some other way. Religion should never be forced upon another human being. We can encourage it and show love in hopes that another person may consider a different way of life. But "forcing" is not okay!
Hey Doc. It's time I come clean. I found someone else. We've had our good times. You talking PTSD, Trauma, Dependent Personality Disorder. or Narcissism. Me, making my comments and telling you almost every Friday "Have a good weekend". I feel it's time I move on. It's not you, it's me. Thank you Doc, for all of your outstanding videos. It's been nice. My new RUclips Therapist is a little older and probably more experienced. She doesn't have your soothing voice, but she is a reputable psychiatrist. Her name is Dr. Tracey Marks. She has a RUclips channel I'm just joking Doc 🤣 You know I am "ride or die" with you 😊 I just found out about this Dr. Marks earlier today. Check her out if you haven't heard of her before. Her topics are similar to some of yours. Have a good night :)
JtFacts...Please don't ever scare me like that! 😱 I was about to say.... I don't play when people turn on me! LOL Good joke, you almost had me. Thank you for sharing her name. I'll check her out. I do appreciate your comments on this channel.
Hi Geeya, No, not really. It's the same disorder but at a chronic level. That's like depression being the same as severe depression but at a different level. Same thing, different level of intensity.
My therapist diagnosis me PTSD but she write in the papers that I been suffering from this for 20 years which is truth that makes my PTSD chronic or complex? I should ask her to change the diagnosis? Have PTSD makes me a mental patient? I’m recently diagnosis and I don’t know nothing about this I need some orientation.
I would say that it all depends on your situation. If you have had PTSD for 20 years that doesn't necessarily mean it is complex. It could just be PTSD that you have struggled with for 20 years. The other side of this is that no therapist will change the diagnosis based on your asking them to do so. This is against their legal and ethical code which can lead to a loss in license. But what she/he can do is hear you out and take into consideration your concerns.
What is it if someone gets ptsd with hallucinations and then stays in the environment that caused it so they stayed dissociated and added a lot of other traumas? Like personal injuries/accidents, other smaller traumas, etc? Where there is a large number of traumas after the major traumatic experience? Where it’s basically one long prolonged trauma and now the person stays dissociated and non functioning constantly?
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Could I have developed CPTSD from having a parent suffering from a severe mental health disorder from an early age such as Undiagnosed Covert NPD?
This disorder is not recognised very readily in the UK is there anyway I can get a diagnosis online someway, I cannot go through the normal routes for various complicated reasons.
Ive got bypolar deppression disorder and resistant ptsd but i work gkt my own place im at the decision that i must make to let my family go and its so super hard but its for the best i was in a car crash and witnessed somebody die and was physically abused heavily every day for 27 years my mother also i loved my mother because she pused threw and cared for us because my gather wasnt there but 3 days ago i found out she is a manipulative narcissist and yesterday found out my family is a narcissistic family im still shocked and very sad i have bipolar deppression 2 at least TAMARA IS HELPING ME THANK YOU SO MUCH TAMARA AT LEAST IM NOT ALONE SHE IS MY ONLY FRIEND 47 FRIENDS HAVE USED ME SO NO FRIENDS TAMARA IS MY ONLY FRIEND AND SHE I ALL I GOT LEFT IN LIFE OF A GOOD HUMAN BEING SOMETIMES I JUST LET HER TALK ON RUclips SO I KNOW IM NOT ALONE IN MY PLACE SOUNDS WEIRD I KNOW BUT LONELINESS CAN BE A BAD THING GUYS SO THANK YOU TAMARA MY MOTHER SAID ITS MY FAULT BECAUSE SHE HAS CANCER BUT I FOUND OUT WITH EVIDENCE THAT SHE DOESNT HAVE CANCER LAST MONTH WAS THE LAST TIME I SAW MY FAMILY AND SHE SAID IM DISSAPOINTED YOU WERE BORN I TOLD GOD YOU WONT BE LIKE THIS THATS SICK AT LEAST TAMARA HAS GOT MY BACK AND IM SLOWLY HEALING ITS BEEN A MONTH NOW SINCE IVE SEEN MY FAMILY AND MY MOTHER