Life with a stammer | Walter Scott | TEDxGuildford
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- Опубликовано: 30 май 2018
- Stammering is a speech condition that is rooted in the white matter pathways connecting areas of the brain involved in speech. It affects 1% of the adult population, and roughly 70m adults worldwide. It shows in dysfluent, sometimes blocked speech, and avoidance behaviour, and it can have a significant impact on life experience, career prospects and mental health.
Walter Scott has stammered since the age of three. His past jobs have included working as a speechwriter. In 2014 he co-founded the Defence Stammering Network to support military personnel and civil servants who stammer, to educate and raise awareness about the condition, and to campaign for better support.
Much of the challenge of living with a stammer stems from the cultural pressure to be fluent - or at least to appear fluent. Society, and its employers, broadcasters and educators generally set high standards for fluency. Yet for those who stammer, the effort to appear fluent and avoid stammering compounds the dysfluency. Walter's message is that if society can only relax its standards for fluency, and recognise that human speech is a miraculous gift that should not be taken for granted, life could be so much easier for those who stammer.
In recent years Walter has written a series of articles and blog posts and given numerous public talks about stammering. He has recently published a collection of these in an Amazon Kindle ebook entitled A Few Quick Words, and filmed a series of short vlogs on stammering for RUclips.
BSA website: www.stammering.org/
Walter Scott on Twitter: @Walter_Scott1
A Few Quick Words ebook: www.amazon.co.uk/Few-Quick-Words-Outspoken-stammering-ebook/dp/B07BKT1YQR
A Few Quick Words clips: / @walterscott1618
Defence Stammering Network Facebook site: / defencestammeringnetwork Walter Scott has stammered since the age of three. He is a civil servant and Government communications specialist. His past jobs have included working as a speechwriter. In 2014 he co-founded the Defence Stammering Network to support military personnel and civil servants who stammer, to educate and raise awareness about the condition, and to campaign for better support.
Stammering is a speech condition that is rooted in the white matter pathways connecting areas of the brain involved in speech. It affects 1% of the adult population, and roughly 70m adults worldwide. It shows in dysfluent, sometimes blocked speech, and avoidance behaviour, and it can have a significant impact on life experience, career prospects and mental health.
Much of the challenge of living with a stammer stems from the cultural pressure to be fluent - or at least to appear fluent. Society, and its employers, broadcasters and educators generally set high standards for fluency. Yet for those who stammer, the effort to appear fluent and avoid stammering compounds the dysfluency. Walter's message is that if society can only relax its standards for fluency, and recognise that human speech is a miraculous gift that should not be taken for granted, life could be so much easier for those who stammer.
In recent years Walter has written a series of articles and blog posts and given numerous public talks about stammering. He has recently published a collection of these in an Amazon Kindle ebook entitled A Few Quick Words, and filmed a series of short vlogs on stammering which can be watched on RUclips. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx
i’ve stammered my entire life and it’s made me so insecure. sometimes i stammer so bad that i just stop talking altogether. i’m trying to embrace it but it’s just so hard.. thank you for this video
I know exactly what you mean, but it could be worse right? At least we are able to still verbally communicate. You shouldn't be so hard on yourself
Can it be treated?
I know. It sucks. But you just have to face it, and remain determined and driven to get better.
@@jedrekwrzosek6918 best thing is to talk to random people. Example, at the supermarket checkout, ask the cashier how they're day is going and take it from there. The key is putting yourself out there and accept the fact that you stutter, embrace it, and not to care what others think. Negative self talk is not good obviously. It'll be okay. Believe it will get better and know there'll be good speaking days and bad ones but don't focus on the bad ones. Cheers
When im about to stammer i didnt say the word repetitive i just leave it with long pauses because i cant say the word that im thinking
iam a stammerer myself,,and i have learned that the best cure is really self confidence..
hi brother i hear that there is a miracle drugs his name zaybraksa
@@mohamedsoussi8720 any idea to get it ?
Self confidence does nothing and I know this because I suffer from stammer as well all those thing like breath in relax they never really helped and they still won’t help am 14 right now and I’ve stammered since I was in year 2 just think how many times I’ve heared that
@@sharbeast6067 He doesn't mean it in that way. Andrew says that the best you can do is to embrace the stammer so, in order to achieve that, you need self confidence to not give importance to stammering.
yes
U can tell when he stammers but his fluency covers it well
"Its a way of speaking, not a journey towards fluency" ❤ Gold
Beautiful Speech.....Inspiration to all with Stammers! We indeed have a voice
Ta Topcat 720!
Indeed we do! Lee Lovetts’ “How to Stop Stuttering & Love Speaking” & WSSA helped me find mine! I thought I would stutter forever until I found his God send of a novelty & program.
