"My Mom Hates Me" [Hello Counselor/2016.07.04]
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I understand that obesity is unhealthy and extremely effecting your physical appearance. But I think the way the mother treat her daughter is a little bit too much. Don't you know if you insult an obese person won't make that person slimmer??
yes recently in indonesia there is boy who really big and fat until break the world record and his mom seem still love him, the parents must be like that whatever their son/daughter condition
Fitri Amalia N hai orang indonesia :D
Haha lu ngomong bahasa inggris jadinya gue menyesuaikan: v takut jg bkn org indo
+Fitri Amalia N wkwkwk gpp, habis disini org luar semua, biar ngebaur :p. tp kasus si arya mah kayaknya emang faktor medis deh. kalo si eoni2 ini kan karena pola makannya kacau aja. emaknya juga parah sih, lbh takut digosipin tetangga. di korea gitu ya emak2nya.
Fadli Ramadhan ga cuma emak2 yg terlihat kejam, katanya juga cewek yang masih muda2 jg pada gitu. Diskriminasi di sana tinggi, serem dah
my tears started flowing out when she said "what kind of parent says that her child is embarrassing?" 😭
actually, there are also children who feel embarrased seen with parents.. it just how it is if people only care about looks and prestige. T_T
korean society realllly care about look and gd reputation
they can be really harsh on her if she doesn't achieve these two..so i guess that's what made the mother say and do what she did
my mum
Me too😭😭
it's totally broke her daughter more, her mom is a terrible mom, when her mother said that, i feel i wanna punch her in the face.
I'm also overweight so I can understand the daughter. Last year I weighed 115kg for 160cm but my mother didn't forced me to lose some weight and she didn't blamed me for my kg. She encouraged me and thanks to her now I'm at 95 kg (still overweight but it's better than before).
yes that's why mom is the best person in the world keep it girl "you can do it"
congratulations!! your mum is really the best
Are you eat a lot??? Or feel hungry all the time??
I'm also 160cm but my weight only 45 kg, I wish to gain a bit but I don't really like to eat. I only eat to keep myself alive.
Isla Hale I think I don't eat that much because sometimes I eat less and more healthy than my slim friends but I know that I eat too much cheese. But I love cheese x) and I live in France so there is a lot of cheese
please share your diet tips ;(
I'm sorry but how does one feel embarrassment because they are with someone overweight. If you really love and care about that person then other's opinions shouldn't matter. All that should be on your mind is being able to spend with the overweight person. That is one of the silliest things I have ever heard, her daughter is beautiful the way she is, if she can't see that then maybe she should keep her mouth shut. Weight loss is very hard, especially if you're 100 kg or more. Treating her like that won't help at all, in fact it will make it harder for her lose the weight (at least in her case it is) Hopefully the mother and daughter start getting along and if the daughter really wants to, maybe even lose weight. She can definitely do it if she wants, she just has put in the effort and time ^^
To be honest, according to the typical Korean standard, a girl should be really really skinny. I'm from Vietnam where Korea pop culture has significant influence on people. Around me, there are people telling me that I am "too fat" and "need to lose weight." I'm 5ft5 and weigh135 lbs. I am not overweight. Yet, I am not skinny according to that standard, and I probably will never be.
CopperCassie I just wanted to say you're not fat, that's actually a healthy weight for you to be honest. But yeah, not fat, you're fairly skinny in my opinion ^^
***** I definitely agree, I'm also a Western peep by the way lol XD
***** Yup! Though it seems a lot of people don't enjoy her, I do :) I like you picture too by the way ^^
***** Agreed, I think she looks more her age with the dark hair :)
lmao this woman can't be considered a "mother" she should support/show some love to her daughter not bring her down wtf
She seems more like a military instructor than a mom! She didn't even tell her daughter she was going to do diet programs! That's really cruel!
Yeah, especially when she'd just had a kid! Who would like to leave their young child for four months, that's insane...
hey fellow army
But my mom is exactly like her .-.
Tho my mom is a lot nicer .
bunni luvs waddupp
This wouldn't be such a problem if her mother cared for her health and is nagging her just for her to be healthy, but it looks as if she just cares about the opinions of other people and not really about her daughter...
yeaa ikr....
I was just about to comment that, one doesn't have to have a flat stomach to be healthy, you just have to eat well and stay in the weight range you are supposed to but this mother definitely doesn't do it cuz of health, she just does it cuz she is too preoccupied about what people think and physical appearances
"Its embarrassing to be seen with her"
Is she actually serious right now?!
No matter how your daughter/son looks, you are never to be ashamed of them.
NEVER?!
I have a friend who is overweight, you know what her mom did, she work out with her daughter, so that both can enjoy, have quality time together and in the same time lose weight, i know the mother intention is pure, but sometimes you need to understand for people to loose weight, they have to want to loose weight, not force them to loose weight. Why they need to loose weight, why their doing it, and for who. If you watch biggest losers, they always have setting why are you doing this, and for who are you doing it. A motivation . A goal. either health benefits, to spend more time with their family. And so on. Depressed people either eat or dont eat.
Vera Naika lose weight
YES! That is what i was thinking while watching this! Mom talks about how much she works out but doesn't offer to work out with her daughter?
Loose
Kilham
I can't believe people focus on my wrong spelling instead of the message. when english isn't even my first language. 😂 But still thanks for correcting me.
This mother doesn't seem to be as worried for her daughter's health as she is about her own reputation. If my mother ever told me that I would dread seeing her.
And for the people in the comment, I don't see how you all can just go around thinking you can tell "fat" people how to live their lives. Fat doesn't always mean unhealthy, ugly, lazy, or ignorant. Some fat people don't care about being skinny, some people don't feel the urge to look like a size 2 model. Some people are fine and absolutely content with being big and I don't understand why you can't understand that. You justify your opinions and insults toward fat people as you "worrying" for their health but in reality, you're sticking your nose where it isn't necessarily needed or wanted. Unless a "fat" person comes to you asking for your advice on how to lose weight, please keep your concerns to yourself because not everyone wants to hear it.
