I am an HSP too. The only job that has not exhausted me and where I was able to stay for a few years was retail. It was a small clothing store and I was the only employee during my shift. I loved interacting with customers and was good at it. But I left because I needed more intellectual stimulation. Then I got my degrees and worked as a social worker, which I loved. Lots of part time options as full time was too stressful for me and I was unable to function. Environment is crucial and I learned that I need some control over the sensory input (noise) and time, peace to process/digest information .
I became a stay-at-home-mom at 19. The last few years I’ve been working and it’s a struggle to say the least after 14 years home. I terribly miss the complete control over my time and ability to do things when I feel like it.
Oh man - I literally landed my dream non-profit job in my dream location - I stayed with it for 20 years. Healthy environment, great, understanding managers, minimal office politics, projects I found interesting and were at least consistent with my values. I had a high level of autonomy - people in the office liked and generally supported me. I also had projects which involved some time outside in nature. Still, the superfluous meetings, computer/desk time, conferences, occasional travel proved intolerable in the long run. I tried to manage it with exercise, lots of meditation and yoga, and good diet, but to no avail. I'm semi retired now (a few consulting projects), and as a result I have never had a higher sense of well-being after being relieved of the need to show up for a full time job. I know this will be an unpopular veiwpoint, but IMO for HSP's like me, there is no ideal sweet spot for work, just choices that range from somewhat tolerable to awful. Still, all the more important for folks like you to offer advice, because few have the option of checking out from the work world. In general, the world is built in a way which makes financially supporting oneself incredibly difficult for HSPs.
I'm glad you pointed out the issues with a full time job, especially when we hit midlife! I have never been able to handle a full time job without spending all weekends in tears from stress, spending ton of money on massages, and feeling completely overwhelmed to the point of having no social life or any life outside of the work at all. Because of that, I have been doing only part time jobs. Sadly, the last one I had was not a good fit. I loved the work, and people around me but the environment was too chaotic and too stimulating. I had major issues with stress, and had to leave to regain physical health. I am in the recovery process now. I have outlined a less chaotic and stimulating part time job that will be my next stop.
I identify as an HSP, and i wanna thank you Adam. I appreciate what you mentioned at 2:10 about a conventional job being unfulfilling. I "served" (in the sense of doing time) 2 years at a software house/digital marketing company that required me to write research based articles, blogs, ebooks, product descriptions (of the amazon kind), etc. much of what you see online, and lemme tell you, that stuff will mess up your eyesight. That role reuired intense focus and I would often forget to give adequate rest to my eyes which caused me to develop floaters ( little ingots that move around in my peripheral vision with my eye movement). So droning away in front of the screen researching stuff online and writing will take its toll. Still figuring stuff out, and videos like this help.☺️
For toxic workplaces, I suspect a lot of the people causing the toxicity think that people are basically lazy and you have to put a fire under them to get them to work.
10 years ago I have worked in office in Statistics one year. Sitting in the office 8 hours a day and entering data on the computer was hell job for me as a highly sensitive person.
It's exactly that , I 've been feeling overwhelmed and confused about my career path for the last 10 years. Glad to know that I am not the only one struggling. Best wishes to anyone in this situation. 🙏
Yeah, it's definitely not just you! Unfortunately, the western world doesn't do a great job at helping us understand who we are and make life decisions based on that.@@renewebbie2513
Hello~loved your video! Subbed! Just want to note~I don’t think all HSP’s grow up and keep their empathy for others. I think some of them are sensitive but they are hurt and form toxic defense mechanisms that are abusive. I’m not sure about that but my dad was sensitive (musician and w lots of ego about it) and had lots of feelings mainly expressed in anger and rage/violence. He had “empathy” for himself (along w shame/self loathing) so he was extremely self-centered. So I think there should be a distinction between HSP and someone with high felt empathy for others. I hope the distinctio/intersection between sensitive wiring and psychology/morality is studied! 💜
Yeah, I hear you. Just because HSPs have a greater capacity for empathy does not mean that they will develop the capacity or express it as much as some others.