I stammer, on the worse end some days I'm fine other days I can't string a sentence. I was heavily bullied because of it did 7 years of speech therapy when I was younger and now struggling to get a job due to stammering
Code Void - I think the bullying occurs because of ignorance. Stammering gets wrongly recognised as a symptom.of mental weakness - which of course it is not. We must campaign together, globally, to smash that misunderstanding. In the UK we now have the 'Stamma' campaign run by the British Stammering Association, which seeks to do exactly that...
hi mate,i was bullied aswel,but i starting to do judo and boxing,after 2 years of training nobody bullied me any more,and nobody any make a laugh at me,if make so ....(unlucky guy was)
@Asiri Maduranga sorry mate, I deleted my Facebook ages ago, you know when you have 850 friends, and only texting to 5 of them, it's no point to have Facebook, I have Instagram, but you don't find anything overthere, 1 picture and nothing more 😁 😁 aivisst 1984. Remember if you stammer or not you can achieve everything you want, type on Wikipedia famoust stammers, you be surprised, from Churchill to Monroe. Just believe in your self!!!
it's okay! we're all here for you! i'm the same; the severity of my stammer just keeps fluctuating and it's really frustrating sometimes... but don't worry, we'll all get through it together! :D
I have the same issue sometimes I lose trust in myself
Such a beautiful speech and this truly touches me to know that I'm not alone. I’ve had stammering problems for about half of my life. My stammering started to appear when I turned 8. At first, people around me thought it was funny, and I didn't understand why I felt embarrassed every time I stammered. When I reached 7th grade my stammer went haywire, by this time I tried to use hand gestures, tapping techniques, and even stomping techniques to help me get those words out. Over time people are even bothered that I use rhythm to get my words out. My classmates would mimic my stuttering and start making hand gestures to make a mockery out of me. I didn’t know how to react because sooner or later, my teacher would purposely call me to read for the rest of the class, which will usually end up with me stuttering for the 15 remaining minutes. After this horrible year, my parents decided to switch me to another private school and hope that I can get a good start from here. This new start could only make me hide my true self because I was scared that I would be humiliated by my classmate again. So I isolated myself from my classmate and decided to pick my mobile device as my friend instead. My parents haven’t seen me make any good progress so they decided to change me to another school. In this new school, electronic devices are not allowed so we have to force ourselves to find other ways to entertain ourselves. So, for my remaining year in high school, I forced myself to talk to my classmate, and yes everyone was very supportive which helps me with my speech. Nowadays, I’m grateful for my high school classmates/teachers that understand my problems and spends time helping me out. I hope those who have problems like me won’t isolate themselves because I missed my whole middle school because of my fear of speaking. Though stammering will not leave us permanently it will surely be improved over time, as long as you accept yourself and try to understand yourself. Define the reason why you’re stuttering, in my case, it’s the lack of confidence.
Loved how you describe speech as a gift. Since a majority of people can execute it fluently, people forget how precious it is and people who can't speak fluently are treated differently.
Shubh - thank you; I agree, except that I don't think they 'forget' how precious and miraculous it is; they just never get the chance to understand. Exactly as I take the ability to walk, see and hear for granted. Walter
What a brilliant and passionate speech. Thank you. As a stammerer myself, a double thank you.
Charles Budd - thank you! Glad it met the mark. I've long felt there is a bigger story to be told about stammering, and this seemed like a rare opportunity to tell part of it.
In school days , i used to stammer a lot , i do now too but atleast it isn't as visible as it was before , i used to complete every word whether speaking clearly or stuttering but as the years passed i learned not to speak that word before i could get the confidence . I used to skip face to face talks because of embarrassment but now I've seen as much as i speak slowly with some added flow or hand movements , i speak clearly most of the times , rushing into words makes it worse and unclear . :) Thankyou mates just have your confidence up and speak slowly , we are gonna rock the stage ♥️
Stammer is becoming the biggest enemy of my life. I wish I can stop it to achieve normal conversation with people, specially in my working environment. Your speech inspired me a lot. Thank you!
You need to support your nervous system. Start taking b- complex, fish oil, lecithin, magnesium and ashwagandha.
Remove refined carbohydrates, and sugar from your diet.
Let me know how this works for you.
@@ACantu-de8pg really??????
@@pappumahato1178 yes, try it and see how it helps you
@@pappumahato1178 actually you should get on a good multi mineral with an additional magnesium supplement. The reason you want to eliminate all refined carbohydrates and refined sugars is because they use up your body's natural stores of vitamins and minerals, nutrients necessary for your nervous system to function properly.
Yea as a stammerer it's so difficulties at times when we can't speak up the way we want. It's a total burned out at times when people looked down up upon us based on our speech disability. Our inner child needs healing from the bruises the society inflicts on us. Love & respect from North East India
It's ridiculous how most people react to a stammer. I have been stammering since childhood hood and continues to do so into adulthood. The psychological pain and scarring is deep and probably irreversible but I keep trying and "hoping" that i my fluency will " improve" with time.
Cameron - yes, I agree very much. And perhaps because society still doesn't really 'get' stammering in the way that it does now understand dyslexia, autism, etc, the psychological scarring isn't really understood. Therapy tends to focus on managing dysfluency in the here & now, but the best therapy that I have experienced also explores the psychological angle in a lifelong way. What we learn about this speech difference in early childhood remains with us in adulthood; it is hard to grasp that if you have always been able to take 'normal' speech for granted. For me, the solution has been to build stammering into my identity and my personal narrative, rather than to deny it or to struggle against it. I guess that has required me to adopt a bit of a maverick attitude to life - easier to carry off when, like me, you reach middle age!
