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- The ultimate goal of an Islamic marriage is to strive together in gaining nearness to Allah (swt). We have been created in pairs for a reason. If we find the true partner who completes half of our deen, that relationship would also continue in the hereafter, inshaAllah.
The ultimate goal of an Islamic marriage is to attain peace in life. We have been created in pairs for a reason. If we find the true partner who completes half of our deen, that relationship would also continue in the hereafter, inshaAllah.
Full video title: "Top Quality To Look For In A Spouse | Nouman Ali Khan"
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JazakAllah khair for full video....
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there is no such thing in Islam as marriage ....nikah the word means something else....in the Qur'an people also have temporary marriage (prostitute) for agreed time period and then pay later....so where is the marriage.....these people will only tell u half truth about 20% and the rest lies ....
MASHA_ALLAH
I’m not Muslim, but it’s heartwarming hearing this. If your partner makes your heart race every time you see them, they are not meant to be your partner. When you look at someone and you feel at home, you’ve found your other half. I’ve always felt this way. Suddenly a lot of Islam videos are popping up in my feed, hmm 🤔
What do you mean by heart race,
When you look at someone, and you get all giddy and excited and nervous all at once. The feeling of butterflies in the stomach kind of heart racing. That person isn’t meant to be your forever person. When you find someone that you move past that initial meeting feeling, you get calm around him/her, you feel warmth, at home. Peace. That’s your forever person.
@@jordanhollister9919 very true you have beautifully explained it and reflecting back on my life I can totally relate to what you have said
@@jordanhollister9919 Ma-Sha-Allah tabarak-Allah sister, thanks for showing respect towards Islam and thanks for your beutiful comment, May Allah guide you, Ameen! 🤲☺️
Probably you understood what most of us don't and you might be one of those getting guidance by Allah soon insha Allah. Stay blessed and happy.
This makes perfect sense. Which is why people say getting married as settling down. You settle down when you are at peace.
Make so much sense
cuz it's from allah. in the quran
But the main point is your spouse won't give you. Peace...you need peace before you marry
@@vitaminprotein9669 wtf?? LOL
@@yacineyaker7485 Uppercase A for Allah
I’m trying to get married to avoid haram. I found this wonderful Muslim girl who understands my autism. She makes me feel safe and understood. It’s peaceful talking to her and I’m trying to be halal. Ya Allah help me convince my parents to let me marry 😭🤲
Amin bro get married but love her a lot and learn patience also don’t let others influence your relationship
@@hakimdiwan5101 my parents took my legal rights away in court because in mildly autistic. Instead of helping me the took everything from me and abused me. I can’t do anything with out them signing off on it
@@josephdemaree8401 wtf they can do that??
Ameen
@@josephdemaree8401 convince ur parents ....if the girl is good they won't say no....they knw u bttr...
The verse is, " He created for you spouses from among yourselves so that you may find comfort in them" - Ar-Rum: 21
Peace and comfort are same thing if you look at it on bigger picture
@@junaidhassan7091 That was not my point. The verse is pointed to Men, but he talked about women.
Spouses can be men or women
@@MozDMay 😲👍
@@muhammadmejanulhaque3305 no it's talking about men and women
When he says shut up ...I was like...he is such a gentleman 😂😂
Omggg 😭
By being married you find peace
@@winstonlloyd2097 that's not always the case it depends if you have found the right person or not
@@roza_rose2230 true
Women usually find peace in 💵. They cant live peacefully if the husband has no 💷💶💴💵💸 and ask for divorce straight away(maybe after some time). Correct me if im wrong but i think im right.
I'm not a Muslim but this make sense. I have never heard answer like this but actually is a good answer. 🤔👍
May Allah bless you, sister.
@@samandarnazirov4921 qiz bola u oka 😁
Noman Ali Khan sir is really a good guide and you are also inspired by him. May Allah guide you to the right path, Ameen.
It's the best answer because it comes from source, God.
May Allah guide you sister Ameen Ya Rabb.
Pure and Clear Concept of God Unlike other religions, Islam is not named after its founder or the community of its birth. Islam is an attributive title that signifies obedience to God, the Creator of the Universe. One of its main beauties is that it acknowledges the complete perfection, greatness and uniqueness of God with absolutely no compromises. This is reflected in Islam's pure teachings of the attributes of God.
God is One and Unique:
God has no partners, no equals and no rivals.
God has no father, mother, sons, daughters or wives.
God alone is worthy of all worship.
God is the All-Powerful:
God has full authority and power over all things.
