Yes because of the crap food that's available. Food can be as deadly as drugs and I would say just as if not more addicting. Fast food isn't food. Its chemicals and has things in it to make you crave it. Dangerous. The government doesn't want healthy people they want sick overweight people so they can push their drugs
@@B_Bodziak He's probably developed a method of compartmentalizing. Constant frustration is unavoidable when this is your medical specialty. Dr. Now gets lied to, yelled at, and ignored every day. And the amount of whining and complaining he hears would drive anyone else insane. Enablers and their antics must be highly frustrating too. And oh my God the constant refusal to even TRY to walk or do PT, and the times the person doesn't lose a single pound in 3 months. Then there are the absolute psycho / clinically delusional patients every once in a while. How do you argue with a person that honest-to-God, 100%, and with intense conviction, actually believes a human body can gain 80 pounds of water weight in 3 months because they retained water once when they hurt their leg at 15 years old? Like how....? I ❤ Dr. Now. I can't imagine how much bullshit that man has listened to given the length of his career!
@@katherinejoseph7060 Food addiction is one of the hardest addictions to beat because food can not be prohibited. No one would expect an alcoholic to be able to "control themselves" by having two drinks every day. But, that's what is expected of those with food addictions. Additionally, there are no legal repercussions for indulging in excessive food like there often are with alcohol and drug addictions. I hope that there is group therapy (like 12 Step meetings for other addictions) for Dr. Now's patie
@@B_Bodziak There actually IS a 12 Step Program that is used for weight loss . IT'S CALLED OVEREATERS ANONYMOUS AND IT WORKS GREAT IF YOU STAY ON THE PROGRAM EXACTLY AS YOU ARE SUPPOSED TO DO . I DID ONE OF THE PROGRAMS BACK IN THE 1980s AND IN THE 1990s - YES !!!! I DID IT TWICE AND IT WORKED GREAT BOTH TIMES . MY PROBLEM WAS THAT I HIT A PLATEAU , BOTH TIMES THAT I WAS ON THE PROGRAM AND I JUST LOST MY DESIRE TO STAY ON IT ANY LONGER . I WAS EATING ONLY 2 MEALS A DAY AND I STILL WASN'T LOSING ANY WEIGHT . I GOT UPSET ABOUT IT AND AT MYSELF BECAUSE I COULDN'T LOSE ANY MORE WEIGHT THAN I HAD ALREADY LOST WHICH WAS 96 POUNDS THE FIRST TIME AND 86 POUNDS THE SECOND TIME . IN BETWEEN EACH TIME , I WOULD GAIN THE WEIGHT BACK - PLUS SOME MORE WEIGHT ADDED TO THAT WEIGHT !!!! NOW I WEIGH 245 POUNDS AND I USED TO WEIGH UP TO 269 POUNDS SEVERAL YEARS AGO . WHILE I'M NOT HAPPY WITH MY WEIGHT NOW , I'M NOT TRYING TO LOSE ANY MORE WEIGHT BECAUSE IT JUST SEEMS THAT WHENEVER I TRY TO LOSE WEIGHT , I JUST GAIN IT RIGHT BACK ANYWAY . SO , HERE I SIT ON MY SOFA TYPING THIS TO YOU SO THAT YOU CAN GET SOME INSIGHT INTO THE MIND OF A COMPULSIVE OVEREATER . MY MOM AND MY DAD BOTH DIED IN 2007 AND THE ONLY FAMILY THAT I HAVE LEFT IS MY SISTER WHO IS MEAN TO ME AND I DON'T EVEN UNDERSTAND WHY SHE WON'T COME AND SEE ME . SHE LIVES ABOUT 10 TO 15 MINUTES FROM ME AND SHE STILL WON'T COME AND SEE ME !!!! SHE SAYS THAT SHE HAS TO WORK AND SHE DOESN'T HAVE ANY TIME TO COME AND SEE ME . WELL , I'M NOT GOING TO BE AROUND FOR MUCH LONGER BECAUSE I AM GOING TO BE 64 YEARS OLD THIS YEAR AND SHE'LL BE 66 YEARS OLD THIS YEAR . I HAVEN'T SEEN HER IN ALMOST 9 YEARS AND I JUST THINK THAT IT'S A SHAME THAT SHE WON'T COME AND SEE ME ANY MORE . IT WILL BE 9 YEARS IN APRIL THAT SHE LAST SAW ME . I'M SO LONELY AND ALONE WITH NO CAR TO GO TO THE PLACES THAT I WOULD LIKE TO GO . I CAN RIDE THE PUBLIC TRANSPORTATION BUS TO GO TO THE DOCTOR OR TO WALMART IF I NEED TO , BUT , OTHER THAN THAT , I'M STUCK HERE IN MY APARTMENT . THE APARTMENT WHERE I LIVE IS FOR PEOPLE WITH MENTAL HEALTH PROBLEMS AND MOST OF THEM ARE SCHIZOPHRENIC AND I HAVE A DIFFICULT TIME GETTING ALONG WITH THEM BECAUSE THEY DON'T REMEMBER MUCH OF WHAT I SAY TO THEM . I'M HERE BECAUSE I WAS DETERMINED TO KILL MYSELF IN2005 AND I HAVE MAJOR CLINICAL DEPRESSION WITH SUICIDAL THOUGHTS AND ACTIONS AND I HAVE BORDERLINE PERSONALITY DISORDER AS WELL . SO IT'S JUST VERY DIFFICULT TO HAVE A RELATIONSHIP WITH ANYONE HERE . I REALLY JUST WANT TO GO BACK HOME TO MY OLD HOME , BUT I CAN'T BECAUSE I DON'T HAVE ENOUGH MONEY TO PAY FOR MY OLD HOME BECAUSE IT'S GONE UP IN PRICE (WAAAAAY UP) - FROM $80 , 000 00 TO $496 , 000 . 00 IN JUST 19 YEARS !!!!! THERE'S NO WAY THAT I COULD AFFORD THAT AMOUNT OF MONEY - EVER !!!! I JUST HAVE ALOT OF PROBLEMS RIGHT NOW AND I CAN'T GET OUT OF THEM FOR ANYTHING . I JUST HOPE THAT YOU HAVE A GREAT WEEKEND !
I watched this episode. Margaret has the emotional maturity of a 4 year old. Her mom is overcompensating for not being there as Margaret was growing up. She babies her constantly. I hope Margaret makes it and gains some independence.
She would have that level of maturity & well spotted! the way we mature is to learn to cope with problems - things happened to her a long time ago & she coped by eating ....she seems to be catching on to it though !!
When I became paralyzed at 23 yrs old, my mom had to quit her job to take care of me. I saw how hard it was for her to take care of me and the rest of the family so I did what it took to better myself so my mom didn’t have to take care of me. I did my physical therapy and became independent 5 yrs later. I still paralyzed but I can drive, work, cook and clean. I don’t need help with anything. I didn’t want to be a burden to anyone. I don’t understand how these people can live this way and be a burden.
See that's not something you can control being paralyzed I know a lot of people are going to get upset with this but I understand eating too much food is an addiction but these people need to do something to try to get better. Yes dieting exercising and eating healthy are important but these people have mental issues I need to get help.
Sadly people do it all the time, because they value sort-term happiness -or- temporary peace from the "victim's" abrasive/abusive behaviors more than desiring what's ultimately best for their ultimate emotional/ physical health.
Exactly right. I love my sons more than my own Iife. But I wouId never, ever feed them to 💀 Idk how peopIe justify it no matter how mean someone gets or how much they yell. If they cannot get out of bed to get it, then stop enabling them. Leave if they're having a tantrum, what can they do about it ?
I have been watching Dr. Now for many years and am in awe of his prowess and concern for his patients. He is a Hero in my book. Thank you Dr. Now for being there for those in need who really want to change their lives.
It's so good when we get to see that smile he has, where you can just tell he gets "job satisfaction" bcz his patients are moving in the right direction. It's like gets joy from giving people their lives back.😊
What trauma? She's no idea what 'trauma' is. There are people in this world living in slavery - now, in the 21st century - and being tortured; there are people too, millions of them, who daily face dragging themselves out of bed to go to a job they hate - but they do it because they have a sense of responsibility and there are people, especially women (90% in one country) who live with domestic violence.