What a speech, so articulate, you hit the nail on the head.
Yes, we have a Voice! The scene from the King's speech where the King argues with his speech therapist gives me goose bumps every time. Thank you for the great presentation.
My hat off, such a great speech. Well done. We must stand up for ourselves,enough is enough !
Walter Scott educated me about the history of stuttering. I am a stutterer and I can relate to everything he is saying. He is a brilliant; informative, knowledgeable, caring . He is a great person.
I really appreciate this man’s courage speaking in front of public despite stammering. I also have the same problem when taking and it really interferes my everyday life. I have very little confidence when talking to people face to face and present my knowledge orally. It’s almost impossible to control when or where I would stammer. Really appreciate this gentleman. Hope more people could embrace stammering people and help us to live a better life. Thanks.
Amazing! As a teacher, I thank you for the insight.
One of the best speech ever listened in my life
I really hate how I'm in an argument trying to defend myself, and I stammer and they say "AH-AH-AH SHE'S STUTTERING SHE GUILTY"
Sem bro
Ive experienced everything you mentioned about stammering through life,i must say the older i have got the easier my speech has become,also just the sheer acceptance of stammering has helped me, it's part of me. No more shame!
I’ve joined a Toastmasters club to help me overcome my stammering/stuttering. I’m thankful that it isn’t so server that it has caused me to miss out on job opportunities (Blessings to those who go through that) but it has gotten in the way of me communicating my thoughts and feelings in group settings, one on one settings, ordering food, story telling, it messes with my confidence and I’m now 30yrs old
It's co encouraging to see how many of us there is out there, having the same problem. In the same time, it's discouraging to know that there is no easy cure for stammering, and that often it prevents us from making our dreams come true. It prevents us to do better in our job, maybe even in our love life. And it's really hard sometimes to be confident about yourself when almost every day is a struggle. Aber wir schaffen das 💪🤗
Sir, you delivered an excellent speech at Tedx. I'm really inspired by the way you spoke on stage. Sir, I'm 24 years old lady for India. I can very much relate to whatever you said. I was detected with this speech disorder since I was in my junior school. In spite of being a sharp student, I was often judged because of my speech disorder since my school days. While growing up I became so conscious about my speech disorder that I refrained from doing assembly in school, participating in debates or any other group discussions or extempore. Now it has been almost 2 years that I'm preparing for Officer-rank government jobs here in India. I've cleared the written exams for quite a few government jobs but every time I'm getting stuck in the personal interviews. With my friends, I'm quite fluent in my speech. But, when it comes to giving interviews, giving presentations in my college days, addressing a large group of audience or narrating a story to someone my nerves wreck and my lips start shivering and I end up stuttering. In spite of having the required qualifications, it is really a set back in my life. Due to this I often refrain from attending social gatherings and this is having a negative impact on my self confidence and also my life. Sir, how do I deal with this absurdity? Would really love to get your guidance to overcome this. Thank you! Regards. @walterscott
I'm 21 years old.. The problems you mentioned I have gone through each one of them.. For betterment of us I guess we can make a group on facebook/whats app or instagram.. At first only you and me can create that...
To exchange the problems and thereby discovering a solution I think the one who suffer can do that..Those who don't suffer would never feel the pain and stress we go through when we face mass people.. 7001273113 it's my WhatsApp number..I have my name given YOUR SUFFER in this platform just to address my problem cause here ik real life I can't share with anyone..I live in West Bengal..
I am a 21 year old guy from Pune. I can help you, you can contact me on Instagram.
@@yoursufferer8794 did u create a group? What about a telegram group?
@@rajatrawat4284 Mate I haven't created any..And I am looking forward to finding one..Are you planning to create?
You can add my number 7001273113...
@@rutulthorat9773 Where in Pune? We can get in touch
Great listen. I stammer but this has improved so much over the years. I have felt the humiliation and hated myself for it. Stress always makes it worse. Some days it's not there at all 😢
I can understand your problem unfortunately I'm also a stammer I faced every worst situation just like you.Can I connect with you on insta or any platform .I think that will be really helpful for both of us..
@@VS-uc1yt you on discord or telly bud?
Exactly, someday are worse than others. But i stammering alot while on phone talking to someone telling myself not to stammer.
As person who suffers from stammer this is a very inspiring speech. Stammer has always hindered my social life
Great message for those of us who do and those who do not stammer, hear us in this condition
Thanks mor tema - yes, I was trying to speak to both groups!
At some point in the video, my eyes teared up as I felt how much this person had to endure and how much it took for him to become the man he is today. I am not much of an emotional person but as I also have to deal with stammering in my life, I know how hard it is to get to the level this man achieved. Mr. Scott, you are truly amazing.
Very well represented. I’ve learned so much more about stammering. ❤️
Thanks Poepan Island for those kind words - glad it went down OK with you!
Hello Walter, it's Leys. Great speech, but it's a long road ahead. Keep at it, in the second half of your life...
