You are so right, it is very hard in Europe. Don't loose hope, don't give up, trust God 🙏🏼 There will come better times as well when your children get older 👍🏻 I like your channel. New subscriber 🤗
Hi dear and lovely girl Mercy. I like your genuine approach in regards to living here in Germany. I'm also living in Germany for the last five years, and I fully agree with the challenges you have discussed in this video. Living in Germany is definitely not for the fainthearted. I didn't really choose to relocate here, but my marriage status to my German husband did. I'm still trying to familiarize myself with everything here, the weather pattern (extreme cold winter months), the food, the people, finding employment, the List goes on. My small piece of advice is: Continue doing your part to support your husband and the kids, and always encourage him with sincere commendation for all what he does in support of you and the kids. Let your husband know how much you appreciate all that he is able to do for the benefit of the whole family, even though his work schedule is depriving him of the most needed rest and of some good quality time to spend with you. Be strong baby girl. Don't ignore your spiritual needs as a family. Praying and reading the Bible together, meditation and practicing the Bible’s teachings. Let God be part of your marriage. As a mother with an adult daughter who has three children, I feel your concerns and challenges.
Life here in Europe has really a big difference than in our country eventhought the cost of living here is too high but the salary is good and fair and aside from that the clean air and the peaceful life. So let us enjoy life here and abide their rules. Happy weekend my new friend keep safe and God bless to us.
You are lucky,Nuremberg is beautiful city,I was there last weekend visiting.But no matter where you live in the world,there is always challenges.No perfect place,makes the most of it.
Yes this is true, challenges are everywhere you just have to think of how to navigate them
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I was born in Erlangen and visited Nuremberg often. I'll be visiting my father for two weeks around Christmas. And I really need to spend a day sightseeing in Nuremberg again.
Dont forget my sister you are lucky to be there with your husband. Some of us are out here single. Not cool at all. Take care of eachother and pray to God to take care of your family.
@@Mercysm. Yea I understand you but if it is something you can work through dont let the pressure get to you. I mean it's always great to be with someone you love than be single. But it takes two to work things out. If both of you desire the marriage and it's the life creating the pressure then give eachother grace and see if things change. But make sure to always take care of yourself and uplift yourself so you can take care of your family.
I wish you and your family the best it is one of the hardest things adjusting to the West, there's a false narrative out there that things are easy over here and when people come they are shocked. Things are expensive you basically live to work and pay bills, no time for anything else and you may even realize that ur quality of life was a lot better back home than it is over here. Making new friends and the loneliness and depression is also a major problem . All of which can put a strain on a marriage and relationships.
Hey Mercy, sorry for the challenges you are facing. I hope you cope in with time. If I may ask what online job were you doing here in Kenya. I'm in Kenya and would like to venture into the online jobs
@@Mercysm. Okay, walifanya verification ya birth certificate ?Leo nimekuwa interview wakaniambia inaezachukua long juu birth certificate ilikuwa registered in 2011. Kwa hivo verification is needed
About currency, yes I Did the same Thing, but my parents told me I should not think in Our currency because it doesn't Work like that, so for example bread there costs for example 1 Euro, in Moldovan Lei (because there is also Romanian Lei but it's a bit different) so in Moldovan lei (MDL) 1 Euro isi 20 MDL, here bread costs for example 7 Moldovan Lei, which in Euro is 0,36 (so 36 Cents) in Kenyan currency it's like 51,61 by the way 😁. And for us 1 Euro bread is pretty expensive, but not for Germany or other EU countries, I guess.
@@sardarcantu7960 this is true, you may think the salary is a lot when you convert it to your currency and you forget you are not going to use it in your currency, like you mentioned bread, the type of bread that I like to buy here in Germany because it almost tastes like Kenyan bread is about 3,5£ which is equivalent to 525 Kenyan shillings but in Kenya it's 60 Kenya shillings which is equivalent to 0,4£ So it's this that makes it so wrong for conversion and if you don't think twice then you struggle financially
@Mercysm. I do understand her since she's new here not easy but atkeast she cane where there lots of blacks she can make friends not like before where black pple u could hardly see there here nowadays waaaa
@@Mercysm.The nature of life abroad is all about work and paying bills. Many African marriages fall apart if they are not grounded considering the magnitude challenges that can take a toll on them. The terrain is very uneven much more for Africans. From language barrier, menial labour, exhaustion etc.
@@Mercysm. Very true! the mindset must be adjusted. Unlike in Africa where the man is the provider, that my not be the case in the west. To cover the huge expenses, both of you must work and split chores evenly. Otherwise you can't both come home exhausted and expect one party to do all the work. That explains the low birthrate because child raising becomes burdensome.
