Afraid to Speak Up? (Do This)

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  • Опубликовано: 23 авг 2024
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Комментарии • 75

  • @paulaaquino
    @paulaaquino 2 года назад +42

    I can really relate to the 2nd caller.. so hard standing up for yourself when you grow up being the family's emotional support...

  • @JustOne-qe7jl
    @JustOne-qe7jl 11 месяцев назад +11

    The 19 year old girl is too young to marry- how many 19 year olds know what they want out of life? Yeah yeah there’s always the exceptions but overall they are not qualified with life experiences. Talk to your daughter but ultimately she needs to make her decisions- right or wrong. Good luck to all involved in this situation.

  • @janicewright4007
    @janicewright4007 8 месяцев назад +9

    Martial arts is such a loving and kind community. Use it if you need confidence 👍

  • @elizabetha8565
    @elizabetha8565 2 года назад +22

    They actually have service where you can call and someone will be rude to you and you practice standing up for yourself. I know one is on fivver

  • @JG71980
    @JG71980 2 года назад +12

    I had a similar rental experience with Hertz. Ugh, it was terrible. I rented the car with a work credit card, and wanted my husband to be a driver, he also owns n the business and is my husband and they wouldn’t allow it. Walked over to enterprise and had the same awesome experience with them!

    • @lisaweinzapfel4240
      @lisaweinzapfel4240 8 месяцев назад +2

      The same thing happened with us at Budget. I had the credit card but wanted my husband to be the driver because I don't drive well at night with a cataract. They said I had to drive. I drove a mile down the road, then we switched drivers!

  • @deamon506
    @deamon506 2 года назад +12

    I can’t consciously allow my kid to cheat on somebody

    • @katwilliams2950
      @katwilliams2950 2 года назад +2

      She would not be allowed to stay if she kept hurting him. I wouldn't condone physical abuse nor emotional abuse

  • @fluffyspunsugar
    @fluffyspunsugar 2 года назад +11

    Good luck, Daniel. We're cheering you on!

  • @krissypeters1517
    @krissypeters1517 Месяц назад +3

    The girl is only 19 … in college
    If she married him she’d have to drop out and live with him
    She would most likely be resentful her entire life
    She needs her freedom
    Watching this much later than call
    Hope everything worked out !!!

  • @korencunningham40
    @korencunningham40 2 года назад +6

    Enterprise rocks!!!!! it is the only rental car company hubby and I rent from!

  • @cathyosullivan718
    @cathyosullivan718 2 года назад +33

    I think 19 is generally too young to settle down. It doesn’t sound like her fiancée is the right person for her if she is already cheating. She should break it off with him instead of wasting his time.

    • @jeradkiester698
      @jeradkiester698 2 года назад +8

      Would you say the same if it was a man cheating on his female fiance? "It doesn't sound like her fiance is the right person.." you women really can't hold women accountable... she cheats and he's still at fault for not being the right guy?!?! Hahaha

    • @cathyosullivan718
      @cathyosullivan718 2 года назад +9

      I’m not saying she is any better then the guy but it doesn’t sound like they are compatible If she is cheating this soon, it doesn’t seem like they are right for each other. I may be wrong but I think 19 is generally too soon to settle down.

    • @susieare
      @susieare 2 года назад +2

      @@jeradkiester698 Cathy didn't blame the man!?

    • @snoozyq9576
      @snoozyq9576 2 года назад +4

      @@jeradkiester698 you're attacking a strawman so blatantly right now.

    • @jeradkiester698
      @jeradkiester698 2 года назад

      @@snoozyq9576 keep defending trash women.

  • @brandyk
    @brandyk Месяц назад +3

    John is so right about how businesses today are. Its such a crap shoot and has been this way even before COVID but even worse now. This creates a lot of anxiety for people since they can never feel confident that the person they happen to "get" that day will at least just ve an average decent worker even without any need to go above and beyond or figure something out like in John's case. Sorry to be a pessimist John but its only going to get worse.

