A Harvard career coach’s “unspoken rules” for getting promoted | Gorick Ng for Big Think+

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  • How do people actually get promoted? According to Harvard career coach Gorick Ng, it’s all about knowing the unspoken rules for success.
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    The workplace isn’t a level playing field for a number of reasons. When you aren’t in a position of privilege, how do you get ahead and score that coveted promotion? According to Harvard career coach Gorick Ng, it’s all about knowing the unspoken rules for success.
    Keeping your head down will only get you so far, Ng believes. What sets the rising stars apart from the stagnant are the relationships they build, the impact they make, and their clear desire to understand their manager’s objectives even when they aren’t made overtly explicit.
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    About Gorick Ng:
    Gorick Ng is the Wall Street Journal Bestselling Author of The Unspoken Rules: Secrets to Starting Your Career Off Right, one of Thinkers50’s top 10 management books. Harvard Business School gifted it to every MBA student to give them an edge in the professional world. A widely-requested speaker across the world’s most recognized institutions from Stanford to IBM, Ng helps employers build an ownership mindset within their teams and empowers educators to improve career readiness among their students.
    Ng is a career adviser at Harvard College, specializing in coaching FGLI (first-generation, low-income) students. He is also on the faculty at UC Berkeley, where he teaches the unspoken rules of career navigation, now available as an online course on his website. He has been featured in The New York Times, TED, CNBC, Financial Times, Fast Company, Fortune, Forbes, and The Today Show. Ng, a first-gen college student, is a graduate of Harvard College and Harvard Business School. Each week, Ng shares career strategies through “Did You Know?,” a newsletter deconstructing the untold paths to success - of people (and things) you know.
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Комментарии • 313

  • @raatrani38
    @raatrani38 8 месяцев назад +330

    Tangibles this guy seems to be communicating:
    - Bring in as much business as you can
    - Be memorable for your competence
    - Be easy to work with
    - Connect people within and outside the company (i.e. don’t just network; be a builder of networks)
    - Mentor winners (i.e. people who will also bring in business and are seen as competent)
    - Be good at managing up and building consensus around solutions (i.e. make your boss’ job easier to do, especially when you’re encountering bigger problems that require attention from people in charge)

    • @sammynochains3455
      @sammynochains3455 7 месяцев назад +1

      The last point is gold tbh

    • @luianajoao446
      @luianajoao446 7 месяцев назад +6

      Really? You caught all that from THIS video?😅

    • @raatrani38
      @raatrani38 7 месяцев назад

      @@luianajoao446Being a project manager in a matrixed org also helps, lol

    • @raatrani38
      @raatrani38 7 месяцев назад +2

      Identifying “hidden opportunities to speak up, get invited to a meeting, build a relationship, ask a question” is decent advice with a lot of subtext itself. Ask yourself why it might be important to take advantage of the above… Because these are the building blocks to identifying problems, crafting proposals, assessing the status quo, generating solutions, and bringing in business (a.k.a. laying out next steps and offering to lead follow-up efforts)

    • @fatheryoda
      @fatheryoda 7 месяцев назад +12

      I got more out of this comment that the actual video

  • @typorter-pp6lh
    @typorter-pp6lh 8 месяцев назад +88

    Every single worthwhile job I ever landed was the result of having a positive connection with somebody already working at that company. Sometimes it was somebody I had never met, a friend of a co-worker, who had heard good things about my attitude and work ethic. Most often it was a former co-worker who now worked at the new company and put in a good word for me. I must emphasize this wasn’t “I want to do a favor for a friend.” This was “I want to work with somebody who is good at his job and is a good co-worker.” You never know who in your career will open a door for you in the future.

    • @cliffthecoolcat
      @cliffthecoolcat 6 месяцев назад +1

      I was never able to get a job. The only friend's I ever wanted were women.
      I am more of a product and process guy. I had to build my own business. The companies that I tried to work now ask me all the time to come work for them as I do business to business work for them.
      I would rather be dead than work for someone else.

  • @corujariousa
    @corujariousa 8 месяцев назад +182

    Excellent points raised. I'd like to add that are other complexities like: 1) Each work place is different and general rules would vary in intensity/importance so one needs to recognize and adapt; 2) Some environments can be very toxic, if you do not get accepted from start you'll never get anywhere. Recognizing when to leave is very important for success and even health reasons.

    • @AngelValdovinos
      @AngelValdovinos 7 месяцев назад +1

      Asian dont work harder though

    • @ftakenouchi1464
      @ftakenouchi1464 7 месяцев назад +2

      So so true, well said!

    • @okcomputer0101
      @okcomputer0101 7 месяцев назад

      Amen!

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  • @deersakamoto2167
    @deersakamoto2167 8 месяцев назад +321

    Every career RUclipsrs tell us that switching jobs with an average 15% salary bump is way better than getting a promotion where sometimes the only change is the job title

    • @Trae4k
      @Trae4k 8 месяцев назад +37

      Yeah, but to be fair, the job title change could help prove your company thinks you are at that level when you do move companies.

