I think it's great you're doing these more deep self help videos, especially because it doesn't matter how old and wise one thinks they are, a breakup Is hard and most of us make it worse for ourselves when she pulls away. thank you alpha for making a real Difference, love you brother💪❤️
Thanks alpha I was just about to search your videos for a link to this, betterhelp therapy. I seen your videos before but have been hesitant. Thanks for the videos and content. 😁 Funny enough I used your link for audible which lead me to a book. That helped me realize I need therapy to heal.
Breaking up with someone might be painful at first, but as time goes on you realize that you can get the same satisfaction by doing things you like, all while improving yourself in any way, like working out, having more selfsteem and valuing more who you are. It's not the end of the world, believe me, it's just shaping you as a man and as a person. Stay strong!
Good point Joxenmaster24! Breaking up is not easy, but it’s part of life - sometimes relationship run its course, and there’s nothing that you can do about it. There's three things in life that's certain: Death, taxes, and unfortunately breakups! Alright, I just made that last part up, but it’s pretty close - you just have to find a way to deal with it. It’s not the end of the world - just the end for you and that person you love so much, I know, I’m being insensitive - but it’s true! Lol Anyway, that’s my two cents. -Carlos Verde - Dating Tips
Hi if two people living together for some reason one don't want to stay together all you have to say is take your things and move out no love lost I have love and lost and never to love again if two are not happy the best way out is to say I am going my way sort your self out no question asked there are more fishes in the sea over 4 million women are single try youe luck man
The worst thing to do is to get in a rebound relationship after a break up. I got in another relationship a week later after breaking up with a chick. It was the worst decision that I ever made. I would think about my ex all through the relationship. Healing and staying away from porn is the best thing that you can do.
You’re so right Garrick! Lol Breaking up is not easy, but it’s part of life - sometimes relationship run its course, and there’s nothing that you can do about it. There's three things in life that's certain: Death, taxes, and unfortunately breakups! Alright, I just made that last part up, but it’s pretty close - you just have to find a way to deal with it. It’s not the end of the world - just the end for you and that person you love so much, I know, I’m being insensitive - but it’s true! Lol Anyway, that’s my two cents. -Carlos Verde - Dating Tips
I agree about entering an actual relationship. You need time alone and to heal yourself. Hook ups on the other hand have positive results. Might as well enjoy being single after all.
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Stay strong boys, from experience therapy is good after a breakup. My first breakup was devastating, it took me 6 months to heal, now I look back and thank myself for going through that. A breakup teaches you what to look for and stay away from in your next relationship, but time is key.
Married 16 years and she up and walked out. Had me committed for 3 days and then arrested for demestic. Spent 17 months in jail. Lost my house, truck and job. Got out and texted her and got arrested for violating restraining order. Done another 9 months. In 16 years of marriage I never once put my hands on her. She told the cops that she was scared for her life. And this is the girl who said that she loved me. I never seen it coming. She was a totally different person. I was with her all that time and never knew her at all.
I feel you, its what’s happening to me now, i feel like i dont know my wife and all her words was wants to get away from me. I may have done some things but i never run from my responsibilities as a father and as a husband
My girlfriend of 3 years and I broke up a couple weeks ago. Im suffering from the worst bout of depression I've experienced. I feel so lost and like I have no purpose. I was ready to propose and planned my life with her. I'm dying. It hurts so much. Everything seems gray now. Hope you guys are doing alright.
*”Pain is temporary. It may last a minute, or an hour, or a day, or a year, but eventually it will subside and something else will take its place. If I quit, however, it lasts forever."* -Lance Armstrong
@@Aidan_O totally forgot I made this comment. I'm happy to say I'm doing better! I got my ass to therapy, I've set goals for myself, and I even got a new spicy señorita who treats me amazingly. Thanks for checking in, man :) hope you're well
It's harder cuz we get another beautiful girl way harder than a girl gets herself a man. Trust me if you would have half the success with girls an average girl would have with guys, you would live in a harem and wouldn't give a shit about feelings anymore. Truth is, it takes hard work for an average guy to get himself a woman that satisfies him, but it's easy as a pie for a girl to find a good guy. Only problem is the better the guys is the more inclined to cheat on her he also is as he will obviously be a catch for other girls as well.
@@vhaleryanadamant1975 I understand where you’re coming from, and that these ideas do make some sense in a biological light. After reading your comment, I just felt compelled to let you know that this perspective goes against the real life experience of many girls out there (myself included)! ‘Getting a man’ is not simply a question of assessing a series of men and picking the most physically attractive - there are lots of other qualities which have far more influence, like kindness and ambition and emotional maturity. Men and women may share more similarities than you might currently think 😊
@@pansyd137 Agreed, maybe I was a little bit too salty in my comment. But the reality is this, a man find a woman ( even if it is just to cure loneliness ) quite hard. While a woman can just say "hey I'm lonely, wanna come over?" and 99% of the guys would do that. Women really have it so easy and there is no denial into that. What you are saying is already a power of choice, most guys barely have the power of choice, they just message and try to pick up a bunch of women till one of them finally accepts them. That's not a choice, not entirely. There are also guys that get what they want, but they are mostly the minority that have good genetics and looks and an attitude way better than most people including women and men altogether. But the average man is not like that, he is just as tired, boring and common as the average woman, but he is way too overlooked because other better guys are stealing the spotlight. Anyway, one thing is for sure that bitching and complaining won't get anyone anywhere, but since this is yt I suppose I can complain an express my thoughts towards this gender gap. I guess men had their power in ages past, now it's women's turn to "rule" the society which seems just about fair in a way.
@@vhaleryanadamant1975 Thank you for taking the time to reply ☺️ Of course - I’m actually grateful to you for sharing your thoughts here bc I want to understand more about you and other guys might feel. It does sound tough, and I think I and many other women tend to overlook that struggle (regardless of how we might feel about sex roles and courtship and the importance of looks). I was really pleased to read your thoughtful response 😊 You seem a great guy, and I hope you know that your kindness and openness would endear you to many girls out there
When my first gf broke up with me, I cried every night for 6 months because I was only 17 and that was the first time going through depression and never told one . That was the time I found this channel along with tmf and Alex. I worked out, listened to podcasts from people like Gary vee, Simon sinek, Eric Thomas etc, I got into fashion and hairstyling and I took a course on making games and everything was alright in 6 months. I'm 21 now and I make games for a living. My foundation of success was built on my misery. Getting kocked down is inevitable, getting back up is a choice.
I'm still rebuilding my life back together after going through a break up last year and the shut down made it 100x worse haha. Time, friends, and therapy definitely help with the healing process! I love his video Alpha, bless you for all the advice you give us!
Thank you Aaron. My girlfriend of almost 5 years broke up with me a day before my best friend’s wedding. Trying to get through it and you put this video out here just in time.
