This video could not come at a more perfect time! I'm estranged from my sister who "owns" my parents. I have to stay home alone on holidays and birthdays or my sister won't come. I'm ONLY doing this for my nephew, her son. He deserves a family and the love. It's SO messed up but I'll be fine. I have Jesus with me always. I've learned that's all I need in life. Family, friends, let you down. God never does. Hugs and prayers to everyone. I hear you and I understand you. ❤️🙏🏻✝️😘
Omg this is me about my older brother and mother. I haven’t been invited to holidays in 10 years because of mistakes Ive made and my brother’s disgust of me. My mother adores him. I struggle every holiday season with shame and loneliness and self pity. Thank you for showing me I’m not alone in this pain. I need Jesus.
@@JN81224 Jesus loves you SO much. He is really all we need. We can't change people's minds or what they think of us. We can only work on ourselves and give our worries to the Lord. He wants us to give Him our pain and sadness. He doesn't want us to suffer. He LOVES us! ✝️❤️ I promise you. I promise anyone who's alone in life. God has us. He is what we truly need. I promise. Most importantly, HE promises. ✝️🙏🏻❤️
❤i also am alone my brother dad and sister are together at Christmas and I’m not invited because of what my left me in her will. Not my fault. I’m a widow so it gets lonely
As a Christian mother of 4 boys, the Lord led my husband and I to separate ourselves from my side of the family (minus my mother, aunt, & grandma). We're Hispanic, so our Christmas family gatherings are quite large. I grew up so close to all my family but as I drew closer to the Lord, I did not agree with the environment for my children to grow up in (even if it's only on the holidays). It wasn't a horrendous toxic environment, but it did/does include alcohol, some cursing, and overall, just became a celebration about presents and nothing to do with Christ. I used to pray for God to give us the green light to move out of state to not have to make that decision. But God has been teaching me to have backbone in what I believe and stay firm regardless of who it may make uncomfortable. So it's been 5-6 years now that I do not gather with them ( I gather with my mother, aunt, and grandma whom are christian on a separate day) and i have never felt such a peace as I do now. But for some reason, this year was quite hard for me emotionally, so your video really brought comfort and confirmation to our decision, which was made in Christ. God bless you, Tabitha, with lots of health and wisdom to keep hearing up your family!
I know God brought me to your video. I had to walk away from my dad in August 2024 again as God opened my eyes up to the truth behind our relationship. I am seeking reconciliation when God says it is time. But for right now this year's holidays although so peaceful are a bit lonely as well. 2024 has been a year of exposure. God has been exposing the works of the enemy and where I give the enemy a foothold over my life. Boy, was I surprised as I didn't see it, or I got really good at ignoring it. I want to please the Lord and be obedient, but I find myself so wrapped up in the confusion of the enemy and those accusations mixed with 39 years of accusations from family members has kept me in a spiral of doubt. BUT JESUS! Laying down bitterness and always choosing forgiveness has been difficult. I am so thankful for these types of videos always reassuring me to give it to God and that Jesus knows our difficulties.
I've been estranged from my family for 11 years and counting because of a toxic system that has destroyed our entire family. It's still hard at times, but I find that your tips, like prayer, journaling, focusing on what God has given you, reading scriptures that apply to the situation, coming up with your own traditions, and more truly help us to keep the right perspective. Thank you for being open, honest, and transparent about this -- this is a topic I don't think gets talked about nearly enough, and as a result, many of us who are going through it can feel isolated and even guilty at times. God is always near, and rooted in His love, we are never rejected or turned away. Thanks again.
Thank you for sharing this video. I'm glad you have mountain Mama in your life. As glamorous as her videos may seem, I really appreciate what you have here because the more simple your presentation, the more people you relate to, like me. The tiny little things we do to lift up our home just a bit more while tidying up and taking care of it really resonates. We don't see my husband's family anymore, they couldn't respect any boundaries we've set around our children and of course they dramatize it like we don't like them. What I've noticed, in their absence of the last 6 years, is that holidays like this are so much more peaceful and our time with our children isn't navigating the wild waters of people who otherwise really stir things up and manipulate for their selfish reasons. It is so very important for us to focus on the Lord during this season and I think if we had tried to continue relations with his family, that wouldn't be the focus anymore. It would be about making sure MIL is happy or organizing the kids to jump from house to house to house when really they would be happier resting at home and enjoying the peace of how we celebrate the holiday.
I will continue to listen to this video over and over. Thank you Tabitha! I’m estranged from my family for years. Even though I am still in relationship with my mother, this relationship is very difficult and hurtful for me. I’ve learnt to forgive her daily even when is hurtful, with the help of Christ.