    • @AlphaOmega333
      @AlphaOmega333 8 месяцев назад +17

      I’ve never noticed RUclipsrs saying this but I lived through in Silicon Valley. They expectation is two years or less and then a 20% pay bump. And I saw it happen all the time.

    • @fireflower44
      @fireflower44 8 месяцев назад +7

      Just an extra tidbit and of course your mileage may vary. Job titles are meaningless. Your company may decide to give you a job title that doesn't match the norm for the position. They may make up a title that is so niche if you search for it you won't find anything similar. Depending on a title is pointless and I guarantee any future place you work isn't going to care. They are going to look at your actual tasks and qualifications. I've had interviewed tell me they had never heard of my job but all my skills fit what they needed. So don't put to much weight into what your title is.

    • @manoftomorrow5987
      @manoftomorrow5987 7 месяцев назад +8

      Which I agree with. Change jobs and get that title and pay raise. A lot of managers do not reward their staff (I try my best to reward my staff for their hard work). I'm middle management and my direct report (senior executives) could raise my pay..but for my career to continue to grow I will have to leave the company to get to that next level (executive status).

    • @mba2ceo
      @mba2ceo 2 месяца назад

      Correct !!! It is true as a slave - NOT friends and family !!!

  • @willjensen5595
    @willjensen5595 8 месяцев назад +152

    I understand his point and that in a six minute video, it's hard to convey complexity. But Gorick basically repeated the same thing endlessly in this video. It could've been half as long and just as "impactful."

    • @chinookvalley
      @chinookvalley 8 месяцев назад

      He's an idiot from a corrupt school. Get used to it.

    • @Fubbymaster
      @Fubbymaster 8 месяцев назад +28

      Average big think video. High production value but saying something almost entirely obvious or meaningless

    • @edgar_nistor
      @edgar_nistor 8 месяцев назад +15

      it looked like a commercial for his book

    • @michaelharris5281
      @michaelharris5281 8 месяцев назад +12

      It's an ad for his books

    • @LucienNox
      @LucienNox 8 месяцев назад +4

      I was about to comment the same thing 😅

  • @AvastarBin
    @AvastarBin 8 месяцев назад +153

    Somehow the 6 mins are too long for the amount of information inthis video.
    Basically : understand the motivations for a task given to you and respond to these motivations rather than what's asked in the task. This will show you understand the company's objectives and know how to reach them.

    • @tugrulzure9929
      @tugrulzure9929 8 месяцев назад +4

      Thank you

    • @kaisa24
      @kaisa24 8 месяцев назад +7

      I’m like half way through this video that I got randomly recommended cause I watch this channel for space videos thinking it was going to be interesting for a change but instead this mofo is literally saying nothing for half the video.

    • @Pimpjit85
      @Pimpjit85 8 месяцев назад +3

      If that's what you got from the video, you should probably watch it again.

    • @christianabandabella235
      @christianabandabella235 8 месяцев назад +1

      @@Pimpjit85yep. Totally true

    • @bc41
      @bc41 13 дней назад

      agreed. I thought it is written by ChatGPT

  • @paulpease8254
    @paulpease8254 8 месяцев назад +57

    I love the recognition between insiders and outsiders. Has taken me a long time to figure things out coming from a blue collar family and spending a long time in academia.

  • @undefinedvariable8085
    @undefinedvariable8085 8 месяцев назад +31

    In addition to being "heard" and "seen" you've got to be willing to take risks and the responsibilities that come along with that. Own a problem and drive a solution. But also be aware that not all problems are meaningful and worth solving, be careful not to fall into these traps because your time is precious.

  • @dingomatic
    @dingomatic 8 месяцев назад +43

    And then there's the wildcard of your manager. Sometimes, you can play all of your cards right but have a lackluster manager that gets in your way.

    • @chemquests
      @chemquests 5 месяцев назад +2

      That’s where having a network beyond your division is important. A mentor in the company, running teams that impact multiple areas, etc makes your impact felt beyond your boss. I try to maximize the impact so it’s not just up to them but I have more advocates among the leaders (a sponsor on some level).

  • @Chilos49
    @Chilos49 8 месяцев назад +51

    I literally got nothing out of this video. A true corp talk! Bravo 👏🏼

    • @hwago123
      @hwago123 7 месяцев назад +4

      Basically saying relationship and politics in the office is what helps you get ahead

    • @Nature-ep5cu
      @Nature-ep5cu 2 месяца назад +1

      Same, took too long to drop major points just kept talking instead of hitting the points quickly

    • @bc41
      @bc41 13 дней назад

      same thought. probably good for only fresh graduates

    • @bc41
      @bc41 13 дней назад +1

      who you know > what you know

  • @AmsterdamEats
    @AmsterdamEats 8 месяцев назад +5

    in order of importance: luck > network/connections > interview skills/selling yourself > experience > degree
    luck and connections get you an interview, selling yourself gets you the job, having the experience to do said job makes sure you don't get fired after x months.