Yea, I think the one who harsher is the society itself. it's look like their neighbor full off middle aged woman who love gossiping and dissing other. when I start cycling for the first time, there is a neighbor teasing me like saying, "be careful, you might broke your bicycle" or "is your bottom suit enough with the seat?". but you know what I'm say in my mind? fck you neighbor auntie, I'll prove you. and voila! I don't need buy any XXL sized t-shirt anymore.
I know, insulting people appearance is bad. but encouraging obesity is not okay too. I think... don't be a judgemental jerk is the best advice.
ikr! it's like they blame it to the daughter for being 'fat'. I don't like their reqction to the daughter, it's just the same with the mother. they also think that the girl is ugly.
Being "fat/ large" isn't the same as being "obese" though. If you're naturally a "bigger" person due to genetics and stuff, there's not much you can do about it. But being obese and purposefully living an unhealthy lifestyle is definitely not the same and if she was eating burger and chips everyday then I think it would be right for her mum to nag her. But since this isn't the case in this situation, then her mum has definitely gone too far
+Mona Qiu True, some "fat" people just look "fat" because they have thick bones. I have a friend who is a few feet shorter than me and nearly my weight but she looks bigger. It can also be due to the height. It comes down to a person's BMI though. You have to check your BMI before you can say your healthy.
PREACH. THIS "mother" cares more about her rep than her own daughter's well being. it's so fucking stupid how people try to seem concerned about other people's appearance when all it really is is pity and not feeling comfortable around someone so "large" or whatever u wanna call it.-_-
I would never speak to my mother again.
Same.
Girl right. There's more to this than just nagging about the weight. Y'all only see each other what seems like twice a year and when you do you're at your daughters throat with comments on how she should look and be eating. You call her best friend and tell her to say mean things to her to motivate her to eat better? Pull her husband to the side and basically do the same? Hide food when they do come visit you? Don't wanna be seen out with her? Constantly sign her up for shows and programs for diet and exercise without her consent because you're just tryna be a good mom? A good mom would have tried to speak to her a couple of times about it and then maybe have a sit down with the family if it became an issue of health to say, "baby I love you, I don't want you to be sick or hurting yourself health wise. I don't want you dying before me because of something that can be fixed with a different diet. Let's work on this as a family"- I mean for goodness sake the girl used to TEACH
+strawberrymoss an exercise class, I'm pretty sure she knows to exercise. But if my mom was up my *** all the time like that I'd be like screw it too. She's got to love her regardless but it seems like the mom is like I'll love her more if she listens, I'll love her more if she loses weight. Nah I'm not for it, we wouldn't speak for a while after this show
The daughter is using over-eating as a form of rebellion against her mother. When she Was working out the mom still probably fat shamed her, so the daughter was like f-ck it. I'm going to eat whatever I want whenever. And all that hiding the food is disgusting. Even animals aren't treated like that. The mom isn't exactly model thin so there are truly some issues between them...
yeah you are right i would do that too
If I was her... I would've never ever seen my mother again.
newnew same also love the profile pic
no u cant do that...
newnew same
Have u noticed how people reacted when she showed Up i think its à whole society to be questionned not only her mother
faiza fouzy exactly
My mom used to be like that. She even made me sign up for a gym membership. I lost then gained weight in unhealthy ways because I was mad and depressed. But I got some space from her and Ive lost weight and feel better about myself.
I'm glad you're doing good now (: keep it up !
Andi Darkshade Honestly part of the reason why it's so hard to stop yourself from overeating and to motivate yourself to diet and exercise is because of people who act like this. It because a cycle that you have to break away from, whether by getting away from them, talking to them or learning to take it in your stride.
Wow she's just worried about her own reputation.... if she was more concerned about her daughter's health I might have tried to understand her a little.... but she's just selfish and she keeps bringing down her daughter's self-esteem when she knows it's not effective like that. A lot of people eat when they're stressed out she should stop. what kind of mother thinks her own daughter is embarrassing?!
one sentence for this whole segment; I feel extremely sad & upset, that this mom would even say shes embarrassed of her own child.
I think in that culture, 'face' is a huge deal. That is hurtful nonetheless but I think her mom was brought up a certain way and it kinda snowballed to her behavior now!
I like hot sauce on my chicken it's seriously so hurtful to hear your own kin embarrassed of you. I feel bad for the daughter
China, Korea, and Japan is a collectivist culture, America- an individualist culture will never understand
Wow. How dare you treat your kid like that. We'd yell at you so much & throw so much shade if that mom was in the audience here! I'm 5'3 & I at one time weighted over 200lbs. My mom would have never treated me like that!
Mekanacbf as of being half Asian I can say that most of the time if you aren’t thin you are at risk of diabetes i mean most nationalities are but the risk is just higher. I completely understand the mom (I dislike the way she put it) and understand the end goal is to keep her daughter from dying before her and her not raising her child to be obese.
I know I'm over here at 14 weighing a little over 200Lbs and trying to get into more shape but watching this mother say all this stuff is making me disgusted and upset my mother would never ever in a million years ever say anything that mother has said
J Kim wow..that somewhat sounds rude and offending..
bro same
@@bobbie_pin3735 Diabetes is a bad side of being fat, sure. But it's not about that. The mother clearly said that she doesn't want to be embarrassed. And what kind of mother sees their child after five months and feels only anger like this woman who satarted to yell at her the moment she stepped in? That doesn't look like love. And even if you still want to claim that she loves her nontheless, well then, she has a weird way of showing it.