I like Dr. Now. Altho some don't like his bedside manner, he is exactly what these patients need. He truly does care. I hope she gets the help she needs
he always knows to be kind to the more fragile patients. This woman seems terrified, and I know that he can sense that and doesn’t pile on the misery with what he usually says to his more manipulative combative patients.
I am so amazed at how the human body can stretch to 600lbs+. It doesn’t sound possible. When you weigh that much you lose hundreds of pounds in months from simple dieting.
I love Dr Now. He’s helped so many people get their lives back and to believe in themselves. I like that he’s honest and will use tough love to drive the facts home. ❤
This lady would do best in a rehab for awhile. The sick dynamic between her and her mother has to be broken up somehow. As long as they're in the same house nothing will change.
She definitely needs therapy too, probably both of them to break the toxic cycle they are in. I hope she gets help and can work hard to save her own life. I'm not quite 5 ft and I cannot even fathom carrying around hundreds of extra pounds. The 20 I need to lose makes me uncomfortable and I know it's not easy. Just wow, 750 lbs. It's hard to comprehend how much some humans can eat. I would literally throw up if I even tried to eat a fraction of what they do. I'm stuffed after a cup of soup and small sandwich. And I eat a meal like that and then stop. Sometimes it tastes so good I think I want more. But in 20 min or so, I'm very glad I didn't because I'm full and don't need more. I hope most of all these people can start to feel some self worth and heal from whatever trauma makes them eat to escape it. 🙏
Drug addicts die everyday. She wants food more than life because she is a food addict. She didn’t get help when she was able to move and now that she is immobile she is manipulative and abusive to get her drug.
I just think Dr Now is fantastic good on him for trying to help all these people, I pray that they all lose the weight they need to, thank God 4 Dr NOW
Mom chose an abusive man over kids plus enabled and spoiled the kid with food. Sorry but if my abusive man went away for months he couldn't physically force me to go if he wasn't around. That was their freedom. It was moms choice. Many women choose the man over the kids. U don't watch your toddlers starve but fill your husband's plate. U feed your kids when he isn't watching or around & feed them healthy. U take your kids out of there to safety. But still as an adult grow up and stop blaming being a glutton on something that happened decades ago. Every person on this earth has suffered tragedy. Death, abuses etc. The majority don't dwell on it for decades and become addicts and make excuses and do nothing with their lived. They move on get over it learn help others become productive. It's called life.
In situations like these, I often feel like the best thing to do is to keep her in the hospital and implement a strict 1000-1200 calorie diet AND have the staff stop ANY outside food from going into the room by visitors. This should last until the patient can physically take care of herself, including hygiene. That would likely lead to a much healthier outcome down the road than sending her home as is.
Wonder if this happens because the husband and wife are in an "adult" relationship and the kids become "the rest of the world" and the "adult" relationship comes first. I have notice some women will do anything for their husbands even if it is bad for everyone because I and other people are "the rest of the world" we get ignored.
I’m not trying to be an ass, but the mother has been an enabler since day one. And the excuses made up by Margaret are pathetic imo. But I do wish her all the best
There's always an enabler when someone is 600+lbs. However, the "I don't want to fight with (the obese person)" becomes almost mute when the obesity renders them completely immobile. It's easier to close a bedroom door and let her fight with the wall. Unless the mother has some therapy or she (or the daughter) is removed from the current home situation, it seems like an "unwinnable" situation.
Idk why they wait till it’s to late, you lived your life doing what you love even if it kills you. Food made her happy so be happy, no excuses it is what it is.
I feel for all these individuals. I totally understand. I'm 5'6" and 245 lbs. Not happy with that weight but I know when I'm stressed, eating something I like, feels good. And in the past 3 years, there's been a lot of stress. 😢😢😢
Can I just encourage you right now you are worth more than you know you have more value than you see right now, just in case nobody never told you before you are somebody. Just make up your mind to make better choices you can do it
Today's the day to make better choices. You can do it 💪🏾 ✨️ believe in yourself and think about something you would like to do that you can't right nw. You are enough!
You can change it when you're ready. An ex overeater emotional eater here. Get sugar out of the house. Don't try to loose it all at once. Look into low carb or carnivore lifestyle.I bike daily and that helps with my mental health.
@truewoods: A friend of mine was also an emotional eater. Her therapist told her: "If you are stressed and want to eat something - ask yourself beforehand if eating something helps you now. Is the stress over? Make it clear to yourself that it is not so." This helped her a lot and after some time the situation changed. Maybe this will help you too. I wish it to you.
She abdicated responsibility for her children when they were young and now she is trying to re-write history so it was not her fault. If it was not her fault, who's fault was it?
I struggled to lose a few pounds when I was overweight at my highest 200 lbs. So I can imagine how hard it is for somebody at +600lbs even 300-500 lbs. You literally have to discipline yourself and be strong. I lost over 50 lbs by being serious. Hopefully she can overcome too.🙏🏼
Agreed. Even a 15-20lbs weight loss made me feel a million bucks better physically and emotionally. I cant imagine how all that added weight makes someone feel. This show really helps you feel empathy for such a situation
@@juliana76310 When someone said a month after they visited the doctor breathing felt better, moving around felt better, and they lost 40lbs or something, and that is a lot, but for them they are still in a lot of danger, I really started to understand just how bad it must feel for them. Because the road ahead was still so long but they already felt THAT difference. You do feel empathy indeed.
im currently 210. I was 218 a week ago and I lost 8 lbs in one week just by controlling myself and not over eating. Im tall and my weight gets distributed in a way that it doesn't show too much on me so nobody ever really guesses that I weigh this much but I can definitely feel it. Just at 210 pounds and 5'9 I can feel my knees hurting sometimes which is why im determined to lose 40-50 pounds. At 26 years old my knees should not be hurting. I can only imagine the pain on these peoples knees and just joints overall. It must be absolutely excruciating.
@@ariannateodora5469I totally get it. I am 5’7” and once I got up to 194 and I felt miserable. Just had to stop bringing junk into the house, period. And no stops at fast food places, etc. I totally understand about how the taller you are, the more that gets distributed on your body. I am currently at 145, which is not bad, but I would love to get down to the 130s. Those last few pounds are always the hardest.
i’ve been over weight since I was about four years old since I was homeless and couldn’t afford to eat good foods, but I’m at the age where it’s my responsibility now and the show helps me realize that I need to change sooner rather than later.
Mum....you should have left that man as soon as he denied his children food and love. No man should ever come before you children, not even their "father".WOW..heartbreaking.
It's sad to see that she mistreats her mom because of her food addiciton, and her mom not wanting to deal with the harsh words she just keeps enabling her
I have struggled with weight issues most all my life. I've had lots of sexual abuse and abandonment issues since I was little. I think all that plays a role in my issues, but that's no excuse. I've told my kids if I ever get too big to get around, they better not enable me. If I start yelling or talking crazy, just close the door on me and only bring me a healthy amount of food, lol. I am currently 5'7" , large skeletal frame and weigh 230. I'm far from being unable to move around, but I could easily get there if I don't watch myself closely.
The relationship between Margaret and her mother is very unhealthy. Mum allowed dad to abuse the children and then abandoned them to be with him. It looks like she is trying to make up for that neglect now by enabling Margaret with her addiction.
I'm not trying to be mean or anything, but its 100% on the mom. His big self can't do anything but sit and scream from his room. 1000lbs isn't getting up of no bed to force anyone to do anything. She should've fed her kids first.
@@mewmewsasfirebell totally agree! While yes the dad was selfish and an awful person... why did the mom just... let it happen? Why are you letting a 1000lbs pos call your children names? why are you WITH HIM.
Bless her heart! I can't imagine how she has to live, her quality of life has to be very challenging! God bless her! She needs to stop telling her mother she doesn't love her that's has got to be psychological torture!