    • @MD-gk4uh
      @MD-gk4uh 7 месяцев назад

      Sure, now go get hired for a job where you don’t have formal degree in and see how that goes for you. 😂

  • @arboghast8505
    @arboghast8505 8 месяцев назад +55

    If your workspace overly emphasizes relationships, and you find yourself being an "outsider", struggling to join a "bro club" or an "inner cycle", do yourself a favour and just quit, it's a toxic working environment.

    • @jaadtoly23
      @jaadtoly23 8 месяцев назад +3

      great comment. If your company is more about relationships than skills, try to quit asap. Don't complain, it won't change. Move on! I am trying to do that at the moment...

    • @JasonSheniswinning
      @JasonSheniswinning 8 месяцев назад +1

      This dynamic is going to be true in some way at every work environment. Learning to adapt to the system you’re in (and find the right place to thrive) is key.

  • @Adam-ui3yn
    @Adam-ui3yn 7 месяцев назад +4

    Essentially to get ahead in a system compromised of humans, don't make the mistake of valuing technical skill over charisma. Other humans are responsible for your promotion so you must appeal to their needs, biases, and attention.
    Thats why whole marketing departments exist. If we only cared about the technical objective properties of products they would sell themselves. It's akin to how we can appreciate a musical piece that's very technical and complex but at the end of the day we give most our attention to songs with simple catchy melodies.

  • @Twiggithy
    @Twiggithy 8 месяцев назад +75

    Maybe at the highest, 1% levels, but for the rest of us, the only way to get "promoted" is to find a better paying company than where you are currently. You can work hard and play the corporate social game, but the best you'll get is more work and a "I don't know what we'd do without you." Let them figure that out after you're hired at a higher paying company.

    • @IIcultivatorII
      @IIcultivatorII 8 месяцев назад

      Just kiss ur bosses ass

    • @brianadlich4406
      @brianadlich4406 8 месяцев назад

      Idk why anyone listens to these corporate blowhards. Career counselors self help gurus. It’s all bullshit.

    • @faithhouse6111
      @faithhouse6111 8 месяцев назад +1

      Amen.

    • @moart87
      @moart87 6 месяцев назад

      Spoken like a true outsider 🥲

  • @Trae4k
    @Trae4k 8 месяцев назад +33

    Its the same principle of it's not what you know; It's who you know. Make friends with people and doors will open to you because of your reputation

    • @jaysun4069
      @jaysun4069 8 месяцев назад +2

      This is where being autistic is a HUGE disadvantage. Making friends with people in that way is difficult to say the least. I've relied on skill alone for pretty much my entire career. And it sucks seeing people with half the skill get jobs just because they are friends with the right people

    • @krisxaero
      @krisxaero 8 месяцев назад

      That's what some of these folks want. If you're on a spectrum, you're SOL.

  • @parkmannate4154
    @parkmannate4154 8 месяцев назад +25

    As someone with bad social anxiety (to the point where its medicated) I long ago learned it would not matter how hard I worked or how good a job I did or even how much money I made the company, I would never advance because I can't make friends and socially interact effectively.
    This is a problem in the economy.

    • @PS987654321PS
      @PS987654321PS 8 месяцев назад +4

      Social anxiety is a mental illness, often derived from complex PTSD, childhood issues. You need to address these issues so that you can work effectively with others.

    • @samar7362
      @samar7362 8 месяцев назад

      I am too awkward when it comes to making friends..I just can't...bad case of social anxiety

    • @PS987654321PS
      @PS987654321PS 8 месяцев назад

      Then see a therapist. And in the meantime, please don't make life more unpleasant for everyone else.@@samar7362

    • @adsffdaaf4170
      @adsffdaaf4170 8 месяцев назад

      learn to make enemies, thats what you are anxious about

    • @PS987654321PS
      @PS987654321PS 8 месяцев назад

      @@adsffdaaf4170 bad advice.

  • @becomingabetterhuman.2994
    @becomingabetterhuman.2994 8 месяцев назад +9

    This is the same with building wealth "or what to do with the money you earn". I had to teach myself at age 36. I now I gide my younger brother. He is Miles past me when I was his age. I just taught him how to negotiate a wage "it worked" he got better pay and a new job. I look back and think my parents squandered their time here

    • @spectershore4482
      @spectershore4482 3 месяца назад

      Where you from ? Me, France 🇨🇵🖐🏾

  • @julianalexanderfranco1483
    @julianalexanderfranco1483 8 месяцев назад +8

    An emotional connection is so so crucial in all aspects of our lives. Ofc this should include work.

  • @JacksOLantern
    @JacksOLantern 8 месяцев назад +59

    That was so many words for such little advice

    • @4p4k
      @4p4k 8 месяцев назад +7

      He must be an MBA. That’s how all of them talk

    • @thesatsui
      @thesatsui 8 месяцев назад +8

      It's a marketing ploy to buy his book. That's it. Keep the advice as vague as possible so the audience is interested enough to learn more. Every motivational speaker does this shit.