What an answered prayer this video was! Thank you. This Christmas season I have suffered deep depression due to family gossiping about me. It’s been so hard on my husband and children and I’ve tried so hard to get out of this. I feel like I’m all alone in this, I don’t know anyone else struggling with these issues at Christmas or any other time and therefore I can’t talk to anyone. I’m so glad to hear that I’m not the only one. My worth is in Jesus, I need not worry about what other people talk about me. I resolve to focus on Christ, He will never leave me nor forsake me
I believe this is the first time I have seen any of your videos. Someone knew I needed this video. It has been just over five years that my younger sister set a boundary of not coming to family events , if my family immediate family will be there. My sister used to say I was like a mother to her, as I am ten years older and my mom worked nights so, we were close. There was a painful event my daughter went through ten years ago and she went to live with some sisters that helped her immensely, thank you God. We did not share the reason my daughter left and my sister was upset because I/we did not tell her, she felt left out. But my daughter was not ready to share what had happened to her right away. Eventually she told why she went to live with the sisters, only for my sister to reject her and to be gossiped about to some my friends, a few came to me and told me what was said and after two different gossip events from my sister had to admonish what she had done, I tried as gently as I could. I tried to explain how what she did hurt my family and please do not do it again. That was when it all ended. She stopped coming to all holiday family events. It is hard to explain to young children because they just want to see their family again. I just pray some day, soon, she will put down her pride and let her children be with family they love and miss. She is a mass going mom and thinks she is doing Gods will, I do not see good in this situation. I feel so bad for her children they can not see us any more, they loved us so much too. I had to grieve my sister and it has been really hard. But the hardest is the children; her children, my children and my grandchildren have to all deal with her bad boundary choice. I knew some of her children four years ago now she has more and we do not even know them. My grandchildren and her children were best friends and she took that from them. I believe my sister is in pain about this situation and wants it normal again but does not know what to do or how. I told her I would welcome her with open arms five years ago. Still waiting. 💔 I guess I needed to journal here. 😉 I saved your video so I can watch it again as I like your prayer suggestions. I am sure they will help me this Christmas and beyond. May God bless you!!!!
I been dealing with my in laws being being toxic for 12 years. Fast forward to where we are now they are still the same and if not worse. my husband came from a broken home and I see for hand how his family is. He kept working hard to give our children the life they deserve we bought a home and he’s the best dad❤. I’m amazed how far he’s come. I had lies told about me ppl gossiping when I walk in the local store but i have recently put more time into praying 🙏 and talking to god. I have accepted who they are and we as a family keep distance and peace and put our focus into more important things
I have a close knit family , but I really appreciated and loved this video Tabitha . it was pure and beautiful . encouraging . Your home looks so peaceful 🌲🌲 I hope you guys had a great Christmas
I love seeing more of your beautiful home! The advent wreath is beautiful and love the Crucifix above the fireplace. ❤ Love your message, wisdom, and encouragement!
I wanna thank you Ms. Kelley, God has put this topic in your heart for a reason. As of right now and for many years I have felt disconnected with my sister. She has held a lot of unforgiveness, her heart is very hardened. This video really helps spread awareness of family issues and even helps me spiritually to fix my eyes on Jesus and surround myself with good people who put in their energy and time for me.
Yes! loved this REAL video and I too watch Shayla! We too are making Christmas totally Christo-centric- any tradition that doesn't have an ancient Catholic reason behind it is gone! :) its been lovely, perfect and freeing! I too learned the hard reality that sometimes things can't be resolved, but forgiveness is possible. I had been raised with the false attitude that forgiveness meant they could just keep abusing/mistreating/manipulating over and over. I didn't even wake up to it until my 30's when I witnessed them mistreating my kids the same way. Sadly, Complete communication severed until there is some sign they want to amend their ways- its been 2 years. I even got rid of my cell phone because what they were sending was so vile- also freeing :) I found Fr. Mike Schmitz, Ascension Press videos on what forgiveness is SOOOO freeing on what forgiveness truly is. Thanks be to God! Happy Advent and may the Joy of Christ come upon you this Gaudete Sunday!
Just recieved a text message from my mother making psicological black mail with me, like she always does, with lots of ugly things... Made me sad, so sad, then I forgive her once again, but I'm staying away, just like this past year. I clean my kitchen, made a good meal for my family, put some Christmas lights and Garland to make a beautiful and cozy space for us to enjoy our meal. Then grab my journal to write everything. And now I scrol my RUclips and saw this video. Thank you for the bible verses it will help me. ❤
Thank you for your gentle wisdom and scripture based guidance. My dad died in August, very suddenly and this will be our first Christmas without him which will be so very hard as he loved Christmas very much. However he loved our Lord also so our hearts are glad and thankful for this.
Thank you this blessed me a ton, I've been feeling beat down by unkind words from family recently. This is exactly what I needed to hear... Jesus bless you! And i'm glad Shayla talked about your pg, I'm so thankful for sisters in the Lord!😊
I love that you share about forgiveness existing without reconciliation. There is nothing worse than trying to reconcile with a really close friend and they have no recollection of their wrongs and proceed to talk about themselves 😢 Then talking through things with my hubby. He is my bestest friend. He says she doesn't care about you because she has done this this and this. I want you to find friends that have your best interests at heart not ones that make you stress, cry, and worry. I realized God wanted me to forgive her but I still felt wrong for so long not completely reconciling. She wasn't capable mentally or emotionally to do that. I had to keep her at a distance and be friendly but not let her walk all over me. I love her as a sister in Christ and that doesn't mean I do everything she wants. I'm a very giving person. My mom was also codependent. I had to move and it helped so much our visits are richer and more enjoyable. Our phone chats once or twice a week are much better. No more emotional manipulation. God provides a way out of difficult relationships and it's through forgiveness and following him where he leads. ❤
Thanks for sharing! I am dealing with estrangement as well. God has brought me through so much and given me peace. I love all the words spoken in this video. It was so encouraging to keep moving forward. I have hope always.