DR. NOW IS A BLESSING. HE HAS HELPED SO MANY PEOPLE. AND HE DOES HAVE LOTS OF PATIENCE.AND SOMETIMES PEOPLE. DON'T LISTEN TO DR. NOW. AND BLAME HIM FOR THINGS THEY. DON'T DO. . THEY SHOULD BE GRATEFUL FOR DR. NOW TO ACCEPT THEM AND TO HELP THEM THROUGH. THOSE MOMENTS OF LIVING THAT WAY. SEEMS LIKE A LOT OF PAIN. THEY GO THROUGH. THANK YOU DR. NOW FOR BEING THERE AND REACHING OUT FOR OTHER PEOPLE. MAY. GOD CONTINUES TO. BLESS DR. NOW. I LOVE AND MISS YOU DR. NOW WISHED YOU WERE STILL ON TLC. 🤗🙏💜💙💕🤗
I'd have sent her to rehab, and got her a lot of therapy. I always feel like people who had addictions since childhood, need so much more than "you sort yourself out". Habits are such a difficult thing to break, especially when those habits have been with you since childhood. As an example; if you were taught to brush your teeth daily, you wouldn't like to skip a day as an adult. If you weren't made to brush your teeth daily, as an adult you're more likely to skip brushing. If such simple habits are difficult to break, addictions would be 100x harder. These people need that extra help.
No these people need to stop using their childhood as an excuse, it's so easy for them to assign blame to others but not take responsibility for themselves.
@@ivylopez4338 That's why it's called an addiction though. Not an easy thing to quit. I'm not really giving excuses, they still need to help themselves. I'm just saying that they need more help.
I am a 200 pounds......and really a food addict ......i am really greatful to my mother who always scolds me for my eating habbits..... Even if it results in many many fights.....but she has never given up on me...... That is real love!!! Without her I could easily be double the size I am now
Scolding doesn't always help. It only causes severe depression. The mother should have got this woman to help way before she got this heavy. Family dysfunctional is what caused this. It's a long journey for her, but with good therapy and positive support, she can turn this around. Her mother made Yes, and the mother made some bad choices. My hope is that she doesn't abandon her again. This young lady needs positive people around her. Prayers to her
Your Mom is exceptional I pray for you both mental, emotional and physical. As a caregiver myself this is hard to imagine! GOD I am asking that whatever burdens this young woman has release her from it NOW Lord help her to understand that she is loved by you and that is why she is still here and breathing. Let her be able to accept herself worth and know she has God's attention, her moms this doctors and others who care and thats more than enough to get through 😇
'I'm willing to do whatever it takes to get my surgery.' I really don't understand why these people think they're going to get their surgery. And why they haven't done anything themselves. I'm speaking as a former super morbidly obese woman. I've lost 220 pounds. No surgery, no pills. A lot of mental and emotional work. A lot of emotional pain to work through. And an epiphany that food could never give me what I needed.
The mother is a push over I'm sorry... she did NOT have to listen to that man and do as he told. Especially if he was 1000 lbs what's he gonna do run after her ?? Come on....
Maybe he made all the money and she feared he’d leave her if she didn’t go or something. Maybe she felt like something could happen to her physically if she didn’t do as she said. Lots of possibilities.
Just looking at her in that bed in that condition unable to even move on her own just make me realize how insane this behavior is that they did this to themselves its a serious addiction
I believe the price of the food would surpass any government benefits would pay One episode on My 600 lb. Life, a man ate 9 pizzas for lunch. At 20 dollars each, ..do the math, 180 $ for one meal. My opinion only....that's a suicide mission. A deliberate act to end a life. May the Lord be with us.
@@katjygruben6546 it would depend on what amount they receive on benefits though. I’ve seen people use all their benefits money on food just like this. They really don’t have many other expenses as most live at home with mama or a working significant other so believe me. They have enough to spend that much on pizza and then some. Plus. Most places offer discounts on pizza . Like buy two get on half off. Buy during certain times and toppings are free or buy two for the price of one regular and maybe two dollars for the second. It’s definitely possible.
I really don’t get these enablers. If you find yourself getting overwhelmed by the addicts’ poor attempts at guilt tripping and manipulation you should reach out for help so you can handle it better or find someone else to help them with their recovery.
@Nat , in some cases it's almost impossible to get away from a family issue, mainly because it's family, we are all raised to respect, help and protect each other, then when it comes to mother and father... It's barely impossible, mainly because when she started overeating was a kind of revenge due ro the anger she had of her parents. She was probably depressed and anxious, a combo that I can say it's unconceivable for a normal person to understand the things that can happen to people with psychiatric problems that are untreated. Finding treatment alone, for them, is , even when the person is aware of the problem, very difficult. By the video, she was angry and totally unaware of the fact that she was SICK, yes, sick, due to psychiatric problems she didn't have control of her anger neither of her addiction, she was totally unaware that it was regarding to illnesses issues. A toxic family relationship since a person is quite young is likely to cause serious psychiatric and psychological issues that can only be treated since the acknowledgement of the matter, otherwise it's impossible to be treated. She was basically in a "cage" with other " irrational animals" like her. You can't teach a blind person to read a handwritten paper!
I think before Oprah in her self help age, you tube, the social media platforms, and podcasts most people didn’t have resources or access to counseling or self help but in today’s world there are sooo many self help things to teach you how to deal with toxic relationships… one thing I learned is, I can’t change the person’s action/response but I can determine how I’m going to respond…that has saved me many minutes of my life that I wouldn’t get back trying to change someone who sees no issue with their behavior ( family).
Enablers are actually addicted to the addict. It's a tough situation. (I work in mental health and it's infuriating but I understand where they are coming from. It's a foot illness)
I just cannot believe people can live like this. Has to be so painful! The risk of infections on the skin. It’s a slow painful pathway to death. 😢 I pray she loses the weight and gets some help and heals.
So many people have dreadful emotional problems, they stay overweight to have shield of protection. I feel for this young woman. I'm surprised that they don't offer proper counselling as part of their weight loss journey, given that there are emotions tied up with food.
Yeah and multi-millions of people with emotional problems, and/or live with physical abuse, especially in countries where women are regarded as inferior but they have to just get on with life regardless because they don't have the luxury of lying back and stuffing their faces until they can't move.
She's 5'4" and 750lbs. I'd be surprised if she is able to sit upright. Someone this size and immobile does not get this way by themselves. She can't even answer the door for food delivery. If a family member doesn't want to fight with her, close her bedroom door and turn up the music....or just leave the house for a few hours. I understand she has an addiction and food-related addictions have to be the most difficult to recover/over come, but the co-dependency shown by her mother has to be addressed first. Food addiction is much harder to treat than other addictions, like alcohol, drugs, and gambling, because the addict must continue to eat food everyday while in recovery. No medical professional would ever suggest an alcoholic drink 2 cocktails per day or a heroin addict have 2 hits instead of 10 every day, BUT no more. That's exactly what is required of someone with a food addiction. One thing I see missing from this show is any type of group therapy. Other addictions have 12 Step meetings that are often therapeutic for attendees. I think the same is needed for Dr Now's patients even if the patient doesn't learn anything new in the meetings, the accountability to others can make a difference.
You make some really excellent points (although I should add that weaning is a technique used for a variety of addictions, including drugs and alcohol - it's just that they're not vital for life, so the process is very different). I imagine that, traditionally, the lack of group therapy was probably due to the mobility of the patients and the difficulty of finding a venue that was accessible for all. In this day and age, though, with video conferencing so easily available to most through apps like Zoom, etc, there's no reason why group therapy couldn't be done virtually. Many people of this weight are isolated because of their size and lack of mobility, making it far easier for them to manipulate those around them (enablers), and be manipulated (by feeders and abusers). I imagine that virtual group therapy could be a real game changer for many people in this position, trying to overcome food addiction. Excellent idea! 👍
Most patients who get bariatric surgery have to get counseling . I had a year of counseling and meetings with dieticians prior to my surgery. I wonder since dr only does severe obese cases if its so life threatening that maybe they dont have time to do all the counseling before the surgery or the show doesnt show it because its not binge worthy.
