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The fact bullying still exists in the workplace occupied by fully-grown adults is just disgraceful... As a victim of severe bullying throughout my school life, I want you to know you aren't - and never will be - alone 🙏
@JackaLad_YT the building industry is very bad for it there seems to be a stigma I guess because its an all male industry its alot of testosterone and clashing ego so they fine the weak ones to pick on to make them feel better
Don’t know how this video came on my feed but I just watched the whole video. You are a top honest bloke and a real MAN unlike those cowards you unfortunately had to encounter. Big respect for anyone having courage to speak out. Just from your interaction with car driver you can tell you’re a decent bloke. Don’t ever change fella 👏
Trust me, buddy, you're not alone at all. Bullies have follwed me my whole entire life. From primary school, secondary school, and college. And then into the workplace as well. As a person who has a long-term health condition/disability, i know exactly how it feels.
One thing I realized too late in life is that many people struggle with basic interpersonal skills. There's a noticeable lack of respect and awareness, and it often seems like there's not much thought behind their actions. Some individuals even behave as if the world revolves around them. Despite my efforts to be respectful and empathetic, some people perceive this as a sign of weakness for reasons I can't understand. Workplace bullies are a whole other story. It's baffling how, as adults, our interactions can still resemble a kindergarten playground. Stay safe brother
@@niceworldbtw Well said and so true. It's often people who never had a tough upbringing or didn't grow up in a rough neighborhood or estate, where looking at or talking to someone with disrespect could have left you with a beating, life changing injury or even worse. When you grow up in a place like that, you learn to be respectful to people, at least until the point someone disrespects you first.
Dude honestly mad respect for speaking out against this, I’ve met my fair share of assholes and i know how it feels, you’ve got to stand up to them and don’t let them get away with it
After 40 yrs working i have learnt record anything thats bullying,keep a record for hr and a solicitor if needed. Also dont take it,life is to short to put up with nasty people. Glad you are doing ok now.
Same, I'm a bully magnet, it's destroyed my mental health to the extent that i have severe social anxiety/depression and seldom leave the house, and only when it's dark as there are fewer people about. The one person I hate more than anyone is myself because people will only treat you how you allow them to treat you and I find it impossible to stand up for myself. It's like I freeze up and shutdown. I'm lucky that I work from home now. It's seriously turning me into a misanthrope. You seem like me in that you treat others as you wish to be treated.
Hey bro have you ever thought about taking a boxing/kickboxing class before? I find its really good for you confidence in those sorts of situations. just a suggesting I hope you are well man, God bless!
@@ludwigamadeuswagner1933 what ever makes you happy and doesn’t hurt anyone is cool with myself lad, Hey your not the only you as I’ve given myself depression taking drugs and life but they’ll be people in the same boat your way mate, if you can reach out and fined them, men and women Bro… They’ll understand as I do👍👍💯
@@ludwigamadeuswagner1933 don’t be too hard on yourself . this reaction is normal you are being under attack basically .I know the feeling but I do stand up for myself , that is when I am told that I overreact !! The irony !! But remember this , bullies are more unhappy than you on the inside but they are cowards and are afraid to show it .
This topic is my biggest struggle in life for the past 10+ years. I’ve worked manufacturing jobs like you the whole time, and I encounter one or more of these people at every single workplace. I’m still learning how to deal with it. I’m just like you man: easygoing, just wanna do my job and go home, treat everybody with respect and kindness, but there’s always one that wants to shit all over this. I don’t think I’ll ever fully wrap my head around it. Keep up the videos man I appreciate it! Greetings from Kentucky, USA
I totally agree,they take kindness for weakness. There’s always one in every job. Makes you dread going to work to see that knob. That’s why I’ve gone self employed. I’ll never have lots of money. But I’m more content and happier in myself. Keep your chin up. Don’t stop being the nice guy you are. Their the problem,not you.
“I’m a bully magnet” this is something I have also said to myself mate all my life. I’ve had very identical experiences like yours and it makes you question your sanity why does it have to be me? And I completely salute you for staying kind and humble. Don’t change. I’ve learned to draw lines in the right moments when it comes to these evil people. And although it doesn’t feel good to give a slap back to em, you’ve gotta stand your ground. I’m on your side mate💪🏼
I am also a magnet for bullies. I have come to suspect I am likely on the autism spectrum which would make a lot of sense psychologically. People cannot handle those that are too different from themselves as it triggers the amygdala and the fear and 'fight or flight' response in the brain. If bullying is a reoccurring theme for you, there is likely a reason behind it. You might be different in some way to your peers, all the best people are.
I used to get bullied at secondary school. Bullies tend to be thick, inadequate cowards. Instead of trying to improve themselves, they try to drag others down. They can only operate on a ' dog eat dog' level and can't see that being kind and cooperative is a better way to be. They're pitiful, really.
I was bullied in school and it made me never to want to work with people so I worked for myself , some people just prey on others they feel they can bully , it’s sick and can ruin peoples lives . You’re brave by relaying your personal experiences! God bless you and stay strong friend .
@@opencurtin bullies are bullies because they are cowards and they know that if you will punch them in the mouth you will get in trouble legally . Bullying is almost impossible to be proven also sanctioned legally for it . Cowards
Honestly mate respect for speaking out on this. I’ve been at several jobs with some right nobheads working there. Exact same type of behaviour as you’ve described. I’ve noticed it’s worse in warehouses and workshops where people have to work in close proximity to each other at all times. I now do a job that involves a lot of driving and going to different work sites and even now I can see how certain places like manufacturing or workshops have that sort of dynamic to them. I would never work at them sort of places ever again. Thanks for talking about this mate, this subject needs to be talked about more.
Living well is the best revenge. Those people who take pleasure in bullying always have some hole in their life - if they keep it up even after you call it out and offer kindness, leave them to it and let it wash over you. Take care pal, bullies can’t break your spirit.
I faced extreme bullying on building sites for years and years. I moved to Canada from Ireland aged 23 by myself. Big step. I would like to say I always stood up for myself but I didn't. It wears you down to a point where even when you are outside in your backyard on the weekend will make you self-conscious. But even when I was isolated with nobody to turn to in work or outside work I had enough about me to look down on those people. How pathetic they are to pick on someone 10 or 20 years younger than them as I tried to set up a new life on the other side of the world. I get you man. Love the honesty
@@niallbarry2481 mate. Usually the ones who do that are so pathetic. I remember the bully was either bald, fat, was balding with glasses, or some grey looking skinny fucker. The fact is, most bullies have self esteem issues. And most of them were ugly compared to myself, so I always saw it as jealously. Sad losers
The so called lad manual labour types are the absolute worst. i have to deal with them every now and then and i just cant understand why they are that way. there's so bloody many of them as well and they always sound, act and look the same. its like they came off an assembly line.
Wow and Canadians are supposed to be friendly,I was expecting a lot of grief when I moved to France at 19 as they have a reputation of being crappy, but they treat me as some kind of novelty, quite funny, I’m still in contact with some of them after 30 years 😂
I’ve dealt with the same thing. Discovered I’m a high functioning autistic. I’m so sorry you had to go through all that. But it shows how strong of a person you are.
Greetings from the US 🇺🇲 Unfortunately, we cannot pick our coworkers. The sad part is that it's just a job! Unfortunately, we need money to survive! The problem is they mistake kindness as a weakness...they have no Soul! Stay strong and know you are 100% correct! It is NOT you, it is them!
I ignored one I worked with for 4 months, then he left. He was moved on, not because of me, but found another position. I would often put a call through to one of my team, and tell them bully idiot has some people on site for him to meet. It annoyed him no end, I was treating him with no respect, and sending people he needed to meet, via an additional call to someone else. If people treat you like dirt at work, do everything within your best ability to expose them, make them look stupid, or at very least treat them like they don't exist.