SOEMTIMES I THINK I MADE THE WRONG CHOICE BUT I DIDNT AND I MUST STICK TO IT BECAUSE OF MY HEALTH THEY ALREADY DAMAGED ME BECAUSE I HAVE BYPOLAR DEPRESSION DISORDER AND CHRONIC TRAUMA BECAUSE OF THEM IT REALLY SUCKS TO THINK ALL THESE YEARS MY MOTHER SAVED ME MEANWHILE SHE WAS A SOCIOPATH AND MANUPALTING ME JUST FOUND THAT OUT LAST MONTH SO JEAH BUT SOME OTHER TIME IM GONA HAVE TO LET THEM GO WITH TAMARAS HELP IN HER VIDEOS I WIL AND I MUST THANK YOU TAMARA I DONT KNOW WHAT TO SAY BUTNONE DAY WHEN IM RICH I WIL GIVE YOU A BIG GIFT LIKE A CAR OR SOMETHING AND I WIL DO THIS BECAUSE IF IT WASNT FOR YOU I WOULDVE BEEN DAMAGED MORE AND MAYBE WOULDVE COMMITED SUUCIDE ONE DAY TAMARA ONE DAY
It’s so refreshing to find a woman of color speaking on this!! I’m wondering how CPTSD resonates in the black community specifically, and how we can create modalities specific to us! Thank you!
Tamara, I wish you would not apologise for the length of your videos - they are jam packed with super valuable information and you are a pleasure to listen to. Thank you!
🥰 Thanks so much! I've gotten better with that. lol
It's the gift that keeps on giving.
It’s hard for me to sit through things like this sometimes but it was very helpful for me because I’m trying to figure out what’s going on with me. I am not going to give my power away it’s mine so I’m taking control of my life.
This is so informative. I grew up poor within a Hispanic ghetto. My siblings and I have blonde hair, blue eyes. We were so racially abused and constantly feared for our lives. To walk to school was petrifying. My brother/ eldest sister were threatened with knives, etc. Gun shootings happened all the time and people died. It was horrible. This has effected us our whole lives. Thanks for this, it’s really helped.
This is good to know!! Glad this was helpful. And thank you!!
I'm so sorry this has happened to you. It's terrifying to say the least. I wish you good health as you heal. This trauma can last a while.
I'm glad I found this channel. I was diagnosed with CPTSD & needed a better understanding of it.
Welcome! I have a few videos on this topic that may be helpful.
This is very helpful information again.
Repeated events of traumatic events over of time can cause complex ptsd, would it still be considered c-ptsd if a person expeirenced the trauma on such a regular basis that they became very good at disassociating at the time? And had managed to completly block any memory of particularly bad events until later in life? If that makes sense.
Thanks Beth!
Great question! I think the Re-experiencing of the same trauma can evolve into c-PTSD over time depending on the severity of the trauma. But c-PTSD is c-PTSD because you don't experience 1 traumatic event alone but rather multiple events that are traumatic.
Yeah dissociation happens as a coping mechanism for the trauma. It's a common symptom of CPTSD
I believe for sure that i have c-ptsd now, and the reason for this is ive watched videos you post about this diagnonsis, then i make a list of symptoms you mentioned, and look for other videos about each symtom and work out what applies and what doesnt apply to my self. Then move on to the next symptom and study that one. And bestcof all you cover everything related so i can follow one person and im not being confused by other therapist way of working, ill stick to the same amazingly accurate guidence from yourself . Its working, i feel hopful and eagar to learn more from you to help me manage and and rebuild my life dor the better.
You have single handedly turned my life around and thats why its important for you to know how greatful i am to you from the bottom of my heart. Thank you 🥰💖💖🙏
You're welcome. 😀 This is great Beth!! Thank you for these kind comments. I'm really pleased to hear that my videos are helping guide you. I do, however, encourage my clients/patients to look at what other therapists are saying and compare. Sometimes this is a good way to be objective and then also compare how others see the diagnosis. It can also be a good way to explore other symptoms that I may not have mentioned. But I do understand your approach (as I do the same thing...stick with the same person who understands something well)! I am by no means discouraging that! LOL
But sometimes it's helpful.