ITS BECAUSE OF THAT DAMN PHONE!!!
shame on you
you made me laugh even though i was in such a deep mode '--'
xD T-T
LOL
WOW!! how can that mom smiling so brightly when she knows that she hurt her daughter like that? mom, I'm sorryfor saying this but go meet some doctors and have a therapy. this mom is 100% having some kind of mental illness. not trying to be rude, but watching she said that she embarassed by her own daughter and push his own husband to go diet is a seriously mental illness. mom, pretty is not only for the outside. if she's skinny as you want, but she's stupid, not healthy, having a bad behaviour and attitude towards other, then what's the point of being pretty?
plus I don't like the panel(?) reaction when she said her weight. like bitch! you did something on your face, no need to give her that kind of expression? like what's wrong with having 100kg weight? at least she's not as fake as you and she said herself that she's happy. if she didn't to lose her weight then why she should?
plus, for the MCs. how can you say that's understandable when her mother just say she embarassed by her daugther and didn't want neighbourhood to talk about her? it's crazy. even if I have 200kg, my mom would never embarassed of me. because that's what mom should do in this condition. just close you ears. why should you give a damn to what others saying?
my mom have a big body and one of my uncle is difable (he can't walk properly), but I'm going everywhere with them shamelessly. why should I? they're my family. a lot of people talk bad about them but why should a give a fuck to them? they don't even pay my college fee. hmm.
I agree with you.
Same. My mum would say because of me and my sister, most of her money is wasted on us, she says that with a smile, you can't say that to your children, you want the best to your children, and plus she spends money on unnecessary things which can be used for tuition fees etc
The sad reality of the shallow society they live in...
Rizka Fitri while I do agree with you, I must also say that the mother must be worried about her daughter's health, but her manner of treatment is horrible and won't help at all :(
“She’ll have no one to lean on.”
That hit me hard.
That relates to me deeply. For so much of my life, I’ve cried myself to sleep, without comfort. I didn’t have anyone I could talk to about my issues. Most people would just brush me off and say it doesn’t matter. Those worries really affected me and the memories I made with them made them worse. All that trauma that I went through really affected me long term. I have such low self esteem and no confidence in anything that I say or make or do. It was cause I felt it was never good enough. I felt like I meant nothing and was nothing.
It could really be a long term problem and is very serious, not something you can brush off.
Aren't they actually making fun of her when the show is based on counseling people?
Just to start a conversation by asking your weight isn't very good either?
Alot of their remarks are no different from the mother? I personally think the hosts need to be more careful with their words. These people have gathered the courage to address their issues on national television, not just to be treated the same either way.
agreed ! 'I thought when I saw you that you'd be prettier if you lost weight' hum? miss ? who asked
The reasons her mom gave about her being mean and nagging weren't good reasons. She only cared about how others would think of her when she went out with her daughter instead of her daughter's health. She shouldn't be embarrassed to go out with her daughter in public no matter how big she is. It should always be health first, not other people's opinions. If I was Yumi, i would be sad too!
Breanna Bunny if she does go out with her daughter people would say things about her daughter that she wouldn't want to hear .which makes sense .the daughter is really fat and eats too much.I think hearing harsh words from her mother at home is better than random strangers make snarky comment around you . The mother should tone it down with the constant nagging but I don't understand why she isn't trying to change her bad eating habits even after all that.
Awhhh when she popped that ball and he told her she should shed some weight, I felt my heart drop. I get it, it's a joke, but damn she came on the show to seek love and a sense of understanding on the show, not jokes about her weight.
If she's happy and content about the way she is, the mom shouldn't make such a big deal out of it. I wouldn't even mind if the mom is making her lose weight for the sake of her health, but in this case the mother just wants her to lose weight because of her own reputation and public image ... disgusting. How can a mother think like that about her own daughter ...
SayWhat! SayWhat! that's what I'm saying, I wouldn't be so angry at the mom if she was doing all that nagging for her daughter's health, but she made it obvious that all she cares about is how the public percieves her and her daughter
I agree that she should lose weight. 100 kgs at her height is not healthy. The mom should take a different approach and not be so harsh.
the daughter seems like very nice and warm person I would like to be her friend :)
constantly insulting someone won't get her to do what you want. speak with love instead. the reason she nags is so sad. because of what people think. if it was for health reasons, it would have less horrible. the mum just cares about physical appearance
When I got back home from uni for fall break, my mum (who is korean) started yelling at me and calling me fat and saying I put on so much weight. My dad defended me, but I felt horrible. I think Korean mums especially care way too much about weight. Now I'm back st school and I'm starving myself. But the thing is I'm nooooowhere near as fat as that girl, I'm curvy (real curvy not fat curvy) and no one would ever calll me fat, only my mum.
And I couldn't eat the entire fall break. Sucks. I just eat tangerine and grapes, then starve until night where I eat a bowl of rice with fish. I feel skinner already
i know that you feel bad now and probably want to satisfy your mother but please dont starve yourself
if YOU want to loose weight do it slowly do it right and for you
and i dont even see why you should loose weight you are so beautiful
as you said youre not even overweight
your mother has to accept you as the person you are
it isnt right that she makes you feel bad about a few kg more
maybe she will realize this one day i hope it for you
focus on your studies,have fun,eat and enjoy your food and the fact that we can eat that we actually have enough to eat thats something to be thankfull for
you will be an even better person one day
i wish you all the best
i know this comment is long overdue, but late is better than never so, since you said that you're not overweight, only your mom said that, have you ever thought to go to the hospital with your mom, to check your body mass and all, to prove your mom that you're not overweight? i don't want someone to starve like that when it's not necessary (not like it's ever necessary to starve) if you can't convince her by just speaking, maybe proves from doctor will help
i was 92kg 1 year ago. and my mom didnt say anything and instead kept feeding me food. but it was me who decided to control myself now that i'm growing up and i'm now only 67kg. so both of them are at fault, the mother should talk it out nicely and ven help out with the daughter. and the daughter should at least try to go on dietor exercise..