@@denisesnyder5208 I suspect the OP meant the addition of group therapy on top of standard counselling. With addiction, it helps to know there's a group of people in your corner who understand you - & who you are accountable to. In the early stages, some people are put off using their drug of choice in 12 step programmes because they don't want to let down their sponsor, or have to admit they failed in front of their group. While that's not healthy long term, it helps to break the physical addiction until the counselling sessions start to work and people care enough about their own body and health to do it for themselves. You mentioned that you had surgery. It's a big old thing to prepare for and go through. I hope everything is going well for you 💕👍
I think this show is a testament to what trauma can do as well as how coping skills and healthy relationships can make or break people. Unhealthy habits can be everything from drugs and alcohol to gambling, sex, violence, and/or food. We have to love ourselves and our families… and create new generations who don’t have to recover from their childhood/teens.
If he told his patients they need immediate counseling, they might feel defeated from the start. Instead he gives them a chance to turn their life around on their own. Only if they fail he gives them something else. It's a good strategy, if you give all the help at once from the beginning, there is no way out from possible failures in the journey.
This is a total mindfuck about her dad. He was 1000 pounds doing what shes doing now. All of the people on the show who have kids are halfway there, if not all the way already.
no. a lot of times the enabler is being manipulated or emotionally abused by the one with the addiction. enabling is bad, but it can be complicated. not saying that's the case with this family. i have seen people do it though.
Exactly. Like what are they gonna do to you if you don’t give them what they want? Not get out of bed that’s for sure. They would get what I bring them and that’s it
Thanks to a comment that says Dr. Now is about to turn 79 I finally Googled him and found out we share the same birthday! Now I understand why he's so kind and calm. *HE'S A LIBRA* 😊
What I can’t figure out is how so many can afford the groceries and fast food they consume so quickly🤷♀️ I know I can’t and I wouldn’t be considered poverty level.
I just started to watch Dr Now about a few months ago and I love this show, I did not know there are so many over weight people out there. Dr Now is a great person I love how he tells them how it is.
The mother makes me want to rage. Yeah, the daddy was evil. Yeah, he was a abuser. Yeah, he was a manipulator, but she didn’t have to go along with it. I get so sick of these stories.
It's mind blowing to me, I cannot wrap my head around the fact that a mother would choose an abuser over their own chiIdren. Then try to compensate by feeding their chiIdren into an earIy grave. Wow. I hope she gets help and that it's not too late. ❤🙏
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Until I discovered this show, I didn't realize there were enough people out there that were +600 lbs to make a tv series from it.
Makes ya stop n think.... Or it does me...
And there's no telling how many more Morbidly Obese People that are still out there that we don't know about 😢
Yes because of the crap food that's available. Food can be as deadly as drugs and I would say just as if not more addicting. Fast food isn't food. Its chemicals and has things in it to make you crave it. Dangerous. The government doesn't want healthy people they want sick overweight people so they can push their drugs
USA is country with the most overweight people in the world
I bet there's 100s of them.
He's an amazing doctor, such patience and humility towards his patients
He truly seems to really want to help his patients regain their lives. I've often wondered how he deals with the frustrations he must experience.
@@B_Bodziak There's only so much he can do but its up to the people to listen to his advice. If they don't its obvious it won't end well for them..
@@B_Bodziak He's probably developed a method of compartmentalizing. Constant frustration is unavoidable when this is your medical specialty. Dr. Now gets lied to, yelled at, and ignored every day. And the amount of whining and complaining he hears would drive anyone else insane. Enablers and their antics must be highly frustrating too. And oh my God the constant refusal to even TRY to walk or do PT, and the times the person doesn't lose a single pound in 3 months. Then there are the absolute psycho / clinically delusional patients every once in a while. How do you argue with a person that honest-to-God, 100%, and with intense conviction, actually believes a human body can gain 80 pounds of water weight in 3 months because they retained water once when they hurt their leg at 15 years old? Like how....?
I ❤ Dr. Now. I can't imagine how much bullshit that man has listened to given the length of his career!
@@katherinejoseph7060 Food addiction is one of the hardest addictions to beat because food can not be prohibited. No one would expect an alcoholic to be able to "control themselves" by having two drinks every day. But, that's what is expected of those with food addictions. Additionally, there are no legal repercussions for indulging in excessive food like there often are with alcohol and drug addictions. I hope that there is group therapy (like 12 Step meetings for other addictions) for Dr. Now's patie
@@B_Bodziak There actually IS a 12 Step Program that is used for weight loss . IT'S CALLED OVEREATERS ANONYMOUS AND IT WORKS GREAT IF YOU STAY ON THE PROGRAM EXACTLY AS YOU ARE SUPPOSED TO DO . I DID ONE OF THE PROGRAMS BACK IN THE 1980s AND IN THE 1990s -
YES !!!! I DID IT TWICE AND IT WORKED GREAT BOTH TIMES . MY PROBLEM WAS THAT I HIT A PLATEAU , BOTH TIMES THAT I WAS ON THE PROGRAM AND I JUST LOST MY DESIRE TO STAY ON IT ANY LONGER . I WAS EATING ONLY 2 MEALS A DAY AND I STILL WASN'T LOSING ANY WEIGHT . I GOT UPSET ABOUT IT AND AT MYSELF BECAUSE I COULDN'T LOSE ANY MORE WEIGHT THAN I HAD ALREADY LOST WHICH WAS 96 POUNDS THE FIRST TIME AND 86 POUNDS THE SECOND TIME . IN BETWEEN EACH TIME , I WOULD GAIN THE WEIGHT BACK - PLUS SOME MORE WEIGHT ADDED TO THAT WEIGHT !!!! NOW I WEIGH 245 POUNDS AND I USED TO WEIGH UP TO 269 POUNDS SEVERAL YEARS AGO . WHILE I'M NOT HAPPY WITH MY WEIGHT NOW , I'M NOT TRYING TO LOSE ANY MORE WEIGHT BECAUSE IT JUST SEEMS THAT WHENEVER I TRY TO LOSE WEIGHT , I JUST GAIN IT RIGHT BACK ANYWAY . SO , HERE I SIT ON MY SOFA TYPING THIS TO YOU SO THAT YOU CAN GET SOME INSIGHT INTO THE MIND OF A COMPULSIVE OVEREATER .
MY MOM AND MY DAD BOTH DIED IN 2007 AND THE ONLY FAMILY THAT I HAVE LEFT IS MY SISTER WHO IS MEAN TO ME AND I DON'T EVEN UNDERSTAND WHY SHE WON'T COME AND SEE ME . SHE LIVES ABOUT 10 TO 15 MINUTES FROM ME AND SHE STILL WON'T COME AND SEE ME !!!! SHE SAYS THAT SHE HAS TO WORK AND SHE DOESN'T HAVE ANY TIME TO COME AND SEE ME . WELL , I'M NOT GOING TO BE AROUND FOR MUCH LONGER BECAUSE I AM GOING TO BE 64 YEARS OLD THIS YEAR AND SHE'LL BE 66 YEARS OLD THIS YEAR . I HAVEN'T SEEN HER IN ALMOST 9 YEARS AND I JUST THINK THAT IT'S A SHAME THAT SHE WON'T COME AND SEE ME ANY MORE . IT WILL BE 9 YEARS IN APRIL THAT SHE LAST SAW ME . I'M SO LONELY AND ALONE WITH NO CAR TO GO TO THE PLACES THAT I WOULD LIKE TO GO . I CAN RIDE THE PUBLIC TRANSPORTATION BUS TO GO TO THE DOCTOR OR TO WALMART IF I NEED TO , BUT , OTHER THAN THAT , I'M STUCK HERE IN MY APARTMENT . THE APARTMENT WHERE I LIVE IS FOR PEOPLE WITH MENTAL HEALTH PROBLEMS AND MOST OF THEM ARE SCHIZOPHRENIC AND I HAVE A DIFFICULT TIME GETTING ALONG WITH THEM BECAUSE THEY DON'T REMEMBER MUCH OF WHAT I SAY TO THEM . I'M HERE BECAUSE I WAS DETERMINED TO KILL MYSELF IN2005 AND I HAVE MAJOR CLINICAL DEPRESSION WITH SUICIDAL THOUGHTS AND ACTIONS AND I HAVE BORDERLINE PERSONALITY DISORDER AS WELL . SO IT'S JUST VERY DIFFICULT TO HAVE A RELATIONSHIP WITH ANYONE HERE . I REALLY JUST WANT TO GO BACK HOME TO MY OLD HOME , BUT I CAN'T BECAUSE I DON'T HAVE ENOUGH MONEY TO PAY FOR MY OLD HOME BECAUSE IT'S GONE UP IN PRICE
(WAAAAAY UP) - FROM $80 , 000
00 TO $496 , 000 . 00 IN JUST 19
YEARS !!!!! THERE'S NO WAY THAT I COULD AFFORD THAT AMOUNT OF MONEY - EVER !!!!