Thank you, Walter
Ronan Miller Well done
Amazing! I love this! Super motivational!
This man is amazing
Well done Walter, you raised a lot of very important and relevant points. We need to keep communicating the message that it is acceptable to stammer, and that it does not define us; to make others understand our journey and change attitudes
Thanks Robert. I can't quite work out if I think we should or should not promote the message that it does not define us! I think living with a rogue speech pattern unavoidably does, and heightened courage is part of the benefits package. But I do think that tackling the fluency ("excellent oral communication skills") imperative at every turn is key, and I include schools and broadcast media in that sentiment...
Excellent speech Walter! I really enjoyed listening to you. You spoke very eloquently and passionately about a subject close to your heart. You have my full support and I whole heartedly agree with the points you have raised. You should come and give a speech at my school to the staff i.e. teachers, learning support assistants, speech & language therapists. I'm sure you could give invaluable insight and advice about how to support students who stammer. You could even speak to the students. I work in a primary/secondary school for students with mild learning disabilities which include autism, Downs Syndrome ADHD, dyslexia and other conditions. Many of the students have difficulties in speech, language and communication which have an impact on their ability to communicate, learn, social interaction and mental health. Lack of understanding does also lead to bullying between students which impacts on all areas of development of individuals.
A fascinating lecture!
As a mother of a CWS, who has been active in raising awareness of stuttering in Israel, I am proud to hear your words, strengthen you and join you.
Anat Maor - it is really exciting to hear from people who are working to change perceptions in other countries - global beats national! I am aware that different cultures treat stammering in different ways, but hopefully there will come a day (in this digital era of ours) when there is consistent and informed understanding throughout the world. Thank you for your kind words and keep up the good work! Walter
Some times at home i can speak well, and some other time little stammering at home. I'm an IT graduate, fail to get a suitable job because of Stammering. once in an interview I couldn't speak even a single word
Good goals, and I agree 100%, thank you. Excellent presentation
I started stammering all of a sudden in college. Never had a problem before. Always have been a fluent speaker.
Very inspirational Walter, I have been fortunate enough to progress in my career from having supportive managers who encouraged me to accept my voice and push myself forward. With the help of speech therapy in my late thirties and early forties I finally realised that sometimes it was my own demons that I had to shake, that I wasn’t only as good as what I just said, or how should I say how I just said it. I honestly feel that being open about your stammer with people, being able to talk about it freely makes everybody feel a little less awkward. I sometimes have blips when I feel down but watching talks like this really lifts the spirits and gets me back on track.
Thanks Bev. Funnily enough I found true acceptance at a similar age. I guess one has accumulated enough life experience to realise that difference is a strength and perfection can't be achieved. And yes, good management - and good teachers - have got to be an important part of learning to find confident expression with dysfluency.
As a fellow stammer, I can feel the nervousness of his speaking. I stammered so bad when I talk in a phone, it is really discouraging. Glad more people can share the same experience, lets fight this together, brothers and sisters.
I'm a stammerer ,Sometimes I face many challenges .
thank you dude. i hate mylife becase of my stammer
I stammer alot when i was a kid so when the kids make fun of me i always wished i was a deaf .i couldn't even say my name ,going to school was the hardest thing to do for me i always wish i could be normal....but now i have gain confidence .i accept my self so now i feel better and i can speak better thank God,,,when we speak in the mirror we don't stammer, so if we have a confidence we can speak with people like we speak to our self in the mirror..we have to have a confidence ..
Brilliant speech.
Excellent speech. Agree wholeheartedly, fluency should not be the goal at the end of the rainbow but rather acceptance by ourselves and those around us that we speak differently. Accept who we are and life will be far easier. If everyone who stammers educate those around us and those in and on the periphery of our social circle and acceptance will become far easier for everybody else. We can't expect others to do it for us it's up to everyone who stammers to get the word out there....
I also stammer... To such extent that I always escape opportunities to order in restaurant, to talk with strangers infact I refrain from saying my name... People should have patience and accept our way of talking instead of mocking... And in the meantime we should be also be given opportunities to improve our speech...
That was a great speech. By far and away, the worst part of a stammer is not the stammer itself but how bad it makes you feel. For the vast majority of my life my stammer dominated everything. I was a covert stammerer and deeply embarrassed of my stammer. Sadly there is no cure but, in my experience, being open about it helps so much
Spot on Walter, its was how I reacted to my stutter as a child that led me to keep hold of this way of speaking. Given that I was mocked when unable to say my name , Ra Ra Ra Ra ma its little wonder it took me years to be able to say my name in front of people. Indeed stuttering is seen as something to be ridiculed or laughed at. Even to this day there are films with a stuttering character for people to make fun off. When society accepts stuttering as something that is not out of the ordinary then stutterers will have the freedom to express themselves without the need of hiding the stutter. That may well be the point that stuttering ceases to be an issue in the world.
@Sabir I believe people from USA call it stuttering and people from UK call is Stammering.