特使SXF_BestFriend_BanaShawol_Army You're absolutely right. And congratulations on having the will to change and lead a healthier life - not an easy thing to do. How did you do it (just curious)?
HorohoroGirl As you can see from my usrrname , i am a army and a bana and in the grp there is Sandeul and jon who eats a lot but still stay skinny and healthy. so i am inspired to be like then by starting to eat moderate(not less and starve yourself. not good) and exercise more.
Congratulations. Good job.
If this woman was my mother.... I would disown her and try so so hard convince myself that I was not her flesh and blood... That woman is horrible.
You would disown a mother who sacrificed her feelings just so people won't talk bad about you? Wow. Your mother sure is 'lucky' to have you.
Even though the mother's way isn't right, her intention is good. She doesn't want people to talk bad about her daughter so even if she really want to go out with her, she can't. All just protect her daughter. Wait until you become a parent. You will understand her heart.
After all, it's not a bad thing for her to lose weight. Obesity isn't a good thing.
+Leeya28 Hm, her mother is also protecting herself from being criticized/embarrassed of her daughter though. She has her own selfish reasons for acting the way she does. Parents are supposed to nag you, esp about health, but they should also be their child's biggest supporter and shower them with love and comfort when they're struggling... not to harshly kick them while they're down and encourage others to do the same in hopes of triggering a change.
+Leeya28 why should her motjer care what people say, I thought that your opinion of yourself and if you love yourself is more important than what others say.
Jessi G emancipation is the answer my friend.
these mcs, whats understandable when the mother says she is embarassed to be seen with her own daughter? wtf, are you kidding me like the hell, who cares about other people?! LEARN TO LOVE AND RESPECT YOUR OWN BLOOD BEFORE YOU WANT TO BE RESPECTED BY OTHERS!
I find it very embarrassing that a mom goes out on National Television saying that her daughter is too fat that she eats too much and that she's embarrassing honestly instead of me being an enemy I would be a friend to my future daughter or son and I wouldn't hurt their feelings that way because my future kids have feelings as well. I think she should be a guide instead of an enemy insulting her own daughter. because I mean the man gains weight as well when she had her daughter well in general her kids obviously
yeah in the future, i also wanna be good parents
She nags at her the second she sees her, she says she's embarrassed of her, she doesn't want to look at her ,she's worried what other people would think of her daughter and thats all because she's overweight ?
Thats just stupid and disgusting honestly, your parents should be the people most encouraging of you ,i would understand if she was worried about her health or if her daughter was depressed or anything unpleasant,but the girl seems so happy and she has a family a husband and a daughter who lover her dearly why on earth would she say those sort of things, I honestly hate parents like her, parents that force their opinion or principles upon their children and she's not even a kid anymore.. I won't say she hates her but if thats how she thinks love is then she's deeply mistaken she might drive her daughter away .
I feel like the mom is sugar coating how harsh she is with her daughter. I'd be terrified if she was my mother in law.
she is big but it's nothing to be embarassed about, Omoni...
She's spherical...
why do parents hate
about looks like seourlsy😩.the daughter is 😻pretty.
If I have obese kid, I'll do everything I can do to make him/her slimmer. It's not healthy you know.
+Fadli Ramadhan yes it's not healthy, but I wouldn't force and humiliate the kid like the mom did to her daughter
Ebru Sanem right
+Fadli Ramadhan a healthy weight is important but fat-shaming isn't the way to go at it. fat-shaming her daughter doesn't make the daughter any slimmer does it?
***** the mother mocked and criticized/humiliated the daughter for her weight. that IS fat-shaming. unless you define fat-shaming as something else, then i dunno.. and who is "they" in your sentence here? the mother already DID it. and is DOING it. it's not exactly a matter of would or wouldn't anymore
All the things she is saying is a reflection of how she feels inside.
I weight 10 kgs over my optimum weight .. i heard my mom saying don't eat and stuff
but telling your child that she's embarrassing you .. that's unbearable
that's sad ugh
From experience of my parents nagging me to lose weight (but they are not harsh like this lady) most of the time it just makes want me to eat more lol because it's my way of defending myself (I know it doesn't make sense to others) because I can't talk back to my parents when they nag about my weight so to rebel I eat more. I know it's stupid because I'm only hurting myself but that's just how I feel lol. This lady should stop nagging and instead motivate and support her daughter to lose weight or just be happy with her daughter for who she is and no matter what she looks like. I know her mother means well but she's taking the wrong approach with her daughter. I hope they solve this and become close luv to both of them 💕
Same here o/
Diva M. Exactly
In that environment, her weight is the only thing she can control.
Does anyone have any suggestions for losing weight?. I know the simple thing like exercising. And such.
Maybe you should lose weight and THEN show to them how much they hurt you. Like rebel after you lose weight
BEING FAT DOESN'T MEAN THAT YOU ARE UGLY OR PRETTY IT'S JUST A MATTER OF HEALTH ISSUE , The mother shouldn't be embarrassed from her own child look! how dare she say that ?
Doesn't mean u are ugly but doesn't mean u are attractive either. I bet u no one who is thinner or well figured wants to look like this woman. And all ppl who are over-weight like this girl when do look at thinner ppl, they wish they are like them. U know why? I think u know why. That's the reality of the world
If someone personality or actions are horrible and cruel then look or weight will be the last thing you will care about , i don't like to say things without putting my self in her shoes :) i am sure she is suffering more then enough from her weight issue and she want to solve it, instead of telling her negative words Her mother should encouraging her positively. the world will not become better if people kept on thinking the same like that
Lmao I'm a plus size model though? I look at people with kindness and understanding? If I see someone fatter than me I don't think "Wow, glad I'm not like them" or thinner 'How shit I should diet"
You know why? I love myself with my whole heart and people loving themselves are actually more loving with others because _they don't violently project their insecurities on others_ . People should try that sometimes, saves a lot of bad energies.