Obedience to God does not increase His Power, nor does disobedience decrease His power.
God is the Most High:
There is nothing above or comparable to God.
The attributes of God do not resemble that of His creation.
No part of God is present in anyone or anything.
God is Perfect:
God does not have any human limitations, such as resting on the seventh day after He created the universe.
God always maintains attributes of perfection and does not do anything to compromise this perfection such as "becoming a man" as claimed by other religions. God does not do ungodly acts, so if God became man and took on human attributes, he would, necessarily, no longer be God.
In the ayah he quoted: لِتسكنوا
literally means: to reside
Marry the one who you can reside in, someone to comfort you in difficult times, someone who you can trust that they care for you as you care for them and for the both of you to take care of your children in shaa Allah.
May Allah grant those who are not married a wife that can help them through.
Ameen brother!
No it doesn't come from reside, it comes from sakeenah which means tranquility, peace, serenity... etc
Can you share the surah and the ayay brother?
No my dear, it doesn't mean " to reside in " سكن في ، but سكن ل ... He mentioned the preposition that comes after the verb , and that changes the meaning from the fact of residence in a place to the feeling of safety of security found with someone. living with the spouse should provide his partner kind of emotions, this is the purpose.
You’ve done the tafsir better than him ,tabarak allah , May Allah bliss you
I can’t believe he said that 😮 my husband can’t stand if I’m upset with him. I asked why one time and he said “you’re my peace” ❤ marriage is one of the hardest jobs I’ve ever had and I learn something new everyday. Been married for 15 years and together for 18 years.
subhanAllah😍
compliments and all are cool but being someone's peace,making someone feel at home wow.
may you beautiful journey ahead💓
Wish you peaceful life together
Thank you, may Allah bless us many more years together! Alhamdulillah
Marrying for peace, tranquility, love then family. We believed in Islam & trust you Allah
So my wife was listening to this short.. she came over and told me I can prove that you're at peace with me.. I said go ahead.. so she goes around a little bit and said.. if I disappear for 3 days will you be at peace or would you be terrified the entire time.. Ladies and gentlemen there was no other answer.. and she was pretty satisfied..
😃 good one.
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😀😀👏 she is a genius.
😂😂😂😂😂😂 smart women
She trusts u enough to talk to u about this, says alot about you. Happy marriage.
I grew up listening to how he explain Quran. I admire this guy very much
Im not muslim but everytime this man comes up, i really enjoy watching him.
Alhamdulillah Allah has blessed us with a peaceful marriage. Ofcourse not all days are the same, and some are bit more difficult to get through than others, but it gets easier when we decide to forgive the people we love.
Alhumdillah
MashAllah
Yeah absolutely..... When you feel peace with someone.... That's the most beautiful period of your life.... Amen wish me to live a peaceful life
I love this Sheikh
He's Nouman Ali Khan. An Pakistani-American. He's a great guy.
@@batmanofnortheast no he is german brother right ?
Hard to find peace when you are in marriage now a days....but peace will be in yr heart if you remember Allah ...the moment you remember Allah that when you find peace...no matter what states you are in...
True. Quran also mentioned that spouse and children could be test or trials.
@@humanbeing3946 anything can be trials...spouse, kid, friends , neighbours, finance, health ...all can be trials and tribulations ...pity us human...thats why Allah says remember me...
Someone who is full of empathy, down to earth, faithful ...these qualities give me peace
Nowadays peace disappears after marriage. It’s sad but it’s true
Not true
It's worse when you're single with a body count of a 100 before age 20
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@@aaa-ip4yl many of the Sahabis were the worst of the worst before Islam. That doesn't matter if you've committed yourself to your Deen and sincerely repented for what you've done. Part of the issue is that everyone feels the need to shame every one for every thing.
@@sabir1208 Allah forgives if you've repented sincerely, and since I'm a believer of Islam, it does matter, nowadays people shame people with multiple wives, even if they all are happy, but movies are made over women commiting to their "role" of being a sexual object, gays are accepted into society, and in contrast, everything is going bad, and since everyone watches western media etc, it's reinforced in the people who are actually somewhat decent people, look at veganists, they fight for a noble and good cause, yet they do it in such an extreme manner, purely due to the people portraying it
You have to marry someone that’s God fearing then the rest will follow.
Those God fearing Namazis, Hajis, cap wearing, beard keeping guys are the worst when it comes to character.