Had a breakup a few weeks after a violent home invasion back in 2019. I got depressed and dealt with PTSD, the breakup was the cherry on top. Weirdly the breakup hurt more out of the 3 for me. She got "bored" of me trying get through my mental illness. It hurt so much cause she told me she'll help me get through it but shit happens. Alpha your videos really helped me get back up in life. I'm really glad you made a video about this topic 💯
Sorry that happened to you man. That’s definitely the type of woman you don’t want in your life, imagine if you had married her! Not all women are like that and you’ll find someone who will stick by you through anything
bro, winter 2019 2 days before my birthday she left. she said she wasn’t in the right mental space to date. 3 weeks later she got with my best friend, i remember right before thinking to myself how perfect my life was, i was so happy, after the breakup i started getting really self conscious, when she was with my friend he always made her upset and cry, i felt like she was so much happier and better with me. it made me think why would she leave me for him while that was happening covid hit. i would be in a room by myself all day wondering why. the only thing i could come to was my looks. he was better looking then me by far but i didn’t care about any of that earlier. i started to hate the way i looked, i tried my hardest avoiding mirrors, i didn’t wanna leave the house, i would always wear sweatshirts and pants even though it was summer time. i was angry and crying all the time. but then when fall hit i started working out, i started hanging out more and started talking to her again (as she had broken up with my friend a few months ago). i stared to talk to her more and hang out with her, me her and a few of her other girl friends would sneak out together and talk. i started to like her again, her friends told me she liked me too, i remember she sent me a video of her singing a bunch of love songs to me(snapchat) and i would send some back. i was a few days away from asking her to date again, i found out she had been fingered and made out with someone i knew a few days earlier. at that point i felt broken again, she would lure me in for attention just like so many other guys. i stopped talking to her and she stopped hanging out with my friend group. i remember coming home and crying. it was the same thing, someone more was more attractive then me so she went for him. after that i started to get really self conscious again, i stopped working out and got even more skinny then i was. the next few months i really started to hate myself so much worse then before. i had so much stress so i gained so much acne, i felt so disgusted by the look in the mirror, i always would mask outside now, i really did not wanna leave my room now, i always had it dark so you couldn’t see the imperfections in my face, i would be up all night long and just so depressed with nobody i felt i could talk to , i stopped showering and stopped taking care of myself in general. i started to hate the person i was too, i started to become more quite around my friends, i would give short answers or not talk a lot of the time, my friends started to call me dull and boring, i started to feel pointless, my parents were working so much 6am to 10pm, i would never see them. i had nobody and nothing. i started to think that i was just an extra hassle on everyone and everything. i wanted a break from everyone and everything so i stopped talking to my friends, tried to get on a better diet and tried to talk to my parents more. i did this over summer 21. my friends thought i didn’t care about them as i never told them why i left, so they stopped hanging out with me and told me that we weren’t friends anymore. luckily when i went back to school they started to be my friends again but they kinda all realized they don’t need me, i got invited to less things. i started to hate school as i didn’t really have any friends i liked, but as time went on it got better, i was still very insecure though never ever taking off my mask and always wearing hoodies, i got bad grades first semester but they got better at winter as i joined track with a new friends, i started to like school a pretty decent amount (i never really liked school) one of my other friends got moved to almost all my classes and we became better friends again, we decided we should start going to the gym everyday after school and we did, it was fun as i would do track then go to the gym with him, very tiering but i felt good afterwards, that leads to this summer, one outta 3 of my good friends at my school moved, my other friend transferred to the neighboring school where all my old friends were who i’m still friends with just dont hangout too much with are. during the summer when i was home we would all hangout a decent amount, then school started this year, by now i have cleared up most my acne which i what i was originally so insecure about so i was wearing t shirts shorts and no mask to school and stuff, but i have only a few friends in my class and none of them are remotely close friends i just sit and talk to them at my table. all my old friends air me most of the time i talk to them. they just don’t even care about me anymore and i don’t know why. but i am more confident then last year and i have god by my side. i still get insecure and very lonely. i haven’t liked any girl in about 2 years or even really seriously talked to one. but all i can do is keep moving. idk why i wrote all of this. i am very sad right now. good luck to all who see this
Really needed this, today had me lost and confused. Was thinking of solving my problems with alcohol and was at the lowest point in my life. Really appreciate all the stuff you're putting out Alpha
I’m 18, and seeing someone lose interest and leave without giving them a good reason to do so is devastating, especially in your teens. You feel like you love them more than your own parents at times. A good rule of thumb, after a breakup, do every opposite thing you initially felt like doing, at least you can keep your dignity that way.
Break up especially when she dumps you that kinda hurts and wouldn't even want that for my enemy because it sucks honestly but it will teach you many things for your next.
Thank you Alpha very much. My girl ended our 2,5 year relationship 4 weeks ago. It was my first relationship. Day after day, I'm more and more depressed and broken. I feel terrible and I have black thoughts. Today, I wrote to my exes best friend, because I have still hope and I still love her. I asked about my ex, and if i have still a chance. She wrote me, there's no hope. I felt totally broken again, opened ytb and there was yours video. I needed to hear something like this. It helped me. Thank you.
Yes , same situation about their best friends as to why they say that. Also i learn that their best friend's partner cheated on them but there are still together (her best friend relation)...that is why im devasted as to why they dont try to help us get back to our ex.😭
Thank you …. I just can’t help to feel so sad when this is happening… I’m in a distraction mode …. I can’t believe after you share so much … I get dropped like nothing has never happened! 😔
Give yourself some space. ... Keep busy. ... Take time out for you. ... Talk to friends and family and others who can support you. ... Try not to use alcohol and other drugs to deal with the pain. ... Give it time. ... Try to get regular sleep and exercise
Broke up with her, a week after, I met the most gorgeous and down to earth girl I've ever met, life takes from you but also gives you in some curious ways, I always thought that making a move like that, so close after a breakup was a dumb one but, people also help you to heal yourself.
In time, you will eventually discover how great it was that she left you. It never feels like it in the moment, but keep focusing on bettering yourself and sooner or later someone much better and much more appropriate will come along
I discovered your channel during the holidays last year. I took what I learned and applied it to my life and my fiancée definitely took notice and appreciated it. She loved my new style, the Rebel cologne and was really into it. And it made me feel better about myself because she loved showing me off and bragging about me. I lost her this past August after complications from sepsis. It’s tough, but I know she wouldn’t want me pining away for her.
I’ve been through a few really rough break ups. All were from long term relationships. These videos have helped me more than I ever could’ve imagined. The first 2 weeks was the hardest for me. I probably watched your videos 20 times a day. Anytime I was missing her or feeling sad I just popped one on and it gave me the strength to continue. Going through a rough patch right now, and I just wanted to say thank you dude. I know I’m definitely not alone when I say your channel has saved me from some of the darkest times in my life.
Got out of a 5 year relationship a couple months ago and it was the worst feeling ever. I made a poor decision involving alcohol and that only made things worse. I didn't eat or sleep for 2 weeks, and after those two weeks, I was still not eating or sleeping much. I started seeing a therapist and at first I didn't know if I wanted to keep going, but I did. I had to do it for me. I also started working out and running again, and have been very consistent with training. I also keep myself busy with school and my part time job. Keeping myself busy has been the most helpful thing I could've done. I also got rid of my social media for the time being, and that has helped a lot. I saw myself constantly going on her profile which didn't help at all. I am heavily focused on myself at the moment. Focused on working on my physical shape, mental health, and school. It fucking sucks, I am not going to sit here and tell you it's easy, but it will get better over time. Stay dedicated to working on yourself. Girls think it's very attractive when a man is investing a lot of time in himself. But do it for yourself, don't do it for her. Stay strong Alphas!
YOU FRICKIN' NAILED IT!!!!! After going thru a divorce a few years ago...... you hit the nail on the head. Men need THERAPY....YES I SAID IT....THERAPY. Find a professional you click with and work thru life's daily issues!!!!! It works........no joke! Lean on your friends......rebuild yourself and love YOURSELF. YOU are worth it. Great post!
Reminds me of my first breakup. I was completely devastated and it took a while to overcome. 4 years later we hung out and although we aren’t close friends or dating, it feels good that we communicated about how we left off and had that closure with one another
@@chrodechilde4829 It’s kind of a long story, but I reached out to her at some point inviting her out for a drink. I wanted to catch up since it was years I last spoke to her. The day we hung out she was the one that made a move which caught me off guard. There were never any intentions of getting back together though.