Big respect for you for talking about this and posting it online, watched all the way through and felt like 5 minutes. Had one job where the people there saw the new guy and would always tell me what to do and never how to do it, then rip the shit out of me afterwards. I've never spoken to people about that either because that whole experience I'd rather blot out than keep thinking about it -- funnily enough that was at a picking and packing place just like you. I'm thankful to work at a great company these days where there's a culture of respect for one another. You're a great speaker mate and it was a pleasure to listen to you speak about your experiences.
Totally agree about kindness and politeness being seen as a weaknesss. Met bullies in every aspect of life: school, college, workplace, driving on the roads etc. Sad symptom of people's innate unhappiness. They have to take it out on others. 🤷
What upsets me about your video is that where I've worked jobs, I have not cut corners. I've always done a good job, often better than my colleagues, which was always resented. And yet, I've been held to higher standard, shouted at for things colleagues get away with, laughed at, mocked, blamed for sh*t I didn't do, set up, the list goes on. It's happened so many times that I have no desire to return to work. I am not workshy. But I dont want to be bullied again. I've also been screamed at my first day on the job, asked "what the f*ck are you doing" when I wasn't even trained yet. Laughed at when I got injured at work, called clumsy. Laughed at for wearing glasses. People can be absolutely horrible, and the worst people in the world are the ones who end up as supervisors.
they tell you bullying ends after school but it just get a make over with new names and new ways, your story at 21 was so heart warming because i knew someone who was in crutches and used to work and had to deal with constant jokes being made about them and just overall horrible behaviour simply because they were disabled
Thanks for sharing , I was bullied at school ,I had special lesson speech therapy , autism spectrum , I can't stand bullys or narcissists , but I've always pushed through and run my own busines , and always ask how people are and appreciate 🙏
Thank you Paul I really appreciate you sharing that with me I hope your OK and well done for starting a business 👍 yes I always ask how people are just look at my videos everybody that I walk past I always say hello it doesn't cost anything to be nice does it 😀
I was bullied very badly from Year 7 to Year 10. When I swapped schools over the summer that year I decided that I was never going to let myself be an easy target again, and when I got into the workplace it was no different. People will step on you to further themselves. If someone's having a bad day, they'll use you as stress relief. Remember, people choose YOU because they reasonably believe you're the one that won't do anything about it. The easiest way to counter this is to just switch jobs, unfortunately, you're their target now and it won't stop until you step away. Confronting them on company time will need to nothing but trouble with your collective superiors. My advice would be to do what I did and get big (strong and muscular), invest in some boxing lessons, and that will give you an aura of "don't fuck with me". People don't care about what you can actually do, they care about what you LOOK like you could do.
@Unclejammertalks Yeah brother, when that "John" fella tried to have a go at you for not cleaning up everything, he was just testing how you'd react to him giving you shit. If how you responded in this video was how you responded in real life, you failed. Give them direct eye contact, calmly tell them that there will be problems if he doesn't respect his workers, and leave it at that. If you're well built enough they'll leave you alone, or say, "Ok, just get it done".
They never left high school mentally/emotionally. Arrested development. Overgrown children/manchildren(and womanchildren ofc). Culture of narcissism and thus psychopaths/sociopaths, just a bullys paradise. So sad to see high school/playground politics so rife in adult spaces when people are meant to be far more responsible, humble, accountable etc, far more mature.
Totally understand. I’ve recently been diagnosed with ADHD and autism. I’m 55 and have been attracting bullies all my life, from school to work places. School was easier to deal with as I studied boxing and judo BUT the work place was more mental than physical and you can’t lash out. I counted how many jobs I’ve had since leaving school and let’s just say it’s loads. I’ve now reached a stage where I no longer trust the work place, I’m at home on the sick due to a physical but mainly mental disadvantages. I would love to work but am too scared due to panic attacks. Your video gives me hope that these troubles get recognised and that rules of mental health issues should be more at the front of employment law. Today I’ve recently become a Christian and I get a lot of comfort from God. Thank you for being open with your experiences and shining a light on silent issues. God bless you mate 🙏🏼❤️
So sorry you went through all that bullying. I suffered the same, in work and school. Terrible 😢You seem a lovely soul. Dont ever change who you are ❤love x🤗❤️
Thank you for your enlightening story, Uncle Jammer. I believe I can understand what it's like to be forced to build up a rougher exterior because of the extreme prevalence of bullies as well as how one can be forced to lash out in a way that is out of character. As you say, there are so many individuals willing to bring others down for a little hit of dopamine. It is truly insane this world. I wish you the best.
When you said "My heart just sunk" when those guys laughed at you, I know the exact feeling you're describing, and I haven't shared most of them either. Some people can just be so disgustingly heartless. I still have things people have said to me stuck in the back of my mind from years and years ago. Really horrible stuff that they came up with just for my ears that still gets to me years later. I really don't know how people can have the mind to say things like that.
The company i used to work for viewed new hires as non human. My first 2 years was hell. Bullying, dehumanization etc... but i did stand for myself or withdrew myself from certain interactions. I came from being homeless before i got the job so i knew the alternative. I was there for 6 years and all i can say is it toughened me up but most important it showed me how not to treat other human beings. I show respect.
I loved my job at a Lew Firm because I sat with all the management for my entire time there. I was overly human with them which absolutely shattered their un-human behaviour. Eventually quit because I realised that these people have been there since the 90s, probably non-human the entire time
I had a similar issue when I was young. Broke a part on a machine and was blamed for it and told it was very expensive. Later found out it was a common thing and wasn't an expensive fix but they called the agency and gave me a right bollocking. I was only 18, couldn't handle it and quit. Felt awful, I went and sat in a car park for a few hours just contemplating things. Really knocked my confidence and had a real hard time getting back into work afterwards. Luckily I'm happy where I'm working now but these managers and people in charge need to consider how much that can affect a young person and their view towards work.
Yes spot on. Ive learned that idiots do see kindness as weakness. Well they get a rude awakening nowadays. And ive always 'looked' soft like butter wouldnt melt. Never judge a book by its cover either. Fab video.
God bless you man, despite dealing with all these horrible people you still stayed true to your values and never stopped being a kind person massive respect for that :)
I worked in the offshore oil and gas industry as a diver and the bullies out there are on another level. The thing I noticed with the bullies was that more often than not they were not very good at their job. Bullies are also some of the biggest ass kissers around. They have a way of manipulating upper management to get them to believe they are indispensable and thus management will always take their side. Whats worse is when upper management are the bullies, you stand no chance. That's how my career ended after 21 years. What I liked to see was when two bullies clashed. I once did a job in the Gulf of Mexico and before you go offshore you have to complete an offshore induction One of the modules covers bullying. Nothing like that in the UK. It should be covered by Health and Safety under employee well being. I have my own business now and answer to no one except the tax man. I've never been happier. Stay strong. 💪
@brianpaton6687 Hi Brian, I also worked offshore as a diver, mainly the Persian Gulf and I can second that.inshore too.i think any line of work has them but that environment seems to breed horrors.peace.