  • @lav7161
    @lav7161 2 года назад +6

    Really rooting for Daniel. Baby steps man. Small wins build up.
    It looks like Brianna is not 100% on board with continuing her relationship. She seems tired of her man bringing up the past that hurt him. Unfortunately, when she chose to be sneaky and cheat she didn't realize that hurt has different expiration dates that you don't have control of. Deal with your partners hurt or get out. No in between.

  • @Jarcano8
    @Jarcano8 14 дней назад +1

    I ordered your book, I love to read. I spend way too much time on podcasts and yes I need people. So I'm looking forward to reading,
    "Own your past, change your future".

  • @carterbaumer358
    @carterbaumer358 Месяц назад +2

    I like what John said about working out on the second call

  • @terashaking4119
    @terashaking4119 Месяц назад +1

    Thanks for sharing the rental car story.

  • @aaj7188
    @aaj7188 9 дней назад

    Caller Daniel, you were brave just calling in to Dr. John. You've already started practicing! ❤

  • @heydude7796
    @heydude7796 2 года назад +2

    A comment about rental car companies, it's a problem with a lot of them. I drive a truck for a living, and I recently got fired from a company one week before I Was preparing to quit. This left me stranded in St Louis missouri, and nobody would rent me a car to go home because I didn't have a credit card. I don't know what happened between Dollar Car Rental and Ramsey solutions, but even dollar wouldn't rent a car to either myself or my roommate without a credit card. This put me in a position where I had to skip the 4th of July with my family and go to my new job early since they were able to rent a car for me.

  • @user-rl8jr6ls4z
    @user-rl8jr6ls4z День назад

    I can really identify with the second caller, Daniel. Confrontation makes my knees knock.

  • @IbeSyke
    @IbeSyke 28 дней назад +1

    Customers service went down the drain after covid

  • @theshellest
    @theshellest 15 дней назад

    (Regarding second caller) I love the idea of practice- I had to confront my dad and I practiced it with my roommate. When the time came to confront him (he's a scary dude), I totally did it. Felt amazing. It never would have happened if I didn't practice it first.

  • @LydiaMusicidomusic
    @LydiaMusicidomusic 8 часов назад

    John thank u for speaking up about the budget vs enterprise thing! I had the same exact experience

  • @Jarcano8
    @Jarcano8 14 дней назад

    Bank Of America needs to go away too.

  • @araceliramirez7315
    @araceliramirez7315 25 дней назад

    There's no way I would ever support my kids cheating! I was cheated on in the worst way and I'd have a lot of guilt for the other person

  • @melissam6037
    @melissam6037 11 месяцев назад +3

    19 is too young to get married - it sounds like the mom is pressuring her to get married! She is in college, how is she going to finish if she goes to the military life and needs to move a lot? She would probably need to drop. The mom didn’t even talk about what her daughter was studying, does she have hopes and dreams for herself? I think the daughter should just come clean, admit she isn’t ready for such a serious commitment at such a young age, and focus on finding whet she wants to do in life.

  • @bigbett440
    @bigbett440 2 года назад +5

    GEN 3:19 From the streets she came, and to the streets she shall return.

    • @monkas7270
      @monkas7270 2 года назад +1

      mom is scared because she realizes her daughter is a hoe

  • @meekmeek8198
    @meekmeek8198 2 года назад +5

    Enjoyed this episode. Hopefully her daughter chooses right, but if not, she'll have to bump her head and learn the hard way and wish that she listened to her mother. She's young, doesn't seem like she wants to be with her fiancé. She'll learn.