Thank you for this very meaningful video Tabitha. This was so hopeful for my heart and soul, and I'm sure for others who heard it as well. May the peace of the Lord be with all of us during this season, as we await the coming of the Lord.
This was such a blessing. Ty for this. Great to see you back Tabitha. I pray that you are doing better. I know you've been thru a lot. I love Shayla. She's great! You to are a lot alike. I can see y'all being friends.
I always enjoy your videos. Thank you so much for sharing things have been so hard this Christmas. I just don't even want to celebrate it. And I know you should not feel that way, but thank you so much for your video. I really feel as if you are a true woman. Of God and just listening to you, talk Makes me really stop and think about a lot of things that is wrong in my life. So thank you so much.
I absolutely needed to hear this tonight. My husband and I were just arguing and feel like my husband is at the point he just wants to be friends instead of my spouse and I was feeling very sad. So thank you for this
You are such a blessing ❤ I always love listening to your videos. You bring such encouragement. I especially love you reading scripture. I don't always get time to sit down and read but hearing you read helps me meditate on scripture throughout my day ❤
Hello Tabitha!! Thank you for this encouraging video!! When your going through these times with family you think your the only ones!! Its very hurtful and sad😢 But your right if we have Jesus in our life were never alone!!! During this time all we can do is pray for the people that were estranged from!!! God is the only one that can change people and situations!!! So thats what I do!! I rely on God and his word!!! Thank you for your inspiring caring words!! Its needful at this time!! We need to pray for each other!!! Take care and God bless friend 🙏 Merry Christmas ❤
I would have not expected this topic to pop up on here! Thank you for sharing. We are experiencing our first holiday year of family estrangement. It’s very hard because my sisters and I are living in a state of fear and anxiety. We are trying to get through it but it has been a challenge. I have been going through The School of Jesus Crucified and that has been helping a lot! I didn’t expect the holidays to be so hard.
Thank you for this video, Tabitha. This topic is close to my heart (unfortunately) and is rarely discussed. In the frenzy of preparing for a "jolly" Christmas, who wants to listen to something so unpleasant, right? It pains me that many people have to go through this. But as you said, prayer is incredibly healing and comforting. I don’t mean to say it as a cliché; it truly is. You don’t need emotions like sadness, anger, or resentment to accompany the pain of a broken heart. More often than not, we simply feel numb. However, it is essential, in those moments, to invite Christ in-to meet Him at the foot of the Cross. It may feel as dry as desert sand, but cling to Him. Cry, shout, and let Him know what pains you. I remember when I was breaking family ties with one of my relatives; I leaned heavily on my emotions and didn’t understand why they didn’t fade with time. Then I turned to Jesus. I gave Him my anger and sadness, saying, “Take it! I can’t bear it anymore; it’s too much.” He didn’t take it away immediately, but over time, I realized that wasn’t the right prayer. I should have asked Him to help me carry my burden so that it would become sweet. After that, my heart began to change, and I eventually started feeling at peace. The funny thing is that when I spoke about this with my spiritual director, he asked if I ever wished that person ill. My answer was: “Never!” It was true; even if I have a lukewarm relationship with someone, I never wish ill upon anyone. I believe it’s a grace from God that my heart is aligned this way. To anyone who’s struggling, I have a few practical tips and words of wisdom (not of my own authorship 😁): 1. A short book (an easy, comforting read): Let Go of Anger and Stress!: Be Transformed by the Fruits of the Spirit by Gary Zimak. 2. Another short book (a bit more challenging): Overcoming Sinful Anger: How to Master Your Emotions and Bring Peace to Your Life by Fr. Thomas Morrow. 3. A short prayer for the moment: “Lord, have mercy on me and bless them.” 😉 4. There was also something that "chat GPT + encyclopedia on legs" Jimmy Akin said about how to react/behave/respond when someone is being a jerk to you (I can’t remember exactly what he said; I need to ask my husband and will edit it later 😅). To all who are struggling, please know that I will pray for you. May the coming baby Jesus comfort your hearts and bring you peace. God bless you, Tabitha, and thank you for your hard work. 🙏🤗
Thank you for this beautiful and encouraging video. It always feels so holy for me watching them. May God bless you and your family, lovely Tabitha 💜💕🕊️
@@ThisMamasFaithThank you so much for your prayers. Me and my little family have estrangement, too and celebrate the holidays alone. But it gets „better“ with the time, because time helps healing. Not completly, but bit by bit. It‘s so helpfull to not be alone with this 🤍✨✝️
Wow another great video. God is really using you. I having been struggling with a toxic family member. It is making me have bitterness in my heart. I think I will write her a letter and not send it. Maybe I will write a few people a letter. That is a very good idea. Thank you for making these videos. They are helpful. I hope you and your family have a very merry Christmas.