Yeees, you said it! How can you raise 6 children with such a system impossible, you will go insane , also just the same way you help each other with bills so does the housechores cuz otherwise resentment will start
@alicemukulu8011 just know there’s nobody or no one you can leave the baby with, but people manage there are schools which also be ready to be called even if the child caughs a little bit , so employers really avoid those with kids at all cost because they know the number of times you will be asking for permission to be absent or to leave work abruptly In Germany kids are quite independent not like most countries, I mean in terms of going to school and coming back, but also a new kid won’t know all that you will have to be there to guide and help, Some people manage so don’t worry maybe you can do it too
Sorry i really try to watch your videos ,but damn..You narrate tooooooooi much before even getting to the reason of the video which makes me quit trying to even watch(good for you on views but hinders people from subscribing as you dragggggg your stories before getting to the point
@@vanessayanga9188 I am sorry to hear that you see it that way, but maybe it’s my content which does not impress you and that is okay , no one can like everything
I have seen a couple of your videos describing how bad it is to be in Germany now, my sister if it's not good just come home... The way you talk and ur demeanor doesn't portray someone who is unhappy....
Okay first I am not unhappy being in Germany, I am happy, but there are just some things I wasn’t ready for, the good and the bad and I share all that here on RUclips
It means we are going to start from scratch too and it will not feel comfortable at the beginning, and I guess challenges are there no matter the country so long as it's not your home country
Thank you for your suggestions, I have actually been thinking of vlogs . For Kiswahili part unfortunately, Kenya ranks number 3 of the countries that watches my content , most of my viewers are from Germany, USA then Kenya , other countries watch too apart from this 3, so speaking in Swahili means I am being unfair to majority of my viewers, but thank you so much for your suggestions
My wife and I meet by the door everyday .We have never sat down for a conversation.Most of the time we meet in bed . Sometimes you can't disturb her because she will wake up earlier.THE KEY IS UNDERSTANDING.
Just because you find it boring doesn’t mean other people don’t find it interesting, most of my viewers tells me they love seeing Germany , I mean the surrounding, that’s what I am trying to show as well as talking, don’t you find that environment beautiful?🤩
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Don't worry coz you have gone there to work you will adapt
@@boitumelomatlhodi2016 thank you so much ☺️
You are so right, it is very hard in Europe. Don't loose hope, don't give up, trust God 🙏🏼 There will come better times as well when your children get older 👍🏻 I like your channel. New subscriber 🤗
Thank you so much 🥰 you are welcome in this channel, yes things may get better with time
Hi dear and lovely girl Mercy. I like your genuine approach in regards to living here in Germany.
I'm also living in Germany for the last five years, and I fully agree with the challenges you have discussed in this video.
Living in Germany is definitely not for the fainthearted. I didn't really choose to relocate here, but my marriage status to my German husband did.
I'm still trying to familiarize myself with everything here, the weather pattern (extreme cold winter months), the food, the people,
finding employment, the List goes on. My small piece of advice is: Continue doing your part to support your husband and the kids, and
always encourage him with sincere commendation for all what he does in support of you and the kids. Let your husband know how much you appreciate all that he is able to do for the benefit of the whole family, even though his work schedule is depriving him of the most needed rest and of some good quality time to spend with you. Be strong baby girl. Don't ignore your spiritual needs as a family. Praying and reading the Bible together, meditation and practicing the Bible’s teachings. Let God be part of your marriage.
As a mother with an adult daughter who has three children, I feel your concerns and challenges.
Wow I am so glad that you also see it through my lens , everything is complicated over here
Life here in Europe has really a big difference than in our country eventhought the cost of living here is too high but the salary is good and fair and aside from that the clean air and the peaceful life. So let us enjoy life here and abide their rules. Happy weekend my new friend keep safe and God bless to us.
Happy weekend too God bless you
You are going to adjust to the new environment as well as the new challenges, and yes i feel the kids part... but with time, it will get better.
Thank you for this 😚 it sure does get better with time
You are lucky,Nuremberg is beautiful city,I was there last weekend visiting.But no matter where you live in the world,there is always challenges.No perfect place,makes the most of it.
Yes this is true, challenges are everywhere you just have to think of how to navigate them
I was born in Erlangen and visited Nuremberg often.
I'll be visiting my father for two weeks around Christmas. And I really need to spend a day sightseeing in Nuremberg again.
Nuremberg is so beautiful ☺️
@@Mercysm. Have you ever been to the Germanisches Nationalmuseum? It's definitely worth the visit!
Oh no not yet I must put it in the amust visit list
How did it affect ur marriage thats what i thought u were going to talk about
@@LadiesDormetory it changed the dynamic of our interactions, and that's affects almost everything else in a marriage
May God grant you the grace to live in a foreign land all this such pass.