  • @beastshawnee
    @beastshawnee 5 месяцев назад +1

    Actually Enterprise put me thru a similar situation years ago. Maybe they have it figured out better now. But it was a 2 hour delay and nightmare. They also did a bait and switch once and shoved me into a cramped “vroomvroom” car which showed my knee uncomfortably over. I had to stop halfway across the country and plead for another vehicle. Luckily they had the exact one I had officially reserved in the😅 first place-a larger 4x4 ! I figured it could handle the snow where i was going and get me home again safely. That first car made my leg cramp for days!
    But those were the only 2 real problems I had and I rented from them about a dozen times,

  • @nathaliebasile6168
    @nathaliebasile6168 6 месяцев назад +3

    19 years of age. I would not blackmail my 19 year old daughter out the door dr John !!! . She’s 19 ! Why should she be promised to anyone at 19 ! We are missing some important info here. She is probably enjoying the family as much as the boy. Why are the parents getting all exited about prospects??? She is 19. They should be friends, lovers … The all frame is so rigid …

    • @e.d972
      @e.d972 4 дня назад

      So, you're saying mother should support and approve of her cheating, lying , playing with people's hearts and well-being, using people, and letting her do as she pleases without any consequences?

    • @nathaliebasile6168
      @nathaliebasile6168 День назад

      @@e.d972 I remember clearly this conversation. At 19, men and women are doing a lot of exploring. Cheating is a strong 💪 word in this situation. Some 19 years old are more mature than others. The mom needs to communicate with her daughter. The mom is already vouching for the boy. The boy may have more character than the girl at this time. The mom should vouch for her daughter; she should not be saying whether what she did was wrong or right . The mom should let her feel that the door is always open.

  • @wewemcrhyne
    @wewemcrhyne 2 года назад

    I had a problem with BUDGET at the Denver Airport that was very similar it was my worst experience with any company I have ever tried to business with. I called my bank president also. I had to jump through so many hoops. The final thing that happened was that they wouldn’t accept my card (debit) because I don’t have a credit score!!!! That’s because I won’t get debt. It’s a debt score, not a credit score. It was horrible!!!!!

  • @deanaburnham9571
    @deanaburnham9571 3 дня назад

    ❤Not the fam of origin. The daughter is a sociopath, and pathological liar , Daloney. Don't make the mom take responsibility for something she has nothing to do with this! Geesh. C'mon.

  • @libertyor556
    @libertyor556 Год назад +1

    Budget is the most trash company on the planet.

  • @leslieaharden6183
    @leslieaharden6183 2 года назад +2

    Loved (and shared) regarding integrity for the mother whose daughter was cheating on her fiancé.
    A comment about one thing... I dislike when D.Ramsey would finish stories by silencing the caller and then voice his own thoughts & words as if they were still on the line. Augh.

  • @TheImperfectReader
    @TheImperfectReader 2 года назад +1

    I love Enterprise!!

  • @kathigratton2286
    @kathigratton2286 Месяц назад

    Sadly there are friends who try to get people to cheat! My husband friend now x-wife friend !
    People call her the home wrecker

  • @TheEquiss
    @TheEquiss Год назад +1

    I don’t get why it always comes down to a demand of sex 3 times a week or 5 times a week. Yuck
    My ex became addicted to sex and if he didn’t get it he became violent and accused me of cheating.
    Dumped his a** after 35 years of marriage. He died less than a year later.
    So now I find that’s the ONLY thing that seems important in the dating world. Gross. I’d rather live alone on a deserted island than deal with that bs ever again.
    It’s overrated, disgusting and just not worth it.

    • @show_me_your_kitties
      @show_me_your_kitties 11 месяцев назад

      Sex is fun and amazing, not gross. It's not everyone else's problem that you spent your life with a sex addict.

    • @nikkita1688
      @nikkita1688 10 месяцев назад +2

      ​@@show_me_your_kittiesyou can totally negate what she went through or acknowledge there are many reasons she feels this way. Many are medical. She's clearly gone through hell and you kick her while she's down. Who knows why...