I usually just put my head down and get through family holiday gatherings but I've decided to get in my van this Christmas and drive from Ontario to Florida to van camp in the Everglades. There's no place like van for the holidays 😅
This 2024 Dec my mom in law died...so no christmas celebration....there were together heal sore of my husband....still it will take time...pray for him..for he lose his mom...dearly moth in law I too miss her 🎉😢
beautifull wallpaper hello from south africa i lost my dad September suddenly and I struggle with anxiety and depression first Christmas without dad so it is difficult for me to do stuff
Beautiful video! You spoke to my heart since I understand that feeling of being estranged from my family members. Thank you ❤ Where did you get the Navity scene in your Advent wreath??😍😍
27 ans. Je privilégie le "confort géographique" Je suis actuellement dans une école à 15min de chez mes parents. J'ai déjà vécue seule pour me rapprocher de fac ou jobs que j'ai eu à fréquenter... Je fais des aller/retour jusqu'au jour où je me marierai 🤭 Je n'aime pas du tout vivre solo. Et ça fait moins mal au porte monnaie.
What is the beautiful song called that you played at the end of the video? I know you have used it in other videos as well. It is so pretty and relaxing.
This video came at the perfect time. I'm estranged from my mom and I was thinking today that I wished someone could discuss this topic that has a relationship with God. Thank you for posting this!
Just a question, scence you are a daughter of chriest as you say. I believe the bible said that any female who doesnt cover her hair it should be shaved to bold, you just follow what you chose of your book
@@ThisMamasFaith you are a great person and mother, i like you and follow your mom content and would love to see you and your family in god's heaven (after a long happy life), and i would be very happy if you put in mind to explore islam. Read a translated copy of Quran, and under stand it, you see we believe in jesus definately , there is a whole chapter in Quran called (surat mariam ) mariam is the Arabic name of virgin marry , please read it and you will under stand Islam when you do and reach the truth about jesus peace be up on him, i would love to get your feed back after you do, and consider we are friends ( me too a mom to 4 kids oldest is 9 youngest is 2.5 years).
I really like your channel but wish you could turn up the volume or film closer to the camera, get a stronger microphone -- I'm on a laptop and can barely hear you and don't want to miss a word!
Please know I am praying for everyone struggling this holiday season. Don't forget to watch Shayla's video ruclips.net/video/jqObuz8f3W4/видео.html
This video could not come at a more perfect time! I'm estranged from my sister who "owns" my parents. I have to stay home alone on holidays and birthdays or my sister won't come. I'm ONLY doing this for my nephew, her son. He deserves a family and the love. It's SO messed up but I'll be fine. I have Jesus with me always. I've learned that's all I need in life. Family, friends, let you down. God never does. Hugs and prayers to everyone. I hear you and I understand you. ❤️🙏🏻✝️😘
I’m so sorry, that’s gotta be hurtful.
@iamnotauser93ify Thank you SO much. I really appreciate it. 😊
Omg this is me about my older brother and mother. I haven’t been invited to holidays in 10 years because of mistakes Ive made and my brother’s disgust of me. My mother adores him. I struggle every holiday season with shame and loneliness and self pity. Thank you for showing me I’m not alone in this pain. I need Jesus.
@@JN81224 Jesus loves you SO much. He is really all we need. We can't change people's minds or what they think of us. We can only work on ourselves and give our worries to the Lord. He wants us to give Him our pain and sadness. He doesn't want us to suffer. He LOVES us! ✝️❤️ I promise you. I promise anyone who's alone in life. God has us. He is what we truly need. I promise. Most importantly, HE promises. ✝️🙏🏻❤️
❤i also am alone my brother dad and sister are together at Christmas and I’m not invited because of what my left me in her will. Not my fault. I’m a widow so it gets lonely
As a Christian mother of 4 boys, the Lord led my husband and I to separate ourselves from my side of the family (minus my mother, aunt, & grandma). We're Hispanic, so our Christmas family gatherings are quite large. I grew up so close to all my family but as I drew closer to the Lord, I did not agree with the environment for my children to grow up in (even if it's only on the holidays). It wasn't a horrendous toxic environment, but it did/does include alcohol, some cursing, and overall, just became a celebration about presents and nothing to do with Christ.
I used to pray for God to give us the green light to move out of state to not have to make that decision. But God has been teaching me to have backbone in what I believe and stay firm regardless of who it may make uncomfortable. So it's been 5-6 years now that I do not gather with them ( I gather with my mother, aunt, and grandma whom are christian on a separate day) and i have never felt such a peace as I do now.
But for some reason, this year was quite hard for me emotionally, so your video really brought comfort and confirmation to our decision, which was made in Christ.
God bless you, Tabitha, with lots of health and wisdom to keep hearing up your family!
I know God brought me to your video. I had to walk away from my dad in August 2024 again as God opened my eyes up to the truth behind our relationship. I am seeking reconciliation when God says it is time. But for right now this year's holidays although so peaceful are a bit lonely as well. 2024 has been a year of exposure. God has been exposing the works of the enemy and where I give the enemy a foothold over my life. Boy, was I surprised as I didn't see it, or I got really good at ignoring it. I want to please the Lord and be obedient, but I find myself so wrapped up in the confusion of the enemy and those accusations mixed with 39 years of accusations from family members has kept me in a spiral of doubt. BUT JESUS! Laying down bitterness and always choosing forgiveness has been difficult. I am so thankful for these types of videos always reassuring me to give it to God and that Jesus knows our difficulties.