I think it is also a problem with the society...
I absolutely hated the reactions from the MCs saying wow she USED to be so pretty before. What does that mean? Are overweight people not beautiful? The mom I felt was fake crying to have the audience and MCs feel like she actually cares for her daughter's wellbeing when in fact she doesn't and only wants her to be thin so she can show her off like a new shiny ring. Also if you focus on the daughter you could see she definitely regrets coming on the show because they literally did not solve her problem AT ALL. They only made it worse by justifying oh well your mom wants you to be healthy, you should lose some weight, your mom is only being like this cause she cares about you, etc. I was absolutely shocked at the fact they hardly defended the girl and sort of just mocked her in a sense. I felt horrible for her and I wish the MCs could've acted a lot more serious for the sake of actually helping her but they failed.
WOW SAME I THOUGHT IT'S ONLY ME
I am well aware of what they meant by what they said. The only truth in your comment is that she gained weight or as you so bluntly put it "now is buried in all that fat." You thinking "she was pretty when she was slim" is literally your opinion because I'm sure other people may still find her beautiful despite her gaining weight.
I hate the way parents are acting toxic towards their child in the name of being “loving”
Her daughter seems cute and sweet. As someone who can relate to her poor relationship personally, I'd gladly make friends with someone like her. I hope she's found support in other ways if not from her mother.
what type of mother is she. i cant believe she doesnt want her own child to eat and is embarrassed of her. my mum gets so angry the moment i say i wanna lose weight and she worries if i miss a meal or if i dont eat anything she makes me eat and wants me to gain weight. no mother would be embarrassed of their child. thats just wrong in so many ways. yea the daughter should lose a little weight but her mum is harsh
unfortunately, harshness is common among asian parents.
Rand0mL0ve
im asian as well......................
ya even I am an asian... My mother is never in the support of missing meals just for the sake of losing weight .. for her health of her child comes first
lol what do you know about Asian parents
Anita Hailey
who? me? ummm i do know im asian my self
I would be the one embarrassed if i had someone like her as a mom
Looks aren't everything. If you base a person's self worth on their looks, you will be disappointed because looks will fade with time. This young lady is very hurt her mother's comments, her mother should re-think her words and actions because she brought this beautiful young lady in this world no matter what she weighs or looks now. She is beautiful in my opinion.
I was 76kg and my parents had never told me off and it was me who decided to lose weight and now I'm 62kg (still trying to lose weight) my parents would tell me to stop and that I'm skinny enough already T__T times like this makes me more grateful to have such supportive parents...
Weight isn't just caused by eating. There can be health issues that make it harder. Also psychologically, to withhold food makes a scarcity that tells her brain to not let go of any fat because there is not enough food coming. And of course stress also causes weight gain. But it is definetly not just about eating.
Her mother : "I do what I do out of love"
Me : * randomly sing * I'm sick of this fake loveeee~~
But we should keep in mind that we don't have to be a good man just for them but for ourselves
me: Mum my toe hurts
my mum: Its cause your fat
turns out my toe was fractured. lol. thanks mumma
Maybe it's because I live in America but she doesn't seem that fat to me. I mean she's clearly overweight and could be healthier if she lost some, but I don't think she's as disgustingly fat as her mom seems to.
In asia, everyone is very petite and slim so even if you're slightly overweight you will look "big" to everyone.
+tarepandaval yup
in America many people think obese is pretty much 150 kg +
it's not about how she looks, she is too heavy for her height. she can end up having some major complications if she doesn't lose weight. 100kg for someone that is 165cm is considered obese.
+Nya not exactly. You have to consider her height. She's considered obese and it seems like she doesnt exercise either so it means it's not her muscles that's weighing a lot but her fat.
i was laughing when they laughed but tbh i had such a horrible feeling the whole time and im not even near to beeing overweight..its just how can you be so cold
that right there is one of koreas biggest problems and i dont have any empathy for her mother
i think they talked with her like it was no big thing but it definitlly is
in any other country they probably wouldnt even have let her sit in the audience bc people would have let her feel all the pain that she put her daughter through and honestly i cant say that i dont wanna tell her some things myself right now
but honestly this whole beauty standard shit has to stop
everywhere
there isnt such a thing as beauty standards
that woman is such a strong person to still live her life everyday to still have the strenght to visit her parents
she probably wants to make them proud and be a good daughter but you dont even owe your parents anything if they dont fully accept you as their child and show you love
im so proud of her and i wish to be as strong and beautiful as her one day
(i know there may be a lot of mistakes , english isnt my first language ^^)
This is EXACTLY what my mom does to me. she says things like "You're a beach whale," "don't wear that.. it makes you look fatter," "I'm not being harsh, i'm only trying to help you." my mom thinks she's helping, but tbh, it'a not doing anything good. just like yumi, i also begin to stress eat after arguing with my mom. can't my mom be supportive without having to ridicule me and make me feel like I'm not worthy just because I'm fat???
A that's very very sad. I hope you realize sooner that such people shouldn't be the reason for you to stress more. I was overweight too and my mom nagged me as well. There was a time when I wanted to give up, but then I thought, I'm living this life for myself and I want to be healthy. What my mom says isn't what defines me. I'll define myself and I started losing weight by completely blocking my mother out in the matter. I felt like I've achieved something on my own will and my mother doesn't get any credit for that.