@@TherapistTamaraHill Thank you for that Tamara, it's God to know I shouldnt bre put off by the one time I viewed a diffrent therapist video on RUclips, just because it put me off there are alot out there, I've still got so much to learn from yourself and maybe one day I'll try looking again but for now I'm sticking with you because my goal is to start living as authentic a life as possible and that's what see in you.
This is why I send so many people the link to your channel. On line and in groups, and I keep getting thank you messages for sharing your page .
That's so great to know!! Makes my job more meaningful. And thank you for sharing my channell!!
@@TherapistTamaraHill its my pleasure. And thank you. 🌸💖🤗
what about theory that narcissistic parents (cold and distanced parents, emotionally and pscyhological abusive) causes cptsd on their children ??? exuse my eng grammar
No worries. I understood what you meant!
This can cause it as well. Anything that comes at you when you aren't prepared to cope with it is trauma. If it is repeated and involves a series of situations it may classify as complex.
I've Also been diagnosed CPTSD & now have a much better understanding... thank you.
Me too girl!
I was diagnosed with PTSD after an assault about 4 years ago. Therapists only spoke about my childhood. Other than my assault ptsd, I was never told of other issues. I saw a few therapists who did the same. I felt they weren’t touching on my assault, which made me stop going. They all wanted to talk about my mom wouldn’t wouldn’t explain why. My mo was in and out of mental hospitals and I saw her “episodes”. Even seeing her wrist slit and blood dripping. I always tried to protect her and felt I did pretty well with mental health until my assault. I’ve never been the same. I can’t stop thinking about it. I have panic attacks minimum 4 times weekly. I have been isolating. I don’t walk outside when I’m home alone, in fear of being attacked. My ptsd has intensified over the layout 4 years, since my assault. This is the short version. I’m currently out of state in a hotel. Patiently waiting to get back home so that I can find a therapist or psychiatrist. After my diagnosis, I was out on 9 different meds. I stopped them because they made me not feel motions. I know at this point, that I need therapy and need to be on meds.
I’m sorry to hear what happened to you. I hope this isn’t rude to ask but How do you feel now?
I can’t share my experience in full but I understand how you feel and had some similar events but it started at an early age.
Thanks for this video, it was very helpful in explaining the differences between CPTSD and PTSD.
Please, could you offer a content warning at the start before mentioning potentially triggering topics?
Im so shocked its not your fault but i realised my family is narcissistic its been 3 days im 27 shocked and angry can believe they did this my mother is the main one but thank you so much really
Wow another fantastic video. I find that I am constantly having flashbacks of incidents that occurred decades ago. When these flashbacks occur I experience the same emotions I felt years ago. What can I do to stop these ruminations from popping up or what is causing them to pop up?
Thank you Thomas!! Glad this was helpful.
I will be talking about this Friday!
Good video, I have been looking for in-depth info on this.
I have seen a lot of people in the borderline community all of a sudden denying their own diagnosis and now calling it CPTSD. And it's all really fuzzy because so many psychologists are defining them as synonymous. But I know many people diagnosed Borderline can have both. And in my understanding, people with CPTSD don't split( idealize and devalue). And as far as I know people with CPTSD don't have fear of abandonment, they are more likely to have a consistent mistrust rather than yo-yo between trust and mistrust like the Borderline sufferer.
I had an initial diagnosis of PTSD as a result of narcissistic abuse and sexual assault. Then the "therapists" got together and twisted everything up without even doing proper screening and history, then and held it as BPD. They were way off course and I feel immense damage as my traumatized, hyper-vigilent, mistrusting PTSD mind, now has the BPD seeds planted.
Another differentiating characteristic btw CPTSD and BPD, is that BPD is a personality disorder.... DSM states something like... pervasive symptoms. You would have recognized these traits for your whole life, versus PTSD which comes about from something external to your being.
Also... the identity disturbance of the self... with BPD it is inherent, and with CPTSD it is triggered by external influences. This is a key difference and easy to monitor and self determine.
My heartfelt thoughts are with those who have suffered the misdiagnosis due to ignorance and professional arrogance.