I JUST HAVE ALOT OF PROBLEMS RIGHT NOW AND I CAN'T GET OUT OF THEM FOR ANYTHING .
I JUST HOPE THAT YOU HAVE A GREAT WEEKEND !
Protect him at all costs! We love Dr. Now
God, I hate the saying “protect him/her at all costs”. It’s soooooo overly dramatic. 🙄
He's the best!
I AGREE! IT'S SO SAD WHEN PATIENTS ARE RUDE WITH HIM. IT MAKES ME CRY.
I cant believe Dr. Now is about to turn 79!!!!!!!
And still performing bariatric surgeries! Thats amazing 👏
79!? Wow
Bless him ❤
Thanks to your comment, I finally Googled him after watching so many vids of this show. Finding out we share the same birthday is awesome!
mate theres thats insane, he still has a lot of hair and its not grey 0___0
I watched this episode. Margaret has the emotional maturity of a 4 year old. Her mom is overcompensating for not being there as Margaret was growing up. She babies her constantly. I hope Margaret makes it and gains some independence.
Agreed. It's extremely dysfunctional.
@criticRN It's so difficult when you try to parent with a great amount of guilt present. Mom and daughter need therapy to overcome that dysfunction.
Moms is lookin pretty gud not gonna lie.
You are so right!!!!!!!!!👏🏼👏🏼
She would have that level of maturity & well spotted! the way we mature is to learn to cope with problems - things happened to her a long time ago & she coped by eating ....she seems to be catching on to it though !!
When I became paralyzed at 23 yrs old, my mom had to quit her job to take care of me. I saw how hard it was for her to take care of me and the rest of the family so I did what it took to better myself so my mom didn’t have to take care of me. I did my physical therapy and became independent 5 yrs later.
I still paralyzed but I can drive, work, cook and clean. I don’t need help with anything. I didn’t want to be a burden to anyone.
I don’t understand how these people can live this way and be a burden.
Good on you keep it up! 🔥💯🙏 I'm sure your family is quite proud of you 😘
Totally agree with you. They are selfish
See that's not something you can control being paralyzed I know a lot of people are going to get upset with this but I understand eating too much food is an addiction but these people need to do something to try to get better. Yes dieting exercising and eating healthy are important but these people have mental issues I need to get help.
Wow! You are amazing. May you continue to be blessed with strength, happiness, and independence.
So happy for you 🎉
Dr Now is a very kind man and does everything to help all these people God Bless Amen
He must feel good about himself when he's sleeping at nights 🤣God bless this man
I wouldn’t call him kind. He’s the tough love dude for sure.
@@MontagZoso Kinder than someone who’ll pretend you’re ok just to be “nice” and end up letting you die
As a parent, I love my child too much to ever be an enabler to their destruction. It’s sickening a parent can do this to their child.
Sadly people do it all the time, because they value sort-term happiness -or- temporary peace from the "victim's" abrasive/abusive behaviors more than desiring what's ultimately best for their ultimate emotional/ physical health.
Munchausen by Proxy
Same with Sean’s mother
Exactly right. I love my sons more than my own Iife. But I wouId never, ever feed them to 💀 Idk how peopIe justify it no matter how mean someone gets or how much they yell. If they cannot get out of bed to get it, then stop enabling them. Leave if they're having a tantrum, what can they do about it ?
I would be the same it’s as bad as feeding your kids drugs xxxx
I have been watching Dr. Now for many years and am in awe of his prowess and concern for his patients. He is a Hero in my book. Thank you Dr. Now for being there for those in need who really want to change their lives.
I love Dr Now, he calls out everyone and does not buy excuses
It's so good when we get to see that smile he has, where you can just tell he gets "job satisfaction" bcz his patients are moving in the right direction.
It's like gets joy from giving people their lives back.😊
I wasn't sure about this Dr in the past, however, I confess I was wrong...
He is quite a decent Soul, and truly has the patience of a bloody Saint!
♥️
Dealing with abuse is a real challenge and I totally respect this lady’s issues. I hope and pray she gets over her hurdles with Dr Now’s help ✅
She's not being abused. She's abusing her mother with "love."
"I tell her that, 'If she doesn't fix that, it means you don't love me.'"
Some kids are abuse and don't have money to eat 300 $ per day of food
I pray this woman gets the help she needs from Dr Now and heal from all the trauma she went through
I pray she doesn’t and fails.
She needs her mouth super glued shut for a month
What trauma? She's no idea what 'trauma' is. There are people in this world living in slavery - now, in the 21st century - and being tortured; there are people too, millions of them, who daily face dragging themselves out of bed to go to a job they hate - but they do it because they have a sense of responsibility and there are people, especially women (90% in one country) who live with domestic violence.
She will have to go through the drama of recovery if this surgery, if she has the side affects of this surgery I feel for her. Pain
If she doesn't stop her mouth, she won't get any help. Because the help begins with her.
I like Dr. Now. Altho some don't like his bedside manner, he is exactly what these patients need. He truly does care. I hope she gets the help she needs
WOW! DR. NOW 79YRS OLD ITS A BLESSING. I PRAY TO SEE THOSE YEARS ( AMEN) 🎉🎉🤗🤗💕💙😁❤🙏🙏🙏
Mom is living vicariously through her daughter
Must be so frustrating for Dr NOW dealing with these ppl. God bless him.
Jeez. She could survive for an entire year with just what's stored in her body.
Why stop at a year?
No, she can't. All that storage is about fat, not about nutrients. I'm so sorry for these people... 😥
"Its easier to pacify me"
literally behaving like a big baby 🤯
This was truly one if the most toxic, strangest mother/daughter relationships ive seen on this show
She has turned her daughter into a whiny baby. Dr Paradice picked up on that. Love his name.
Totally agree!!!! She has a toddler mindset!!!!!
@@juliebarks3195yes. And that is a form of abuse.
Dr Now is wonderful. Kind. But no fool.
he always knows to be kind to the more fragile patients. This woman seems terrified, and I know that he can sense that and doesn’t pile on the misery with what he usually says to his more manipulative combative patients.
I love Dr Now , he straight out .
Doesn’t listen to the BS.
So sad people get that bad let themselves down.
He gives them hope .
Dr Now is so good,he is a amazing caring doctor. He has to be tough and caring .
I just love this Dr !! He cares so much n he tells his patients like it is
I am so amazed at how the human body can stretch to 600lbs+. It doesn’t sound possible. When you weigh that much you lose hundreds of pounds in months from simple dieting.
Not even dieting. Just eating appropriate amounts of food. That’s it.
@@solomoon3083 to them tho that’s extreme dieting
*weigh. *lose.
@@jayreszy4398thx
Dr Now is a Godsend. Bless him and his important work.
I love Dr Now. He’s helped so many people get their lives back and to believe in themselves. I like that he’s honest and will use tough love to drive the facts home. ❤
Did she say that her dad weighed 1000 pounds? Was she serious?
This lady would do best in a rehab for awhile. The sick dynamic between her and her mother has to be broken up somehow. As long as they're in the same house nothing will change.
She definitely needs therapy too, probably both of them to break the toxic cycle they are in. I hope she gets help and can work hard to save her own life.
I'm not quite 5 ft and I cannot even fathom carrying around hundreds of extra pounds. The 20 I need to lose makes me uncomfortable and I know it's not easy. Just wow, 750 lbs. It's hard to comprehend how much some humans can eat. I would literally throw up if I even tried to eat a fraction of what they do.
I'm stuffed after a cup of soup and small sandwich.