@@AngelFlores-li7rh thank you for sharing, i was hoping to find comfort in your story but i realize that I already lost even before our fight begins. They always left us alone
@@chrodechilde4829 everything takes a while bud. Me and her are actually in good terms and send memes or just leave funny comments to our posts on social media. She’s in another relationship but we both realized we moved on and no longer hold our past against one another. I think the best thing that happened from talking to one another is accepting the past for what It was
Alpha gives great advice! I'm definitely going through something similar. He's right. Time heals wounds. So long as you keep yourself productive and socially active.
it’s actually so helpful to look through these comments and see that other people are going through the same thing, we’re not alone out there and it will get better
Break ups. What I've learned from my experiences, is that instead of looking at it negatively, and give up on everything especially in the dating game, I looked at it positively and used it, just like what he he said, I used that bad experience to navigate through, and avoid unnecessary drama. Breakups are actually quite healthy if you see it in a positive way. Going through such pain and overcoming it, It makes you more mature and a better person.
If you're saying "breaking up" it means you've already gotten to a point where she thinks you two have something. Doing this indirectly is gonna be a dick move and will just hurt them. It'll feel shitty but you're going to have to tell them straight up that it's not working because of XYZ. If it was just somebody that you're talking to, you'd just stop talking to them gradually. Can't really do that if you're in a relationship with them
Girlfriend just left me last Wednesday, our 6 years would have been February. I'm so thankful you made this video. Thank you. The only friends that I had were her friends and her family and her. Super codependent. Time to rebuild.
Same here, my gf of 4 years left a couple days ago. My world is shattered, she was my best friend, and we didn't really have many other friends, we shared a friend group online and she took them and made them block me. I am all alone now, she became cold and heartless.
My current girlfriend helped me through my last breakup, helped me try to get with someone and after I got rejected I stayed single for a few months then I asked her out and it was the greatest decision I’ve made
I needed this video for the past 3 weeks. I've done texting, being clingy and trying way to hard to get her back. Eventually I just stopped. To keep trying feels forced and unnatural in a sense. Thank you for this video, I really needed to hear the things you said!!
Alpha I really appreciate your channel. Between the fashion, relationship advice, and just generally making me feel better after my multiple break ups this is golden. Much thanks!
Thank you. I was waiting for that last part about your wife because that’s EXACTLY what’s happening right now for me. You’re a huge help man. Thank you
I jumped into a relationship right after I broke up. It was a very healing relationship and we are still together, happier than ever. So it's not always bad to not wait.
You were probably ready to move away from the prior relationship months before the final exit took place. Good to hear that the current relationship clicked together so quickly. You were fortunate to meet a compatible person.
Okay no one take this advice. 99% of the time it’s a bad thing. If you haven’t reached 6 months yet with your new partner then it could still hit you. Ofc things will be all good the first few months. You might hurt the person badly. It’s not really for you but for the other person doesn’t get hurt
@@brandonnykyforak well I'm glad I did. We just spent an other perfect night together. We have been together for almost two years now, not 6 months, and i love her more everyday.
My girl of 10 years left me in March. I was broken and didn’t know what to do. Seeing her with him and posting pics really took a toll on me. But as time went on I got numb to the pain and started bettering myself. Now she’s telling me how much she missed me and we even had sex 😂 her new dude in last place! They still together and I feel better then ever. To all who have dealt with this things will get better trust me! KEEP GOIN
I was 21 when I broke up with my first love of 5-6 years m. One of the hardest things I had to go through. It’s been over ten years and it still one of those things that makes me frustrated. I haven’t really been in a long term relationship since her actually. Mainly due to the way I handled the break up. Turned to drugs , drinking, gambling , porn, meaningless sex with hoes , tinder. Pretty much every bad habit a man can have. Now I can look back and realize it was the best thing for me and her. But at the time I was a mess for quite a while. It wasn’t until 3-4 years later thst I even dated again for short periods . The last few times I’ve seen my x ten years later I can honestly say I have no feelings and am not really attracted to her at all anymore. I can’t really explain why I let her rejection break me but I was also going through my parents divorce at the same time so I was isolated a lot and turned to opiates to escape. My advice to anyone is to realize there girls thst will date you again if you just be yourself and are happy. But if you let it depress you and cause you to turn to self destructive habits then you’ll have a lot more to be sad about then a girl not wanting you. No one will want you not even your family and friends. Lower level habits will cause everyone in your life to leave you alone and most times those people don’t come back .but it’s still a crazy feeling to be left by someone you love and try to carry on. The most messed up part is had I just moved on and been a man about the situation i had many girls wanting to date me and especially when I cleaned my self up around 24-25 I had my pick of the litter in college dating 19-20 year old girls non stop. But when you truly love someone who leaves you your mind plays tricks on you. Also the main thing is get your finances up and weight down before you start complaining about being single . Don’t even try to date until you have some freeedom and can support yourself. I would meet new girl friends but just because I still lived with parents or hated my job I came across as negative and the relationship never could blossom and it was quickly more just about hoooijg up and sex then finding a girl friend. Now ten years after my heart break I can look back and just thank god that I had such a strong relationship that I though my life wasn’t even worth living after it ended. Also even me writing this in a way is like a chance for me to look back on my x and I don’t do it all The time but since I got with her so young and she was with me from 15-21 I can’t help but looo back and smile since I shared all of high school and 2 years into college with her and it’s something I’ve always had hard time not thinking about. All I gotta say there’s beautiful girls everywhere though and you just need to find one who’s into you . But if you got tons of bad habits keeping you in a state of stress and worry then you’ll never be able to court a good woman. Basically be happy save money and girls will love you.
Thank you for sharing your experience, im also in same situation as you, but the difference is , i just got broken up . I was with her since 2014 not until now in 2021 so its almost 8 years, she just decided to left me and said we can get back together someday if i grow(because i was a messed the time im with here,it was my fault i become confident we will be together forever but i was my mistake) i want to get back to her i want to improve to fulfill those demands so that i could get back to her but it will take me years and i dont think i would have enough strength to fight and improve myself alone( we been together helping one another so its new for me to take the path alone). Hope i could become strong as you . Is there any advice i could have?
I feel this video completely.... When i remember how dark that time was, man oh man.... That shit builds you from the inside like nothing else, i became a dont give a fuck person for some people. That pain makes you stronger, fucking believe me! You change everything and even through that process i ended up discovering Alpha channel.
You have no idea how much I needed to hear some of this. Most days it’s hard not to wish one had never existed, as that seems so much more preferable than the excruciating suffering.
This is such a great message! Thank you for always serving the community with your messages. You have helped so many of us dudes! It's really difficult when children are involved. What are your thoughts on handling this with children involved?
My ex wife left me right when the covid pandemic started in 2020. It was difficult but once i made the decision to move forward and improve my situation it was the best thing that ever happened. 1 year later I dropped 100 lbs, improved my credit, went up a tax bracket, repaired my relationships with my family and friends, i feel so confident and fulfilled. Working out is so incredibly important. I'm up at 430am every day to get it. She even tried to come back or get me to go after her but i stood firm and as of October 15th i am officially single. Keep your heads up brothers, invest in yourself and focus on your purpose. 💪🏽You don't need to worry about others except the people that actually love you.
Also, don't date until you are healthy and solid. I am still single 1.5 years later and she left to be with a guy yet she still hits me up. Avoid vices as much as possible (porn, alcohol) and just give yourself the effort you deserve gents. It will be more than ok. Your mindset determines your reality.