My first career was a total misfit.....dental assistant. It was so robotic I could scream! I never got to do the thinking or take the initiative. I took a big pay cut and went in to sales and just LOVED it And I was good at it. Went back to school for business management but never took a desk job....I'm still on the floor selling because I like that interaction.
Adam, i can't thank you enough, the checklist thing and the overwhelm associated with the JDs coming in at job boards (I've graduated with a bachelors of business administration in 2016, with a major in marketing), are really starting to make sense now. I'm a visual learner with a keen aesthetic sense, but there is a lack of organisations and companies in my neck of the woods that have a nurturing culture condicive to HSPs like myself. I've been reading about mental health due to personal reasons and i aspire to be in a byob (be your own boss) role (preferably have my own RUclips channel) that helps people overcome their weaknesses , improve their mental health and wellbeing. Earning from that endeavour would be an ideal situation for me, sharing my ideas with others for inspiration, aiming for a win-win
I've worked retail for a long time. Mainly in the background doing the backstock, replenishment and receiving. I love how physically demanding it can be and I'm not stuck behind the cash register all day. Unfortunately they filed for bankruptcy which is why I'm at this other retail store. Granted this new company pays me better, i have benefits now, a 401k and I'm a backroom coordinator...the people who work here (including management) are so incredibly toxic. I'm an empath, HSP, ADHD and bipolar #2. One of new comments my manager likes to say to me now is "you're not going to cry, are u?" Its so hard for me to turn off my emotions and let things not efffect me or not get frustrated (because frustration = getting emotional). I feel like I'm almost being nitpicked about everything i do (or dont do) almost forcing me to want to quit. I dont know what to do... Super frustrating..
I resonate with your comment. I also worked in retail for 4yrs, noticed majority of team leaders, managers had narcissistic traits, all in the click. They get off on putting people down, negative comments, smearing, belittling others to make themselves feel better, purely sick toxic behaviour . They are jealous, envious of your pure heart, authenticity and having empathy, all traits they are without! Stay strong, you are enough, God loves you and nothing else matters.❤
Hi Adam, I'm an HSP, Empath, and INFP. I'm retired from a series of meaningless jobs and looking for some satisfaction and part-time income in my golden years. Any suggestions?
Sure. I would consider some volunteer work where you'd have a chance to be of service to other or to animals. Then see if you can find some part-time work that pays good enough and you like it enough to support your needs.
oh god , yes, where can I work in a peaceful and harmonious place. 🤤😂 Yes, still trying to work on finding the best carrear fit for me. It is still a grey unknown area for now. Things are for sure happening and moving right now. First thing to deal with is this block I've been carrying for a long time. And these days it's manifesting again in my life and work through anxiety attacks. Yes,... I'm trying to hang on . 🙄 I am grateful to have people around me who support, help and guide. 🙏
Well it's certainly a process. Just keep in mind that your chances of finding what you want are much greater when you hold the intention of finding what it is that you want such as a peaceful and harmonious work environment.
I am leaving my job tomorrow. I have been getting sick... I can not be in a dirty, noisy and confused environment. A teacher in a public school in Brazil: you do all things, but teaching for 10-16 year-olds is impossible and before, I had been in companies. I have to do something different. 😢 I do not know yet.
I am also a public school teacher. I have to take anxiety pills everyday to get through the day. I have been trying to leave teaching I just can't find another job.
@@jeffmerritt6825 I am sorry to read this, really. Oh my! Have you tried Digital Marketing? Something that can free you from suffrance. Once your health is committed, there is no coming back. Think it over. There is always another way to solve things. I do hope you find a solution. Please, consider your life first. God bless you.
Thankyou for this mate. I needed this right now, it has really helped me understand my situation at work and also helped me find a solution. Thanks for this 👍🏾👍🏾🙂
25 year old HSP male. What if I’ve studied advertising, marketing and communications? I really want to get some leadership positions in the long term. But I do really need to be develop setting boundaries and assertiveness. Also I have a fondness towards ethics, philosophy, sociology, etc. Looking for AI ethics courses and workshops right now.
