Don't ignore red flags in a relationship! 🚩🚩
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- Опубликовано: 19 июн 2024
- Are you ignoring the red flags in your relationship?!
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I have been in a relationship with a girl whom i met online in my college . As classes were online so we become friends and we use to chat a lot after 2 months she said she likes me and i accepted that and we met only once in real life in these 2 months , she knows me a lot in these 2 months as we use to do phone calls and zoom so i thought wow i think she is the one. But the thing is that his family background , her life style and everything is kind of different than mine but i ignored everything and thought i will handle everything. Her past is also affecting me but i still ignored that also. After that when classes become offline on first day itself she started acting so different she use to spend more time with her friends than me. And i got to know that she has a best friend but she said he is like his brother but their action doesnt resembles with their words. So after keep ignoring this i got frustrated after a week and i said i dont like him because as a boy i know his intention and it doest seems good and she was like no no he is not like that i will handle everything . After sometime we had a huge fight because of him and i know he brainwashed her. And after that we just stopped talking i was like you choose your best friend and i will choose my selfrespect. I am not here to be someone's second choice. And then i have started working on myself and i knw i deserve better. So i just wanted to say just dont go blind in love and acknowledge the redflag and consider it . Just don't ignore it.
Good one bro👍
Superb
same hamara sath esa hua yeh online mode mai logo ki reality pata nahi lagi
Same thing happened to me brother
You made a great decision Ayush.
Red flag wala concept is the most important thing for innocent people coz they always forgive and forget also....and the chalak one take advantage of it always...i m suffering of this ....and i suffered alot...now i m aware of it and always put the logic of red flag in this type of situation and it works....Thank God i have you...👏
Exactly what I thought
Agree.. they try to show you how innocent they are.. until we find truth, we get attached to that person..and the suffering begins..hope we find high valued persons like us with same mindset in our life..✨🥂🍷🙌🏻
Agreed...... 💯
Very insightful and rational points. Ignored and compromised such red flags, then later paid the price for almost 3 years of my life. Wish to see a detailed video on such red flags from boys perspective.
Hello sir, I totally agree with you. I wish I had known this before. I was justifying my bf’s no meeting for 1.5years policy, indifference, insensitive, cold and rude actions, saying he has exams. This happened for 2 years straight and in the end he continued to be the same after exams. That’s when it hit me, this guy is never gonna be free to talk to me. It was a 4 year long relationship and I ended it finally. It took me months to overcome the trauma of being used and still haunts me. Thank you for sharing. Many will benefit from this.
Focus on career. It's a trap. Useless
@@gotimlol5318 , 100% true. That’s what I am doing now and have increased my spiritual quotient. Clearly I’m in a good headspace right now.
Thanks for sharing your life experience..
Didnot you try to know the reason of your bf behaviour even after exam ??
@@rupamtiwari8031 , hello there, good question. I did, I tried to understand his side and asked him the reason 3-4 different calls in the following months, he kept saying different reasons which is sad when one person tries 100 ways to break off.
Very True Sir!!!
We should not ignore our gut feelings and intuition..they come because there is something wrong somewhere...do not ignore them
Your partner's social media account is biggest red flag source in this generation.
Ekdin bolega ghapa ghap karte hain 😂😂😂🤣😂🤣🤣😂🤣😂
Ker lene de dost he uska use accha lagta he 🤣🤣🤣🤣
I entirely agree with you sir
Wonderful examples 👍🏻
Perfect guidance with practical examples ! Thank you ...again like a big brother advice much needed !
Many times we give benefit of doubt for things which are logically clear. Best way is to talk it out and if some one can not go beyond their comfort for us to make it right, it is time to call it off than getting stuck and being frustrated.
Chetan sir you have billion admirers worldwide, stay blessed
Great reminder sir, thanks for another great video. Boundaries are needed in all relationships, whether friends or family, self respect is important to grow as a person. They may seem rude to the other person , but will help you in the long run. It’s as simple as saying No. Trust your gut, your emotions will tell you.
Well said ! Absolutely right 👍❤
Very true sir. Thanks for enlightening us🙏
Well said! You pinpointed 📌 the exact things! We should keep all these things in mind...the red flags 🚩🚩
Thanks Sir 🤍
Do make more videos for girl audiences..they also need advice from your life experiences.😊
Agreed
Your Content is so relatable and helpful Sir.