You did such a beautiful job with this, Tabitha. It blessed me to hear these words of wisdom. I'm so thankful to have you as a friend. God Bless you.
Thank you Shayla! So glad to have you as a friend 🤎
I've been estranged from my family for 11 years and counting because of a toxic system that has destroyed our entire family. It's still hard at times, but I find that your tips, like prayer, journaling, focusing on what God has given you, reading scriptures that apply to the situation, coming up with your own traditions, and more truly help us to keep the right perspective. Thank you for being open, honest, and transparent about this -- this is a topic I don't think gets talked about nearly enough, and as a result, many of us who are going through it can feel isolated and even guilty at times. God is always near, and rooted in His love, we are never rejected or turned away. Thanks again.
Thank you for sharing this video. I'm glad you have mountain Mama in your life. As glamorous as her videos may seem, I really appreciate what you have here because the more simple your presentation, the more people you relate to, like me. The tiny little things we do to lift up our home just a bit more while tidying up and taking care of it really resonates. We don't see my husband's family anymore, they couldn't respect any boundaries we've set around our children and of course they dramatize it like we don't like them. What I've noticed, in their absence of the last 6 years, is that holidays like this are so much more peaceful and our time with our children isn't navigating the wild waters of people who otherwise really stir things up and manipulate for their selfish reasons. It is so very important for us to focus on the Lord during this season and I think if we had tried to continue relations with his family, that wouldn't be the focus anymore. It would be about making sure MIL is happy or organizing the kids to jump from house to house to house when really they would be happier resting at home and enjoying the peace of how we celebrate the holiday.
I will continue to listen to this video over and over. Thank you Tabitha! I’m estranged from my family for years. Even though I am still in relationship with my mother, this relationship is very difficult and hurtful for me. I’ve learnt to forgive her daily even when is hurtful, with the help of Christ.
Praying for you. 🙏
What an answered prayer this video was! Thank you. This Christmas season I have suffered deep depression due to family gossiping about me. It’s been so hard on my husband and children and I’ve tried so hard to get out of this. I feel like I’m all alone in this, I don’t know anyone else struggling with these issues at Christmas or any other time and therefore I can’t talk to anyone. I’m so glad to hear that I’m not the only one. My worth is in Jesus, I need not worry about what other people talk about me. I resolve to focus on Christ, He will never leave me nor forsake me
It's so hard to go through. The gossiping and lies hurt. Praying for you!! ❤️
Not me fighting back tears during your prayer 😭 Timely and appreciated message.
Praying for you! 🙏
I believe this is the first time I have seen any of your videos. Someone knew I needed this video. It has been just over five years that my younger sister set a boundary of not coming to family events , if my family immediate family will be there. My sister used to say I was like a mother to her, as I am ten years older and my mom worked nights so, we were close. There was a painful event my daughter went through ten years ago and she went to live with some sisters that helped her immensely, thank you God. We did not share the reason my daughter left and my sister was upset because I/we did not tell her, she felt left out. But my daughter was not ready to share what had happened to her right away. Eventually she told why she went to live with the sisters, only for my sister to reject her and to be gossiped about to some my friends, a few came to me and told me what was said and after two different gossip events from my sister had to admonish what she had done, I tried as gently as I could. I tried to explain how what she did hurt my family and please do not do it again. That was when it all ended. She stopped coming to all holiday family events. It is hard to explain to young children because they just want to see their family again. I just pray some day, soon, she will put down her pride and let her children be with family they love and miss. She is a mass going mom and thinks she is doing Gods will, I do not see good in this situation. I feel so bad for her children they can not see us any more, they loved us so much too. I had to grieve my sister and it has been really hard. But the hardest is the children; her children, my children and my grandchildren have to all deal with her bad boundary choice. I knew some of her children four years ago now she has more and we do not even know them. My grandchildren and her children were best friends and she took that from them. I believe my sister is in pain about this situation and wants it normal again but does not know what to do or how. I told her I would welcome her with open arms five years ago. Still waiting. 💔 I guess I needed to journal here. 😉 I saved your video so I can watch it again as I like your prayer suggestions. I am sure they will help me this Christmas and beyond. May God bless you!!!!
I been dealing with my in laws being being toxic for 12 years. Fast forward to where we are now they are still the same and if not worse. my husband came from a broken home and I see for hand how his family is. He kept working hard to give our children the life they deserve we bought a home and he’s the best dad❤. I’m amazed how far he’s come. I had lies told about me ppl gossiping when I walk in the local store but i have recently put more time into praying 🙏 and talking to god. I have accepted who they are and we as a family keep distance and peace and put our focus into more important things
the lies and gossip hurts so much! radical acceptance is a huge step in healing! you're on the right track and thank God your for your good husband
Beautiful prayer at the end. Thank for the loving message in this video. God bless. 🙏🏽
I have a close knit family , but I really appreciated and loved this video Tabitha . it was pure and beautiful . encouraging . Your home looks so peaceful 🌲🌲 I hope you guys had a great Christmas
I love seeing more of your beautiful home! The advent wreath is beautiful and love the Crucifix above the fireplace. ❤ Love your message, wisdom, and encouragement!