I’m 16 and I’ve been stammering since I was like 3 years old. When I get emotional (sad, angry or embarrassed) I stammer. When I read aloud in class I stammer. Sometimes when I stammer I get stuck on a single word for a full minute sometimes. I get made fun of.
I'm also 16 and the same thing happens to me.Whenever people make fun of me its Breaks
my confidence.
when i was in highschool, they started to made fun of me, even my friends, it hurts. The time i was on senior highschool, i dont talk anymore and depress.
Hello. I'm 19 and I also stammer. Do any of you want to talk on Skype? Since English isn't my first language I wanted to practice a bit more
Yeah when i talk to my friends i do somewhat stammer but when i read in class i stammer a lot and i get stuck on a word for 5 seconds. I started stammering when i was like 11 and before that my reading was perfect and my talking was also good. And i stopped stammering when i was 13 and im 14 now and i started stammering again and when its my turn to read in class its very awkward i read things like word for word and everyone else in my class reads pretty well and its awkward when its my turn. And when the teacher asks a question to the entire class i know the answer but im afraid so i never raise my hand and yeah its very hard sometimes. Ay thanks for reading this long comment
@@dilnasssssss hi
This was a very well done speech. I don't understand why everyone can't focus on the words people are saying rather than the way they say them. I think mass media has something to do with it, making people think the way that people speak on stage or on camera must be the standard, not realizing that oftentimes they're reading scripts or notes, rehearsing for countless hours before a single show, cutting together only the best takes, not to mention years of practice in public speaking to begin with. Some people are very talented at speaking off the cuff, but for many, it's a serious challenge. People should be more forgiving of those who are less skilled. When we feel like we're shunned for the way we speak, we may think we're not good enough and give up trying altogether, whereas if we're accepted more in conversation, perhaps it'll allow us the practice and confidence we need to improve our skill and become better speakers.
Beautiful. I have been living with this as a teacher for 20years. I am fortunate to be working as a teacher with very good employer. I avoid certain words in my maths lessons. I occasionally get laugh at. I avoid places of lengthy speech like this one. This message has inspired me.
Thanks John Kwasi for your kind words. I find with speaking at length like this that a lot of preparation is the key - otherwise like you I find it tough going.
I am a person who stammers and it's because of nervousness. Some days are the best when I can speak fluently and some days I struggle to speak a single word. I have tried this method and it's worked , shout as loud as you can in an open place like a beach , it really helps
Sir, such a wonderful and inspiring speech. Can you please guide us on how you actually achieved this fluency from being a stammer. It would be immensely helpful for many.
Regards,
My resume and cover letter get me interviews, but my stammering stopped me from passing job interviews... And after so many failed job interviews, I realized I won't be getting any more decent jobs in this lifetime. Got so much bad rap for not having many friends and thus being a loner, which may have contributed to my stammering. Trying to find a cause is a vicious cycle, because it delves into bodily insecurities, and low self esteem, which caused my not being social and not having many friends... And it is difficult to undo this past, which is negatively impacting my present and future... I recorded my job interview, and as I was playing it back, I realized I had so many fillers, and was a slow speaker... And this is a recurring problem during job interviews...
Hi, yes, I know the challenge of interviews so well. When oral interview is the only method of selecting a candidate for a job it is rather narrow, shallow way of understanding their abilities and character. Which country are you from, and what kind of career are you pursuing? I wish you the very best, whatever cultural attitudes that you face...
did you get a job? just curious
It's a habit in our subconscious mind ,it's very easy to recover from this ,create a new neuron pattern in our brain like new speech pattern (i.e) slow speech. If we speak consciously ,we never stammer , but when we go subconscious mind like fear,anger, anxiety we do stammer , so 1)create a new speech pattern 2)go gratitude meditation 3)do affirmation like positive words(I'm the great stage speaker, I can do anything, I'm a achiever, no one is a great stage speaker except me) 4) do imagination practice (wherever you want to speak ,do it in imagination) consistently do it for 3 months , u will get a tremendous result .These are the things which I learnt from my stammering class
My stammering will be cured soon
Mr Shark - i hope you can find a way. Getting stuck in speech can be a huge challenge in life, as those who have a stroke in later life discover after a lifetime of fluency, but we who stammer have known from a young age. But so many of the challenges come from the pressure to be fluent; in fact the pressure from people who are fluent to be fluent creates the intensity of the struggle. Without that, stammering would be a very much easier experience. So for me, the cure is learning to deal with and minimise the effect of these pressures. I don't think that fluency is something that can be learnt like perfecting a technique or achieved by swallowing a pill. But stammering can definitely be made easier. Very best of luck!
Well Said @Walter Scoot , We have to accept it as we are stammer & it's ok and everyone in the world must have to accept that stammering is not kind of disease it's just kind of a different way of speaking😄.
I am happy 😄 to be a stammer because of it I interact at the daily basic to unknown person to manage my stammering not overcome it.
Beautiful speech. Noticed the moment you got more emotional, the stuttering appeared a bit more. Just at the end.
Totally agree about there must be a better acceptance in the society.
I don't know about other countries, but in Spain i grew up listening to fluent people apologizing for the most slightest stuttering.