Weirdly enough you’ve mentioned plenty of things I’ve been or am involved in…. But I feel so lost right now Your video made me feel seem though… I’m afraid it’s impossible to find that ideal environment 😭
HSP UX designer here. Yes, the work is incredibly diverse (i am in-house designer), fun and challenging. But there is also dealing with all sorts of people. UX is a discipline that requires alignment of stakeholders, product people and developers. Not all of yhose people have social skills and God forbid they are incompetent. Also, prepare for tough design critiques. Especially, if you're the only woman on the team. The job is stimmulating, but can be exhausting and dealing with problematic people can be soul-sucking. As a UX designer you're also required to prepare high-level deliverables for developers, but if product management inputs are sh*t, it's horrible position to be in.
From horrible matches (mainly a variety of different types of sales jobs after college) to Probation Officer for a decade, to Service Coordinator at housing projects that serve the elderly and disabled. I keep graduating to better matches since spending a solid amount of consistent effort in figuring out what makes me tick. HSP is a significant piece to the puzzle.
Succeeded with fulfillment on many levels but not consistent, liveable income. I'm an animal communicator and have my own business. I had my own very successful pet sitting business for 13 years but hit a massive burnout.
I am an HSP too. The only job that has not exhausted me and where I was able to stay for a few years was retail. It was a small clothing store and I was the only employee during my shift. I loved interacting with customers and was good at it. But I left because I needed more intellectual stimulation. Then I got my degrees and worked as a social worker, which I loved. Lots of part time options as full time was too stressful for me and I was unable to function. Environment is crucial and I learned that I need some control over the sensory input (noise) and time, peace to process/digest information .
Thanks for sharing, I'm really happy you found what works for you!! 😊🎉❤
I became a stay-at-home-mom at 19. The last few years I’ve been working and it’s a struggle to say the least after 14 years home. I terribly miss the complete control over my time and ability to do things when I feel like it.
I’ve been home now as a at home dad for 11 years - time for going back to work has just crashed in on us. I’m so very overwhelmed.
The most important job in the world is a stay at home mom. Don’t fall for society’s pressures & lies.
@@therealrepeteI hope your circumstances improve soon! Maybe try looking at remote options?! Rooting for you dad! 🙏🏾❤️
Oh man - I literally landed my dream non-profit job in my dream location - I stayed with it for 20 years. Healthy environment, great, understanding managers, minimal office politics, projects I found interesting and were at least consistent with my values. I had a high level of autonomy - people in the office liked and generally supported me. I also had projects which involved some time outside in nature. Still, the superfluous meetings, computer/desk time, conferences, occasional travel proved intolerable in the long run. I tried to manage it with exercise, lots of meditation and yoga, and good diet, but to no avail. I'm semi retired now (a few consulting projects), and as a result I have never had a higher sense of well-being after being relieved of the need to show up for a full time job. I know this will be an unpopular veiwpoint, but IMO for HSP's like me, there is no ideal sweet spot for work, just choices that range from somewhat tolerable to awful. Still, all the more important for folks like you to offer advice, because few have the option of checking out from the work world. In general, the world is built in a way which makes financially supporting oneself incredibly difficult for HSPs.
I hear you, Paul. Work flexibility and freedom can be very helpful for HSPs.
I'm glad you pointed out the issues with a full time job, especially when we hit midlife! I have never been able to handle a full time job without spending all weekends in tears from stress, spending ton of money on massages, and feeling completely overwhelmed to the point of having no social life or any life outside of the work at all. Because of that, I have been doing only part time jobs. Sadly, the last one I had was not a good fit. I loved the work, and people around me but the environment was too chaotic and too stimulating. I had major issues with stress, and had to leave to regain physical health. I am in the recovery process now. I have outlined a less chaotic and stimulating part time job that will be my next stop.
I identify as an HSP, and i wanna thank you Adam. I appreciate what you mentioned at 2:10 about a conventional job being unfulfilling. I "served" (in the sense of doing time) 2 years at a software house/digital marketing company that required me to write research based articles, blogs, ebooks, product descriptions (of the amazon kind), etc. much of what you see online, and lemme tell you, that stuff will mess up your eyesight. That role reuired intense focus and I would often forget to give adequate rest to my eyes which caused me to develop floaters ( little ingots that move around in my peripheral vision with my eye movement). So droning away in front of the screen researching stuff online and writing will take its toll. Still figuring stuff out, and videos like this help.☺️
For toxic workplaces, I suspect a lot of the people causing the toxicity think that people are basically lazy and you have to put a fire under them to get them to work.