Even though she needs help, that's not the right way to help her. The "shock" her mother's putting on her it's way too heavy for a human. I know that because i was really fat before too, and I also got scolded many times not for my mom but other family members, and yeah it hurted a lot. But then they realized that treating me in that way wouldn't be any help, so they started to cheer me up, or exercising with me, so i felt better, as if i wasn't lonely. That's how I lost 47 kgs. I'm 1,73cm, and I'm 17 years old. Now I feel like I'm not fat at all, and I don't do any strict diets, but my body doesn't even want that much food as before, when I was overweight. What i'm trying to say is that if she puts on a little effort, if she try to understand her daughter's point of view, it will all work out pretty well. Also, there isn't any person in this world that would like to be called "an embarrasment" from his/her parents... that's bullshit, to be honest. I understand what an overweight person feels when they're in that situation, and it's depressing... so it's when we most need our family's support and caring. I also understand how her mother feels, because it might be upsetting for the other person too, seeing that you can't do anything but try "shock therapy", but that's not the only way to help a person with her problems... she might feel alone by herself, and also depressed and like nobody loves her, and she's pretty young to be the mom of a 6 years old little kid... it must be even more frustrating for her. I think that she just needs help in a kind, and loving way. It's horrible to hear from your own parent's that you're embarrasing for your looks. I know parents are not perfect, because they are just humans like their child, but this just isn't the best way to help.
This is so stupid omg, how can they be playing that touching music when the mother's talking about her child being an embarrassment to her friends? I see how it might be seen as thoughtful of the mother to nag her because she wants her daughter to be pretty and healthy, but isn't it more just selfish on her part if the daughter is okay with the way she looks and she says her weight isn't inconvenient at all yet she nags her so much?
The daughter cries because her mother calls her an embarrassment and causes her emotional distress, but the mother cries because she's embarrassed of the way her daughter looks around her .. Is there any actual defence for the mother here?
i think it's kind of cultural thing how things are put. Where my parents are from it's normal for a relative or friend to tell you that you've gained weight, or that you'd look better a bit slimmer and stuff like that. Obviously from a Western perspective it comes across as insulting but over there it's someone showing that they care for you and are worried about things like diabetes and heart disease. This mum was overboard but her intentions weren't to upset her daughter.
Lauren Stephen yeah, I'm from that kind of culture too, I think that's why I sympathise with her so much because I know how much of a pain it can be :/ I hope for her sake the mother had good intentions for the girl's health but from how she said the girl was an embarrassment to friends, it just sounded like she cared more about her appearance :(
TaylorSwiftLoverJL Yeah I get you. It sounded like she is like that to everyone though, that she was a person who was just blunt and said exactly what they thought. I think the thing about being embarrassed is also a cultural thing because in some places every person in a family reflects how a family is. That's why i just felt the mother's heart was in the right place but her way of saying things wasn't right.
What yall don't understand is that when ur overweight and people keep shoving that in your face it makes you feel so bad that you believe ur not worth losing weight. So if you're not in her situation don't even try telling her what to do bc u dont understand
I used to be overweight and what you are saying is a bullshit excuse
My mother doesn't comment on my weight/diet even half as much as this woman's mother does and I resent her for it.
I would have cut my mother off if she was as bad as that.
She doesn't need that negativity in her life. No one does.
It's been proven that constantly commenting on a child's weight just makes the situation worse.
it frustrates me even more seeing these people trying to take the mothers words positively, there's nothing right in what she is saying.
the mother's good intention is there, but she's just going about it the wrong way. but at the same time the daughter is using the nagging as an excuse not to exercise and eat healthy.
I agree. She's lucky she has someone to reminded her to take care of her weight. I understand the mother's words may be harsh, but what can you do when she does nothing about it. It is also stressing the mother out knowing that she doesn't listen to her for her own good.
my mom is the same just that I weight 60kg and actually gained weight because she was stressing me out 24/7
Their beauty standard is why i wanted to cry
To be truthful I do think the daughter should try harder to lose weight. She doesn't seem to have big motivation and said her mother made her more stressed and ate more. I admit her mother is terribly rude and harsh on her daughter: words, attitudes and all. But I really think the daughter should maybe try eating healthier food that can contribute to lose-weight-method. Strict diet or harsh exercise regime doesn't seem to suit her. When she slided down and walked to sit down and also while she was talking, her breath is kinda short and bit of gasps here and there. She told others she's not feeling any disadvantages but I think she should lose at least 5-10 kg, just to make it easier to breath. There are others worse than her but I worry about her health. And what if she gained more weight. Nevermind going back to 56 kg, just lose some weight to get rid of that short breath Yumi. If she tried hard ( maybe even consulting Nutricion Doctor if it is difficult to do it just alone) and if Only her mother is not beating her down everytime and instead support her ( by cooking or giving tips that help her slowly to lose weight or cooking her some suitable diet food when she visits), there could have been positive result.
Naoki Hikari The thing is that her being stressed and eating more was most likely not an excuse. It's quite common for overweight people to feel this way and then be demoralised and stop trying tolose weight. I also have been this way. Plus, the heavier you are, the harder it is to lose weight, especially since your body isn't used to it. A lot of times people who were never obese tell overweight people that they should try harder and that it's easy or that they should be able to run faster/lose more weight/do more laps, etc, but it's hard sometimes.
Naoki Hikari i agree, i am a slightly heavy person and i 100% agree with you
I also can understand her. I really have low self esteem. I keep doubting myself. I keep saying that I am ugly. And I keep saying that I shouldn’t have been born. All because of the comments I hear from other people... especially my parents. So I really understand her.
Shes trying to bully her into losing weight its a failed tactic
while my mom is opposite, she always scold me for not eating lol😂
My mom also nags me for being fat and also nags me for not eating when I'm on diet 🤣 🤷
That girl is actually very cute and pretty. Mom does only care about her reputation. Sad...