    • @MD-gk4uh
      @MD-gk4uh 7 месяцев назад

      Wait! There is an actual advice somewhere in there? 😲
      Where is it?🧐 Oh wait, this must be dry British humor I always heard about😂

    • @Nature-ep5cu
      @Nature-ep5cu 2 месяца назад

      My thoughts exactly, he loves the sound of his voice I guess🙄😁

    • @hdsvideo
      @hdsvideo 12 дней назад

      Thats bigthink for you

  • @80lilala
    @80lilala 4 месяца назад +7

    You spend the entire video waiting for him to get to the point...

    • @matthewmagda4971
      @matthewmagda4971 14 дней назад +1

      Exactly. This was word salad with no real elaboration.

    • @Calle5ta
      @Calle5ta 11 дней назад +1

      It's just a sales pitch for his book... Dislike!

  • @JakeSmith-jy1kx
    @JakeSmith-jy1kx 7 месяцев назад +7

    When I’ve gotten promotions, it’s been at times when I’ve flipped from doing my assigned tasks at an acceptable level to stepping back, looking at the situation, and then taking ownership of the business. That means I start doing my assigned work better and faster, with more care, and then I also find the unassigned areas that are lacking and take those on as well. If you can show that you can be a project manager by taking the initiative to do that planning while doing your regular work, your boss will notice. If you schedule meetings that matter and run them well, it will get noticed. If your data analysis goes beyond and actually presents itself, it will get noticed. It’s not complicated even if it is hard.

    • @MD-gk4uh
      @MD-gk4uh 7 месяцев назад

      🤣
      Come back down in mud where most of us work and see how easy is to do that.
      “Scheduling meetings” …da-fak?!
      You have to first get promoted to the position where you have the authority to schedule anything at all much less “meetings” 🤦
      It’s like saying: living on the interest money from your investments is easy, you just take 10 million dollars and….. da-fak?!
      You are already in a position where you CAN advance from and a boss who is not gate keeping. When people complain about not being promoted it’s because they are NOT being rewarded for all the hard work they ARE ALREADY DOING you numb-nut.

  • @bhiei
    @bhiei 8 месяцев назад +6

    “Nearly a million men in the army, and it all came down to who liked who, pigeon holding starts on day one” Jack Reacher

    • @MD-gk4uh
      @MD-gk4uh 7 месяцев назад

      Explain please. Non English speaker.

    • @bhiei
      @bhiei 7 месяцев назад

      @@MD-gk4uh meaning, the army had many men. All starting in the same way, but someone identifies certain soldiers as being suited for better positions, training, etc and some aren’t. It starts on day one.

    • @MD-gk4uh
      @MD-gk4uh 7 месяцев назад

      @@bhiei I see. Pigeon being symbolic for the young/inexperienced solders.
      Though I don’t think it works that way in RL but I get the sentiment.

  • @harrietschack4873
    @harrietschack4873 6 месяцев назад +9

    There are a few general rules such as: Networking, don't be irreplaceable in your current position, sign up for the important tasks and leave the organization of birthday parties to others. You have to sell your work, so learn storytelling. The advancement opportunities for specialists are limited, so decide consciously whether you want to become a specialist or a generalist.

    • @willv88
      @willv88 5 месяцев назад +2

      The organization of birthday parties can actually be an opportunity to network. It's just as important to learn how to juggle what you're given with a new angle as opposed to spending all your time finding new opportunities. There's a balance here.

    • @beethao9380
      @beethao9380 Месяц назад

      simply no.

  • @0AriesFire0
    @0AriesFire0 8 месяцев назад +6

    crazy you just posted this, in the process of the corporate recruiting process for the first time and the insider/outsider thing truly dawned on me recently

  • @Munchausenification
    @Munchausenification 8 месяцев назад +32

    There are for sure some things to learn here, but I think he is missing another "rule". In workplaces ive been in it was always the people who worked the slowest who got promoted, why? Well it means they make less mistakes and always higher on energy so it seems like he/she should be able to take on more responsibility.

  • @mikewalker4855
    @mikewalker4855 8 месяцев назад +41

    It’s not obvious to me that there’s any actionable advice here, or am I missing it?

    • @tilllindemann7945
      @tilllindemann7945 8 месяцев назад +6

      buy the book 😂

    • @thesatsui
      @thesatsui 8 месяцев назад +6

      It's a sales pitch. He wants you to buy his book.
      Since you asked: learn to network with people in your company, especially with those that work where you want to be. Get a mentor to help coach you, and also vouch for you.

    • @rock801
      @rock801 7 месяцев назад

      Video is garbage, you sre right.
      The dude is telling something that means anything, thus says nothing.
      Unspoken rules are the next sales pitch myth like the hidden job market......something you can only target when you habe payed some phony dude too much money.
      Just because you or someone else got a job through some arbitrard connection does not mean such jobs are pooled somewhere for those few who can network their way into anyones circle of friends.
      Companies are often stages whereyoucan see the middle ages in action. Bosses try to get their favourite and loyal people a bonus. If you do not habe that boss youRe screwed.