10 years ago I have worked in office in Statistics one year. Sitting in the office 8 hours a day and entering data on the computer was hell job for me as a highly sensitive person.
I am also 10 yrs worked in Bank cashier it was hell i am HSP
You are so right about this. It can make one literally sick over time
Feels like talking with myself only. Great man❤
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It's exactly that , I 've been feeling overwhelmed and confused about my career path for the last 10 years.
Glad to know that I am not the only one struggling. Best wishes to anyone in this situation. 🙏
hang on, let's be honest , for the last 25 years or more in fact.... 😂 which is a good part of my life.
Yeah, it's definitely not just you! Unfortunately, the western world doesn't do a great job at helping us understand who we are and make life decisions based on that.@@renewebbie2513
8 years for me guys, glad to hear I'm not alone in this struggle, hope all of you guys reach and exceed your goals and expectations ❤
@@renewebbie2513 Same for me: 21 years. I had my first job em August, 2003. I am in the same loop...
Hello~loved your video! Subbed! Just want to note~I don’t think all HSP’s grow up and keep their empathy for others. I think some of them are sensitive but they are hurt and form toxic defense mechanisms that are abusive. I’m not sure about that but my dad was sensitive (musician and w lots of ego about it) and had lots of feelings mainly expressed in anger and rage/violence. He had “empathy” for himself (along w shame/self loathing) so he was extremely self-centered. So I think there should be a distinction between HSP and someone with high felt empathy for others. I hope the distinctio/intersection between sensitive wiring and psychology/morality is studied! 💜
Yeah, I hear you. Just because HSPs have a greater capacity for empathy does not mean that they will develop the capacity or express it as much as some others.
My first career was a total misfit.....dental assistant. It was so robotic I could scream! I never got to do the thinking or take the initiative. I took a big pay cut and went in to sales and just LOVED it And I was good at it. Went back to school for business management but never took a desk job....I'm still on the floor selling because I like that interaction.
That's great. I'm happy you were able to make a successful pivot!
What kind of sales? :)
Adam, i can't thank you enough, the checklist thing and the overwhelm associated with the JDs coming in at job boards (I've graduated with a bachelors of business administration in 2016, with a major in marketing), are really starting to make sense now. I'm a visual learner with a keen aesthetic sense, but there is a lack of organisations and companies in my neck of the woods that have a nurturing culture condicive to HSPs like myself. I've been reading about mental health due to personal reasons and i aspire to be in a byob (be your own boss) role (preferably have my own RUclips channel) that helps people overcome their weaknesses , improve their mental health and wellbeing. Earning from that endeavour would be an ideal situation for me, sharing my ideas with others for inspiration, aiming for a win-win
I've worked retail for a long time. Mainly in the background doing the backstock, replenishment and receiving. I love how physically demanding it can be and I'm not stuck behind the cash register all day. Unfortunately they filed for bankruptcy which is why I'm at this other retail store. Granted this new company pays me better, i have benefits now, a 401k and I'm a backroom coordinator...the people who work here (including management) are so incredibly toxic. I'm an empath, HSP, ADHD and bipolar #2. One of new comments my manager likes to say to me now is "you're not going to cry, are u?" Its so hard for me to turn off my emotions and let things not efffect me or not get frustrated (because frustration = getting emotional). I feel like I'm almost being nitpicked about everything i do (or dont do) almost forcing me to want to quit. I dont know what to do... Super frustrating..
I resonate with your comment. I also worked in retail for 4yrs, noticed majority of team leaders, managers had narcissistic traits, all in the click. They get off on putting people down, negative comments, smearing, belittling others to make themselves feel better, purely sick toxic behaviour . They are jealous, envious of your pure heart, authenticity and having empathy, all traits they are without! Stay strong, you are enough, God loves you and nothing else matters.❤
@@staysane7049 thank u for ur kind words. Up until I picked up my last check the assistant manager was STILL gaslighting me.