I've just subscribed , I've got a similar personality to you , it's not easy is it . I've been bullied like you but have got through it , good hearing your stories, keep your head up pal, same as you good to know I'm not alone in thinking the way I do , thanks pal
You mentioned bullies see kindness as a weakness and that's so true. People think if you're kind they can treat you like shit. You come across as a nice genuine decent guy. Just got to nip things in the bud the moment they start. Show people you're no walk over just cos you treat people with respect. Such is the world we live in it's sad that people see kindness and showing respect a weakness. The area you are walking on the video is beautiful btw. Subscribed to your channel. You take care mate
Nothing worse than being bullied at work. Like you I spent most of my life going from job to job because of bullies picking on me and being blamed for things I hadn't done. I decided to become a self-employed driver for a couple of decades. That was ace! I spent most of the time on my own. If I missed the bullies, I could look in the mirrors and bully myself, but I never felt the need to. Then I got diagnosed with Autism and all became much clearer as to why I was a bully magnet too! I now work in a place that encourages and accepts neurodiverse people. My boss has Tourettes so we are a right pair. I'm semi-retired now and plan to retire fully in a couple of years. It has been so nice to work in a place where bullies are not tolerated. I hope you manage to find such a place to work. No one should have to put up with bullying no matter what the underlying reason might be.
I hope these last few days seeing your videos blow up as they have has given you some well deserved pride. After watching you and seeing all these endearing comments, it's very clear that you're a very thoughtful and compassionate person. People watching will relate and remember your comments about workplace bullies for a long time - you've made a significant, positive impact here so be really proud!!
Best thing to do is to not to say anything. The silence is the strongest rebuke you can give. Otherwise you just have to quit, there is no other recourse.
Same as me mate, bullied all way through school, destroyed me for a long time into adulthood, but through the other side now. You were right what you said about people mistake kindness for weakness. Have a great day and I hope you channel grows and grows , just like we have done mate ☺️👍 Good bless
I can tell your a really nice guy. People totally take advantage of kindness, i can relate with what you was saying i too work with a couple of toxic snakey co workers. Keep doing good mate all the best. Great content by the way subscribed to your channel
You have a super power my friend! Empathy, kindness and respect are a gift that people try to take from you. Remember your special place in this world and they will never have the power to compete. Big hug buddy!
You're a kind and good man and it goes without saying you did NOT deserve any abuse or attack from others at work. Bullying stems from hatred, be self hatred or hatred learned within the family. It doesn't excuse but it does explain. There are a-hokes everywhere. IMO it's up to managers to maintain civility and kindness. When they don't work becomes a place where people vent their worst. I've seen and experienced things I can never forgive. Big hug.🌻
Remember it's not about you, it's about them. People only target others when they are insecure and unhappy with their own life, your a loverly lad and don't let anyone take that away from you!
I have dealt with work place bullies and people that drop sly remarks. I’m 41 and recently been diagnosed with autism so you can imagine I’m a bit different. When I was younger I would take it to a point but a point would come that I would fight back and I would lose that job. The best job I ever had was working in a rehab as a support worker, I enjoyed going to work and helped a lot of people but the place eventually shut down and I went back to warehouse work.
Great video man. I can't imagine being someone that is so miserable that they treat others like garbage. It's cliche but the vast majority bullies are not happy and instead of working on themselves they tear others down.
Absolutely spot on. They're so unhappy with themselves and their own lives that they make it their business to make others miserable. If they channeled even half their energy into trying to improve their own lives they'd be at least a bit happier.
You are getting so many subscribers because you are genuine guy and are saying it how it is, about situations a lot of us have been in.I have had the same experiences and at the time you think it's only happening to you.The hardest thing is staying who you are and not letting your environment and the people in it change you...Subscribed.
I know your pain brother. I too have had the same kind of problem for most of my life. Things changed when I started lifting weights. But not much, mostly people just instead went behind my back to betray me. I have worked in many jobs, engineering, constuction etc. I was an apprentice engineer, but certian people would sabotage me. They would take me off my jobs to help them with theirs, with the intention of making me appear to be slow at doing the job I was given. Or sometimes they would tell me to do the wrong thing, and would wait till I had set everything in place, they would tell me I have set it up wrong and I have to start again, but they would deny that they told me to do it that way. One thing I have learned is that there are many people in the workplace who are simply evil. And when they see someone who is kind hearted, they seek to destroy them. It used to amaze me how, without so much as saying a word, I would have people berate me for seemingly no reason. Only the bible and Christianity has allowed me to make sense of it all. Those who have the Holy Spirit are at odds with those who have no light in them at all.
That's why I've got an autoimmune disorder and I'm terrified of looking for a new job, I've been targeted and bullied in so many jobs. I'm so sorry you've had this experience.
I'm so sorry to hear that and yeah my dad has an autoimmune disorder aswell it's not nice is it , I really appreciate your comment thank you and look after yourself ❤️
@Unclejammertalks thank you so much. I've subscribed 😊 really appreciating this video, it's giving me a lot of comfort. Why are people so cruel and petty. So unnecessary. Life is hard enough.
If only more people were comfortable being true to themselves than putting on the 'tough guy' facade... I'll never understand how people cannot see right through those facades right to the heart of the underlying insecurities. True strength is silent.
Your experiences are like mine. I have been bullied all my life. Up until 10 years ago, I worked. The bullying just got worse and worse. That type of passive aggressive/humiliation bullying that people do. They set you up to fail over and over until you tell them to f-off, and then no more job. My health, unrelated to the bullying took a significant turn for the worse over the past 10 years and sadly I have not been able to work. I became a full-time dad until my partner left me, because of my health. So now, I am doing my best to study and do courses, so that I can possibly have a better future. I am currently living with my elderly parents, which is nice but I don't know what I will do in years to come, once they have sadly gone. All I can to is try. My son is my best friend. Thank you for sharing your experiences.
Well said, loved the video. It's true, when your kind to everyone, generally agreeable, put others before you, good intentioned, selfless - you attract a lot of people who see that as an exploit, a vulnerability, something they can abuse to get something out of you. Same way a hacker would see a bug in a computer system as a vulnerability, and abuse the bug to get what they want out of a computer. When your in the workplace, your trapped with these people, you can't really decide to get them out of your life and not deal with them. These folks also tend to dominate the workplace, usually having some status, so others generally don't want to call them out, or it might hit their own reputation. A few times in my life, after being mistreated constantly, I built up a lot of resentment, and pushed back, and simply treated them the same way they treated me, and though they complained about my actions (despite the hypocrisy), they quickly learned that they can't push me around anymore, and stopped bullying. Thankfully, I made it out the rat race and don't need a job, and can select the people who I want to keep in my life, as a result, I've been living a drama free life for a good while. Love the peace.
The trouble is with bullies they always look for their easy target, but the easy targets don’t stay because they know they are worth more, then someone else takes their place and so on and so forth…,,,never ever tolerate it!
You’re not alone, I was bullied at work I was eventually put on the sick by my doctor because they could see that I was becoming very ill because of it. Was the best Job that I’d ever had, I was very happy there until the manager/team leader changed. I feel anxious watching and listening to you and writing this, but I need to do it.
Respect to you for commenting mate bullies are horrible people they don't understand the damage that they do to people I Respect you for sharing your story with me and I hope you feel better for it god bless you buddy and stay strong
You're so real for this, thank you for your honesty. Never, EVER let anyone push you around or talk down to you. People in work places think they can get away with treating you like trash either because they have some sort of position of power, or because they think it's "okay" because it's in a work environment. It is never okay. Standing up for yourself can be scary for a lot of people, but we have to put our foot down with people sometimes and tell them it's not okay for you to talk to me like that. It's not okay for you to treat me like that. Good on you for defending yourself man ❤
keep sharing your stories as a young man at 17 going on 18 in april and you give a great explanation of what a normal guys life is and that is what is beautiful about your channel its original and relatable.
I was bullied a lot in school as I was too quiet. When people attempt to bully me or put me down as an adult I make it very clear I won't tolerate it. Good job on you for standing up to them. When it comes to your manager it's tricky if you want to keep the job. I find if you can find out if other colleagues have the same issue it doesn't feel as bad and you find out they are a general a-hole.