I wanna thank you Ms. Kelley, God has put this topic in your heart for a reason. As of right now and for many years I have felt disconnected with my sister. She has held a lot of unforgiveness, her heart is very hardened. This video really helps spread awareness of family issues and even helps me spiritually to fix my eyes on Jesus and surround myself with good people who put in their energy and time for me.
Your house looks lovely and I enjoyed your comforting video. Thank you 🙏
Thank you so much! I’m so glad you enjoyed
“When we centre our hearts on Christ, it shifts our perspective from what’s missing to what we’ve already been given.” Amazing. Thank you. Xx
Thank you for making this video. We need to remember This Holiday is about the birth of our Savior. Thank you
Amen! It can be so easy to get caught up in the busyness.
Yes! loved this REAL video and I too watch Shayla! We too are making Christmas totally Christo-centric- any tradition that doesn't have an ancient Catholic reason behind it is gone! :) its been lovely, perfect and freeing! I too learned the hard reality that sometimes things can't be resolved, but forgiveness is possible. I had been raised with the false attitude that forgiveness meant they could just keep abusing/mistreating/manipulating over and over. I didn't even wake up to it until my 30's when I witnessed them mistreating my kids the same way. Sadly, Complete communication severed until there is some sign they want to amend their ways- its been 2 years. I even got rid of my cell phone because what they were sending was so vile- also freeing :) I found Fr. Mike Schmitz, Ascension Press videos on what forgiveness is SOOOO freeing on what forgiveness truly is. Thanks be to God! Happy Advent and may the Joy of Christ come upon you this Gaudete Sunday!
Just recieved a text message from my mother making psicological black mail with me, like she always does, with lots of ugly things... Made me sad, so sad, then I forgive her once again, but I'm staying away, just like this past year. I clean my kitchen, made a good meal for my family, put some Christmas lights and Garland to make a beautiful and cozy space for us to enjoy our meal. Then grab my journal to write everything. And now I scrol my RUclips and saw this video. Thank you for the bible verses it will help me. ❤
I’m sorry you’re going through that but you are handling it with grace! God bless you
Thank you for your gentle wisdom and scripture based guidance.
My dad died in August, very suddenly and this will be our first Christmas without him which will be so very hard as he loved Christmas very much. However he loved our Lord also so our hearts are glad and thankful for this.
sending prayers of comfort to you. May your father rest in peace
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Thank you this blessed me a ton, I've been feeling beat down by unkind words from family recently. This is exactly what I needed to hear... Jesus bless you! And i'm glad Shayla talked about your pg, I'm so thankful for sisters in the Lord!😊
I love that you share about forgiveness existing without reconciliation. There is nothing worse than trying to reconcile with a really close friend and they have no recollection of their wrongs and proceed to talk about themselves 😢 Then talking through things with my hubby. He is my bestest friend. He says she doesn't care about you because she has done this this and this. I want you to find friends that have your best interests at heart not ones that make you stress, cry, and worry. I realized God wanted me to forgive her but I still felt wrong for so long not completely reconciling. She wasn't capable mentally or emotionally to do that. I had to keep her at a distance and be friendly but not let her walk all over me. I love her as a sister in Christ and that doesn't mean I do everything she wants. I'm a very giving person. My mom was also codependent. I had to move and it helped so much our visits are richer and more enjoyable. Our phone chats once or twice a week are much better. No more emotional manipulation. God provides a way out of difficult relationships and it's through forgiveness and following him where he leads. ❤
Thank you....every family has it's own 'family dynamics'. This was perfect timing❤
Thanks for sharing! I am dealing with estrangement as well. God has brought me through so much and given me peace. I love all the words spoken in this video. It was so encouraging to keep moving forward. I have hope always.
Thank you for this very meaningful video Tabitha. This was so hopeful for my heart and soul, and I'm sure for others who heard it as well. May the peace of the Lord be with all of us during this season, as we await the coming of the Lord.
Amen! May we all feel the peace of Christ this season
This was such a blessing. Ty for this.
Great to see you back Tabitha. I pray that you are doing better. I know you've been thru a lot.
I love Shayla. She's great! You to are a lot alike. I can see y'all being friends.
Thank you Carol! 💞
I always enjoy your videos. Thank you so much for sharing things have been so hard this Christmas. I just don't even want to celebrate it. And I know you should not feel that way, but thank you so much for your video. I really feel as if you are a true woman. Of God and just listening to you, talk Makes me really stop and think about a lot of things that is wrong in my life. So thank you so much.
Thank you for your kind words. God bless you!
I absolutely needed to hear this tonight. My husband and I were just arguing and feel like my husband is at the point he just wants to be friends instead of my spouse and I was feeling very sad. So thank you for this
Praying for peace and healing in your marriage! 🙏
Thank you so much❤ I needed this as I have strained family relationships
I hope you're finding some peace in this season.
Perfect timing for a message a lot of us need this season!
You are such a blessing ❤ I always love listening to your videos. You bring such encouragement. I especially love you reading scripture. I don't always get time to sit down and read but hearing you read helps me meditate on scripture throughout my day ❤
Such a beautiful video. Thank you for the reminder that I am not alone in this season. God Bless you and Merry Christmas!