My mom and her family tells me that I’m fat everytime we have a family reunion like “Whoa, your legs are so big” “Did you get fatter?” And sometimes when I want to wear shorts, my mom would sometimes say “You should workout more to get slim legs” and it really makes me feel so bad about it (sometimes I feel that I’m fat but really I’m not THAT fat!). My mom even used to sign me up for a membership fitness for a month, I had to stay in the fitness for hours and hours and my mom would prepare food for me. In a way I get that my mom wants what’s best for me, but her words can be really harsh. I understand her feelings being criticised by her mom due to her appearances and her mom should not be embarrassed because her daughter’s overweight, her mom should encourage and support her daughter no matter what!!
but really.. when u r over 100kg u should realize to lose weight by urself (unless u have a disease that make u very hard to lose weight).. its not just for the looks but also for the health.. and it is indeed excuses to have baby as a reason.. (being 70kg maybe ok but 100kg..i dont think having baby can be use as an excuse anymore.. u'll having hard time catching up with active baby/kids with that
weight)
+-Cookie Monsterrr♥ yes, length really makes a big difference. I'm just short of being 175 cm and about 93kg. Though I'm still slightly overweight, for the person who said "maybe 70kg tops would be ok" with my height; at 70kg I would very slim (if I would ever go below 60kg I would be underweight)
+-Cookie Monsterrr♥ 165 cm is only 5'4.5/5'5.. lol she should weight significantly less to be considered healthy even if she's not thin
you cant say that to someone. you dont know what she's going through. may be she really needs emotional support. growing up in that kind of environment makes you emotionally unstable hence she finds peace on food. we cant really know what she feels. she has to find peace first over her life struggles then may be she can fight her desire to always eat her feelings. you don't know anyone's battle.
+Kenn L. i dont say her mom method is acceptable. i dont know exactly how she feel but everyone has their own struggle to overcome too. maybe she indeed find peace with food but if it can harm her it doesnt right either.. it almost similar with drugs, lot of stress people find it peaceful and use it to run from their problem while actually it add more problem gradually.. hmm i dont mean to be this deep but i just wish her to be healthy. Idk bcause this clip is cutted but if she indeed feel safe and comfortable with that weight and if nobody scold her, it could be dangerous.. her mom feelings to want her to be skinny just so she can brag to people is just straight unacceptable for me too, but she have to realize this is for her not for her mom.. and she has kid, she should take care her health for her son.. i know several people who overweight a lot and they have more struggle in doing several things.. unless she do sports and have good agility, again, maybe i judge her wrong since i only saw this clip..
just stop ya true 100kg was kind of over butttt she has 2 loose it 4 her health
9:13
Wow
What a great way to speak of your daughter on tv
For everyone to hear
you don't just tell someone to lose weight and call them fat and expect them to be thinner the next day. if the mom really wanted to help her daughter, she could very easily say, hey let's go for a walk and let's eat healthy meals. starving yourself is the exact opposite of which you would lose weight. eating small but frequent meals is a very good way to begin the process of losing weight. I am currently overweight, and my mom tells me to eat, because I actually do eat around one to two meals at most in a day, I don't have breakfast until noon or sometimes later because of work, which I know it's bad, but I have been doing that for around 3 years so it's hard for me to break that habit. skipping meals will make your body hold on to fat because it think it won't be getting more, the plan that the lady has for her daughter is completely wrong, and being embarrassed at your own daughter is in no way going to motivate her to want to help her. she said she's happy, they should let her decide when she's ready to make changes in her life.
I am 97 pounds or 44kg and I live in America. In Korea I would be considered beautiful because of how slim I am. And it hurts me to see that just because she is bigger her own mother is embarrassed to go out with her. She is happy with how much she weighs and I think that is all that matters. I wish her good luck. She is so pretty as well.
i know her mother loves her, all mothers want her daughter to be healthy and lose some weight, and i also know that health is one of the top priority, but the way she nagged at her it also hurts me, it reminds me when my mother started to compared me with her friend's daughter which more prettier or smarter than me, so i can understand a lot, but i'm not gonna lie that maybe her mother have a slight of jealousy that koreans had most perfect body proportion
AND THE PROBLEM IS LOSING WEIGHT IS NOT EASY THO xD
I'm fat but my mom calls me baby princess and encourages me to pursue my fashion dream. This gives me so much confidence. I feel happy and beautiful everyday! I am lucky to have my mom!
저는 어머님께 여쭤보고 싶네요. 따님 출산하셨을 때 어떤 생각하셨네요. 너는 꼭 나처럼 살아라...이런 생각만 하셨나요. 우리 딸, 건강하고 예쁘게 자라라...아니었을까요? 딸의 건강을 생각하시는 것도 좋지만 그 첫마음을 잊지마시길 바랍니다.
Honestly i would love a friend like her, She looks so kind and adorable and i wouldn't care about her weight. I would just love her the way She is. That mother should respect her daughter and be happy for the way She is, Not be embarrased about being around her in public. Like what kind if mother says that!
This mom is finna fight me, The Poor baby is probably feeling worthless.
As a mom who has a daughter NEVER in a million years would I ever say hurtful shit like that to my daughter (or my 2 sons) growing up my step-dad downgraded me and my siblings NON STOP and being the oldest of 5 I got the worst of it. I'm now 37 and still struggle with self consciousness and self esteem issues. When I announced to my family and kids I was going to go study at a business school to earn my private investigations certificate I did it for afew reasons: 1) I didn't want to be a stay at home mom for the rest of my life 2) I wanted to give my kids things me and my sister never got to do our 3 brothers were placed in soccer if me and my sister wanted to do that we were told no 3) my step-dad, ex fiance and oldest brother started laughing and said I would fail miserably or not finish the course. I busted my ass and studied hard and successfully completed my course at the same time I was studying my p. I. Course I also created and started my own line of kids jewelry.......i named my girls line after my daughter my boys line after both of my sons and my newest (and different) line of girls jewelry I named after my favorite niece. I know how this girl feels first hand since my family treats me like pure garbage I've tried letting them know how hurtful that is to me I'm never included in anything my family gets together and do I never find out until long after its over with or while it's occurring my sister said I brought this all on myself and deserved it. Which I fail to see how
She gets embarrassed to be seen with her daughter in public? seriously, that line frustrates me the most. How can you treat your daughter like this? Wanting her to eat less is good, but by saying you don't want to be seen by other with your daughter, or you feel embarrassed, is not the way to do it. ugh, this mom seriously frustrates me so much. -_-
I've been an overweight girl since i was little. Trust me being an overweight girl for 13 years until now really affected in my personality-making process. Now my height is 160 and my weight is 87. But my mother never do something like that. She just encouraging me to watch what i eat and do more excercises. She keeps providing good food for me and treat me well. She guides step by step. My father also thought me how to measure calories and kinds of excercise. And i'm sure, i will lose weight little by little. l swear, if my mother treat me like Yumi's mother, probably i would end up cutting my own hands becuase i can't handle the stress.