You seem like a nice guy. Probably as you say they mistake niceness and kindness for weakness. First time I’ve seen your channel. I enjoyed your chatter. 😊
going through a rough time, I'm autistic and got bullied tons, actually made me cry. you are a nice guy and yeah people take it for weakness. good luck with your channel I've subbed and liked
Hey man, I'm also on the spectrum and have dealt with bullying all my life. Just know ALL bullies are insecure and cowardly. They are targeting you because you're different, and difference triggers the 'fight or flight' fear response in their brain. They have no idea what to do when they encounter someone smarter, kinder, and more grounded than themselves so they lash out. Remember that without the autism phenotype, people would probably still be waging wars over cow shit and mud huts.
Bullies suck especially adults online trying to convince people they are more important than they really are. From 2nd grade til freshman in high school we were bullied non stop for being the poor kids. Karma will eventually get them that I know for sure. Loved the video and wish you all the success in the world. Much Respect
@paranormalnightmaretv thank you I just phoned my mum and told her you commented and she said noooo wayyyy ha Haa she's a massive fan of yours aswell, respect 🙏
Unfortunately, this evil seems to be on the increase, at least speaking for the UK. I am not yet 50 and have been bullied and targeted in workplaces that much I am unable to work again. Thank you for being so open and making more people aware of this.
@Unclejammertalks Thank you. Please keep highlighting this terrible scourge, for I suspect there are many more of us than people like to think. Take good care, brother and may the force be with you 🙏
Hi mate great upload. Ive worked in the same job for 38 years and its been in a factory. Although its been with different companies. Ive always enjoyed the work tbh but its the people you work with that make it good or bad. Ive had my fair share of knobheads but to be honest ive always stood up for myself because that feeling of backing down is 100 times worse than going all in and taking a hiding. A loud bully will always shit it and back down then try to move onto another victim. Peace brother
You're not the only one pal, I once had a bully manager when I worked at Tesco, he kept telling me to pick things off the floor, saying I was kicking things under the shelves whilst simultaneously flirting with female staff & not doing his job properly. But one time he had a proper go at me, & took me to the CCTV room only to prove himself wrong seeing I didn't kick anything under the shelves, I had a proper go at him for treating me like crap. After that I worked for other companies but I left them all & since then I've just been working for myself writing a book and starting a new company. What I've learned is bullies only bully cause they have issues themselves & they feed off distracting us from reaching our goals & full potential. Great video, liked & subscribed.
@Unclejammertalks sometimes these bullies understand one thing.They push you too far so you will snap then you are the one for the high jump.Dont know how tall you are but you look like you can handle yourself. Sounds like you are from manchester. I am from Middlesbrough in the north east.
Respect for talking about this mate. This is unfortunately a super common thing that happens that not many people seem to really talk about. You'd think it wouldn't be hard to treat your colleagues like people, these horrid little cretins must be miserable in life
These workplace bullies are people who are disrespected at home by thier partners probably have dead bedrooms or thier partner does the dead fish at bedtime or thier partner is unfaithful they come into work and target someone thinking it will let them take the power back I see those people coming a mile away
This seems to be an increasing problem, though I have seen it all my working life. I am glad that you are sharing this, as for sure you are not alone/ And sometimes we get pushed too far. You will find the perfect advice in Psalm 37 very very helpful. It shows us that our Creator knows how "the world", the present wicked system of thing on the earth, will make us feel, it shows us how to deal with it without letting it shape us in its image, and above all it assures us of the coming rescue, of a wonderful change coming to the earth.
A lot of the times it's because they're projecting onto you, they see you all happy with life, kind compassionate and all that, they see it as weakness but also they wish they had that life
Never stop being so kind, People like you make the world a better place, and it shows through your character
That means alot mate thank you
RUclips's been recommending a lot of these raw unfiltered videos from real people and I love it.
I'm glad you're enjoying mate 👍
The fact bullying still exists in the workplace occupied by fully-grown adults is just disgraceful...
As a victim of severe bullying throughout my school life, I want you to know you aren't - and never will be - alone 🙏
@JackaLad_YT no bother man, the world needs more gienuine people
@JackaLad_YT the building industry is very bad for it there seems to be a stigma I guess because its an all male industry its alot of testosterone and clashing ego so they fine the weak ones to pick on to make them feel better
It's great to see people speaking up about bullying. Bullying ruins lives and the more it's talked about the better. Thankyou!
My pleasure 🙏
Indeed😮
Don’t know how this video came on my feed but I just watched the whole video. You are a top honest bloke and a real MAN unlike those cowards you unfortunately had to encounter. Big respect for anyone having courage to speak out.
Just from your interaction with car driver you can tell you’re a decent bloke. Don’t ever change fella 👏
Respect mate I really appreciate that 👍 🙏
Trust me, buddy, you're not alone at all. Bullies have follwed me my whole entire life. From primary school, secondary school, and college. And then into the workplace as well. As a person who has a long-term health condition/disability, i know exactly how it feels.
Bullies are horrible people mate I really appreciate you sharing that buddy 👍
This is genuinely such beautiful content. Your genuineness is palpable. Love the work.
I really appreciate that thank you
One thing I realized too late in life is that many people struggle with basic interpersonal skills. There's a noticeable lack of respect and awareness, and it often seems like there's not much thought behind their actions. Some individuals even behave as if the world revolves around them. Despite my efforts to be respectful and empathetic, some people perceive this as a sign of weakness for reasons I can't understand. Workplace bullies are a whole other story. It's baffling how, as adults, our interactions can still resemble a kindergarten playground.
Stay safe brother
@@niceworldbtw Well said and so true.
It's often people who never had a tough upbringing or didn't grow up in a rough neighborhood or estate, where looking at or talking to someone with disrespect could have left you with a beating, life changing injury or even worse.
When you grow up in a place like that, you learn to be respectful to people, at least until the point someone disrespects you first.
Dude honestly mad respect for speaking out against this, I’ve met my fair share of assholes and i know how it feels, you’ve got to stand up to them and don’t let them get away with it
Well done lad, mental health isn’t a joke and it’s not easy to talk about
I appreciate that mate thank you 👍
After 40 yrs working i have learnt record anything thats bullying,keep a record for hr and a solicitor if needed.
Also dont take it,life is to short to put up with nasty people.
Glad you are doing ok now.
Cheers mate 👍
The world needs more people like you mate that just tells their stories and experiences and help people through their rough spells.
Respect connor I really appreciate that mate 👍 🙏
@UnclejammertalksYou're good mate, hope you're doing well. ❤
The world is a beautiful place,unfortunately its full of horrible people.
AMEN TO THAT MATE
They love to corrupt, to taint, to spoil the innocent, the pure, the beautiful, kind and sweet. Sourness/bitterness to the extreme.
Same, I'm a bully magnet, it's destroyed my mental health to the extent that i have severe social anxiety/depression and seldom leave the house, and only when it's dark as there are fewer people about. The one person I hate more than anyone is myself because people will only treat you how you allow them to treat you and I find it impossible to stand up for myself. It's like I freeze up and shutdown. I'm lucky that I work from home now. It's seriously turning me into a misanthrope. You seem like me in that you treat others as you wish to be treated.
Thanks for sharing that mate 👍
Hey bro have you ever thought about taking a boxing/kickboxing class before? I find its really good for you confidence in those sorts of situations. just a suggesting I hope you are well man, God bless!