I am so glad it helped! Merry Christmas to you too!🎄
Perfect timing. This is so life and peace giving. Thank you! Love your content
I’m so glad it resonated with you!
Thank you for your words of wisdom and scripture shared. It is awesome to see how nicely you’ve settled into your forever home.❤
Hello Tabitha!! Thank you for this encouraging video!! When your going through these times with family you think your the only ones!! Its very hurtful and sad😢 But your right if we have Jesus in our life were never alone!!! During this time all we can do is pray for the people that were estranged from!!! God is the only one that can change people and situations!!! So thats what I do!! I rely on God and his word!!! Thank you for your inspiring caring words!! Its needful at this time!! We need to pray for each other!!! Take care and God bless friend 🙏 Merry Christmas ❤
12:11 beautiful, comforting, and encouraging message and prayer 🙏🏼
I would have not expected this topic to pop up on here! Thank you for sharing. We are experiencing our first holiday year of family estrangement. It’s very hard because my sisters and I are living in a state of fear and anxiety. We are trying to get through it but it has been a challenge. I have been going through The School of Jesus Crucified and that has been helping a lot! I didn’t expect the holidays to be so hard.
Praying for your family during this season. 🙏
I'm dealing with toxic in laws this holiday season. Thank you for posting this.
This was so very helpful for me, as all of your videos are. Thank you and God bless you.
I'm so glad! Thank you for watching
Thank you for this video, Tabitha. This topic is close to my heart (unfortunately) and is rarely discussed. In the frenzy of preparing for a "jolly" Christmas, who wants to listen to something so unpleasant, right? It pains me that many people have to go through this. But as you said, prayer is incredibly healing and comforting. I don’t mean to say it as a cliché; it truly is. You don’t need emotions like sadness, anger, or resentment to accompany the pain of a broken heart. More often than not, we simply feel numb. However, it is essential, in those moments, to invite Christ in-to meet Him at the foot of the Cross. It may feel as dry as desert sand, but cling to Him. Cry, shout, and let Him know what pains you.
I remember when I was breaking family ties with one of my relatives; I leaned heavily on my emotions and didn’t understand why they didn’t fade with time. Then I turned to Jesus. I gave Him my anger and sadness, saying, “Take it! I can’t bear it anymore; it’s too much.” He didn’t take it away immediately, but over time, I realized that wasn’t the right prayer. I should have asked Him to help me carry my burden so that it would become sweet. After that, my heart began to change, and I eventually started feeling at peace. The funny thing is that when I spoke about this with my spiritual director, he asked if I ever wished that person ill. My answer was: “Never!” It was true; even if I have a lukewarm relationship with someone, I never wish ill upon anyone. I believe it’s a grace from God that my heart is aligned this way.
To anyone who’s struggling, I have a few practical tips and words of wisdom (not of my own authorship 😁):
1. A short book (an easy, comforting read): Let Go of Anger and Stress!: Be Transformed by the Fruits of the Spirit by Gary Zimak.
2. Another short book (a bit more challenging): Overcoming Sinful Anger: How to Master Your Emotions and Bring Peace to Your Life by Fr. Thomas Morrow.
3. A short prayer for the moment: “Lord, have mercy on me and bless them.” 😉
4. There was also something that "chat GPT + encyclopedia on legs" Jimmy Akin said about how to react/behave/respond when someone is being a jerk to you (I can’t remember exactly what he said; I need to ask my husband and will edit it later 😅).
To all who are struggling, please know that I will pray for you. May the coming baby Jesus comfort your hearts and bring you peace. God bless you, Tabitha, and thank you for your hard work. 🙏🤗
I so need to hear this today. Thank you 🙏
I'm glad it spoke to you! 🙏
8:45 I needed this reminder. Thank you.
Thank you for this beautiful and encouraging video. It always feels so holy for me watching them.
May God bless you and your family, lovely Tabitha 💜💕🕊️
You are so welcome. Thank you for watching them. God bless, praying for you
@@ThisMamasFaithThank you so much for your prayers. Me and my little family have estrangement, too and celebrate the holidays alone. But it gets „better“ with the time, because time helps healing. Not completly, but bit by bit. It‘s so helpfull to not be alone with this 🤍✨✝️
Thank you for this timely video. God bought me here today as I needed your words of encouragement ❤
God is good!!
God bless you for this inspiring and consoling video...may you and your family have a lovely holiday season ❤🙏⭐️
Thank you, this spoke to my heart. I appreciate your wise input my friend.
Thank you so much for this encouragement! My husband and I are experiencing estrangement from our son and his wife. It is so hurtful.
I’m so sorry you’re going through that. I hope this video offered a little comfort ❤️
❤I have patiently been waiting for your next post. Thank you 🙏🏽
I am so glad you are here! I have missed posting
Wow another great video. God is really using you. I having been struggling with a toxic family member. It is making me have bitterness in my heart. I think I will write her a letter and not send it. Maybe I will write a few people a letter. That is a very good idea. Thank you for making these videos. They are helpful. I hope you and your family have a very merry Christmas.