Thank you 😍🙏
Dont forget my sister you are lucky to be there with your husband. Some of us are out here single. Not cool at all. Take care of eachother and pray to God to take care of your family.
Thank you 😊 but that’s just another way of looking at it , why is it not cool being single it just a matter of time 😀
@@Mercysm. Yea I understand you but if it is something you can work through dont let the pressure get to you. I mean it's always great to be with someone you love than be single. But it takes two to work things out. If both of you desire the marriage and it's the life creating the pressure then give eachother grace and see if things change. But make sure to always take care of yourself and uplift yourself so you can take care of your family.
Thank you so much , I definitely needed to hear this 😍
@@Mercysm. Very welcome🥰
I wish you and your family the best it is one of the hardest things adjusting to the West, there's a false narrative out there that things are easy over here and when people come they are shocked. Things are expensive you basically live to work and pay bills, no time for anything else and you may even realize that ur quality of life was a lot better back home than it is over here. Making new friends and the loneliness and depression is also a major problem . All of which can put a strain on a marriage and relationships.
Thank you so much, life here is really not as almost everyone expected it to be
Hey Mercy, sorry for the challenges you are facing. I hope you cope in with time. If I may ask what online job were you doing here in Kenya. I'm in Kenya and would like to venture into the online jobs
Thank you, we are taking one day at a time😊While in Kenya I used to online writing
Some people call it academic writing
Super schön
Danke schön 😊
Which part of Germany do you live? Is very beautiful ❤️
Bavaria
Im new here to support dada let's do this,
Oh yeah
@@Mercysm. How is Germany its on my bucket list
@hajiranankoma4255 Germany is good with beautiful places to visit just a terrible weather at the moment
Was it a Sunday there’s no one on the street.
Yes its on a Sunday
Yes it's on a Sunday
Can I ask you madam. When was your birth certificate registered in Kenya?
In 2010
@@Mercysm. Okay, walifanya verification ya birth certificate ?Leo nimekuwa interview wakaniambia inaezachukua long juu birth certificate ilikuwa registered in 2011. Kwa hivo verification is needed
@camelitelevin1294 that's strange , what visa are you applying for
@@Mercysm. Family reunion visa
The interviewer said that verification may be needed
Don't use that shortcut when it's dark & you are alone😢
I believe Germany is a safe country or what do you think 😄😄
@@Mercysm. no ,it is not that safe .You should read the news.
Thank you 😭🥰
About currency, yes I Did the same Thing, but my parents told me I should not think in Our currency because it doesn't Work like that, so for example bread there costs for example 1 Euro, in Moldovan Lei (because there is also Romanian Lei but it's a bit different) so in Moldovan lei (MDL) 1 Euro isi 20 MDL, here bread costs for example 7 Moldovan Lei, which in Euro is 0,36 (so 36 Cents) in Kenyan currency it's like 51,61 by the way 😁. And for us 1 Euro bread is pretty expensive, but not for Germany or other EU countries, I guess.
@@sardarcantu7960 this is true, you may think the salary is a lot when you convert it to your currency and you forget you are not going to use it in your currency, like you mentioned bread, the type of bread that I like to buy here in Germany because it almost tastes like Kenyan bread is about 3,5£ which is equivalent to 525 Kenyan shillings but in Kenya it's 60 Kenya shillings which is equivalent to 0,4£
So it's this that makes it so wrong for conversion and if you don't think twice then you struggle financially
@@Mercysm. I got confused a bit by this Symbol £ - you meant pounds or Euros? €
@sardarcantu7960 £ this is euros and € is pounds, or am I wrong ?☺️😀
I just checked I am wrong OMG😄 I can’t believe I have been using the wrong symbols for such a long time 😄😄 it’s vice versa, Euro is € and pounds is £
@@Mercysm. Yes it is hah, but it's alright, it looks similar and I understood it's Euros
What kind of job are u doing over there
There are lots of jobs over here just come
Pole sana and quick recovery from the flu.
The shortcut story. Panya Roots all over the World.
Thank youuu bro panya route kila mahali 😀😀😀
Is your area Is around Berlin?
No, it’s not around Berlin , it’s Nuremberg
How moving to Getmany affected my life,then i started listening up to the end i domt understand at all 😂😂😂
I think you should rewatch so that you understand 😀 also it’s talking about marriage not life 😄
@Mercysm. I do understand her since she's new here not easy but atkeast she cane where there lots of blacks she can make friends not like before where black pple u could hardly see there here nowadays waaaa
Yes this is true , but blacks are not so many as you may think , also Friends must not be black!