@@ludwigamadeuswagner1933 what ever makes you happy and doesn’t hurt anyone is cool with myself lad, Hey your not the only you as I’ve given myself depression taking drugs and life but they’ll be people in the same boat your way mate, if you can reach out and fined them, men and women Bro… They’ll understand as I do👍👍💯
@@ludwigamadeuswagner1933 sending love x
@@ludwigamadeuswagner1933 don’t be too hard on yourself . this reaction is normal you are being under attack basically .I know the feeling but I do stand up for myself , that is when I am told that I overreact !! The irony !! But remember this , bullies are more unhappy than you on the inside but they are cowards and are afraid to show it .
Love to you buddy, can relate to you so much, are gentle spirits are so sensitive. Its a blessing and a curse, take care mate.
Respect 🙏
This topic is my biggest struggle in life for the past 10+ years. I’ve worked manufacturing jobs like you the whole time, and I encounter one or more of these people at every single workplace. I’m still learning how to deal with it. I’m just like you man: easygoing, just wanna do my job and go home, treat everybody with respect and kindness, but there’s always one that wants to shit all over this. I don’t think I’ll ever fully wrap my head around it.
Keep up the videos man I appreciate it! Greetings from Kentucky, USA
They are demonic abs psychopaths
Same here robby I appreciate the comment buddy 👍
I totally agree,they take kindness for weakness. There’s always one in every job. Makes you dread going to work to see that knob. That’s why I’ve gone self employed. I’ll never have lots of money. But I’m more content and happier in myself. Keep your chin up. Don’t stop being the nice guy you are. Their the problem,not you.
Thank you for the lovely comment I really appreciate it 👍
100%
Good on ya for speaking up. Hopefully young people who are getting bullied will find this and see they're not alone.
Respect mate 👍
“I’m a bully magnet” this is something I have also said to myself mate all my life. I’ve had very identical experiences like yours and it makes you question your sanity why does it have to be me? And I completely salute you for staying kind and humble. Don’t change. I’ve learned to draw lines in the right moments when it comes to these evil people. And although it doesn’t feel good to give a slap back to em, you’ve gotta stand your ground. I’m on your side mate💪🏼
Thankyou I really appreciate that 👍
I am also a magnet for bullies. I have come to suspect I am likely on the autism spectrum which would make a lot of sense psychologically. People cannot handle those that are too different from themselves as it triggers the amygdala and the fear and 'fight or flight' response in the brain. If bullying is a reoccurring theme for you, there is likely a reason behind it. You might be different in some way to your peers, all the best people are.
I used to get bullied at secondary school. Bullies tend to be thick, inadequate cowards. Instead of trying to improve themselves, they try to drag others down. They can only operate on a ' dog eat dog' level and can't see that being kind and cooperative is a better way to be. They're pitiful, really.
💯 % mate they are scumbags
Well said.
I was bullied in school and it made me never to want to work with people so I worked for myself , some people just prey on others they feel they can bully , it’s sick and can ruin peoples lives . You’re brave by relaying your personal experiences! God bless you and stay strong friend .
You too mate 👍
@@opencurtin bullies are bullies because they are cowards and they know that if you will punch them in the mouth you will get in trouble legally . Bullying is almost impossible to be proven also sanctioned legally for it . Cowards
Honestly mate respect for speaking out on this. I’ve been at several jobs with some right nobheads working there. Exact same type of behaviour as you’ve described. I’ve noticed it’s worse in warehouses and workshops where people have to work in close proximity to each other at all times. I now do a job that involves a lot of driving and going to different work sites and even now I can see how certain places like manufacturing or workshops have that sort of dynamic to them. I would never work at them sort of places ever again. Thanks for talking about this mate, this subject needs to be talked about more.
I agree mate 💯% 👍
I never got bullied in my life until I got in to the workplace. It’s a horrible thing to deal with, thanks for speaking up about it.
It's my pleasure it doesn't get talked-about enough
Living well is the best revenge. Those people who take pleasure in bullying always have some hole in their life - if they keep it up even after you call it out and offer kindness, leave them to it and let it wash over you. Take care pal, bullies can’t break your spirit.
“Mistake kindness for weakness”. Absolutely spot on! You’re the better man and don’t forget it.
👏👏👏👏👏
Respect mate I really appreciate that 👍
I faced extreme bullying on building sites for years and years. I moved to Canada from Ireland aged 23 by myself. Big step. I would like to say I always stood up for myself but I didn't. It wears you down to a point where even when you are outside in your backyard on the weekend will make you self-conscious. But even when I was isolated with nobody to turn to in work or outside work I had enough about me to look down on those people. How pathetic they are to pick on someone 10 or 20 years younger than them as I tried to set up a new life on the other side of the world. I get you man. Love the honesty
The bullying only stopped with me when I found the workplace bullies weakness and applied pressure, he broke first
@@niallbarry2481 mate. Usually the ones who do that are so pathetic.
I remember the bully was either bald, fat, was balding with glasses, or some grey looking skinny fucker. The fact is, most bullies have self esteem issues. And most of them were ugly compared to myself, so I always saw it as jealously. Sad losers
They are indeed pathetic and weak as well as cowardly for those reasons. And yes, you are right, you had every reason to look down on them
The so called lad manual labour types are the absolute worst. i have to deal with them every now and then and i just cant understand why they are that way. there's so bloody many of them as well and they always sound, act and look the same. its like they came off an assembly line.
Wow and Canadians are supposed to be friendly,I was expecting a lot of grief when I moved to France at 19 as they have a reputation of being crappy, but they treat me as some kind of novelty, quite funny, I’m still in contact with some of them after 30 years 😂
I’ve dealt with the same thing. Discovered I’m a high functioning autistic. I’m so sorry you had to go through all that. But it shows how strong of a person you are.
Respect mate 👍
Workplaces can ruin you. For years to come. Sorry you experienced this 😢
Your bang on when you say, bullies mistake kindness and humility for weakness. God Bless and guide your life x
@@davidcarroll2035 thanks David I really appreciate that mate 👍
Thank you for posting this. You seem like a kind soul. So sorry this happened to you!
I appreciate that mate thank you
Greetings from the US 🇺🇲
Unfortunately, we cannot pick our coworkers. The sad part is that it's just a job! Unfortunately, we need money to survive! The problem is they mistake kindness as a weakness...they have no Soul! Stay strong and know you are 100% correct! It is NOT you, it is them!
Hello Tony 👋
Howdy buddy!
Thank you for posting this. Bullying in the workplace is so widespread. It changes lives and breaks spirits.
💯 agree with you it's not nice at all thank you for commenting mate 👍
I ignored one I worked with for 4 months, then he left. He was moved on, not because of me, but found another position. I would often put a call through to one of my team, and tell them bully idiot has some people on site for him to meet. It annoyed him no end, I was treating him with no respect, and sending people he needed to meet, via an additional call to someone else.
If people treat you like dirt at work, do everything within your best ability to expose them, make them look stupid, or at very least treat them like they don't exist.
Big respect for you for talking about this and posting it online, watched all the way through and felt like 5 minutes. Had one job where the people there saw the new guy and would always tell me what to do and never how to do it, then rip the shit out of me afterwards. I've never spoken to people about that either because that whole experience I'd rather blot out than keep thinking about it -- funnily enough that was at a picking and packing place just like you. I'm thankful to work at a great company these days where there's a culture of respect for one another. You're a great speaker mate and it was a pleasure to listen to you speak about your experiences.
Thank you buddy I really appreciate that and I'm glad you've found a descent job respect mate 👍
Your the type of friend everybody needs ❤
I really appreciate that 👍 🙏
Totally agree about kindness and politeness being seen as a weaknesss. Met bullies in every aspect of life: school, college, workplace, driving on the roads etc. Sad symptom of people's innate unhappiness. They have to take it out on others. 🤷
Co worker's are not your friends
Completely agree. Occasionally you will make a good friend or two, but for the most part they are just co-workers and nothing more.