With 3 years of experience of watching alpha m. i could literally figure out that he was gonna sponser better help right after reading the title of video haha
Honestly Alpha your like the Uncle/Dad/Brother that i never got to have, who could help me. I was pretty low last month when my girlfriend of 5 years left me, and for some reason RUclips recommended an old Alpha.m video, and since then I have honestly been doing a lot better now cause of you and your advice. Thanks a lot Alpha ❤️
it is what it is period.. in my experience she called it quits so i blocked her on all media platforms changed my number and deleted anything to do with her.. if she does not want to be there then anything that will remind you of her should not be there either.. this is just how i dealt with my situation.. but some of you had a different way of doing things.. have a blessed day fellas..
You’re so right about the rose colored glasses. I think there’s a fine line between enjoying the genuine good memories you had with that person and then actively remembering things better than they were or looking back longingly. You can enjoy good memories while also recognizing that that time in your life is over and that you’re better off without that person. It’s time to move forward 🤙🏼
Wish I had this for me last October. Honestly this is the same situation I had. I even fell down a dark path with alcohol. Thankfully I’ve been doing me, and it’s great to see Alpha help everyone. Great video!
@@Patrickkk-z7y Honestly I feel great compared to where I was. I’ll admit I get lonely sometimes, but honestly there are more pros than negatives. For starters my confidence is sky high, I’m getting back in shape, and finally I have my boys. People I can hangout with other than just rely on a girl. In terms of an ex I’m over her. She’s happy and that’s all that matters; I’m just doing me.
Being going through this since March after a seven year long relationship and all I can say focusing on your needs and goals and to stop thinking about her or even worse her being with someone else will make things better. I am not going to lie some days will be rougher than others, especially holidays, anniversaries, and birthdays, but just know it gets better and things will slowly and surely click into place.
As someone who was with their ex for 15 years ( married for 11 years) and going through the divorce, this video has hit home. Everything said was exactly right. I started making myself a priority and started going to the gym. In 4 months I have lost 60 pounds and counting, on top of making new friends and really changing myself for the better. This advice may be hard to hear but it’s the best advice and I can speak from experience time is the best thing for you in a breakup. Also picked up a second job and have made my financial situation a priority as well as physical/mental health. It really does work and you will thank yourself later for making yourself a priority and being a high value, independent man.
I was devastated after a particular breakup. I was in a major rut and I couldn’t get out of it, I just couldn’t. I was already working out, I already looked sick AF. I didn’t drink alcohol and wasn’t going to start. I went through work on auto pilot. I was an empty hollow and soulless man. Didn’t want to look at or talk to anyone unless I had to because of work. I eventually decided to commit suicide because I wanted the pain to stop. That was the lowest point of my life. I’m glad I didn’t though because I’ve met loads of great women and had so many good relationships I would never have experienced if I went through with it. What stopped me from doing it? I bought myself a puppy. He’s the best thing that has ever happened to me. He’s a old boy now, but every time I look at him I see the same unconditional love looking back at me. He’s the reason I got back on track and honestly, the reason I’m still alive. Not saying people should get a dog or anything, just wanted to share. Be selfish do what you need to do for you and it’s true what they say, time does indeed heal all wounds. You just got to have the endurance to get there.
Breakups suck but always remember that you build up character with each breakup. I was heartbroken through each one but I learned so much and am much wiser now.
Stay away from p*rn and IMMEDIATELY go and start working out, use all that negative energy in building up instead of feeding the pain, and keep your heads up👑
This is what i needed to hear. Was with my ex for 9yrs up until 5 month's ago when she left me and has already moved on with a new guy and is practically living with him. Spent many month's trying to get her back but eventually started focusing on myself and fixing possible faults for future relationships.
Not getting the closure is the main reason people hurt long after the fact. This can be solved by talking it out with the person but it wont help if all u do is wanting to get back into the relationship. U have to accept the fact other person decided you are not for them.
Last year for me was just non stop sadness and pain for me. In amongst all the covid stuff and dealing with that and family stuff I also got dumped after a long relationship after figuring out she was seeing other people for a while behind my back and at first I did every mistake mentioned in this video. I isolated myself away from family and friends, drank more alcohol than usual and I’m not typically a big drinker so that went how you would imagine. I slacked at work and blew off anyone wanting to talk to me or hang out and I also did the stupid mistake of trying to talk to my ex and get her back. This hurts but never ever be the one to try and do that. If the other person left you and wants to get back let them make the first move, it is not your job to try and fix everything if you were hurt and it wasn’t your decision. I learned I had to just sit with the pain and the sadness and now over a year later I’m actually happier as a single guy because I know and hope someone better isn’t that far away and somehow better people will come along. Stay strong people.
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Thanks for sharing mate ✌️🙂
I think it's great you're doing these more deep self help videos, especially because it doesn't matter how old and wise one thinks they are, a breakup Is hard and most of us make it worse for ourselves when she pulls away. thank you alpha for making a real Difference, love you brother💪❤️
Thanks alpha I was just about to search your videos for a link to this, betterhelp therapy. I seen your videos before but have been hesitant. Thanks for the videos and content. 😁
Funny enough I used your link for audible which lead me to a book. That helped me realize I need therapy to heal.
I do reaction videos while high asf on my RUclips channel 😎
Breaking up with someone might be painful at first, but as time goes on you realize that you can get the same satisfaction by doing things you like, all while improving yourself in any way, like working out, having more selfsteem and valuing more who you are. It's not the end of the world, believe me, it's just shaping you as a man and as a person. Stay strong!
that’s exactly what i just found out this month
As Stallone always says. *“Fu@&* *em.”*
Breaking up to me only means to start banging the next girl (the rebound girl) with no regrets!
Good point Joxenmaster24!
Breaking up is not easy, but it’s part of life - sometimes relationship run its course, and there’s nothing that you can do about it.
There's three things in life that's certain: Death, taxes, and unfortunately breakups!
Alright, I just made that last part up, but it’s pretty close - you just have to find a way to deal with it.
It’s not the end of the world - just the end for you and that person you love so much, I know, I’m being insensitive - but it’s true! Lol
Anyway, that’s my two cents.
-Carlos Verde - Dating Tips
I find this comment rather shallow and pedantic
Break up is worst but ultimately it'll make you a 101% stronger person ever.
Hard Times create strong man
Bro im David Lim aswell !
The best therapy for me was exercise, exercise and again exercise!
Hhhhhh
Fact that therapy is a fact
I agree
And seeking help from jesus christ
But during lockdown we do home workout but I an some 2 who get pump up hard I gained but it's hard to reach that home that gym
The timing of this video is impeccable.
Just ended a 2.5 year long relationship, was my first long term relationship ever.
Indian ?
@@amlinprinson5000 probably
@@Sus-Bus. Yeah
Aww, sorry to hear, but it does get better, way better! One door closes, two more open.
Hi if two people living together for some reason one don't want to stay together all you have to say is take your things and move out no love lost I have love and lost and never to love again if two are not happy the best way out is to say I am going my way sort your self out no question asked there are more fishes in the sea over 4 million women are single try youe luck man
The worst thing to do is to get in a rebound relationship after a break up. I got in another relationship a week later after breaking up with a chick. It was the worst decision that I ever made. I would think about my ex all through the relationship. Healing and staying away from porn is the best thing that you can do.
Dude actually porn is mostly the root of all things that could potentially break a relationship 💔💔
@@rolandi715 depends, if you neglect your relationship over porn then yes.
You’re so right Garrick! Lol
Breaking up is not easy, but it’s part of life - sometimes relationship run its course, and there’s nothing that you can do about it.
There's three things in life that's certain: Death, taxes, and unfortunately breakups!
Alright, I just made that last part up, but it’s pretty close - you just have to find a way to deal with it.