This was most notorious on TV, for example.
What a person who stutters may think when he sees that a fluent person is apologizing for such a small thing??.
It's like, stutters are no allowed to talk then??
I just started my Junior year of high school. Kids would always mock me, it doesn’t really bother me bc I also make jokes about my stutter. I started speech last year, it’s been overwhelming and very different. Thank you so much for this speech.
Thanks for your comment Savanna. My thought is that you dont need to joke about it too much (as it not itself a funny thing to have to deal with) - though I know that can sometimes help among friends - but you can also tell people about it, and what causes it. I think teasing often happens because other people don't know much about it and don't understand that it can be can sometimes be really distressing. Good luck - you will find your pathway and you will shine! Walter
Walter Scott thank you so much for this!
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Hello I stammer for ten years. This is a very good search. Greetings from Poland :)
Myszon Szod i stammer too :)
Itz do you want to contact with me because i really keen on how people from another countries stammer?
And me too :)))
I would like to share my personal practice TIP, just practice this nothing else is required.
>Do not speak single syllable unless your mouth and voice open at same time.
>Wait how much ever time it takes never open mouth before you generating voice (just like normal person).
>Let listener wait you don't count on them, if they cant wait let them go or you give up
> But don't speak a single syllable with stammer, you speak with your tongue+lips+voice in sync or NONE.
>Even its single word also its fine.
>Make a list of words you regularly use and you stammer and just practice each word 50 times a day for 21 days; then you see the magic you will say that word unconsciously.
>Initially it takes lot of time but gradually it reduce.
I am trying this its started working. I don't let my mouth to open or move without voice. I will try to sync always and talk.
Give a try.... All the best...Let me know if its working
for one, like me, who stammers, this was inspirational...
Great speech,i also haveb stammering problem
Stammering is a constant battle; day-in, day-out!
I speak with a "clutter" had extensive speech therapy as a young child which helped a bit but it never really goes away. There is a lot of stigma around speech disorders, it has to change.
Great ted talk :)
I'm from India and i had been stammering since childhood. but one book changed my attitude and cured it, The power of subconscious mind, i recommend this book to every stammerer who is going through this phase. this has helped me and sure will help you, Power of Affirmations.
Is it true brother?
@@abhiradcliffe 💯 percent
it changed my life
bcoz im no longer a stammerer
Thanks bro....I do also stammer..will surely look into this book
@@abhiradcliffe i can understand dont get despaired john biden was also a stammerer
Is it the Power of the Subconscious Mind by Dr Joseph Murphy?
Congratulations Walter.
Thanks Richard
Hello there!
I also used to stammer alot even can't spell a sentence nicely but i then I worked on it. Things I used to do was:
1. Speak softly (slowing down your voice make you to speak words more nicely)
2. Self confidence (have you ever noticed that you can speak nicely when you are taking to yourself! That's what called SELF CONFIDENCE. If you can speak in a good perfect manner to yourself then you can speak to others also.
3. Stop overthinking. (The main cause whenever we try to speak or want too speak a thing which came in mind is (agr maine kuch bola aur mai thik se ni bol paaya toh!) Getting this things in our mind can destroy the self confidence and may lead to stammering.
4. Mirror practice. ( put yourself in front of mirror and speak in a loud voice you can also speak stories, poetry etc whatever you want to..!)
▪︎many people who are famous now have also gone through something and many from even stammering too. So if they can overcome then you WHYNOT!? JUST BELIEVE IN YOURSELF
Thats it thankyou.
I hope it may helped you
Yeah
Got rejected in atleast 23 to 25 interview this year only overall the number is quite high😊 but all i can do is try and try again for my mother to give her a great life.
Yes, I have been rejected in 2 IJP's to become team leader and senior risk analyst, but all i can do is try. For me sometimes life seems unfair, I have everything but still sometimes it feels like nothing,
I also stammer way too often in public, hence I try to talk as much as I possibly can to practice my speech, often leading to so many awkward moments that now I kind of accept that. In addition to that, I don't stammer that badly when I speak in English, but I do stammer a lot when I speak in my native language, strange thing.
I also heard that loud music could help you not to stammer in public, this is something I should give a try.
Me too, when am speaking my native language I stutter alot
I've struggled with stammering for as long as I can remember. Can anyone else "feel" themselves about to stammer right before it happens? I almost always get this undescribable sensation, kinda like some sort of feeling or almost a physical sensation, a split second before I stammer and eventually I learned how to use it to my advantage. I can't really describe what it feels like but a split second before I get stuck on a word I can feel a definite sensation and it let's me know I'm about to get stuck. This might now work for everyone but for me when I feel that I'm going to stammer I just immediately stop what I'm saying, even if it's in the middle of a sentence, then I just take a breath and continue speaking and it helps me to not stammer like 90% of the time so it's gotten much better the older I've gotten. That second I take to stop and breathe and continue speaking kinda makes my sentences sound choppy and a little strange but my friends say they don't even notice it it's just the way I talk, much better than stammering through every other word. So any of ya'll out there who have the same problem as I do try my little trick and see if it helps, it may take a while to get used to, it took me some time to consistently pull it off, but it may help you so give it a shot. I don't know if everyone who stammers can "feel" it right before they do but I can and I use it to my advantage. I'm almost 40 now and it's a constant struggle but it will get better for ya'll the older you get and the more experience you have with trying to control it. Lmk if any of ya'll experience a strange sensation before you get stuck on a word I'm curious to know how prevalent it is.