Sometimes they are
Just had a coworker try to befriend me. I reminded him this and now it’s become frosty 🥶
Bit of basic decent though..... Especially Since it's what we are meant to be born with...
No they are not your friends you can’t trust anyone.
What upsets me about your video is that where I've worked jobs, I have not cut corners. I've always done a good job, often better than my colleagues, which was always resented. And yet, I've been held to higher standard, shouted at for things colleagues get away with, laughed at, mocked, blamed for sh*t I didn't do, set up, the list goes on. It's happened so many times that I have no desire to return to work. I am not workshy. But I dont want to be bullied again. I've also been screamed at my first day on the job, asked "what the f*ck are you doing" when I wasn't even trained yet. Laughed at when I got injured at work, called clumsy. Laughed at for wearing glasses. People can be absolutely horrible, and the worst people in the world are the ones who end up as supervisors.
Thats exactly why I dont work hard anymore. Hard work doesnt pay in most jobs.
This is shocking.
The work place is crap. Its a battlefield nowdays.😮
Im not alone. Thank you. I have survived in some nasty spots as well.
@ericjones-y2q sometimes you can get decent ones hard but fair, i need to work simple as that.
they tell you bullying ends after school but it just get a make over with new names and new ways, your story at 21 was so heart warming because i knew someone who was in crutches and used to work and had to deal with constant jokes being made about them and just overall horrible behaviour simply because they were disabled
Facts mate 💯 % agree 👍
Thanks for sharing , I was bullied at school ,I had special lesson speech therapy , autism spectrum , I can't stand bullys or narcissists , but I've always pushed through and run my own busines , and always ask how people are and appreciate 🙏
Thank you Paul I really appreciate you sharing that with me I hope your OK and well done for starting a business 👍 yes I always ask how people are just look at my videos everybody that I walk past I always say hello it doesn't cost anything to be nice does it 😀
Sometimes people are so miserable that the only small measure of joy they get is spread their misery to others.
Brave man to talk about these problems , your not weak this stigma about men talking about feelings is for women is bollocks ! Well done lad 👏🏼
Cheers Danny respect mate 👍
I was bullied very badly from Year 7 to Year 10. When I swapped schools over the summer that year I decided that I was never going to let myself be an easy target again, and when I got into the workplace it was no different. People will step on you to further themselves. If someone's having a bad day, they'll use you as stress relief. Remember, people choose YOU because they reasonably believe you're the one that won't do anything about it. The easiest way to counter this is to just switch jobs, unfortunately, you're their target now and it won't stop until you step away. Confronting them on company time will need to nothing but trouble with your collective superiors. My advice would be to do what I did and get big (strong and muscular), invest in some boxing lessons, and that will give you an aura of "don't fuck with me". People don't care about what you can actually do, they care about what you LOOK like you could do.
Good advice mate 👍
That's very true man. I am going to get back in shape.
@Unclejammertalks Yeah brother, when that "John" fella tried to have a go at you for not cleaning up everything, he was just testing how you'd react to him giving you shit. If how you responded in this video was how you responded in real life, you failed. Give them direct eye contact, calmly tell them that there will be problems if he doesn't respect his workers, and leave it at that. If you're well built enough they'll leave you alone, or say, "Ok, just get it done".
Right on, experienced the same shit, adults acting like kids it’s embarrassing
💯 % agree 👍
They never left high school mentally/emotionally. Arrested development. Overgrown children/manchildren(and womanchildren ofc). Culture of narcissism and thus psychopaths/sociopaths, just a bullys paradise.
So sad to see high school/playground politics so rife in adult spaces when people are meant to be far more responsible, humble, accountable etc, far more mature.
Totally understand. I’ve recently been diagnosed with ADHD and autism. I’m 55 and have been attracting bullies all my life, from school to work places. School was easier to deal with as I studied boxing and judo BUT the work place was more mental than physical and you can’t lash out. I counted how many jobs I’ve had since leaving school and let’s just say it’s loads.
I’ve now reached a stage where I no longer trust the work place, I’m at home on the sick due to a physical but mainly mental disadvantages. I would love to work but am too scared due to panic attacks.
Your video gives me hope that these troubles get recognised and that rules of mental health issues should be more at the front of employment law.
Today I’ve recently become a Christian and I get a lot of comfort from God. Thank you for being open with your experiences and shining a light on silent issues.
God bless you mate 🙏🏼❤️
God bless you too Wayne 🙏 I really appreciate that mate thank you
This guy is genuinely the kindest and most thoughtful lad I've ever seen
I really appreciate that mate thank you 👍
Don't change mate, you seem like a top fella 👊
Respect mate I appreciate that 👍
Hold on to your empathy and strength and compassion for weaker people. God bless mate, regards from Cyprus
One of the reasons bullies will target you is because you are a nice person. Sometimes you just can't win.
@@brianpaton6687 This has been my experience, if you are genuinely a nice person, people hate you for it and treat you appaulingly.
So sorry you went through all that bullying. I suffered the same, in work and school. Terrible 😢You seem a lovely soul. Dont ever change who you are ❤love x🤗❤️
Thanks mate and I won't 👍
Thank you for your enlightening story, Uncle Jammer. I believe I can understand what it's like to be forced to build up a rougher exterior because of the extreme prevalence of bullies as well as how one can be forced to lash out in a way that is out of character. As you say, there are so many individuals willing to bring others down for a little hit of dopamine. It is truly insane this world. I wish you the best.
Spot on mate
When you said "My heart just sunk" when those guys laughed at you, I know the exact feeling you're describing, and I haven't shared most of them either. Some people can just be so disgustingly heartless. I still have things people have said to me stuck in the back of my mind from years and years ago. Really horrible stuff that they came up with just for my ears that still gets to me years later. I really don't know how people can have the mind to say things like that.
The company i used to work for viewed new hires as non human. My first 2 years was hell. Bullying, dehumanization etc... but i did stand for myself or withdrew myself from certain interactions. I came from being homeless before i got the job so i knew the alternative. I was there for 6 years and all i can say is it toughened me up but most important it showed me how not to treat other human beings. I show respect.
I loved my job at a Lew Firm because I sat with all the management for my entire time there. I was overly human with them which absolutely shattered their un-human behaviour. Eventually quit because I realised that these people have been there since the 90s, probably non-human the entire time
I had a similar issue when I was young. Broke a part on a machine and was blamed for it and told it was very expensive. Later found out it was a common thing and wasn't an expensive fix but they called the agency and gave me a right bollocking. I was only 18, couldn't handle it and quit. Felt awful, I went and sat in a car park for a few hours just contemplating things. Really knocked my confidence and had a real hard time getting back into work afterwards. Luckily I'm happy where I'm working now but these managers and people in charge need to consider how much that can affect a young person and their view towards work.
They certainly do the trouble is most of them don't care buddy its so sad 😞
Yes spot on. Ive learned that idiots do see kindness as weakness. Well they get a rude awakening nowadays. And ive always 'looked' soft like butter wouldnt melt. Never judge a book by its cover either. Fab video.