  • @chibiusa
    @chibiusa 8 месяцев назад +28

    Thanks for reminding us that minorities are outsiders, which is why we rarely get promoted. People who get promoted rarely ever have the skills to show for it. The middle managers and even the execs I've worked with lacked adequate communication skills to communicate clearly and directly with the people working under them, and yet, the company continued to run and succeed because of the intelligent, hard-working people at the bottom of the totem pole who are treated like trash.

    • @IIcultivatorII
      @IIcultivatorII 8 месяцев назад

      They will actually hire minorities just to fill a spot instead of a non minority

  • @thanks600
    @thanks600 8 месяцев назад +3

    Oho, a variation of 5W+H framework.
    For promotion the easiest way is built reputation/visibility/optics & think a way to unseat your supervisor (e.g. the person get a promotion and leaving empty position).
    For perspective in navigating career, book “The McKinsey Way” might shed a little light. Career Mentors & Career Sponsors part might be important.

  • @GadgetsGearCoffee
    @GadgetsGearCoffee 8 месяцев назад +3

    Honestly, it's usually putting in more work, overtime and going above and beyond.

  • @rodsalvador3608
    @rodsalvador3608 8 месяцев назад +8

    Yeah, we know this. It's not what you know. It's who you know, and who likes you.

  • @karllaur3866
    @karllaur3866 8 месяцев назад +30

    Unspoken rule - be extroverted

    • @PS987654321PS
      @PS987654321PS 8 месяцев назад +1

      No. But definitely don't be a weirdo introvert.

    • @chibiusa
      @chibiusa 8 месяцев назад +6

      No, the unspoken rule is to spend a lot of time sucking up to higher ups instead of working hard.

  • @nobody983
    @nobody983 8 месяцев назад +36

    This is a Narcissist Manual. The 'unspoken rules' are just a fancy rebranding of the term, 'office politics'. The "insiders" are the Narcissists who do gatekeeping and set the toxic environment. You can easily follow these rules if you are already a Narcissist. In the end you would either become a Narcissist yourself or you would end up getting some kind of mental disorder (e.g., PTSD, cPTSD). Toxicity being taught on media, what a great time to be alive!

    • @helloes6236
      @helloes6236 8 месяцев назад +4

      as a person working in a corporate for a few years now, this is very accurate

    • @spectershore4482
      @spectershore4482 3 месяца назад

      Where is the toxicity here ? I'm new in a senior position in the tech sector

  • @ManifestMastery433
    @ManifestMastery433 Месяц назад

    4:24 Never forget this important thing, only when you have influence can you create change

  • @Tech875O
    @Tech875O 8 месяцев назад +7

    This video made unbelievable sense to something that I've been frustrated with for a very long time.
    I came from the underprivileged class and have spent the majority of my life working hard and assuming that would be enough to get ahead, but as Mr Ng points out, that's simply not enough.
    There's a hidden language that needs to be understood in order to advance ones career, and this video does an amazing job at explaining that.

    • @manoftomorrow5987
      @manoftomorrow5987 7 месяцев назад

      Your race or background has nothing with it. Smfh. Everything is about race these days. You work hard but maybe not smart enough...if a task or your job is "always hard" you're not taking critical thinking enough (im talking about desk jobs). Find ways to improve the process and make suggestions to your manager...if its a repeat task and you find it hard, once completed review the steps in the process and find ways to simplify it.

    • @Tech875O
      @Tech875O 7 месяцев назад +2

      @manoftomorrow5987 I didn't even bring up race in my comment, so not sure what you're getting at.

  • @ddpwe5269
    @ddpwe5269 8 месяцев назад +7

    LOL the captions seem like they're from an entirely different video.

    • @Anonymoose66G
      @Anonymoose66G 8 месяцев назад +2

      Just checked that because of your comment 😂.

  • @johnosam4681
    @johnosam4681 7 месяцев назад +7

    This is true, im also getting promotion that even i didnt know why😅 but i realize is about being scene, taking other tasks you are passionate about outside your original role, and coomunicate it to your manager. Be humble as well.

    • @beethao9380
      @beethao9380 Месяц назад

      simply no. you're privileged. you have horrible grammar.

  • @andrewcayer3099
    @andrewcayer3099 8 месяцев назад +3

    This is the same story we've had since HighSchool.
    If you do not stand out, you will be cast aside, abondoned, forgotten, never-used, never supported.
    Even if you do your work.
    And that's because the other suck ups are setting the standards for The Dream Of "The Boss".
    Try to sell it like advice, all you're saying is: cbe friendly and stay in the spot of attention."

  • @nikhilc6580
    @nikhilc6580 8 месяцев назад +3

    Please put the correct subtitle. Looks like the current subtitle is not related to this video.

  • @jimmynoriega2671
    @jimmynoriega2671 7 месяцев назад +1

    Consider watching this video at 2x speed. The speaker provides one vague piece of advice and extends it to cover a full six minutes. I wonder what reading his book would be like. It looks like ChatGPT will eventually replace the need for guru-like roles like this one. When you ask it, "What are the hidden rules of getting promoted?" you receive concise and actionable points in just a few paragraphs.