Yeah the impediment tries to hurt you at each n every step of your life but with some techniques and practice one can reduce the pain specially in situations where you need to communicate flawlessly. The bottom line is it shouldn't stop anyone from earning a comfortable life. Thr is no doubt that we r much more mentally aware/intelligent than the ppl who don't stammer, not bragging there is a reason i am saying this - and the reason being who else on earth uses his/her brain so much while speaking? We hv to focus on speech, search for alternate words, read listeners facial expressions, watch our breathing, think abt the actual topic we r talking etc. So we are also blessed in a way. Thr is much to say abt it but for now just sharing my experience as below. Consider these while speaking, it might help:
Slow prolongation, pausing, no jerks, proper breathing, light contacts, no urgency.
I can see so many PWS in the comment srction, I am sure all of us hv learnt something over the years living with this issue, why can't we just make a group and share our experience without any fear to speak our mind/heart?
Sir, I was stammering heavily during my school days. Perhaps that's the reason I feel I haven't achieved whatever I wanted in my life as my complete focus was on this but never wandered the reason.During my college days it reduced significantly, but it has started again when u lost my job...I was in 6 months of complete exile and have started yoga to reduce my anxiety during this Corona pandemic and want to make continuous public interaction to reduce my anxiety n develop confidence....I don't know but sometimes I feel quite confident and stammer almost nothing but sometimes speaking up a single word seems to be like breaking open your chest .it sucks
I do stammer...it's happens when we r nervous
It's a habit in our subconscious mind ,it's very easy to recover from this ,create a new neuron pattern in our brain like new speech pattern (i.e) slow speech. If we speak consciously ,we never stammer , but when we go subconscious mind like fear,anger, anxiety we do stammer , so 1)create a new speech pattern 2)do gratitude meditation 3)do affirmation like positive words(I'm the great stage speaker, I can do anything, I'm a achiever, no one is a great stage speaker except me) 4) do imagination practice (wherever you want to speak ,do it in imagination) consistently do it for 3 months , u will get a tremendous result .These are the things which I learnt from my stammering class . Now I recovered from this
I am from india ..I.was also rejected 4 times in interview ..but I got a job of junior engineer inspite of having higher qualification.this is because for JE no interview is required in india...
Kumar, I am pleased to hear that you secured a job, but it is unfortunate that - having got your higher qualification in engineering - you experienced these barriers at interview for jobs that you would have been easily able to do. I think many employers with clients and customers adopt (consciously or unconsciously) an unwritten policy of employing 'aesthetic labour' - they seek people who can display the specific 'customer service' appearance and impression that the employer wants them to - including in their speech. As I said in the TED Talk, I think this shows a bit of naivety and arrogance, because speech is an incredibly sophisticated yet frail gift. In our modern era, my personal message to employers of whichever nationality is that, in many countries, social attitudes are changing and getting more intelligent and therefore more tolerant, so employers need to understand the real social value of accommodating and supporting differences (such as stammering), and have the courage to relax standards for aesthetics that amount to discrimination.
I have a stammer, and even though I can say my name with easy other things such as a long sentence, or a sentence I haven't spoken too often, I'll probably not be able to say it, but the way I found around this is that I need to think before I say something, every time I think of a sentence, Idk how to explain it but I'll only say it if It sounds ok in my head, If I think about It and It doest sound confident I have to finds other words to replace those that didn't sound confident enough on my head, that's the only way I found around this, and It's not perfect more than once the sentence sounded ok on my head and still, I wasn't able to say It.
Stammers catch me time to time to time... For somedays I hardly feels like I have stammering except facing Sir's and Principal... While other days it becomes very difficult to even to talk to my dear friends too..
This is such an embarrassing problem I couldn't share with anyone.. Cause they have known me a normal guy.. But if someday my problem discloses I would rather be a dead man than tolerating the humiliation and embarrassment!
Hi Your Sufferer - yes, i find it it can feel speaking is a risky activity, and as a child develops into adulthood that is a big psychological thing to have to deal with, every day. So my solution is that humanity needs a better understanding of how speech is produced and the complexity of that process, and that speech differences are to be expected - in everyone. Maybe that can lead to a day when hearing a senior politician or media personality with dysfluent speech is not unusual.
I’ve had a stammer since I was about 7 years old and as I’ve gotten older it’s gotten worse. It’s more like I repeat words and trip over my thoughts so I say stuff and draw out my words to a point where it makes no sense. People constantly interrupt me which sucks.