Appreciate it mate 👍
God bless you man, despite dealing with all these horrible people you still stayed true to your values and never stopped being a kind person massive respect for that :)
Thank you
I worked in the offshore oil and gas industry as a diver and the bullies out there are on another level. The thing I noticed with the bullies was that more often than not they were not very good at their job. Bullies are also some of the biggest ass kissers around. They have a way of manipulating upper management to get them to believe they are indispensable and thus management will always take their side. Whats worse is when upper management are the bullies, you stand no chance. That's how my career ended after 21 years. What I liked to see was when two bullies clashed. I once did a job in the Gulf of Mexico and before you go offshore you have to complete an offshore induction One of the modules covers bullying. Nothing like that in the UK. It should be covered by Health and Safety under employee well being. I have my own business now and answer to no one except the tax man. I've never been happier. Stay strong. 💪
Don't worry, I've seen upper management fall on this sword, and get transferred. Eventually, everything comes round.
Weird the same thing happened to me. Same industry.
wow what sort of company do you own well done
@@295walk Property Management.
@brianpaton6687 Hi Brian, I also worked offshore as a diver, mainly the Persian Gulf and I can second that.inshore too.i think any line of work has them but that environment seems to breed horrors.peace.
I've just subscribed , I've got a similar personality to you , it's not easy is it . I've been bullied like you but have got through it , good hearing your stories, keep your head up pal, same as you good to know I'm not alone in thinking the way I do , thanks pal
Respect Eddie I appreciate you subscribing mate take it easy pal 👍
You mentioned bullies see kindness as a weakness and that's so true. People think if you're kind they can treat you like shit. You come across as a nice genuine decent guy. Just got to nip things in the bud the moment they start. Show people you're no walk over just cos you treat people with respect. Such is the world we live in it's sad that people see kindness and showing respect a weakness. The area you are walking on the video is beautiful btw. Subscribed to your channel. You take care mate
Thank you mate I really appreciate it 👍 🙏
Nothing worse than being bullied at work. Like you I spent most of my life going from job to job because of bullies picking on me and being blamed for things I hadn't done. I decided to become a self-employed driver for a couple of decades. That was ace! I spent most of the time on my own. If I missed the bullies, I could look in the mirrors and bully myself, but I never felt the need to. Then I got diagnosed with Autism and all became much clearer as to why I was a bully magnet too! I now work in a place that encourages and accepts neurodiverse people. My boss has Tourettes so we are a right pair. I'm semi-retired now and plan to retire fully in a couple of years. It has been so nice to work in a place where bullies are not tolerated. I hope you manage to find such a place to work. No one should have to put up with bullying no matter what the underlying reason might be.
I hope these last few days seeing your videos blow up as they have has given you some well deserved pride. After watching you and seeing all these endearing comments, it's very clear that you're a very thoughtful and compassionate person. People watching will relate and remember your comments about workplace bullies for a long time - you've made a significant, positive impact here so be really proud!!
Best thing to do is to not to say anything. The silence is the strongest rebuke you can give. Otherwise you just have to quit, there is no other recourse.
Same as me mate, bullied all way through school, destroyed me for a long time into adulthood, but through the other side now.
You were right what you said about people mistake kindness for weakness.
Have a great day and I hope you channel grows and grows , just like we have done mate ☺️👍
Good bless
Respect Chris I really appreciate that mate 👍 🙏
I can tell your a really nice guy. People totally take advantage of kindness, i can relate with what you was saying i too work with a couple of toxic snakey co workers. Keep doing good mate all the best. Great content by the way subscribed to your channel
I really appreciate that 👍
Bullies don’t understand politeness. The first time they treat you or someone else like crap, put a stop to it aggressively
Yes Jeff 💯% agree mate
You have a super power my friend!
Empathy, kindness and respect are a gift that people try to take from you. Remember your special place in this world and they will never have the power to compete.
Big hug buddy!
Thanks kieran I really appreciate that mate 👍
You're a kind and good man and it goes without saying you did NOT deserve any abuse or attack from others at work. Bullying stems from hatred, be self hatred or hatred learned within the family. It doesn't excuse but it does explain. There are a-hokes everywhere. IMO it's up to managers to maintain civility and kindness. When they don't work becomes a place where people vent their worst. I've seen and experienced things I can never forgive. Big hug.🌻
Remember it's not about you, it's about them. People only target others when they are insecure and unhappy with their own life, your a loverly lad and don't let anyone take that away from you!
*you're/you are
Thank you I really appreciate that 👍 🙏
I have dealt with work place bullies and people that drop sly remarks. I’m 41 and recently been diagnosed with autism so you can imagine I’m a bit different. When I was younger I would take it to a point but a point would come that I would fight back and I would lose that job.
The best job I ever had was working in a rehab as a support worker, I enjoyed going to work and helped a lot of people but the place eventually shut down and I went back to warehouse work.
Great video man. I can't imagine being someone that is so miserable that they treat others like garbage. It's cliche but the vast majority bullies are not happy and instead of working on themselves they tear others down.
Spot on buddy 👍
Absolutely spot on. They're so unhappy with themselves and their own lives that they make it their business to make others miserable.
If they channeled even half their energy into trying to improve their own lives they'd be at least a bit happier.
You are getting so many subscribers because you are genuine guy and are saying it how it is, about situations a lot of us have been in.I have had the same experiences and at the time you think it's only happening to you.The hardest thing is staying who you are and not letting your environment and the people in it change you...Subscribed.
Thank you I really appreciate it 👍
I know your pain brother. I too have had the same kind of problem for most of my life. Things changed when I started lifting weights. But not much, mostly people just instead went behind my back to betray me. I have worked in many jobs, engineering, constuction etc.
I was an apprentice engineer, but certian people would sabotage me. They would take me off my jobs to help them with theirs, with the intention of making me appear to be slow at doing the job I was given. Or sometimes they would tell me to do the wrong thing, and would wait till I had set everything in place, they would tell me I have set it up wrong and I have to start again, but they would deny that they told me to do it that way.
One thing I have learned is that there are many people in the workplace who are simply evil. And when they see someone who is kind hearted, they seek to destroy them. It used to amaze me how, without so much as saying a word, I would have people berate me for seemingly no reason.
Only the bible and Christianity has allowed me to make sense of it all. Those who have the Holy Spirit are at odds with those who have no light in them at all.
These people have narcissistic personality disorder u cannot reason or get throught to them they bait u for supply which is your reactions
thanks for sharing mate i relate a lot
Praise the Lord thank you for sharing that mate it really means a lot to me
That's why I've got an autoimmune disorder and I'm terrified of looking for a new job, I've been targeted and bullied in so many jobs.
I'm so sorry you've had this experience.
I'm so sorry to hear that and yeah my dad has an autoimmune disorder aswell it's not nice is it , I really appreciate your comment thank you and look after yourself ❤️
@Unclejammertalks thank you so much. I've subscribed 😊 really appreciating this video, it's giving me a lot of comfort.
Why are people so cruel and petty. So unnecessary. Life is hard enough.
@@vanessas2363 I’m going through the same thing totally fed up of it!
Toxic people live toxic lives; as bad as they made you feel in those moments, they'll be miserable for their whole lives
Mental health is no joke. We need to start looking after each other and sticking up for each other
Facts Dean 💯 %
You seem like a good person with lots of empathy. We need more humble characters like yourself. Good video, great stories.
Thankyou I really appreciate that 👍 💓
no one deserves to be bullied, its so cruel i wish i could give everyone whos been bullied a hug
top lad for speaking out about it
I appreciate that mate thank you
They are sad just ignore it keep going you are a well spoken man.
Thank you will I really appreciate that mate 👍
Kindest people are the strongest people and I will never apologise for choosing to be a better person over being an asshole.
Facts Tom 💯 % m8
If only more people were comfortable being true to themselves than putting on the 'tough guy' facade...
I'll never understand how people cannot see right through those facades right to the heart of the underlying insecurities. True strength is silent.
@@PowerofRock24 Well said.