It’s not the end of the world - just the end for you and that person you love so much, I know, I’m being insensitive - but it’s true! Lol
Anyway, that’s my two cents.
-Carlos Verde - Dating Tips
I agree about entering an actual relationship. You need time alone and to heal yourself. Hook ups on the other hand have positive results. Might as well enjoy being single after all.
I make related contents just like The Alpha M... i bet 100% you'll like them if not come here to let other people know that. btw amazing content Alpha M
Stay strong boys, from experience therapy is good after a breakup. My first breakup was devastating, it took me 6 months to heal, now I look back and thank myself for going through that. A breakup teaches you what to look for and stay away from in your next relationship, but time is key.
Man you cant be worrying us like this 😭
Right I was like : aw man.
First Time rookie?
I was shocked
Typical clickbait
Fr cause I was like oh no
Alpha has always been there for the questions which no one answered and Even we as men are shy to ask just because we are shy
Married 16 years and she up and walked out. Had me committed for 3 days and then arrested for demestic. Spent 17 months in jail. Lost my house, truck and job. Got out and texted her and got arrested for violating restraining order. Done another 9 months. In 16 years of marriage I never once put my hands on her. She told the cops that she was scared for her life. And this is the girl who said that she loved me. I never seen it coming. She was a totally different person. I was with her all that time and never knew her at all.
I feel you, its what’s happening to me now, i feel like i dont know my wife and all her words was wants to get away from me. I may have done some things but i never run from my responsibilities as a father and as a husband
My girlfriend of 3 years and I broke up a couple weeks ago. Im suffering from the worst bout of depression I've experienced. I feel so lost and like I have no purpose. I was ready to propose and planned my life with her. I'm dying. It hurts so much. Everything seems gray now.
Hope you guys are doing alright.
*”Pain is temporary. It may last a minute, or an hour, or a day, or a year, but eventually it will subside and something else will take its place. If I quit, however, it lasts forever."* -Lance Armstrong
6yr relationship failed... nothing hurts as deep knowing there's nothing I can possibly do
How are you doing now?
@@Aidan_O totally forgot I made this comment. I'm happy to say I'm doing better! I got my ass to therapy, I've set goals for myself, and I even got a new spicy señorita who treats me amazingly. Thanks for checking in, man :) hope you're well
@@zetabrew1825 that's great to hear man good for you!
Break up’s are devastating for men. We commit much differently than woman. There’s no such thing as a clean break. Stay strong Kings !
It's harder cuz we get another beautiful girl way harder than a girl gets herself a man.
Trust me if you would have half the success with girls an average girl would have with guys, you would live in a harem and wouldn't give a shit about feelings anymore.
Truth is, it takes hard work for an average guy to get himself a woman that satisfies him, but it's easy as a pie for a girl to find a good guy. Only problem is the better the guys is the more inclined to cheat on her he also is as he will obviously be a catch for other girls as well.
A real man says whatever! That shit will kill them!
@@vhaleryanadamant1975 I understand where you’re coming from, and that these ideas do make some sense in a biological light. After reading your comment, I just felt compelled to let you know that this perspective goes against the real life experience of many girls out there (myself included)! ‘Getting a man’ is not simply a question of assessing a series of men and picking the most physically attractive - there are lots of other qualities which have far more influence, like kindness and ambition and emotional maturity. Men and women may share more similarities than you might currently think 😊
@@pansyd137 Agreed, maybe I was a little bit too salty in my comment.
But the reality is this, a man find a woman ( even if it is just to cure loneliness ) quite hard.
While a woman can just say "hey I'm lonely, wanna come over?" and 99% of the guys would do that.
Women really have it so easy and there is no denial into that.
What you are saying is already a power of choice, most guys barely have the power of choice, they just message and try to pick up a bunch of women till one of them finally accepts them. That's not a choice, not entirely.
There are also guys that get what they want, but they are mostly the minority that have good genetics and looks and an attitude way better than most people including women and men altogether.
But the average man is not like that, he is just as tired, boring and common as the average woman, but he is way too overlooked because other better guys are stealing the spotlight.
Anyway, one thing is for sure that bitching and complaining won't get anyone anywhere, but since this is yt I suppose I can complain an express my thoughts towards this gender gap.
I guess men had their power in ages past, now it's women's turn to "rule" the society which seems just about fair in a way.
@@vhaleryanadamant1975 Thank you for taking the time to reply ☺️ Of course - I’m actually grateful to you for sharing your thoughts here bc I want to understand more about you and other guys might feel. It does sound tough, and I think I and many other women tend to overlook that struggle (regardless of how we might feel about sex roles and courtship and the importance of looks). I was really pleased to read your thoughtful response 😊 You seem a great guy, and I hope you know that your kindness and openness would endear you to many girls out there
When my first gf broke up with me, I cried every night for 6 months because I was only 17 and that was the first time going through depression and never told one . That was the time I found this channel along with tmf and Alex. I worked out, listened to podcasts from people like Gary vee, Simon sinek, Eric Thomas etc, I got into fashion and hairstyling and I took a course on making games and everything was alright in 6 months. I'm 21 now and I make games for a living. My foundation of success was built on my misery. Getting kocked down is inevitable, getting back up is a choice.
My breakup after 2 years was a mutual decision, but still super hard to handle. Thanks for the timely video; I appreciate this advice!
I'm still rebuilding my life back together after going through a break up last year and the shut down made it 100x worse haha. Time, friends, and therapy definitely help with the healing process! I love his video Alpha, bless you for all the advice you give us!
God Bless
Thank you Aaron. My girlfriend of almost 5 years broke up with me a day before my best friend’s wedding. Trying to get through it and you put this video out here just in time.
hope ur ok steph L
Had a breakup a few weeks after a violent home invasion back in 2019. I got depressed and dealt with PTSD, the breakup was the cherry on top. Weirdly the breakup hurt more out of the 3 for me. She got "bored" of me trying get through my mental illness. It hurt so much cause she told me she'll help me get through it but shit happens. Alpha your videos really helped me get back up in life. I'm really glad you made a video about this topic 💯
Sorry that happened to you man. That’s definitely the type of woman you don’t want in your life, imagine if you had married her! Not all women are like that and you’ll find someone who will stick by you through anything
@@ChampagneRaji thanks man!
Home invasion?