  • @YashSharma-zv8nu
    @YashSharma-zv8nu 6 месяцев назад +1

    Moral of the story - once a loser always a loser.
    How can one who's not got promoted even once can fulfill the hidden expectations of his/her seniors?
    Well, this video is a good ad for his book!

    • @beethao9380
      @beethao9380 Месяц назад

      yep. Once again, nothing important offered here. Ass kissing and nepotism.

  • @Rooted_Locs
    @Rooted_Locs 8 месяцев назад +4

    Woah, I went to high school with Gorick, he was our valedictorian.

  • @jubyjoseph6332
    @jubyjoseph6332 8 месяцев назад +2

    Gorick got it right - Don't be useful, be impactful.

  • @genghisrex
    @genghisrex 8 месяцев назад +11

    I can relate to this. I was a case manager for a nonprofit clinic. I decided to do more what my job description required for me in order to get noticed for better internal jobs. This was for nothing because they hired other people not related to the job; they were connected to an insider, I was not connected to the top brass.

  • @Zhiliang826
    @Zhiliang826 4 месяца назад

    There is another book by richard Templar the rules of work. That was eye opening, checking out this one as well

  • @ToonInvader
    @ToonInvader 8 месяцев назад +8

    Happy to see that people dont take that massive BS seriously.

  • @alessandrocasasso7299
    @alessandrocasasso7299 4 месяца назад +2

    I always thought that it's important to understand the big picture. It's something many people don't care about, saying "I do what I'm asked to do, period". Always look for the big picture, always focus on the need you satisfy with that task, and discuss how to do it the best way.

  • @mkanik6097
    @mkanik6097 8 месяцев назад +3

    He is describing passive-aggressive communication, which is very toxic. The only reason I would read his book is to avoid such things.

  • @GaryofNivea
    @GaryofNivea 22 дня назад

    The video is as useful as you'd expect anything lately associated with "Harvard" to be.

  • @andrewgraziani4331
    @andrewgraziani4331 8 месяцев назад +13

    Yah unwritten rules.
    Back in the day we called it something else, brown nosing and backstabbing.
    Defect blame, take credit for others work, never pass up a chance to make a co-worker look bad, show off when the boss is around.
    There's basically two people on any given work sight those who get the job done and those who get promoted.
    I'm not naive enough to not see this as the facts of life, but I do find it especially galling to see a best seller promoting this behavior.

    • @MD-gk4uh
      @MD-gk4uh 7 месяцев назад

      THIS! 100 times THIS!
      Having lived in 3 countries across 2 continents and raised to “work hard, be humble and don’t ask for reward” I watched people doing all of the above in more or less visible manner until one person did it in such an obvious way that I thought there is no way higher ups would stop laughing much less promote him. Well, let’s just say I remember the time exactly when all my upbringing lessons came crashing down like a cartoon character three feet of the ledge still trying to peddle his feet.
      Being the outsider to the country itself and everything in it much less work environment and not having anyone to mentor me at all, I felt defeated beyond beliefs. Till than I still believed in capitalism and American dream. It died that day I finally couldn’t lie to myself any longer. All I ever got for my good work that everyone praised me for was more work, often left behind by those who got promoted while doing half what I did.
      It’s too late to change for me but I will pass those lessons to others, every chance I get.

    • @andrewgraziani4331
      @andrewgraziani4331 7 месяцев назад

      @@MD-gk4uh Yah it's a bitter pill to swallow.

  • @JoboVentures
    @JoboVentures 8 месяцев назад +7

    The "useful" vs. "impactful" distinction hit home, thanks Gorick. And congrats on all the success with 'Unspoken Rules'!

  • @a.pourihosseini
    @a.pourihosseini 8 месяцев назад +2

    Oh, why just get to the main point when you can repeat "the hook" for why your message is important over and over again until minute 5 of a 6 minute video, and then just give a brief list of bullet points that barely scratch the surface :/

  • @lukepa151
    @lukepa151 8 месяцев назад +2

    Is this supposed to be a good thing? It just sounds like the people who get promoted are just the social people who have like interests as the boss. It’s as if being the best at your job is a small factor in a promotion. I’m I wrong?

  • @360.Tapestry
    @360.Tapestry 8 месяцев назад

    when the student is ready, the teacher will appear
    aka if you don't get it, you not ready, cuz

  • @TheFinalRoundPod
    @TheFinalRoundPod 7 месяцев назад

    Great video - I read Gorick's book also - awesome insight!

  • @felipeReisfelipereis
    @felipeReisfelipereis 8 месяцев назад +2

    The subtitles are wrong

  • @dbwhab4150
    @dbwhab4150 8 месяцев назад +15

    So basically: do not be neurodivergent, be extroverted, have friends and in a company you are getting into... Sure lmao

  • @cusodha1
    @cusodha1 8 месяцев назад

    in short give your 50% extra. That includes to every aspect of the company and the boss.