    • @e.d972
      @e.d972 4 дня назад

      She's entitled to express her opinion just as you are. Be glad you didn't experience what she did and had to live for over 30 yrs​@@show_me_your_kitties

  • @alittleoflolo
    @alittleoflolo 3 дня назад

    Enterprise always is better!

  • @vanessapanek9959
    @vanessapanek9959 7 месяцев назад

    Now everybody gets the Charlie Daniel song, the Devil, though went down to Georgia

  • @Dixie8642
    @Dixie8642 6 месяцев назад

    Excellent input for the sweet nonassertive guy. Nonassertiveness is rampant among grownups-astoundingly so. Men, women, all ages. Cool handling of the call-and also hilarious (“I have a buddy who did that once; he went to the gym and was just-tried to like Arnold Schwarzenegger it, and he didn’t-he couldn’t wipe properly for 3 weeks…” 😂😂😂😂)

  • @alainawilson1033
    @alainawilson1033 7 месяцев назад

    I had the same great experience with Enterprise I just wanted to throw that in there 👏

  • @devsnik7003
    @devsnik7003 2 года назад +4

    Budget is always the worst lmao

  • @hasmikmissakian3970
    @hasmikmissakian3970 Месяц назад

    Dr John did you get her pretzel reference ?

  • @elizabethrainbolt9443
    @elizabethrainbolt9443 Месяц назад

    Enterprise is the best!

  • @kathleenberg9168
    @kathleenberg9168 2 года назад

    Thanks for the endorsemen

  • @sheenalee7602
    @sheenalee7602 Месяц назад

    I definitely see a lot of myself in the second caller.

  • @tracyestrada1965
    @tracyestrada1965 Месяц назад

    I love enterprise.

  • @ch421249
    @ch421249 2 дня назад

    JODY!!

  • @marypladsen5231
    @marypladsen5231 19 дней назад

    Our absolutely favorite restauant closed after covid. It was my fault though. I ordered something and they brought me something entirely different. Everything they made was really really good and I would have been happy eating what they brought me. BUT. I thought that meant someone else was getting whatever it was I had ordered SO I sent it back. I had to wait for them to cook what I wanted so I knew they hadn't just been able to switch it with what I'd orderd that went to someone else. Thinking about it - they probably can't just switch orders around like that anyway, but I still think me being 'fussy' is what made them close. Bye bye Fayze's.

  • @katelyndefreitas2810
    @katelyndefreitas2810 2 года назад +3

    The credit card thing he talked about at the beginning is why i'm scared to let go of my CC. Such a hassle and I already ahve anxiety about stuff. I keep a low balance card and put cash on it....cause I don't want issues. Feels really unfair though. Who doesn't take cash? even digitally (ie debt or EMT).

    • @musicalatv
      @musicalatv 2 года назад +2

      Just shop at places that do take debit cards. The other place doesn't deserve business if there don't want to take debit cards.

  • @Stzuber1234567890
    @Stzuber1234567890 2 года назад +2

    I love this show

  • @Mysterious_Moon
    @Mysterious_Moon 2 года назад +5

    First caller- After 18, I think Mom has bypassed her opportunity to force her values on her daughter and weaponize information against her. She will alienate the daughter. The daughter gets to determine her own values now and make her own mistakes. Make her pay rent to establish an adult boundary, versus an ultimatum on her personal life. I think the Mom might have a crush on the fiancé from the way she talked about him…

    • @laurenmaskelony6597
      @laurenmaskelony6597 4 дня назад +1

      No way. She's trying to save her daughter from a divorce. It's refreshing when a parent can admit that their offspring is the problem in a relationship.

  • @roboticsjoe3181
    @roboticsjoe3181 2 года назад +1

    Enterprise is great, my work makes me use Avis and budget and they are terrible.

  • @Dillonmac96
    @Dillonmac96 Месяц назад

    At the beginning, you are complaining about the basis of capitalism

  • @ihearshapes
    @ihearshapes 2 года назад

    46:00 🤯