Amen Thank you Lord for your message
Thankful for this encouraging message.😊❤
Thank you 🥺🙏🍀🤞
I usually just put my head down and get through family holiday gatherings but I've decided to get in my van this Christmas and drive from Ontario to Florida to van camp in the Everglades. There's no place like van for the holidays 😅
Really needed this, God bless x
You are both great, you and mountain mamma ❤
Aww thank you!! Love Shayla so much
thanks God for your channel🙌🏻🧡
Not so much strained relationships as unrealistic expectations.
Thank you I really needed this
Beautiful Advent wreath 😊
God bless you, That's quite encouraging.
Very much needed thanks so much!
You’re welcome! I’m glad it spoke to you.
This 2024 Dec my mom in law died...so no christmas celebration....there were together heal sore of my husband....still it will take time...pray for him..for he lose his mom...dearly moth in law I too miss her 🎉😢
Thank you!
Thank you for sharing this message. ❤
You’re so welcome! 🙏
beautifull wallpaper hello from south africa i lost my dad September suddenly and I struggle with anxiety and depression first Christmas without dad so it is difficult for me to do stuff
Thank you for your video really needed to hear this today. 😊
I am so glad it spoke to you!
Thank you so very much for your kind words. I truly needed this! God bless! Your channel is such a blessing to my heart!!
So happy to hear that!
This world is so hard. Life is so hard. I can only take so much and I've been pushed toooooo much. I'm tired.
Not even family problems it's sickness, divorce, autism, church hurt and beyond, surgeries,
Beautiful video! You spoke to my heart since I understand that feeling of being estranged from my family members. Thank you ❤
Where did you get the Navity scene in your Advent wreath??😍😍
I’m so glad it resonated with you. The nativity scene was a gift from my grandmother! It’s one of my very favorite Christmas decor pieces!
I've seen similar on QVC by Valerie Parr Hill. Merry Christmas. ❤🙏🏻✝️
Hi I like your calming voice you are right home reflect woman but what woman can do if his partner is not at all supportive xx
Amen.
Very relevant video
I love Sheila videos
Me too!
Thank vou for the content. Hugs from Brazil.
Hugs back from the USA! Thank you for watching 🤎
God blessed you
God bless you as well! 🤎
27 ans. Je privilégie le "confort géographique" Je suis actuellement dans une école à 15min de chez mes parents. J'ai déjà vécue seule pour me rapprocher de fac ou jobs que j'ai eu à fréquenter... Je fais des aller/retour jusqu'au jour où je me marierai 🤭 Je n'aime pas du tout vivre solo. Et ça fait moins mal au porte monnaie.
What is the beautiful song called that you played at the end of the video? I know you have used it in other videos as well. It is so pretty and relaxing.
its called As A Gift and I found it on epidemic sound!
This video came at the perfect time. I'm estranged from my mom and I was thinking today that I wished someone could discuss this topic that has a relationship with God. Thank you for posting this!
What great timing! God cares about us so much!
Traditional catholic, sspx have huge families sad state of affairs in novus ordo
We must pray for families to be open to life!
1Corinthians 16: 14 Let all your things be done with charity ❤ thank you for your videos you bless my soul I'm new on here
Love that verse! Thank you so much for being here
Did you take down your This Mama's house videos?? Almost all your videos are gone!
They are private for now while I discern where to go with that channel
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whats your view on contraception being a catholic
I follow the Churches teaching that contraception is morally wrong and intrinsically evil.
Love your videos! Do you plan to cut your hair in the near future?
What an odd question haha, don’t have plans to cut my hair, no
@@ThisMamasFaith Thanks for the kind reply. The reason I ask is I buy hair to make extensions for ladies with hair loss. I totally understand though.
@ that’s very cool that you do that for people!!
@@ThisMamasFaith Thank you, and I see you leave heart prints on many people. ❤❤
Just a question, scence you are a daughter of chriest as you say. I believe the bible said that any female who doesnt cover her hair it should be shaved to bold, you just follow what you chose of your book
I do cover my hair when worshipping during mass. I wear a veil.
@ThisMamasFaith it didnt say during worship only..
@@Malazkafi are you Christian?
@@ThisMamasFaith why would this affects your answer??
@@ThisMamasFaith you are a great person and mother, i like you and follow your mom content and would love to see you and your family in god's heaven (after a long happy life), and i would be very happy if you put in mind to explore islam. Read a translated copy of Quran, and under stand it, you see we believe in jesus definately , there is a whole chapter in Quran called (surat mariam ) mariam is the Arabic name of virgin marry , please read it and you will under stand Islam when you do and reach the truth about jesus peace be up on him, i would love to get your feed back after you do, and consider we are friends ( me too a mom to 4 kids oldest is 9 youngest is 2.5 years).
I really like your channel but wish you could turn up the volume or film closer to the camera, get a stronger microphone -- I'm on a laptop and can barely hear you and don't want to miss a word!
Interesting I haven’t heard anyone say this. Maybe your laptop is the problem? I’ll try turning up the volume a bit on the audio for my next video 😊
@@ThisMamasFaith Audio is fine for me.
@@ThisMamasFaith Thank you! I'll see if it's my setting, I appreciate you noting this and also making your videos loud enough.
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