And I eat a meal like that and then stop. Sometimes it tastes so good I think I want more. But in 20 min or so, I'm very glad I didn't because I'm full and don't need more.
I hope most of all these people can start to feel some self worth and heal from whatever trauma makes them eat to escape it. 🙏
Bless Dr. Now for doing all that he can for his patients, and them being brave to show us what they go through every day.
I absolutely adore this man, thank God for him.
So sad to see this, no one wants to be like this , losing weight is so hard also her food is her drug addiction, sending prayers ❤❤❤❤
if she wouldn’t want to be like that she wouldn’t devour food
oh shit : abusive life how about that!
Humans weren't meant to be the weight of Male Grizzlies 🐻we don't have the heart, nor the JOINTS
Drug addicts die everyday. She wants food more than life because she is a food addict. She didn’t get help when she was able to move and now that she is immobile she is manipulative and abusive to get her drug.
We're ALL 'food addicts' the difference is, most of us control,ourselves.
@@O.O.O.K999 not true...i dont like eating at al...
Unbeliavable patience this doctor 😵💫
I just think Dr Now is fantastic good on him for trying to help all these people, I pray that they all lose the weight they need to, thank God 4 Dr NOW
Mom chose an abusive man over kids plus enabled and spoiled the kid with food. Sorry but if my abusive man went away for months he couldn't physically force me to go if he wasn't around. That was their freedom. It was moms choice. Many women choose the man over the kids. U don't watch your toddlers starve but fill your husband's plate. U feed your kids when he isn't watching or around & feed them healthy. U take your kids out of there to safety. But still as an adult grow up and stop blaming being a glutton on something that happened decades ago. Every person on this earth has suffered tragedy. Death, abuses etc. The majority don't dwell on it for decades and become addicts and make excuses and do nothing with their lived. They move on get over it learn help others become productive. It's called life.
In situations like these, I often feel like the best thing to do is to keep her in the hospital and implement a strict 1000-1200 calorie diet AND have the staff stop ANY outside food from going into the room by visitors. This should last until the patient can physically take care of herself, including hygiene. That would likely lead to a much healthier outcome down the road than sending her home as is.
There’s something sort of “off” about the whole story…
Wonder if this happens because the husband and wife are in an "adult" relationship and the kids become "the rest of the world" and the "adult" relationship comes first. I have notice some women will do anything for their husbands even if it is bad for everyone because I and other people are "the rest of the world" we get ignored.
The Incredible Dr. Pol is 80 and keeps working still like Dr. Now 👏
I’m not trying to be an ass, but the mother has been an enabler since day one. And the excuses made up by Margaret are pathetic imo. But I do wish her all the best
There's always an enabler when someone is 600+lbs. However, the "I don't want to fight with (the obese person)" becomes almost mute when the obesity renders them completely immobile. It's easier to close a bedroom door and let her fight with the wall. Unless the mother has some therapy or she (or the daughter) is removed from the current home situation, it seems like an "unwinnable" situation.
These super obese people often become verbally and emotionally abusive to get what they want. Its even in the show
Idk why they wait till it’s to late, you lived your life doing what you love even if it kills you. Food made her happy so be happy, no excuses it is what it is.
The mom does not love her daughter
@@tantilus998 Food doesn't really make her happy because it's causing her to be miserable.
I feel for all these individuals. I totally understand. I'm 5'6" and 245 lbs. Not happy with that weight but I know when I'm stressed, eating something I like, feels good. And in the past 3 years, there's been a lot of stress. 😢😢😢
Can I just encourage you right now you are worth more than you know you have more value than you see right now, just in case nobody never told you before you are somebody. Just make up your mind to make better choices you can do it
Today's the day to make better choices. You can do it 💪🏾 ✨️ believe in yourself and think about something you would like to do that you can't right nw. You are enough!
You can change it when you're ready. An ex overeater emotional
eater here. Get sugar out of the house. Don't try to loose it all at once. Look into low carb or carnivore lifestyle.I bike daily and that helps with my mental health.
@truewoods: A friend of mine was also an emotional eater. Her therapist told her: "If you are stressed and want to eat something - ask yourself beforehand if eating something helps you now. Is the stress over? Make it clear to yourself that it is not so." This helped her a lot and after some time the situation changed. Maybe this will help you too. I wish it to you.
I can also relate - am 5'4" and currently struggling to keep my weight below 190 lbs - the heaviest it's ever been - also am a stress/emotional eater.
I don’t understand how the mother can say that she ‘had’ to do things that were detrimental to her children. We all have choices.
Exactly! Blaming the tyrant is easy but your children come first.
She's a druggy or ex druggy and that's what they do.....make excuses for crappy decisions.
She abdicated responsibility for her children when they were young and now she is trying to re-write history so it was not her fault. If it was not her fault, who's fault was it?
I don't understand how people can let themselves get like this
I struggled to lose a few pounds when I was overweight at my highest 200 lbs. So I can imagine how hard it is for somebody at +600lbs even 300-500 lbs. You literally have to discipline yourself and be strong. I lost over 50 lbs by being serious. Hopefully she can overcome too.🙏🏼
Agreed. Even a 15-20lbs weight loss made me feel a million bucks better physically and emotionally. I cant imagine how all that added weight makes someone feel. This show really helps you feel empathy for such a situation
@@juliana76310 When someone said a month after they visited the doctor breathing felt better, moving around felt better, and they lost 40lbs or something, and that is a lot, but for them they are still in a lot of danger, I really started to understand just how bad it must feel for them. Because the road ahead was still so long but they already felt THAT difference. You do feel empathy indeed.
im currently 210. I was 218 a week ago and I lost 8 lbs in one week just by controlling myself and not over eating. Im tall and my weight gets distributed in a way that it doesn't show too much on me so nobody ever really guesses that I weigh this much but I can definitely feel it. Just at 210 pounds and 5'9 I can feel my knees hurting sometimes which is why im determined to lose 40-50 pounds. At 26 years old my knees should not be hurting. I can only imagine the pain on these peoples knees and just joints overall. It must be absolutely excruciating.
@@ariannateodora5469I totally get it. I am 5’7” and once I got up to 194 and I felt miserable. Just had to stop bringing junk into the house, period. And no stops at fast food places, etc. I totally understand about how the taller you are, the more that gets distributed on your body. I am currently at 145, which is not bad, but I would love to get down to the 130s. Those last few pounds are always the hardest.
Right?! Just how hard for them that had 600+ pound .
I was about 242 pound, but down to 194 pound rn.
And... I still need to lose another 70 pounds.
35 years old so young omg! This is heartbreaking
i’ve been over weight since I was about four years old since I was homeless and couldn’t afford to eat good foods, but I’m at the age where it’s my responsibility now and the show helps me realize that I need to change sooner rather than later.
Her dad was a 1000lbs 😮 that’s insane
Unbelievable
I wanna see a picture so bad 😩
Wow
That's close to the Guiness Book of Records - a record you don't want to break.
Mum....you should have left that man as soon as he denied his children food and love. No man should ever come before you children, not even their "father".WOW..heartbreaking.
Yes and since he was so big he would of not been able to go after her.
@aliceB357 God forgive me for laughing 🙊
Wow... I hope she gets better. Dr Now asks the tough but necessary questions to his patients
I cannot fathom being 5foot 4 and weighing over 750 pounds!
I am 5’2 and I was thinking the same.
I'm 5'4 160 and my doctor says I'm 20 pds over weight..This has to be horrible for her bless her heart 🙏🏿
It's nothing less than a miracle that she's still alive.
How she is alive is beyond me
In 5/4 and I feeelll ever bit of a weight gain
She was very honest and open. I hope she follows Dr. Now's advice.
Love love Dr.now for years God
Bless him always in my prayers. We need more dr. NOWS
MY this Dr. Receive blessings for helping these people who have ruined their lives by overeating.
One of my favorite shows my heart goes out to these people,i am always happy for them when they succeed.
Me too!
It's sad to see that she mistreats her mom because of her food addiciton, and her mom not wanting to deal with the harsh words she just keeps enabling her
They both need therapy clearly.