iam sorry but her mother is so mean she should support her daughter
My mom actually forced me to go on a diet (im 14, 152 cm, 48 kg). Everytime she forces me to eat less, i actually eat more. I also argue with her more. But suddenly after a month i started wanting to eat less because not only i have the will, my mom also didn't nag at me anymore. I lost almost 3 kg from it and im pretty happy with it.
the mother should be worried abt her daughter's health instead she's worried abt her reputation and how her daughter might get targeted cause of her looks
She's beautiful both ways a mother shouldn't feel embarrassed she should feel proud no matter the size.❤️💯
I've been Yumi's shoes, I know how stressful it is when people are constantly stabbing at your self esteem and saying bad things to you. I also understand where her mom is something from because now I see my baby brother chowing down only on snacks, fats and sugar without stopping and I really do want to stop him. And no matter what you say, he doesn't care. Yumi's mom uses words that are too harsh and not good to hear, but I think it's because she's frustrated with her child's bad habits and negligence of her health.
This has been an ongoing issue for many children. My older sibling was overweight when she was younger, so was I. My mom ridiculed and kept telling us how better we would look if we dropped X amount of lbs. Same thing with my cousin and her mother, now she's borderline bulimic and anorexic. While her mom thought she meant well, saying certain things to her daughter will not help her nor motivate her. Neither should her mother be embarrassed of her. That is not fair in the least amount.
What kind of mothers get embaras from her daughter just for how she look !!
Oh wow, she is so cute and beautiful *-*
The daughter just has a lot of pride!! The mother is just trying to protect her!!
Maybe its a thyroid problem??
after watching 오마이비노스~ whenever i see thyroid.... and weight... im reminded of the drama. even if i shouldnt be cos im a nurse and its possible lol
its pretty rapid weight gain, sudden once she turned 20. Stress and Depression might account for it but she said she monitors her diet. Breaking that occasionally shouldn't make you gain 20kg.
She can’t say that she’s doing what she does out of love. She shows NO love and instead just pure hatred
“I thought she’d be prettier if she lost some weight.” “She was so pretty” & “She must have been so pretty.” WTF? Not everyone is blessed, or cursed, with a straight rectangular figure, or even an hourglass figure. I’m disappointed more in the “counselors” than the mom right now...and I don’t consider her to be a mom.
I weigh just over 100kg, but my mother and family are very supportive. The love me however I am. I am 174cm (5ft8in) and used to weigh 70kg. I got sick and went onto a lot of medication and put on all the weight in 2 years. My mum is also slightly overweight so we have decided to change together. I feel sorry for this woman. Your mother should love you unconditionally.
"When I first saw her, I actually thought that she'd be prettier if she loses a bit of weight"
"I did too"
What's wrong with them ?? They're blaming the mother but they have the same thoughts as her.... Wtf
Honestly I used to have the same thing happen to me, but of course mines wasn't that bad. My family is crazy about being in good shape and health. When I entered 5th grade I gained ALOT of weight I was around 130 to 140 pounds at like 4'8 and my parents always complained about my weight. I always hated shopping for clothes because again it was hard to find clothing that would fit me perfectly. Even my grandma would nag at me to lose weight. It was almost everyday where I heard a comment about my weight or hear my parents secretly talking about me. I felt so depressed and self conscious to the point where I decided to never wear anything revealing my skin or anything tight. I never wore shorts or dresses in the summer but only over size sweaters and jeans. I was so self conscious that there were times where I just wanted to stay in my room and not go out. So I lived like that for at least two years and then finally in 7th grade I got into Kpop and I started dancing and singing I decided to learn overdose and because all I did was practice and learn the dance I didn't really felt hungry. So I lost a lot of weight, I went down to 110 pounds and even grew a few inches after my weight loss. But overall her mom needs to understand that the only way she'll lose weight if she really wants to and dedicates herself to. Just because her mom nags her and says harsh things about her doesn't mean she'll be hurt and try to lose weight...that makes one even more sad and depressed. The only thing her parents can do is stand on the side and encourage her, not nag at her, but encourage her to live in a more healthier life style. I hope they understand that.
it was nice to have a mom that still cared abt you
ri chan yea. there are some mothers out there don't really care about their daughters
The mom is so rude
The daughter is so beautiful no matter what size she is, she still so beautiful❤️
they're both at fault... =_= mom needs to be supportive and the daughter needs to be aware that she's putting her health at risk and it worries her mother. like if they both talked it out rather than talking at each other and not listening then maybe they'd both get somewhere.
atakkuuuuu gosh exactly! The mom is horrible to her but I don't see the daughter say she's willing to try either!
Happy to see this woman has a husband and baby who loves her.
I hope she can think more positive.
My mother also treats me like that. That's why I prefer living away from her. :P
She is really pretty even when she us overweight😍😍😍
wah, the MC is so kind to beautify the mother's word. I don't think that she doesn't want her neighbours to say bad things about her daughter. It's more like she don't want people to say she produce such a daughter. This remind me of those mom who don't want to bring the ugly daughter to gathering but instead choosing to leave them at home and just bringing the pretty one.