bro, winter 2019 2 days before my birthday she left. she said she wasn’t in the right mental space to date. 3 weeks later she got with my best friend, i remember right before thinking to myself how perfect my life was, i was so happy, after the breakup i started getting really self conscious, when she was with my friend he always made her upset and cry, i felt like she was so much happier and better with me. it made me think why would she leave me for him while that was happening covid hit. i would be in a room by myself all day wondering why. the only thing i could come to was my looks. he was better looking then me by far but i didn’t care about any of that earlier. i started to hate the way i looked, i tried my hardest avoiding mirrors, i didn’t wanna leave the house, i would always wear sweatshirts and pants even though it was summer time. i was angry and crying all the time. but then when fall hit i started working out, i started hanging out more and started talking to her again (as she had broken up with my friend a few months ago). i stared to talk to her more and hang out with her, me her and a few of her other girl friends would sneak out together and talk. i started to like her again, her friends told me she liked me too, i remember she sent me a video of her singing a bunch of love songs to me(snapchat) and i would send some back. i was a few days away from asking her to date again, i found out she had been fingered and made out with someone i knew a few days earlier. at that point i felt broken again, she would lure me in for attention just like so many other guys. i stopped talking to her and she stopped hanging out with my friend group. i remember coming home and crying. it was the same thing, someone more was more attractive then me so she went for him. after that i started to get really self conscious again, i stopped working out and got even more skinny then i was. the next few months i really started to hate myself so much worse then before. i had so much stress so i gained so much acne, i felt so disgusted by the look in the mirror, i always would mask outside now, i really did not wanna leave my room now, i always had it dark so you couldn’t see the imperfections in my face, i would be up all night long and just so depressed with nobody i felt i could talk to , i stopped showering and stopped taking care of myself in general. i started to hate the person i was too, i started to become more quite around my friends, i would give short answers or not talk a lot of the time, my friends started to call me dull and boring, i started to feel pointless, my parents were working so much 6am to 10pm, i would never see them. i had nobody and nothing. i started to think that i was just an extra hassle on everyone and everything. i wanted a break from everyone and everything so i stopped talking to my friends, tried to get on a better diet and tried to talk to my parents more. i did this over summer 21. my friends thought i didn’t care about them as i never told them why i left, so they stopped hanging out with me and told me that we weren’t friends anymore. luckily when i went back to school they started to be my friends again but they kinda all realized they don’t need me, i got invited to less things. i started to hate school as i didn’t really have any friends i liked, but as time went on it got better, i was still very insecure though never ever taking off my mask and always wearing hoodies, i got bad grades first semester but they got better at winter as i joined track with a new friends, i started to like school a pretty decent amount (i never really liked school) one of my other friends got moved to almost all my classes and we became better friends again, we decided we should start going to the gym everyday after school and we did, it was fun as i would do track then go to the gym with him, very tiering but i felt good afterwards, that leads to this summer, one outta 3 of my good friends at my school moved, my other friend transferred to the neighboring school where all my old friends were who i’m still friends with just dont hangout too much with are. during the summer when i was home we would all hangout a decent amount, then school started this year, by now i have cleared up most my acne which i what i was originally so insecure about so i was wearing t shirts shorts and no mask to school and stuff, but i have only a few friends in my class and none of them are remotely close friends i just sit and talk to them at my table. all my old friends air me most of the time i talk to them. they just don’t even care about me anymore and i don’t know why. but i am more confident then last year and i have god by my side. i still get insecure and very lonely. i haven’t liked any girl in about 2 years or even really seriously talked to one. but all i can do is keep moving. idk why i wrote all of this. i am very sad right now. good luck to all who see this
Really needed this, today had me lost and confused. Was thinking of solving my problems with alcohol and was at the lowest point in my life. Really appreciate all the stuff you're putting out Alpha
I’m 18, and seeing someone lose interest and leave without giving them a good reason to do so is devastating, especially in your teens. You feel like you love them more than your own parents at times. A good rule of thumb, after a breakup, do every opposite thing you initially felt like doing, at least you can keep your dignity that way.
I wouldn't know what a breakup is if I can't even get one, haha.
Alpha, you know you're an amazing guy and he'll be just fine. You have great advice.
Ngl during breakup you just feel that you were better off staying single
@@creepergamer8419 fr. I wanted a relationship, but now I'm starting to think single is the way to go.
Break up especially when she dumps you that kinda hurts and wouldn't even want that for my enemy because it sucks honestly but it will teach you many things for your next.
There is someone for everyone Ricardo. You will be just fine, 👍🏻✌️
@@JBD901 ik same... been 2 months since last contact and shes still on my mind 24 7 lmaoo
I love how in Alpha's age, he has become sort of a mentor. I hope to be like you one day, Alpha!
Stay strong my man you got this & your strong. Your my favorite RUclips of all time brother. Keep up the hard work
Thank you Alpha very much. My girl ended our 2,5 year relationship 4 weeks ago. It was my first relationship. Day after day, I'm more and more depressed and broken. I feel terrible and I have black thoughts. Today, I wrote to my exes best friend, because I have still hope and I still love her. I asked about my ex, and if i have still a chance. She wrote me, there's no hope. I felt totally broken again, opened ytb and there was yours video. I needed to hear something like this. It helped me. Thank you.
Yes , same situation about their best friends as to why they say that. Also i learn that their best friend's partner cheated on them but there are still together (her best friend relation)...that is why im devasted as to why they dont try to help us get back to our ex.😭
Feel ya brother.. accept defeat, curse her, curse life, curse yourself. Then Continue living.. life is free, it will come to you
Thank you …. I just can’t help to feel so sad when this is happening… I’m in a distraction mode …. I can’t believe after you share so much … I get dropped like nothing has never happened! 😔
I'd recommend exercise, eating healthy food and reading good positive stuff! Stay focused guys ✌️😉
I needed this now more than ever. The timing of this is impeccable. Great advice as always Alpha!
Same here man
me too dude, things will get better for all of us
Give yourself some space. ...
Keep busy. ...
Take time out for you. ...
Talk to friends and family and others who can support you. ...
Try not to use alcohol and other drugs to deal with the pain. ...
Give it time. ...
Try to get regular sleep and exercise
thanks man 🙏 i got unfriended for no reason but i know there are more fishes in the sea
Broke up with her, a week after, I met the most gorgeous and down to earth girl I've ever met, life takes from you but also gives you in some curious ways, I always thought that making a move like that, so close after a breakup was a dumb one but, people also help you to heal yourself.
In time, you will eventually discover how great it was that she left you. It never feels like it in the moment, but keep focusing on bettering yourself and sooner or later someone much better and much more appropriate will come along
Until they dump you.
I just got cheated on and dumped…not even a few hours ago. Thank you for this.
Stay strong brotha
I discovered your channel during the holidays last year. I took what I learned and applied it to my life and my fiancée definitely took notice and appreciated it. She loved my new style, the Rebel cologne and was really into it. And it made me feel better about myself because she loved showing me off and bragging about me. I lost her this past August after complications from sepsis. It’s tough, but I know she wouldn’t want me pining away for her.
I’ve been through a few really rough break ups. All were from long term relationships. These videos have helped me more than I ever could’ve imagined. The first 2 weeks was the hardest for me. I probably watched your videos 20 times a day. Anytime I was missing her or feeling sad I just popped one on and it gave me the strength to continue. Going through a rough patch right now, and I just wanted to say thank you dude. I know I’m definitely not alone when I say your channel has saved me from some of the darkest times in my life.
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You are the best Alpha! It’s hard Being a man to do day, but you make it easier!
The way I see it is this: you can miss her with muscles, or you can miss her without muscles. Hit. The. Gym. Kings.
Got out of a 5 year relationship a couple months ago and it was the worst feeling ever. I made a poor decision involving alcohol and that only made things worse. I didn't eat or sleep for 2 weeks, and after those two weeks, I was still not eating or sleeping much. I started seeing a therapist and at first I didn't know if I wanted to keep going, but I did. I had to do it for me. I also started working out and running again, and have been very consistent with training. I also keep myself busy with school and my part time job. Keeping myself busy has been the most helpful thing I could've done. I also got rid of my social media for the time being, and that has helped a lot. I saw myself constantly going on her profile which didn't help at all. I am heavily focused on myself at the moment. Focused on working on my physical shape, mental health, and school. It fucking sucks, I am not going to sit here and tell you it's easy, but it will get better over time. Stay dedicated to working on yourself. Girls think it's very attractive when a man is investing a lot of time in himself. But do it for yourself, don't do it for her. Stay strong Alphas!
*SHE LEFT ME*
A tuna sandwich and a chocolate milk on the table
YOU FRICKIN' NAILED IT!!!!! After going thru a divorce a few years ago...... you hit the nail on the head. Men need THERAPY....YES I SAID IT....THERAPY. Find a professional you click with and work thru life's daily issues!!!!! It works........no joke! Lean on your friends......rebuild yourself and love YOURSELF. YOU are worth it. Great post!