  • @khainaga
    @khainaga 7 месяцев назад

    If you didn't gain any understanding from the video, you're not only an outsider, you're unaware that you are.

  • @MachusPichusAmigo
    @MachusPichusAmigo 5 месяцев назад +1

    Aka how to become one of those fake work only meetings coworkers

  • @selocan469
    @selocan469 Месяц назад

    Oh boy, Nonsense. Whole promotion processed can be summarized to "PR and market yourself smartly (while doing the formal work as least as possible of course but PR it to be overperformed as well)". Do not give me the " do not miss the opportunities BS". If you do not constantly lobby, opportunities are already unavailable to you, and if you do constantly lobby, you will only clash with other lobbyers for the promotion but winner is generally decided by your lobby history/performance relative to your competitors beforehand which is the case for most low to mid manager positions. Main winning point of a lobby is simple... who win the hearth of the person who have the say for who is promoted to the target position. Other cases are just exception, since the person who have say is an exception himself/herself.

  • @myildizhan
    @myildizhan 8 месяцев назад +1

    Your subtitles are different than the speach. Please correct them.

  • @kkikkirikki
    @kkikkirikki 8 месяцев назад

    The most important first step: Get your mental health checked first, perhaps there are some issues why you dont feel motivated/lack of energy/cant follow through...

  • @mattjanachek
    @mattjanachek 2 месяца назад

    TLDR: Get promoted by asking WHAT WHY WHEN for tasks that come your way. I want my minutes back.

  • @warrenchristianvision2314
    @warrenchristianvision2314 7 месяцев назад

    thank you for this ad for chatgpt

  • @aemser7080
    @aemser7080 13 дней назад

    Wh questions, that's all? I don't think it's just that. You are supposed to understand the hidden rules without anyone explicitly telling you, within their agreeable time span. Understanding the bigger picture comes at a cost of having others involved in your enlightenment, doing trial and error that the company cannot afford, and dealing with blames and conflicts. Something should have been included in the video about this.

  • @samuraijack1371
    @samuraijack1371 7 месяцев назад

    The idea that your life should revolve around your work and you have follow and master these “spoken” and “unspoken” rules so that you move up and have a “full filling “ career is just bogus!! It’s a fundamentally flawed concept that you fill find reward and satisfaction in your work and that more important work you get more fulfillment you will see.
    Work is just work. It’s just a part of life. Do your best but happiness/satisfaction doesn’t come from the reward but from the effort. It’s always the effort that’s the goal not reward. This is fundamentally different from chasing “promotion “ in the end only the business owner/investor wins and you have your life and vitality sucked out of you

  • @yoursandeep
    @yoursandeep 4 месяца назад

    didn't here the rules atall here :) Are they unspoken as stated ?

  • @onsarpong575
    @onsarpong575 6 месяцев назад

    And I noticed that when he started talking about “other”, the image was the African descent woman 😂😂😂.
    Also, don’t worry about “getting ahead”. No need. Look at our world. Enjoy your life.

  • @ekingsley7330
    @ekingsley7330 7 месяцев назад

    These are tangible tips base on a person having a fair playground and favouritism , halo effects, gender bias is at absolute minimum. Choose your team wisely, who you work with means a LOT ! On top of that , apply some rules of how you carry out the work.

  • @MGW2610
    @MGW2610 8 месяцев назад +3

    If the hidden expectation is to please the boss, then is it worth doing it?

    • @MD-gk4uh
      @MD-gk4uh 7 месяцев назад

      That depends on the boss and her expectation.
      If she is super HOT and pleasuring her please her, it definitely worth it 😆

    • @JakeSmith-jy1kx
      @JakeSmith-jy1kx 7 месяцев назад

      Yes! Bosses generally have better perspective on what the company needs.

  • @gargigingerly
    @gargigingerly 8 месяцев назад +8

    This could have been a smaller video…

    • @miriamschiro8585
      @miriamschiro8585 8 месяцев назад

      Hmmm is that a sarcastic question lol

    • @frodinhoTSN
      @frodinhoTSN 8 месяцев назад

      Education and the art of teaching isn't and shouldn't be straightforward, there are some subjects that seem simple and quick, but are easily forgotten for that very same reason.
      I agree and understand that what has been said in the video could have been said in a few less minutes, but those "extra" minutes are for ensuring, even if just a little, that what has been said stays for more people!
      At least that's my take on it.

    • @greorbowlfinder7078
      @greorbowlfinder7078 8 месяцев назад

      Harvard graduates make everything bigger than it is.

    • @kaitlync.2628
      @kaitlync.2628 Месяц назад

      Otter pic twins!

  • @ShinjukuBoy
    @ShinjukuBoy 7 месяцев назад +1

    In other words, become a likeable person and play ball 😂

  • @gavinsenior4795
    @gavinsenior4795 7 месяцев назад

    It's not what you know but rather who you blow

  • @666oddess
    @666oddess 7 месяцев назад

    He looks like the lady from that one episode of extreme cheapskates

  • @c_sid
    @c_sid 8 месяцев назад

    What do you do if these days 90% of the management is morally and ethically compromised?