@@Mercysm.Generally no social life huku..even the African's have adapted their way of living unfortunately am a living witness😮😢
Such a robotic way of living , so sad 😭
It's not easy out there
It's really not easy 🥺
@@Mercysm.The nature of life abroad is all about work and paying bills. Many African marriages fall apart if they are not grounded considering the magnitude challenges that can take a toll on them. The terrain is very uneven much more for Africans. From language barrier, menial labour, exhaustion etc.
@graceomakada5082 yea this is so true , most African marriages never make it , especially if they come with the African mentalities about marriage
@@Mercysm. Very true! the mindset must be adjusted. Unlike in Africa where the man is the provider, that my not be the case in the west. To cover the huge expenses, both of you must work and split chores evenly. Otherwise you can't both come home exhausted and expect one party to do all the work. That explains the low birthrate because child raising becomes burdensome.
Yeees, you said it! How can you raise 6 children with such a system impossible, you will go insane , also just the same way you help each other with bills so does the housechores cuz otherwise resentment will start
The destructions are too much 😢
Exactly 😔
If it’s so cold why don’t you zip up your coat🧥?Why don’t you wear a scarf 🧣 around your neck?
When I left the house it wasn’t that cold 😀 did even realise I didn’t fully zip the jacket ☺️
Figure out WHY you are there! If you are miserable, go home and live your life as happily as you can. Life is challenging!
Going home is not an option at the moment, but we are trying to manage the crisis
What if i come when am single
This can be good , but dating here is not easy
how about when one is single and the kid grown?
How grown ? If it’s a school going kid then it’s not easy unless they are old enough to take care of themselves
@@Mercysm. an eight-year-old. Will it still be difficult?
@alicemukulu8011 just know there’s nobody or no one you can leave the baby with, but people manage there are schools which also be ready to be called even if the child caughs a little bit , so employers really avoid those with kids at all cost because they know the number of times you will be asking for permission to be absent or to leave work abruptly
In Germany kids are quite independent not like most countries, I mean in terms of going to school and coming back, but also a new kid won’t know all that you will have to be there to guide and help,
Some people manage so don’t worry maybe you can do it too
Sorry i really try to watch your videos ,but damn..You narrate tooooooooi much before even getting to the reason of the video which makes me quit trying to even watch(good for you on views but hinders people from subscribing as you dragggggg your stories before getting to the point
@@vanessayanga9188 I am sorry to hear that you see it that way, but maybe it’s my content which does not impress you and that is okay , no one can like everything
I have seen a couple of your videos describing how bad it is to be in Germany now, my sister if it's not good just come home...
The way you talk and ur demeanor doesn't portray someone who is unhappy....
Okay first I am not unhappy being in Germany, I am happy, but there are just some things I wasn’t ready for, the good and the bad and I share all that here on RUclips
Money is not everything if it's too hard japa and try another country & if it's still not still working go home.
It means we are going to start from scratch too and it will not feel comfortable at the beginning, and I guess challenges are there no matter the country so long as it's not your home country
You could do some vlogs in swahili and some in english since most of your vieles are kenyans
Viewers
Thank you for your suggestions, I have actually been thinking of vlogs . For Kiswahili part unfortunately, Kenya ranks number 3 of the countries that watches my content , most of my viewers are from Germany, USA then Kenya , other countries watch too apart from this 3, so speaking in Swahili means I am being unfair to majority of my viewers, but thank you so much for your suggestions
I also watch your vlogs, l am in South Africa, l understand English
@@rumbidzaimasekesa1076 thank you so much , how do you find them ? Do you have any suggestions?
@@Mercysm.I find them informative, however may you vlogs about jobs, salaries and how best to relocate
My wife and I meet by the door everyday .We have never sat down for a conversation.Most of the time we meet in bed . Sometimes you can't disturb her because she will wake up earlier.THE KEY IS UNDERSTANDING.
It's so sad how life here make couples feel like they are robots always chasing the bag and not even left with time for themselves
Hard to follow as you are diverting from the topic to talk about the surrounding
Just be patient ☺️ I love showing you guys my surroundings, most of you say they love it
You are cold and have a flu, yet exposing your chest, keep joking with the cold here
😀😀I am not exposing anything 😊😀 the moment I realised that my jacket was not properly zipped I Zipped it 🥺
Continue with what you're talking don't jump jump, river,work,bridge is boring
Just because you find it boring doesn’t mean other people don’t find it interesting, most of my viewers tells me they love seeing Germany , I mean the surrounding, that’s what I am trying to show as well as talking, don’t you find that environment beautiful?🤩
I waited for 3 and half hours; I am sooo tired. 🥱 Anyway, let's talk.
Thank you for waiting 😊😄
@@Mercysm.😄😄
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