Reminds me of my first breakup. I was completely devastated and it took a while to overcome. 4 years later we hung out and although we aren’t close friends or dating, it feels good that we communicated about how we left off and had that closure with one another
Im curious did you try to get together or it just ends there.
@@chrodechilde4829 It’s kind of a long story, but I reached out to her at some point inviting her out for a drink. I wanted to catch up since it was years I last spoke to her. The day we hung out she was the one that made a move which caught me off guard. There were never any intentions of getting back together though.
@@AngelFlores-li7rh thank you for sharing, i was hoping to find comfort in your story but i realize that I already lost even before our fight begins. They always left us alone
@@chrodechilde4829 everything takes a while bud. Me and her are actually in good terms and send memes or just leave funny comments to our posts on social media. She’s in another relationship but we both realized we moved on and no longer hold our past against one another. I think the best thing that happened from talking to one another is accepting the past for what It was
This video is a must watch because it happens to all of us from time to time
Alpha gives great advice! I'm definitely going through something similar. He's right. Time heals wounds. So long as you keep yourself productive and socially active.
it’s actually so helpful to look through these comments and see that other people are going through the same thing, we’re not alone out there and it will get better
I actually really needed this right now😆 Thank you, Aaron!!
Break ups. What I've learned from my experiences, is that instead of looking at it negatively, and give up on everything especially in the dating game, I looked at it positively and used it, just like what he he said, I used that bad experience to navigate through, and avoid unnecessary drama. Breakups are actually quite healthy if you see it in a positive way. Going through such pain and overcoming it, It makes you more mature and a better person.
Alpha, thanks to your advice, it helped with getting girls. But I kinda screwed myself over. How do you break up with someone indirectly?
Be a fucking man about it.
It is important to be upfront and timely about it. She should respect that even if she doesn't like what you are saying to her.
If you're saying "breaking up" it means you've already gotten to a point where she thinks you two have something. Doing this indirectly is gonna be a dick move and will just hurt them. It'll feel shitty but you're going to have to tell them straight up that it's not working because of XYZ.
If it was just somebody that you're talking to, you'd just stop talking to them gradually. Can't really do that if you're in a relationship with them
You don’t break up with someone indirectly. You be a man and be honest with her.
Just stop texting them
Girlfriend just left me last Wednesday, our 6 years would have been February. I'm so thankful you made this video. Thank you. The only friends that I had were her friends and her family and her. Super codependent. Time to rebuild.
Same here, my gf of 4 years left a couple days ago. My world is shattered, she was my best friend, and we didn't really have many other friends, we shared a friend group online and she took them and made them block me. I am all alone now, she became cold and heartless.
You packed a whole book worth of advice in one video. Every piece was absolutely great! Glad I subscribed.
My current girlfriend helped me through my last breakup, helped me try to get with someone and after I got rejected I stayed single for a few months then I asked her out and it was the greatest decision I’ve made
I needed this video for the past 3 weeks. I've done texting, being clingy and trying way to hard to get her back. Eventually I just stopped. To keep trying feels forced and unnatural in a sense. Thank you for this video, I really needed to hear the things you said!!
happened to me, after a year met a beautiful person that is making my ex jealous… be patient, build yourself and a real one will come 👍🏿
Alpha I really appreciate your channel. Between the fashion, relationship advice, and just generally making me feel better after my multiple break ups this is golden.
Much thanks!
Thank you. I was waiting for that last part about your wife because that’s EXACTLY what’s happening right now for me. You’re a huge help man. Thank you
I jumped into a relationship right after I broke up. It was a very healing relationship and we are still together, happier than ever. So it's not always bad to not wait.
You were probably ready to move away from the prior relationship months before the final exit took place. Good to hear that the current relationship clicked together so quickly. You were fortunate to meet a compatible person.
@@pquill3952 i met her on tinder 😆
Okay no one take this advice. 99% of the time it’s a bad thing. If you haven’t reached 6 months yet with your new partner then it could still hit you. Ofc things will be all good the first few months. You might hurt the person badly. It’s not really for you but for the other person doesn’t get hurt
@@brandonnykyforak well I'm glad I did. We just spent an other perfect night together. We have been together for almost two years now, not 6 months, and i love her more everyday.
@@xxx.118 yep, it has been almost 3 years now
My girl of 10 years left me in March. I was broken and didn’t know what to do. Seeing her with him and posting pics really took a toll on me. But as time went on I got numb to the pain and started bettering myself. Now she’s telling me how much she missed me and we even had sex 😂 her new dude in last place! They still together and I feel better then ever. To all who have dealt with this things will get better trust me! KEEP GOIN
I was 21 when I broke up with my first love of 5-6 years m. One of the hardest things I had to go through. It’s been over ten years and it still one of those things that makes me frustrated. I haven’t really been in a long term relationship since her actually. Mainly due to the way I handled the break up. Turned to drugs , drinking, gambling , porn, meaningless sex with hoes , tinder. Pretty much every bad habit a man can have. Now I can look back and realize it was the best thing for me and her. But at the time I was a mess for quite a while. It wasn’t until 3-4 years later thst I even dated again for short periods . The last few times I’ve seen my x ten years later I can honestly say I have no feelings and am not really attracted to her at all anymore. I can’t really explain why I let her rejection break me but I was also going through my parents divorce at the same time so I was isolated a lot and turned to opiates to escape. My advice to anyone is to realize there girls thst will date you again if you just be yourself and are happy. But if you let it depress you and cause you to turn to self destructive habits then you’ll have a lot more to be sad about then a girl not wanting you. No one will want you not even your family and friends. Lower level habits will cause everyone in your life to leave you alone and most times those people don’t come back .but it’s still a crazy feeling to be left by someone you love and try to carry on. The most messed up part is had I just moved on and been a man about the situation i had many girls wanting to date me and especially when I cleaned my self up around 24-25 I had my pick of the litter in college dating 19-20 year old girls non stop. But when you truly love someone who leaves you your mind plays tricks on you. Also the main thing is get your finances up and weight down before you start complaining about being single . Don’t even try to date until you have some freeedom and can support yourself. I would meet new girl friends but just because I still lived with parents or hated my job I came across as negative and the relationship never could blossom and it was quickly more just about hoooijg up and sex then finding a girl friend. Now ten years after my heart break I can look back and just thank god that I had such a strong relationship that I though my life wasn’t even worth living after it ended. Also even me writing this in a way is like a chance for me to look back on my x and I don’t do it all
The time but since I got with her so young and she was with me from 15-21 I can’t help but looo back and smile since I shared all of high school and 2 years into college with her and it’s something I’ve always had hard time not thinking about. All I gotta say there’s beautiful girls everywhere though and you just need to find one who’s into you . But if you got tons of bad habits keeping you in a state of stress and worry then you’ll never be able to court a good woman. Basically be happy save money and girls will love you.
Thank you for sharing your experience, im also in same situation as you, but the difference is , i just got broken up . I was with her since 2014 not until now in 2021 so its almost 8 years, she just decided to left me and said we can get back together someday if i grow(because i was a messed the time im with here,it was my fault i become confident we will be together forever but i was my mistake) i want to get back to her i want to improve to fulfill those demands so that i could get back to her but it will take me years and i dont think i would have enough strength to fight and improve myself alone( we been together helping one another so its new for me to take the path alone). Hope i could become strong as you . Is there any advice i could have?
"Because you are incredible"
Thank you so much Alpha. I *we* really appreciate you.
I feel this video completely.... When i remember how dark that time was, man oh man....
That shit builds you from the inside like nothing else, i became a dont give a fuck person for some people.
That pain makes you stronger, fucking believe me!
