Hi Paulien! I'm so happy I found you and have finally discovered what the problem is! I have thousands of hours of EFT under my belt from working for the last ten years on releasing trauma from childhood abuse. Healing the avoidant attachment is the last frontier for me and I'm excited and anxious to get to work. However, I'm having a hard time figuring out which of your videos have EFT tapping sessions in them. If I search "EFT" or "tapping" on your channel main page, a whole bunch of videos come up which is overwhelming. Do you have a list somewhere of the videos with tapping included? Would it be possible to add a tab or update your titles to include "EFT for" or "Tapping for" to make it easier? I appreciate your consideration and any help you can give. Thanks so much for doing this work!!
I watched one video about attachment theory and trauma and now every single one I come across all it does is tell me why I’m like that and the signs which does zero to help me heal and is just making me feel worst. I mean if you had an addict parent you kinda already know that you have cptsd. What good does knowing that do?
Learning strategies to calm your nervous system is a good second step! You and your body already know how, it comes naturally to you :) how empowering is that?? But sometimes the ways we calm ourselves aren't great. Unconditioning yourself from your automatic thought patterns is a third step, it takes therapy and/or a calm, centered approach to address your thoughts and behavior patterns in a kind and wise way **as they happen** which is why calm, centered, is important. For example, a body centered approach for the second step would be to: 1. notice a self-soothing behavior (biting nails, pulling eyelashes, brushing your knees, speaking or walking quickly, breathing shallowly, etc.) Try not to treat the behavior with shame. 2. slow it down. Bite your nails so slowly that you can really feel it 3. notice what you were thinking about or going through that caused you to self-sooth. Because by slowing our self-soothing mechanisms, we also slow our brains. Theyre part of the same system. 4. Now that youre calmer, you can more easily evade spiraling, and think about it more clearly (with a trusted friend, by journaling, in therapy, by making art and doodles, by word-vomiting on a napkin, etc). If you feel you need to be calmer for #4, or aren't able to process at that time, you can go into more calming stuff. Like breathing in deeply from your belly, up to your throat. And/or square breathing (4 seconds in, 4 second hold, 4 seconds out, 4 second hold), movements from martial arts (qigong, karate, etc.), slowly saying mantras in your head or out loud ("I am loved, I am valid" "I am here, and here now. I am safe"). This process interrupts trauma, helps us address trauma's ripples, and helps us interrupt shitty experiences before they turn into trauma
I understand. Today, I have heard in another video, to work on you and your resiliance and nervous system ( Breathing, feeling save in your body, mindfulness etc. ) first, before working on the trauma (with a therapist). Makes totally sense for me. Maybe this resonates with you. ❤
Hi Paulin,could you please make a video (if possible) on the healing signs of cptsd?
Somatic excercises changed my life when it comes to this
Which excercises?
Deep down, I feel so validated ❤
This is really such a good and accurate video. It needs more views.
Hi Paulien! I'm so happy I found you and have finally discovered what the problem is!
I have thousands of hours of EFT under my belt from working for the last ten years on releasing trauma from childhood abuse. Healing the avoidant attachment is the last frontier for me and I'm excited and anxious to get to work. However, I'm having a hard time figuring out which of your videos have EFT tapping sessions in them. If I search "EFT" or "tapping" on your channel main page, a whole bunch of videos come up which is overwhelming.
Do you have a list somewhere of the videos with tapping included? Would it be possible to add a tab or update your titles to include "EFT for" or "Tapping for" to make it easier?
I appreciate your consideration and any help you can give.
Thanks so much for doing this work!!
You should collab with heidi priebe on cptsd
Would love to!
EFT it isn't just modified version of EMDR?
I watched one video about attachment theory and trauma and now every single one I come across all it does is tell me why I’m like that and the signs which does zero to help me heal and is just making me feel worst. I mean if you had an addict parent you kinda already know that you have cptsd. What good does knowing that do?
Learning strategies to calm your nervous system is a good second step! You and your body already know how, it comes naturally to you :) how empowering is that?? But sometimes the ways we calm ourselves aren't great. Unconditioning yourself from your automatic thought patterns is a third step, it takes therapy and/or a calm, centered approach to address your thoughts and behavior patterns in a kind and wise way **as they happen** which is why calm, centered, is important. For example, a body centered approach for the second step would be to: 1. notice a self-soothing behavior (biting nails, pulling eyelashes, brushing your knees, speaking or walking quickly, breathing shallowly, etc.) Try not to treat the behavior with shame. 2. slow it down. Bite your nails so slowly that you can really feel it 3. notice what you were thinking about or going through that caused you to self-sooth. Because by slowing our self-soothing mechanisms, we also slow our brains. Theyre part of the same system. 4. Now that youre calmer, you can more easily evade spiraling, and think about it more clearly (with a trusted friend, by journaling, in therapy, by making art and doodles, by word-vomiting on a napkin, etc). If you feel you need to be calmer for #4, or aren't able to process at that time, you can go into more calming stuff. Like breathing in deeply from your belly, up to your throat. And/or square breathing (4 seconds in, 4 second hold, 4 seconds out, 4 second hold), movements from martial arts (qigong, karate, etc.), slowly saying mantras in your head or out loud ("I am loved, I am valid" "I am here, and here now. I am safe").
This process interrupts trauma, helps us address trauma's ripples, and helps us interrupt shitty experiences before they turn into trauma
I understand. Today, I have heard in another video, to work on you and your resiliance and nervous system ( Breathing, feeling save in your body, mindfulness etc. ) first, before working on the trauma (with a therapist). Makes totally sense for me. Maybe this resonates with you. ❤
Is het mogelijk dat mijn trauma pas later in mijn tienerjaren is ontstaan door een ex? Ik herken veel hiervan maar niet echt in mijn jeugd.