Yeah you should marry someone pious, but sometimes you just can't feel comfortable with someone no matter how they are. There is no such thing as the rest will follow, if you don't feel peacefull with someone you don't feel peacefull, it's npt gonna happen by some sort of magic
When he said "I wanna marry her 'cause i love her," with that voice 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😭
I'm not a religious person but after 5 years ago in through drug and alcohol addiction I found my peace I have a loving boyfriend the two children I found peace after all those years
Alhamdulillah 💚🌺
Now have him make an honest woman of you and put a ring on it! Alhamdullilah
Subhan'Allah ❤️. Sheikh Norman Amazing human being. ❤️
Wallahi Thank Allah for People like Nouman he's so inspiring and funny in some Cases wonderful Alhamdullilah
Masha Allah..... great speech.....may Allah accept us in peace....amin.
"You're not marrying a beard!" got me. lol
Sobhan Allah, that's exactly how I think!! I mean why getting married just because society said you should!! If the person you get marry to will only make you stress and sick , choosing the person with whom you gonna share your life with should be something we do really carefully.
Do Not Risk to be with the wrong person even if you love him/her.
It’s unfair to reduce the meaning of deen to a ‘beard’ as it’s only a small indicator of deen while his character, tongue, and many more thing encompasses his deen. The Sunnah calls us to marry for their deen.
He meant mostly people judge by looks at the time of marriage and most often people tend to perceive a bearded person as Pious or practicing compared to a clean shaven
He said that cuz beard is so so necessary part in Deen . Anything which prophet Mohammed sallallahu alaihi wasallam ordered we have to do cuz Allah said in Qur'an many times, obey Allah and his prophet, obey Allah and his prophet, and u will find a lot Hadiths how necessary beard is ,
Even he turned his face with anger when he saw shaved men of Persia 🙂 and he clearly said my master ordered me to trim moustache and leave beard . But we made Islam modern 🤣
@@BleskofTruth yeah right I agree, only if people would put half the efforts into becoming a better person acting on his(SAW) Seerah and Akhlaq e Hasana too,Akhlaq e Hasana are an integral and fundamental part of Deen but people put an effort only to appear virtuous,kind instead of becoming virtuous and kind.Growing beard is easy and needs a lil motivation while becoming a virtuous kind person is way more difficult and especially when you are an adult
@@laibanasir3498 we can flip your statement exactly on Muslims who wear hijab. The one who is truly pious is with Allah however one is openly sinning and the other isn’t? Are they equal? I’m guilty that I’v perceived hijabi more pious than non hijabis and I feel my view is justified because I don’t know their intentions( Allah’s knowledge) but I judge others only on their actions. That’s all’s we got really to see who is perhaps good for us. No doubt our assessments of individuals can be absolutely wrong or we are spot on. We have salatul istikarah for guidance with decisions. Who we marry righteous or not will be our test.
He is basically saying the psychology of the couple should be compatible. That will lead to peace & calm on most occasions in sha Allah & lead in most cases to a relatively successful marriage. DOMINANT will be compatible with submissive.✅submissive will be compatible with submissive.✅ DOMINANT will NOT be compatible with DOMINANT🥊🥴.❎🤷🏾♂️🤔All the best!😇
Yes peace is awarded by Allah Pak
Perfectly said bro
Alhamdulillah for this video.
I was at a bit of crossroads but this has opened my head.
Alhamdulillah thumma alhamdulillah
"You are not marrying a beard" Bro..🤣
Yes astaghfirullah i didn't like the way he said like that it's a part of religion, and sound like if belitteling even of cause some who have beard or hijab don't mean they automatically are just the best or may not have flaws shortcomings, sins or bad things it may depend but the way he said i don't like, he speak too much about things in islam but he rarely if ever mention qoute Hadith and don't teach Islam how Islamic tradition is to teach Islam, with Quran and Sunnah, may Allah guide him noman Ali Khan to learn Islam in reality real good first before he teach, Ameen
@@1TruthIslam4uSunniSalefSaleh agree ... his explanation is wrong but i get what he meant . However, some people dont get him and take another view of beards and hijabs!
@@1TruthIslam4uSunniSalefSaleh You didn't understand why he said so. Just because a person is keeping long beard doesn't mean he's a religious person. And just also, just because a person is religious doesn't mean he/she is peaceful.
Subhanallah. Very correct answer. The only correct answer is coming from Allah.
Well said so true
Subhanallah! Learning Quran is the most beautiful journey I've ever embarked on ❤️ It is a divine speech, sent to us from Allah SWT 💎
the face he makes while saying "i wana marry her bcz i love her"🙄🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
سبحان الله تعالى....اللهم ارزقنا الزوجة الصالحة, آمين يا رب.