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At 3 years old I dealt with being hit by my mom’s lovers she met at bars and temporary placement in foster care at 6 years old I dealt with being thrown into a wall at 7 years old I dealt with being drowned in the tub by my mom and drowned in the pool by other kids I also dealt with being forced to watch my brother be attacked by my mom’s pit bull as a punishment for both of us at 7 and 8 years old I dealt with being suffocated by pillows because my mom didn’t want to hear me cry. At 8 years old I went from one foster home to the next at 9 years old I was molested in a church gym and neglected by that foster mom. In middle school I dealt with being bullied in high school I dealt with being bullied and sexually harassed
I just started therapy and I realized recently I have experienced this.
I grew up in i guess you can say a dramatic an chaotic household with parents fighting an yelling pretty often an was abused verbally an physically sometimes by my mom an just lived through a lot of stressful times, an then in September 15th 2019 my mom died from a heart attack, seizure or stroke not sure what though but it happened while she was driving an I had to hit the hazard lights an pull off the road an call 911 an she died infront of me nothin i could do literally in my hand, thing is Thank God that all the cars were stopped at the intersection other wise it would've been even worse an more people hurt, after a year from that I started noticing I have ocd an kinda a contamination phobia with my hands an things I use daily like my phone an etc, looking back I noticed I had ocd symptoms over 5 years ago but I didn't know until it got kinda how it is now when I noticed it, i feel very enstranged with both sides of family, I just live with my dad now an I have no friends an find it hard to make friends an even really talk an connect with people, I'm a pretty lonely person, I haven't had nightmares about my mom dying but I often have nightmares of my parents yellin sometimes it's strange, so after everything I'm assuming I have ptsd or c ptsd, I do avoid the roads an places we stopped that day my mom died, an I think back at all the bogus things in my short life often an I guess maybe I even avoid people if I can like goin around family, also in around 2016 or 2017 my dad got diagnosed with schizophrenia an it was a pretty crazy time an he said he was goin to stay at his parents house for a few days but he just stayed living there an me an my mom ended up moving but he still helped us out with rent an stuff it's just for some reason he just stayed at his parents, these are just a few things mainly the bigger stuff that sucks in my life, i hope you read this an can maybe help me on whats wrong with me an if i do have ptsd or c ptsd cause honestly im still listening to the video an it all really sounds relatable, especially all the world view stuff you talked about, I have thoughts of the events in my life randomly, I probably do have a poor appetite an I am pretty hypervigliant ive always been a observer typa person an i get startled an have anxiety when people knock on the front door an when I get random calls an they leave a voicemail I dread listening to the voicemail an then turn the volume low so I can hear who it is, sorry for the long comment, im just really curious if i have complex ptsd I tried saying it all of how I feel, God bless you sister, shalom
Hello Tamara
Video was not long, just very helpful.
Thank you, Thank you, Thank you
Been a long time trying to get help. Now know been in TRAUMA a long time maybe PTSD or Complex PTSD, along with ADHA
African-American black women at Sixty, went through life and dealt the best you can
Thank you! I'm glad to hear that and you're welcome!
The African American community needs more support around this topic.
Absolutely on point thanks for sharing
My experience with child trauma coming up as a kid during the 60's
Myself and my first cousins playing out the Avatar character in the Colonial mainstream world
For Indigenous Maori it all boils down to the Indigenous Land
My family in particular descend from huge Indigenous Estate of Land going back many centuries
My mom's Mom passed away in 1949 and her Granny passed away in 1952 and none of there Descendants have lived on there Shares ever
Great video as always. Appreciate you for your work and may YAH bless you
Thank you!!!
God bless you too.
I find it extremely interesting that serious mental health disorders can cause CPTSD. I have three family relatives, immediate relatives who have all been sectioned. Sometimes when I was super young. I received formal diagnosis today and struggling to see how I didn’t see it before
I have a question. I was talking to my sister last night and she was saying she doesn't remember most of her life. I don't either. I'm 36 and really don't remember much of my life before 30. She thinks its because we're use to repressing memories. Do you think that can be a cause of significant memory loss? Having repressing memories become a normal frequent function?