Hi Adam, I'm an HSP, Empath, and INFP. I'm retired from a series of meaningless jobs and looking for some satisfaction and part-time income in my golden years. Any suggestions?
Sure. I would consider some volunteer work where you'd have a chance to be of service to other or to animals. Then see if you can find some part-time work that pays good enough and you like it enough to support your needs.
oh god , yes, where can I work in a peaceful and harmonious place. 🤤😂 Yes, still trying to work on finding the best carrear fit for me. It is still a grey unknown area for now. Things are for sure happening and moving right now. First thing to deal with is this block I've been carrying for a long time. And these days it's manifesting again in my life and work through anxiety attacks.
Yes,... I'm trying to hang on . 🙄 I am grateful to have people around me who support, help and guide. 🙏
Well it's certainly a process. Just keep in mind that your chances of finding what you want are much greater when you hold the intention of finding what it is that you want such as a peaceful and harmonious work environment.
Wow iam also a tutor and I feel happy only in this career 😊
Thank you very much. It was very helpful
HSP here, hospice nurse in the making.
Thank you! These insights are very helpful💜
Thank you for this video!
I am leaving my job tomorrow. I have been getting sick... I can not be in a dirty, noisy and confused environment. A teacher in a public school in Brazil: you do all things, but teaching for 10-16 year-olds is impossible and before, I had been in companies. I have to do something different. 😢 I do not know yet.
I am also a public school teacher. I have to take anxiety pills everyday to get through the day. I have been trying to leave teaching I just can't find another job.
@@jeffmerritt6825 I am sorry to read this, really. Oh my! Have you tried Digital Marketing? Something that can free you from suffrance. Once your health is committed, there is no coming back. Think it over. There is always another way to solve things. I do hope you find a solution. Please, consider your life first. God bless you.
Thank you Adam for your videos 🕊
You're welcome, Diane 🙏
Thanks, good content. Useful. 🙏
Thankyou for this mate. I needed this right now, it has really helped me understand my situation at work and also helped me find a solution. Thanks for this 👍🏾👍🏾🙂
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25 year old HSP male. What if I’ve studied advertising, marketing and communications? I really want to get some leadership positions in the long term. But I do really need to be develop setting boundaries and assertiveness. Also I have a fondness towards ethics, philosophy, sociology, etc. Looking for AI ethics courses and workshops right now.
Weirdly enough you’ve mentioned plenty of things I’ve been or am involved in…. But I feel so lost right now
Your video made me feel seem though… I’m afraid it’s impossible to find that ideal environment 😭
Working hybrid would be the best.
Go your own way !
Hi! What to do if you like more things and you hate repetitive jobs and in general you don’t like to repeat the same things? Thanks
I notice that robotic and repetitive tasks are so intolerable, like painful.. I am curious if everyone experiences this or if it’s an HSP things.
very helpful video !
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I think RUclips is one of the good jobs for highly sensitive people for multiple reasons.
HSP UX designer here. Yes, the work is incredibly diverse (i am in-house designer), fun and challenging. But there is also dealing with all sorts of people. UX is a discipline that requires alignment of stakeholders, product people and developers. Not all of yhose people have social skills and God forbid they are incompetent. Also, prepare for tough design critiques. Especially, if you're the only woman on the team. The job is stimmulating, but can be exhausting and dealing with problematic people can be soul-sucking. As a UX designer you're also required to prepare high-level deliverables for developers, but if product management inputs are sh*t, it's horrible position to be in.
decent career track for INFJ HSP? 🤔
11:56 your discomfort showed when you stared rubbing your neck
Thank You 🙏♥️
From horrible matches (mainly a variety of different types of sales jobs after college) to Probation Officer for a decade, to Service Coordinator at housing projects that serve the elderly and disabled. I keep graduating to better matches since spending a solid amount of consistent effort in figuring out what makes me tick. HSP is a significant piece to the puzzle.
Anyone in the comments who has succeeded finding what they want?
Succeeded with fulfillment on many levels but not consistent, liveable income. I'm an animal communicator and have my own business. I had my own very successful pet sitting business for 13 years but hit a massive burnout.
How about the job ,where you talk only and no questions asked ,plus no smirks lol😂. Does it exist ? Not a teacher, pls