I'm a 2:1 English Literature graduate and I am terrified in going about applying and interviewing for jobs. I hate it. my family know I have a mostly mild, sometimes moderate stutter yet we have never spoken about it. I have only spoken about my stutter on the surface with two of my friends. I haven't spoken to the rest of my friends about it. I feel so stuck. Opening up about this is going to be a huge milestone and i'm sure will be great.. but a part of me fears the consequences because I almost believe it's easier to not "make it a big deal" out of fear it will then get worse as attention has been brought to it. I know. Ridiculous right? can anyone relate?
I can totally relate to this Anna! I have a mild to moderate stutter as well and have tried to hide & run away from stuttering for the past 20 years but it just doesn’t work. Dating & meeting new people has been particularly hard because of this. Regarding the interviewing part, I always let the interviewers know about my stammer beforehand & haven’t faced any rejections solely for my speech, they must realise that it is genetic & beyond our control after all. Also, I’ve recently adopted an approach of advertising or disclosing my stammering to everyone I meet by looking at them straight in the eye once I struggle to get over a block apart from spreading awareness by writing about it. I’d love to share with anyone who’d like to read :)
Moreover, don’t give up & always be confident. A speech impediment can’t hold us back!
I stutter , it used to be awful , never used to be able to say a word. Had 5 years of tutoring thankfully , still have it but I’ve learned to control it , it’s difficult but it’s not impossible , remover to take care of you tongue location in your mouth and your lips and breathing , try tapping in your pocket of tapping your food like a ticker , it helps
Nice speech,I’m a stammer too from Sierra Leone 🇸🇱.
Need help to overcome my stammer
Hey! I also stammer and I'm from Sierra Leone too. Coincidence!
He still needs to heal those wound.
When I was 4-6, I apparently had such a bad stutter that I went 6 months not saying a word according to my parents. It sucks when I have to pause, repeat syllables of a word, or mid sentence stop before finishing what I need to say.
I have helped someone heal their stuttering in one session, not that this is possible for everyone, it may take a few sessions, so you guys may want to check out Emotional Freedom Technique, or meridian tapping it can be very quick and effective for this issue
Hello Laurie!
I am from Azerbaijan, Baku. My little son is stuttering. He is 6. It began in december 2017 and makes me really unhappy and dissapointed. I get upset everytime when he begins to speak. Could you please share you methods how to solve this problem at home, myself?
thank you in advance.
@vivek p No, there is not a cure for stuttering.
@@blessingsblessings6775 Stuttering is a neurological condition, there is no "home remedy".
It really pisses me off when people laugh at me not because what i spoke but because i stutter when i speak
Hey....!!! I am also one of Them❤️ I do Rap songs 🔥🔥🔥 kyuki Rap krne mai Stammering nhi hoti hai so when I Am Too Much Serious about...I start Singing ❤️❤️❤️😌 I love my Voice
Lee Lovetts" "How to Stop Stuttering & Love Speaking" can help you combat your stutter like it mind. It's the only program that helped me and can very well do the same for you if you immerse yourself in the methods. Like anything else it just takes a strong work ethic and dedication to overcome it.
I'm 21 years old and I have found myself stammering since the day I got understanding ability... I think we the people who stammer can make a group either in facebook,instagram or whats app so that we can exchange our problems and would definitely get an outcome
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I also want to make fb page
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I can speak without stammering but i have problem in speaking like wo in place of ro
.... What type of problem is called
I always stammer in my class and every one make a fun of me 😔😞
His stutter is spaced apart far enough that it doesn't affect his communication.
Fluent speakers stutter too sometimes
i stammer and stutter
Me too. I think most people watching this stammer. It's always been cause for my social anxiety.
I'm a stammerer too, I want to help and inspire other stammerers too
Fa Mia same
Guys pls someone give me tips when I talk to my friends or family members I don't tend to stammer a lot but during a presentation or while reading a loud I stammer the most like I stammer with the word "D" and "S" please guys give me some tips
I'm so tired of my hard stuttering..
Why should I bother listening to you?
Because I have a right to be heard! Because I have a voice!
How right His Majesty was!
Yes you do.
...and so do all of us stutterers
Currently taking Doctor Isibor Supplements, it’s 12 day’s now and I’m so much impressed I know once I finish my treatment I will totally be free from stutter
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It's online session
I am suffering from stammering
hello bharat ....i am also from india...and i am also a stutterer.....abhi maine McGuire programme join ki ha.....uss na meri life change krr di ha....aap McGuire programme bare search krr k dekhna
Breath, try breath exercises start there
I’m not being funny there should be some sort of texting service then a voice repeats what you texted to the person you are phoning to make the stammered life way more easier dealing with phone calls. Because 9 times out of 10 a person with a stammer they never gets there message across. It’s actually quite dangerous, what if a person was living alone and something bad happened and they had to call 911, they couldn’t explain what the situation is.
Kaise Sahi kare Haklana?😭
A speech by a stammerer who doesn't. I am gone from here
Neil Piper - true to say that this talk was free of any significant crowd-pleasing speech blocks, but the fact is I do have dysfluent speech, much more so in other speaking situations, and at certain stages in my life I have been terrified of displaying my dysfluency in front of other people. Stammering is about much more than the eye can see (or ear can hear). Equally if you are 'gone from here' you are unlikely to read this!