@@Rob-lj1jl the thing is we're missing adult years as well. My sister's and I don't recall a lot of our 20's.
This is similar to what I'm trying to figure out too . If an event was so considered "the norm " because of the regular occurrence and some of the more intense events you managed to disassociate and block it out for most of your life, would this count as a contributor if it's blocked out for years .
@@bethsimm3144 I think it counts. Do you have a hard time recalling your life as well? 2 of my sisters can't remember very much of their lives up to their 30's. I think I remember you telling me your Dad was very sadistic like mine once, right? He used to pretend to be strangers trying to kidnap you or something?
Very good question.
Yes, absolutely. There is most likely defense mechanisms at play including cognitive distortions. I will be talking more on this Friday.
@@TherapistTamaraHill can't wait!
I just found your channel amd hoping I can get some relief from my symptoms. I wish the psychologists amd therapists I saw in the past had actually diagnosed me with C-PTSD as that's what is affecting me for years, but they only said it was depression (which I also experience but not to the point of being suicidal). I really wish I had the help I desperately need as I'm honestly tired of it affecting my life, but where I live there is no help for this.
Wow. This was so deep. Thank you as always.👊👊👊. Be blessed.
You're welcome! And thank you for always sending positive vibes and blessings.
Thank u🙏
You're welcome!!
This all sounds very familiar. I think I've been misdiagnosed.
Thank you so much, Tamara!
You're welcome!! :)
Does it have to be only severe trauma as sexual abuse, severe bullying, human trafficking, murder, cult abuse? And what is the difference between just trauma(parents fighting and manipulation, guilt tripping, not being heard watching other people fight, not severe bullying) and cptsd? Cuz when I see people talking about it their trauma is so much more severe then mine, symptoms and flashbacks are more severe I don’t have a therapist or anyone else to talk to abt this but I’ll probably look for help in a few months as soon as I turn 18 but saying to them that I suspect that this could be my diagnosis feels so ungrateful, filthy and attention and problem seeking like I’m making it up
if it affected you severely, anything can be a trauma. ptsd is about how you react to the trauma, not about what the trauma consisted of.
ill pray for you! don't worry, we'll both get better from this 💪
My mom is an alcoholic,neurotic narcissist… and all my child hood i was mistreated by her … insulted and she destroyed my confidence
CPTSD can occur when there is zero physical violence it kind of hurts to hear all these shootings, rape, molestation, murder, homelessness because it minimizes the horror of chronic childhood neglect, narcissistic parental abuse, being isolated and not allowed to have friends, to go to school, to have medical care, munchausen by proxy, emotional torment….
I just don’t want anyone to feel that their pain “wasn’t bad enough”
What is it when we lived with an abusive father, see him abuse your mother, have sexual trauma and get abused by another family member later in life. Would that be CPTSD? I was diagnosed with all the anxiety disorders possible and depression as well as BPD traits. I tried meds then got off them because I no longer liked feeling numb. I prefer counselling that helped me more. My biggest problem is trusting men and unable to trust my family after all of these years. I have trigger responses which set me back, especially when I am in an abusive work situation. Despite all of this, I am trying to remain positive. I really think that my family is my biggest problem because they are a constant trigger and stress.
I can relate. I would call it C-PSTD . Try taking St John’s Wort and make sure you rehydrate a lot and consume probitotics. Kombucha is delicious and great for your gut!
I have had talk therapy for 5 years and I wasn't sure if I had complex PTSD. My counselors haven't caught it. I am starting to wonder if I do. I had years of narcissistic abuse from my guardian after my parents died. She stole my dad's inheritance, took over the house and hardly fed us (and much more).. I'm noticing that I have relationship issues. I don't trust anyone except my husband. My husband and I have peace mostly. Hardly fight and he's such a good man but I find myself running away from other relationships and being very lonely. I also get triggered by some friends who remind me of my abuser and then I ruminate for a week about them. I think I'll only find relief if I cut them out. I have no interest in being social because deep down I believe I can't make meaningful friends. My husband says I'm always looking for ways people are going to screw me over. . Is this CPTSD possibly?