Wondering why only 20% female viewers 🤷
Exactly. We need more female audience :)
Because they are busy with their best friends😂😂😂😂
😂bf= best friend
Nice topics wth excellent explanations...nowadays many want to be in the wonderland....not knowing the practical thing about behaviors and basics of being in relationships in any field. Thankyou so much ...
I was married last year ..my partner was very rude to me from start ...he was meeting a girl behind my back which he never told me about and saving her number in name of a guy ...I just dont have the courage to tell my middle class parents that their choice has made my life hell and I want separation .....
It's never too late girl. You deserve some happiness. You only live once and it's a quick trip. Don't let him ruin it for you.
Aj nahi to kal ye chiz bhr ayegi asap bat kijiye ap
My own life was ruined by an alcoholic womaniser he totured me for 17 yrs died a dog's death
Please 🙏🙏 leave this mam immediately don't ruin ur life mine was an arranged marriage my parents didn't verify
Again pls divorce u can't live with a cheat
@@antrikshachatterjee368 yeah you're right. How you're doing now? Are you good?
Are you crazy? Why do you think it’s your fault cz clearly you do that’s why tou not telling tour parents. Hatao aise partner ko jitni jaldi ho sake nd dnt even think abt having children with this guy if you love your future children dnt give them a cheating father. Have some self respect nd move on. Choose your own path
Thank you Chetan sir. This video is gold and these are things which aren't exactly obvious but also no one teaches or tells. Even if you ask your parents or cousins or friends they think you are 'lola' or 'itna shareef ki bewakoof hai'. Then you start doubting yourself. When i was 16, i had this self doubting, low self esteem mentality and you start abusing yourself that how could you be manipulated by a girl. Then in some cases begin trust issues with girls.
Now, I'm 18 and exploring your channel. Cleared IIT and most importantly for the first time in life have radiating and oozing self confidence, something which i couldn't have ever dreamt for. This channel currently helps a lot. Sometimes i remember that past and have a little doubt on what if i become that person again. What if i again start to have feelings for someone who is manipulative and uses you. This teaches you some things that others don't. Thank you so much sir. Love from Punjab ♥️♥️
True ...thank you dear...
The total subscribers only depicts number on RUclips but the respect and love people have for you is infinte ,so stay blessed
Great insights ! Please make more content on relationships!!
Hi chetan sir thankyou for your morning advice, looking forward for many many more
Sir, every time you come on this platform, you explain the concepts very well. Kindly, discuss how to deal with emotional atyachar and outbursts of parents. .....Thanks........
But the problem is, after noticing the red flag and you want to discuss the same with her,she would definitely reply like..you started judging me,you are so insecure,you are so narrow minded...and than she will leave you telling that she don't want to stay with such a narrow minded and insecure guy and leave you with a question in your mind like ..am I really insecure or narrow minded 🤔🤔🤔
Absolutely true...
you don't know.... everyday how many blessings you earned ♥️♥️
Hi. Great video 🙂
Wish to see more red flags scenarios from indian society context
thank you sir for this video. you are really like a big brother and guide for us. please try making more videos related to this topic. ❤❤❤❤❤
Though its a serious discussion. But Sir, As you said" Shaam ko hawa khanne jaate hai" I literally smiled. Thank you sir for your valuable information.
Excellent sir.... Even I have experienced myself......
An eye opener video . Thanks a lot sir ❤️👍
So nice.. thank you Chetan sir 🦋
Yes Sir, you are right... healthy boundaries should be drawn from both genders when they are in a relationship otherwise there will be no difference b/w his/her partner & other individuals..& if there is no boundary there is no respect
Yes ,sir u r absolutely right.
Sir, please make more videos about relationships. We need proper guidance on this subject. I myself was in my 2nd relationship when I realized that I was ignoring multiple red flags and later, things went south. I used to text/call the guys my ex-girlfriend would talk/chat with and then tell them to stay away, but later I realized that my ex-girlfriend was herself seeking validation from them due to which she would continually entertain them even after me wanting her to not do so. I recently broke up (it has not even been one week) and she already has someone else to give her company, so clearly there were things I did not know about before. Thank you for guiding us correctly.
Same
Once told by Same Red flag concept by Shwetabh G. 2 years back. 👍 I am following it till now. It's the best approach to maintain relationship.