All addictions ruin relationships because you care about ur addiction more than urself and ur family
I have struggled with weight issues most all my life. I've had lots of sexual abuse and abandonment issues since I was little. I think all that plays a role in my issues, but that's no excuse. I've told my kids if I ever get too big to get around, they better not enable me. If I start yelling or talking crazy, just close the door on me and only bring me a healthy amount of food, lol. I am currently 5'7" , large skeletal frame and weigh 230. I'm far from being unable to move around, but I could easily get there if I don't watch myself closely.
The relationship between Margaret and her mother is very unhealthy. Mum allowed dad to abuse the children and then abandoned them to be with him. It looks like she is trying to make up for that neglect now by enabling Margaret with her addiction.
Broken family perpetuates abuse and suffering among all members. Also maybe a genetic disposition towards overeating. So incredibly sad
Shame on the 1000 lb father who let his kids go hungry so he can overeat.
How can a 1000 lb man get up and chase anyone around. Crazy people in this world.
That's what you call sheer greed and selfishness.
I'm not trying to be mean or anything, but its 100% on the mom. His big self can't do anything but sit and scream from his room. 1000lbs isn't getting up of no bed to force anyone to do anything. She should've fed her kids first.
@@mewmewsasfirebell totally agree! While yes the dad was selfish and an awful person... why did the mom just... let it happen? Why are you letting a 1000lbs pos call your children names? why are you WITH HIM.
but was she really hungry? she weighed 55 kg by the time she was 7 years old.
Bless her heart! I can't imagine how she has to live, her quality of life has to be very challenging! God bless her! She needs to stop telling her mother she doesn't love her that's has got to
be psychological torture!
God Bless her May she lose the weight Sending her love and energy and strength She will overcome this Many Blessings
DR. NOW IS A BLESSING. HE HAS HELPED SO MANY PEOPLE. AND HE DOES HAVE LOTS OF PATIENCE.AND SOMETIMES PEOPLE. DON'T LISTEN TO DR. NOW. AND BLAME HIM FOR THINGS THEY. DON'T DO. . THEY SHOULD BE GRATEFUL FOR DR. NOW TO ACCEPT THEM AND TO HELP THEM THROUGH. THOSE MOMENTS OF LIVING THAT WAY. SEEMS LIKE A LOT OF PAIN. THEY GO THROUGH. THANK YOU DR. NOW FOR BEING THERE AND REACHING OUT FOR OTHER PEOPLE. MAY. GOD CONTINUES TO. BLESS DR. NOW. I LOVE AND MISS YOU DR. NOW WISHED YOU WERE STILL ON TLC. 🤗🙏💜💙💕🤗
That's a lot Lord bless a Dr. Like this She really needs help I wish her the best
I'd have sent her to rehab, and got her a lot of therapy. I always feel like people who had addictions since childhood, need so much more than "you sort yourself out".
Habits are such a difficult thing to break, especially when those habits have been with you since childhood.
As an example; if you were taught to brush your teeth daily, you wouldn't like to skip a day as an adult. If you weren't made to brush your teeth daily, as an adult you're more likely to skip brushing. If such simple habits are difficult to break, addictions would be 100x harder. These people need that extra help.
No these people need to stop using their childhood as an excuse, it's so easy for them to assign blame to others but not take responsibility for themselves.
I agree. But when somebody can't even move by herself, that was the turning point, and stop eating like is the end of the world
@@ivylopez4338 That's why it's called an addiction though. Not an easy thing to quit. I'm not really giving excuses, they still need to help themselves. I'm just saying that they need more help.
I would love to see a photo of Dr. Now from his bow chicka wow wow days
I am a 200 pounds......and really a food addict
......i am really greatful to my mother who always scolds me for my eating habbits..... Even if it results in many many fights.....but she has never given up on me......
That is real love!!! Without her I could easily be double the size I am now
Scolding doesn't always help. It only causes severe depression. The mother should have got this woman to help way before she got this heavy. Family dysfunctional is what caused this. It's a long journey for her, but with good therapy and positive support, she can turn this around. Her mother made Yes, and the mother made some bad choices. My hope is that she doesn't abandon her again. This young lady needs positive people around her. Prayers to her
I pray to god to help this women and may Dr. Now have an amazing life and luck for so much he does for people in need. God bless you
The human body is phenomenal if it can live at this phenomenonal size
Your Mom is exceptional I pray for you both mental, emotional and physical. As a caregiver myself this is hard to imagine! GOD I am asking that whatever burdens this young woman has release her from it NOW Lord help her to understand that she is loved by you and that is why she is still here and breathing. Let her be able to accept herself worth and know she has God's attention, her moms this doctors and others who care and thats more than enough to get through 😇
Amen!
Amen
Tons of amen to her🙏
'I'm willing to do whatever it takes to get my surgery.'
I really don't understand why these people think they're going to get their surgery. And why they haven't done anything themselves. I'm speaking as a former super morbidly obese woman. I've lost 220 pounds. No surgery, no pills. A lot of mental and emotional work. A lot of emotional pain to work through. And an epiphany that food could never give me what I needed.
How much did you weigh when you started
That's great but not everyone is the same. Whilst we give thanks you are doing better, it's not the same for everyone
@@TheAlonsoFam 10000000000000
Some do get the surgery. So what's your point?
Hello Carol, how are you doing?
Why is she constantly bawling
The mother is a push over I'm sorry... she did NOT have to listen to that man and do as he told. Especially if he was 1000 lbs what's he gonna do run after her ?? Come on....
That's what I said too!
I can tell whoever wrote this has never been entrenched in codependent family dynamics. It’s complicated and learned helplessness plays a big role
Maybe he made all the money and she feared he’d leave her if she didn’t go or something. Maybe she felt like something could happen to her physically if she didn’t do as she said. Lots of possibilities.
If the man was pushing a 1000 pounds. Only money he have coming was govt money.
@@StrawberryNinjaNibbles 😅.......ok
Just looking at her in that bed in that condition unable to even move on her own just make me realize how insane this behavior is that they did this to themselves its a serious addiction
I think it comes on gradually so they don't see what they have become until they are unable to get out of bed. It would be a very hard, sad life.
Addiction is a very powerful thing
How do these people afford to buy ALL their food ?
Disability benefits and food stamps
Agree, she's not eating cheap food but good and expensive.
I believe the price of the food would surpass any government benefits would pay
One episode on My 600 lb. Life, a man ate 9 pizzas for lunch. At 20 dollars each, ..do the math, 180 $ for one meal. My opinion only....that's a suicide mission. A deliberate act to end a life. May the Lord be with us.
@@katjygruben6546 Right, and I spend around 160 on food, all plant based and a little fish.
@@katjygruben6546 it would depend on what amount they receive on benefits though. I’ve seen people use all their benefits money on food just like this. They really don’t have many other expenses as most live at home with mama or a working significant other so believe me. They have enough to spend that much on pizza and then some. Plus. Most places offer discounts on pizza . Like buy two get on half off. Buy during certain times and toppings are free or buy two for the price of one regular and maybe two dollars for the second. It’s definitely possible.
Its amazing how the human body can stay alive in these circumstances....
35!!! My sister is 35, a marine and 133 pounds. Im blown away. 😢 it is absolutely heartbreaking!!! She looks 50!!
No one that’s 1k pounds is scary. They are bed bound. Just walk away. They can’t do anything. You have all the power
I really don’t get these enablers. If you find yourself getting overwhelmed by the addicts’ poor attempts at guilt tripping and manipulation you should reach out for help so you can handle it better or find someone else to help them with their recovery.
@Nat , in some cases it's almost impossible to get away from a family issue, mainly because it's family, we are all raised to respect, help and protect each other, then when it comes to mother and father... It's barely impossible, mainly because when she started overeating was a kind of revenge due ro the anger she had of her parents. She was probably depressed and anxious, a combo that I can say it's unconceivable for a normal person to understand the things that can happen to people with psychiatric problems that are untreated. Finding treatment alone, for them, is , even when the person is aware of the problem, very difficult. By the video, she was angry and totally unaware of the fact that she was SICK, yes, sick, due to psychiatric problems she didn't have control of her anger neither of her addiction, she was totally unaware that it was regarding to illnesses issues.