You change everything and even through that process i ended up discovering Alpha channel.
You have no idea how much I needed to hear some of this. Most days it’s hard not to wish one had never existed, as that seems so much more preferable than the excruciating suffering.
This is such a great message! Thank you for always serving the community with your messages. You have helped so many of us dudes!
It's really difficult when children are involved. What are your thoughts on handling this with children involved?
i needed this last year but i'm all better now
0:22 solution here is to delete social media. Not because of the break up but because it's toxic in general.
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Appreciate this alpha! Spot on!
My ex wife left me right when the covid pandemic started in 2020. It was difficult but once i made the decision to move forward and improve my situation it was the best thing that ever happened. 1 year later I dropped 100 lbs, improved my credit, went up a tax bracket, repaired my relationships with my family and friends, i feel so confident and fulfilled. Working out is so incredibly important. I'm up at 430am every day to get it. She even tried to come back or get me to go after her but i stood firm and as of October 15th i am officially single. Keep your heads up brothers, invest in yourself and focus on your purpose. 💪🏽You don't need to worry about others except the people that actually love you.
Also, don't date until you are healthy and solid. I am still single 1.5 years later and she left to be with a guy yet she still hits me up. Avoid vices as much as possible (porn, alcohol) and just give yourself the effort you deserve gents. It will be more than ok. Your mindset determines your reality.
With 3 years of experience of watching alpha m. i could literally figure out that he was gonna sponser better help right after reading the title of video haha
Honestly Alpha your like the Uncle/Dad/Brother that i never got to have, who could help me.
I was pretty low last month when my girlfriend of 5 years left me, and for some reason RUclips recommended an old Alpha.m video, and since then I have honestly been doing a lot better now cause of you and your advice. Thanks a lot Alpha ❤️
I really thought Alpha broke up with his wife. I hate with all my heart these click-baits.
it is what it is period.. in my experience she called it quits so i blocked her on all media platforms changed my number and deleted anything to do with her.. if she does not want to be there then anything that will remind you of her should not be there either.. this is just how i dealt with my situation.. but some of you had a different way of doing things.. have a blessed day fellas..
On the bright side we can welcome new spicy signoritas 😎
You’re so right about the rose colored glasses. I think there’s a fine line between enjoying the genuine good memories you had with that person and then actively remembering things better than they were or looking back longingly. You can enjoy good memories while also recognizing that that time in your life is over and that you’re better off without that person. It’s time to move forward 🤙🏼
>be me
>28yo
>got 1st gf last May 2022
>broke up April 2nd 2023
>it hurts bad
If she left you, you dodged a bullet.
If she comes back, it’s not because she misses you, she’s looking for a safety net.
Remember, YOU ARE THE PRIZE!
Alpha M, Just thank you for that.......perfect timing for me. Big fan of yours!
Thanks alpha I definitely needed to hear this, love your content like always bro🙌🏻
Wish I had this for me last October. Honestly this is the same situation I had. I even fell down a dark path with alcohol. Thankfully I’ve been doing me, and it’s great to see Alpha help everyone. Great video!
How do you feel now?
@@Patrickkk-z7y Honestly I feel great compared to where I was. I’ll admit I get lonely sometimes, but honestly there are more pros than negatives. For starters my confidence is sky high, I’m getting back in shape, and finally I have my boys. People I can hangout with other than just rely on a girl. In terms of an ex I’m over her. She’s happy and that’s all that matters; I’m just doing me.
That's topic I was looking for thank you Alfa
Being going through this since March after a seven year long relationship and all I can say focusing on your needs and goals and to stop thinking about her or even worse her being with someone else will make things better. I am not going to lie some days will be rougher than others, especially holidays, anniversaries, and birthdays, but just know it gets better and things will slowly and surely click into place.
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It’s ok bro you’ll bounce back from this. ALPHA NATION ALL DAY EVERYDAY!!!
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As someone who was with their ex for 15 years ( married for 11 years) and going through the divorce, this video has hit home. Everything said was exactly right. I started making myself a priority and started going to the gym. In 4 months I have lost 60 pounds and counting, on top of making new friends and really changing myself for the better. This advice may be hard to hear but it’s the best advice and I can speak from experience time is the best thing for you in a breakup. Also picked up a second job and have made my financial situation a priority as well as physical/mental health. It really does work and you will thank yourself later for making yourself a priority and being a high value, independent man.
Thank You, Alpha M.
I don't even have a girl, but still preparing for my future ex girlfriend 😂🤧
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One of the most important things I've learned from failed relationships is own your mistakes and grow from them.
Hey Alpha , Love from India ❤️🇮🇳. Keep Posting Amazing Content 🔥🤘🏻
I was devastated after a particular breakup. I was in a major rut and I couldn’t get out of it, I just couldn’t.
I was already working out, I already looked sick AF. I didn’t drink alcohol and wasn’t going to start. I went through work on auto pilot. I was an empty hollow and soulless man. Didn’t want to look at or talk to anyone unless I had to because of work. I eventually decided to commit suicide because I wanted the pain to stop. That was the lowest point of my life. I’m glad I didn’t though because I’ve met loads of great women and had so many good relationships I would never have experienced if I went through with it.
What stopped me from doing it? I bought myself a puppy. He’s the best thing that has ever happened to me. He’s a old boy now, but every time I look at him I see the same unconditional love looking back at me.
He’s the reason I got back on track and honestly, the reason I’m still alive.
Not saying people should get a dog or anything, just wanted to share. Be selfish do what you need to do for you and it’s true what they say, time does indeed heal all wounds. You just got to have the endurance to get there.
Your click bait titles are getting old.
She actually left him, cmon stop hating
Breakups suck but always remember that you build up character with each breakup. I was heartbroken through each one but I learned so much and am much wiser now.
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Sorry to hear about your breakup, man..
Stay away from p*rn and IMMEDIATELY go and start working out, use all that negative energy in building up instead of feeding the pain, and keep your heads up👑
I’m hurting so bad. I always took alphas advice so Im hoping to trust this. Hope she comes back
Girl just dumped me 2 months ago. Still fighting through and Ive never felt this pain before. I miss her
This is what i needed to hear. Was with my ex for 9yrs up until 5 month's ago when she left me and has already moved on with a new guy and is practically living with him. Spent many month's trying to get her back but eventually started focusing on myself and fixing possible faults for future relationships.
its Alpha Helpful! Thank you Alpha M.
Not getting the closure is the main reason people hurt long after the fact. This can be solved by talking it out with the person but it wont help if all u do is wanting to get back into the relationship. U have to accept the fact other person decided you are not for them.
Thanks my friend. 62 years old and still trying to figure this all out.
THIS VIDEO WAS PERFECT, THANK YOU.
I ENJOYED THIS VIDEO ALPHA FRIEND!!
Yo this helped a lot
Journaling daily was a massive help to me.
Last year for me was just non stop sadness and pain for me. In amongst all the covid stuff and dealing with that and family stuff I also got dumped after a long relationship after figuring out she was seeing other people for a while behind my back and at first I did every mistake mentioned in this video. I isolated myself away from family and friends, drank more alcohol than usual and I’m not typically a big drinker so that went how you would imagine. I slacked at work and blew off anyone wanting to talk to me or hang out and I also did the stupid mistake of trying to talk to my ex and get her back. This hurts but never ever be the one to try and do that. If the other person left you and wants to get back let them make the first move, it is not your job to try and fix everything if you were hurt and it wasn’t your decision. I learned I had to just sit with the pain and the sadness and now over a year later I’m actually happier as a single guy because I know and hope someone better isn’t that far away and somehow better people will come along. Stay strong people.