Bilkul Sahi Sir , 20days broke up after 5.5 years of relationship always ignored her character and personality, even my friends about that girl and was almost going for engagement & even though i know back of the mind something is not good just justifying at last she cheated 😂
✨Now i am very happy in my life ki bhai bach gya but red flags dekh leta to bahot acha hota✨
Best video
Really good topic touched..
Thank you so much sir for this video.
I am 20 years old...at the age of 16-17 I was feeling like I should get into relationships...but since 2-3 years of my mature thinking because of internet my thought about relationship has become zero....👌👌
Reason- As I have come to know about Jonny Depp vs Amber herd case...My thought about getting into relationship has gone to minus infinity...👍👍
Look how happily our Modi ji and Yogi ji living life ....👍👍👍true inspiration...
@Shivangi Vashishth it's never too late...life gives you at least one chance to transform yourself...I watch Aacharya Prashant on RUclips...and then Chetan sir..I got matured early because of the 4g internet and smartphone era...And my introvert nature also helped me a lot to stay focused...👍👍
And my surroundings also because I know a lot of boys and girls are into toxic relationship just because of sexual earge, nothing else...
@@VikasKumar-zz4qr buddy i have watched an ad of acharya prashant about the menu card of delhi, bhopal restaurant like why it is written in english why not in hindi but he missed the fact that not only from northern people are living in northern area also from south india and foreigners do live their i don't think that acharya prashant is as mature as people think he is maturity is then when he would have realised that its a diverse country and its ok to menu of north to be in english as all Indians do not understand the language but what majority of indians do know atleast how to read and understand the language i wanna know you perspective about this
@@prazum Bro I am talking about free videos that are available on RUclips helped me a lot to stay on the right path...But please don't bring language politics... please please...🙏🙏
I don't have any idea about menu card...🙏🙏
@@VikasKumar-zz4qr sorry bro but i myself am not good in speaking hindi i understand the language though it feel like i am being discriminated in internet for not knowing the language i hope that you will understand my feeling about this
@@prazum I totally agree with you brother....But I think his videos are also in English... perhaps on his application I think...and there he has videos in English as well...
Sbse acha relationship main he mt aao.......ye red flag ka tension khatam.........😜
Golden Word for today's reality. Better to be single and have fun travel world. Love is an intangible blinding force that overrides ones logic and common sense. Humans need companionship in life but if you are not mentally ready. Do not get into relationship or even marriage.
True... relationship sucks and I don't know whether I'll marry either
Thanks so much sir..💐💐💐
Perfectly genuine thoughts....sir
Please made a video on how to overcome bad timming..
U r right guruji
Thx fir the video, this was the most needed
Awesome Sir ❤👌..
Self analysis is also important sir.. I mean the question to ur own self "Is there anything that I am doing wrong that makes him/her behave so?" And obviously next comes the discussion.
You r absolutely right sir, exactly this things happened with me
Yes! Vibes don't lie
Thnk u sir jo apka treeka h smjhane shayad he koi smjhaye thnk u seriously sir
100% true sir, this is whole talk is very real and the same thing hepped with me one month ago but I am totally clear about it
Very relatable to my relationship sir. We were in a relationship for 1 year. Just broke up 1 month back. My ex girlfriend always used to hide her family members, her friends. I don't know why but she never showed them to me. I kept on ignoring the red flags and justifying everything. Once she went out with a guy and told me that she went out with a friend. But when I asked her who he was and how come they know each other, she just cut the conversation in some other direction.
I agree with you sir 🙏
These are all true, i've experienced them as sir says "Be Strong or be ruled by the strong".
The Truth ... !
All are relatable with my presence situations.. thanks
With this video, You are going to bring an end to so many relationships Sir 🤣🤣
hahaha 😁😂
and grow many careers ❤️
Always right ▶️
Chetan Sir, aapne duniya dekhi hai 👍
This is harsh reality ❤️🔥
Chetan sir, please make video on concentration . Me bahut padhna chahta hu bahut try karta hu sare distraction ke sources bandh kar diye hai fir bhi padhai me man nahi lagta . Future k bare me insecure feel hota h
I also face those things but kbhi uske against step ni le paaye and that was my huge mistake it took me too long to accept that he is not fit for me but I realise those things very late I regret always when I remind those situation how poor I was or how dull I was thinking about myself bcoz khudko acha smjhti to bht pehle step le paati ye tb hi hota h jb aap kisi relation me aate ho or samne waale ko bht high level ka mante ho if aap khudko bhi equal smjhte to hm kaise apne brabari waalo ko muh pe turant bol dete but unhe ni bol paaye bht sir chadha kr kisi ko rkhoge to wo yhi krenge
But thankfully I ended up all things nd happyily smiling with my sweet one 💖
Very helpful 👌
Superb video eye opener for many people keep it up the great things ahead
Thanks a ton!