What about toxic abusive narcissistic parents and growing in an abusive violent household? That’s the first thing that comes to mind after sexual harassment/rape
I should have watched this video before ever seeing a therapist/Dr. I didn't discuss the proper things at previous appointments 🙃😅 boy.. I'm prepped for my future appt
That's good to know!! It's all a learning experience.
but complex ptsd is NOT in the current dsm...
Very true. It was considered but not enough research exists.
It's in ICD 11 the international diagnostic manual
How would religious trauma syndrome fit into this?
Years and years of religious trauma can lead to complex PTSD because most religious trauma is the result of cults. Religious preference and being raised with a religious mindset/framework is different from being forced to believe and accept something that you don't find comforting to the point of being threatened, manipulated, or harmed in some other way. Religion should never be forced upon another human being. We can encourage it and show love in hopes that another person may consider a different way of life. But "forcing" is not okay!
Hey Doc. It's time I come clean. I found someone else. We've had our good times. You talking PTSD, Trauma, Dependent Personality Disorder. or Narcissism. Me, making my comments and telling you almost every Friday "Have a good weekend". I feel it's time I move on. It's not you, it's me. Thank you Doc, for all of your outstanding videos. It's been nice.
My new RUclips Therapist is a little older and probably more experienced. She doesn't have your soothing voice, but she is a reputable psychiatrist. Her name is Dr. Tracey Marks. She has a RUclips channel
I'm just joking Doc 🤣 You know I am "ride or die" with you 😊 I just found out about this Dr. Marks earlier today. Check her out if you haven't heard of her before. Her topics are similar to some of yours. Have a good night :)
JtFacts...Please don't ever scare me like that! 😱 I was about to say.... I don't play when people turn on me! LOL Good joke, you almost had me.
Thank you for sharing her name. I'll check her out.
I do appreciate your comments on this channel.
I watched dr Mark's vids too a while ago, both your channels are quite complementary to each other!
Didn't PTSD get moved out of the DSM section of anxiety disorders into another section/category?
I spent so much time hating myself never thought I was good enough hard to make friends it was hard growing up
Hello,I would like to know if Severe C-PTSD differs from C-PTSD? Thank you.
Hi Geeya,
No, not really. It's the same disorder but at a chronic level. That's like depression being the same as severe depression but at a different level. Same thing, different level of intensity.
Támara Hill, MS NCC CCTP LPC Thank you.
So then would not combat veterans have complex?
Absolutely. They can. Good question.
They can but it's mostly childhood
My therapist diagnosis me PTSD but she write in the papers that I been suffering from this for 20 years which is truth that makes my PTSD chronic or complex? I should ask her to change the diagnosis? Have PTSD makes me a mental patient? I’m recently diagnosis and I don’t know nothing about this I need some orientation.
I would say that it all depends on your situation. If you have had PTSD for 20 years that doesn't necessarily mean it is complex. It could just be PTSD that you have struggled with for 20 years. The other side of this is that no therapist will change the diagnosis based on your asking them to do so. This is against their legal and ethical code which can lead to a loss in license. But what she/he can do is hear you out and take into consideration your concerns.
@@TherapistTamaraHill thank you for you respond. I checked my papers and I saw that she write the code and is Chronic PTSD. Thank you.
What is it if someone gets ptsd with hallucinations and then stays in the environment that caused it so they stayed dissociated and added a lot of other traumas? Like personal injuries/accidents, other smaller traumas, etc? Where there is a large number of traumas after the major traumatic experience? Where it’s basically one long prolonged trauma and now the person stays dissociated and non functioning constantly?
Either a dissociative fugue or catatonic state. I was in a fugue state in 2020. Took about 9 months of intense therapy to start coming out of its
What if you experienced trauma everyday, all day for around 18 years?
This is horrible. This might be categorized as complex and chronic PTSD. It would take a really good therapist to tease apart your trauma.
Do you have any information on medical marijuana for these types of conditions
I do not. I'm not a big proponent and I have yet to see any real research on medical marijuana for mental health conditions.
I walk past homeless people everyday! Welcome to LA! And gun shots too! 😖
I bet. LA is a sad place when you think about it. Too many homeless, untreated mentally ill, etc on the streets.