Your experiences are like mine. I have been bullied all my life. Up until 10 years ago, I worked. The bullying just got worse and worse. That type of passive aggressive/humiliation bullying that people do. They set you up to fail over and over until you tell them to f-off, and then no more job. My health, unrelated to the bullying took a significant turn for the worse over the past 10 years and sadly I have not been able to work. I became a full-time dad until my partner left me, because of my health. So now, I am doing my best to study and do courses, so that I can possibly have a better future. I am currently living with my elderly parents, which is nice but I don't know what I will do in years to come, once they have sadly gone. All I can to is try. My son is my best friend.
Thank you for sharing your experiences.
Well said, loved the video. It's true, when your kind to everyone, generally agreeable, put others before you, good intentioned, selfless - you attract a lot of people who see that as an exploit, a vulnerability, something they can abuse to get something out of you. Same way a hacker would see a bug in a computer system as a vulnerability, and abuse the bug to get what they want out of a computer.
When your in the workplace, your trapped with these people, you can't really decide to get them out of your life and not deal with them. These folks also tend to dominate the workplace, usually having some status, so others generally don't want to call them out, or it might hit their own reputation.
A few times in my life, after being mistreated constantly, I built up a lot of resentment, and pushed back, and simply treated them the same way they treated me, and though they complained about my actions (despite the hypocrisy), they quickly learned that they can't push me around anymore, and stopped bullying.
Thankfully, I made it out the rat race and don't need a job, and can select the people who I want to keep in my life, as a result, I've been living a drama free life for a good while. Love the peace.
The trouble is with bullies they always look for their easy target, but the easy targets don’t stay because they know they are worth more, then someone else takes their place and so on and so forth…,,,never ever tolerate it!
You’re not alone, I was bullied at work
I was eventually put on the sick by my doctor because they could see that I was becoming very ill because of it.
Was the best Job that I’d ever had, I was very happy there until the manager/team leader changed.
I feel anxious watching and listening to you and writing this, but I need to do it.
Respect to you for commenting mate bullies are horrible people they don't understand the damage that they do to people I Respect you for sharing your story with me and I hope you feel better for it god bless you buddy and stay strong
Hi! Just wanted to say really enjoy your videos. Takes a lot to put yourself out there and tell your stories. Much respect! Greetings from Canada))
thank you chris i really appreciate that mate
You're so real for this, thank you for your honesty. Never, EVER let anyone push you around or talk down to you. People in work places think they can get away with treating you like trash either because they have some sort of position of power, or because they think it's "okay" because it's in a work environment. It is never okay. Standing up for yourself can be scary for a lot of people, but we have to put our foot down with people sometimes and tell them it's not okay for you to talk to me like that. It's not okay for you to treat me like that. Good on you for defending yourself man ❤
Thanks buddy I really appreciate that 👍
keep sharing your stories as a young man at 17 going on 18 in april and you give a great explanation of what a normal guys life is and that is what is beautiful about your channel its original and relatable.
Thankyou I really appreciate that 👍
I was bullied a lot in school as I was too quiet. When people attempt to bully me or put me down as an adult I make it very clear I won't tolerate it. Good job on you for standing up to them. When it comes to your manager it's tricky if you want to keep the job. I find if you can find out if other colleagues have the same issue it doesn't feel as bad and you find out they are a general a-hole.
You seem like a nice guy. Probably as you say they mistake niceness and kindness for weakness. First time I’ve seen your channel. I enjoyed your chatter. 😊
I'm glad you enjoyed
going through a rough time, I'm autistic and got bullied tons, actually made me cry.
you are a nice guy and yeah people take it for weakness.
good luck with your channel I've subbed and liked
I'm always here if you want to chat or if you would prefer to talk privately my email is jameswardle560@gmail.com
Hey man, I'm also on the spectrum and have dealt with bullying all my life. Just know ALL bullies are insecure and cowardly. They are targeting you because you're different, and difference triggers the 'fight or flight' fear response in their brain. They have no idea what to do when they encounter someone smarter, kinder, and more grounded than themselves so they lash out. Remember that without the autism phenotype, people would probably still be waging wars over cow shit and mud huts.
Bullies suck especially adults online trying to convince people they are more important than they really are. From 2nd grade til freshman in high school we were bullied non stop for being the poor kids. Karma will eventually get them that I know for sure. Loved the video and wish you all the success in the world. Much Respect
Thank you so much I'm a massive fan of your channel ❤️
@ just subbed you seem like a genuinely nice guy. Appreciate you watching
@paranormalnightmaretv thank you I just phoned my mum and told her you commented and she said noooo wayyyy ha Haa she's a massive fan of yours aswell, respect 🙏
Iv been bullied 3 times in my life all 3 are dead now js
workplace bullies are actually the worst man, can make working hell
One thing I’ve learnt if I don’t trust someone at work or outside is to make something up and if it comes back to you then you know who it came from
Dude, there's something about you. Subscribed. You're a good soul.
Respect mate 👍
Unfortunately, this evil seems to be on the increase, at least speaking for the UK. I am not yet 50 and have been bullied and targeted in workplaces that much I am unable to work again. Thank you for being so open and making more people aware of this.
I'm sorry to hear that James yeah it's my please mate 🙏
@Unclejammertalks Thank you. Please keep highlighting this terrible scourge, for I suspect there are many more of us than people like to think. Take good care, brother and may the force be with you 🙏
Hi mate great upload. Ive worked in the same job for 38 years and its been in a factory. Although its been with different companies.
Ive always enjoyed the work tbh but its the people you work with that make it good or bad.
Ive had my fair share of knobheads but to be honest ive always stood up for myself because that feeling of backing down is 100 times worse than going all in and taking a hiding.
A loud bully will always shit it and back down then try to move onto another victim.
Peace brother
You're not the only one pal, I once had a bully manager when I worked at Tesco, he kept telling me to pick things off the floor, saying I was kicking things under the shelves whilst simultaneously flirting with female staff & not doing his job properly. But one time he had a proper go at me, & took me to the CCTV room only to prove himself wrong seeing I didn't kick anything under the shelves, I had a proper go at him for treating me like crap. After that I worked for other companies but I left them all & since then I've just been working for myself writing a book and starting a new company. What I've learned is bullies only bully cause they have issues themselves & they feed off distracting us from reaching our goals & full potential. Great video, liked & subscribed.
I really appreciate that callum respect brother 🙏
@Unclejammertalks sometimes these bullies understand one thing.They push you too far so you will snap then you are the one for the high jump.Dont know how tall you are but you look like you can handle yourself. Sounds like you are from manchester. I am from Middlesbrough in the north east.
Respect for talking about this mate. This is unfortunately a super common thing that happens that not many people seem to really talk about. You'd think it wouldn't be hard to treat your colleagues like people, these horrid little cretins must be miserable in life
I appreciate that 👍
These workplace bullies are people who are disrespected at home by thier partners probably have dead bedrooms or thier partner does the dead fish at bedtime or thier partner is unfaithful they come into work and target someone thinking it will let them take the power back I see those people coming a mile away
Respect mate 👍
This seems to be an increasing problem, though I have seen it all my working life. I am glad that you are sharing this, as for sure you are not alone/ And sometimes we get pushed too far. You will find the perfect advice in Psalm 37 very very helpful. It shows us that our Creator knows how "the world", the present wicked system of thing on the earth, will make us feel, it shows us how to deal with it without letting it shape us in its image, and above all it assures us of the coming rescue, of a wonderful change coming to the earth.
A lot of the times it's because they're projecting onto you, they see you all happy with life, kind compassionate and all that, they see it as weakness but also they wish they had that life
💯 % true 👍
Misery loves company
Thanks for speaking out mate. This will help a lot of people
It's my pleasure Rob 👍 🙏