Ty sir.
You are amazing!😄❤️❤️❤️
I loved this video sir 😘😘😘😘
Thankyou 🥰
I strongly agree with all the points Chetan discussed, but what I see around me, people don't want to compromise and don't do the efforts to save the relationship between husband and wife, and misunderstanding is the root cause of red flags and Phone and social media is the biggest culprit of spoiled relationship.
You just know the best way to keep it simple and ...ummm...i think 🤔 💭... soulful...
Love love ❤
Hope u reply...
Thank you so much 😀
Thanku sir
Hello Chetanji, I like your videos and based out of India. One thought came to my mind. Your videos are too good and filled with inspiration. But In my opinion if you add English subtitles to your videos, people who do not understand hindi, will also benefit from your videos. Thanks!
Sir , I heard many people saying that you're good in, as well as only for literature,but after watching some of your videos i felt that a person has no exact defining especially when he/she is a writer. Thank u sir for your videos 💖🙏.
Love you sir!
Love u sir..❣😇
Thank you
This I needs today itself ❤❤❤❤
Chetan sir kamaal han ap✌🎖
You are doing a good job.✌☘
Sir make a video on fear of being cheated, relationship-phobia, Not good enough feeling...its a request!
This is Gold
It’s hard to avoid and move on from this type of relationship where are too many red flags but I think patient need this bitter medicine and it’s hard but it’s better to move on & things will be fine sooner or later 😊
Very gud video
Bitter truth of today's society
converse krna chahiye jb bhi esa doubt ho...the major part of any healthy relationship is conversation..so do it....confront your fear..at the end it will be better for you...
Stay blessed 🙌
That gas cylinder analogy hit the nail so hard
Yes sir....
Thank u ❤
You're welcome 😊
True
Uber driver hai
Pani puri 🙏🤣
Thank you sir💯
Nice sir
Chetan sir.. please make a video on girlfriend's male bff and how it become toxic.. saying i love you to each other.. posting couple goals photos etc. I mean what should be the boundaries of bff and boyfriend and it become toxic for relationship.. i'm no one to judge someone's friendship. I m also someone's bff and ex boyfriend. I cheated by her and her bff. They are in relationship suddenly then she breakuped with me saying "me uske liye sbko xod skti hu. Koi uske baare me kuch bhi bole, me sun nhi skti.." yrr mene to aisa kuch bola bhi nhi aram se doubt solve ya puchne ki koshish kro till the end of call. But she want breakup and said all our mutual frnds that i become possesive and toxic. May be she don't know her boundaries our she intentionally cheated on me.
So kindly request sir please make a video on regarding this matter. I want your perspective upon this. You are my mentor ✨💕
And yeah she share her ig, google photos id password with him. But did not share with me. I mean he can see all her photos of her privacy photo of her(which she shares with only me), me, and also us..
Karma will take care of her. Don't worry man 🍷🙌
She belongs to the streets bro
What about female bff , seriously I hate this kind of trend today like best friend. My bf was an extremely extrovert person and had a lot of female friends around him .he used to talk with them till late nyt and used to tell me that just friend bla bla........,being Too much physical, roaming at nights with them ,and saying just friends. As an introvert ,I felt alone sometimes and even I told him just to maintain little distance , friendship is ok but over caring , sharing .. ,I don't know I am right or wrong but I didn't liked it . And he always used to take his friends side. I was so much emotially drained that I was unable to left him and also was not happy with him. Finally I broke up somehow .it was diificult for me but I managed. Now I am happy and most important my mind is at peace.
If you are finished watching this , please do not click any more relationship advice videos of other channels that appear on the right side. Ek video dekho , ek samjhdaar banday ka , usi ki baat suno.
Solution = become deserving (baap bano sabke) top pe jao fr sab niche honge.
This is harsh reality
True, wise word . Be deserving . Do not run after people. they will come
Are bhaiya kisi ko to Jana hii padega sab isi attitude me rahenge to pichhe kon jayega phir😂😂
@@roshanisingh6731 hmm but u have to focus on your work only
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Rocking 😇
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Hey sir what you think about education loans ? I,ve watched your previous video about don,t borrow money