He nails literally everything! Haha. May Allah bless us all!
. Mashallah Nouman Ali Khan is a modern scholar that we can appreciate this modern world.
Why does he make me always peaceful?
I know this brother, he is WISE. He has the "Hikmeh" (wisdom) as Quran puts it.
In the western world, I find more peace alone. Most marriages are in chaos.
CAUSE
Here in Europe
Every where is FITNA 😣
Then.. If you want to marry the world is huge.. You can try to relocate to another place where you can find a spouse with similar goal and purpose and have a family there.
You can try .. This doesn’t mean it is always easy but if you have a goal you can pursue it.
Best of luck.
@@deenagamal5058 I have an excellent career. I can't and I won't quit my job so I can't leave the country.
@@sonny12681
'peace' is a wrong translation,the closest translation is 'settle down',so setteling down is always an option.
@@sonny12681 are you men or women.
I love this beautiful preaching. its important to listen to it
You marry for her/his deen and aklaq and the result of those two choices produces peace, love and mercy between you and your spouse to be. Allah knows best.
It's not a given that any person with akhlaq and deen would keep you at peace. That's why he said that you're not marrying a beard
@@SF7PAKISTAN we must have different understanding of ahklaq and deen
وَ مِنْ اٰیٰتِهٖۤ اَنْ خَلَقَ لَكُمْ مِّنْ اَنْفُسِكُمْ اَزْوَاجًا لِّتَسْكُنُوْۤا اِلَیْهَا وَ جَعَلَ بَیْنَكُمْ مَّوَدَّةً وَّ رَحْمَةًؕ-اِنَّ فِیْ ذٰلِكَ لَاٰیٰتٍ لِّقَوْمٍ یَّتَفَكَّرُوْنَ(۲۱) سورة الروم :٢١
SUBHANALLAH
May Allah bless us with spouse that will bring us peace...amin
His shut-up is so gentle n with love ..I dont know shut-up can be say this gentle
Yes. That's just what I need. Peace.
it makes me cry... how a man who loves me the most doesn't give me peace bcz he doesn't understand me enough and still wants to marry me bcz he can't live without me!! Bro... wht abt mee
Ask him all the questions you have. It's not a game. It's your whole life journey. Make the right decisions, so you won't regret about it. Islam will help you making those decisions.
Take it seriously. Not joking😒!!!
You women are just weird
@@EazyE373 Looks we got a romeo here 😂.
She is trying play a boy ha ha
But you don't have choice must stay away from him bcos his future
he needs a best one that's not You
I agree with this statement. If couples had true peace then other problems wouldn’t matter so much.
The peace that they have would provide comfort when times get tough.
Peace 🤍🤍🤍
Masha Allah
It's true marriage without peace is nothing.
Hadith -Allah’s messenger have said
1.
“WOMEN MAY BE MARRIED FOR
FOUR THINGS: THEIR WEALTH,
THEIR LINEAGE, THEIR BEAUTY
AND THEIR RELIGIOUS
COMMITMENT. CHOOSE THE ONE
WHO IS RELIGIOUSLY COMMITTED,
MAY YOUR HANDS BE RUBBED
WITH DUST (I.E., MAY YOU
PROSPER).
AL-BUKHAARI(5090),
2.
"WHEN SOMEONE
PROPOSES MARRIAGE
TO ONE OF YOU WHOSE
RELIGION &
CHARACTER
PLEASES YOU.
THEN YOU SHOULD
MARRY HIM.
FOR IF YOU DO NOT DO THAT THERE
WILL BE FITNAH ON THE EARTH &
WIDESPREAD CORRUPTION."
The second Hadith is ranked Daif by Darusalaam.
I think anyway. The Hadith I found ( Jami` at-Tirmidhi 1085 ) had slightly different wording than what you’ve said
@@Bushra-uu3fo The full hadith is this,you should back up your statement otherwise you may lead other Muslim astray by your dismissal of a Hadith
The Messenger of Allah said: "When someone whose religion and character you are pleased with comes to you then marry (her to) him. If you do not do so, then there will be turmoil (Fitnah) in the land and discord (Fasad). If you do not do so, then there will be turmoil (Fitnah) in the land and discord (Fasad)." They said: "O Messenger of Allah! What if there was something about him?" He said: "When someone whose religion and character you are pleased with comes to you then marry him." (And he (pbuh) said this) three times.