A toxic family relationship since a person is quite young is likely to cause serious psychiatric and psychological issues that can only be treated since the acknowledgement of the matter, otherwise it's impossible to be treated. She was basically in a "cage" with other " irrational animals" like her. You can't teach a blind person to read a handwritten paper!
I think before Oprah in her self help age, you tube, the social media platforms, and podcasts most people didn’t have resources or access to counseling or self help but in today’s world there are sooo many self help things to teach you how to deal with toxic relationships… one thing I learned is, I can’t change the person’s action/response but I can determine how I’m going to respond…that has saved me many minutes of my life that I wouldn’t get back trying to change someone who sees no issue with their behavior ( family).
Enablers are actually addicted to the addict. It's a tough situation. (I work in mental health and it's infuriating but I understand where they are coming from. It's a foot illness)
Not a "foot" jeesh! A family problem!!
I just cannot believe people can live like this. Has to be so painful! The risk of infections on the skin. It’s a slow painful pathway to death. 😢 I pray she loses the weight and gets some help and heals.
So many people have dreadful emotional problems, they stay overweight to have shield of protection. I feel for this young woman. I'm surprised that they don't offer proper counselling as part of their weight loss journey, given that there are emotions tied up with food.
They do get professional counseling. It's a requirement.
Dr now looks good for his age
Yeah and multi-millions of people with emotional problems, and/or live with physical abuse, especially in countries where women are regarded as inferior but they have to just get on with life regardless because they don't have the luxury of lying back and stuffing their faces until they can't move.
Yes. But we can pray God gives her peace and strength!
We can God do anything from strength from God.🤗🙏
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Ive had years of abuse yet I continue to fight the fight everyday. Very hatd but not impossible. These people all have self pity beyond the norm....😢
35 years old.. wow😮
5'4 and 725 ilbs....JESUS!
She's 5'4" and 750lbs. I'd be surprised if she is able to sit upright. Someone this size and immobile does not get this way by themselves. She can't even answer the door for food delivery.
If a family member doesn't want to fight with her, close her bedroom door and turn up the music....or just leave the house for a few hours. I understand she has an addiction and food-related addictions have to be the most difficult to recover/over come, but the co-dependency shown by her mother has to be addressed first.
Food addiction is much harder to treat than other addictions, like alcohol, drugs, and gambling, because the addict must continue to eat food everyday while in recovery. No medical professional would ever suggest an alcoholic drink 2 cocktails per day or a heroin addict have 2 hits instead of 10 every day, BUT no more. That's exactly what is required of someone with a food addiction. One thing I see missing from this show is any type of group therapy. Other addictions have 12 Step meetings that are often therapeutic for attendees. I think the same is needed for Dr Now's patients even if the patient doesn't learn anything new in the meetings, the accountability to others can make a difference.
I agree close the door it's not like she's going to starve fatt eats it's own fat tf I would want someone to starve me
I agree that co dependent people may greatly benefit from group therapy. Meanwhile I'm a loner and just say NO and hold myself accountable.
You make some really excellent points (although I should add that weaning is a technique used for a variety of addictions, including drugs and alcohol - it's just that they're not vital for life, so the process is very different).
I imagine that, traditionally, the lack of group therapy was probably due to the mobility of the patients and the difficulty of finding a venue that was accessible for all. In this day and age, though, with video conferencing so easily available to most through apps like Zoom, etc, there's no reason why group therapy couldn't be done virtually.
Many people of this weight are isolated because of their size and lack of mobility, making it far easier for them to manipulate those around them (enablers), and be manipulated (by feeders and abusers). I imagine that virtual group therapy could be a real game changer for many people in this position, trying to overcome food addiction.
Excellent idea! 👍
Most patients who get bariatric surgery have to get counseling . I had a year of counseling and meetings with dieticians prior to my surgery. I wonder since dr only does severe obese cases if its so life threatening that maybe they dont have time to do all the counseling before the surgery or the show doesnt show it because its not binge worthy.
@@denisesnyder5208 I suspect the OP meant the addition of group therapy on top of standard counselling. With addiction, it helps to know there's a group of people in your corner who understand you - & who you are accountable to. In the early stages, some people are put off using their drug of choice in 12 step programmes because they don't want to let down their sponsor, or have to admit they failed in front of their group. While that's not healthy long term, it helps to break the physical addiction until the counselling sessions start to work and people care enough about their own body and health to do it for themselves.
You mentioned that you had surgery. It's a big old thing to prepare for and go through. I hope everything is going well for you 💕👍
I think this show is a testament to what trauma can do as well as how coping skills and healthy relationships can make or break people. Unhealthy habits can be everything from drugs and alcohol to gambling, sex, violence, and/or food. We have to love ourselves and our families… and create new generations who don’t have to recover from their childhood/teens.
I've watched this show on and off for years. The biggest mistake Dr. Now makes is not insisting on serious counseling from day one.
If he told his patients they need immediate counseling, they might feel defeated from the start. Instead he gives them a chance to turn their life around on their own. Only if they fail he gives them something else. It's a good strategy, if you give all the help at once from the beginning, there is no way out from possible failures in the journey.
750 lbs? How is that Even possible?
Heavier than a full grown male bear🐻
This is a total mindfuck about her dad. He was 1000 pounds doing what shes doing now. All of the people on the show who have kids are halfway there, if not all the way already.
She is one lovely lady.
I really hope she can beat this my heart go s out to her
People who are regarded as enablers should be charged for abuse.
Also, who pays for this food?
Absolutely!
It's the same as happily giving addicts hard drugs
no. a lot of times the enabler is being manipulated or emotionally abused by the one with the addiction.
enabling is bad, but it can be complicated. not saying that's the case with this family. i have seen people do it though.
To be fair the enablers usually are the ones being manipulated since a lot of the time the enabled dont want help and get violent or gaslight
Exactly. Like what are they gonna do to you if you don’t give them what they want? Not get out of bed that’s for sure. They would get what I bring them and that’s it
Thanks to a comment that says Dr. Now is about to turn 79 I finally Googled him and found out we share the same birthday! Now I understand why he's so kind and calm. *HE'S A LIBRA* 😊
Born under the sign of the SCALES just like the late Dr Atkins (of the famous Atkins Diet) and Jean Neidich (founder of Weight Watchers!
@@happyhermit3141 oh that's amazing! Thank you for sharing!
yesss libra kinggg ♎️
He’s a Libra too. I knew there was a divine reason I loved him
I have yet to meet a Libra that wasn’t an awful person. Lol.
What I can’t figure out is how so many can afford the groceries and fast food they consume so quickly🤷♀️ I know I can’t and I wouldn’t be considered poverty level.
Fall asleep like a log has a whole new meaning now I see this show.
How does a mother allow her daughter to get like this! Her mother is an enabler! This is horrible!
Find yourself Margaret and love yourself, you are worth it!!!!
You can only help someone who wants to be helped, and some people don't want to be helped.
Love this guy. Funny, honest, straight 👍🏽
Yep
It seems like 99% of the patients on this show all share the same personality traits of being manipulative and extremely self-centered
People needs to have a strong Dr.that will tell them the truth.people wants help but not want the Dr.to tell them what they need to do .
It’s easier to do nothing as opposed to working hard to live as a human being. Life is hard, it’s not for everyone.
I just started to watch Dr Now about a few months ago and I love this show, I did not know there are so many over weight people out there. Dr Now is a great person I love how he tells them how it is.
atleast she is honest.
Agreed
I have been abused but I would never let myself get that big
The mother makes me want to rage. Yeah, the daddy was evil. Yeah, he was a abuser. Yeah, he was a manipulator, but she didn’t have to go along with it. I get so sick of these stories.
Yes, the mother is the culprit imo too.
Dr Paradise notice that Sean mother always used we when talking about Sean. This mother also uses we.
It's mind blowing to me, I cannot wrap my head around the fact that a mother would choose an abuser over their own chiIdren.
Then try to compensate by feeding their chiIdren into an earIy grave. Wow. I hope she gets help and that it's not too late. ❤🙏
@@metalmamasue3680 It is criminal. But evidently it happens alot.
pray please pray for this beautiful lady