  • @williamleiva9147
    @williamleiva9147 8 месяцев назад

    Don’t work for big companies, take your own path

  • @miriamschiro8585
    @miriamschiro8585 8 месяцев назад +1

    Don’t thrive, contribute. 👍🏼

  • @charlescowan6121
    @charlescowan6121 8 месяцев назад +2

    And what is your success rate, Mr Ng? Of the clients you have helped, how many achieved their goals?

  • @Mossblac
    @Mossblac 8 месяцев назад +26

    the lesson is : perpetuate the unspoken hierarchy. Maintain the status quo. This is how you keep minorities and people with disabilities from succeeding in life. this is genuinely horrible.

    • @gadohimself
      @gadohimself 8 месяцев назад +1

      Please explain?

    • @GrantNelson1
      @GrantNelson1 8 месяцев назад +10

      "Nepotism (noun) The practice among those with power or influence of favoring relatives, friends, or associates, especially by giving them jobs." Right? This guy isn't wrong and is saying what has happened at every place I've worked, promotions go to friends of the managers. And that's why the people at the top of a lot of companies aren't team players (they throw their peers under a bus), they aren't skilled or talented, they just know how to be friends with the boss and the correct race, sexuality, religion, etc. for that boss. This why so many companies start out strong and then collapse as the very talented people who helped disrupt the market, revolutionized the product, and are great at their job but also happen to be shy, peer advocates, or just a little weird quit for never being recognized. Instead of teaching how nepotism works, I wish people would teach managers how to identify and keep talented diligent people to help build a better company.

  • @juliousceaser
    @juliousceaser 8 месяцев назад

    Conquest

  • @dim._.
    @dim._. 8 месяцев назад +1

    Big Think, pls turn auto-subtitels ON in your Videos

  • @erroreliminator2.076
    @erroreliminator2.076 4 месяца назад +1

    Just be your own boss, forget about working for corporations, especially large corporations.

  • @yanni5496
    @yanni5496 8 месяцев назад +1

    In short, office politics.

  • @miriamschiro8585
    @miriamschiro8585 8 месяцев назад +2

    Hidden expectations: There are rules in one’s work place your employer never spoken to you but expect from you.
    Learning what that may be can help you advance to a higher level at your job.

  • @Zunayo
    @Zunayo 8 месяцев назад +5

    Low content video imo :)

  • @dramastudiobordeaux8058
    @dramastudiobordeaux8058 8 месяцев назад +6

    A Harvard Career Coach's advice for getting promoted: Go to Harvard.

  • @yelbuck
    @yelbuck 8 месяцев назад +7

    I can see why he's in academia, a great big word salad to say something very basic, generalised and all while time wasting. Oh well

  • @mtbrick
    @mtbrick 7 месяцев назад

    Love this!

  • @IIcultivatorII
    @IIcultivatorII 8 месяцев назад +1

    It’s all about who you blow

  • @88Umy
    @88Umy 12 дней назад

    Wait, what?

  • @MD-gk4uh
    @MD-gk4uh 7 месяцев назад +1

    In my country, we call this “secret language”: Suck, Blow, Spread then Swallow.
    I didn’t know that in America it was done by men too 😂

  • @izzy706
    @izzy706 8 месяцев назад

    I love this video.

  • @purnatikaentertentsalyan9223
    @purnatikaentertentsalyan9223 8 месяцев назад

    Nice

  • @cthemaverick
    @cthemaverick 6 месяцев назад +1

    Honestly i really wish i would have had this videos 8 months ago when i got laid off from my high profile job in entertainment. This is exactly the thing i was dealing with.

    • @beethao9380
      @beethao9380 Месяц назад

      simply no. yep. Once again, nothing important offered here. Ass kissing and nepotism. You will NEVER get promoted if they don't like you or don't want you promoted. If they want you to be their slave you will NEVER get promoted. Keep moving on until someone appreciates what you bring to the table.

  • @marvymillz
    @marvymillz 7 месяцев назад

    🤔

  • @gabs5552
    @gabs5552 8 месяцев назад +5

    This looks, sounds, tastes and smells like some big bs, imagine i get 40 task per day, i can't ask every single time what is the purpose of all of them, and also most of the time no one gives a flying f what your opinions are, because managment is going to do it their way anyway.

  • @c46236
    @c46236 8 месяцев назад

    Corruption and plain abuse resulted from metal deficiencies like personality disorders is sky high in corporations.
    And unfortunately trying to justify the reasons of a mad organization is a full time job with no result. If it feels bad or wrong trust me it is.

  • @quartytypo
    @quartytypo 8 месяцев назад +1

    Cut the boss's lawn on Saturday.

  • @Esbbbb
    @Esbbbb 8 месяцев назад +1

    tl;dr networking

  • @vannibombonato4180
    @vannibombonato4180 6 месяцев назад

    All correct. It’s called office politics.