-Jami Al tirmidi 1085
Daeef doesn’t mean it’s fabricated,it means a link of narrator or an author is missing but the context is according to the teaching of Islam so it is not to be dismissed & of course an arabic word can be translated with different synonymous english words but it doesn’t change the interpretation
@@amermaid8248 They already posted the Hadith so I just mentioned the strength. I believe it's important to know when Hadiths can be relied upon and when they should be taken with a pinch of salt and Daeef Hadith generally aren't used as a basis for rulings as it is recognised they can't be relied upon.
Also i don't think Daeef mean when a link is missing (that's mursal hadith, though I guess some may consider that a type of Daeef hadith). Daeef I've generally seen used when a transmitter is ranked as weak e.g., due to bad memory or not having a virtuous character which means that the narrations from them can't be heavily relied upon.
Yes, there's probably not much harm in this Hadith being transmitted because it is in line with teachings anyway, but we have other reliable sources. If the rule is seen elsewhere in Hadith or Quran, why not look to these relied-upon sources instead of looking to unreliable ones? It's like when Muslims say to Christians about the Bible, would you take from a glass of water if you knew it had a drop of poison in it? IMO we have enough in these reliable sources to not need to draw upon unreliable ones too much and so we should avoid drawing upon unreliable ones (but I'm not a scholar, this is just what I understood)
-From what I understand but Allah knows best
Alhamdulilah for islam
Jazakallahu khaira
Thats so interesting because when me and my partner met, we were juat coming out of very crazy times. Been with her for 6 years now. Long live our peace.
SubhanAllah
I'm not a muslim but I agree to ur words 👍
@BursanglaKichu welcome to Islam, Peace
We married to the one the we need for my hole Life.....if you married the one you love or like.soon you know you married somebody the you love but not what you need for you life 👍👍👍☝️☝️☝️✌️✌️✌️and remember we not ATM....just men.😂🤣😂
Peace is Jannah, a partner should take you close to Allah instead of further away
What makes me peaceful?
I would say am respectful and gentle
In my dealings with the person of different gender
SubhanAllah, subhanallah, subhanallah. 😊❤😊.
This is true
SUBHAN ALLAH ♥️🥰💯 ,, MASHA ALLAH ♥️🥰💯 ,, ALLAH HO AKBAR ♥️🥰💯
The way he said shut up 😂😂😂😂
Plenty of Thanks to u brother
You only have peace when you love and respect each other.
So if have to find spouse, i will look for a man who loves and respects me.
احسند
Bravo my brother.
MashAllah
The way he speak I love it and it's so important thing that he tell us mashallah
Responsibilities a lot of responsibilities!
Maturity respect and communication
Love is actually literally the greatest thing in the world, because love is god's only characteristic that we humans have💖love is an emotion that absorbs peace in totality🧡🕊️love is peace!
May Allah bless you sheikh
He is totally right 👍 👌
سبحان الله وبحمده سبحان الله العظيم 🌴
MA SHA ALLAH
You won't have any peace if there's no love and respect. So look for that first. And peace will come through.
My Muslim friends mum and dad are related. His mum, is his dads great niece and she was 13 years old when she became pregnant, his dad was in his 50s, and he married her when she was 10 years old.
Most today agree this practice is completely ok within Muslim communities, but nobody is ready for that conversation.
Peace is Islam also ALLAHU AKBAR
It's like this video spoke to me / some kind of sign.
I've went through lot so had made decision to never "marry" so I could live peacefully....
Bless this man. Bless you all
SHURRUP
had me diving on the floor 🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣🤣😂🌺🌹⚘🌷
Baraka-Allah-fik Brother ❤
Sokoon has multiple meanings. Its not only Peace. But Dwelling also.
Never thought about it but he's right
That peace is actually wholeness
Finally someone gets it. Peace!!!!!
what could... makes me peaceful is .. a woman with a great energy and sense of humor.
Here is the truth This time people look at only beauty and money and love but what truth is to get peaceful good bless my brother nouman Ali khan you reminded me privilege think I always give you graduate
Good luck trying to find in today's relationship
Alhamdulillah i am so in peaceful being married to my husband
And another (favor) that you love-Victory from Allah and an imminent conquest ;and give good tidings to the believers,
Its not peace it's satisfaction.
Hhhhh Sheikh Ali Khan..... kumbe this voice was yours..... Mashaa Allah tabarakaAllah brother ❤️ Shukran for your advice JazakaAllahu Khair brother ❤️
Hada kahore mada arkin
Miya wll shekha?
For one time i liked his saying
you cant find peace unless you find love
Deen brings you peace!
JazakAllah Khair
Peace is good